| Subject | Date Asked |
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| mixed and confusing signs | 11/19/2009 |
Q: i'm rather confused at this stage in my life. hopefully you can help me on this one. i'll try to ...
A: What you're feeling is heartache. It's not a nice feeling. I am so sorry that this had to ...
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| mixed and confusing signs | 11/16/2009 |
Q: i'm rather confused at this stage in my life. hopefully you can help me on this one. i'll try to ...
A: Hey again Ryan! Talking about feelings and love is never ramblings, so relax! This is what life is ...
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| I get stressed and worried over my sexuality... | 11/12/2009 |
Q: I'm a 23 year old British male, life is good for me employment-wise and socially, I have good social ...
A: Hey there! On the one hand 'the people' are right, you should be choosing yourself what feels right ...
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| Super depresing crush | 10/29/2009 |
Q: Ey im 18 and wel.... Gay .. The whole situation started at the begining of last year.. I were in ...
A: Hey hey buddy! Boy you have it hard, hehe! I am not laughing at you, k? I'm laughing at this ...
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| Should I stay | 10/16/2009 |
Q: Let's just call me B. I have been seeing a guy on and off over a period of 2 years. He has broken up ...
A: I will call you that, because you didn't make your question private, so it might be 'published' of ...
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| mixed and disturbing thoughts | 10/11/2009 |
Q: where should i begin.. here it goes. i'm in love with my best friend. we both know about ourselves ...
A: Two words: Get out! It doesn't matter how good it feels when you two are together, you should be ...
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| Confused as to where to go from here | 10/10/2009 |
Q: Where to start? I guess a tiny bit of background. I realized that I am gay in high school but ...
A: Hey again Chris! I must again say, you could be my twin where emotional responses and things go. I ...
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| Confused as to where to go from here | 10/9/2009 |
Q: Where to start? I guess a tiny bit of background. I realized that I am gay in high school but ...
A: Hey there Chris! While reading your letter I wondered just how tough your filters were to get ...
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| mixed and disturbing thoughts | 10/8/2009 |
Q: where should i begin.. here it goes. i'm in love with my best friend. we both know about ourselves ...
A: Well, first off I think you are a very interesting, funny and witty guy, so any guy would love to ...
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| When all is said and done. | 10/7/2009 |
Q: WOOT!! It's me again; Albert Appleton! Yay!!! Anyhow to quickly summarize where I left off; I like ...
A: ) Ok, so you don't care if people know or don't know you're gay or bi. So why do you lie to Oisin ...
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| When all is said and done. | 10/5/2009 |
Q: WOOT!! It's me again; Albert Appleton! Yay!!! Anyhow to quickly summarize where I left off; I like ...
A: Hey hey A.A! Ok, enough rhyming... Well, there's not much advice I can give, my friend, since it's ...
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| I'm scared to make other gay friends | 10/5/2009 |
Q: ok I'm really scared. My sister is the only one who knows that I'm gay and she's trying to introduce ...
A: It's only normal to react the way you do and there is nothing wrong with it. You will in time find ...
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| boyfriend trouble | 10/2/2009 |
Q: Okay I'm 16 and I'm having trouble finding the right guy or just a nice a guy . Last guys I've been ...
A: You seem to be a lot like I am, where guys and relationships are concerned. You bet everything ...
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| i really like this guy in college | 9/30/2009 |
Q: I was just hoping for your advice on something. this guy in college, i really like an he likes me ...
A: Hey there John! These kinds of situations you really take on feelings. Sometimes you might want to ...
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| Coming out b/f has trouble with intimacy, committment | 9/25/2009 |
Q: I like your answers and am hoping that I can provide enough information to give you a clear idea of ...
A: Long time :) I am so glad that you two could get some middle ground to work from. Let me tell you ...
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| coming out | 9/20/2009 |
Q: I am an 18 year old male, I have known I was gay... or at least suspected since I was about 12 or ...
A: Hey Taylor! I must confess to you, I have quite the same personality as you, that's why studies ...
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| hey again | 9/16/2009 |
Q: Rememeber me maxxie, i sopoke to you a couple of weeks ago, about the guy. well its taken this long ...
A: Hey hey Maxxi! What I meant with my statement was, that my boyfriend started liking this other guy ...
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| I am stuck and not sure what I should do... | 9/15/2009 |
Q: I know from your answers that you are laid-back figure that can help me. (I hope). Here is the ...
A: Hey Ano(nymous)! Right, lets get the serious stuff out of the way. How to ask your guy. If I were ...
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| Where are all those happy days? They seem so hard to find... | 9/12/2009 |
Q: WOOT!! Im back in school after the summer hols. Just to quickly rejog your memory; Im the one who ...
A: Albert, my man! I must say, I it sounds like he likes you. If he's gay, one cannot tell, BUT, I ...
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| its getting worser | 9/9/2009 |
Q: i have written to you previously about the turning gay thing well its getting worse i actualy had ...
A: Hey again Jamie There are some people that claim that one can turn gay or be made gay, but most ...
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| how to fetch him? | 9/5/2009 |
Q: a management student.i am a bi,and have a close friend he is straight.my problem is this that i want ...
A: I must first tell you, that if your friend is totally straight, he would not kiss you or sleep with ...
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| hey again | 9/2/2009 |
Q: Rememeber me maxxie, i sopoke to you a couple of weeks ago, about the guy. well its taken this long ...
A: Maxxie budd! I don't mind the personal questions, that is why I'm here :) On the one hand, the ...
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| am i just at a stage of puberty or turning gay | 8/30/2009 |
Q: im 17 and deeply distressed that i could turn gay or bisexual any day now. My mother and sister ...
A: Hey there Jamie First things first, relax :) You're running waaay too fast here! Being gay is not ...
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| help again | 8/28/2009 |
Q: Rememeber me maxxie, i sopoke to you a couple of weeks ago, about the guy. well its taken this long ...
A: Looong time no see? Of course I remember you, how can I forget such a fantastic guy? Well I've ...
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| What do i do | 8/18/2009 |
Q: I am gay but still in d closet about my sexuality.i live in country where been gay isn't smiled upon ...
A: Hey there again Lukers If you think your friend is sincere, if you know him and he is not just some ...
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| What do i do | 8/18/2009 |
Q: I am gay but still in d closet about my sexuality.i live in country where been gay isn't smiled upon ...
A: Hey there Lukers I don't think this guy is any good for you. He seems to be the kind that's just ...
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| Performance, Enjoyment and Coming Out | 8/5/2009 |
Q: I am coming out later in life after conservative upbringing, failed marriage, etc., and find happily ...
A: What you're experiencing, a lot of men have experienced as well, so I want to put your mind at rest, ...
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| just when i think i will leave you be for at least a while | 8/4/2009 |
Q: Adriian, I think I have exhausted you but i also have something new to ask. I think this is going to ...
A: Hey Carolyn If you are indeed ready for this, and have thought of all the angles, then you are on ...
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| just when i think i will leave you be for at least a while | 8/4/2009 |
Q: Adriian, I think I have exhausted you but i also have something new to ask. I think this is going to ...
A: Yes, you are correct of course, I am not there, and I never wanted to judge anyone. You must ...
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| just when i think i will leave you be for at least a while | 8/4/2009 |
Q: Adriian, I think I have exhausted you but i also have something new to ask. I think this is going to ...
A: I think you are spot-in with your friend. He seems to need closeness and he knows he's going to get ...
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| hi again | 8/3/2009 |
Q: Rememeber me, well im hear to ask yet more questions (sorry) this guy is driving me insane, i think ...
A: OK first things first, you need to relax! BREATHE! It's not such a big deal, you know, it is as big ...
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| how can i ask him out ? | 8/1/2009 |
Q: I know that i am gay but i really dont know how to ask another guy out for example i dont know if he ...
A: Hey there Fred. It's not so much about being gay than it is about asking someone out. It wouldn't ...
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| new events | 7/29/2009 |
Q: Adriian i need to write again. I feel you are safe all the say in Australia. I want to go there ...
A: There are more than one 'game' going on here. As I've mentioned before, I think he is too afraid to ...
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| new events | 7/27/2009 |
Q: Adriian i need to write again. I feel you are safe all the say in Australia. I want to go there ...
A: I have never been overseas except for London. Our money here does not take one far y'know! But I ...
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| new events | 7/22/2009 |
Q: Adriian i need to write again. I feel you are safe all the say in Australia. I want to go there ...
A: I just want to correct you first, I am in Africa, as in South Africa... I would love to go to ...
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| Am I gay? Just a stage of puberty? Or just don't want to believe it? | 7/20/2009 |
Q: I am worried that I am gay...Not that there is something wrong with being gay, I just don't want to ...
A: Begin gay or being straight involves (luckily!) more than just a desire to be with someone ...
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| I DON'T THINK I'M GAY AFTER ALL | 7/18/2009 |
Q: Ok, this is an astoundingly mind-boggling conundrum. I'm 27, 'came out' when I was 18 and now all I ...
A: Hey Matthew-Alexander! First thing, chill! Relax! Don't panic! Why is this a question anyway? ...
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| another follow up | 7/17/2009 |
Q: Remember when i first told you about the problem and how he stared at me sometimes and other things. ...
A: Hey Max The funny feelings may be 'love' as you say, but what I always say too, is love must go ...
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| friendship plus | 7/15/2009 |
Q: Adriian. I lost your email . Where it went i am not sure but i lost it.Anyway its ok as i now have ...
A: I read both your letters, let's see :) From what you're written here and there, it feels to me that ...
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| friendship plus | 7/15/2009 |
Q: Adriian. I lost your email . Where it went i am not sure but i lost it.Anyway its ok as i now have ...
A: Hey again Carolyn (almost wrote Coraline there!) I am 37, not so far behind you, you know! I don't ...
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| it just wouldn't work! | 7/14/2009 |
Q: I don't know how weird you're going to find this problem. I've known I was gay since I was 13. I ...
A: Ok, relax. Nothing wrong with you! Believe it or not, but EVERYONE has this problem sometimes. ...
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| friendship plus | 7/13/2009 |
Q: Adriian. I lost your email . Where it went i am not sure but i lost it.Anyway its ok as i now have ...
A: I am sorry you lost the email! You can try and look through my letters online, if you didn't mark ...
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| How to meet other gay guys | 7/12/2009 |
Q: My name is Jonathan and I'm gay. I'm 21 years old and for the most part I'm in the closet. I'm ...
A: Hey there Jonathan I know it's not always the best option, but when I was in the closet, I sort of ...
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| it didn't work | 7/10/2009 |
Q: I'm 21 now. I'm really in love with my boyfriend but I just couldn't erect when I was at his place ...
A: Hey Josh I think also that it was anxiety, and also timing. Both people won't always be in sync ...
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| my best friend's gay | 7/9/2009 |
Q: I don't really know how t start, but i guess i'm writing because i'm worried, and don't have anyone ...
