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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Bisexuality | 2/5/2012 |
| Q: Greetings ! Hoping all is well. Perhaps you can help me out. I am a highly closeted BI Male aged ... A: One's sexuality is no one business, that's the short answer. Straight people don't go around ... | |
| preventing a breakup | 1/29/2012 |
| Q: my name is Alvin. I have been tgt with my boyfriend for 9 months now and things arent getting ... A: The short answer is this: you cannoy force someone to be in a relationship. If he wants out, you ... | |
| Straight woman/gay man issue? | 12/23/2011 |
| Q: I define my orientation as straight, potentially bi, but way more into men than women, and very much ... A: I know the term fag hag sounds quite derogatory, but it's actually just a nice rhyming term, and ... | |
| different pleasure | 12/18/2011 |
| Q: I am 35 single, male 1,70 cm 90kg. I have dated 03 women but I never fell in love with any girl. I ... A: In sexual intercourse many things get triggered and happen, it's quite a complex process, but one of ... | |
| They think I'm a girl | 11/18/2011 |
| Q: I'm 16 and gay. I love to dress like a girl and wear make-up and nail polish. I have grown out my ... A: Hey there Luca We are sometimes forced to live in a certain kind of way, because that is what the ... | |
| I'm gay, or am I? | 10/27/2011 |
| Q: I'm turning 27 next week. I am gay, or at least I think I'm.. I'm in a relationship that is a ... A: You tend to isolate yourself a lot, from what I can get from your letter and this isolation has ... | |
| Finding me? | 10/24/2011 |
| Q: I've been concerned about my sexuality for a long time now. I'm 26 and I don't have a girl friend ... A: Hey there John Being gay is not different from being straight. You like someone, you fall in love, ... | |
| Confusion from Best Friend! | 10/18/2011 |
| Q: I'm 19 and gay. Now my dilemma that I face deals with my Best's friend's true feelings. We met last ... A: Hey there Matt! Let me give you a tip first, stop running so fast! You're skipping some steps ... | |
| Long distance relationship, trouble? | 10/17/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 25, and recently came out as gay, even do I've been dealing with the feeling for the last 8 ... A: Let me be blunt here. Long distance relationships don't exist. The only time a long distance ... | |
| help | 10/7/2011 |
| Q: I have to ask these questions to you please. 1) Is it fair and okay for my boyfriend to have ... A: Hey there There are of course many things to consider, but the short answers to your questions are, ... | |
| Meeting People | 7/29/2011 |
| Q: I'm 18 years old and only a few people know that I'm gay and they are very supportive. It feels like ... A: Hey there Jaydon! Your problem isn't so limited to just the fact that you're gay, you know. Guys ... | |
| Victims of hate crime and police won't help | 7/20/2011 |
| Q: Recently me and my partner went for a night out with friends down the local Chinese restaurant. I'm ... A: I am not a forerunner for violence, but I have to ask why your partner didn't defend himself when he ... | |
| how to deal with gayness ? | 7/11/2011 |
| Q: I am a man in my 28's and know since 15 long years of my gay tendencies. I live in Algeria where ... A: I appreciate your comments and I also enjoyed the contact we've had! Religion has always been a ... | |
| how to deal with gayness ? | 7/6/2011 |
| Q: I am a man in my 28's and know since 15 long years of my gay tendencies. I live in Algeria where ... A: Where religion is concerned, you have to realise that you are basing your finds on only part of the ... | |
| Someone I Like | 7/2/2011 |
| Q: Whee! ================ Hi, My name is Kevin and I am 16 years old and living in the United States. ... A: Hey Kevin! As I can see, you and I do share a lot of ideas. Coming out is a silly concept for me, ... | |
| how to deal with gayness ? | 7/2/2011 |
| Q: I am a man in my 28's and know since 15 long years of my gay tendencies. I live in Algeria where ... A: Let me answer the most important question first, how to stop being gay... You don't. That is like ... | |
| Sexuality | 6/29/2011 |
