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| My friend just came out to me | 11/7/2009 |
Q: So my best guy friend just recently came out to me. I've been suspicious for a while but it still ...
A: First of all... don't take it personally. It can sometimes be harder to tell the ones we are closest ...
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| iam 15 nd... i m in love wit my best friend he 24.. and i dont think am gay | 10/19/2009 |
Q: am 15 and my best friend is 23 he knows i have had sex with another guy because me and him were ...
A: Regarding your question of whether you are gay or bi, I would suggest that it doesn't really matter ...
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| I've been in love with my bff for 3 years | 10/18/2009 |
Q: In 2007 i moved into this new house with my mum, i met these 2 girls bell and skye, the first time i ...
A: I still think you are seeing what you want to see, and more likely, Bell looks up to you and admires ...
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| I've been in love with my bff for 3 years | 10/11/2009 |
Q: In 2007 i moved into this new house with my mum, i met these 2 girls bell and skye, the first time i ...
A: Hey Chana It's certainly possible that she has a crush on you also, but from the limited amount of ...
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| 10 SIGNS am i reading it wrong | 10/9/2009 |
Q: ok my question is this, i have a friend that is my world we are best friends, we spend alot of time ...
A: Hey Bryce thank you for the compliment. I am indeed considering writing a book. I certainly have ...
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| avoid gay feelings | 10/8/2009 |
Q: i am a gay, i have been enjoying with gays now, in my childhood due to my cousin i have addicted ...
A: I'm sorry to tell you I can give you the answer you are looking for because it is a non-existant ...
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| Is my friend gay? | 10/7/2009 |
Q: Ok, so I'm a freshman in college and I've had this friend since high school who I consider to be my ...
A: Hey Steve what you are doing here is completely ignoring every natural instinctyou have that is ...
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| Unrequited gay love. | 8/13/2009 |
Q: Hey, my name is Jonathan Jackson, I'm 16 years old and I am in the 11th grade. I am also gay, still ...
A: I apologize for the delay in responding to you. From what you've described, and from your guess ...
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| Undecided | 8/10/2009 |
Q: Im a 40 yr old man Ive been married for 21yrs and have a 21yr old son.We were happly married for ...
A: Hey Sully First of all, my condolences on your difficult family situation. I'm glad your wife is on ...
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| Teen gay life, Where to find them? | 8/10/2009 |
Q: so I am 15 and out of the closet about my homosexuality. My circle of friends are accepting and my ...
A: It probably depends on where you live. If you're in a decent sized city, there are very likely to be ...
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| A Comfortable life being Gay and Alone? | 8/9/2009 |
Q: I'm a 21-year old guy living in Oslo, Norway. As I know that you will probably only be able to help ...
A: Anthony Only you can answer this question, but in general, yes, there are people who can be ...
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| how do i know if he likes me | 8/7/2009 |
Q: I really like this guy, he works at quiznos and he is really hot. I kind of get this vibe from him, ...
A: Hey Juan What you are describing here is called "flirting!" He's flirting with you, and there's ...
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| Workplace crush. | 8/4/2009 |
Q: I have followed this site for some time and been helped with questions before I even needed to ask ...
A: Hey Eric I think for now, your initial actions are definitely a step in the right direction, and ...
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| teenaged boy, orientation? | 8/3/2009 |
Q: I have a fourteen year old boy who has some issues and I wonder if he is gay and unable to deal with ...
A: I think you are doing enough to ensure him that being gay is not a problem within your family, if he ...
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| Could my brother be gay ? | 8/1/2009 |
Q: I was wondering if my brother was gay, he has never had a girlfriend apart from when he was 5 and he ...
A: I think talking to your brother is a wonderful idea. I don't think you need any more evidence than ...
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| teenaged boy, orientation? | 8/1/2009 |
Q: I have a fourteen year old boy who has some issues and I wonder if he is gay and unable to deal with ...
A: I presume you've listed these things because you believe they are evidence that your son might be ...
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| How to meet other gay guys | 7/10/2009 |
Q: My name is Jonathan and I'm gay. I'm 21 years old and for the most part I'm in the closet. I'm ...
A: Hey Jonathan I sympathize with your situation. I know it all too well, and many people go through a ...
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| Gay | 6/24/2009 |
Q: I actually had a few questions all of which are serious questions. My first question is more to do ...
A: Since you have so many questions, I will answer them in order, with each numbered so as to keep ...
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| Boyfriend Cheating On Me | 6/22/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 yrs. and both 22 yrs. old. I have came out of 3 ...
A: Drew Please do me a favor and go back and read the email you sent me. Now ask yourself, if a friend ...
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| Navigating a Friendship, Wanting a Lover | 6/16/2009 |
Q: In my 9th grade year of high school I developed a crush on a guy called Gary; it was one of those ...
A: Hey Kevin You and your friend are in a serious relationship, but for very different reasons. I ...
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| Two issues for camp? | 6/11/2009 |
Q: So I am going back to my sleep away camp this summer. So i really want a summer fling with some ...
A: Hey Ben At a place with such a limited population like a summer camp, it may be difficult to find ...
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| Teen flirting | 6/11/2009 |
Q: So i have been going mad this year by not having any experience or relation with a guy. So I am ...
A: Flirting is nothing more than giving someone else noticable signs that you are interested in them. ...
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| Queer with OCD | 6/10/2009 |
Q: Hey Tedd I have OCD and I currently sexually identify as queer please listen to what I have written ...
A: One of the odd things about OCD is that it makes people question what should be obvious, and it can ...
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| A friend of mine and coming out. | 6/5/2009 |
Q: Okay, I actually have two questions for you Mr. Adams. First question is the nicer of the two. I ...
A: It certainly does not bother me if you ask the same things of the other volunteers on this board. It ...
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| Help | 6/5/2009 |
Q: I am 14 (female)and really really want a boyfriend, it I keep thinking I'm gay for no reason at ...
A: What is it that makes you think you might be gay? You said you have never thought of girls like you ...
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| I'm confused | 6/2/2009 |
Q: So there is this guy I know named Nate. He and I have been friends for 4 years now, but around May ...
A: Hey Bobby You've already tackled the hard part... letting him know you like him. Under those ...
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| One of my friends again | 6/2/2009 |
Q: Ok. I am 23 years old and have never told anyone I was gay. I gave a roomate and best friend who ...
A: Hey Davey Yeah, bad idea there. I wouldn't do anything while either of you are driving. There are ...
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| One of my friends | 5/24/2009 |
Q: Ok. I am 23 years old and have never told anyone I was gay. I gave a roomate and best friend who ...
A: Hey Davey Tough, tough spot you're in there. But not impossible. The approach that usually works ...
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| sexuality | 5/20/2009 |
Q: skeptics of homosexuals often say that they see being gay as a choice rather than a thing that you ...
A: I think it is mostly a political belief, not an emotional one. I think even those who profess to ...
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| Sex roles in relationship | 5/19/2009 |
Q: I am 24 and have been in a relationship for 9 months with a 30 year old man and it has been great. ...
A: Hey Dan I think you are making this more about YOU than it really is. It really is your partner's ...
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| Gay sex? | 5/1/2009 |
Q: I've had a friendship with my friend for over 5 years and we have sexual intercourse now till he ...
A: Hey there Jonathon It's really hard to know what's going through his mind, but there's probably ...
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| Hi | 4/23/2009 |
Q: I got alot of issues bottled up in my heart 4 so long thats been seeking a means of expression, ...
A: I have to admit, I've struggled with your question. It's hard to know why some people just never ...
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| Shy and confused | 4/22/2009 |
Q: I'm 25 and from Pittsburgh, PA. I consider myself straight but I spend a lot of time trying to get ...
A: I think it's great that you are comfortable with your gay friends. I wish everyone was more so. I ...
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| question | 4/20/2009 |
Q: I'm a (straight) female, I'm 31 years old, and I used to model part time. I have a lot of gay male ...
A: Hey Stephanie Even gay guys are still guys! That is to say, very sexual! Especially young guys, and ...
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| what to do? | 4/20/2009 |
Q: I'm 17 and I know everybody goes through this and i should just get over it but i'm really afraid to ...
A: Hey Ryan That is a tough spot to be in. Most people have a pretty good idea by the time they are 17 ...
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| questioning sexuality | 4/17/2009 |
Q: My son recently game out to his immediate family. He has told no one else in his hometown. He lives ...
A: Well, you don't want to rely on ads or marketing... the only real way to get the truth is through ...
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| HELP!! | 4/16/2009 |
Q: My name is Jake. I'm an 18 year old male from stamford, connecticut with alot of problems. I'm ...
A: Again, I don't have the medical or scientific background to provide a 100% qualified answer to that ...
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| 7 yr old son | 4/15/2009 |
Q: I am a mom of a 7 yr old boy. Last night he seen a clip on TV about a gay couple with children. He ...
A: I think you are doing exactly the right thing, and I think your son is acting exactly as would be ...
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| reaction | 4/12/2009 |
Q: I'm a 27 year old straight woman. I am attracted to men emotionally and sexually and physically and ...
A: I don't know why it happens, and I'm not sure anyone knows. All I know is... it happens alot! Yes, ...
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| confused by coworker | 4/6/2009 |
Q: I am 42 and have always been attracted to guys. I have never acted on it. About a year and a half ...
A: You're in a very difficult... and dangerous... situation. Getting involved with a co-worker is ...
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| guy at work i like | 4/4/2009 |
Q: It is much appreciated. Well....there is this guy that works at the same company as me. However, i ...
A: Hey Bob I wouldn't necessarily say it all ended in disaster. Sure, it hurts, but at least you know ...
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| coming out | 3/30/2009 |
Q: Last year I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years. We had the "picture perfect life." Beautiful ...
A: This is of course a very personal decision and you have to decide for yourself if it is a ...
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| guy at work i like | 3/28/2009 |
Q: It is much appreciated. Well....there is this guy that works at the same company as me. However, i ...
A: Hey Bob You've got to be careful not to project your own personality onto others. This is not a ...
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| guy at work i like | 3/23/2009 |
Q: It is much appreciated. Well....there is this guy that works at the same company as me. However, i ...
A: Well, Bob, no question that is a difficult situation. Ironically, one very similar to my own ...
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| Just looking for a lil confirmation | 3/22/2009 |
Q: Ok so really im just looking for some confirmation, i am 20 years old, and well i want to know if im ...
A: If you've read any of my previous posts, you'll know that I hate the fact that we are so fixated on ...
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| Relationship Challenges | 3/20/2009 |
Q: Let me start by saying I love my boyfriend! I know deep down that I love him. And I know deep down ...
A: Ryan No one ever sees it while they are in one, but you are in a toxic relationship. Some people ...
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| partner wants to leave | 3/18/2009 |
Q: I love my partner of seven months completely. He moved from the East Coast here to the West. He ...
A: I hope you understand that what I am about to say is my honest advice, and sometimes my honest ...
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| Gay friend or straight friend? | 3/16/2009 |
Q: Ok, so I'm 15 and I live in San Antonio, TX. I have come out to my dad about being gay but not my ...
A: Congratulations on being able to come out to your dad. I think that's a very healthy thing. There ...
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| Gay: religion, family and friends | 3/13/2009 |
Q: I come to you having nowhere else to go. I am a 20 year old college student from Georgia who grew ...
A: The part of your email that stands out to me the most comes at the very end... "I want to be ...
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| Falling for a friend | 3/13/2009 |
Q: I am in graduate school, 24, in the closet, and living in a conservative city. I have been good ...
A: I get a lot of similar emails, as you can imagine and they usually come in two varieties. One is ...