A: It's a tricky one, this, since it's not really your call to make about him being 'out of the ...
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| Masturbation | 7/9/2009 |
Q: I'm a 21 yr old guy and I want to ask you, is it normal to not get a boner even while watching naked ...
A: Well, you're talking to a gay guy, so I don't get boners when looking at naked girls anyway! But I ...
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| another follow up | 7/8/2009 |
Q: Remember when i first told you about the problem and how he stared at me sometimes and other things. ...
A: You're running too fast again here :) Remember step by step! First you need to find our IF he is ...
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| another follow up | 7/7/2009 |
Q: Remember when i first told you about the problem and how he stared at me sometimes and other things. ...
A: If he is as sincere as you tell me, if he acts as good as you tell me he does, if he is as kind and ...
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| what should i do ? | 7/5/2009 |
Q: I liked a guy when we were both younger and i didn't do nothing about it . After a few years we ...
A: Well, you didn't give me much to go on here, hehe, but I'll try to give some general advice then. I ...
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| help | 7/5/2009 |
Q: Its me max(remember?) just another question about becoming this guys friend and only thinkig about ...
A: Hey Maxxie Remember, you don't have to stop writing and talking to me, that's why I am here, ok? ...
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| HOCD help | 7/4/2009 |
Q: my situation is this: I don't know what is going on with me, I've always like girls and they really ...
A: Let me start off by saying, that in my opinion you are not gay. I don't even think you are bi. ...
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| love? | 7/4/2009 |
Q: I cannot believe i am in this situation but i am and it actually is wonderful . I think i am deeply ...
A: Hey Carolyn A tough one you're in, but not impossible to sort our luckily. As you confess here to ...
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| Inlove with him . but unsure if he's gay (added info) | 7/4/2009 |
Q: ORIGINAL QUESTION... "Hi, hopefully you can help me, cause im in such a dilema ...
A: Hey Ian His answer sounds sincere and we are ALL glad that his response was so 'normal'. That's ...
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| help | 7/3/2009 |
Q: Its me max(remember?) just another question about becoming this guys friend and only thinkig about ...
A: Max... I think you are falling for your friend. Yes, I talking about love. It's the best feeling ...
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| help | 7/2/2009 |
Q: Its me max(remember?) just another question about becoming this guys friend and only thinkig about ...
A: Hey again Max! If you would rather come clean with him, then do it. I didn't tell you do it, I ...
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| help | 6/30/2009 |
Q: Ok i really need your help with something. im Bi-sexual and have fallen in love with someone who is ...
A: Ok, so you two are already sort of friends? That's great! Even easier. You need to make the ...
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| help | 6/29/2009 |
Q: Ok i really need your help with something. im Bi-sexual and have fallen in love with someone who is ...
A: Hey again Maxxie The way you are feeling in completely normal, you just need to relax a little :-) ...
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| help | 6/26/2009 |
Q: Ok i really need your help with something. im Bi-sexual and have fallen in love with someone who is ...
A: -) First things first. Relax! You need to take these things one step at a time. Step 1, are you ...
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| Complex Friendship/Relationship Issue | 6/23/2009 |
Q: "In my 9th grade year of high school I developed a crush on a guy called Gary; it was one of those ...
A: As you know, most people are different. We handle physical attraction diffent, we get emotionally ...
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| How do I comfort my brother on his homosexuallity? | 6/22/2009 |
Q: Yesterday I awoke to see my iPod touch removed from the side of my bed and placed in a different ...
A: From what you've said about having gay friends, you don't seem to mind having them, right? So you ...
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| My girlfriend is Bisexual, Should i worry? | 6/16/2009 |
Q: my Girlfriend of 9 months recently told me that she was bisexual. She isn't too open about it, she ...
A: It's almost always so, that a bisexual person will leave their current partner for the opposite sex. ...
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| What now? | 6/15/2009 |
Q: So i am 15 and male. So i have a few friends who are bi-ish and know i am gay. So how could i ask ...
A: Hey there Ryan These are just normal relationship issues, we all have them. All of your friends ...
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| Oral sex, i know you must be asked this alot. | 6/11/2009 |
Q: So I am a teenager and openly gay. I have never sucked a dick before, but i was wondering when the ...
A: You can look up the stats for this, but the chances of being infected with oral sex is very little. ...
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| Kissing a guy | 6/11/2009 |
Q: So i am 15 and gay, i was just wondering what are some signs that a guy would accept a kiss from me ...
A: Hey Rod Well, first off, you might want to make sure the guy is gay? Hehe! After that, setting the ...
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| Is My Friend Gay? | 6/11/2009 |
Q: My best friend called me into work because she said she had something very important to tell me ...
A: Hey Katy You can't really tell him WHY you know he might be gay, but you can show him you don't ...
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| My parents and a friend of mine | 6/10/2009 |
Q: Okay, I actually have two questions for you Mr. Pretorius First question is the nicer of the ...
A: I think you should first ask your self, do you like this guy, as a friend. If you want to be his ...
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| Inlove with him . but unsure if he's gay (added info) | 6/7/2009 |
Q: ORIGINAL QUESTION... "Hi, hopefully you can help me, cause im in such a dilema ...
A: Hey again Ian I think, on the one side you might be over-analysing things, trying to find answers ...
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| Re- Friend im inlove with.. | 6/6/2009 |
Q: hopefully you can help me, cause im in such a dilema basically im inlove with this guy i met ...
A: Hey there Ian It's not always the easy to sum u someone, and to categorise them. People let us ...
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| Aids | 6/4/2009 |
Q: Can you get aids if someone was rubbing there tissue that had blood on it.I am really nervous
A: It is possible to get infected by contact with contaminated blood, but there are a bunch of rules. ...
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| Partner's drug past | 6/3/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend now for 8 months. He is wonderful and we get on really well. For the ...
A: I understand exactly where both of you are coming from. When I came into the gay scene some 9 years ...
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| confused and don't know what to do | 5/26/2009 |
Q: I have a friend who I spend a lot of time with that I really like but he's been going out with a ...
A: Your friend seems to really think the world of you! I am so glad to hear two people can be such ...
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| Gimme, gimme, the man after midnight; if he is gay! | 5/22/2009 |
Q: Today during French I got the chance to tell Oisin Im gay and he doesnt care! However the next task ...
A: This reply is probably too late, I apologise, but to answer your question, you're thinking too much ...
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| Gimme, gimme, the man after midnight; if he is gay! | 5/20/2009 |
Q: Today during French I got the chance to tell Oisin Im gay and he doesnt care! However the next task ...
A: Hey again Albert! It's hard to tell if Oisin is gay or just so comfortable with himself that he ...
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| Love and sex | 5/18/2009 |
Q: Adriaan, My name is Chad, and I had written to you at the end of this past January, 'How do I wait ...
A: Hey again Chad! I am so glad things are working for you guys! Congratulation, 2 months for a gay ...
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| Mamma Mia! | 5/17/2009 |
Q: I have to tell Oisin (the letter didnt work, he didnt understand it) Im gay before we get our Hols ...
A: Albert! Breathe! :-) Think about this for a moment. What is the worse than can happen? Will the ...
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| Is he gay or am I optimistic? | 5/9/2009 |
Q: How can i tell if someone in my 2nd year class (14 year old) loves me. I dunno his sexuality and he ...
A: Hey there Albert! Tough one. Luckily not too difficult to fix. Are you two friends? I mean, do ...
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| crushin hard...cn yu help?? | 5/8/2009 |
Q: im soooo dayum lost yo!! they got dis gurl da im hard up crushin on man n it's like alot a folk tell ...
A: He Raven I must tell you, I am really having a hard time reading your English! Remember I am not ...
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| Does Opposites attract? | 4/23/2009 |
Q: I'm a 20 year old college student. I'm a very outgoing person and not afraid to express myself to ...
A: Hey Jorge You questions are the age-old ones that exist in any kind of relationship, and they are ...
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| Confidence | 4/23/2009 |
Q: I have been in the same relationship for almost 7 years with a woman who is a teacher. We keep ...
A: It's quite difficult to get someone to gain confidence if they don't want it, in general. One can ...
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| love | 4/21/2009 |
Q: My name is Matthew, and I'm bisexual. I've been in love with this guy for at least 2 years, and I ...
A: Hey there Matthew I would say from what you've told me that your friend is at least interested, or ...
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| question | 4/20/2009 |
Q: I'm a (straight) female, I'm 31 years old, and I used to model part time. I have a lot of gay male ...
A: Hey Stephanie The answer to your question, first and foremost is a primal one. Before someone ...
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| i think i'm gay | 4/19/2009 |
Q: Hey Adriaan! This is Alex again! I sent you another message before but I don't know if you got it. ...
A: Yes, I remember your previous emails. Sorry for replying to late to them. If you stop and think ...
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| does he have a crush on me? | 4/17/2009 |
Q: I was 18 and I have done my first kiss 2 weeks ago with my co worker. My co worker and I worked ...
A: From what you've told me, it sounds like your co-worker is going a little faster than you feel ...
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| i think i'm gay | 4/17/2009 |
Q: Hey there Adriaan! This is Alex. You've written back to me before. BTW, thanks for that ...
A: I can't seem to find a question in there, but I must compliment you (even you don't think so!), but ...
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| Relationships. | 4/2/2009 |
Q: I need serious help!! I am a lesbian and I am in love with a married women, Her partner and her have ...
A: I must confess, I have been where you are (ofcourse, replace all the girls with boys!). I must tell ...
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| dating | 3/31/2009 |
Q: And I hear about how gay guys always want to have sex I don't know if that's true but I'm just not ...
A: It is a bit of a stigma that most gay guys are out for sex, and unfortunately you will probably come ...
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| Happily Married yet enjoy male male sex | 3/30/2009 |
Q: I am a married man. Both me and my wife are happy, She's conservative, yet we have sex often. I am ...
A: There is nothing wrong with the experiences you're having, no you're not super strange, hehe! But, ...
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| my friend thinksss | 3/26/2009 |
Q: One of my best friends thinks I'm gay but i love girls. Its really getting to me. what should i do ...
A: Hey Alex Well, is your best friend gay? He might be saying this if he feels inside himself that HE ...
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| The Awesome Best Friend | 3/12/2009 |
Q: I'm sure there are many people out there who are experiencing the same problem as me, but I just ...
A: Hey Sam! Yeah, you have it deeply for this guy, don't you. It's not a good feeling, I must admit! ...
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| Relationships | 3/11/2009 |
Q: After my friend got my letter he asked to meet up and talk it over. Unfortunately for me he said we ...
A: Hey again Alice I just need to tell you, that I, me, Adriaan, have believed you from the start that ...
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| Senior Project | 3/10/2009 |
Q: As I was reading what you wrote I notice you said that people in Africa don't live openly and that ...
A: Even though South Africa has some of the broadest anti-discrimination laws in the world (same-sex ...