| Q: I'm having problems with my sexual orientation. I want to say I'm gay but for some reason I have ... A: Sexual attraction is not always physical, it has an emotional side too. If you feel that you can ... | |
| [Family] Criticizing Parents | 6/28/2011 |
| Q: New spectrum! As far as I know today, you have solved all my questions about sexuality. ... but ... A: Hey Nick It's a subtle difference, but sometimes it is HOW you say things, and not what you say. ... | |
| Gay but want to get married to a woman | 6/28/2011 |
| Q: I am an Indian man who wants to get married to a woman. I think I might be gay, and my attraction to ... A: This may come as a shock to you, but all gay men can perform with women. The physical stimulation ... | |
| [Family] Criticizing Parents | 6/26/2011 |
| Q: New spectrum! As far as I know today, you have solved all my questions about sexuality. ... but ... A: Hey Nick, long time no read :-) I am also beginning to understand why you structure your life they ... | |
| what should we do? | 6/23/2011 |
| Q: Me n my gf have been dating for awhile. We are currently engaged. The beginning of the relationship ... A: There is a fine balance when it comes to relationships. Both sides need to give a little (and ... | |
| I feel like giving up searching for a boyfriend | 6/20/2011 |
| Q: I have an overall good life with lots of amazing friends but most of my friends are dating and love ... A: Maybe this will make you feel a little better, but your friends that are all dating and looking like ... | |
| Partner poorly and I'm worried | 6/13/2011 |
| Q: I'm 27, and my partner's 32, we've been together since I was 22 and he was 27. Our relationship has ... A: If he is still the same guy, and he still remembers you and still loves you, does it matter what ... | |
| Confused on my sexual orientation? | 6/7/2011 |
| Q: I'm not sure of my orientation. I've dated girls in the past, but while in those relationships I was ... A: Sexual orientation isn't so much a 100% one way of the other, but rather somewhere inbetween. Some ... | |
| confused | 6/3/2011 |
| Q: Hey i am 20 years old. I have been speaking to a number of girls and flirting and starting to get ... A: Let's get the easy things out of the way. Playing with your ass and getting aroused is a biological ... | |
| Partner obsessed with queues and queueing | 5/30/2011 |
| Q: Recently my partner has changed a lot. And not in a good way. He's become obsessed with queues and ... A: Sometimes the letters takes a while to get through to me, I apologise if you have left the public PC ... | |
| Inner Conflict | 5/20/2011 |
| Q: Ill go straight to the point, I have been in conflict with my self ever since i found out I was gay. ... A: You can talk as much as you like, yell as much as you want to, rave, rant and cry and laugh here, no ... | |
| How to find a Gay Partner | 5/19/2011 |
| Q: Hey, i just found out am gay recently...and being new to Alberton makes it harder to find any Gay ... A: Welcome to the clan, here's your t-shirt and mug :-) I'm not a fan of online dating, I must first ... | |
| [Bullying] Am I Safe Now? | 5/10/2011 |
| Q: Adriaan! I'm back yet again. The Point: The bullying isn't over, is it? LINKBACK: This is a new ... A: my friend! Once again, thanks for putting so much faith in me, who is nothing more than text on ... | |
| Am I gay? | 3/24/2011 |
| Q: My name is Sam and I am a 20 year old male. I have recently begun questioning my sexuality, but the ... A: Hey again Sam! I'm really glad that I could provide you with some more ideas and thoughts at least, ... | |
| I need help, bad. | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and this entire situation of mine began around 6 months ago, although I'm not ... A: When I mentioned that I think you use sexual orientation (not YOUR orientation :) ) I rather meant ... | |
| I don't think I'm gay anymore | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: I've always liked guys, mainly, but would have crushes on girls too. I dated guys through college ... A: You should never compromise your own life in order to make a relationship work (or to keep someone ... | |
| Pictures and video | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: I need help to find someone that can take pictures and video of me in some hardcore sex slave ... A: I will forward your details on to some people that might be interested. If you like, can you give ... | |
