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About Tedd Adams
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Expertise
I can answer questions related to gay life in general, but also specifically questions about gay youth, coming out, dealing with family issues, religion and homosexuality, and workplace issues. I have also visited many of the popular gay travel destinations and can give you advice on what is worth seeing and what is not.

Experience
I have been a volunteer facilitator for a state-sponsored gay youth support group, where we dealt with all of the issues mentioned above.

Publications
Tulsa World, Muskogee Phoenix, Tulsa Family News, About Business Magazine, Contributor to the book "I Can't Believe You Asked That!", by Phillip J. Milano

Education/Credentials
Associates degree, Biblical Studies, Kentucky Christian College
Bachelors of Science, John Brown University, Psychology
Masters in Organizational Management, University of Phoenix (Tulsa OK campus).

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Questions Answered By Expert Tedd Adams
In Category Gay Life

Subject	Date Asked

General Relationship	10/2/2008
Q: I have been with my (first) boyfriend for 1-1/2 years and I have only been out for about 2 years. I ... A: Congratulations of finding a long-term boyfriend. I understand the situation you're in perfectly, as ...
What am I supposed to do?	10/2/2008
Q: I've been friends with this guy for about a 2 years or so. We've been to each others houses many ... A: I'm a little uncertain about whether you are gay or not, but I'm thinking you are not, which does ...
Emotional Cheating	10/1/2008
Q: I have a bf with whom I love very much. He lives in a different city (about 150 miles away each ... A: Just like in real live, online relationships can be purely platonic, or they can have a romantic ...
taking initiative	9/27/2008
Q: Adams, I've got one mess of a life and I was hoping to find some guidance. Growing up as with ... A: I think you've made great strides already in overcoming your internalized homophobia. This should ...
gay son	9/26/2008
Q: I have always wondered if my son is gay. He is not extremely effeminate, but definitely is not like ... A: First let me say how reassuring it is to hear a mother who is so open-minded and progressive. That ...
Move-in after Only knowing him 8 months	9/25/2008
Q: I meet a nice guy 8 months ago who lives in another state. We have became close over the phone(talk ... A: The short answer... NO Even under the best of circumstances, moving in together is a huge step and ...
Can a distance relationship last?	9/20/2008
Q: just have a few things stuck in my mind. Here's my story. Recently I've tried the whole dating ... A: I have certainly known couples that have made a success of it, but it takes real serious effort. In ...
I really like my straight friend	9/15/2008
Q: Okay I am 15 and i came out a few months ago actually to this guy and he has accepted me and treated ... A: Good for you for having the courage to come out. It's a positive life-changing experience. It ...
How do you know if you're gay?	9/14/2008
Q: I believe everyone thinks about same sex experiences to some extent in the privacy of their own ... A: The reality of human sexuality is that the terms gay, straight and bi are just too limited to ...
anal sex	9/7/2008
Q: o gay guy ...me n my bf r thinkin bout havin anal sex..how do we go about?...i know its not as easy ... A: My apologies for the delay in responding. Although I normally answer most questions personally, on ...
I am a gay dad	9/2/2008
Q: My boys are 11 & 14 and have no idea I'm gay, I am closeted but would like to come out there's not a ... A: I commend you for taking such a cautious approach. It is justified. Although as young as they are, ...
New relationship??	8/19/2008
Q: I recently met this guy and I was instantly attracted to him. He seems a bit on the shy side which ... A: James It sounds like you are both in exactly the same spot, which always happens in new ...
gift giving	8/7/2008
Q: in the scheme of things this really seems like a dumb question,i am traveling across the country to ... A: That's a great idea, and I hope things work out well for you. As for the exact nature of the gift to ...
.....	8/5/2008
Q: I have thoughts about boys at school but when i think about men i dont feel gay usualy,my thoughts ... A: These are always the hardest emails to respond to, because I know exactly where you are. I was at ...
gay friend	8/4/2008
Q: i am a 29 year old st8 girl. i have this gay guy friend of mine, i care for him very much and he ... A: Don't let this confuse you. He's displaying signs of jealousy, but not because he has any sexual ...
just wondering what you think HOCD or gay realization	8/1/2008
Q: for the last couple of months ive been thinking im gay and have been really upset about it(then i ... A: So what you're saying is that because some random person on a message board made a broad ...
Help	7/31/2008
Q: My name is Andrew. I am 24 years old from Norfolk, VA. Nobody knows at work that I am gay. I have ... A: It's always hard to tell exactly what's going on in someone else's head, but from his actions, it ...
where is THE ONE,is there such a thing as this?	7/31/2008
Q: i am a gay guy,broke up with my first real lover afew weeks ago,he was white age 47 and i am black ... A: There is a lot going on here, and several things to address. My first concern is that you would be ...
just wondering what you think HOCD or gay realization	7/26/2008
Q: for the last couple of months ive been thinking im gay and have been really upset about it(then i ... A: Roger Yes, it definitely sounds like HOCD. The reality is that all of us at times have attractions ...
Open Relationships	7/21/2008
Q: I have been in a relationship for 7 years now and it has been nothing but wonderful. We don't fight, ... A: Dutch The only thing more threatening to your relationship than the prospect of opening the ...
Lonely	7/20/2008
Q: I am a 20 yr old gay male. I currently attend a small college in Minnesota, USA, surrounded by a ... A: I hope I don't sound like I am belittling you for your age, but the reality is that you are at ...
break ups	7/20/2008
Q: i was with my ex for 4 1/2 yrs.the last 6 months were rocky.lots of arguments .no emotional ... A: Sharon It's always hard to end a relationship of any type when there is no closure. It feels like ...
Relationship Advice	7/16/2008
Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 1/2 years, we have a good relationship and don't really ... A: I'm glad o see that you accept responsibility for how serious a breach of privacy you've committed ...
Determining Sexuality	7/16/2008
Q: ive been struggling with this for years now. I think i might be gay, thats the only type of ... A: If you've read any of my previous postings, you'll see that this is not at all uncommon. It's why I ...
confused	7/15/2008
Q: a fag alot and vagina, pussy, bitch, queer, and it makes me question myself. I have alot of social ... A: William You said it yourself, you have a big problem with social anxiety. That's your problem here, ...
Relationship Advice	7/15/2008
Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 1/2 years, we have a good relationship and don't really ... A: Hey Tim I feel for you, and I understand the situation. It's always stressful when someone you love ...
Please Help!	7/13/2008
Q: I'm a gay man aged 22.And i'm caught up in a situation that i don't know how to solve.The following ... A: Abee You've gotten yourself into a situation where he has every motive NOT to renew his visa. As ...
worried.	7/12/2008
Q: Recently, my boyfriend and I had his foster brother spend a couple days with us. My boyfriend has ... A: Jan, It's great that you are so concerned for him, and I'm glad to hear that his family would be ...
question	7/6/2008
Q: How are you? My names Alec and I'm 15.I am pretty sure that i am gay but I'm having problems ... A: It sounds to me like you're expecting your body to tell you what your sexual orientation is rather ...
WTF#$%&***	7/6/2008
Q: i was just wondering, see i'm a boy and have recently "DISCOVERED" my orientation, and i am in love ... A: Well tobi That's not much to go on, but I'd say the fact that he doesn't mind (or even welcomes) ...
Lover of 14 years cheating	7/3/2008
Q: This is very hard for me to even ask for advice on. I just need someone to open up to and find out ... A: I'm sorry to hear about the sorry state of your relationship, and how this is hurting you so much. ...
Please help me	7/1/2008
Q: Well I dont know how or where to start, but im a gay 18 yr old male who has never been successful ... A: I'm sorry to hear about your depression and discouragement. The good news is, it doesn't have to be ...
normality	6/30/2008
Q: I am not sure if normality is a word but I thought it sounded deep. I have known I was gay for ... A: I'm glad to hear that you're mostly accepting of who you are, and even more so that your family is ...
partner's past lovers creating problems in current relationship	6/29/2008
Q: Having been in several relationships, some long (3 or more years), I have come upon an issue in my ... A: Since your questions all seek support for your position, rather than seeking advice as to how you ...
Is the guy I like gay?	6/23/2008
Q: I am 20 years old and gay. I started work at my current job a year ago (a thirty-five mile drive). ... A: First of all, I agree with you completely that it would be a bad idea to tell this guy how you feel ...
