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| Subject | Date Asked |
| confused? | 1/27/2012 |
| Q: I'm a gay man, always been attracted to men and dated men only. No attraction or feelings for women. ... A: Derek, Men tend to be very visual when it comes to what turns them on. It could just be that in ... | |
| about the love | 1/10/2012 |
| Q: sir,i am loving a women for so many days but i am a gay is it advisable to continue???? And she is ... A: Aditya, With limited information is is difficult to answer your question in any length but you may ... | |
| "gay piercings" | 12/25/2011 |
| Q: So im a 14year old girl and i want a bar(industrial) piercing ony left ear is that a sign for other ... A: Spencer, I'm sorry for the delay in answering your question. As for your piercing I don't think ... | |
| question | 12/4/2011 |
| Q: I am gay and I am not attracted towards women. I am from India and many people conside a gay being a ... A: Sanath, There are very many Indian gay men that I have counseled and they are now living very ... | |
| shemales | 12/3/2011 |
| Q: one of my fantasys is to fuck a shemale. and suck on her cock. does this make me gay. A: Chad, It may mean you are gay or maybe you just have a fetish about this. You need to ask ... | |
| is it time to come out? | 11/27/2011 |
| Q: i am 18 and gay i still haven't come out. i think my reason for this is because: A) sexuality is ... A: Santiago, No you are not being nieve. You should only come out when you are ready to come out. When ... | |
| could he be bi-curious | 11/23/2011 |
| Q: Im Jerron im sure you get this a lot hey! But anyway let me get to the main reason why i seek help ... A: Jerron, It sure sounds like there is some connection between the two of you. If you are gay and he ... | |
| homosexual tendency | 11/15/2011 |
| Q: I am male, 35, weigh 90 kg and I am 1,70 meter-tall. When I was a boy I used to dream that I would ... A: Bruno, I don't think your attraction to heavy set men has anything to do with you suffering from ... | |
| I have gay crush on my best friend and want to get over it | 10/31/2011 |
| Q: My name is Brad and I have been having a problem with relationships for a little while now. I am 20 ... A: I know this is probably not the answer you want but my advice would be to be honest with him. If he ... | |
| Homosexual feelings | 10/11/2011 |
| Q: I am a 45 year old male, married and father of 2 adult sons. Since my early teens I have had ... A: The answer to your question is quite easy. You are gay. Many gay men get married and have children ... | |
| Help-Trust | 9/30/2011 |
| Q: would like to ask you for some advice on a matter. My boyfriend remains friends with his ex who is ... A: As long as your boyfriend is not sleeping with his ex I don't suppose it really matters what his ex ... | |
| Husband has feelings for my dad, I feel sick | 9/22/2011 |
| Q: Last night I was shocked by my husband's revelation. He said "Sit down. We need to talk, it's ... A: I think counseling is for sure a good idea and I am a big advocate of it. There can be several ... | |
| Very confuse | 9/17/2011 |
| Q: I really apologize for the length of the following account but I really want to be detailed in order ... A: Not really but maybe you can speak to a trusted friend that could offer some support or find a ... | |
| Very confuse | 9/16/2011 |
| Q: I really apologize for the length of the following account but I really want to be detailed in order ... A: Jack Jose, First off I would like to say that you are suffering from depression that was brought ... | |
| suicide | 9/13/2011 |
| Q: sir,i'm 17,and fed up with my life.i have many family problems,i've choosen a wrong step in my ... A: Sanjana, I urge you to contact your local suicide hotline to talk about the feelings you are having ... | |
| am i gay | 9/11/2011 |
| Q: hey im 13 years old so me and all my friends always call each other gay and fags and one night i ... A: Jimmy, I'm a bit confused at what your question is? You say that you are not gay and you just like ... | |
| Trust issues | 9/11/2011 |
| Q: i am a gay guy and i have been in a relationship with another guy since last six months living ... A: PP, A closed relationship is typically one that is monogamous and an open relationship is one ... | |
| Trust issues | 9/10/2011 |
| Q: i am a gay guy and i have been in a relationship with another guy since last six months living ... A: PP, I think you need to think really hard about this relationship and if it is worth staying in. ... | |
| saving our relationship | 9/6/2011 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my partner for about 4 years now. I am very much in love with ... A: Steven, I am always a big advocate of therapy and if you can't afford it you can always talk to a ... | |
| Raising Our Son | 8/29/2011 |