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| am i a lesbian? | 3/3/2009 |
Q: i'm a 14 year old girl and i have a question about whether i could be a lesbian. first of all, i'm ...
A: NO, you're not a lesbian. Chances are some of the other girls feel exactly the same way, but are ...
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| Thought I had it figured out. | 3/3/2009 |
Q: Discovered this site on my 18th birthday which was actually just a few weeks ago. Been reading ...
A: To put it most simply... life is complicated. It is even further complicated by societal ...
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| Coming out | 3/3/2009 |
Q: I am not sure how to start this email but I will give it try and hope it makes sense. Iam 30 ...
A: I'm glad to hear that you are not seriously considering suicide. you're right... that is never an ...
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| sexual adventure | 2/27/2009 |
Q: Hey Tedd My name is Brad. I am 18.I am also very confused I am experimenting with my sexuality. I ...
A: Although it's not really the approach I would recommend for most people, in light of your goals, I ...
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| Conflicts: sexuality, religion, coming out | 2/26/2009 |
Q: Tedd, The issues I have to present are complicated and all intertwined, so, even before writing it ...
A: Your first few coming out experiences are good practice. They reassure you that it's not nearly as ...
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| i dont know if im gay straight or bi/ | 2/24/2009 |
Q: ive been questioning my sexuality for about 4 months now and i havent gotten very far. ive only even ...
A: If you've read any of my previous posts, you know that I would like to simply abolish the terms gay, ...
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| what should i do? | 2/24/2009 |
Q: My name is jessie and i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years 3 months. We have had a very rocky ...
A: You're clearly in a rough spot, and if your boyfriend has made up his mind, there's probably little ...
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| Very confused, and very caught up. | 2/24/2009 |
Q: Well I am Josh, and the major question is what sexual orientation am I? I have been asking myself ...
A: Well, I always think people focus too much on placing themselves into an arbitrary category than ...
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| Age Difference | 2/19/2009 |
Q: I am a 20 year old gay boy living in Indianapolis, Indiana, and I have not ever been in a gay ...
A: You're 20 years old, so you're old enough to make adult decisions. I know it may seem odd to have ...
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| love | 2/12/2009 |
Q: Hey tedd, my name is alex Im 16 in high school and im bi. I have liked this guy in my grade ...
A: If you were chatting with him as anonymous, then yeah, he probably didn't want to reveal anything ...
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| Valentines Day | 2/12/2009 |
Q: I dated this guy for a few times we got on well. Then he text saying he wanted some space as we have ...
A: Sounds like this guy is a prime candidate for "acquaintance" status, rather than "friend." Okay, you ...
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| Gay Porn | 2/9/2009 |
Q: Here it goes, I'm a 21 year old student. I go to college full-time, and I have guy friends and ...
A: The only thing you need to stop is the guilt! You like gay porn, so what? Does it mean you're gay? ...
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| love | 2/8/2009 |
Q: Hey tedd, my name is alex Im 16 in high school and im bi. I have liked this guy in my grade ...
A: It sounds to me like he's trying to up the ante... you both know what's going on and he's trying to ...
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| Boyfriend Not Over Someone | 2/4/2009 |
Q: Hey, I'm 19 and live in south eastern AR. My boyfriend is 21. We've been together for a while. ...
A: Sorry for the delay in responding. I've been struggling with this one, because it is an unusually ...
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| love | 2/3/2009 |
Q: Hey tedd, my name is alex Im 16 in high school and im bi. I have liked this guy in my grade ...
A: It's so funny how we always tend to overthink a situation, which is exactly what you are doing. If ...
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| i dont know if im gay or straight | 2/3/2009 |
Q: alright...first things first , i am 20 years old and i have had sex with a number of girls...and one ...
A: Have you considered the possibility that you are NEITHER gay nor straight? First of all, if you're ...
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| Too young? | 2/2/2009 |
Q: I'm 14 years old, and I think I'm a lesbian. I'm attrated to girls. Although, I've only met one girl ...
A: I don't think you're too young to know, but you may not be sexually developed enough yet to know. ...
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| Not so sure.. | 2/1/2009 |
Q: Hey there,im Jin,and im 17 years of age..There's this new guy in my computer class..His name is ...
A: Your situation is one of the hardest for me to advice about, because so much of what you do really ...
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| gay | 1/27/2009 |
Q: i love the help you are giving people and want to volunteer somewhere. im a 41 year old mail. i ...
A: Rick Thank you for the compliment. I can't tell you how much that means to me! I've seen both of ...
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| Conflicts: sexuality, religion, coming out | 1/25/2009 |
Q: Tedd, The issues I have to present are complicated and all intertwined, so, even before writing it ...
A: You just have to resolve yourself to the fact that you cannot control what other people feel or ...
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| My son, bisexual or gay? | 1/25/2009 |
Q: My son struggles with feeling bisexual and/or gay. I support him no matter what, and he knows that. ...
A: You are in a unique position where you can truly help guide your son to a mature, healthy adulthood ...
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| am i gay | 1/24/2009 |
Q: but another thing i do is tht my friend waxes my legs and penis i also were thongs aswell i think ...
A: I can't tell you for sure whether you are gay. That's only for you to decide, if you even decide to ...
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| unsure..... | 1/24/2009 |
Q: First i would like to say. Mad respect for your answers this is why i chose you to ask. anyway I am ...
A: Hey Mike I really appreciate the kind words. You have no idea how encouraging that is to me! I ...
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| HELP | 1/22/2009 |
Q: I am an extremely shy and timid personality. I am convinced I am gay since at the age of 27 I've ...
A: Joe I've got to tell you, based on what you've described, I think you are misinterpreting the ...
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| Conflicts: sexuality, religion, coming out | 1/21/2009 |
Q: Tedd, The issues I have to present are complicated and all intertwined, so, even before writing it ...
A: I am encouraged by what I'm reading from you. It sounds as though you have carefully considered ...
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| really confused | 1/21/2009 |
Q: Hey my name is Matt, I'm 22yo, I have a problem well I don't know whether to say if it is or isn't. ...
A: I have pretty standard advise for people such as you who do not fall strictly into one camp or ...
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| What do I do now? | 1/20/2009 |
Q: I have been on and off dating with this amazing girl for almost two years now. Just recently she was ...
A: Amber Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to MAKE someone else think or feel a certain way. ...
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| Am I gay, bi, or neither | 1/19/2009 |
Q: For the longest time, i've been having a physical attraction to guys but I can't see myself in an ...
A: You case points out exactly why sexuality is not so easily defined in terms of "gay", "straight", or ...
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| Does he like me | 1/12/2009 |
Q: I have a friend and I think it is more than that. We have have sex quite a bit and it is really ...
A: Here's a second opinion for you... it sounds as if you are already dating in all but name only! I ...
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| Am I Bisexual? | 1/10/2009 |
Q: I'm a 13 year old girl and I have a question about whether I'm bisexual or not. First of all, I like ...
A: Hey Britney First, I am a bit surprised by the extent of sexual activity taking place among you and ...
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| simple things i just do not know | 1/6/2009 |
Q: Is there an active and a passive partner in every gay relationship?? i have the impression from my ...
A: Your impression is correct. In fact, I would guess it's not even common for these roles to be ...
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| Being put in a bad position | 1/5/2009 |
Q: I've been in a relationship now for about 4 years. 99 of the time is good. However, we have these ...
A: Here are the facts of the matter: 1. You like these friends. 2. Your partner (you didn't name him, ...
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| Is my father the reason i think am gay? | 1/5/2009 |
Q: Recently i have been feeling this urge of sleeping with to the extent that i cannot hold it in me ...
A: I think from what you've told me that you probably are gay, and at very least have same-sex ...
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| first ever anniversary | 1/3/2009 |
Q: My partner and I are a week away from our first year anniversary. We both seem to be as similar as ...
A: It shouldn't be that much work, and it doesn't have to be, and it can still work! What you are ...
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| unrequited love | 1/3/2009 |
Q: Okay my problem is I am totally in love with a str8 guy. okay description time... Me: I am 38 years ...
A: Okay, two things are going on here, both of which you are misinterpreting, in my opinion. First, ...
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| Help please? | 1/2/2009 |
Q: firstly i am so confused about a situation i am in and secondly i don't know what to do or where to ...
A: How much more evidence do you need before you're convinced it's for real? Does he have to buy you ...
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| I'm almost sure my friend is gay, but he won't come out. | 12/17/2008 |
Q: I apologize for the long question, but I think the more I describe it, the clearer it will be to ...
A: Let me start by apologizing for the delay in responding. I meant to get back to you before my ...
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| Going too slow? | 12/9/2008 |
Q: Right now I really feel bad about a person that I was flirting with this past couple of months ...
A: I think all you need to do is rather than telling me your reasons for wanting to wait, you just talk ...
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| Can't take it anymore.... | 12/2/2008 |
Q: I'm a 19 year old bi-sexual male and there is this very confusing kid at my job that is driving me ...
A: It sounds to me like you are analyzing every single interaction with this guy, and when people do ...
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| whats wrong with me? | 11/23/2008 |
Q: I'm not sure but i may have asked you a question on here before. And you (and this website) have ...
A: When I read this, my immediate thought is about several aspects of your situation that you are NOT ...
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| Cornered :( | 11/20/2008 |
Q: I知 a 16 year old guy in high school. I致e known I知 gay for a couple of years now, but I知 ...
A: I know it feels like you're in an awkward situation, but I think the picture is better than you ...
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| Why is it like this? | 11/3/2008 |
Q: I'm a bi- woman and in love with a gay guy. I don't know why I'm so attracted to him. My friend said ...
A: Put yourself in his situation. He's already made it perfectly clear that he is gay and has ...
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| Crush | 11/1/2008 |
Q: There is this guy I work with who is very attractive who I am in love with. The problem is that he's ...
A: Michael I'm going to be very blunt with you. I hope you appreciate it for what it's worth. Get a ...
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| Quit homosexuality? | 10/31/2008 |
Q: I am 27 male Indian, now living in the united states. i have homosexual thoughts since when i was ...
A: I should start by warning you that I cannot answer your questions in the way you're hoping, because ...
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| Could I be a lesbian? | 10/30/2008 |
Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I know that you guys won't respond to anyone under 18 or 19 but I really need ...
A: Corrina Only you can decide if you're willing to try it. That is entirely a personal decision. And ...
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| Could I be a lesbian? | 10/30/2008 |
Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I know that you guys won't respond to anyone under 18 or 19 but I really need ...
A: Corrina As I said, I don't believe human sexuality can be, or should be, distinctly categorized ...
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| My mom makes me angry. | 10/30/2008 |
Q: I am an 18 year old gay male. I came out to my close friends in the tenth grade. ( about 2 and a ...
A: Hey Zach Just the fact that you can talk about it puts you far ahead of where many people are, and ...
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| Gay issues | 10/27/2008 |
Q: I am 27 years old and am pretty sure I am more attracted to guys then girls ( I have known for a ...
A: It's clear that your thoughts on the matter have already been shaped by someone who has very ...
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| gay? straight? bi? curious? or just drunk? | 10/27/2008 |
Q: A few days ago, I went with a few friends to a costume party. I was with three friends (two girls ...
A: I can see how this would be a very confusing situation for you. Unfortunately, there are some things ...
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| Could I be a lesbian? | 10/25/2008 |
Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I know that you guys won't respond to anyone under 18 or 19 but I really need ...
A: Corrina First and foremost, I have to say, if you are having suicidal thoughts, please seek help! I ...
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| Am I gay? | 10/24/2008 |
Q: my name is josh and I am 16. I've been experiencing a little bit of turbulence towards my ...