Bearer of bad news	6/19/2008
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for awhile, and i already know that I want to spend the rest ... A: I'm a little confused. Perhaps you can clarify for me. I'm guessing from your name that you're a ...
is he or isn't he?	6/19/2008
Q: So I work at this Gym, it's a pretty famous franchise and very busy all the time. One of the people ... A: I apologize for the delay in responding, but I have just been pondering how to answer this. All the ...
Friend	6/19/2008
Q: I would say that some of my friends know just because of the way i have acted and not because i have ... A: Hey Guy While I certainly feel bad for you in this situation, because we've all been there, there's ...
Am I gay or bi?	6/15/2008
Q: Hey. I am 19 years old, and i'm not sure what gender I am attracted to. I am very confused. ... A: So why do you feel the need to supress those feelings. They are instinctual and natural, so why not ...
roller coaster !	6/12/2008
Q: Okay . I'm bi more gay but you get what I mean. So there is this guy who I'm CRAZY about that is ... A: Hey John Yes, that gives me a better understanding of the situation, and one thing is for sure... ...
Could my friend be gay too?	6/10/2008
Q: first let me say thanks for taking the time to read this! So to my issue at hand. I am what i ... A: Mark From all that you've told me, you've already made the first move... and he's responded ...
what do you think?	6/8/2008
Q: You probably get a lot of questions like this but here it goes. There is this guy I have been ... A: Mike I'm not sure what more of a signal you're looking for. From what you've described, I'd say ...
Cant leave his memory	6/7/2008
Q: I don't know if you were the guy who helped me out back in like September, but your advice was ... A: Kenny It sounds to me like you've already done all you can to try to make amends. At some point, ...
roller coaster !	6/6/2008
Q: Okay . I'm bi more gay but you get what I mean. So there is this guy who I'm CRAZY about that is ... A: Hey John I've been pondering this, and I just don't think I have enough information about the ...
Could my son be gay?	6/5/2008
Q: When my son was about 9 or so, he started first taking and destroying his sister's clothes. Then his ... A: Tina I suspect you're on the right track, but not quite. Given that your son has a fascination with ...
Confusion?	6/4/2008
Q: I am a gay female and I go to a all female gym every week. Since March 2008 I saw this young woman ... A: Shantelle You certainly have an active imagination!! You've dreamed up all these possible ...
I'm getting lonely	5/31/2008
Q: I was reading some of the questions on here, and I liked some of the responses you gave. Here's ... A: That makes it all worth it. I think you're on the right track with your coming out process. You're ...
30 and questioning	5/26/2008
Q: I am (and perhaps always have been) confused about my sexuality, and am reaching a point where I ... A: I'm afraid your issues are indeed very complex, but the good news is it sounds like you've got a ...
My life to a T	5/23/2008
Q: Tedd- I asked Gary, should have asked you. I'm 19 years old and unfortunately not gay, but ... A: You're definitely in a tricky spot, as you want to make sure he knows you're interested, but given ...
My life to a T	5/19/2008
Q: Tedd- I asked Gary, should have asked you. I'm 19 years old and unfortunately not gay, but ... A: That makes things a lot easier. Most of my emails require a good bit of interpreting to determine ...
The Vicious Cycle	5/18/2008
Q: My name is Glenn and I live in California. I'm 15 and I haven't officially came out to anyone, ... A: A lot of time we have the tendency to assume that people are not okay with someone being gay. At one ...
Just to be sure..	5/15/2008
Q: I'm 20 years old and although I avoid the terms straight gay or bi, I'd say I'm around a 2 or 3 on ... A: Hey B Yes, you'll find that the more you talk about it, or write about it, the easier it is to get ...
i dont know if im gay or not	5/10/2008
Q: hey my name is Jordan and 17 and i have been thinking i might be gay or bisexual.i have been ... A: Jordan The trick is to not try so hard to label yourself one thing or another. If you've read any ...
WTF!!!!!!!!	5/8/2008
Q: ok so i have been obsessed with this one guy since i moved here and i always thought that he might ... A: Tobi The reality is that there is NOTHING you can do about the way other people act, or how they ...
Am I Gay?	4/21/2008
Q: i pretty sure im gay it started a year when me and my friend started expierementing with each other ... A: Hey Sean First of all, let me sincerely apologize for leaving you hanging waiting for an answer ...
I NEED TO MAKE HIM FEEL GOOD	4/20/2008
Q: so my friend and i had SAFE sex for the very first timr and we were about to go all the way when his ... A: I hate to defer the entire answer wholesale, but the fact is, all of these questions have been ...
HighschoolCrush	4/18/2008
Q: Hey ok so i have a really tough question. Im really open in school (its a small rural town to begin ... A: It sure sounds to me like he's flirting. If you want things to progress, you have to do exactly the ...
He likes me . . . ish?	4/17/2008
Q: I'm 80% sure that this guy in my class likes me. He's so very flirty around me and he, as well as I, ... A: I certainly have no way of knowing whatsoever if this guy likes you or not. It's always possible. ...
best friend gay, but hiding	4/17/2008
Q: Hey Tedd, I don't know if you remember my story about liking my best friend, excuses to touch each ... A: Hey Ian If he's told you he's straight, I would take him at his word. You took a bold chance in ...
Im Confused.... : /	4/16/2008
Q: I believe myself to be bisexual but i think that the thought of letting my family know scares me n ... A: Again, you're still thinking in terms of three distinct categories of sexuality, when that does not ...
A Confusing Friendship: Is My Friend Gay or not?	4/16/2008
Q: I never thought I'd EVER come to the point where I come to a website to ask advice, but to much ... A: Toni, there's a term for what you're describing... "co-dependent!" It is an unproductive ...
why?	4/15/2008
Q: i was just wondering, see i have this friend whom i love he is my best friend and has been ever ... A: Tobi Trying to understand why you're attracted to or aroused by one person or another is a losing ...
any way?	4/15/2008
Q: so i have this friend who is really nice to me and i like alot, i am not sure if he is gay or not ... A: Toby That's not really the kind of thing you can plan, or else your efforts will be awkward and ...
Homosexuality	4/12/2008
Q: How do I tell someone, my parents/ friends that I am homosexual. I have feels for the same sex, but ... A: Zoey It sounds as if you have allowed yourself to be influenced by those who selectively quote ...
Homosexuality	4/11/2008
Q: How do I tell someone, my parents/ friends that I am homosexual. I have feels for the same sex, but ... A: There's no single answer to this question. How you come out to loved ones is as unique as every ...
Im Confused.... : /	4/10/2008
Q: I believe myself to be bisexual but i think that the thought of letting my family know scares me n ... A: Quite simply, you are who you are! I know that sounds overly simplistic, but the reality is that ...
is he really gay?	4/8/2008
Q: I'm just a little confused. Here's my situation: My first gay experience was with my best friend 3 ... A: I tend to define sexuality not in terms of behavior (look at how many gay men end up in straight ...
painfull decision/TORN	4/8/2008
Q: Im 36, I got divorced at 9 a.m. this morning. I told her from the beginning I enjoyed the company of ... A: No need to explain the environment... as you can see in my profile, I live in Tulsa! The good news ...
Can I stop being gay?	4/6/2008
Q: I'm a 17-year-old guy in his senior year of high school and even though I've been attracted mainly ... A: Hey Nick We all know exactly those kinds of feelings, so you're definitely not alone. But the ...
If my son is gay, how do I help him understand?	3/31/2008
Q: Please help my child! My son is 13 & althought he's had steady girlfriends (no kissing just present ... A: From what you've described to me, my guess is that Max is indeed gay, and I say that because of the ...
How to handle this guy	3/25/2008
Q: I met a guy recently thru internet. He is a very attractive, impressive muscled hunk. and i am ... A: Ashok Just because he's not a thief doesn't change the fact that he's a prostitute. You know what ...