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| Relationships | 3/10/2009 |
Q: After my friend got my letter he asked to meet up and talk it over. Unfortunately for me he said we ...
A: Your guy friend seems to have the normal sort of reactions, that insecure guys feel. He thinks you ...
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| relationships | 3/5/2009 |
Q: I am currently dating a girl but have always felt i am bi sexual, over the last few months i have ...
A: Alice!! I don't think you made any mistake with what you said. First thoughts are always best. ...
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| relationships | 3/4/2009 |
Q: I am currently dating a girl but have always felt i am bi sexual, over the last few months i have ...
A: Hey Alice I know all these things are incredibly important (and complex) in your life, but you must ...
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| am i a lesbian? | 3/3/2009 |
Q: i'm a 14 year old girl and i have a question about whether i could be a lesbian. first of all, i'm ...
A: Hey Diana First thing, first, relax! You are perfectly fine and normal. In fact you are more ...
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| relationships | 3/3/2009 |
Q: I am currently dating a girl but have always felt i am bi sexual, over the last few months i have ...
A: I have always been someone for the truth, you know? It's clean (not always easy!), but you have a ...
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| Coming out | 3/3/2009 |
Q: I am not sure how to start this email but I will give it try and hope it makes sense. Iam 30 ...
A: Humans are strange things. If you don't guide them sometimes or give them something, they will just ...
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| Relationship Questions | 3/2/2009 |
Q: A note: This is partly asking for advice, and partly venting in a safe environment; hence, it's ...
A: It sounds like you have everything pretty much under control, heh. What I mean is, you seem to have ...
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| Should I ask him out? | 2/17/2009 |
Q: I'll skip the other stuff you can't help with and get to the heart of the matter: relationship ...
A: Hey Garrett Both your suggestions sound pretty good. It really seems like you have things under ...
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| Should I ask him out? | 2/16/2009 |
Q: I'll skip the other stuff you can't help with and get to the heart of the matter: relationship ...
A: Hey Garrett I will assume you are both gay, first of all. It's not such a weird question! Hehe! I ...
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| Questioning? | 2/16/2009 |
Q: Well let me start off by saying that i am 20 and have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. ...
A: Hey Gus It's sounds a little that your relationship has not been built completely on trust here. ...
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| ummm, tough question | 2/16/2009 |
Q: i have read a lot of the advice you have given, and figured you would be the best person to ask. i ...
A: Yes, this is a difficult one, eh? But not impossible. You boyfriend should see by YOUR actions and ...
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| Confused by a friend | 2/15/2009 |
Q: Got a bit of a problem...I appear to have fallen badly for a friend. I have known this guy for one ...
A: First off, I have to tell you, that I was caught up in a similar situation a while back, so I share ...
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| relationship advice | 2/13/2009 |
Q: Alright.. this is kind of awkward for me since I’m not the kind of person to ask for advice. I met ...
A: Hey Evan I think your fear/stress comes from the fact that you two have such different views on ...
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| Coming out b/f has trouble with intimacy, committment | 2/10/2009 |
Q: I like your answers and am hoping that I can provide enough information to give you a clear idea of ...
A: I think maybe you need to let him know what you want. Firstly, you want HIM, secondly you want a ...
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| Coming out b/f has trouble with intimacy, committment | 2/9/2009 |
Q: I like your answers and am hoping that I can provide enough information to give you a clear idea of ...
A: It sounds like your guy might have found some comfort-zone with you. It's hard to tell if he is ...
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| Life In High School | 2/5/2009 |
Q: I just wanted to thank you for spending your time actually responding to other peoples problems :]. ...
A: Hey there Zach! What a mouthful, eh? So first thing first... You need to chill. Take a breath, ...
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| Was i too forward? | 2/4/2009 |
Q: Hey Adriaan, I'm gay 21yrs old and wondering if I made a stupid mistake. Let me start from the ...
A: Well, it's big of you to admit that you messed up, hehe, because you did. There is not much more I ...
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| sex with women | 2/1/2009 |
Q: i am a gay guy with a very slight sexual inclination towards women.it is not possible for me to lead ...
A: Hey Abraham You have answered your own question there, hehe! If you have an inclination towards ...
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| Am I Gay or Bi or Curious | 2/1/2009 |
Q: I'm not sure what I am feeling right now. I have been getting drunk and look on certain websites ...
A: I want to apologise if I came over as being nasty against your wife. It was definitely not my ...
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| Am I Gay or Bi or Curious | 2/1/2009 |
Q: I'm not sure what I am feeling right now. I have been getting drunk and look on certain websites ...
A: Sometimes we need to fulfil something inside us. It has nothing to do with love or sexual ...
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| in need of advise | 1/31/2009 |
Q: I am in need of some advise. I have never been with a man but have always wanted to try it but I ...
A: Hey Tristen It all of course depends on how old you are. Meeting people discreetly comes in ...
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| Ex boyfriend help | 1/31/2009 |
Q: Adriaan- I am having somewhat of a problem. I am bi, and am not completely open with it. However, ...
A: Hey Matt If you are prepared to make decisions that include him, like contacting him and texting ...
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| How do I wait for my crush to become available? | 1/30/2009 |
Q: I'm a (partially out) gay college student who has had a crush on this guy for a while now. I've ...
A: Hey Chad! I feel there are some stuff you're not telling me, and without it I can only guess, but ...
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| How do I wait for my crush to become available? | 1/29/2009 |
Q: I'm a (partially out) gay college student who has had a crush on this guy for a while now. I've ...
A: Hey Chad Well, it looks like you have this whole things planned actually! Every detail is covered ...
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| Ex boyfriend help | 1/29/2009 |
Q: Adriaan- I am having somewhat of a problem. I am bi, and am not completely open with it. However, ...
A: It will take time and I can promise you it does get easier. If I were you, I would rather try to ...
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| I wanL my bff to go out with me like a gay couple | 1/27/2009 |
Q: I wan't to go out with my best friend. He always talk about gay people and I always call him gay but ...
A: You did not tell me your age, so I'll guess you guys are still at school. There are lots of ways to ...
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| Me and my boyfriend | 1/26/2009 |
Q: I'm Jason, a 19-year-old gay guy, and a friend of mine recommended this site. I hope you can offer ...
A: First, congratulation on the relationship, gay relationship years work like dog years, so you've ...
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| How to know if you're best friend is gay? | 1/26/2009 |
Q: Uhm hi, well I am Josh. I am an 8th grader at my middle school and I just met this kid named Darrin ...
A: Hey Josh! Well, it sounds like your friend has one massive crush on you. Ok ok, now before you ...
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| please help me, everyone thinks im gay. | 1/25/2009 |
Q: I am having problems at my current high school (I am in 12th grade, 18 years old) alot of people ...
A: Hey again Kyle! Don't worry about the question, feel free, you can ask anything. There can be many ...
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| Question, regarding advice. | 1/22/2009 |
Q: I have met a single professional gay male from my region in Sydney, Australia. Last week ago, we met ...
A: Well, in relationships there are no guarantees and no sure things, especially in the beginning. ...
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| others realised | 1/20/2009 |
Q: i'm gay, no doubt of it. but i'm not openly out of the closet yet. so i chose not to disclose my ...
A: Hey Sean! Well first off, I must say that you'll never be completely happy if you're not completely ...
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| he's being silent | 1/20/2009 |
Q: first of all thank you for your time reading this load of mess! i have this friend, X, whom i known ...
A: Hey Sean! Well, I don't think your friendship can go back to what it was, but I think you can try ...
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| My Straight Friend/Best Friends Brother | 1/20/2009 |
Q: So i was reading a Question someone posted about their Straight best friend so i was intrigued to ...
A: This website does not allow me to 'keep' emails open, so I have to answer this one (or I get fired, ...
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| Am I gay or Bi or neither... | 1/19/2009 |
Q: For the longest time, i've been having a physical attraction to guys but I can't see myself in an ...
A: Hey there Max Well, from what you've told me, you might just be a little horny and maybe in need ...
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| My Straight Friend/Best Friends Brother | 1/18/2009 |
Q: So i was reading a Question someone posted about their Straight best friend so i was intrigued to ...
A: Hey there Joseph Well, I've only heard your side of the story and also only the stuff you can tell ...
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| Is my girlfriend bicurious,bisexual,gay, what do I do? | 1/18/2009 |
Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for 8 months and as of late I am seeing some behavior which makes ...
A: It sounds like she has quite a few issues about it at the moment. You might want to give her a ...
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| Is my girlfriend bicurious,bisexual,gay, what do I do? | 1/17/2009 |
Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for 8 months and as of late I am seeing some behavior which makes ...
A: Hey Daniel This is going to sound harsh, but all is fair in love and war. If you have a blossoming ...
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| How to live a young and happy gay life. | 1/16/2009 |
Q: I am a twenty -soon to be twenty-one- year old gay college student from the Netherlands. And my ...
A: I am glad that you could relax your reigns on a life a little. Sometimes you need to let life run a ...
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| HELP ME!!!! | 1/12/2009 |
Q: my name is Veronica and I'm 10 years old. I am having a problem: my friends at school are ...
A: Well, I am always one to say that you have to me yourself before anythign else. There's no point in ...
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| 22 and lost | 1/12/2009 |
Q: As someone who is now 22, this is rather awkward. I'm trying to determine my sexual orientation and ...
A: Hey there James You've got a tough one, but we'll tackle it together. Being bisexual has always ...
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| Am I Bisexual? | 1/10/2009 |
Q: I'm a 13 year old girl and I have a question about whether I'm bisexual or not. First of all, I like ...
A: Well, first off, without sounding like your mother, I must tell you that what you and your friends ...
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| How can I feel better ? | 1/9/2009 |
Q: My name is Dani and I'm 17 years old ( I'll turn to 18 in a month ). I knew that I'm Gay frok long ...
A: You must remember that you should live your life to what YOU want. You only have one life to begin ...
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| experimenting | 1/8/2009 |
Q: I'm single and in my early 30s. And I'm straight, or I believe I'm straight. I love women and have ...
A: Hey there Kyle It would be a good thing to try it out, if you really need to know how a physical ...
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| How to live a young and happy gay life. | 1/8/2009 |
Q: I am a twenty -soon to be twenty-one- year old gay college student from the Netherlands. And my ...
A: As you have guessed from my name, I am also not English, in fact I speak a language much closer to ...
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| Am I Gay??? | 1/5/2009 |
Q: i have recently told my girlfriend that i might be gay, and that i want to take time to sort things ...
A: Hey there Billy! Well, you didn't tell me your age, but I would assume you're not too old, late ...
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| Was He Even Gay? (p.s) | 1/5/2009 |
Q: Hey Adriaan i have a dilema, basically a couple years ago me and this guy became super close as ...
A: Hey Ian Well, I would agree, he is trying to make you jealous, but I don't think it's for the ...