A: Hey Josh You know, itｴs not at all unusual to have thoughts or fantasies about same-sex ...
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| Am I gay? | 10/23/2008 |
Q: my name is josh and I am 16. I've been experiencing a little bit of turbulence towards my ...
A: I can tell you that what you are experiencing is not at all uncommon. The age you're at can be ...
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| Sexual Orientation | 10/22/2008 |
Q: im a 19 year old boy im living in a country which has some limitations. since i was a child anyone ...
A: I really feel for you being in the situation you are, given that your country is so restrictive. I ...
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| Sexual Orientation | 10/19/2008 |
Q: im a 19 year old boy im living in a country which has some limitations. since i was a child anyone ...
A: That's even worse than I expected. That must be a truly difficult situation indeed. I can't imagine ...
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| Sexual Orientation | 10/19/2008 |
Q: im a 19 year old boy im living in a country which has some limitations. since i was a child anyone ...
A: It's hard for me to offer specific advice, since I don't know exactly what country you are in, but ...
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| General Relationship | 10/2/2008 |
Q: I have been with my (first) boyfriend for 1-1/2 years and I have only been out for about 2 years. I ...
A: Congratulations of finding a long-term boyfriend. I understand the situation you're in perfectly, as ...
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| What am I supposed to do? | 10/2/2008 |
Q: I've been friends with this guy for about a 2 years or so. We've been to each others houses many ...
A: I'm a little uncertain about whether you are gay or not, but I'm thinking you are not, which does ...
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| Emotional Cheating | 10/1/2008 |
Q: I have a bf with whom I love very much. He lives in a different city (about 150 miles away each ...
A: Just like in real live, online relationships can be purely platonic, or they can have a romantic ...
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| taking initiative | 9/27/2008 |
Q: Adams, I've got one mess of a life and I was hoping to find some guidance. Growing up as with ...
A: I think you've made great strides already in overcoming your internalized homophobia. This should ...
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| gay son | 9/26/2008 |
Q: I have always wondered if my son is gay. He is not extremely effeminate, but definitely is not like ...
A: First let me say how reassuring it is to hear a mother who is so open-minded and progressive. That ...
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| Move-in after Only knowing him 8 months | 9/25/2008 |
Q: I meet a nice guy 8 months ago who lives in another state. We have became close over the phone(talk ...
A: The short answer... NO Even under the best of circumstances, moving in together is a huge step and ...
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| Can a distance relationship last? | 9/20/2008 |
Q: just have a few things stuck in my mind. Here's my story. Recently I've tried the whole dating ...
A: I have certainly known couples that have made a success of it, but it takes real serious effort. In ...
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| I really like my straight friend | 9/15/2008 |
Q: Okay I am 15 and i came out a few months ago actually to this guy and he has accepted me and treated ...
A: Good for you for having the courage to come out. It's a positive life-changing experience. It ...
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| How do you know if you're gay? | 9/14/2008 |
Q: I believe everyone thinks about same sex experiences to some extent in the privacy of their own ...
A: The reality of human sexuality is that the terms gay, straight and bi are just too limited to ...
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| anal sex | 9/7/2008 |
Q: o gay guy ...me n my bf r thinkin bout havin anal sex..how do we go about?...i know its not as easy ...
A: My apologies for the delay in responding. Although I normally answer most questions personally, on ...
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| I am a gay dad | 9/2/2008 |
Q: My boys are 11 & 14 and have no idea I'm gay, I am closeted but would like to come out there's not a ...
A: I commend you for taking such a cautious approach. It is justified. Although as young as they are, ...
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| New relationship?? | 8/19/2008 |
Q: I recently met this guy and I was instantly attracted to him. He seems a bit on the shy side which ...
A: James It sounds like you are both in exactly the same spot, which always happens in new ...
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| gift giving | 8/7/2008 |
Q: in the scheme of things this really seems like a dumb question,i am traveling across the country to ...
A: That's a great idea, and I hope things work out well for you. As for the exact nature of the gift to ...
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| ..... | 8/5/2008 |
Q: I have thoughts about boys at school but when i think about men i dont feel gay usualy,my thoughts ...
A: These are always the hardest emails to respond to, because I know exactly where you are. I was at ...
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| gay friend | 8/4/2008 |
Q: i am a 29 year old st8 girl. i have this gay guy friend of mine, i care for him very much and he ...
A: Don't let this confuse you. He's displaying signs of jealousy, but not because he has any sexual ...
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| just wondering what you think HOCD or gay realization | 8/1/2008 |
Q: for the last couple of months ive been thinking im gay and have been really upset about it(then i ...
A: So what you're saying is that because some random person on a message board made a broad ...
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| Help | 7/31/2008 |
Q: My name is Andrew. I am 24 years old from Norfolk, VA. Nobody knows at work that I am gay. I have ...
A: It's always hard to tell exactly what's going on in someone else's head, but from his actions, it ...
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| where is THE ONE,is there such a thing as this? | 7/31/2008 |
Q: i am a gay guy,broke up with my first real lover afew weeks ago,he was white age 47 and i am black ...
A: There is a lot going on here, and several things to address. My first concern is that you would be ...
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| just wondering what you think HOCD or gay realization | 7/26/2008 |
Q: for the last couple of months ive been thinking im gay and have been really upset about it(then i ...
A: Roger Yes, it definitely sounds like HOCD. The reality is that all of us at times have attractions ...
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| Open Relationships | 7/21/2008 |
Q: I have been in a relationship for 7 years now and it has been nothing but wonderful. We don't fight, ...
A: Dutch The only thing more threatening to your relationship than the prospect of opening the ...
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| Lonely | 7/20/2008 |
Q: I am a 20 yr old gay male. I currently attend a small college in Minnesota, USA, surrounded by a ...
A: I hope I don't sound like I am belittling you for your age, but the reality is that you are at ...
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| break ups | 7/20/2008 |
Q: i was with my ex for 4 1/2 yrs.the last 6 months were rocky.lots of arguments .no emotional ...
A: Sharon It's always hard to end a relationship of any type when there is no closure. It feels like ...
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| Relationship Advice | 7/16/2008 |
Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 1/2 years, we have a good relationship and don't really ...
A: I'm glad o see that you accept responsibility for how serious a breach of privacy you've committed ...
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| Determining Sexuality | 7/16/2008 |
Q: ive been struggling with this for years now. I think i might be gay, thats the only type of ...
A: If you've read any of my previous postings, you'll see that this is not at all uncommon. It's why I ...
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| confused | 7/15/2008 |
Q: a fag alot and vagina, pussy, bitch, queer, and it makes me question myself. I have alot of social ...
A: William You said it yourself, you have a big problem with social anxiety. That's your problem here, ...
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| Relationship Advice | 7/15/2008 |
Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 1/2 years, we have a good relationship and don't really ...
A: Hey Tim I feel for you, and I understand the situation. It's always stressful when someone you love ...
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| Please Help! | 7/13/2008 |
Q: I'm a gay man aged 22.And i'm caught up in a situation that i don't know how to solve.The following ...
A: Abee You've gotten yourself into a situation where he has every motive NOT to renew his visa. As ...
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| worried. | 7/12/2008 |
Q: Recently, my boyfriend and I had his foster brother spend a couple days with us. My boyfriend has ...
A: Jan, It's great that you are so concerned for him, and I'm glad to hear that his family would be ...
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| question | 7/6/2008 |
Q: How are you? My names Alec and I'm 15.I am pretty sure that i am gay but I'm having problems ...
A: It sounds to me like you're expecting your body to tell you what your sexual orientation is rather ...
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| WTF#$%&*** | 7/6/2008 |
Q: i was just wondering, see i'm a boy and have recently "DISCOVERED" my orientation, and i am in love ...
A: Well tobi That's not much to go on, but I'd say the fact that he doesn't mind (or even welcomes) ...
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| Lover of 14 years cheating | 7/3/2008 |
Q: This is very hard for me to even ask for advice on. I just need someone to open up to and find out ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the sorry state of your relationship, and how this is hurting you so much. ...
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| Please help me | 7/1/2008 |
Q: Well I dont know how or where to start, but im a gay 18 yr old male who has never been successful ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about your depression and discouragement. The good news is, it doesn't have to be ...
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| normality | 6/30/2008 |
Q: I am not sure if normality is a word but I thought it sounded deep. I have known I was gay for ...
A: I'm glad to hear that you're mostly accepting of who you are, and even more so that your family is ...
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| partner's past lovers creating problems in current relationship | 6/29/2008 |
Q: Having been in several relationships, some long (3 or more years), I have come upon an issue in my ...
A: Since your questions all seek support for your position, rather than seeking advice as to how you ...
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| Is the guy I like gay? | 6/23/2008 |
Q: I am 20 years old and gay. I started work at my current job a year ago (a thirty-five mile drive). ...
A: First of all, I agree with you completely that it would be a bad idea to tell this guy how you feel ...
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| Bearer of bad news | 6/19/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for awhile, and i already know that I want to spend the rest ...
A: I'm a little confused. Perhaps you can clarify for me. I'm guessing from your name that you're a ...
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| is he or isn't he? | 6/19/2008 |
Q: So I work at this Gym, it's a pretty famous franchise and very busy all the time. One of the people ...
A: I apologize for the delay in responding, but I have just been pondering how to answer this. All the ...
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| Friend | 6/19/2008 |
Q: I would say that some of my friends know just because of the way i have acted and not because i have ...
A: Hey Guy While I certainly feel bad for you in this situation, because we've all been there, there's ...
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| Am I gay or bi? | 6/15/2008 |
Q: Hey. I am 19 years old, and i'm not sure what gender I am attracted to. I am very confused. ...
A: So why do you feel the need to supress those feelings. They are instinctual and natural, so why not ...
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| roller coaster ! | 6/12/2008 |
Q: Okay . I'm bi more gay but you get what I mean. So there is this guy who I'm CRAZY about that is ...
A: Hey John Yes, that gives me a better understanding of the situation, and one thing is for sure... ...
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| Could my friend be gay too? | 6/10/2008 |
Q: first let me say thanks for taking the time to read this! So to my issue at hand. I am what i ...
A: Mark From all that you've told me, you've already made the first move... and he's responded ...
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| what do you think? | 6/8/2008 |
Q: You probably get a lot of questions like this but here it goes. There is this guy I have been ...
A: Mike I'm not sure what more of a signal you're looking for. From what you've described, I'd say ...
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| Cant leave his memory | 6/7/2008 |
Q: I don't know if you were the guy who helped me out back in like September, but your advice was ...
A: Kenny It sounds to me like you've already done all you can to try to make amends. At some point, ...
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| roller coaster ! | 6/6/2008 |
Q: Okay . I'm bi more gay but you get what I mean. So there is this guy who I'm CRAZY about that is ...
A: Hey John I've been pondering this, and I just don't think I have enough information about the ...
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| Could my son be gay? | 6/5/2008 |
Q: When my son was about 9 or so, he started first taking and destroying his sister's clothes. Then his ...
A: Tina I suspect you're on the right track, but not quite. Given that your son has a fascination with ...
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| Confusion? | 6/4/2008 |
Q: I am a gay female and I go to a all female gym every week. Since March 2008 I saw this young woman ...
A: Shantelle You certainly have an active imagination!! You've dreamed up all these possible ...
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| I'm getting lonely | 5/31/2008 |
Q: I was reading some of the questions on here, and I liked some of the responses you gave. Here's ...
A: That makes it all worth it. I think you're on the right track with your coming out process. You're ...
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| 30 and questioning | 5/26/2008 |
Q: I am (and perhaps always have been) confused about my sexuality, and am reaching a point where I ...