| Pictures and video | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: I need help to find someone that can take pictures and video of me in some hardcore sex slave ... A: Your phone numbers and email do not print on these letters to me as they are removed by the site ... | |
| I need help, bad. | 3/22/2011 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and this entire situation of mine began around 6 months ago, although I'm not ... A: I would say that you have some classic issues in your life, none of which is related to your ... | |
| Pictures and video | 3/20/2011 |
| Q: I need help to find someone that can take pictures and video of me in some hardcore sex slave ... A: Have you tried requesting that on places like Mamba Online, and Gaydar, as every kind of seeking ... | |
| [Crush] The Other Way Around | 3/16/2011 |
| Q: Hallo Adriaan, The Point: How do I deal with somebody who has a crush on me? LINKBACK: This is a ... A: My friend Nick! I am so happy to read you again :-) Before we jump into an answer here, we must ... | |
| real love | 3/15/2011 |
| Q: i would like to ask about if gays people believe in love stories and can love? as im from Arab ... A: To answer your question first, there is absolutely no difference between straight and gay people. ... | |
| hey | 3/9/2011 |
| Q: I'm not sure if you remember me but I've been going through some dark times recently. I've been ... A: The root question still stands, that you need to accept yourself. Before you panic, this goes for ... | |
| Am I gay? | 3/7/2011 |
| Q: My name is Sam and I am a 20 year old male. I have recently begun questioning my sexuality, but the ... A: The short answer to your doubt is, first of all, that if you don't like guys, you're not gay. One's ... | |
| Douching | 3/2/2011 |
| Q: okay so i read the part where you said that one can get the douching thing at Dis-Chem but what do ... A: You didn't say if you were male or female so I will just talk about 2 ways you can look into ... | |
| Gay man acting different around heterosexual woman | 2/27/2011 |
| Q: I am woman about 40 ears old. I work with a man who is gay (he is about 50 years old). He never been ... A: let's see if we can figure this one out. It's certainly possible that his reaction towards you is ... | |
| why do I feel this way? | 2/22/2011 |
| Q: Haai Adriaan, I've always found this one guy in one of my classes attractive and although having ... A: Hey Achim What you're experiencing is a good old-fashioned crush. You're smitten my friend! This ... | |
| Feeling so sensitive and dont know why | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: Im a 21 year old attending varsity at midrand graduate institute. I've just been in a really strange ... A: You seem to have 'grouped' all the bad things that are happening in your life under one topic, ... | |
| why gay? | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: i saw gay porn and i didnt like any of it..im straight and i like girls only..the gay porn shocked ... A: Let me tell you something, I am gay and gay porn shocks even me! You must realise that what you see ... | |
| confused | 2/19/2011 |
| Q: Lately ive been feeling really confused, these thoughts that i might be gay keep popping into my ... A: Hey! Well, you can relax, if you know you're not gay, then you're not gay. It's really that easy! ... | |
| im not sure if im gay | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: married for over 20 years i can stop thinking about sex with a guy i don't know why i love a woman i ... A: The encounter you had, pretty much all of us had when we were teens, we just don't talk about it, ... | |
| [Aftermath] Some Uncertainty | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: Haai weer Adriaan! The Point: What should I do about my desire for someone? LINKBACK: This is a ... A: Hey Nick! While reading your letter I wanted to start a reply by saying 'it's an unsaid rule that ... | |
| Gay rights | 2/14/2011 |
| Q: Should gays have the same rights as heterosexuals A: By asking the question in itself, you would be implying it shouldn't be so. There is no difference ... | |
| Boyfriend doesn't want a relationship? | 2/14/2011 |