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| Was He Even Gay? (p.s) | 1/3/2009 |
Q: Hey Adriaan i have a dilema, basically a couple years ago me and this guy became super close as ...
A: Hey again Ian To your P.S. He is hiding behind his homophobic friends so no one will know he might ...
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| Was He Even Gay? | 1/3/2009 |
Q: Hey Adriaan i have a dilema, basically a couple years ago me and this guy became super close as ...
A: Hey there Ian! I think your diagnosis is spot on. It sounds like he might have had gay feelings ...
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| gay relatioship | 1/2/2009 |
Q: i am a 30 year man , in love with 24 year straight man.we where togather for 4 year, and had a very ...
A: It is the most painful thing, isn't it? To have to let someone go, but you knew that this might ...
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| Am i gay or not? | 12/27/2008 |
Q: ok so im 16 i am still a virgin because i am scared to make a decesion. when i was ten i fooled ...
A: Hey again Michael! Maybe you feel that you have to tackle all your issues at once. You ARE after ...
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| Is my friend gay? | 12/27/2008 |
Q: About a year ago my friend told me he was bi and he asked me if i would have sex with him. We did a ...
A: Hey there Brian You friend seems confused and cannot handle the fact that he is probably gay. It ...
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| gay relationship | 12/27/2008 |
Q: hey. first off I am south african, now living in canada. thats why you caught my eye of who to ask ...
A: Hey there! Well, you're right, this is playing out like a teen movie, isn't it? :-) But this means ...
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| response | 12/26/2008 |
Q: this answer helped me very much and made me feel well!to continue ,as u have said i dont have to ...
A: Your English is not bad at all, I just hope you can understand me as well! English is also not my ...
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| Am i gay or not? | 12/26/2008 |
Q: ok so im 16 i am still a virgin because i am scared to make a decesion. when i was ten i fooled ...
A: Hey Michael! Don't panic just yet, what you're feeling is very common and many many guys feel it. ...
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| What am i? | 12/26/2008 |
Q: My name is Alex and i am 15 years old.I am very confused about my sexual orientation and i would ...
A: I think the first thing you need to do is just relax a bit and take a step back from everything. If ...
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| I think by best bro is bi-sexual | 12/24/2008 |
Q: my best bro... we've been friends since elementary, and there was a rumor that he was offered head ...
A: Well, It sounds pretty much if this guy could be bisexual and just a little into you, if you ...
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| Co-worker sending me signals? | 12/22/2008 |
Q: So here whats been going on. Ever since day 1 since I started my new job I've had this feeling this ...
A: Hey there Dave! Well, I've heard it being called a lot of things, but I've never heard a crush ...
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| My Gay partner is blackmailing me | 12/18/2008 |
Q: Im 24 from india. Im very much afraiding person from my childhood.Before 3 weeks I got one gay ...
A: I was in a similar situation a year ago. It is not easy. You must first relax, OK? Even if this ...
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| Really worried im gay | 12/11/2008 |
Q: Sorry if this is a bit of a monologue but its from another site where i posted. This has been eating ...
A: Lets take this from the top! First off, you need to try an relax a little about all of this. No ...
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| why do i think im gay? i know im not.... | 12/3/2008 |
Q: i read another post about the samething i am goign through on this site by a person named peter, and ...
A: Hey Joe! Yes, somewhere around your age your body and mind starts settling into what you will be as ...
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| RE: Does he like me??? | 11/28/2008 |
Q: My name is Steven and I'm in my mid 30's. I have been going to this diner in my neighborhood where I ...
A: OK, breathe!! Relax! :-) You are not going over the edge at all, you are just reacting how you are ...
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| RE: Does he like me??? | 11/24/2008 |
Q: My name is Steven and I'm in my mid 30's. I have been going to this diner in my neighborhood where I ...
A: Hey Steven I don't think the way you described him, lends him to be one of those guys that is using ...
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| RE: Does he like me??? | 11/24/2008 |
Q: My name is Steven and I'm in my mid 30's. I have been going to this diner in my neighborhood where I ...
A: Steven, there's hope. Anything else? hehe! The way you discribed his behaviour is so typically ...
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| Ah...Need Advice :( | 11/23/2008 |
Q: I think I am falling in love with my straight friend but please hear me out im sorry this is SO ...
A: You seem to be in a bit of pickle here, yes, hehe! If you would read the way he acts around you, if ...
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| i need some guidance, please | 11/21/2008 |
Q: I am a 17 year old guy, i have never kissed a girl nor took part in sexual activity. For as long as ...
A: There is no difference between the emotions of gay or straight people. It is all the same. To have ...
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| THX.. | 11/15/2008 |
Q: First of all please accept my apology for my week English Dear kade ,, I was surfing on the net to ...
A: I want you to think about something else too. Allah is all powerful and your Creator. He is a ...
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| help plzzzzz its urgent | 11/14/2008 |
Q: First of all please accept my apology for my week English Dear kade ,, I was surfing on the net to ...
A: Please do not be sad. Being yourself is sometimes difficult. In my country it might be legal to be ...
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| How? | 11/13/2008 |
Q: How Man? Do u still think i can find sme1 cool like doc. Sme1 who is not after sex but d real luv? ...
A: I would like to ask you a question. Why do you think it's a sin to be gay? Is it because the Bible ...
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| Intergenerational love | 11/9/2008 |
Q: I have been debating whether or not it would be appropriate for me, a 44 year old, to pursue a ...
A: I have also been in a similar relationship, for 3 years, our age difference was 16 years, so I know ...
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| Im in a dilema | 11/8/2008 |
Q: Hey man, thanks a million. My Doctor lover has stopped calling because im at home cos im on hols. I ...
A: Breath deeply... No man is ever worth the throwing away of your own life. We all only get one life, ...
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| confusion | 11/7/2008 |
Q: um I'm writing because of this guy who I think i'm putting alot of pressure on now, I guess i'll ...
A: Please don't apologize, you are not being emotional. These emotions of yours are true and that is ...
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| innate or inherited | 11/7/2008 |
Q: Where do you stand on the debate over whether homosexuality is innate or inherited? Why? Also, do ...
A: There are other influences as well that makes one gay, not only inheriting it, or it being innate. ...
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| am i gay? bi? | 11/7/2008 |
Q: i'm alex. i always have these feelings that i'm gay. i almost never look at boys and girls ...
A: Hey again Alex Well, I don't think it changes things. I can also appreciate a girl's face, her ...
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| am i gay? bi? | 11/6/2008 |
Q: i'm alex. i always have these feelings that i'm gay. i almost never look at boys and girls ...
A: If you can see yourself loving another guy, spending time with him, holding hands, walking in the ...
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| confusion | 11/4/2008 |
Q: um I'm writing because of this guy who I think i'm putting alot of pressure on now, I guess i'll ...
A: I think we need to first relax, take a deep breath here, and take step back from everything. We ...
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| what happened? | 11/3/2008 |
Q: I had to ask a new question because of all of the follow-ups. I was going to talk to him and out of ...
A: I will look out for a letter from your friend. I would be so sad if your friendship ended. You two ...
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| what happened? | 11/2/2008 |
Q: I had to ask a new question because of all of the follow-ups. I was going to talk to him and out of ...
A: You friend is really making it hard for you two to stay friends, isn't he... And you say some other ...
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| Am I gay? straight? Bi? | 10/31/2008 |
Q: I am 20 years old and confused about my sexual orientation. During highschool I dated several ...
A: You have a tough case here, but not impossible or even uncommon. So, step 1 is, relax! We will ...
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| my son | 10/27/2008 |
Q: My son, Jamie is 21 and I am very accepting of his sexuality. He's never had a proper boyfriend, ...
A: I have to confess something. When I was 29, I had a boyfriend for 4 years, who was almost half my ...
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| I am feeling rather confused.....? | 10/26/2008 |
Q: I will give you a cliffnotes version... Well I worked with this guy and never thought he was gay, ...
A: Hey Jack Well, first off, maybe it was just all rotten timing and he is just busy? If you truly ...
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| Am i bisexual? or Gay? Or Straight? | 10/25/2008 |
Q: im louis n im 16. erm nowadays im getting to feel lik im attach to gay porn n im just attach to my ...
A: First thing... Relax! You are perfectly normal! :-) At 16 crazy things happen and we don't ...
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| My ex is blackmailing me | 10/23/2008 |
Q: i really love the way you handled mark's problem. Mine is that i met this guy online 4yrs ago. We ...
A: About your ex. If he is threatening you, you must tell someone. It might be something 'innocent' ...
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| what to do? | 10/20/2008 |
Q: I've been friends with this guy for about a 2 years or so. We've been to each others houses many ...
A: The million dollar question, hehe, how do you meet someone... :-) There are so many ways, but one ...
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| what to do? | 10/20/2008 |
Q: I've been friends with this guy for about a 2 years or so. We've been to each others houses many ...
A: Now you see, Alan, you handled this brilliantly! I think your friendship will make this! You need ...
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| sex | 10/5/2008 |
Q: I know someone who is willing to blow me and possibly have sex you think I should do it if I have a ...
A: I would never recommend you cheat on your girlfriend. Is a few moments of pleasure worth losing ...
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| what to do? | 10/2/2008 |
Q: I've been friends with this guy for about a 2 years or so. We've been to each others houses many ...
A: You didn't tell me an awful lot of stuff, so I don't have much to go on here, but let's see if I can ...
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| Is he gay or bisexual? | 9/24/2008 |
Q: how could i start? i've known all my life that i am bisexual, but the society i live in does not ...
A: Let's try to figure things out. It is sometimes difficult in cultures that do not allow free ...
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| oral sex | 9/23/2008 |
Q: Im a older gay guy who loves to give oral sex.My question is: Im very concerned with std.I do not ...
A: If you and your partner(s) are careful and clean (tested and the like), then you need not be too ...
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| Love(?) | 9/19/2008 |
Q: I am gay and I am ashamed of it... One of my friend is bi sexual and we do different kind of things ...
A: Why do you feel ashamed of being gay? Maybe you don't need to feel ashamed of it, but rather of how ...
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| anal sex | 9/7/2008 |
Q: o gay guy ...me n my bf r thinkin bout havin anal sex..how do we go about?...i know its not as easy ...
A: Yes it's important to clean the areas quite well, for all sorts of reasons, STDs being the biggest, ...
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| Confused in Atlanta | 8/28/2008 |
Q: I just started working for a major corporation. I am a 23 year old male and fairly new to "the ...
A: As you can see from how you get your information and what is going on here, that this whole ...
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| what's happening | 8/25/2008 |
Q: i guess i'll start off by saying i'm a junior in HS (all boy school by the way) and i recently ...
A: Hey Marc Well, it is obvious that this guy does have some sort of feeling for you, but what it can ...
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| wat's wrong with me? | 8/16/2008 |
Q: hey adrian. i'm a 16 year old girl. i THINK i am straight but i dunno ( i have a question regarding ...