| Q: My partner and I have been together for 12 years. We are a straight acting professional couple ... A: I have not lived many places outside of the East Coast so I can't really give you a top 10 list. I ... | |
| precarious situation | 7/25/2011 |
| Q: I have a difficult situation and I'm really not sure who or how to ask.This is long and involved, so ... A: Have you talked to him directly about your concerns and given him the opportunity to explain his ... | |
| Gay but I want to marry woman | 6/28/2011 |
| Q: I am an Indian man who wants to get married to a woman. I think I might be gay, and my attraction to ... A: Suresh, If you are gay then you are gay. Its as simple as that. You can certainly marry a woman ... | |
| Short Anal passage | 6/26/2011 |
| Q: I love anal sex, but I cannot take over 5 to 6 inches of cock or dildo. It seems to hit a wall in ... A: Vernon, My suggestion would be to see your doctor for this. My concern would be more of a medical ... | |
| Advice to someone who's recently discovered himself? | 6/24/2011 |
| Q: I've known that I was attracted to both guys and girls for a long time, but I never really ... A: You ask some great questions that I will try to answer for you in order..... As for coming out to ... | |
| testicles | 6/15/2011 |
| Q: My partner would like me to have smaller testicles, is that possible..? A: Rob, I'm not a medical doctor but my uneducated guess would be no. But anything is possible so you ... | |
| Confused | 5/24/2011 |
| Q: I'm not really sure how to start, but I've been with my wife now for 6 years, dating/engaged and ... A: Adam, I think you are putting too much emphasis on what other people think. If you were truly gay ... | |
| I would like to be his boyfriend but Im not sure how he feels. | 5/16/2011 |
| Q: Well my names Ryan, Im 20 and live in Germany, and Im gay. I want some help regarding a guy who I ... A: Don't sell yourself short. There is certainly the possibility that he likes you as much as you like ... | |
| how do i get a guy who thinks of me as just a friend but is gay? | 4/25/2011 |
| Q: i have this best friend of mine that ive been in love with for a year or more now. he is gay but he ... A: Have you told him how you feel? Is so, unfortunately if he doesn't like you in a romantic way and ... | |
| Sibling rivalry | 4/16/2011 |
| Q: I am the only son from my father's first marriage, but he later had a son with his second wife. ... A: Jonas, The way you are feeling is very natural but the reality is that you may also have a child ... | |
| Younger boyfriend that I know is cheating | 4/15/2011 |
| Q: My question is I am in love with a younger gay male we have a large age spand he is 18 and I am in ... A: Juan, It sounds like your whole relationship is based on lies and secrets which is never a good ... | |
| Gay son | 4/11/2011 |
| Q: We suspect our 22-year-old son is gay although the topic has never come up. Should we approach him ... A: Diane, Most gay people that are gay and have not come out yet are terrified to do so for fear of ... | |
| Indian-civil partnership with German | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: I am a Indian, residing in London. I used to be based in Mumbai. I am here in London since October ... A: Praveen, I have never been to India and I am not really versed in the laws of your country but I do ... | |
| helppppppppp | 1/8/2011 |
| Q: i m male 21 years 1.i dont like boys but i enjoy to watch gay porn sites .i love them.on one side i ... A: Dinesh, You can't "get rid of the gay element". It may be who you are. You may also be bisexual. ... | |
| Missing Out On Sex | 1/4/2011 |
| Q: I'm 22, gay, and virgin. For a long time, I've really despised the gay culture hypersexualism and ... A: Nick, Joining the LGBT Group was a good idea and I'm sorry they don't meet very often. Maybe you ... | |
| Not happy in the "closet" | 12/30/2010 |
| Q: I am a 26-year-old white gay man living in Virginia. I've known that I was attracted mostly to men ... A: Steve, Your story is like so many others I receive and have counseled. You are not alone in the ... | |
| Coming out to parents | 12/18/2010 |
| Q: I'm 21 years old now and engaged to be married to a wonderful woman in 4 months. I live at home with ... A: Leo, You are 21 and an adult so you have to do what is going to make you happy. Your parents may ... | |
| Gay tendency for 10 yr old boy | 12/17/2010 |
| Q: I have a 10 year old son in 4th std. Yesterday after ooming back from school, he complained me that ... A: Radha, 10 year olds are very "curious" and often times at that age they start to explore their ... | |
| confused relationship | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: I had my first relationship with a guy 2 yrs back. After a while we were in relationship for 3 ... A: I think as a friend it is fine for you to tell him your feelings about his marriage but it does ... | |
