AboutJim Swanson Expertise I have often helped gays in their challenge to understand what it means to come out and how best to start down that road. I have and also helped gays to reconcile the often difficult struggle of being gay and being a Christian. I now understand one of God's truths more clearly: Our pain is not wasted when we can reach around and comfort another coming along behind us on the same path.
Experience I too had to deal with these issues when I finally accepted who I was and started down my own path to come out. It is difficult to imagine now how much I have changed and how much I have learned as I traveled this most curious journey. For many years, I have hosted a website to address this issue and to help others.
Question QUESTION: This is a serious question, but do gay men actually like anal sex? I've been told that most don't even like it, but society kind of gives the image that that is the only way two men can make love.
ANSWER: Hi James,
It would be my opinion that some men do like it and some of course do not. Anal sex not only can give an orgasm to the giver but it also brings pleasure to the receiver. Anal sex also gives a feeling of intimacy and closeness between to two at the same time. However, there are many other ways for gays to receive and give sexual pleasure and I can't imagine why anyone would choose to have anal sex if they didn't enjoy it.
I hope this helps... Jim
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QUESTION: This might also need to be answered by your opinion, but do you think most gay men consider being gay to be a choice (perhaps made at a young age), or completely biological? Or maybe most gay guys don't really give it much thought either way?
Answer James,
As for choosing to be gay, in my opinion, that is not possible. In fact, I don't see how that would work. That would mean we all choose our sexuality at some point gay or straight. When you consider how gays have been regarded it is difficult to think some would choose to be gay. Besides, how do you choose what you enjoy or desire? Can you choose to like certain food or to find certain persons attractive to us? No, I think we are gay at birth and that the emotional attraction we feel can not be chosen but rather we choose to act or not act on those feelings. That is the choice we can make.