Am I Gay?	3/24/2008
Q: It's very weird. Only a week ago, I was able to masturbate to women, and i enjoyed it. I always ... A: Your situation is exactly why I don't care much for the overly restrictive labels "gay" and ...
does he like me?	3/23/2008
Q: i was writing thanks to this really annoying problem that i am going through. As of 07 I came to ... A: Consider this... you've noticed all of these kinds of behaviors that you're describing, and that's ...
does he like me?	3/23/2008
Q: i was writing thanks to this really annoying problem that i am going through. As of 07 I came to ... A: It certainly is POSSIBLE that he's gay or bi, but whether or not it's LIKELY, I just couldn't say ...
How to handle this guy	3/20/2008
Q: I met a guy recently thru internet. He is a very attractive, impressive muscled hunk. and i am ... A: I hate to be so terribly blunt, but in this case I have to be. This guy is a prostitute, plain and ...
Homosexual children	2/28/2008
Q: I'm doing an essay on Homosexual adoption and I was wondering if you knew the average percentage of ... A: Like most controversial topics, that depends largely on the source of the data, and whether it is ...
cheated	2/26/2008
Q: I've been with this man 6 months age is 18yrs younger than me He already cheated on me once 2 months ... A: John I believe in second chances. I don't believe in thirds. You already gave him the opportunity ...
Experimenting	2/23/2008
Q: I have been striaght for my whole life but lately I have been dreaming about having sexual relations ... A: First of all, I would try to honestly evaluate whether or not this other guy seems interested as ...
Fiance	2/20/2008
Q: Over the last few months my fiance and I haven't slept together more than 3 times, each time ending ... A: Dee You're a LITTLE concerned?!? Are you still seriously considering going forward with this ...
help	2/12/2008
Q: Ok, so theres this guy.... that i like sooo much at my school, and i cant tell if he's gay or not. ... A: From what you've told me, I can't tell either! :o) It could go either way. From the way he's sweet ...
Gay marriage	2/10/2008
Q: My question is how do you respond to the argument that allowing gay/lesbian people to marry would ... A: As I see it, what is threatening the sanctity of marriage far more than the possibility of allowing ...
Can't get over gay ex	2/7/2008
Q: I feel like I don't want to carry on living. I had a boyfriend for five years when I was a teenager, ... A: Lauren I normally like to take a very diplomatic, soft approach with most of the questions I get, ...
several...	2/7/2008
Q: sorry about how long this is going to be, but i have several issues at the moment. well the first. ... A: Let's tackle these one at a time. First, the issue of your family/church relationship. It sounds to ...
My friend... i dont know what to think	2/4/2008
Q: Ok, so my friend (straight) has been telling me about his gay encounters with guys for the last 3 ... A: Hey Ben Well, that does help. It sounds to me like he's testing the waters, which as it turns out, ...
My friend... i dont know what to think	2/3/2008
Q: Ok, so my friend (straight) has been telling me about his gay encounters with guys for the last 3 ... A: Hey Ben Unless he makes some overt move to hit on you, you're not going to be hurting his ...
How should I go about this confusing situation?	2/2/2008
Q: So I've found myself in an interesting situation and I'd like an external vantage point. So I'm bi ... A: I apologize for the delay in responding. For some reason, I thought I'd already answered your ...
confused	1/30/2008
Q: im a 26 year old guy,with gf and also a daughter. I love to watch every type of porn...also gay porn ... A: Well, there doesn't seem to be any question about how you feel towards him, so I'm guessing you'd ...
Am I too young to know?	1/29/2008
Q: I'm a 16-year-old guy in his senior year of high school and I think I might be gay, but I'm not ... A: I don't think it's a matter of knowing whether you're gay, bi, straight or whatever. You simply feel ...
my husband wont touch me	1/27/2008
Q: in the begining of our relationship, we had an excellent sex life, a month before we got married my ... A: I'm sorry to hear about your situation. That has to be terribly frustrating for you. If it's any ...
How do I talk to my son about being gay	1/24/2008
Q: a couple of yrs ago I caught my son on the computer viewing gay porn. I totally flipped out on him ... A: Janey At 20 years old, it is long past time to confront the situation head on. By delay and ...
My bf of two yrs cheated on me for a fantasy...	1/21/2008
Q: I have been with my bf for almost two years now and till this point I thought that I was living in a ... A: First of all, you've got a good thing going... don't give up on it so easily. You can repair the ...
Unusual Question	1/16/2008
Q: I wanted to ask you whether the proportion of vegetarians was higher, lower or the same among gays ... A: That's a first for sure! I really have no idea, but if I were to venture a guess, I would say ...
am i???	1/16/2008
Q: Since two years ago I switched from girl/lesbian porn to transexual porn and this has taken control ... A: If you've read through any of my previous responses, you've seen that I really don't care much for ...
being gay	1/9/2008
Q: my name is Chance i am 18 years old and have an issue on my hands...I grew up in church and have ... A: If you've read through any of my previous responses, you've seen that I really don't care much for ...
Parental problems	1/8/2008
Q: first allow me to say how refereshing it is to find this site, finally, a place where I can ask an ... A: Hey there Dominic First of all, I'm glad to hear that all went well in telling your mother. I can't ...
Is my friend gay/bi?	1/3/2008
Q: I am really confused about him he is my bestfriend and he tells me every thing and i tell him ... A: Hey Chad We have the same home state. I was just in Ohio for Christmas visiting my family. From ...
Religion	12/18/2007
Q: My question is why do so many people believe that homosexuality is a sin? I am a 25 year old ... A: I grew up in a very strong Christian home and was also raised to believe that homosexuality is a ...
little annoyed, quite confused, or the othe way around	12/7/2007
Q: yeah, I'll try to be brief here I know there's alot that goes into where these questions are coming ... A: Mark First of all, remember what I said previously, that each person can have a different ...
Concealing?	12/5/2007
Q: Is it possible for a guy to try to hide being gay by hooking up with lots of girls and constantly ... A: Kyle To answer your root question directly... yes, it's entirely possible that someone could act in ...
toilets	12/1/2007
Q: hi i am of course gay and when i go to the toilet in the public toilets i always go to the toilet ... A: Belive it or not, this is not uncommon, especially among gay men. It may take some baby steps to ...
I Slipped	11/30/2007
Q: I am in no way a gay-hater--and I respect all orientations. But at work towards the end of the day ... A: Hey Harold I have no idea how sensitive this guy is to such comments, or whether or not he'll take ...
Do gays really go to hell?	11/27/2007
Q: I mean I've liked girls my whole life and a big behavior in god and i don't want to go to hell. i ... A: I grew up in a very strict religious home, and even went to Bible college and got a degree in Bible. ...
My boyfriend hides me/ignore's me	11/26/2007
Q: My name is Roh and I live in Phoenix Arizona,I'm 20 years old and nearing 21. My boyfriend and I ... A: Sorry to hear about your frustrating situation. It's important not to assume what your boyfriend's ...
Older Younger Relationship	11/12/2007
Q: I am 40 and a guy i have sort of been seeing is 22, I know the chances of it surviving are slim due ... A: You're smart to be concerned, because there are definitely challenges that don't exist where the age ...
What do I do now?	11/11/2007
Q: Well.. I'm in love with my best friend. We met each other in February of o6, on the Auditorium stage ... A: Ashley I'm pretty sure that if you were the one getting this email from a friend of yours, asking ...
Age of Consent.	11/9/2007
Q: I don't know if you'll be able to answer this. Its alright if you can't. I'm sixteen and i live in ... A: As long as you are in Pennsylvania, you're okay. There the age of consent is 16, regardless of ...
Grr, how do I get over a year old crush?	11/7/2007
Q: 16 y/o. A Latino in China. Sigh, where do I begin? Okay, so I'm in this huge conundrum; I like this ... A: Markos You've already answered your own question, if you just look to the last few lines of your ...
not sure about friend	11/6/2007
Q: I am a 26 year old gay man and live with my 22 year old best friend. We are really close and he is ... A: Hey Mike I'm not sure what's going on in his head, but it certainly is POSSIBLE that he's feeling ...
how to tell another guy that I'm interested	11/5/2007
Q: I'm 19, and I have a question on how to tell another guy that I'm interested in them without ... A: Hey Jeff I think if you've established a strategy for dealing with the situation, no need to veer ...
please help	10/24/2007
Q: I met this guy 3 weeks ago. We have been hanging out alot and it is going great. He text each ... A: Hey Michael, You already KNOW what to do. You even said so in the course of asking your question. ...
not sure	10/21/2007
Q: i never been aroused by any single guy or girl in real life. i got aroused only by gay sex in ... A: You've demonstrated exactly why I don't care much for the overly restrictive labels "gay" and ...