| sexual problem in relationship | 11/6/2010 |
| Q: Im in a gay relationship my boyfriend lives in Argentina and me in UK. We have known each other 3 ... A: Iain, What you are feeling and thinking of as a "perfect relationship" in reality is a very complex ... | |
| Christianity and my Gay son | 9/28/2010 |
| Q: My son Andrew is 14 and has declared he is gay. We have always noticed he was different. He has two ... A: Carol, If you truly love your son (which it appears you do) the best thing you can do is just ... | |
| Being gay and sister problems together | 9/21/2010 |
| Q: Ok I have a problem with being gay at school I have a sister who won't let me tell people about my ... A: Joseph, You don't mention how old you are but the answer is quite simple: tell your sister she ... | |
| My 13 year old son | 9/11/2010 |
| Q: My son's father and I have had concerns for a couple of years about him-ever since we found out he ... A: Lisa, Touching his brother could just be his way of exploring his sexuality but it is not really ... | |
| Curios and confused for solution | 9/10/2010 |
| Q: I am from Los Angeles, CA and was in a straight relationship with this guy for 4 years. It was a ... A: It sounds like your relationship has changed and he clearly has some personal issues he is trying to ... | |
| I'am gay and married twice | 9/2/2010 |
| Q: I cannot live with it, so I'm terrible horror person for my colleague and families A: Dion, I'm not sure what your question is or what your situation is as you have given me very little ... | |
| Am I gay? | 8/26/2010 |
| Q: I am wondering if I might be gay. I know this sounds sick, but I do watch a lot of pornography. I am ... A: Renaldo, At your age what you are experiencing is very natural. The teen years are the years most ... | |
| women's beauty vs men | 8/16/2010 |
| Q: Why are naked women viewed as beautiful and naked men viewed as gross? Lesbians are viewed as sexy, ... A: Because men are much more "visually" aroused than women most of the mass media revolves around the ... | |
| How to approach your first lesbian relationship | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: I am a 26 year old female from charlotte, nc. I have only had sexual relationships with men but I ... A: Meeting good people is never easy for anyone (gay or straight) but you have tried two of the best ... | |
| Naked women more beautiful than naked men? | 7/23/2010 |
| Q: I am a straight woman, but whenever I watch porn, I only get turned on looking at naked girls, not ... A: I don't think gay men would think woman's bodies are prettier but that being said you may be ... | |
| Law enforcement | 7/21/2010 |
| Q: I was told by a city cop that I was not allowed back into a park because he said I was crusing the ... A: Christian, If you were actually cruising he can arrest you because it is a "public" restroom and ... | |
| CURIOUS ABOUT SEX | 7/19/2010 |
| Q: There is this gay guy I've been interested in for awhile. He knows I'm interested and has a ... A: Michael, This question is really not so much about what he wants as what you want. He is clearly ... | |
| CURIOUS ABOUT SEX | 7/18/2010 |
| Q: There is this gay guy I've been interested in for awhile. He knows I'm interested and has a ... A: It sure does sound like he may be interested especially since he has a boyfriend already and is ... | |
| For gays | 7/17/2010 |
| Q: I just want to ask something which are most common in gays. If one of the gays love, his friend or ... A: I think what you are asking me is how a gay person can come out to someone he cares for or his ... | |
| Gay friendship issue | 7/13/2010 |
| Q: i love your posts and hope you can advice me on an issue with my gay friend. I met this guy (let's ... A: John, You don't mention if this person is married or in a relationship but it sounds to me that he ... | |
| Coming out to my fraternity brothers | 6/9/2010 |
| Q: I just graduated from college after spending four great years in a fraternity. I made some great ... A: Jack, Simply tell them exactly what you told me. Tell them you are gay but really hope it won't ... | |
| hocd or gay | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: I have social phobia, and low self esteem could not having a job cause my depression and hocd spike, ... A: There is only so much I can do in an e-mail. You really need to seek professional help with a ... | |
| Gay Life through the years | 5/25/2010 |
| Q: I'm doing a study of how gay life has improve though the years. If any of you can help me with that, ... A: Estefania, I am not old enough to remember the 60's but you should read Harvey Milk's life story or ... | |
| any help would be very much appreciated | 5/20/2010 |
| Q: I’ve been reading through some of the posts on this site, and I’ve found the advice here to be very ... A: Peta, It sounds to me like he is gay. That being said there are very many gay men that marry woman ... | |