A: I'm afraid your issues are indeed very complex, but the good news is it sounds like you've got a ...
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| My life to a T | 5/23/2008 |
Q: Tedd- I asked Gary, should have asked you. I'm 19 years old and unfortunately not gay, but ...
A: You're definitely in a tricky spot, as you want to make sure he knows you're interested, but given ...
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| My life to a T | 5/19/2008 |
Q: Tedd- I asked Gary, should have asked you. I'm 19 years old and unfortunately not gay, but ...
A: That makes things a lot easier. Most of my emails require a good bit of interpreting to determine ...
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| The Vicious Cycle | 5/18/2008 |
Q: My name is Glenn and I live in California. I'm 15 and I haven't officially came out to anyone, ...
A: A lot of time we have the tendency to assume that people are not okay with someone being gay. At one ...
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| Just to be sure.. | 5/15/2008 |
Q: I'm 20 years old and although I avoid the terms straight gay or bi, I'd say I'm around a 2 or 3 on ...
A: Hey B Yes, you'll find that the more you talk about it, or write about it, the easier it is to get ...
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| i dont know if im gay or not | 5/10/2008 |
Q: hey my name is Jordan and 17 and i have been thinking i might be gay or bisexual.i have been ...
A: Jordan The trick is to not try so hard to label yourself one thing or another. If you've read any ...
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| WTF!!!!!!!! | 5/8/2008 |
Q: ok so i have been obsessed with this one guy since i moved here and i always thought that he might ...
A: Tobi The reality is that there is NOTHING you can do about the way other people act, or how they ...
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| Am I Gay? | 4/21/2008 |
Q: i pretty sure im gay it started a year when me and my friend started expierementing with each other ...
A: Hey Sean First of all, let me sincerely apologize for leaving you hanging waiting for an answer ...
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| I NEED TO MAKE HIM FEEL GOOD | 4/20/2008 |
Q: so my friend and i had SAFE sex for the very first timr and we were about to go all the way when his ...
A: I hate to defer the entire answer wholesale, but the fact is, all of these questions have been ...
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| HighschoolCrush | 4/18/2008 |
Q: Hey ok so i have a really tough question. Im really open in school (its a small rural town to begin ...
A: It sure sounds to me like he's flirting. If you want things to progress, you have to do exactly the ...
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| He likes me . . . ish? | 4/17/2008 |
Q: I'm 80% sure that this guy in my class likes me. He's so very flirty around me and he, as well as I, ...
A: I certainly have no way of knowing whatsoever if this guy likes you or not. It's always possible. ...
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| best friend gay, but hiding | 4/17/2008 |
Q: Hey Tedd, I don't know if you remember my story about liking my best friend, excuses to touch each ...
A: Hey Ian If he's told you he's straight, I would take him at his word. You took a bold chance in ...
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| Im Confused.... : / | 4/16/2008 |
Q: I believe myself to be bisexual but i think that the thought of letting my family know scares me n ...
A: Again, you're still thinking in terms of three distinct categories of sexuality, when that does not ...
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| A Confusing Friendship: Is My Friend Gay or not? | 4/16/2008 |
Q: I never thought I'd EVER come to the point where I come to a website to ask advice, but to much ...
A: Toni, there's a term for what you're describing... "co-dependent!" It is an unproductive ...
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| why? | 4/15/2008 |
Q: i was just wondering, see i have this friend whom i love he is my best friend and has been ever ...
A: Tobi Trying to understand why you're attracted to or aroused by one person or another is a losing ...
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| any way? | 4/15/2008 |
Q: so i have this friend who is really nice to me and i like alot, i am not sure if he is gay or not ...
A: Toby That's not really the kind of thing you can plan, or else your efforts will be awkward and ...
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| Homosexuality | 4/12/2008 |
Q: How do I tell someone, my parents/ friends that I am homosexual. I have feels for the same sex, but ...
A: Zoey It sounds as if you have allowed yourself to be influenced by those who selectively quote ...
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| Homosexuality | 4/11/2008 |
Q: How do I tell someone, my parents/ friends that I am homosexual. I have feels for the same sex, but ...
A: There's no single answer to this question. How you come out to loved ones is as unique as every ...
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| Im Confused.... : / | 4/10/2008 |
Q: I believe myself to be bisexual but i think that the thought of letting my family know scares me n ...
A: Quite simply, you are who you are! I know that sounds overly simplistic, but the reality is that ...
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| is he really gay? | 4/8/2008 |
Q: I'm just a little confused. Here's my situation: My first gay experience was with my best friend 3 ...
A: I tend to define sexuality not in terms of behavior (look at how many gay men end up in straight ...
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| painfull decision/TORN | 4/8/2008 |
Q: Im 36, I got divorced at 9 a.m. this morning. I told her from the beginning I enjoyed the company of ...
A: No need to explain the environment... as you can see in my profile, I live in Tulsa! The good news ...
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| Can I stop being gay? | 4/6/2008 |
Q: I'm a 17-year-old guy in his senior year of high school and even though I've been attracted mainly ...
A: Hey Nick We all know exactly those kinds of feelings, so you're definitely not alone. But the ...
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| If my son is gay, how do I help him understand? | 3/31/2008 |
Q: Please help my child! My son is 13 & althought he's had steady girlfriends (no kissing just present ...
A: From what you've described to me, my guess is that Max is indeed gay, and I say that because of the ...
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| How to handle this guy | 3/25/2008 |
Q: I met a guy recently thru internet. He is a very attractive, impressive muscled hunk. and i am ...
A: Ashok Just because he's not a thief doesn't change the fact that he's a prostitute. You know what ...
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| Am I Gay? | 3/24/2008 |
Q: It's very weird. Only a week ago, I was able to masturbate to women, and i enjoyed it. I always ...
A: Your situation is exactly why I don't care much for the overly restrictive labels "gay" and ...
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| does he like me? | 3/23/2008 |
Q: i was writing thanks to this really annoying problem that i am going through. As of 07 I came to ...
A: Consider this... you've noticed all of these kinds of behaviors that you're describing, and that's ...
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| does he like me? | 3/23/2008 |
Q: i was writing thanks to this really annoying problem that i am going through. As of 07 I came to ...
A: It certainly is POSSIBLE that he's gay or bi, but whether or not it's LIKELY, I just couldn't say ...
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| How to handle this guy | 3/20/2008 |
Q: I met a guy recently thru internet. He is a very attractive, impressive muscled hunk. and i am ...
A: I hate to be so terribly blunt, but in this case I have to be. This guy is a prostitute, plain and ...
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| Homosexual children | 2/28/2008 |
Q: I'm doing an essay on Homosexual adoption and I was wondering if you knew the average percentage of ...
A: Like most controversial topics, that depends largely on the source of the data, and whether it is ...
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| cheated | 2/26/2008 |
Q: I've been with this man 6 months age is 18yrs younger than me He already cheated on me once 2 months ...
A: John I believe in second chances. I don't believe in thirds. You already gave him the opportunity ...
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| Experimenting | 2/23/2008 |
Q: I have been striaght for my whole life but lately I have been dreaming about having sexual relations ...
A: First of all, I would try to honestly evaluate whether or not this other guy seems interested as ...
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| Fiance | 2/20/2008 |
Q: Over the last few months my fiance and I haven't slept together more than 3 times, each time ending ...
A: Dee You're a LITTLE concerned?!? Are you still seriously considering going forward with this ...
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| help | 2/12/2008 |
Q: Ok, so theres this guy.... that i like sooo much at my school, and i cant tell if he's gay or not. ...
A: From what you've told me, I can't tell either! :o) It could go either way. From the way he's sweet ...
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| Gay marriage | 2/10/2008 |
Q: My question is how do you respond to the argument that allowing gay/lesbian people to marry would ...
A: As I see it, what is threatening the sanctity of marriage far more than the possibility of allowing ...
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| Can't get over gay ex | 2/7/2008 |
Q: I feel like I don't want to carry on living. I had a boyfriend for five years when I was a teenager, ...
A: Lauren I normally like to take a very diplomatic, soft approach with most of the questions I get, ...
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| several... | 2/7/2008 |
Q: sorry about how long this is going to be, but i have several issues at the moment. well the first. ...
A: Let's tackle these one at a time. First, the issue of your family/church relationship. It sounds to ...
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| My friend... i dont know what to think | 2/4/2008 |
Q: Ok, so my friend (straight) has been telling me about his gay encounters with guys for the last 3 ...
A: Hey Ben Well, that does help. It sounds to me like he's testing the waters, which as it turns out, ...
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| My friend... i dont know what to think | 2/3/2008 |
Q: Ok, so my friend (straight) has been telling me about his gay encounters with guys for the last 3 ...
A: Hey Ben Unless he makes some overt move to hit on you, you're not going to be hurting his ...
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| How should I go about this confusing situation? | 2/2/2008 |
Q: So I've found myself in an interesting situation and I'd like an external vantage point. So I'm bi ...
A: I apologize for the delay in responding. For some reason, I thought I'd already answered your ...
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| confused | 1/30/2008 |
Q: im a 26 year old guy,with gf and also a daughter. I love to watch every type of porn...also gay porn ...
A: Well, there doesn't seem to be any question about how you feel towards him, so I'm guessing you'd ...
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| Am I too young to know? | 1/29/2008 |
Q: I'm a 16-year-old guy in his senior year of high school and I think I might be gay, but I'm not ...
A: I don't think it's a matter of knowing whether you're gay, bi, straight or whatever. You simply feel ...
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| my husband wont touch me | 1/27/2008 |
Q: in the begining of our relationship, we had an excellent sex life, a month before we got married my ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about your situation. That has to be terribly frustrating for you. If it's any ...
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| How do I talk to my son about being gay | 1/24/2008 |
Q: a couple of yrs ago I caught my son on the computer viewing gay porn. I totally flipped out on him ...
A: Janey At 20 years old, it is long past time to confront the situation head on. By delay and ...
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| My bf of two yrs cheated on me for a fantasy... | 1/21/2008 |
Q: I have been with my bf for almost two years now and till this point I thought that I was living in a ...
A: First of all, you've got a good thing going... don't give up on it so easily. You can repair the ...
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| Unusual Question | 1/16/2008 |
Q: I wanted to ask you whether the proportion of vegetarians was higher, lower or the same among gays ...
A: That's a first for sure! I really have no idea, but if I were to venture a guess, I would say ...
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| am i??? | 1/16/2008 |
Q: Since two years ago I switched from girl/lesbian porn to transexual porn and this has taken control ...
A: If you've read through any of my previous responses, you've seen that I really don't care much for ...
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| being gay | 1/9/2008 |
Q: my name is Chance i am 18 years old and have an issue on my hands...I grew up in church and have ...
A: If you've read through any of my previous responses, you've seen that I really don't care much for ...
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| Parental problems | 1/8/2008 |
Q: first allow me to say how refereshing it is to find this site, finally, a place where I can ask an ...
A: Hey there Dominic First of all, I'm glad to hear that all went well in telling your mother. I can't ...
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| Is my friend gay/bi? | 1/3/2008 |
Q: I am really confused about him he is my bestfriend and he tells me every thing and i tell him ...
A: Hey Chad We have the same home state. I was just in Ohio for Christmas visiting my family. From ...
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| Religion | 12/18/2007 |
Q: My question is why do so many people believe that homosexuality is a sin? I am a 25 year old ...
A: I grew up in a very strong Christian home and was also raised to believe that homosexuality is a ...
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| little annoyed, quite confused, or the othe way around | 12/7/2007 |
Q: yeah, I'll try to be brief here I know there's alot that goes into where these questions are coming ...