A: First off, you need to take a deep breath :) Relax, let's figute this one out ok? I want to ...
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| Confusion | 8/10/2008 |
Q: I'm really confused about my sexuality. I've never had sex and never really felt the need to. I'm ...
A: Let's try to figure this one out :-) I always ask myself: can see myself spending my life with ...
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| Am I Gay, Straight, Bi, or just a phase ? | 8/10/2008 |
Q: I have had this question stuck in my mind for a while now. This question is one that makes me think ...
A: You can relax my friend! You are not gay. Being straight or gay had got nothing to do with ...
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| Crush on a | 7/28/2008 |
Q: Hey Adriaan, my name is Matt, I'm 18 years old and I am here to ask you for your advice on yet ...
A: Matt I found myself staring at your poetry, and it changed my life. That such words can come from ...
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| P.S. | 7/28/2008 |
Q: I'm sorry to be sending you another message Adriaan but I felt I was not thorough enough when ...
A: ) Well, you are truly blessed if you can have a friend like this! Why can't you guys keep in ...
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| Crush on a "straight" friend...go figure? lol | 7/28/2008 |
Q: Hey Adriaan, my name is Matt, I'm 18 years old and I am here to ask you for your advice on yet ...
A: I feel like such an idiot now... I read your letters the wrong way around! You have already told me ...
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| Lonely | 7/20/2008 |
Q: I am a 20 yr old gay male. I currently attend a small college in Minnesota, USA, surrounded by a ...
A: You have to know one thing first of all... It's never easy for anyone, straight or gay, young or ...
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| Why Is my Gay Friend's boyfriend Acting so Weird with Me? | 7/14/2008 |
Q: my best male friend who is gay (I'm straight female) has been going out with his boyfriend for a ...
A: I must first off tell you, that you should not put too much of an emphasis on what he says or does ...
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| ......... the fuck? | 7/6/2008 |
Q: i was just wondering, see i'm a boy and have recently "DISCOVERED" my orientation, and i am in love ...
A: Well, thereare lots of ways to find out if he is gay, and it sometimes depend on how old you guys ...
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| confusion? | 6/4/2008 |
Q: I am a gay female and I go to a all female gym every week. Since March 2008 I saw this young woman ...
A: You are right, you are reading way too much into all of this. But don't panic, that's normal! We ...
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| Gay or Bi | 6/3/2008 |
Q: I think I am Bi/sexual but in America today or at lest in NYC today its not in voge to be bi. People ...
A: In this day and age we tend to live our lives through other people's ideas. This is wrong. We ...
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| gay | 5/10/2008 |
Q: I want to know how started this kind of sex
A: My first language is also not English, but I am having a hard time understanding what you are ...
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| HOW!??????????? | 5/8/2008 |
Q: ok so i have been obsessed with this one guy since i moved here and i always thought that he might ...
A: Tobi, There is a very fine line between liking/lusting/loving someone and obession. You need to ...
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| CAN I DO IT? | 5/2/2008 |
Q: since we were both each other's firsts i was wondering if it was ok to have raw sex? i mean since we ...
A: Unfortunately, STDs are sexually TRANSMITTED diseases and not sexually ACQUIRED diseases. The ...
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| hey there Adriaan from kenneth in midrand | 3/11/2008 |
Q: my name is kenneth and i am a white gay male living in Johannesburg .Adrinaan i have this one black ...
A: Nice to read a letter from someone closer to home! I have also believed that love goes beyound skin ...
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| I dont know if im straight or bi | 3/6/2008 |
Q: i was reading a question on this guy name peter. he has got the same problem as i have. but he was ...
A: I still say, relax! :-) You are not gay. The reason why you start feeling gay when you are ...
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| I dont know if im straight or bi | 3/5/2008 |
Q: i was reading a question on this guy name peter. he has got the same problem as i have. but he was ...
A: Well, it's hard to always guess the right answer here, must most of the time it's just the hormones ...
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| should i take the leap? | 2/28/2008 |
Q: Well first off, I think it's really cool that there are people out there who are willing to listen ...
A: I must rather thank you for trusting me with all these intimate things of your life. Let's try and ...
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| Porn | 2/23/2008 |
Q: So here is the problem, I like guys and I get turned on by looking at gay porn, well I like to ...
A: Well, Johnathan The obvious answer would be to look at porn when your parents aren't around! Or ...
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| What should i do in this situation | 2/21/2008 |
Q: Earlier this year, one of my friends came out to me. He's 18 and im 17. I had no idea that he was ...
A: Sorry for replying so late I hope that I can still help a little, but I'm afraid I might be too ...
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| hallucinating! | 2/20/2008 |
Q: I'm in love with this guy and I can't tell if he's in love w/ me. I mean, he touches me and flirt ...
A: It's going to sound harsh, but you will have to choose. We don't always get the complete package we ...
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| What to do | 2/19/2008 |
Q: I've done something wrong. My roomate is female and she has a boyfriend, well kind of, they won't ...
A: Im not one that likes subterfuge and skulking around in the dark where relationships are concerned. ...
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| moving in together | 2/13/2008 |
Q: I've been with the same guy for over a year, and love him dearly, but it keeps coming up that he ...
A: Moving in together is a major step in any kind of relationship and even more so in a gay one, since ...
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| Confused ex | 2/10/2008 |
Q: I'm a 22 year-old gay guy from the Philippines, and my 19-year old boyfriend broke up with me ...
A: After reading your letter, I have to tell you, that a guy with as much passion and intellect as you ...
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| my boyfreind wants to have sex | 1/19/2008 |
Q: im 16 years old and my boyfreind is 17. he says that he really wants to have sex and that he loves ...
A: Anal sex does hurt the first time. There are a couple of reasons, the main two is, that you will be ...
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| my boyfreind wants to have sex | 1/17/2008 |
Q: im 16 years old and my boyfreind is 17. he says that he really wants to have sex and that he loves ...
A: It depends in what country you are and if sex is consensual, but in most countries you are ...
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| being gay | 1/9/2008 |
Q: my name is Chance i am 18 years old and have an issue on my hands...I grew up in church and have ...
A: You should rather ask that question for yourself. Don't live your life FOR other people, do it for ...
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| Gay Friend? | 1/9/2008 |
Q: To be blunt, My name is Aaron, I'm only 14 years old, but I'm positive that I'm gay. Everybody tells ...
A: Sorry for taking so long to respond. I would never use age as a reason not to have true feelings. ...
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| omg i'm so stupid | 12/28/2007 |
Q: OH GOD. I am so dumb... well regardless to say, this is what happened.. I'm gay, and I have a best ...
A: Do not be so hard on yourself. Afterall, you are also just human! Remember that what you did, you ...
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| Wrong? | 12/26/2007 |
Q: First of all I am 16 1/2 and I have a crush on my cousin, is this wrong? Also I have a crush on my ...
A: It depends on in which your country you are, but in most countries, doing anything sexual with ...
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| Friend could be closeted? | 12/18/2007 |
Q: Is it possible for a guy to try to hide being gay by hooking up with lots of girls and constantly ...
A: Well it looks like your friend is more uncomfortable about the idea to himself than he is ...
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| Confused | 12/9/2007 |
Q: I have gone on some gay dating sites and they have had things like "the flavor: what am i ...
A: Let's see: * JO is Jerk Off, as in masturbate * LTR is Long Term Relationship * WS I am not sure of ...
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| Hopeless? | 12/6/2007 |
Q: I guess I should explain myself first off. This is hard for me to type so bare with me because I'm ...
A: One thing we (desperate?) gay guys do when we DO meet a guy, we start to rationalize (you call it... ...
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| Friend could be closeted? | 12/5/2007 |
Q: Is it possible for a guy to try to hide being gay by hooking up with lots of girls and constantly ...
A: sorry for taking so long to reply Your friend sounds like he is really trying hard not be seen as ...
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| Gay rights | 11/30/2007 |
Q: What do you think would happen to the human race if every person was gay? Would we cease to exist?
A: Well, no not at all. Being gay is not just about having sex with someone with the same gender, it's ...
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| Hard time dating | 11/26/2007 |
Q: I've been getting really frustrated lately. I have a hard time dating. My last 3 potential dates ...
A: Well, when someone fights with you from out of the blue it usually means they feel guilty and it's a ...
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| This boy at work >.< | 11/14/2007 |
Q: Well I'm an 18 year old boy and well we'll just say that I'm gay hehe... It's also pretty easy for ...
A: Josh, if you ever need to talk to someone about things, or about him or if you just need someone you ...
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| lesbian | 11/8/2007 |
Q: I have a girlfriend who is said a lesbian(I'm straight). Some of my other friends heard that she has ...
A: Firstly, if you think she is lesbian and if she says she's lesbian, then you shouldn't be worried ...
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| This boy at work >.< | 11/8/2007 |
Q: Well I'm an 18 year old boy and well we'll just say that I'm gay hehe... It's also pretty easy for ...
A: Josh, it entirely depends on how the 'date' is going. If you are in the movies and he sits with ...
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| what the hell? | 11/7/2007 |
Q: i am 17 years old, always loved and wanted to have sex with beautiful women, and still do!! i have a ...
A: Ok calm down, hehe, you are not gay. Being gay is more than just wanting to sleep with men and ...
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| Kyle here again.. I didn't know how to continue my last message. ahh. | 11/6/2007 |
Q: Anyway, ur amazing! I wanted to make you understand Sam and my relationship... I don't really ever ...
A: Hey Kyle! Man, I'm so jealous! You have it so easy with your 'hunt'! My hunt is a little more ...
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| Straight friend? | 11/6/2007 |
Q: I am a 26 year old gay man and live with my 22 year old best friend. We are really close and he is ...
A: Mike, I will try to answer your question with a story about my life. I have a friend, who is ...
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| This boy at work >.< | 11/6/2007 |
Q: Well I'm an 18 year old boy and well we'll just say that I'm gay hehe... It's also pretty easy for ...
A: Step out of your gay body for a second and think about this logically... A guy smiling at another ...
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| Can you help me determine if someone is gay? | 11/5/2007 |
Q: I'm Kyle, I'm a junior in high school. I'm 16 and I'm gay. I think so anyway. I adore girls I think ...
A: You are probably the first person that I have ever spoken to via this website or even in real life, ...
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| Having a difficult life. | 11/3/2007 |
Q: my question may be a little bit different. I know that i am gay/bi and i want to know if there is ...
A: I believe that every person is entitled to his own life and that we don't live our lives FOR someone ...
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| i'm confused "is he gay, straight or bi" | 10/29/2007 |
Q: hey, i need some advice, i'm only 16, I like this guy, but i dont know for sure if he's gay or ...
A: sorry for answering so late! If a guy wants to be with another guy, he likes guys. It's really ...
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| What should i do? | 10/28/2007 |
Q: I know i am gay. Although since I'm catholic and am in a religious family, I'm going to go to hell ...
A: Sorry for replying so late, hope I can still help a little! Coming to grips with your orientation ...