| GAY | 5/2/2010 |
| Q: I HAVE MASTURBATED BEFORE BUT MY BOYFRIEND WOULD LIKE TO MASTURBATED WIHT 5 MORE MEN DO YOU THINK I ... A: Philip, I think this would be a decision you can make on your own. I'm not sure if you are asking ... | |
| Homosexuality | 4/27/2010 |
| Q: I have a question about homosexuality that has puzzled me for years and that you may be able to ... A: Bill, This is a very valid question. Many gay men have sex with woman. This occurred more so in the ... | |
| confused | 4/18/2010 |
| Q: . i am prasanna 20,i was crazy in love with a guy who thinks i am just a friend,last week i came to ... A: Prasanna, The most you can do at this point is what you have already done and that is to simply ... | |
| Sexual Fantasies about male friend | 4/7/2010 |
| Q: I've always considered my self to be straight but recently I've been having sexual fantasies about ... A: Billyjoe, You don't mention how old you are but most men at some time in their lives (particularly ... | |
| Does he like me? | 3/31/2010 |
| Q: Ok, there is this boy at school. Our relationship goes back to 6th grade (I am now a high school ... A: Trevaun, It's obvious there is some attraction there so I still suggest you talk to him if ... | |
| Does he like me? | 3/31/2010 |
| Q: Ok, there is this boy at school. Our relationship goes back to 6th grade (I am now a high school ... A: Trevaun, In the teen years people are at the peak of exploring their sexuality. When this boy was ... | |
| Sexuality is confusing | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 31 year old straight professional woman (not married but hoping to settle down and raise a ... A: Anna, I don't think because you enjoy watching gay porn you are necessarily "gay" if that is your ... | |
| My friend an I | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: Ok this is a very complicated situation....... I have a best friend and I was on his phone a few ... A: Billy, If you want to do something with him that again could just be exploring your sexuality but ... | |
| 31 and still in the closet | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: I am about to turn 31, I have loved men my entire life, I have also had relationships with women. I ... A: Alfred, I apologize for taking so long to respond but I have been ill. In your situation I would ... | |
| missing my lover. | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: I think this seems crazy, but someone else may need the answer as well. My boyfriend and I have been ... A: Phillip, The answer to your question of "How do I ask"? Is simply, "ask". If this is a person you ... | |
| em i bisexual?? | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: I can't believe am asking this kind of question... ok here it goes, I was brought up in a family ... A: I think that would just be casual joking and not an issue. Although, that being said, some people ... | |
| em i bisexual?? | 3/4/2010 |
| Q: I can't believe am asking this kind of question... ok here it goes, I was brought up in a family ... A: I am assuming that you are a woman. If so, you may just be impressed with this person. You sound ... | |
| How to Handle a Breakup | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: Its been about 6 years now since my breakup with my ex - who I was with for 10 years and who was my ... A: Michael, You didn't mention you were in a new relationship with someone that loves you so that ... | |
| How to Handle a Breakup | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: Its been about 6 years now since my breakup with my ex - who I was with for 10 years and who was my ... A: Michael, I don't think you can judge the gay community on this couple or even the company they ... | |
| the library guy | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: Hi, I am a 17 y.o. teenager, almost 18. And I haven’t been with anyone before, either male or ... A: Don't be sorry for asking questions. I'm here to help you. My advice to you is....GO Back! Go back ... | |
| feeling uncofortable | 1/29/2010 |
| Q: Hi, I am a 17 y.o. teenager, almost 18. And I haven’t been with anyone before, either male or ... A: Your problem is not uncommon. Many gay people that are not totally "out" suffer from depression. ... | |
| Like a Fish To Bait | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I were dating on and off for about 3.5 years. I finally told him this December that ... A: This is an interesting situation you find yourself in. Clearly you set a trap he he fell into it. ... | |
| coming out | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: I was never planning to come out to my family but i feel alone,ashamed,confused and i feel like i ... A: Jose, I'm a bit confused by your question? If your family is telling you they will be fine with ... | |