I like this guy at work.	10/20/2007
Q: So, since graduating college, I've considered myself as Bi. I've fooled around with a few guy ... A: Hey Rob I think you've found yourself in a great situation! You have the advantage of knowing he's ...
In love with a straight guy	10/12/2007
Q: I am a 24 year old closeted homosexual and I am deeply in love with a fellow student of mine for ... A: Well, I think we've all been in a similar situation before, and it can truly be difficult to ...
Is He Gay?	10/8/2007
Q: Alright, I know you get this a lot but I can't help but have my personal situation assessed. There ... A: First of all, my sincere apologies for the delay in answering. I thought I'd already answered your ...
I need to know if a friend of mine is gay.	10/6/2007
Q: I'm a 58 y/o gay male. Recently, a good friend of mine who is 23 approached me about going with me ... A: That's a very delicate situation indeed, and I would be very, very careful in how you approach it. ...
Is He Gay?	10/4/2007
Q: Alright, I know you get this a lot but I can't help but have my personal situation assessed. There ... A: Okay, in the first situation, from what you're describing, yeah, I'd say he's interested. There's no ...
Help with this guy	10/1/2007
Q: Tedd I am awfully sorry to bother you but i have this problem and i would really appreciate your ... A: Hey Ryan What am I missing here? Jakk: 1) asks you to come hang out with him 2) holds you in his ...
How do I know?	9/30/2007
Q: I am a fairly cute guy, intelligent and all those stuff. Presently I'm in college and I notice in ... A: Anthony What are you waiting for? Clearly, he's flirting with you. He's probably just as nervous ...
Massage	9/28/2007
Q: I was wondering if it was against the law to receive an erotic massage by trained and licensed men. ... A: Like all such operations, these run the gammet from fully legitimate to virtual prostitution rings. ...
i had sex...with the wrong person. what do u think is wrong with me?	9/26/2007
Q: im 15 and in highschool! ive known i was gay since bout 5th grade, but im "in the closet". the only ... A: I must admit, I don't get too many emails anymore that have reason to give me pause, but I was a bit ...
Should gay people stay married	9/24/2007
Q: i'm a gay male I love my wife I also have two wonderful kids... however I can't stop like men I'm ... A: Jay I can feel your pain and turmoil coming through your words, even though I've never been in such ...
patience vexed	9/24/2007
Q: I would like some advice on how to deal with my partner's ex, and what to ask from my partner, Jane. ... A: First of all, let me say how glad I am to see that you are committed to your integrity in always ...
Should gay people stay married	9/22/2007
Q: i'm a gay male I love my wife I also have two wonderful kids... however I can't stop like men I'm ... A: I must admit I do have a hard time relating to your situation, as I've never been married, nor ever ...
best friend gay or not	9/13/2007
Q: I like my best friend but I'm not sure if he's gay. Whenever I see him in school or out with another ... A: Although it may not be what you are hoping for, you have to respect his wishes. Recall my advice ...
Reply to your assessment	9/12/2007
Q: Tedd, Thanks for your assessment but to tell you the truth, its not Michael, I get alot of play ... A: Hey Jeffrey I took a look at your MySpace page and I can see why you get "alot of looks stares and ...
best friend gay or not	9/12/2007
Q: I like my best friend but I'm not sure if he's gay. Whenever I see him in school or out with another ... A: Hey Ian My guess is that he's too scared of rejection to talk with you about what he's feeling. ...
best friend gay or not	9/12/2007
Q: I like my best friend but I'm not sure if he's gay. Whenever I see him in school or out with another ... A: Based on what you've described, I would have to suspect he's gay. Your description of your physical ...
SEX CRAZED roomie	9/10/2007
Q: Tedd, I'm having some serious issues. I'm 23 Gay and live with my room mate Michael who is also 35 ... A: Hey Jeffrey First of all, yes it certainly sounds like you're jealous, and understandably so. Any ...
Sexualy Confused male	9/8/2007
Q: I'm a 20 year old male who is confused about his sexuality. My problem is that I've always found ... A: I know it's probably been stated all too often in the media and elsewhere, but it really is true ...
Me again	9/6/2007
Q: Well,turns out "josh" is the biggest asshole i know Long story short he cares about drugs more than ... A: There are always going to be lots of cute guys, but until you get to talk to him or get to know him, ...
Me again	9/5/2007
Q: Well,turns out "josh" is the biggest asshole i know Long story short he cares about drugs more than ... A: You are wise beyond your years for seeing that if Josh is so into drugs, then he's bad news and no ...
i dont know	9/2/2007
Q: latley i thought i was gay as i experimented gay sex with a freind and liked.i find him attractive ... A: We really don't have any conscious decision over who we find attractive or what turns us on. It's ...
i'm afraid i won't be able to fall in love	8/30/2007
Q: well, first of all I'm 15 years old gay and noone knows about that. so it's quite impossible for me ... A: It's funny how things look very different at the age of 15 than they do even just a little later in ...
i liked girl my whole life. am i gay? please help	8/29/2007
Q: my intire life i have been attracted to girls.i remember back in 3rd grade there was a girl i liked ... A: I apologize, I did in fact misinterpret your original question. In light of your clarification, I ...
me again	8/29/2007
Q: hey tedd thanks for helping me out before but, Things arent going so well right now i havent seen ... A: Sorry to hear that things don't seem to be going well. I know how sad it can be to feel lonely and ...
My best friend's gay or not?	8/25/2007
Q: Hey there. Well it’s very complicated in here so I hope you can help me out. Let me start with the ... A: First of all, I apologize for the length of time in responding. As you said, your situation is ...
coping with myself	8/24/2007
Q: i would like to say thankyou for helping everyone else who's asked you a question ive read through a ... A: I'm glad you're feeling better about the situation. You should! It's going to sound a bit strange, ...
Bicurious ,Voyeurism	8/24/2007
Q: Iam 30 in Orlando, FL. Iam a creationist and I was thought that homosexuality goes against the laws ... A: If the pictures are only of himself, as you've said, then I would guess that he is using them to ...
Religion does it work?	8/22/2007
Q: I have known since I was little that I liked guys more then girls but its been easy to hide because ... A: Well, Dave, I have to admit it's hard for me to really answer your question, because it's based on a ...
coping with myself	8/22/2007
Q: i would like to say thankyou for helping everyone else who's asked you a question ive read through a ... A: I'm glad my previous answers could be of benefit to you. I sometimes wonder if anyone actually reads ...
My friend	8/21/2007
Q: Ok.this will be quite long winded please bear with me. I am 15 years old,i am gay and thats all ... A: I would think that would be a fairly natural extension of your experimenting together. Next time ...
is 10yrs old to young to be gay?	8/20/2007
Q: ...my step son, whom i love dearly...is showing signs of being gay. i can tell that his father is in ... A: God has blessed us with instincts for a reason... they guide us and direct us to do what we know in ...
My friend	8/19/2007
Q: Ok.this will be quite long winded please bear with me. I am 15 years old,i am gay and thats all ... A: My guess is that your friend, we'll call him Josh, is probably just as nervous about your temtative ...
Sexualy Confused male	8/19/2007
Q: I'm a 20 year old male who is confused about his sexuality. My problem is that I've always found ... A: I'm sorry to hear of your confusion, but it's not uncommon. There are many people who do not fall ...
my stepson is gay	8/19/2007
Q: I cannot deal with his significant other and my child tells me this is not a choice for me. Either ... A: Gay or straight, the people in our lives often choose friends and significant others that may rub us ...
Bicurious ,Voyeurism	8/18/2007
Q: Iam 30 in Orlando, FL. Iam a creationist and I was thought that homosexuality goes against the laws ... A: John I wish I had a better answer for you on this one, but you're basically asking me to provide a ...
Boyfriend Moving-In: He "doesn't want to pay my mortgage"	8/7/2007
Q: I am 45 gay professional, my boyfriend is 37 working hard and slowly climbing out of debt with a ... A: Congratulations on making such an important decision, and much luck to you in your future happiness ...