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| Clever practicalities for the gay newbie | 10/27/2007 |
Q: Try not to laugh. Embarrassed to ask. I recently came to grips with being Bi, and have found little ...
A: First off, stop panicking! It's just sex, you know, it's not like you're hiding an atomic bomb! ...
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| help | 10/25/2007 |
Q: on the outside, I'm a lesbian woman. that's only because my outside doesn't match my inside; inside ...
A: Well, I understand your situation a little better now. As I have said before, I am more of a ...
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| help | 10/22/2007 |
Q: on the outside, I'm a lesbian woman. that's only because my outside doesn't match my inside; inside ...
A: I have always believed in honesty, telling the truth. Sometimes it hurts, but in the long run, it ...
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| boyfriend douches in the morning | 10/21/2007 |
Q: my boyfriend douched this morning before leaving for a wedding and work for the day... is this ...
A: It is nog uncommon for someone to douche when they want to feel better. If you however think that ...
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| Gloryholes | 10/7/2007 |
Q: Do you know id Johannesburg has any gloryholes. Ive seen them on the internet, but dont know of they ...
A: You will find gloryholes in public restrooms in malls and petrol stations, but you must consider the ...
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| Need help | 10/2/2007 |
Q: I want to become a anwserer (if that is even right) im only 16 1/2 on these topics i now ill be good ...
A: They call us 'experts' on this site. Answerer is not a word, hehe! But don't worry! I guess you ...
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| Hopeless? | 10/2/2007 |
Q: I guess I should explain myself first off. This is hard for me to type so bare with me because I'm ...
A: Well, you ask one of the most difficult questions there is for gay guys... Is that guy gay? It is ...
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| Bathhouses & Darkrooms | 9/30/2007 |
Q: I have heard of bathhouses, but not Darkrooms. What are they? Have you been to any? What about the ...
A: As you know, bathhouses is an old Roman Empire concept where men used to all bathe together while ...
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| WANT A SEX PARTNER AROUND GAUTENG | 9/29/2007 |
Q: I'm still in the closet with regard to gay life. I want to experiment but far away from my province. ...
A: Why don't you pick up the gay newspaper, Exit? It has lots of ads of male companions. You can also ...
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| Massage | 9/28/2007 |
Q: I was wondering if it was against the law to receive an erotic massage by trained and licensed men. ...
A: Since I do not live in your country, it is difficult for me to know what the laws are in your ...
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| WANT A SEX PARTNER AROUND GAUTENG | 9/26/2007 |
Q: I'm still in the closet with regard to gay life. I want to experiment but far away from my province. ...
A: Hey Didi Well, there are lots of places you can try, gay clubs, bars if you can pick someone up ...
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| shit i need help | 9/26/2007 |
Q: hey wats up Adrian, im nando im a 17 year old gay guy with a depressing problem.. see im 17 and ive ...
A: Asking someone out, probably the most difficult thing in the world! Just kidding! It's actually ...
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| shit i need help | 9/22/2007 |
Q: hey wats up Adrian, im nando im a 17 year old gay guy with a depressing problem.. see im 17 and ive ...
A: Hey hey Nando! Well, you could be just butt-ugly? JOKING! JOKING! But seriously, he might just ...
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| shit i need help | 9/20/2007 |
Q: hey wats up Adrian, im nando im a 17 year old gay guy with a depressing problem.. see im 17 and ive ...
A: Let's see what we can do. First off, of you think you are old enough to date and to handle a ...
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| cheat | 9/15/2007 |
Q: basically me and my bf had some issues a while back. cheating. i have forgiven it. yet recently i ...
A: Well, yes, if your bf is showing those kind of signs, it could mean he feels guilty and is ...
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| Painful... | 8/30/2007 |
Q: I normall bottom during intercorse and go weeks or months inbettween incounters..thusly every single ...
A: To be honest, it will always hurt when someone goes in there. It was not really meant for sex, and ...
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| dealing with my life. | 8/24/2007 |
Q: "Hi Adriaan i would like to say thankyou for helping everyone else who's asked you a question ive ...
A: Do not worry about long letters, the more we chat, the more we figure things out! I must tell you ...
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| I need advice about my best friend | 8/18/2007 |
Q: What's up Adriaan, how are you bro? Anyways..I'm sure you get a lot of questions about people having ...
A: Well James, thats quite a mouthful, hehe! Let's figure this one out. Honesty always stays the best ...
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| how can I find a boyfriend or someone else who is gay if everyone my age is in the closet? | 8/16/2007 |
Q: ok so im 14 and have recently started telling my close friends that im gay. I haven't told any guys ...
A: -) Let's figure this one out. I know it feels like everyone's in the closet. We all go some phases ...
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| Queer activists in South Africa | 8/12/2007 |
Q: Great to see a guy from South Africa, I envy your liberal Constitution and the Bill of Rights that ...
A: Hey there Brett! Yes, we never have always had a very liberal Bill of Rights, not so much detailing ...
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| Finding someone | 7/25/2007 |
Q: I've recently came out and have no idea on how to find a potential bf. One of the problems is that ...
A: Let's try to figure this one out! How you act should not constitute who you are. First off you ...
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| pubes | 7/18/2007 |
Q: I really wanted to know if we are able to shave our pubes? I mean well course we can but when i look ...
A: Sorry for replying so late! Many men shave their pubic hair these days. There are many reasons for ...
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| I Need Some Clarity | 6/16/2007 |
Q: I'm currently dealing with a huge burden inside my own eighteen-year-old head and not a single ...
A: let's try to figure it out together. If I had to analyze you by your mannerisms and the way you ...
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| i to tell if he's gay! | 6/15/2007 |
Q: hey what up bro. recently i have had my eye on this guy in school and i really like him, but it ...
A: Hey Frank! Well, you should trust your feelings (but keep on using your brain!) and the rule here ...
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| Lube | 6/4/2007 |
Q: I'm new to this but I wanted to know, What is lube? I hear about it and don't know what it is, (by ...
A: Lube is short for lubricant, and it's exactly the what it says. It does the same as what oil would ...
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| crush on my possibly bi friend | 6/1/2007 |
Q: My name's Matt and I'm 21 yrs. old and I have a HUGE crush on my best friend who's turning 20. We ...
A: I must apologize for taking so long to answer your questions, I have had problems connecting to the ...
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| Massage | 5/23/2007 |
Q: I am not Gay, but would like to get a sensual massage by a masseuer. I am actually a happily ...
A: It is not wrong at all to have a desire to be pampered. You must realize that having a full body ...
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| HELP!!!!!!!!!!! | 5/23/2007 |
Q: I am in so much trouble that I don't even know what to do. First of all, let me tell you a little ...
A: Gary I am so sorry that you have lost the people you love in the process, but if they couldn't ...
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| HELP!!!!!!!!!!! | 5/17/2007 |
Q: I am in so much trouble that I don't even know what to do. First of all, let me tell you a little ...
A: My friend, you do have a bit of a complicated situation, I must agree, but the solution is very ...
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| Gay life at work | 5/11/2007 |
Q: Howdy. I got a question for ya. I have recently got a new boss at work. He is a real jack ass. But I ...
A: Hey Kevin! Discrimination at work because of sexual orientation is a big problem, almost anywhere. ...
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| Gay boyfriend? | 5/3/2007 |
Q: I am in love with the most wonderful man, we have had a relationship for over 2 years.Everything is ...
A: When a man sleeps with a man dressed as a woman, it does not make him gay. To be straight or gay ...
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| Need Help please! | 4/23/2007 |
Q: I have a boyfriend and he is straight no signs of gayness except one thing he is big on getting it ...
A: If you mean that you boyfriend likes to have anal sex with 'getting it at his end', then no, it does ...
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| Gay | 4/20/2007 |
Q: Is it true that people become a gay if they are bullied at birth?
A: The answer is definitely NO. People do not become gay either, it is just how we are. It is like ...
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| doctor | 4/15/2007 |
Q: how can i tell the doctor I'm gay? will he tell my parents? what extra exams will he do to me?
A: I do not know how old you are so I cannot be sure how your doctor will react, but usually if you ...
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| About my friend!!! | 4/14/2007 |
Q: I have a friend who I've known since last July, but we really started hanging out a lot since the ...
A: I apologise for taking so long to reply, I didnt have access to the internet for some time. I'm ...
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| Unsure about myself... | 4/10/2007 |
Q: I know I don't like girls at all, whereas I find myself attracted physically to men. I've known this ...
A: What you are feeling is doubt in yourself. Yup, just that! You are just afraid of being with a ...
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| Could my friend be interested in me... | 4/1/2007 |
Q: I'm 18 years old and live in a small Swedish community in Minnesota. I've know about my bisexuality ...
A: There is a few things I would like to mention first. You have to remember that when we like someone ...
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| internal damage ? | 3/31/2007 |
Q: After years of trying to tell myself I wasn't attracted to men I've finally taken the plunge and ...
A: The pictures you've seen you probably got from some porn site? Those guys do it 20 times a day! ...
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| 3 way | 3/30/2007 |
Q: My partner and I (3months) have an issue with a 3 way - he wants it and I do not - he promises not ...
A: Threesomes in my opinion are always a bad idea. There are some positives that can come from a ...
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| Attractive Women | 3/30/2007 |
Q: I've been questioning my sexuality for a while now and I was wondering what goes through the mind ...
A: Well, the short easy answer to your questions is that it would be the same as when a straight man ...
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| bareback | 3/29/2007 |
Q: G'day Adriaan, just wanting to know me and my partner steve have been in a loving relationship for 2 ...
A: Hey there James and Steve! Biology and medicine are never 100% in anything, unfortunately. There ...
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| a follow up | 3/23/2007 |
Q: As a follow up.I tried to do the follow up the normal route but it wouldnt work. My boyfriend has to ...
A: That nagging feeling you have, we all have, but that is exactly where trust comes in. If you are ...
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| being gay in south africa | 3/4/2007 |
Q: i was intrigued by your remarks, because you state that gays do not live openly in SA? i ask why ...
A: Hey Mike! Thank you for your great comments! Yes, we can marry now, yay! Yes, we have one of the ...
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| cud u help plz! | 3/3/2007 |
Q: The text above is a follow-up to ... -----Question-----The text above is a follow-up to ... ...
A: Hey Alex Having these thoughts are not uncommon. You might just be curious about it, but you would ...
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| cud u help plz! | 3/2/2007 |
Q: The text above is a follow-up to ... -----Question-----The text above is a follow-up to ... ...
A: Hey Alex Yes, most people are scared of being gay. It's because society doesn't 'really' accept ...
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| cud u help plz! | 3/1/2007 |
Q: The text above is a follow-up to ... -----Question-----The text above is a follow-up to ... ...
A: You can't really be scared into becoming gay, you either are or you aren't gay :) Sometimes people ...
