Question Greetings !
During my late 30's, I went through a rather heavy personal and identity crisis that was a long time in coming. I had several flings with other males -- some of who were married -- but all these encounters were discreet and D/D FREE. Needless to say, neither of these encounters proved satisfactory to either myself nor to them. I came to regret that any of these occurred and do wish to put them behind me. Luckily, I never heard from any of these people again --- one married guy in particular had sent me an angry email 8 years ago but have not heard from him since.
My question is this ---- can I put these experiences behind me for good or am I to expect down the road any of these people to resurface and cause trouble to me and my family ? I am now in my mid-50's and no longer interested in any of these 'adventures'- in fact, I am no longer interested in relationships of any kind.
Answer Hi Albert
Individuals being individuals, it's impossible to predict what other people may or may not do, but it sounds like quite a number of years have passed since you've had any contact with any of them. It's not likely you'll encounter any of them going forward. Of course, this depends on circumstances and you're short on details about your own life and activities. If you have many mutual friends with any of these people, that certainly increases your chances of coming in contact, but it sounds like you're content to lead a pretty insular life, so that's probably not a concern either.
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