Recent Sexuality Confusion	7/20/2007
Q: My name is Jonathan, I am almost 20, and I have a question regarding some recent confusion that I ... A: That is insightful Jonathan, and that's kind of what I expected. I don't think you would come to ...
Recent Sexuality Confusion	7/17/2007
Q: My name is Jonathan, I am almost 20, and I have a question regarding some recent confusion that I ... A: I need to ask you some more about what you are experiencing before I can really give you any ...
Gay massage, etc.	7/6/2007
Q: I was wondering if it is illegal to get a massage by someone who purposely massages the penis to the ... A: Yes, bathhouses are legal, since they are not "selling" sex per se, but rather a membership to a ...
Gay massage, etc.	7/5/2007
Q: I was wondering if it is illegal to get a massage by someone who purposely massages the penis to the ... A: Yes, all of the activities you've described are considered prostitution and are therefore illegal in ...
Am I in competition with a gay man?	6/30/2007
Q: Okay, I've looked all over and can't seem to find an answer to my question. I have a very handsome, ... A: Theere is so much going on here I barely know where to start! First of all, Pat may well just be a ...
my "straight" friend...	6/24/2007
Q: Okay, here goes: I made a really good friend a year or two ago when I moved. We were pretty chill ... A: Hey TJ Haven't we all been in that spot?!? Yeah, seriously, it's probably one of the most common ...
am i gay?	6/10/2007
Q: When i was 8 me and two of my friends had sex both oral and anal. WHen my parents discovered this ... A: Hey Tim Sorry for taking so long to respond. I know you've probably been eagerly awaiting a ...
A friend of me !	5/25/2007
Q: I am a bi 24 years old and I had some experience in gay sex, but in most of the cases I prefer ... A: Since you said he is one of your best friends, I assume you have a close relationship and that ...
Gay Massage	5/23/2007
Q: I am not Gay, but would like to get a sensual massage by a masseuer. I am actually a happily ... A: Well, your first question is "Is it wrong to have such a desire?" In my opinion, as long as the ...
my best friend	5/19/2007
Q: thnaks a lot for your previous answer. I am Edi from Albania (24 years old). I askend to you about ... A: It sounds like things are going well, and I'm glad to hear that. I hope it continues to go well for ...
is my friend gay	5/19/2007
Q: i hope i can get answers for this as him totally confused.me and my best friend (both male)decided ... A: He seems to be the type who is okay with doing what you guys are doing, so long as he doesn't have ...
is my friend gay	5/14/2007
Q: i hope i can get answers for this as him totally confused.me and my best friend (both male)decided ... A: Hey John You didn't mention how old either of you are, and that can make a big difference, but if ...
Gay pre nuptual agreements.	5/10/2007
Q: I'm entering into a civil ceremony shortly (i live in the UK) and i'm concerned about how to protect ... A: Just to keep the issues straight (no pun intended), let's be clear that we are talking about two ...
my best friend	5/9/2007
Q: First of all sorry for my worst english.I am a bisexual guy and had some experinced with another ... A: Normally I am all in favor of very open communication, and in most situations I recommend a direct ...
doctors	4/28/2007
Q: how can i tell my doctor im gay. and what extra exams does he do to me. will he tell my parents ... A: Unless there is a legitimate medical reason, your doctor should not perform any kind of tests or ...
doctors	4/17/2007
Q: how can i tell my doctor im gay. and what extra exams does he do to me. will he tell my parents A: You didn't indicate your age, and that would probably play a significant factor in what you can ...
i don't know if i'm gay	4/9/2007
Q: For the past few years now, I've been attracted to boys. I've never told anyone, not even my best ... A: John, You didn't indicate how old you are, which can make a big difference in your developing ...
am i straight?	4/8/2007
Q: OK. I'm 24. I'm gay. I am out. I have slept with men and enjoyed it. However something has happened ... A: I gotta tell you, in all the years I've been volunteering here, this is a first. I've never gotten ...
My gaydar is on the fritz. Please help.	4/6/2007
Q: This is a repost of a question I just submitted. I think I left out some info in my previous post. ... A: I think you're taking the right approach, up until now. But you've gone as far as you can with ...
Teachers	3/31/2007
Q: my names paul and i saw something rather embarrassing. I was walking around my school at a disco ... A: While it's certainly poor judgement on the part of these two teachers, to be conducting themselves ...
Is Faux Hawk Guy gay?	3/23/2007
Q: I'm a 20 year-old college student. There is a guy at school who pays close attention to the way he ... A: Hey Mike Having your orientation listed is a good first start. With that in place, you could reach ...
A case of exes	3/23/2007
Q: My boyfriend of 2 years and I are at loggerheads when it comes to exes and generally people that ... A: The more detail you provide, the more bleak the situation looks. It sounds like your boyfriend has ...
Is Faux Hawk Guy gay?	3/21/2007
Q: I'm a 20 year-old college student. There is a guy at school who pays close attention to the way he ... A: Hey Mike My opinion... he's gay! The one tiny piece of evidence suggesting he's straight just ...
this guy	3/19/2007
Q: Okay i asked for another experts opinion on this but i dont think he understood what i was talking ... A: Hey Tim One of the greatest things I've learned over the years is this... TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!! ...
Approaching a Guy	3/10/2007
Q: Well, I go to this small gym for personal training and the other day I was introduced to a new ... A: Hey Nick That's a tough one and I must admit, that's a struggle that I have when I go to the gym as ...
Problems =/	2/25/2007
Q: Hey, Well, I am 15 and a half and I pretty much know for a fact I'm gay. I have no problems ... A: First of all, my sincere apologies for the delay in responding. I don't know if you've read any of ...
SEX QUESTION?	2/22/2007
Q: I have a question im 21 gay I think well.....i was never attracted to guys i had a GF in 11th grade ... A: First off, let me apologize for the delay in responding. My hard drive has gone on to its final ...
gay sex	2/1/2007
Q: .anyway me and my partner are totally free from STD and we only have sex with each only! so is it ... A: Yes, if both of you are STD-free, then there is nothing inherently unhealthy about cumming inside of ...
unhealthy romance	1/31/2007
Q: First of all I want to tell you that I'm in a very very weird and difficult situation. Ok, there's ... A: First of all, you have to understand the relationship in its proper context... that is, you've never ...
gay sex	1/30/2007
Q: do u have tips on gay sex to make it better? is it fine to cum into my partner while having ... A: First, you must understand that both of the practices you describe carry a HIGH degree of risk of ...
There's this guy...	1/27/2007
Q: ..me again! Just in case you don't know who "me" is, its Joshua I'm the one who asked you about ... A: Hey Joshua Haven't we all had moments like this? God knows I've had plenty. The reality is it can ...
comming out!	1/26/2007
Q: I'm currently a freshmen in college studying history! I came out to all of my friends when I was in ... A: I can certainly understand the desire to come out, especially if you're already out to everyone ...
Should I ask my son if he is gay?	1/13/2007
Q: Last year I found my son was looking at gay porn on the web. When I told him I found out he was ... A: First of all, I want to commend you for providing your son with the kind of nurturing environment ...
wicked confused	1/9/2007
Q: very timely and thoughtful! I knew you wouldn't let me down! I think you're right: the issue I'm ... A: A couple of thoughts... One, I think you're right on the mark about your reasons for being hesitant ...
wicked confused	1/7/2007
Q: I'm a 29 year old guy, and I'm battling with the increasing likelihood that I'm gay. A quick recap: ... A: Hey Mark From what you've written initiall, my first thought is... "What's the question?" Yeah, I ...
Is my co-worker bi / gay?	1/5/2007
Q: First some background: I've come to the conclusion that I am bisexual in a physical sense. I love ... A: To address your comments in the first paragraph, I would suggest you keep looking. What you are ...
Questions about phone.	12/10/2006
Q: I'm a french young guy from France. I don't know if you can help me, but i hope so. Sorry for my bad ... A: Hey there I wish I could help you with this, but it's really way outside of my expertise. I really ...
contemplating my sexuality	11/25/2006
Q: Ok, i can see where you're coming from about the whole "they're just hoping its a phase" thing but ... A: Well, only you can know for sure whether or not it is a phase. Personally, I don't believe in any ...
coming out	11/25/2006
Q: i am a bisexual male, i have been dating a man about 3 times older than me for about a 6 months and ... A: If you can tell me a little more about your situation, I will be able to provide more thorough ...
contemplating my sexuality	11/20/2006
Q: here's the deal. i think i'm gay because i am attracted to guys and see myself with guys in the ... A: Yes, I definitely have some perspective on your situation. I too was raised in a VERY Christian ...
