Expert: Adriaan Pretorius - 6/15/2009

Question
So i am 15 and male. So i have a few friends who are bi-ish and know i am gay.
So how could i ask to experiment or maybe having a relation with them. I am
new to anything involving dating.

Answer
Hey there Ryan

These are just normal relationship issues, we all have them.  All of your friends have them as well, they might just not show them as much, but believe me they're there.  They're all just as confused or shy about it, so you don't have to feel so left out of the group here.  If you find you like a particular guy, then start with a friendship (which you have).  Then work your way up.  Try an easy date, to show him you like him.  Go out for a movie, but ask only him (that should get him thinking).  Try to gauge his reaction to being alone with you.  If you see he is uncomfortable, then maybe he is not so much into you, than you are into him.

Something else to try, why not leave him some anonymous note?  It could be a paper note on his desk, or a message on his mySpace or some place like that.  Tell him you are a guy in his school who thinks he is awesome and would like to know if he would be interested in a date.  Then you, as yourself, try to get him to talk about the note, to see if he is for it or not.  Then you know if you can tell him it's you or not.  That way the friendship is protected (if something goes wrong).

Here's a little secret, it DOES get easier after the first time!  It's never easy, but after you've asked someone out the first time (good or bad results!), you know what to expect the next time.  Just ask yourself, what is the WORST that can happen?  He can say no, that's really it!  The world won't end, your head won't explode, in all honesty, all that can go wrong is that he can say no :-)

Good luck Ryan it's such a cool adventure you're starting, wish I were you!

Adriaan