A: Mark First of all, remember what I said previously, that each person can have a different ...
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| Concealing? | 12/5/2007 |
Q: Is it possible for a guy to try to hide being gay by hooking up with lots of girls and constantly ...
A: Kyle To answer your root question directly... yes, it's entirely possible that someone could act in ...
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| toilets | 12/1/2007 |
Q: hi i am of course gay and when i go to the toilet in the public toilets i always go to the toilet ...
A: Belive it or not, this is not uncommon, especially among gay men. It may take some baby steps to ...
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| I Slipped | 11/30/2007 |
Q: I am in no way a gay-hater--and I respect all orientations. But at work towards the end of the day ...
A: Hey Harold I have no idea how sensitive this guy is to such comments, or whether or not he'll take ...
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| Do gays really go to hell? | 11/27/2007 |
Q: I mean I've liked girls my whole life and a big behavior in god and i don't want to go to hell. i ...
A: I grew up in a very strict religious home, and even went to Bible college and got a degree in Bible. ...
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| My boyfriend hides me/ignore's me | 11/26/2007 |
Q: My name is Roh and I live in Phoenix Arizona,I'm 20 years old and nearing 21. My boyfriend and I ...
A: Sorry to hear about your frustrating situation. It's important not to assume what your boyfriend's ...
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| Older Younger Relationship | 11/12/2007 |
Q: I am 40 and a guy i have sort of been seeing is 22, I know the chances of it surviving are slim due ...
A: You're smart to be concerned, because there are definitely challenges that don't exist where the age ...
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| What do I do now? | 11/11/2007 |
Q: Well.. I'm in love with my best friend. We met each other in February of o6, on the Auditorium stage ...
A: Ashley I'm pretty sure that if you were the one getting this email from a friend of yours, asking ...
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| Age of Consent. | 11/9/2007 |
Q: I don't know if you'll be able to answer this. Its alright if you can't. I'm sixteen and i live in ...
A: As long as you are in Pennsylvania, you're okay. There the age of consent is 16, regardless of ...
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| Grr, how do I get over a year old crush? | 11/7/2007 |
Q: 16 y/o. A Latino in China. Sigh, where do I begin? Okay, so I'm in this huge conundrum; I like this ...
A: Markos You've already answered your own question, if you just look to the last few lines of your ...
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| not sure about friend | 11/6/2007 |
Q: I am a 26 year old gay man and live with my 22 year old best friend. We are really close and he is ...
A: Hey Mike I'm not sure what's going on in his head, but it certainly is POSSIBLE that he's feeling ...
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| how to tell another guy that I'm interested | 11/5/2007 |
Q: I'm 19, and I have a question on how to tell another guy that I'm interested in them without ...
A: Hey Jeff I think if you've established a strategy for dealing with the situation, no need to veer ...
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| please help | 10/24/2007 |
Q: I met this guy 3 weeks ago. We have been hanging out alot and it is going great. He text each ...
A: Hey Michael, You already KNOW what to do. You even said so in the course of asking your question. ...
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| not sure | 10/21/2007 |
Q: i never been aroused by any single guy or girl in real life. i got aroused only by gay sex in ...
A: You've demonstrated exactly why I don't care much for the overly restrictive labels "gay" and ...
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| I like this guy at work. | 10/20/2007 |
Q: So, since graduating college, I've considered myself as Bi. I've fooled around with a few guy ...
A: Hey Rob I think you've found yourself in a great situation! You have the advantage of knowing he's ...
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| In love with a straight guy | 10/12/2007 |
Q: I am a 24 year old closeted homosexual and I am deeply in love with a fellow student of mine for ...
A: Well, I think we've all been in a similar situation before, and it can truly be difficult to ...
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| Is He Gay? | 10/8/2007 |
Q: Alright, I know you get this a lot but I can't help but have my personal situation assessed. There ...
A: First of all, my sincere apologies for the delay in answering. I thought I'd already answered your ...
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| I need to know if a friend of mine is gay. | 10/6/2007 |
Q: I'm a 58 y/o gay male. Recently, a good friend of mine who is 23 approached me about going with me ...
A: That's a very delicate situation indeed, and I would be very, very careful in how you approach it. ...
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| Is He Gay? | 10/4/2007 |
Q: Alright, I know you get this a lot but I can't help but have my personal situation assessed. There ...
A: Okay, in the first situation, from what you're describing, yeah, I'd say he's interested. There's no ...
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| Help with this guy | 10/1/2007 |
Q: Tedd I am awfully sorry to bother you but i have this problem and i would really appreciate your ...
A: Hey Ryan What am I missing here? Jakk: 1) asks you to come hang out with him 2) holds you in his ...
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| How do I know? | 9/30/2007 |
Q: I am a fairly cute guy, intelligent and all those stuff. Presently I'm in college and I notice in ...
A: Anthony What are you waiting for? Clearly, he's flirting with you. He's probably just as nervous ...
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| Massage | 9/28/2007 |
Q: I was wondering if it was against the law to receive an erotic massage by trained and licensed men. ...
A: Like all such operations, these run the gammet from fully legitimate to virtual prostitution rings. ...
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| i had sex...with the wrong person. what do u think is wrong with me? | 9/26/2007 |
Q: im 15 and in highschool! ive known i was gay since bout 5th grade, but im "in the closet". the only ...
A: I must admit, I don't get too many emails anymore that have reason to give me pause, but I was a bit ...
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| Should gay people stay married | 9/24/2007 |
Q: i'm a gay male I love my wife I also have two wonderful kids... however I can't stop like men I'm ...
A: Jay I can feel your pain and turmoil coming through your words, even though I've never been in such ...
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| patience vexed | 9/24/2007 |
Q: I would like some advice on how to deal with my partner's ex, and what to ask from my partner, Jane. ...
A: First of all, let me say how glad I am to see that you are committed to your integrity in always ...
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| Should gay people stay married | 9/22/2007 |
Q: i'm a gay male I love my wife I also have two wonderful kids... however I can't stop like men I'm ...
A: I must admit I do have a hard time relating to your situation, as I've never been married, nor ever ...
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| best friend gay or not | 9/13/2007 |
Q: I like my best friend but I'm not sure if he's gay. Whenever I see him in school or out with another ...
A: Although it may not be what you are hoping for, you have to respect his wishes. Recall my advice ...
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| Reply to your assessment | 9/12/2007 |
Q: Tedd, Thanks for your assessment but to tell you the truth, its not Michael, I get alot of play ...
A: Hey Jeffrey I took a look at your MySpace page and I can see why you get "alot of looks stares and ...
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| best friend gay or not | 9/12/2007 |
Q: I like my best friend but I'm not sure if he's gay. Whenever I see him in school or out with another ...
A: Hey Ian My guess is that he's too scared of rejection to talk with you about what he's feeling. ...
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| best friend gay or not | 9/12/2007 |
Q: I like my best friend but I'm not sure if he's gay. Whenever I see him in school or out with another ...
A: Based on what you've described, I would have to suspect he's gay. Your description of your physical ...
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| SEX CRAZED roomie | 9/10/2007 |
Q: Tedd, I'm having some serious issues. I'm 23 Gay and live with my room mate Michael who is also 35 ...
A: Hey Jeffrey First of all, yes it certainly sounds like you're jealous, and understandably so. Any ...
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| Sexualy Confused male | 9/8/2007 |
Q: I'm a 20 year old male who is confused about his sexuality. My problem is that I've always found ...
A: I know it's probably been stated all too often in the media and elsewhere, but it really is true ...
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| Me again | 9/6/2007 |
Q: Well,turns out "josh" is the biggest asshole i know Long story short he cares about drugs more than ...
A: There are always going to be lots of cute guys, but until you get to talk to him or get to know him, ...
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| Me again | 9/5/2007 |
Q: Well,turns out "josh" is the biggest asshole i know Long story short he cares about drugs more than ...
A: You are wise beyond your years for seeing that if Josh is so into drugs, then he's bad news and no ...
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| i dont know | 9/2/2007 |
Q: latley i thought i was gay as i experimented gay sex with a freind and liked.i find him attractive ...
A: We really don't have any conscious decision over who we find attractive or what turns us on. It's ...
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| i'm afraid i won't be able to fall in love | 8/30/2007 |
Q: well, first of all I'm 15 years old gay and noone knows about that. so it's quite impossible for me ...
A: It's funny how things look very different at the age of 15 than they do even just a little later in ...
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| i liked girl my whole life. am i gay? please help | 8/29/2007 |
Q: my intire life i have been attracted to girls.i remember back in 3rd grade there was a girl i liked ...
A: I apologize, I did in fact misinterpret your original question. In light of your clarification, I ...
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| me again | 8/29/2007 |
Q: hey tedd thanks for helping me out before but, Things arent going so well right now i havent seen ...
A: Sorry to hear that things don't seem to be going well. I know how sad it can be to feel lonely and ...
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| My best friend's gay or not? | 8/25/2007 |
Q: Hey there. Well it痴 very complicated in here so I hope you can help me out. Let me start with the ...
A: First of all, I apologize for the length of time in responding. As you said, your situation is ...
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| coping with myself | 8/24/2007 |
Q: i would like to say thankyou for helping everyone else who's asked you a question ive read through a ...
A: I'm glad you're feeling better about the situation. You should! It's going to sound a bit strange, ...
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| Bicurious ,Voyeurism | 8/24/2007 |
Q: Iam 30 in Orlando, FL. Iam a creationist and I was thought that homosexuality goes against the laws ...
A: If the pictures are only of himself, as you've said, then I would guess that he is using them to ...
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| Religion does it work? | 8/22/2007 |
Q: I have known since I was little that I liked guys more then girls but its been easy to hide because ...
A: Well, Dave, I have to admit it's hard for me to really answer your question, because it's based on a ...
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| coping with myself | 8/22/2007 |
Q: i would like to say thankyou for helping everyone else who's asked you a question ive read through a ...
A: I'm glad my previous answers could be of benefit to you. I sometimes wonder if anyone actually reads ...
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| My friend | 8/21/2007 |
Q: Ok.this will be quite long winded please bear with me. I am 15 years old,i am gay and thats all ...
A: I would think that would be a fairly natural extension of your experimenting together. Next time ...
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| is 10yrs old to young to be gay? | 8/20/2007 |
Q: ...my step son, whom i love dearly...is showing signs of being gay. i can tell that his father is in ...
A: God has blessed us with instincts for a reason... they guide us and direct us to do what we know in ...
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| My friend | 8/19/2007 |
Q: Ok.this will be quite long winded please bear with me. I am 15 years old,i am gay and thats all ...
A: My guess is that your friend, we'll call him Josh, is probably just as nervous about your temtative ...
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| Sexualy Confused male | 8/19/2007 |
Q: I'm a 20 year old male who is confused about his sexuality. My problem is that I've always found ...
A: I'm sorry to hear of your confusion, but it's not uncommon. There are many people who do not fall ...
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| my stepson is gay | 8/19/2007 |
Q: I cannot deal with his significant other and my child tells me this is not a choice for me. Either ...
A: Gay or straight, the people in our lives often choose friends and significant others that may rub us ...
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| Bicurious ,Voyeurism | 8/18/2007 |
Q: Iam 30 in Orlando, FL. Iam a creationist and I was thought that homosexuality goes against the laws ...
A: John I wish I had a better answer for you on this one, but you're basically asking me to provide a ...
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| Boyfriend Moving-In: He "doesn't want to pay my mortgage" | 8/7/2007 |
Q: I am 45 gay professional, my boyfriend is 37 working hard and slowly climbing out of debt with a ...
A: Congratulations on making such an important decision, and much luck to you in your future happiness ...