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| cud u help plz! | 2/28/2007 |
Q: The text above is a follow-up to ... -----Question-----hello i am a young male who is finding ...
A: It is a very strange question that you are asking.. What is it to be gay? The answer is even ...
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| cud u help plz! | 2/26/2007 |
Q: The text above is a follow-up to ... -----Question-----hello i am a young male who is finding ...
A: Hey again Alex! You sound like you have a vivid imagination, that's all! It's a good thing, I can ...
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| cud u help plz! | 2/25/2007 |
Q: The text above is a follow-up to ... -----Question----- hello i am a young male who is finding ...
A: Hey again Alex What you have told me and the way to speak about things, I do not think you are gay ...
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| my cousin | 2/15/2007 |
Q: My cousin is in his early 50's, good looking, good educated and having a good pay job. He's been ...
A: I apologise for taking so long to reply, I have been away and did not have internet access. I hope ...
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| cud u help plz! | 2/11/2007 |
Q: i dnt get turned on by blokes or nythin but cud this be a sign im gay i mean i wish i luked like sum ...
A: Lots of gay men like to watch lesbian porn, don't worry! I think it's because there are more than ...
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| hey | 2/6/2007 |
Q: oh yeah i would take it slow with the notes and hints. it's taken me like 3 years and i still ...
A: Hey! Which Instant Messenger do you use, we can always chat on that or email that way, Tim. I ...
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| plz help | 2/5/2007 |
Q: I do not hav feelings for boys and do not look at gay porn but I get visions in my head of my mates ...
A: Hey Alex Lets see what we can sort out here :) I don't want to sound like your sex-ed teacher ...
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| my friend | 2/4/2007 |
Q: this is my first time asking anything on a site like this, but my question is about my friend Sean. ...
A: It's sometimes difficult to gauge people's reasons for liking or not liking something, especially if ...
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| cud u help plz! | 2/3/2007 |
Q: i dnt get turned on by blokes or nythin but cud this be a sign im gay i mean i wish i luked like sum ...
A: Hey there Alex Thank yo for trusting me with your deepest feelings, let's try to figure out what to ...
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| hey | 2/1/2007 |
Q: yeah that was weird it was bounced back. oh well, thanks for the answer yet again. I like the ...
A: Hey You are just a little scared that life as you know it might fall apart if you tell him, right? ...
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| Tired, missing somebody | 1/31/2007 |
Q: First of all I want to tell you that I'm in a very very weird and difficult situation. Ok, there's ...
A: let's see what we can figure out here :) You have to remember that when we meet someone they cannot ...
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| hey | 1/24/2007 |
Q: yeah i don't think i should say anything.lol i just got the chance to call him yesterday. he still ...
A: Hey there Tim Well, he could just be talking big on his mySpace not to sound stupid for his friends ...
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| when is the right time? continues... | 1/19/2007 |
Q: Hope you still remember me. So i took your advice and told him that I love him. I said it when we ...
A: Ofcourse I remember you :) It seems that your guy still needs to roam around a little, have some ...
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| confused | 1/14/2007 |
Q: I'm a married older (in gay terms) guy who love having sex with guys, but it is causing tremendous ...
A: I apologize for taking so long to reply, my internet was off for a while since we moved offices at ...
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| cum | 1/13/2007 |
Q: I'm new to this so yeah, well anyway I have been looking at gay porn also I have always wanted to ...
A: Hey Sam You can try to lie on your back with your dick above your head and cum that way. It is ...
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| I know I'm not but... | 1/6/2007 |
Q: Hey again, Adriaan ;) Sorry to keep asking but I just need someone to talk about my fears. Since I ...
A: Hey there Connor, sorry for replaying so late, I had no internet for a while since we moved offices ...
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| hey | 12/22/2006 |
Q: yeah that was like 3 years ago when he said that but he was the one that brought it up--i never said ...
A: But 3 years ago he was like 12yrs old? How much could he have understood about these things then ...
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| when is the right time? | 12/3/2006 |
Q: .You know I even sent him text msgs in afrikaans, do you think its sweet? and im trying to learn ...
A: Well, if he is South African and white, he will fall into one of two categories. He is either very ...
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| when is the right time? | 12/1/2006 |
Q: How are you? English isnt my first language so please bear with me :). So here's my story. I met ...
A: Hey Jason My first language is Afrikaans, so don't worry about the broken English, mine is worse! ...
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| I want to but.... | 11/29/2006 |
Q: I am 15 turning 16 and I know this guy we arn't really friends but we get on well if we have group ...
A: Hey Samuel Well, about your friend you dont know is gay, why not go for a drink or burger or ...
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| Deep down I know I'm not but.... | 11/23/2006 |
Q: ) Like I say I've been straight for all my life and my i started questioning my sexuality ...
A: Just a quick note, my name is Adriaan :) Pretorius is my surname. I have been gay since I was a ...
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| foreplay? | 11/22/2006 |
Q: i am new to this and i was wondering what foreplay was? i hear it alot and i want to know, thanks
A: Hey there Tom Foreplay involves very many different things for different people, but tradionally it ...
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| Deep down I know I'm not but.... | 11/18/2006 |
Q: Hey I've just turned 16 and for all of my life I've been straight. I would always check out girls ...
A: Let's put things to rest... you are not gay. Rejoice! :) Now the reasons. You and your mom are ...
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| Help | 11/18/2006 |
Q: I'm a 20 year old gay male and I know this guy (who's really HOT) and I really want to have sex with ...
A: I will try to help :) If friends decide to step over the friendship line and become more, there are ...
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| I don't think I'm gay, but... | 11/10/2006 |
Q: Your answer really helped me alot and I feel relief but there were some that I haven't mention. I ...
A: Hey again Mike I am not so sure what your question is this time, but after you've yold me about ...
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| Dildo | 11/8/2006 |
Q: Hey, what could i use insead of of a dildo cause i want to masturbate sucking on it to know what it ...
A: You can try to use anything that is the correct form, but food is the best choice, since if you ...
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| Thanks | 11/5/2006 |
Q: I always see this or read this when I look at gay porn and well I want to know what it is and what ...
A: Hey again Jack Right, first off, rimming is a fantastic feeling that someone can give you, but you ...
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| Hoping hes gay/bi | 11/5/2006 |
Q: I'm a 17 year old bisexual male. A year and a half ago, i met this kid Eric at my new job, and at ...
A: J. First off, thanks for trusting me with this very private part of your life, let's try to figure ...
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| thank you | 11/3/2006 |
Q: lol thanks. yeah i was annoyed he blew me off for the other friends but he has said before why ...
A: Tim! My romantic friend, Tim... :) I can give you some opinions based only on what you've told me, ...
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| Demla | 11/3/2006 |
Q: To help you out im 15 and my parents would probley find the package and opann it then i would be ...
A: There isnt a lot you can do short of letting someone else buy it for you, or sendign the package to ...
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| Help | 11/3/2006 |
Q: Thanks
A: Hey Jack! Losing weight depends on how you got it in the first place! Also, I do not know your ...
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| Confused | 11/3/2006 |
Q: I don't know if i am gay, is there like a test or a few questions to tell if you are or not? Also I ...
A: Hey again Jack! If you talk to guys and if you watch naked guys, if you like to watch naked guys ...
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| Porn | 11/2/2006 |
Q: I do enjoy watching gay porn, but I don't know any gay porn sites that are 100% FREE, can you help? ...
A: Hey Jack Free porn sites dont really exist on the internet, you can try GayMoviePost, GayMovieList, ...
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| why do i think im gay? i know im not.... | 10/22/2006 |
Q: i have had not thoughts about homosexuality like having sex with other men doesnt get me eroused at ...
A: Hey Peter! First things first... Relax! You are not gay. :-D Yup, I don't think you are. Don't ...
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| stuck up not knowing what to do | 10/20/2006 |
Q: i tried the old fashioned note writing way,actually sms but..i guess everything ended just before i ...
A: Hey again! Thanks for the nice comments! About the ignoring and avoiding bit, some people just ...
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| stuck up not knowing what to do | 10/13/2006 |
Q: adriaan, I'm a 17-year-old male Australian and I have this friend, a gay, whom I have, no, once had ...
A: Hey GG! This is for sure the worst thing that could happen to someone (not just gay) that have ...
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| Found Out | 10/5/2006 |
Q: Hey That guy e-mailed me back, but he is from Canada so I asked him if he knew anyone from were I ...
A: Yes ofcourse, keep with this website, it is usually a safe place to meet and chat, even if it's just ...
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| Gay Relationships | 10/4/2006 |
Q: Ok here is my situation. I have been fooling around with this man for 6 weeks now and I am falling ...
A: Two seperate issues here, it seems! Hehe! Ok, the first one, to 3-way or not to 3-way... That is ...
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| Gay | 10/3/2006 |
Q: I have told my mum that I like guys but she said it was a phase, I don't know that if it isn't then ...
A: There one small problem here is your age. Unfortunately, no one wants to 'believe' you at you're ...
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| Gay Life | 10/3/2006 |
Q: I really thought it was helpful but there were some problems but the major one being the fact I am ...
A: It is hard to define how you know you are gay. The one that I find useful is to ask yourself if you ...
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| hi | 10/3/2006 |
Q: i am a gay man aged 22. i would like to ask bout anal sexy what to do and not to do to make unal sex ...
A: There are many different things to try with anal sex. One thing is true, though, sadly, it will ...
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| Confused | 9/29/2006 |
Q: I wanted to know if you were gay? I am really so if I have caused any offence by asking this I just ...
A: Yes, I am gay. And everything you've talked about in your question is all fine! Relax! It is all ...
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| gaylife | 9/28/2006 |
Q: i'm having only 3.5 inches dick in erection.can i satisfy a womenRespected sir, i'm here to ask u a ...
A: 3.5 inches is an average length and would not be a problem at all! Size really doesn't make a ...
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| gaylife | 9/28/2006 |
Q: Respected sir, i'm here to ask u a question that i'm a gay.so there is no erection when i was with a ...
A: I am going to assume you are a male and of a legal age. Gay people can ofcourse have sex with ...
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| Gay Life | 9/25/2006 |
Q: "I have masturbated before but I want to take it a step further, I would like to try gay means of ...
A: I have to mention that if you know how to masturbate, there isn't a whole lot more you can do, short ...
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| how do i know for sure | 6/16/2006 |
Q: thats in simple phrase, but why every time when i do the fantasies i feel vwey welcom to blow ...
A: While reading your letters I thought of only one thing. You are such a good person! you are trying ...
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| First it was great and then.... | 6/15/2006 |
Q: Never in my life would I feel the need to solicit advise but that is exactly what I am doing. I am ...
A: sorry for getting back to you so late, I have been away to the UK. In fact, I am still in the UK ...
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| Queer fundraising | 6/7/2006 |
Q: We are a near-retirement couple (23 years) who have moved to Fountain City (KNoxville, TN) from ...