Hot for striaght guys!	11/17/2006
Q: I have been openly (well pretty much) gay most of my life, but the thing is, I'm not attracted to ... A: I apologize for the delay in responding. The kinds of things that make a person attractive to us ...
Gay son?	10/24/2006
Q: Our son has just let us know he is gay. He is 14 y/o and freshman in hs. We come from a very ... A: Greetings Terese First of all, thank you for sharing your story with me. It was encouraging and ...
Needle in the hay	10/23/2006
Q: if only there were more honest help when it came to these matters, the world would be a much less ... A: Well, Dave, there is always the possibility also that you're just not a very sexual person. People ...
gay-dar	10/22/2006
Q: How can u tell if someone is gay? i suspect one of my friends is gay but i'm not sure. i'm not out ... A: Gaydar is something you either you have or you don't, but even if you do have it, it's not entirely ...
Undecided,	10/18/2006
Q: Being new in US, I spent more time online trying to find someone to share my life with. I've ... A: John, You've already decided what you need to do, now it's just a matter of making it happen. I ...
gay/bi spouse?	10/16/2006
Q: I have been married 15 years. In the beginning, our marriage was the perfect one, sex was great, we ... A: Tammy If you are satisfied with the way things have been over the years, and you think you can be ...
My Friend	10/16/2006
Q: I really appreciate your help in this situation. With him I think the direct approach is going to ... A: Matt Once again, I am thoroughly impressed with how well you have thought through the situation. I ...
How do I make sure this guy I like is gay?	10/12/2006
Q: First of all, I am out of the closet. Everyone in my entire county is aware of my sexuality. There ... A: Hey Jon Mychal First of all, I commend you for having the courage to be out to everyone you know at ...
can a gay man be in love with a woman?	10/11/2006
Q: i am in love with my best friend. he says he is in love with me. that he wants kids and he wants to ... A: Stacy - this one does not require a long answer... do not allow yourself to sit around hoping for ...
is my brother gay	10/10/2006
Q: my brother keeps actiong and doing weird things. he wants me to get kissed on the lips and even ... A: Without more information about his behavior, I really couldn't guess what is motivating this. I do ...
legal advice?	10/9/2006
Q: how are you doing? i have asked you a lots of question a long time ago. but today i have a ... A: Sorry to hear about your recent circumstances. I would love to advise you here, but in this field, ...
I have some issues	10/4/2006
Q: 25, male, Dallas, TX I'm a liberal Muslim Indian American gay lad. I came out about 2.5 years ago ... A: I can certainly help you with your questions about masturbation, but I am far from qualified to ...
gaylife	9/28/2006
Q: Respected sir, i'm here to ask u a question that i'm a gay.so there is no erection when i was with a ... A: Mahe Human sexuality is far too diverse for me to answer such a broad question as "can gays have ...
True Love	9/28/2006
Q: Let me give you a short description about myself. I came out when I was 17. I felt very good about ... A: Hey Mark I admire you for the values that you possess, and I share that commitment with you. It's ...
Gay life	9/24/2006
Q: I have masturbated before but I want to take it a step further, I would like to try gay means of ... A: Perhaps I may just not be qualified or knowledgeable enough to answer your question, but to the best ...
Gay Life	9/17/2006
Q: I wanted to know if it was alright if i looked up gay porn but I'm only a teen, and I want to know ... A: Hey, Jack You know, I'm of the school that believes the standard definitions of gay and straight ...
Is he gay?	9/17/2006
Q: So I met this guy who I was very sure is gay. It was just the way he looked into my eyes, talked ... A: I think he is just in denial, still in high school and refuses to recognize his feelings!! It's ...
Gaydar	9/16/2006
Q: I am 32 and live in WI. My question is, what are some signs that might indicate that a guy is gay. I ... A: You know, gaydar is one of those things that you are either born with or you're not. It can't really ...
Do You Think I'm Gay Or Bi?	8/10/2006
Q: My name is Robert, I'm 17, and I live in Elizabeth, New Jersey. I'm not sure if I'm gay or bisexual. ... A: Well, Robert, I can tell you that this is probably the single most common question I get, so you're ...
Doomed to be single?	8/3/2006
Q: I've already received Kay's advice on this, the other expert, but I'd like to see what you have to ... A: First of all, let me apologize for how long it has taken for me to respond. I typically try to ...
gay sex	7/30/2006
Q: I want to know how gays exchange sex? what do they do to cum? do they have anal sex? every thing ... A: Your questions are quite broad and too vague to really answers. I would suggest doing some basic ...
Asian for Caucasian	7/13/2006
Q: I am a Chinese, Asian, yet I have been so desperate into white guys. I really like their looks and ... A: To answer your last questions first, yes... all the things you're describing... eye contact, ...
How to know about sons sexuality	7/11/2006
Q: Im not sure on how to approach him. Ive calmy asked if any one has ever touched like he touches his ... A: This is probably beyond my expertise, but my gut reaction is that such behavior would not manifest ...
parents	7/11/2006
Q: I am 18 and live in the Charleston, WV area but go to school in Fairmont, WV. I just finished my ... A: I'm sorry to hear about the way things have gone down with your parents. That is certainly tough to ...
How to know about sons sexuality	7/6/2006
Q: My son who is now 7 years old has had a problem since he was 5. It started out with wanting to look ... A: Christina What you've described is very disturbing indeed, despite what your therapist may have ...
Was I born that way ... or did the doctor make me so?	7/4/2006
Q: I have some very bizarre sexual history: Although at puberty I phantasized about men when ... A: While I really can't explain your sudden shift in sexual interests, I can assure you that nothing ...
Does he like me?!?!?!	7/2/2006
Q: Ok here’s my dilemma, My name is Damian and I’m from Lexington, Ma, I’m 18 and I’m a senior in high ... A: From what you've told me, I would guess that he does indeed have an interest in you, but it's so far ...
Confused about married guy	6/27/2006
Q: heya, I live in Devon, England, I'm 27 and i work in a factory. This guy started work on my line ... A: While it is certainly not uncommon for married men to have same-sex interests, I just don't see ...
What kind am I?	6/21/2006
Q: I've browsed through some of your answer and really appreciate your thoughtfullness and candor. I am ... A: Howitzer What you're describing seems very similar to my own experience, in that I started ...
help	6/15/2006
Q: mark told me he used this site before and i was glad he didn't tell me what he asked but i would ... A: o) It's good to hear from you as always. As for what Mark asked, you should know that every ...
How can I tell if a guy I like is gay?	6/14/2006
Q: How can I tell if a guy I like is gay? I just keep getting mixed signals from him and I read your ... A: I'm glad to hear that you've read some of my previous responses, because I get this question a lot!! ...
Realationship trouble	6/12/2006
Q: My name is Richard. I live in the south west of england UK. I have been in a relationship for three ... A: First of all, please accept my apologies for the delay in responding. I just got my computer back ...
Queer Fundraising	6/7/2006
Q: We are a near-retirement couple (23 years) who have moved to Fountain City (KNoxville, TN) from ... A: That is a huge shift in cultures! I am familiar with both Chicago and Knoxville and they don't ...
more confusion	6/5/2006
Q: Heh, yeah it's me again. So many questions! Okay, so, what do you think about this: I find women ... A: What you are describing is not at all uncommon. Although it seems contradictory, physical attraction ...
how can I ask my friend if he's gay?	6/4/2006
Q: hey Tedd - First, thanks so much for your last response; it was very insightful and has given me ... A: Well, first of all, I think this whole conversation really casts aside any doubt that you are in ...
tell me about u	6/4/2006
Q: next listen about gay sex next time mikey talks to u ask him if mark wanted to have sex would he be ... A: Sincere apologies for the delay in responding. My computer has been acting up lately and I just now ...
she already knew	6/3/2006
Q: we told marks mother yesterday night when i went to spend a night and she said ...that she already ... A: LOL... hi guys. Yes, I believe at 35, I am old enough to offer you advice. The reason I do this is ...
thanks new problem	6/3/2006
Q: oh thank u thank u thank u tedd i sound like a girl don't i but u r the greatset mark says he has ... A: Oh Mike, I am SO SO happy for you. I can tell you are elated and rightfully so. You have overcome ...
confused as hell: I think I might be gay	6/1/2006
Q: I'm a 28 year old guy, and for pretty much ever I've considered myself straight, but disinterested. ... A: I feel for you in your confusion, and I hope that I might be able to help clear things up a bit for ...
opgeil help please	5/30/2006
Q: i am 14 and friend is 14 we knew each other for 8 years yes since i was 6. been in same class ... A: That sounds very sweet and charming, and from the sound of it, Mark certainly seems interested in ...