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| Recent Sexuality Confusion | 7/20/2007 |
Q: My name is Jonathan, I am almost 20, and I have a question regarding some recent confusion that I ...
A: That is insightful Jonathan, and that's kind of what I expected. I don't think you would come to ...
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| Recent Sexuality Confusion | 7/17/2007 |
Q: My name is Jonathan, I am almost 20, and I have a question regarding some recent confusion that I ...
A: I need to ask you some more about what you are experiencing before I can really give you any ...
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| Gay massage, etc. | 7/6/2007 |
Q: I was wondering if it is illegal to get a massage by someone who purposely massages the penis to the ...
A: Yes, bathhouses are legal, since they are not "selling" sex per se, but rather a membership to a ...
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| Gay massage, etc. | 7/5/2007 |
Q: I was wondering if it is illegal to get a massage by someone who purposely massages the penis to the ...
A: Yes, all of the activities you've described are considered prostitution and are therefore illegal in ...
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| Am I in competition with a gay man? | 6/30/2007 |
Q: Okay, I've looked all over and can't seem to find an answer to my question. I have a very handsome, ...
A: Theere is so much going on here I barely know where to start! First of all, Pat may well just be a ...
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| my "straight" friend... | 6/24/2007 |
Q: Okay, here goes: I made a really good friend a year or two ago when I moved. We were pretty chill ...
A: Hey TJ Haven't we all been in that spot?!? Yeah, seriously, it's probably one of the most common ...
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| am i gay? | 6/10/2007 |
Q: When i was 8 me and two of my friends had sex both oral and anal. WHen my parents discovered this ...
A: Hey Tim Sorry for taking so long to respond. I know you've probably been eagerly awaiting a ...
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| A friend of me ! | 5/25/2007 |
Q: I am a bi 24 years old and I had some experience in gay sex, but in most of the cases I prefer ...
A: Since you said he is one of your best friends, I assume you have a close relationship and that ...
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| Gay Massage | 5/23/2007 |
Q: I am not Gay, but would like to get a sensual massage by a masseuer. I am actually a happily ...
A: Well, your first question is "Is it wrong to have such a desire?" In my opinion, as long as the ...
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| my best friend | 5/19/2007 |
Q: thnaks a lot for your previous answer. I am Edi from Albania (24 years old). I askend to you about ...
A: It sounds like things are going well, and I'm glad to hear that. I hope it continues to go well for ...
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| is my friend gay | 5/19/2007 |
Q: i hope i can get answers for this as him totally confused.me and my best friend (both male)decided ...
A: He seems to be the type who is okay with doing what you guys are doing, so long as he doesn't have ...
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| is my friend gay | 5/14/2007 |
Q: i hope i can get answers for this as him totally confused.me and my best friend (both male)decided ...
A: Hey John You didn't mention how old either of you are, and that can make a big difference, but if ...
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| Gay pre nuptual agreements. | 5/10/2007 |
Q: I'm entering into a civil ceremony shortly (i live in the UK) and i'm concerned about how to protect ...
A: Just to keep the issues straight (no pun intended), let's be clear that we are talking about two ...
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| my best friend | 5/9/2007 |
Q: First of all sorry for my worst english.I am a bisexual guy and had some experinced with another ...
A: Normally I am all in favor of very open communication, and in most situations I recommend a direct ...
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| doctors | 4/28/2007 |
Q: how can i tell my doctor im gay. and what extra exams does he do to me. will he tell my parents ...
A: Unless there is a legitimate medical reason, your doctor should not perform any kind of tests or ...
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| doctors | 4/17/2007 |
Q: how can i tell my doctor im gay. and what extra exams does he do to me. will he tell my parents
A: You didn't indicate your age, and that would probably play a significant factor in what you can ...
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| i don't know if i'm gay | 4/9/2007 |
Q: For the past few years now, I've been attracted to boys. I've never told anyone, not even my best ...
A: John, You didn't indicate how old you are, which can make a big difference in your developing ...
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| am i straight? | 4/8/2007 |
Q: OK. I'm 24. I'm gay. I am out. I have slept with men and enjoyed it. However something has happened ...
A: I gotta tell you, in all the years I've been volunteering here, this is a first. I've never gotten ...
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| My gaydar is on the fritz. Please help. | 4/6/2007 |
Q: This is a repost of a question I just submitted. I think I left out some info in my previous post. ...
A: I think you're taking the right approach, up until now. But you've gone as far as you can with ...
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| Teachers | 3/31/2007 |
Q: my names paul and i saw something rather embarrassing. I was walking around my school at a disco ...
A: While it's certainly poor judgement on the part of these two teachers, to be conducting themselves ...
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| Is Faux Hawk Guy gay? | 3/23/2007 |
Q: I'm a 20 year-old college student. There is a guy at school who pays close attention to the way he ...
A: Hey Mike Having your orientation listed is a good first start. With that in place, you could reach ...
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| A case of exes | 3/23/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend of 2 years and I are at loggerheads when it comes to exes and generally people that ...
A: The more detail you provide, the more bleak the situation looks. It sounds like your boyfriend has ...
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| Is Faux Hawk Guy gay? | 3/21/2007 |
Q: I'm a 20 year-old college student. There is a guy at school who pays close attention to the way he ...
A: Hey Mike My opinion... he's gay! The one tiny piece of evidence suggesting he's straight just ...
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| this guy | 3/19/2007 |
Q: Okay i asked for another experts opinion on this but i dont think he understood what i was talking ...
A: Hey Tim One of the greatest things I've learned over the years is this... TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!! ...
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| Approaching a Guy | 3/10/2007 |
Q: Well, I go to this small gym for personal training and the other day I was introduced to a new ...
A: Hey Nick That's a tough one and I must admit, that's a struggle that I have when I go to the gym as ...
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| Problems =/ | 2/25/2007 |
Q: Hey, Well, I am 15 and a half and I pretty much know for a fact I'm gay. I have no problems ...
A: First of all, my sincere apologies for the delay in responding. I don't know if you've read any of ...
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| SEX QUESTION? | 2/22/2007 |
Q: I have a question im 21 gay I think well.....i was never attracted to guys i had a GF in 11th grade ...
A: First off, let me apologize for the delay in responding. My hard drive has gone on to its final ...
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| gay sex | 2/1/2007 |
Q: .anyway me and my partner are totally free from STD and we only have sex with each only! so is it ...
A: Yes, if both of you are STD-free, then there is nothing inherently unhealthy about cumming inside of ...
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| unhealthy romance | 1/31/2007 |
Q: First of all I want to tell you that I'm in a very very weird and difficult situation. Ok, there's ...
A: First of all, you have to understand the relationship in its proper context... that is, you've never ...
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| gay sex | 1/30/2007 |
Q: do u have tips on gay sex to make it better? is it fine to cum into my partner while having ...
A: First, you must understand that both of the practices you describe carry a HIGH degree of risk of ...
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| There's this guy... | 1/27/2007 |
Q: ..me again! Just in case you don't know who "me" is, its Joshua I'm the one who asked you about ...
A: Hey Joshua Haven't we all had moments like this? God knows I've had plenty. The reality is it can ...
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| comming out! | 1/26/2007 |
Q: I'm currently a freshmen in college studying history! I came out to all of my friends when I was in ...
A: I can certainly understand the desire to come out, especially if you're already out to everyone ...
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| Should I ask my son if he is gay? | 1/13/2007 |
Q: Last year I found my son was looking at gay porn on the web. When I told him I found out he was ...
A: First of all, I want to commend you for providing your son with the kind of nurturing environment ...
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| wicked confused | 1/9/2007 |
Q: very timely and thoughtful! I knew you wouldn't let me down! I think you're right: the issue I'm ...
A: A couple of thoughts... One, I think you're right on the mark about your reasons for being hesitant ...
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| wicked confused | 1/7/2007 |
Q: I'm a 29 year old guy, and I'm battling with the increasing likelihood that I'm gay. A quick recap: ...
A: Hey Mark From what you've written initiall, my first thought is... "What's the question?" Yeah, I ...
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| Is my co-worker bi / gay? | 1/5/2007 |
Q: First some background: I've come to the conclusion that I am bisexual in a physical sense. I love ...
A: To address your comments in the first paragraph, I would suggest you keep looking. What you are ...
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| Questions about phone. | 12/10/2006 |
Q: I'm a french young guy from France. I don't know if you can help me, but i hope so. Sorry for my bad ...
A: Hey there I wish I could help you with this, but it's really way outside of my expertise. I really ...
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| contemplating my sexuality | 11/25/2006 |
Q: Ok, i can see where you're coming from about the whole "they're just hoping its a phase" thing but ...
A: Well, only you can know for sure whether or not it is a phase. Personally, I don't believe in any ...
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| coming out | 11/25/2006 |
Q: i am a bisexual male, i have been dating a man about 3 times older than me for about a 6 months and ...
A: If you can tell me a little more about your situation, I will be able to provide more thorough ...
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| contemplating my sexuality | 11/20/2006 |
Q: here's the deal. i think i'm gay because i am attracted to guys and see myself with guys in the ...
A: Yes, I definitely have some perspective on your situation. I too was raised in a VERY Christian ...
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| Hot for striaght guys! | 11/17/2006 |
Q: I have been openly (well pretty much) gay most of my life, but the thing is, I'm not attracted to ...
A: I apologize for the delay in responding. The kinds of things that make a person attractive to us ...
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| Gay son? | 10/24/2006 |
Q: Our son has just let us know he is gay. He is 14 y/o and freshman in hs. We come from a very ...
A: Greetings Terese First of all, thank you for sharing your story with me. It was encouraging and ...
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| Needle in the hay | 10/23/2006 |
Q: if only there were more honest help when it came to these matters, the world would be a much less ...
A: Well, Dave, there is always the possibility also that you're just not a very sexual person. People ...
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| gay-dar | 10/22/2006 |
Q: How can u tell if someone is gay? i suspect one of my friends is gay but i'm not sure. i'm not out ...
A: Gaydar is something you either you have or you don't, but even if you do have it, it's not entirely ...
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| Undecided, | 10/18/2006 |
Q: Being new in US, I spent more time online trying to find someone to share my life with. I've ...
A: John, You've already decided what you need to do, now it's just a matter of making it happen. I ...
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| gay/bi spouse? | 10/16/2006 |
Q: I have been married 15 years. In the beginning, our marriage was the perfect one, sex was great, we ...
A: Tammy If you are satisfied with the way things have been over the years, and you think you can be ...
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| My Friend | 10/16/2006 |
Q: I really appreciate your help in this situation. With him I think the direct approach is going to ...
A: Matt Once again, I am thoroughly impressed with how well you have thought through the situation. I ...
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| How do I make sure this guy I like is gay? | 10/12/2006 |
Q: First of all, I am out of the closet. Everyone in my entire county is aware of my sexuality. There ...
A: Hey Jon Mychal First of all, I commend you for having the courage to be out to everyone you know at ...
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| can a gay man be in love with a woman? | 10/11/2006 |
Q: i am in love with my best friend. he says he is in love with me. that he wants kids and he wants to ...
A: Stacy - this one does not require a long answer... do not allow yourself to sit around hoping for ...
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| is my brother gay | 10/10/2006 |
Q: my brother keeps actiong and doing weird things. he wants me to get kissed on the lips and even ...
A: Without more information about his behavior, I really couldn't guess what is motivating this. I do ...
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| legal advice? | 10/9/2006 |
Q: how are you doing? i have asked you a lots of question a long time ago. but today i have a ...
A: Sorry to hear about your recent circumstances. I would love to advise you here, but in this field, ...
