Gay Life/Bullying


Last Friday, the guy who has tormented, tortured, and bullied me for the past 8 years cornered me in the bathroom and tongue-kissed me. Then he begged me not to tell anyone. I'm a guy, and I'm not gay.

What would be the best way to approach this awkward situation?

Hi Jack

You obviously now have some degree of power over him, but how you choose to use or exploit that power defines your character. Will you stoop to bullying him for revenge, or will you do the mature thing and respect his privacy. When someone harms us, it's human nature to want to see harm come to them. But I would advise you to be the better man. He will very likely stop bullying you, and you'll retain your dignity by not becoming a bully in return.

Best wishes,


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