Expert: Kay - 9/13/2005

Question
hello kamilah :),im an open gay man age 44 very broadminded too but when looking through personals/ads what exactly is BDSM ,frottage or vanilla when someone states they are into it ? is it all new terminology for age old things ?,thanks anyway for your time and trouble a hug john :)  

Answer
Hi John
How are you? On one web site BDSM stands for Bondage, Dominance, Sadism, and Masochism. I also searched on other search engines and they all said the same thing.

Who would of thought.
Now if I would have just give it a guess I would have thought that it meant bi, divorced Single Man. Sometimes ads have their own meaning for abbreviations. But this BDSM totally means something else for those that are into that S&M thing.
Now for frottage, I did a search it apparently it has something to do with rubbing something on to the body...so you can use your imagination for that one. I can only assume somehthing like body paint, food or whatever and for vanilla, I have no idea.
If you would just do a search online you can find the answers to alot of your questions.
hope i helped
kamilah