| Q: Well I would have been in a relationship for nearly 9 months hitting the 20th of Febuary , but that ... A: It's heartbreaking to see how a growing relationship can take such a sudden turn downhill. From ... | |
| suffering | 2/8/2011 |
| Q: i am 22 and i am from the USA..all my life i have felt attracted to girls and physically turned on ... A: Hey again Greg You are talking to a gay guy at the moment and you're doing just fine, no rage and ... | |
| suffering | 2/7/2011 |
| Q: i am 22 and i am from the USA..all my life i have felt attracted to girls and physically turned on ... A: Hey Greg! First things first, relax! From what you've said here, I am convinced you don't have a ... | |
| Verhouding probleme | 2/5/2011 |
| Q: ons is in n Gay verhouding al vir 8 jaar en tien jaar ouderdom verskil (35/45) Ek is die ouers een - ... A: Hey Jakes! Ek glo nie ek het al ooit iemand hier geantwoord in Afrikaans nie, dit is werklik ... | |
| Lousy sex life | 2/1/2011 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a guy 12 years younger than me for 12 years. For the last year or ... A: I am always a fan for saving what is precious and I would always fight for my man, but in the end ... | |
| Can't figure out my sexual orientation | 1/17/2011 |
| Q: I’m a 20 year old female who is very, very confused about my sexual orientation. A lot of the time I ... A: every bit helps to paint a more picture of what is going on here. You have hit on some good issue ... | |
| Can't figure out my sexual orientation | 1/16/2011 |
| Q: I’m a 20 year old female who is very, very confused about my sexual orientation. A lot of the time I ... A: It seems to me that you rather have issues with commitment or relationships, rather than your ... | |
| Gay, have Asperger's syndrome, but not sure how to deal with it... | 1/13/2011 |
| Q: I'm 24, have Asperger's syndrome, and have realized I'm homosexual. I am comfortable with who I am, ... A: Correct me if I'm wrong but Asperger's is a form of autism right? Do you think your behavior ... | |
| [Boyfriend] Moodiness | 1/9/2011 |
| Q: Hallo daar Adriaan! The Point: Could you give me some heads up about having a relationship with ... A: First off, you figured all this out yourself, I had no hand in it, so if you need to compliment ... | |
| [Crush] I Came Out... What's Next? | 12/19/2010 |
| Q: The Point: What should I expect from my crush the next times I see him, and how should I act ... A: I am overjoyed that I could have been of assistance to you finally breaking the ice with your ... | |
| My boyfriend! Is he cheating?? | 12/19/2010 |
| Q: Hey Adriaan, Here is the story... My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. And we ... A: It's very easy to create crazy ideas in one's head without the proper facts, then we make uninformed ... | |
| Is it normal? | 12/16/2010 |
| Q: I am 34 yr gwm in Pretoria, a specialist in my medical field and my life appears to be sorted out ... A: Hey there Mark! First off, enough with the 'sir', I'm not much older than you! Secondly, don't feel ... | |
| [Crush] Observational Study | 12/15/2010 |
| Q: The Point: How can I determine whether my crush is infatuated with me in return and whether my ... A: I want to make my point clear first here. I don't think you are comfortable with being yourself ... | |
| [Crush] Observational Study | 12/14/2010 |
| Q: The Point: How can I determine whether my crush is infatuated with me in return and whether my ... A: Hell again Nick! Lots of information, and lots of questions hey? I'm not going to answer them ... | |
| [Crush] Observational Study | 12/12/2010 |
| Q: The Point: How can I determine whether my crush is infatuated with me in return and whether my ... A: Let me first answer your questions: - What should you do about your crush? It's very easy for a ... | |
| Frustrated | 12/10/2010 |
| Q: I'm 26 years old and from Jhb. I don't even know where to start. I've been molested as a little ... A: Hehe I'm s happy that you took the time to try out some new avenues! It's truly good news. All I ... | |
| hello again Adriaan | 12/7/2010 |
| Q: Hopefully you will remember me. I had a discreet relationship fro the last 2 years and was dealing ... A: Hey again, Thomas of Alabama! Do you want to know why you do it? Fear of being alone. That's it. ... | |
| Commitment issues | 12/7/2010 |