| I think i like penis..... | 12/21/2009 |
| Q: Hey, my name is tobi,i like girls but it's just that every time i hear, see or feel a penis i want ... A: Tobi, You don't mention how old you are but there is always a period of "experimentation and ... | |
| Single in Sin City | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: I have now just recently turned 18 and came to terms with my sexuality that because I dont feel gay ... A: There are many ways to meet people. Church, social groups and maybe even online. But the best way to ... | |
| Coming Out | 12/10/2009 |
| Q: So I need some help. Here is my issue. It has come to me that I am attracted to men more than women. ... A: Robert, This is the most common question I am asked and my answer is always the same. You are not ... | |
| Confused: is gay sex supposed to be random? | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: I am wondering if gay life is meant to be sleeping with random guys you meet for the first time. Is ... A: Joe, What you are wishing for is not a "fantasy" it can surely be and should be a "reality". ... | |
| Communication | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for less than a year. He is from Puerto Rico and I am from Texas. We ... A: Marshall, I hear this problem very often and the plain fact is that some people are just not ... | |
| playing | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: me and my friend would play around in class we would touch each other penis,balls and buts some time ... A: Michael, You don't say how old you are but this may just be "experimenting" if you are a teen. I ... | |
| Relationship with "Straight" guy? | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: I am a professional who happened to meet another professional man when he happened to have rented an ... A: Donie, I must say this is an interesting situation to say the least. You mention that your wife is ... | |
| boyfriend | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: My relationship has just ended and he was a cheat and a lier. But I love him so much and I want him ... A: Mark, I'm sure you love him but do you really want to live the rest of your life with a cheat and ... | |
| Not sure what to do? | 10/14/2009 |
| Q: I am hoping you can make this easier on me? For years now, at least 20, I have known that I am gay ... A: Jody, You are not alone. There are many men out there in your same situation. If you come out to ... | |
| open relation and cheating | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a long distance relationship for almost a year, we love each other but a week ago my ... A: I believe honesty is the best policy. Explain to him what happened and let him know you feel ... | |
| i am a women that really love a gay guy | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: Question i am in love with my best friend. he says he is in love with me. that he wants kids and he ... A: Britteny, If he is truly gay an intimate and long-lasting relationship (i.e. marriage) is never ... | |
| Am I GAY? | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: I am 13 almost 14 and I like gay porn I even tried anal sex with a friend and liked it, sometimes I ... A: Mike, It is possible you are gay but you are also very young and still at an age where you may be ... | |
| How to meet other gay guys | 7/13/2009 |
| Q: My name is Jonathan and I'm gay. I'm 21 years old and for the most part I'm in the closet. I'm ... A: Jonathan, It is fine to stay in the closet as far as your aunt and uncle are concerned. They don't ... | |
| How to meet other gay guys | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: My name is Jonathan and I'm gay. I'm 21 years old and for the most part I'm in the closet. I'm ... A: Jonathan, It would be much easier for you to meet gay people and have gay friends if you were out ... | |
| hocd | 6/19/2009 |
| Q: Im almost 22. I've been dating this wonderful girl for 6 years. I've always loved her and have felt ... A: Alphie, If you have no sexual attraction for men then most likely you are not gay. It sounds more ... | |
| gay life | 6/18/2009 |
| Q: my friend is a gay. he is in love with a girl and intrested to lead a normal life with family. but ... A: Priya, He may marry her but he will never be truly happy or complete with a woman if he is gay and ... | |
| Assessing sexuality | 6/7/2009 |
| Q: Hey everyone. My name's Lenin. I'm 14 years old, and I've been struggling with something for quite ... A: It is difficult to answer this question because I am not sure if you are a girl or a boy? You may ... | |
| RE | 6/3/2009 |
| Q: Is it normal for a homosexual to be afraid of telling his parents because I know I am gay and I dont ... A: Paul, It is very normal. Every gay person feels like that at some point. You don't mention your ... | |
| Dealing with an anal-retentive boyfriend | 5/30/2009 |