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| I have some issues | 10/4/2006 |
Q: 25, male, Dallas, TX I'm a liberal Muslim Indian American gay lad. I came out about 2.5 years ago ...
A: I can certainly help you with your questions about masturbation, but I am far from qualified to ...
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| gaylife | 9/28/2006 |
Q: Respected sir, i'm here to ask u a question that i'm a gay.so there is no erection when i was with a ...
A: Mahe Human sexuality is far too diverse for me to answer such a broad question as "can gays have ...
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| True Love | 9/28/2006 |
Q: Let me give you a short description about myself. I came out when I was 17. I felt very good about ...
A: Hey Mark I admire you for the values that you possess, and I share that commitment with you. It's ...
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| Gay life | 9/24/2006 |
Q: I have masturbated before but I want to take it a step further, I would like to try gay means of ...
A: Perhaps I may just not be qualified or knowledgeable enough to answer your question, but to the best ...
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| Gay Life | 9/17/2006 |
Q: I wanted to know if it was alright if i looked up gay porn but I'm only a teen, and I want to know ...
A: Hey, Jack You know, I'm of the school that believes the standard definitions of gay and straight ...
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| Is he gay? | 9/17/2006 |
Q: So I met this guy who I was very sure is gay. It was just the way he looked into my eyes, talked ...
A: I think he is just in denial, still in high school and refuses to recognize his feelings!! It's ...
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| Gaydar | 9/16/2006 |
Q: I am 32 and live in WI. My question is, what are some signs that might indicate that a guy is gay. I ...
A: You know, gaydar is one of those things that you are either born with or you're not. It can't really ...
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| Do You Think I'm Gay Or Bi? | 8/10/2006 |
Q: My name is Robert, I'm 17, and I live in Elizabeth, New Jersey. I'm not sure if I'm gay or bisexual. ...
A: Well, Robert, I can tell you that this is probably the single most common question I get, so you're ...
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| Doomed to be single? | 8/3/2006 |
Q: I've already received Kay's advice on this, the other expert, but I'd like to see what you have to ...
A: First of all, let me apologize for how long it has taken for me to respond. I typically try to ...
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| gay sex | 7/30/2006 |
Q: I want to know how gays exchange sex? what do they do to cum? do they have anal sex? every thing ...
A: Your questions are quite broad and too vague to really answers. I would suggest doing some basic ...
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| Asian for Caucasian | 7/13/2006 |
Q: I am a Chinese, Asian, yet I have been so desperate into white guys. I really like their looks and ...
A: To answer your last questions first, yes... all the things you're describing... eye contact, ...
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| How to know about sons sexuality | 7/11/2006 |
Q: Im not sure on how to approach him. Ive calmy asked if any one has ever touched like he touches his ...
A: This is probably beyond my expertise, but my gut reaction is that such behavior would not manifest ...
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| parents | 7/11/2006 |
Q: I am 18 and live in the Charleston, WV area but go to school in Fairmont, WV. I just finished my ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the way things have gone down with your parents. That is certainly tough to ...
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| How to know about sons sexuality | 7/6/2006 |
Q: My son who is now 7 years old has had a problem since he was 5. It started out with wanting to look ...
A: Christina What you've described is very disturbing indeed, despite what your therapist may have ...
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| Was I born that way ... or did the doctor make me so? | 7/4/2006 |
Q: I have some very bizarre sexual history: Although at puberty I phantasized about men when ...
A: While I really can't explain your sudden shift in sexual interests, I can assure you that nothing ...
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| Does he like me?!?!?! | 7/2/2006 |
Q: Ok here痴 my dilemma, My name is Damian and I知 from Lexington, Ma, I知 18 and I知 a senior in high ...
A: From what you've told me, I would guess that he does indeed have an interest in you, but it's so far ...
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| Confused about married guy | 6/27/2006 |
Q: heya, I live in Devon, England, I'm 27 and i work in a factory. This guy started work on my line ...
A: While it is certainly not uncommon for married men to have same-sex interests, I just don't see ...
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| What kind am I? | 6/21/2006 |
Q: I've browsed through some of your answer and really appreciate your thoughtfullness and candor. I am ...
A: Howitzer What you're describing seems very similar to my own experience, in that I started ...
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| help | 6/15/2006 |
Q: mark told me he used this site before and i was glad he didn't tell me what he asked but i would ...
A: o) It's good to hear from you as always. As for what Mark asked, you should know that every ...
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| How can I tell if a guy I like is gay? | 6/14/2006 |
Q: How can I tell if a guy I like is gay? I just keep getting mixed signals from him and I read your ...
A: I'm glad to hear that you've read some of my previous responses, because I get this question a lot!! ...
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| Realationship trouble | 6/12/2006 |
Q: My name is Richard. I live in the south west of england UK. I have been in a relationship for three ...
A: First of all, please accept my apologies for the delay in responding. I just got my computer back ...
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| Queer Fundraising | 6/7/2006 |
Q: We are a near-retirement couple (23 years) who have moved to Fountain City (KNoxville, TN) from ...
A: That is a huge shift in cultures! I am familiar with both Chicago and Knoxville and they don't ...
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| more confusion | 6/5/2006 |
Q: Heh, yeah it's me again. So many questions! Okay, so, what do you think about this: I find women ...
A: What you are describing is not at all uncommon. Although it seems contradictory, physical attraction ...
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| how can I ask my friend if he's gay? | 6/4/2006 |
Q: hey Tedd - First, thanks so much for your last response; it was very insightful and has given me ...
A: Well, first of all, I think this whole conversation really casts aside any doubt that you are in ...
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| tell me about u | 6/4/2006 |
Q: next listen about gay sex next time mikey talks to u ask him if mark wanted to have sex would he be ...
A: Sincere apologies for the delay in responding. My computer has been acting up lately and I just now ...
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| she already knew | 6/3/2006 |
Q: we told marks mother yesterday night when i went to spend a night and she said ...that she already ...
A: LOL... hi guys. Yes, I believe at 35, I am old enough to offer you advice. The reason I do this is ...
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| thanks new problem | 6/3/2006 |
Q: oh thank u thank u thank u tedd i sound like a girl don't i but u r the greatset mark says he has ...
A: Oh Mike, I am SO SO happy for you. I can tell you are elated and rightfully so. You have overcome ...
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| confused as hell: I think I might be gay | 6/1/2006 |
Q: I'm a 28 year old guy, and for pretty much ever I've considered myself straight, but disinterested. ...
A: I feel for you in your confusion, and I hope that I might be able to help clear things up a bit for ...
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| opgeil help please | 5/30/2006 |
Q: i am 14 and friend is 14 we knew each other for 8 years yes since i was 6. been in same class ...
A: That sounds very sweet and charming, and from the sound of it, Mark certainly seems interested in ...
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| I want a monogamous relationship; I don t know what he wants... | 5/24/2006 |
Q: .My name is Roger from Phoenix, AZ..I met this man on an internet chat service & he caught my ...
A: Hey Roger, I can completely relate to your position, as I am one of a few true believers in ...
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| Chicago/Milwaukee Clubs under 21 | 5/23/2006 |
Q: I have a friend coming in from Kansas and he is just out. He came out on Thanksgiving and doesnt ...
A: Hey Miranda Well, it is certainly challenging to find places to hang out when you are under 21, but ...
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| am i gay | 5/21/2006 |
Q: look i have a friend and i have been his friend for 8 years(i am 15) and we are very close. but, i ...
A: First of all, that's great that you've been friends for so long. Hopefully, as such, even if he's ...
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| gay sexual behavior | 5/1/2006 |
Q: When two gay men have sex, is one always the female and the other the male, or do they switch back ...
A: Well, first I have to assume that when you say "is one always the female and the other the male...?" ...
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| how do deal with a closet gay partner? | 4/15/2006 |
Q: I HAVE BEEN GOING OUT WITH THIS 19 YEAR OLD GUY FOR THE PAST 9 MONTHS AND IS STILL IN THE CLOSET ...
A: I understand your frustration... it would be very difficult, if not impossible, for me to consider ...
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| Questions about working in the new Gay industries | 4/1/2006 |
Q: Questions about working in the new Gay industries Hello, I'm a newbie gay interested in employment ...
A: Unfortunately, I do not have any direct experience in the areas of work that you're talking about. ...
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Q: i m suffering from phonomena it is the first time to me to disclose it , this phenomena i suffering ...
A: I apologize for the delay in responding. It seems the AllExperts site was experiencing some ...
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| hello
i m suffering... | 3/22/2006 |
Q: i m suffering from phonomena it is the first time to me to disclose it , this phenomena i suffering ...
A: It sounds like you've got a couple of different concerns that may be spilling over into each other, ...
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| am I straight or gay? | 3/6/2006 |
Q: I am a male currently in my twenties and have had this thought(s) going around in my head for a ...
A: I've heard from several people who describe similar experiences, and I think you're probably on the ...
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| need to know | 2/27/2006 |
Q: i m confuse very much wish you help i m naturally excited with womens sexuality (i m a male) so i ...
A: I really couldn't do any better in explaining it than what I found at this website: ...
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| need to know | 2/25/2006 |
Q: i m confuse very much wish you help i m naturally excited with womens sexuality (i m a male) so i ...
A: It's indeed very rare for someone to be completely 100% at one end of the sexuality spectrum or the ...
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| Help | 2/22/2006 |
Q: ...I am 16....how do i tell my parents i am gaY?
A: I know that is such a big dilemma. I was not able to muster the courage to tell my parents until I ...
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| free gay male penpals | 1/18/2006 |
Q: I am 48 and live in Conneaut, Ohio. Where can I get free gay male penpal addresses?
A: Since you wrote me through this forum, I have to assume you have internet access. That's also going ...
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| is it best to move out? | 1/13/2006 |
Q: i'm a 37 year old gay man, my sister is a lesbian and has a partner living in our house. my mom ...
A: Well, yes, it sounds like you've answered your own question already, but I'll chime in just to back ...
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| Could my 9 year old be gay? | 1/12/2006 |
Q: Since my son was 18 months old and his dad and i divorced, his father really didnt participate in ...
A: I can tell you're terribly shaken up by this discovery, as I think any parent would be. You're ...
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| to be a girl | 1/10/2006 |
Q: I am a young man, 28 years old. Since several years ago, I always like to live like girls, have a ...
A: I'm probably not well qualified to answer this question, since what you are talking about is ...
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| Regaurding my good friend | 1/9/2006 |
Q: Hey tedd, I have this friend named Justin, were really good friends tho we have only known each ...
A: Well, Chad This is exactly the type of question that I get all the time. In fact, it's probably THE ...
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| coming out to parents | 12/15/2005 |
Q: Tedd. First I want to say thank you for providing this kind of service to those of us who are ...
A: Pardon the delay in responding. You have given me a lot to digest and think about, but you're ...
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| honeymoon | 12/7/2005 |
Q: my name is Jolene. My girlfriend and I plan to marry once we have graduated from college and moved ...
A: Congratulations on your wedding and "honeymoon"! That's so exciting for you. Jamaica has never ...
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| Lost and confused | 12/4/2005 |
Q: I am and 18 year old male from Ashland, Oregon and I really need your help. I'm lost. completely ...
A: I can certainly feel your pain and suffering in every word you write, and I sincerely hope that you ...
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| HI | 11/26/2005 |
Q: its me again u no the 14 year old what do u do when u have sex. what dossisions and what things do ...
A: I strongly believe that everyone should follow his or her own instinct when it comes to sexual ...
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| MY FRIEND | 11/25/2005 |
Q: IM A 14 YEAR OLD MALE AND MY FRIENDS 14 ALSO. I HAVE A FRIEND AND WE HAVE BEEN FRIENDS FOR LIKE 8 ...