A: First off, I must congratulate you on a lifetime together! We all know that gy relationship years ...
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| Loneliness | 5/6/2006 |
Q: It has been three days since I watched Brokeback Mountain and at the same time I've also felt so sad ...
A: I'll try to help :) Firstly, stop apologising! You should never have to apologise for begin who you ...
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| a little help | 5/4/2006 |
Q: i ahvent ever tried anything with anotehr guy nor do i want to. id much rather be with a girl....so ...
A: You have answered your question yourself, if you think about it. You'd rather be with a girl. You ...
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| a little help | 5/4/2006 |
Q: hey thanks alot for your reply. i still have a few more questions, though, so as to what you said ...
A: Having thoughts of sex with guys does not make you gay, at all! Just horny. Really! :-) you are ...
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| What to expect? | 4/30/2006 |
Q: I'll try briefly to state my case and questions. Thank you in advance. I have a 13 yo steady ...
A: let's see if I can help a little here 13 years you say? Congratulations! That is a million years ...
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| Gay Man, Straight Relationship? | 3/31/2006 |
Q: my fiance of five years recently came out the he is gay. About a year ago, he thought he was ...
A: I think you have answered you own question, at the end there! Freedom. In my opinion you both felt ...
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| Partner has fallen for another guy | 3/27/2006 |
Q: It has helped me think a lot more. I spoke to a friend last night which helped. They thought it was ...
A: You have to ask yourself in the end, who owns the problem here. He does. And if he doesn't want to ...
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| Partner has fallen for another guy | 3/26/2006 |
Q: I have been with my partner for 3 years now. The sex was great at first and after 8 months we moved ...
A: I Alan First off, thank you for trusting me with all that is private in your life, I hope I will be ...
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| need to know | 3/23/2006 |
Q: i m suffering from phonomena it is the first time to me to disclose it , this phenomena i suffering ...
A: Actually, it is not that weird. As I said, we all have fantasies, and we are even allowed fantasies ...
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| need to know | 3/22/2006 |
Q: i m suffering from phonomena it is the first time to me to disclose it , this phenomena i suffering ...
A: Firstly, I want to tell you, that you are not alone! Millions (if not everyone!) have the same ...
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| need help | 2/25/2006 |
Q: i m confuse very much wish you help i m naturally excited with womens sexuality (i m a male) so i ...
A: My friend, you have answered your own question with your one sentence at the end there. You are ...
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| I am totaly in love with my boyfreind but.. | 2/23/2006 |
Q: umm.. well i'm 15 years old and live in canada, I am totaly in love with my 14 yearold boyfreind, ...
A: There are millions of reasons why should you should NOT lie to your mom or even take the trip to ...
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| Anal Sex | 2/16/2006 |
Q: I've noticed in gay sex videos when they guys are having anal sex their dicks always seem to remain ...
A: Yes, indeed, there are some steps before you engage in anal sex! Just like you never see the guys ...
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| about hiv | 2/15/2006 |
Q: how are you? Dear i want to ask you some thing about hiv. you know i have told you earlier that i ...
A: Sorry for answering so late, my internet have been giving problems. I am also not too sure I ...
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| am i gay? | 2/7/2006 |
Q: I’m 21 years old and have been struggling with the gay question since I was a teenager and even ...
A: Let me put your mind at ease. You are as straight as they come! It's all about emotions and love and ...
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| Changing | 1/26/2006 |
Q: Hey dude, I have decided to live a straight life.Could you tell me some instances where one can make ...
A: I must be honest and say that is not really such a thing as going straight. It's not that I am very ...
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| Your advice | 1/18/2006 |
Q: It is very well known that there is a strong correlation between a homosexual orientation and AIDS. ...
A: Well, the answer is simple ofcourse. Use a condom! I do not agree however that sexual diseases go ...
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| to be a girl | 1/14/2006 |
Q: Because of some limitations in our country, I have to do some feminine works when I am alone. ...
A: I don't know all the ins and outs of make-up, but the basics are that you first wash your face with ...
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| to be a girl | 1/10/2006 |
Q: May you select a girlish name for me and guide me step by step to convert into a girl?I am a young ...
A: It would be wrong for me to make these decisions for you, if you would like to rather be a girl ...
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| to be a girl | 1/10/2006 |
Q: I am a young man, 28 years old. Since several years ago, I always like to live like girls, have a ...
A: Sometimes a man feels that he was given the wrong body and should rather have been a woman. you must ...
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| coming out to parents | 12/22/2005 |
Q: I wrote to one of this site's volunteers, asking him about coming out to my parents. I am a 35 ...
A: I hope I can be of some help, particularly since your life is a mirror image of mine. Please excuse ...
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| Bi Curious, sorta | 12/13/2005 |
Q: I'm a 38 year old straight male who has a curiosity about anal sex with another man. I have dated ...
A: I apologise for replying so late, I had some difficulty getting onto the internet to read my email. ...
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| Presents | 12/4/2005 |
Q: I guess you would have notice christmas is coming closer and closer each and everyday. And you would ...
A: Before we talk about Christmas, let me ask you this: We have spoken quite a few times through ...
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| Me and MY bf | 11/28/2005 |
Q: I mailed to you the last time about my relationship problems and want to thank you for your advice. ...
A: I am sorry to have taken so long to answer, I had some trouble logging onto the internet from home. ...
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| my friend | 11/26/2005 |
Q: im 14 year old male and my friend is a 13 year old male.we have been best friends for 8 years. so me ...
A: I am so very sorry that I didn't write to you earlier, I had some trouble with my internet at home. ...
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| asking someone out | 11/6/2005 |
Q: im 18 years old and im gay. I like to look at gay porn and have a wank and don't really want to live ...
A: I will try to help. There is a few things that concern me. Do you KNOW this other boy is gay? You ...
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| Confused about my sexuality | 10/14/2005 |
Q: My life goes on as a normal gay with no worries of my boyfriend, personal life and everything else ...
A: I'm not sure if you have a question this time around, so I will give some general advice. About ...
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| Confused about my sexuality | 9/22/2005 |
Q: Hey Adriaan, I'm Eric, 19, a college students, a normal life like hanging out with friends. But I'm ...
A: Hey there Eric! Firstly, let me say thank you for trusting me with your private thoughts, I will ...
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| Whats wrong with my relationship.... | 8/9/2005 |
Q: I will try to keep this as short as I can. I have been in a relationship for about 2 years with a ...
A: Your email, sadly, reflects what most of us in same-sex realtionships experience. I can not speak ...
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| Curious about sex with a man | 6/22/2005 |
Q: I'm a 51 y/o straight guy who's tried a lot of different things sexually. I've never been with a ...
A: I will try to help where I can! While it is a good thing to try different things in life (I sure ...
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| Is it worth it,Big Dilemma | 5/6/2005 |
Q: I am a 21 year old single black female with no children,who has recently broken up with my boyfriend ...
A: I will try and help as much as I can. Your story is a sad one and quite complex. I truly believe ...
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| living in oklahoma, usa | 4/15/2005 |
Q: Louis, Missouri for the last 4 days. Anyway my real question is and I don't know if you can answer ...
A: Firstly, thanks so much for the lovely note to me and Jack (his name is actually Jandre, sort of a ...
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| does he like me | 4/12/2005 |
Q: I'm 15 and am not sure yet if I'm gay or not. There is a guy at my high school that I really like ...
A: Hey Will! Thanks so much for trusting me with these private stuff of yours! I will try to help :-) ...
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| relationships | 4/3/2005 |
Q: I am a 36 year old man, and I just "became" gay a few years ago. I live in a small redneck town in ...
A: And thank you for trusting me with such private matters, I will try to give advice and offer as much ...
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| discrimination against gays | 2/17/2005 |
Q: Would you feel differently if you had childern that became homosexuals? How do you feel about about ...
A: Sorry I am late, my phoneline was off. I am gay and the only way I could have children was if we ...
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| gay | 2/11/2005 |
Q: i want to no if my friend is gay. first off im 13 male i not shore if im gay i have seen guys nacked ...
A: Sorry for taking so long to reply, my phoneline was off. I hope I still help!! Asking someone if ...
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| hello
my name is Will, 23... | 1/15/2005 |
Q: my name is Will, 23 years and living in the uk. i have a problem with feelings that i have been ...
A: Hey there Will! Firstly, sorry I am replying so late, my phonelines have been down with the storms ...
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| do you fear god | 1/4/2005 |
Q: do you know what happen to prophet lut town god punished them because they were homosexualtiy is sin ...
A: I know the Bible extensively. Sodom and Gomorrah was not struck down because of homosexuality. ...
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| comin out | 12/9/2004 |
Q: I'm a 1st genereation 19 yr old male and am still in the closet sadly. I fear that if i were 2 come ...
A: I apologise for my late reply, my phone line was off for a while, bad weather!!! Let me tell you a ...
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| i am so lonely | 7/29/2004 |
Q: how r u? i read ur bio & i am like u,no body knows i am gay,well i'll tell one thing i am egyptian ...
A: I must first apologise for answering so late, my internet connection was not working. And I want to ...
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| Hello!
Here I am again!... | 7/8/2004 |
Q: Here I am again! Thank you for the constant advise you're giving me. Yeah, honestly, I really ...
A: I have a favor to ask you, and it is all up to you! We have now coresponded here quite alot, and I ...
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Q: ------------------------- Hello Adrian and Jack! My warmest gratitude for the understanding and ...
A: I am still sad about what happened between you two, but relieved to see that you are staying ...
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| Dear Adrian and Jack!
Hello... | 7/2/2004 |
Q: Hello again! I hope I'm not disturbing both of you. It's just that, I sincerely feel your concern ...
A: First off, it saddened me immensely when I read your boyfriend's letter. Please don't worry about ...
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| Hello there again!
Thanks... | 6/25/2004 |
Q: I really have trusted you from the time you replied to my first letter. MY pleasure to have you ...
A: Good day Ian! Let's get right down to business! The reason I keep on saying that he (and you) are ...
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| Hello again!
My apology... | 6/25/2004 |
Q: My apology for not informing you completely about me and my bf. Actually we are going into our 4th ...
A: and for trusting me (a total stranger!) with it all. It warms our hearts to know that a gay couple ...
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| Dear Adrian and Jack!
Thank... | 6/24/2004 |
Q: I really appreciate your bits of advice. I think you are right. Maybe, I'm giving to much love to ...
A: Good day to you, Ian! I have some questions to pose to you as well (I hope you find time to reply ...
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| "Cooling-off" | 6/19/2004 |
Q: First, I would like to inform you about our situation with my gay boyfriend. He is younger than me ...
A: Hey there Ian! Thank you, firstly, for trusting me with your question. I will try to tell you what ...
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| Slip Up | 6/12/2003 |
Q: I struck up a friendly conversation with a woman at a drugstore because she was holding her dog and ...
A: First off, thank you that you take into your confidence with regards to being gay and of what I know ...
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