| Q: Hey Gary! I need help and advice on what to do with my boyfriend, Chris of 5 months, who is anal ... A: Shaun, I do think there is hope for you. This is not a major issue and one that can be rectified. ... | |
| Crushed.... | 5/16/2009 |
| Q: Sorry for bothering you with my problem you probably have a lot more you could be dealing with. I ... A: Ben, It sounds like you for sure have a crush on this boy. From what you have told me about him ... | |
| fetish | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: i am hoping u could answer a question of mine even tho im not gay. i am a 18 y/o white/hispanic ... A: Aaron, I wouldn't worry about it too much. It is very normal for you to be curious about different ... | |
| sexual attraction.... | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: My question is I am so curious about being with another guy but I am too shy and worried I don't ... A: Joe, This is a natural desire for many people. You may be bi-sexual and enjoy having sex with both ... | |
| Sexuality and racism | 5/7/2009 |
| Q: I am writing an analytical paper on Nella Larsen's "Passing," and I am asking how much worse might ... A: Leah, This question I believe is very broad and would depend not only on demographics but also on ... | |
| Gay Guilt... | 4/15/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 20 year old gay college student from Kansas. I came out to my mom a few months ago, but she ... A: I would suggest you seek some talk therapy with a social worker. In order to discover why you have ... | |
| reaction | 4/12/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 27 year old straight woman. I am attracted to men emotionally and sexually and physically and ... A: Ana, You may be big-sexual. You may want to be "emotionally" with men but you may be "sexually ... | |
| Gay Guilt... | 4/10/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 20 year old gay college student from Kansas. I came out to my mom a few months ago, but she ... A: K, You mention you were raised a Baptist Christian but have since become an atheist. I have to ... | |
| My guy friend going out with my 14 year old brother! | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: I really need some help. Today my best guy friend who guy admitted to me that he is secretly going ... A: Mary, I think the main issue here is that your brother is a minor. That alone is a problem. I ... | |
| am i a lesbian? | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: i'm a 14 year old girl and i have a question about whether i could be a lesbian. first of all, i'm ... A: Diana, The fact that you don't like to look at the human penis does not necessarily mean that you ... | |
| Coming out | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: I am not sure how to start this email but I will give it try and hope it makes sense. Iam 30 ... A: Shantelle, Your story unfortunately is not unique. I have counseled many people who have the same ... | |
| i think i am gay | 2/13/2009 |
| Q: i wear make up, i wax my , i brazilian wax myself and i play with my ass allot and enjoy it allot i ... A: Adam, You may be transgender. You really should go talk to someone like a therapist or even your ... | |
| sigh....... | 2/6/2009 |
| Q: hey, i think i i'm gay since i'm sexualy attracted to men, but i have no other feelings for men, ... A: You don't mention how old you are but if you are in your teen years you may just be exploring your ... | |
| i did talk him | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: Just the other day me and my boyfriend was going to toledo to go shopping and we stopped at my ... A: Brandon, You've confronted him with your feelings which is a good thing and he has told you that ... | |
| why my boyfriend stares at my brother | 2/1/2009 |
| Q: Just the other day me and my boyfriend was going to toledo to go shopping and we stopped at my ... A: It sounds like he may be sexually attracted to your brother. But since your brother is straight the ... | |
| Im gay and my parents don't trust me. | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: okay...rundown. i came out when i was like 16, that was 3 years ago. I'm 18 now. I'm a senior, so i ... A: That's unfortunate. Is moving out an option? If so, maybe it is time you got your own place so you ... | |
| Confused | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: I am about to turn 20 and i am a virgin both with guys and girls. I have had several relationships ... A: Leo, You sound like you may have some attraction toward men (i.e. masturbating to gay porn). If ... | |
| Im gay and my parents don't trust me. | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: okay...rundown. i came out when i was like 16, that was 3 years ago. I'm 18 now. I'm a senior, so i ... A: Jeremy, Always remember that trust is earned. Talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. Tell ... | |