A: My best guess is probably what you've already figured... he's most likely gay, or at least sexually ...
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| Is he gay/does he like me? | 11/21/2005 |
Q: I'm recently moved and transfered high schools. I made some new friends immediately but noticed ...
A: Even though it's been a long time since I've been in high school (I'm 34), I remember going through ...
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| Anal sex? | 10/18/2005 |
Q: Hey Tedd! What's up? I want to ask you anything you can tell me about anal sex... does it deformate ...
A: To answer your first question... rarely does anal sex result in any type of long-term deformation. ...
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| hello | 9/22/2005 |
Q: My name is Alix Sullivan. I am a sophomore at a high school in Lee's Summit. I am writing you to ask ...
A: Certainly, I would be more than happy to participate in your interview. No, it's not exactly what I ...
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| nipple | 8/28/2005 |
Q: i have a small nipple i want ask you how i can enlargement my niple ?
A: I'm not really qualified to answer medical questions, but my best guess is that you would want to ...
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| Turning Gay ? | 8/24/2005 |
Q: Is it possible to turn gay, or bisexual, later in life ? I'm in my late 30s, but have never had any ...
A: While this may not be real common, it's not entirely unheard of either. I once dated a guy who was ...
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| lesbian parents | 7/13/2005 |
Q: I am a lesbian.I plan on having children with my partner and I was wondering how it would effect my ...
A: I'm not sure what led you to believe that I have a lesbian mother, since I do not, but I can tell ...
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| Promise Ring | 7/6/2005 |
Q: Age: 23 El Paso, Texas Recently, my partner gave me a promise ring for our 6 month anniversary. My ...
A: A gift is something a person gives because they want to do so. Appreciate the gift he's given you, ...
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| dont know what to do | 6/28/2005 |
Q: i was wondering if you could help me. i have this male friend who i have a big suspision is gay. the ...
A: If he does not want you there, then this is a very bad idea. You said yourself "he keeps his private ...
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| gay life | 6/28/2005 |
Q: .. I am saurabh, an architecture student from india, gay and out to some people and i have basically ...
A: I apologize for the delay in responding. My computer has been down for repairs the last few days. ...
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| dont know what to do | 6/26/2005 |
Q: i was wondering if you could help me. i have this male friend who i have a big suspision is gay. the ...
A: It's very likely that he is scared to tell you, or he just isn't ready to tell you. It's not a ...
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| Whats going on with me........... | 6/25/2005 |
Q: Well the first thing is im a gay male who is 24 and I just came all the way out about 2 years ago. ...
A: Any time we start acting in ways that feel out of control, it is scary, and your situation is no ...
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| gay | 6/14/2005 |
Q: i am 15, and live in mansfield mass. is it possible to find men/boys sexually attractive and not be ...
A: This is probably one of the most frequent questions I get, so you're certainly not alone in ...
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| Could he be gay? | 6/11/2005 |
Q: Hey Tedd, it's kinda a long email...but please read it. I am a 22 yr old very closeted guy ...
A: To answer the simple question first... yes, he certainly could be gay. Or he could be straight. But ...
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| workplace | 6/1/2005 |
Q: I am a 41 year old Frenchman living in Berlin, Germany. Having lost my job a few months ago, I've ...
A: Well, my first reaction when reading your story was shock that any interviewer would ask about your ...
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| Is it worth it,Big Dilemma | 5/6/2005 |
Q: I am a 21 year old single black female with no children,who has recently broken up with my boyfriend ...
A: Tidra As long as you are very clear about your intentions, and she understands that there is to be ...
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| How to be friends with my co-worker | 4/25/2005 |
Q: I'm a straight 22 year-old female that just started working at a mortuary in my home town. I would ...
A: Dinah Don't waste your energy on him! Gay or straight is irrelevant. What matters is the way he ...
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| does he like me | 4/13/2005 |
Q: I'm 15 and am not sure yet if I'm gay or not. There is a guy at my high school that I really like ...
A: I remember dealing with exactly those types of situations myself, and the good news is... we all ...
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| anal sex | 3/1/2005 |
Q: how do you give some one anal sex.what do you do if there ass is tight
A: Anal sex is just one of many ways of expressing physical affection between two men. It is common, ...
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| am i gay | 2/28/2005 |
Q: i want to know if im gay.i am 13 male. i have seen guys nacked and jacked one off.i have i look a ...
A: At 13, it's probably too early to say for sure one way or another whether you are gay. I say this ...
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| Advice: Interpreting Signals | 2/24/2005 |
Q: It is very sensible, it's what I thought you would say - and I will follow it. Just to clarify ...
A: Pinu Some people are blessed with an innate gaydar and others are not. If yours is lacking, as ...
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| Advice: Interpreting Signals | 2/19/2005 |
Q: I hope you can help me. I'm a married bi male, living in Sydney, Australia. I have developed a ...
A: Pinu I know it's hard to resist those strong feelings of temptation, but I would urge you to not ...
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| gay | 2/11/2005 |
Q: i want to no if my friend is gay. first off im 13 male i not shore if im gay i have seen guys nacked ...
A: What you are describing is very common among adolescents, and it does not necessarily indicate one ...
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| gay nephew | 2/10/2005 |
Q: Tedd, Thankyou for trying to help so many confused kids on the internet. I have a nephew who's gay. ...
A: Joy Thank you for your kind words. I do this because I have been there before, and had times when I ...
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| hi
my name is Will, 23... | 1/17/2005 |
Q: my name is Will, 23 years and living in the uk. i have a problem with feelings that i have been ...
A: First of all, things are probably not as bleak as they seem. You apparently have a lot going for you ...
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| Being Gay | 12/9/2004 |
Q: I'm a 1st genereation 19 yr old male and am still in the closet sadly. I fear that if i were 2 come ...
A: I'm sorry to hear of your predicament. I know that's got to be a tough spot to be in. Generally, I ...
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| Help! | 12/6/2004 |
Q: My name is Reema and I have known my best guy friend for a year and a half. Everytime someone meets ...
A: Your email is beautiful and touching. Your friend is lucky to have such a caring person in his life. ...
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| I'M A GAY.CAN I MARRY A WOMAN | 11/16/2004 |
Q: Respected sir, i'm a gay from india.but now in my house they r planning for a marraige with a ...
A: You're definitely in a difficult situation, and you have my sympathy. I am familiar with the Indian ...
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| confusion | 10/25/2004 |
Q: I am a 14y.o. gay.I had some confusion regarding the association of anal sex and gynaecomastia and ...
A: I would completely agree with Dr. Goldstone's response in every way! His advise is right on. There ...
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| slang word | 9/21/2004 |
Q: I heard a old man make an apparent anti-gay crack by calling a woman "A real crossway breazer". Can ...
A: I'm not sure if this is a term that's become extinct, or if it's solely the product of that old ...
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| i am so lonely | 7/29/2004 |
Q: how r u? i read ur bio & i am like u,no body knows i am gay,well i'll tell one thing i am egyptian ...
A: I understand the feelings that you're having, as I've felt the same way in the past. There was a guy ...
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| calling a guy | 7/6/2004 |
Q: hey ok,that guy that i have a crush on has now graduated,but i have his number,i got it from a ...
A: I know what you're dealing with, cause I've been in that situation a couple of times in my life. ...
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| coming out ??? | 6/28/2004 |
Q: My name is Frank I am 32 single and live at home with my parents. I grew up in denial that I was a ...
A: Frank It sounds like you are indeed in a difficult situation. I think one of the biggest ...
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| Dealing with cooling off with my boyfriend | 6/24/2004 |
Q: I would like to thank you for the response to my question last. I appreciate so much your bit of ...
A: The distance certainly introduces yet another interesting element of your relationship. I was not ...
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| Dealing with cooling off with my boyfriend | 6/19/2004 |
Q: First, I would like to inform you that I have a boyfriend younger than me. Lately, he wants to have ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the trouble with your relationship. We've all been there and it hurts. ...
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| Coming Out, and Finding Others | 5/18/2004 |
Q: its Bryn, and just incase, i live in House Springs, Missouri. Well, i just wanted to know if you ...
A: As for how you approach your brother or your parents (or anyone else, really) all depends on what ...
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| Is my brother gay? | 5/15/2004 |
Q: For the past while I have been wondering if my brother is gay, but I am having a really hard time ...
A: WOW! Kimberly, your message is touching and inspirational. Your brother is very lucky to have a ...
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| closet | 4/22/2004 |
Q: I have been a closet homosexual for 9 years and my parents are visiting in 2 weeks. I currently live ...
A: Well, normally I am a full-blown proponent of being out of the closet, but given the short time ...
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| What's it like being gay for others? | 3/5/2004 |
Q: I'm a homosexual with nobody to talk to about it. No body knows. I'm very curious about others ...
A: I'm 32 and I live in Tulsa, OK, and trust me, if you can be openly gay in Tulsa, you can certainly ...
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| Gay Life in Belize | 2/11/2004 |
Q: Age: 40 Location: London, England, UK Dear Mr Adams Firstly, your site is very ...
A: Although Belize is not as conspicuously gay friendly as Costa Rica, you're not likely to find any ...
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| piercings for gays | 1/31/2004 |
Q: I'm a gay 16 year old, and wanned to put an earring in my right ear ( the.. top part) is that where ...
A: The fact that you have friends who have earrings in either ear demonstrates current reality... and ...
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| disowned by family for being gay | 6/17/2003 |
Q: My freind just told his family that he is gay and is living with his gay lover. They have a strong ...
A: The first organization I would seek out is PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) - ...
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| is he gay? | 3/24/2003 |
Q: do gay people have gaydar? I am gay and I sometimes get gut feelings that someone I meet is gay. ...
A: That gut feeling you've got... that's gaydar! Some people don't believe in it, but I think those are ...
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| History of Gay Life in New Orleans | 12/9/2002 |
Q: Don't know if you know much about this subject but you're at the top of the list... I just came ...
A: James One of the things that I love about volunteering on here is the fascinating range of ...
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| am i gay? | 8/14/2002 |
Q: I am 18 years of age andI dunno wether I am gay or not, but to my knowledge, i dont think so.. I do ...
A: Stan I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you are not attracted to men, you are not ...
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| coming out | 7/10/2002 |
Q: I have recently joined an amateur dramatics club which is really cool, I don't really want to tell ...
A: Nick That is a very common situation, whether you are dealing with school, work or any other type ...
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| Me, my boyfriend, and him. | 4/8/2002 |
Q: Expert, First of all, I would like to introduce myself. I'm a 21 year-old gay boy living in ...
A: My heart breaks for you. It is obvious you are in a lot of emotional pain and that is ...
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| Need advice | 4/6/2002 |
Q: well, i don't know if you can help me, but i seek advice.I have a bit of a problem. I am a 22 year ...
A: That always helps me be able to provide better advice. You obviously care a lot about your friend ...
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| domestic partner benefits | 2/25/2002 |
Q: I previously asked you a question about domestic partner benefits, and you said you could tell me ...
A: Well, the discussion started when a friend's partner died and he had to take a week off work for the ...
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| gay travel | 2/13/2002 |
Q: I'm in my 20s and in NC. I have heard that Jamaica is an extremely homophobic place. Are there ...
A: Joy To follow up with you after my visit to Grand Cayman. Unfortunately, there is not much to ...
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| Bisexuality | 1/12/2002 |
Q: Tedd I have had a girlfriend for about a year, but recently I have found myself curious about this ...
A: Chris The fact that you find yourself interested in another guy does not in itself mean that you ...
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