I want a monogamous relationship; I don t know what he wants...	5/24/2006
Q: .My name is Roger from Phoenix, AZ..I met this man on an internet chat service & he caught my ... A: Hey Roger, I can completely relate to your position, as I am one of a few true believers in ...
Chicago/Milwaukee Clubs under 21	5/23/2006
Q: I have a friend coming in from Kansas and he is just out. He came out on Thanksgiving and doesnt ... A: Hey Miranda Well, it is certainly challenging to find places to hang out when you are under 21, but ...
am i gay	5/21/2006
Q: look i have a friend and i have been his friend for 8 years(i am 15) and we are very close. but, i ... A: First of all, that's great that you've been friends for so long. Hopefully, as such, even if he's ...
gay sexual behavior	5/1/2006
Q: When two gay men have sex, is one always the female and the other the male, or do they switch back ... A: Well, first I have to assume that when you say "is one always the female and the other the male...?" ...
how do deal with a closet gay partner?	4/15/2006
Q: I HAVE BEEN GOING OUT WITH THIS 19 YEAR OLD GUY FOR THE PAST 9 MONTHS AND IS STILL IN THE CLOSET ... A: I understand your frustration... it would be very difficult, if not impossible, for me to consider ...
Questions about working in the new Gay industries	4/1/2006
Q: Questions about working in the new Gay industries Hello, I'm a newbie gay interested in employment ... A: Unfortunately, I do not have any direct experience in the areas of work that you're talking about. ...
------------------------- ...	3/26/2006
Q: i m suffering from phonomena it is the first time to me to disclose it , this phenomena i suffering ... A: I apologize for the delay in responding. It seems the AllExperts site was experiencing some ...
hello i m suffering...	3/22/2006
Q: i m suffering from phonomena it is the first time to me to disclose it , this phenomena i suffering ... A: It sounds like you've got a couple of different concerns that may be spilling over into each other, ...
am I straight or gay?	3/6/2006
Q: I am a male currently in my twenties and have had this thought(s) going around in my head for a ... A: I've heard from several people who describe similar experiences, and I think you're probably on the ...
need to know	2/27/2006
Q: i m confuse very much wish you help i m naturally excited with womens sexuality (i m a male) so i ... A: I really couldn't do any better in explaining it than what I found at this website: ...
need to know	2/25/2006
Q: i m confuse very much wish you help i m naturally excited with womens sexuality (i m a male) so i ... A: It's indeed very rare for someone to be completely 100% at one end of the sexuality spectrum or the ...
Help	2/22/2006
Q: ...I am 16....how do i tell my parents i am gaY? A: I know that is such a big dilemma. I was not able to muster the courage to tell my parents until I ...
free gay male penpals	1/18/2006
Q: I am 48 and live in Conneaut, Ohio. Where can I get free gay male penpal addresses? A: Since you wrote me through this forum, I have to assume you have internet access. That's also going ...
is it best to move out?	1/13/2006
Q: i'm a 37 year old gay man, my sister is a lesbian and has a partner living in our house. my mom ... A: Well, yes, it sounds like you've answered your own question already, but I'll chime in just to back ...
Could my 9 year old be gay?	1/12/2006
Q: Since my son was 18 months old and his dad and i divorced, his father really didnt participate in ... A: I can tell you're terribly shaken up by this discovery, as I think any parent would be. You're ...
to be a girl	1/10/2006
Q: I am a young man, 28 years old. Since several years ago, I always like to live like girls, have a ... A: I'm probably not well qualified to answer this question, since what you are talking about is ...
Regaurding my good friend	1/9/2006
Q: Hey tedd, I have this friend named Justin, were really good friends tho we have only known each ... A: Well, Chad This is exactly the type of question that I get all the time. In fact, it's probably THE ...
coming out to parents	12/15/2005
Q: Tedd. First I want to say thank you for providing this kind of service to those of us who are ... A: Pardon the delay in responding. You have given me a lot to digest and think about, but you're ...
honeymoon	12/7/2005
Q: my name is Jolene. My girlfriend and I plan to marry once we have graduated from college and moved ... A: Congratulations on your wedding and "honeymoon"! That's so exciting for you. Jamaica has never ...
Lost and confused	12/4/2005
Q: I am and 18 year old male from Ashland, Oregon and I really need your help. I'm lost. completely ... A: I can certainly feel your pain and suffering in every word you write, and I sincerely hope that you ...
HI	11/26/2005
Q: its me again u no the 14 year old what do u do when u have sex. what dossisions and what things do ... A: I strongly believe that everyone should follow his or her own instinct when it comes to sexual ...
MY FRIEND	11/25/2005
Q: IM A 14 YEAR OLD MALE AND MY FRIENDS 14 ALSO. I HAVE A FRIEND AND WE HAVE BEEN FRIENDS FOR LIKE 8 ... A: My best guess is probably what you've already figured... he's most likely gay, or at least sexually ...
Is he gay/does he like me?	11/21/2005
Q: I'm recently moved and transfered high schools. I made some new friends immediately but noticed ... A: Even though it's been a long time since I've been in high school (I'm 34), I remember going through ...
Anal sex?	10/18/2005
Q: Hey Tedd! What's up? I want to ask you anything you can tell me about anal sex... does it deformate ... A: To answer your first question... rarely does anal sex result in any type of long-term deformation. ...
hello	9/22/2005
Q: My name is Alix Sullivan. I am a sophomore at a high school in Lee's Summit. I am writing you to ask ... A: Certainly, I would be more than happy to participate in your interview. No, it's not exactly what I ...
nipple	8/28/2005
Q: i have a small nipple i want ask you how i can enlargement my niple ? A: I'm not really qualified to answer medical questions, but my best guess is that you would want to ...
Turning Gay ?	8/24/2005
Q: Is it possible to turn gay, or bisexual, later in life ? I'm in my late 30s, but have never had any ... A: While this may not be real common, it's not entirely unheard of either. I once dated a guy who was ...
lesbian parents	7/13/2005
Q: I am a lesbian.I plan on having children with my partner and I was wondering how it would effect my ... A: I'm not sure what led you to believe that I have a lesbian mother, since I do not, but I can tell ...
Promise Ring	7/6/2005
Q: Age: 23 El Paso, Texas Recently, my partner gave me a promise ring for our 6 month anniversary. My ... A: A gift is something a person gives because they want to do so. Appreciate the gift he's given you, ...
dont know what to do	6/28/2005
Q: i was wondering if you could help me. i have this male friend who i have a big suspision is gay. the ... A: If he does not want you there, then this is a very bad idea. You said yourself "he keeps his private ...
gay life	6/28/2005
Q: .. I am saurabh, an architecture student from india, gay and out to some people and i have basically ... A: I apologize for the delay in responding. My computer has been down for repairs the last few days. ...
dont know what to do	6/26/2005
Q: i was wondering if you could help me. i have this male friend who i have a big suspision is gay. the ... A: It's very likely that he is scared to tell you, or he just isn't ready to tell you. It's not a ...
Whats going on with me...........	6/25/2005
Q: Well the first thing is im a gay male who is 24 and I just came all the way out about 2 years ago. ... A: Any time we start acting in ways that feel out of control, it is scary, and your situation is no ...
gay	6/14/2005
Q: i am 15, and live in mansfield mass. is it possible to find men/boys sexually attractive and not be ... A: This is probably one of the most frequent questions I get, so you're certainly not alone in ...