| Do you think my husband is bi-sexual? | 1/17/2009 |
| Q: I married a man 9 yrs younger, who is from Lebanon speaks little English. He isn't an Australian ... A: Kim, This is a complicated situation that you are in. It sounds to me that he may be gay but ... | |
| What should I say? | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: I have a very close friend (I am FEMALE and he is MALE). We have known one another for years. We ... A: Marlo, I think honesty is the best policy. If he really cares about you talk to him about it. Tell ... | |
| mixed feelings | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: okay, this is kind of confusing for me. so for as long as I can recall, I've gotten along with girls ... A: Jason, I apologize for taking so long to respond to you but I was away for the holidays. You ... | |
| Coming out | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: I am a twenty year old going on twenty one and I am still in the closet. I have known that I was ... A: Aaron, You have already taken the biggest step toward coming out and you may not even realize it. ... | |
| My Partner has Changed | 11/16/2008 |
| Q: My partner and I met when I was 19 and he was 25. We have been together 15 years now. We have been ... A: Rich, In any long-term relationship partners can start to get very set in their ways and this can ... | |
| innate or inherited | 11/7/2008 |
| Q: 1. Where do you stand on the debate over whether homosexuality is innate or inherited? Why? 2. Also, ... A: Tim, Your question is basically based on what my "opinion" is so I will give that to you as a ... | |
| staying in the gay closet | 11/1/2008 |
| Q: I am 56 and confused, always have been. I have gay fantasies at my age maybe more now than ever. I ... A: Larry, The answer to your question, "Am I doing it right by playing straight???" Is NO. It is ... | |
| my son | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: My son, Jamie is 21 and I am very accepting of his sexuality. He's never had a proper boyfriend, ... A: Carole, Not knowing Mike I can't pass judgement on him but I can certainly understand your concern ... | |
| Crush on str8 guy | 10/20/2008 |
| Q: Hey i dont really do this but ive got a crush on this guy at school how can i get a response ... A: You should ask him if he would like to do something. Go to the movie or grab something to eat. Get ... | |
| my best friends gay son | 10/18/2008 |
| Q: my name is Jessica and my best friend Patti has a son who is 18yrs.old,and is gay.He hasn't come out ... A: In this situation honesty is the best policy. Your friend should sit down and discuss with her son ... | |
| my nephew gay | 10/5/2008 |
| Q: i would like to know how i can tell if my nephew is gay he got married to his wife but he ask my ... A: If you love your nephew and have a close relationship with him why don't you simply ask him. If he ... | |
| Advice | 10/2/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my (first) boyfriend for 1-1/2 years and I have only been out for about 2 years. I ... A: You should be honest with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel before you decide to move in ... | |
| Why I'm I questioning my sexual indenity | 9/29/2008 |
| Q: Alright I am 23 years old straight male and never been on a date with a girl or kissed one and never ... A: You don't mention if you have never dated a girl or kissed one because you don't want to or you just ... | |
| mariage et vie a atlanta | 9/26/2008 |
| Q: hello could you help please my boy friend live in Atlanta and me in France i would like live with he ... A: Gaetan, Gay marriage is not recognized on a federal level. It is only legal in a couple of states. ... | |
| anal sex | 9/7/2008 |
| Q: o gay guy ...me n my bf r thinkin bout havin anal sex..how do we go about?...i know its not as easy ... A: Sabari, First and foremost you MUST use protection before having any kimd of sexual relations. If ... | |
| trying to save my relationship | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship for 4 yrs now. In the begining it was great. Now its getting worse. My ... A: If that is what you feel you need to do then you should do it. If you live with him he may not feel ... | |
| trying to save my relationship | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship for 4 yrs now. In the begining it was great. Now its getting worse. My ... A: It sounds like this is not a healthy relationship for either of you. Most certainly not you. Most of ... | |
| what does this mean? | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: i have a very good gay friend of mine, we have known each other years and have traveled and spend ... A: There is a possibility that your friend might be bi-sexual. He may have an attraction for both men ... | |
| gay | 8/3/2008 |
| Q: i am a single mum of 2 & hes just told me hes bin seeing a 27ry old man witch as bin buying him ... A: You don't mention how old he is but if he's a minor then what is happening is illegal and this older ... | |
| how to get with him? | 6/24/2008 |
| Q: i have this friend that im really attracted to. i believe that hes straight but im sure every ... A: Aeron, You said he does not know you are gay so maybe he is also gay and you don't know it. Why ... | |
| Potentially Unsafe Sex | 6/19/2008 |
| Q: I have an ethical dilemma. If I find out that a very good friend’s partner may be having ... A: John, I will assume here that your friend does not know his partner is even having sex outside of ... | |
| Long Term Girlfriend, Confused, Can't Sleep :( | 6/13/2008 |
| Q: You seem to offer some good advice and I'd welcome anything you got to say on this one. I have been ... A: Aaron, This is happening to you because you may have some repressed feelings that you are not ... | |
| age of consent laws | 6/13/2008 |
| Q: i was reading on age of consent in my state, Arkansas, it says the age of consent laws on gays and ... A: The Supreme Court in the USA has recently struck down laws that outlawed consensual, same-sex ... | |
| Gay marrying a lesbian | 6/9/2008 |
| Q: I am a closeted gay, who is not intending to come out. Instead, I am considering to getting married ... A: Ralph, You may try Craigslist.com in the "personals" section or even Gay.com. Are you sure this ... | |
| Confusion at Gym? | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: I am a gay female and I go to a all female gym every week. Since March 2008 I saw this young woman ... A: Shantelle, After reading your question and giving it much thought I think the best approach here ... | |
| My boy friend is an Alcoholic | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my boy friend almost 2 years, I met him when he was already an alcoholic, he used ... A: Andy, Nobody is truly "cured" of alcoholism. They are forever in "recovery". But while they are in ... | |
| My boy friend is an Alcoholic | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my boy friend almost 2 years, I met him when he was already an alcoholic, he used ... A: If he is making a conscious effort to be sober he will need you more now than ever before. Your ... | |
| How can I deal with the friends around me? | 5/24/2008 |
| Q: Since the year of 2002, I have been discovered by my family, and I told them "yes I am gay", that ... A: Andy, Coming out is never easy but if you come out to your friends you will have a better ... | |
| Life/Dating | 5/19/2008 |
| Q: Gary I'm 19 years old and unfortunately not gay, but bisexual. See, first thought, it is great ... A: Alex, Love has no gender when it is genuine and comes from the heart. Love the one you are with ... | |
| HOW????????? | 5/8/2008 |
| Q: ok so i have been obsessed with this one guy since i moved here and i always thought that he might ... A: Tobi, You don't mention your age or if you are openly gay but the guy you like may or not be gay. ... | |
| IS IT SAFE? | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: since we were both each other's firsts i was wondering if it was ok to have raw sex? i mean since we ... A: It is never safe to have unprotected sex. Period. Although you may feel 100% confident that your ... | |
| gay marriage | 4/29/2008 |
| Q: Why are some people homophobic? Why is it so hard for people to accept gays as people? How can we ... A: Many people fear the unknown. People who are homophobic most likely don't know any gay people or ... | |
| ref | 4/27/2008 |
| Q: Good day, Lets say you are a male but not gay. You are not interested in a gay relationship but want ... A: You would simply treat the person as you would anyone else gay or straight. With dignity and ... | |
| I WANT IT TO FEEL GOOD | 4/20/2008 |
| Q: so my friend and i had SAFE sex for the very first timr and we were about to go all the way when his ... A: Above all you should be safe and use protection. That being said first there are many products out ... | |
| why is it? | 4/19/2008 |
| Q: see i have this friend whom i love he is my best friend and has been ever since i moved here, he is ... A: It sounds like you are sexually attracted to your friend and falling in love with your crush. It can ... | |
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Gary
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Expertise
I can answer questions about coming out as well as dealing with family members who are (and are not) supportive. I can also answer questions about gay marriage.
Experience
I have worked closely with Mass Equality to fight for the right for people of all genders and lifestyles to get married.
Education/Credentials
BA- English-Sociology-Psychology
I year - New England School of Law
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