Could he be gay?	6/11/2005
Q: Hey Tedd, it's kinda a long email...but please read it. I am a 22 yr old very closeted guy ... A: To answer the simple question first... yes, he certainly could be gay. Or he could be straight. But ...
workplace	6/1/2005
Q: I am a 41 year old Frenchman living in Berlin, Germany. Having lost my job a few months ago, I've ... A: Well, my first reaction when reading your story was shock that any interviewer would ask about your ...
Is it worth it,Big Dilemma	5/6/2005
Q: I am a 21 year old single black female with no children,who has recently broken up with my boyfriend ... A: Tidra As long as you are very clear about your intentions, and she understands that there is to be ...
How to be friends with my co-worker	4/25/2005
Q: I'm a straight 22 year-old female that just started working at a mortuary in my home town. I would ... A: Dinah Don't waste your energy on him! Gay or straight is irrelevant. What matters is the way he ...
does he like me	4/13/2005
Q: I'm 15 and am not sure yet if I'm gay or not. There is a guy at my high school that I really like ... A: I remember dealing with exactly those types of situations myself, and the good news is... we all ...
anal sex	3/1/2005
Q: how do you give some one anal sex.what do you do if there ass is tight A: Anal sex is just one of many ways of expressing physical affection between two men. It is common, ...
am i gay	2/28/2005
Q: i want to know if im gay.i am 13 male. i have seen guys nacked and jacked one off.i have i look a ... A: At 13, it's probably too early to say for sure one way or another whether you are gay. I say this ...
Advice: Interpreting Signals	2/24/2005
Q: It is very sensible, it's what I thought you would say - and I will follow it. Just to clarify ... A: Pinu Some people are blessed with an innate gaydar and others are not. If yours is lacking, as ...
Advice: Interpreting Signals	2/19/2005
Q: I hope you can help me. I'm a married bi male, living in Sydney, Australia. I have developed a ... A: Pinu I know it's hard to resist those strong feelings of temptation, but I would urge you to not ...
gay	2/11/2005
Q: i want to no if my friend is gay. first off im 13 male i not shore if im gay i have seen guys nacked ... A: What you are describing is very common among adolescents, and it does not necessarily indicate one ...
gay nephew	2/10/2005
Q: Tedd, Thankyou for trying to help so many confused kids on the internet. I have a nephew who's gay. ... A: Joy Thank you for your kind words. I do this because I have been there before, and had times when I ...
hi my name is Will, 23...	1/17/2005
Q: my name is Will, 23 years and living in the uk. i have a problem with feelings that i have been ... A: First of all, things are probably not as bleak as they seem. You apparently have a lot going for you ...
Being Gay	12/9/2004
Q: I'm a 1st genereation 19 yr old male and am still in the closet sadly. I fear that if i were 2 come ... A: I'm sorry to hear of your predicament. I know that's got to be a tough spot to be in. Generally, I ...
Help!	12/6/2004
Q: My name is Reema and I have known my best guy friend for a year and a half. Everytime someone meets ... A: Your email is beautiful and touching. Your friend is lucky to have such a caring person in his life. ...
I'M A GAY.CAN I MARRY A WOMAN	11/16/2004
Q: Respected sir, i'm a gay from india.but now in my house they r planning for a marraige with a ... A: You're definitely in a difficult situation, and you have my sympathy. I am familiar with the Indian ...
confusion	10/25/2004
Q: I am a 14y.o. gay.I had some confusion regarding the association of anal sex and gynaecomastia and ... A: I would completely agree with Dr. Goldstone's response in every way! His advise is right on. There ...
slang word	9/21/2004
Q: I heard a old man make an apparent anti-gay crack by calling a woman "A real crossway breazer". Can ... A: I'm not sure if this is a term that's become extinct, or if it's solely the product of that old ...
i am so lonely	7/29/2004
Q: how r u? i read ur bio & i am like u,no body knows i am gay,well i'll tell one thing i am egyptian ... A: I understand the feelings that you're having, as I've felt the same way in the past. There was a guy ...
calling a guy	7/6/2004
Q: hey ok,that guy that i have a crush on has now graduated,but i have his number,i got it from a ... A: I know what you're dealing with, cause I've been in that situation a couple of times in my life. ...
coming out ???	6/28/2004
Q: My name is Frank I am 32 single and live at home with my parents. I grew up in denial that I was a ... A: Frank It sounds like you are indeed in a difficult situation. I think one of the biggest ...
Dealing with cooling off with my boyfriend	6/24/2004
Q: I would like to thank you for the response to my question last. I appreciate so much your bit of ... A: The distance certainly introduces yet another interesting element of your relationship. I was not ...
Dealing with cooling off with my boyfriend	6/19/2004
Q: First, I would like to inform you that I have a boyfriend younger than me. Lately, he wants to have ... A: I'm sorry to hear about the trouble with your relationship. We've all been there and it hurts. ...
Coming Out, and Finding Others	5/18/2004
Q: its Bryn, and just incase, i live in House Springs, Missouri. Well, i just wanted to know if you ... A: As for how you approach your brother or your parents (or anyone else, really) all depends on what ...
Is my brother gay?	5/15/2004
Q: For the past while I have been wondering if my brother is gay, but I am having a really hard time ... A: WOW! Kimberly, your message is touching and inspirational. Your brother is very lucky to have a ...
closet	4/22/2004
Q: I have been a closet homosexual for 9 years and my parents are visiting in 2 weeks. I currently live ... A: Well, normally I am a full-blown proponent of being out of the closet, but given the short time ...
What's it like being gay for others?	3/5/2004
Q: I'm a homosexual with nobody to talk to about it. No body knows. I'm very curious about others ... A: I'm 32 and I live in Tulsa, OK, and trust me, if you can be openly gay in Tulsa, you can certainly ...
Gay Life in Belize	2/11/2004
Q: Age: 40 Location: London, England, UK Dear Mr Adams Firstly, your site is very ... A: Although Belize is not as conspicuously gay friendly as Costa Rica, you're not likely to find any ...
piercings for gays	1/31/2004
Q: I'm a gay 16 year old, and wanned to put an earring in my right ear ( the.. top part) is that where ... A: The fact that you have friends who have earrings in either ear demonstrates current reality... and ...
disowned by family for being gay	6/17/2003
Q: My freind just told his family that he is gay and is living with his gay lover. They have a strong ... A: The first organization I would seek out is PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) - ...
is he gay?	3/24/2003
Q: do gay people have gaydar? I am gay and I sometimes get gut feelings that someone I meet is gay. ... A: That gut feeling you've got... that's gaydar! Some people don't believe in it, but I think those are ...
History of Gay Life in New Orleans	12/9/2002
Q: Don't know if you know much about this subject but you're at the top of the list... I just came ... A: James One of the things that I love about volunteering on here is the fascinating range of ...
am i gay?	8/14/2002
Q: I am 18 years of age andI dunno wether I am gay or not, but to my knowledge, i dont think so.. I do ... A: Stan I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you are not attracted to men, you are not ...
coming out	7/10/2002
Q: I have recently joined an amateur dramatics club which is really cool, I don't really want to tell ... A: Nick That is a very common situation, whether you are dealing with school, work or any other type ...
Me, my boyfriend, and him.	4/8/2002
Q: Expert, First of all, I would like to introduce myself. I'm a 21 year-old gay boy living in ... A: My heart breaks for you. It is obvious you are in a lot of emotional pain and that is ...
Need advice	4/6/2002
Q: well, i don't know if you can help me, but i seek advice.I have a bit of a problem. I am a 22 year ... A: That always helps me be able to provide better advice. You obviously care a lot about your friend ...
domestic partner benefits	2/25/2002
Q: I previously asked you a question about domestic partner benefits, and you said you could tell me ... A: Well, the discussion started when a friend's partner died and he had to take a week off work for the ...
gay travel	2/13/2002
Q: I'm in my 20s and in NC. I have heard that Jamaica is an extremely homophobic place. Are there ... A: Joy To follow up with you after my visit to Grand Cayman. Unfortunately, there is not much to ...
Bisexuality	1/12/2002
Q: Tedd I have had a girlfriend for about a year, but recently I have found myself curious about this ... A: Chris The fact that you find yourself interested in another guy does not in itself mean that you ...

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