| Q: Since i was quite young, Ive known that I've been gay. And it was never a problem with me until i ... A: I want to firstly mention that boys will be boys and even straight boys play sexual games. It's a ... | |
| Frustrated | 12/5/2010 |
| Q: I'm 26 years old and from Jhb. I don't even know where to start. I've been molested as a little ... A: You say you cannot feel gay is normal because two guys cannot have children? Why would you think ... | |
| Frustrated | 12/3/2010 |
| Q: I'm 26 years old and from Jhb. I don't even know where to start. I've been molested as a little ... A: First things first, relax :) Your time is not nearly up, the adventure that is your life is just ... | |
| Boyfriend trouble... | 11/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for about a year and it seemed to be going really well at the start, ... A: Relationships are about balance, never compromise. What you put in, is what you should get out. I ... | |
| my discreet relationship | 11/1/2010 |
| Q: I dont know where to begin..but am smart enough to know im at my ropes end. Im a 34 yo divorced ... A: Hey Thomas Actually, the hard part is over already :-) That's the part where you told him off. ... | |
| my discreet relationship | 11/1/2010 |
| Q: I dont know where to begin..but am smart enough to know im at my ropes end. Im a 34 yo divorced ... A: I read my own reply to you last time... I was harsh, wasn't I? Hehe. I apologise. It's always sad ... | |
| Me again | 10/25/2010 |
| Q: Hey, its Cody again. The thing said I had too many follow ups and had to start a new question. When ... A: Hey Cody Only you know the answer, because you know the type of friends you two are. Are you best ... | |
| Me again | 10/25/2010 |
| Q: Hey, its Cody again. The thing said I had too many follow ups and had to start a new question. When ... A: Yes, you can only reply once or twice here on the site, just start a new question, no worries. And ... | |
| Is my bestfriend secretly gay... and liking me? | 10/25/2010 |
| Q: my friend and I are both high school freshman, and we have been friends since he moved to my town ... A: Cody Now see, you are just brilliant at this! That's a good idea, but watch our, these kind of ... | |
| Is my bestfriend secretly gay... and liking me? | 10/25/2010 |
| Q: my friend and I are both high school freshman, and we have been friends since he moved to my town ... A: Yeah it's always more personal to greet someone on their name, Cody and not as Confuzed! So, hi ... | |
| Is my bestfriend secretly gay... and liking me? | 10/24/2010 |
| Q: my friend and I are both high school freshman, and we have been friends since he moved to my town ... A: If I must give you an answer quickly, then I would say he is probably trying to find out what he is. ... | |
| my discreet relationship | 10/23/2010 |
| Q: I dont know where to begin..but am smart enough to know im at my ropes end. Im a 34 yo divorced ... A: You are stuck in this complex affair (the bigger meaning of the word, not just sex) that you cannot ... | |
| boyfriend's new gay "friend" | 10/13/2010 |
| Q: An issue arose in my relationship recently, and I thought I would bounce it off of you to get your ... A: Long distance relationships, well, they don't work. A relationship needs some physical contact too. ... | |
| paused relationship | 10/9/2010 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost half a year now. However, after about 4 months of ... A: It's all about balance and about getting out what you put in. You want a partner, but your ... | |
| Confusing Relationship... | 10/1/2010 |
| Q: Let me start from the beginning; I am 19 and in university. Also I live in Australia. (If that ... A: You say this and you say that, but in the end, you answered your own question, right at the end. ... | |
| Sexuality. | 9/23/2010 |
| Q: Hey Adriaan, I'm Jack, Seventeen years of age, and i have a question about my sexuality. Since i ... A: Everyone is different, that's what makes us human, so I don't want to stereotype you into a group, ... | |
| Figuring out what the hell I'm doing. | 9/20/2010 |
| Q: Hey there. So I am a 24 year old male who, I guess you could say, is having a difficult time ... A: For different reasons I don't like to label people (and you will see it in most of letters to ... | |
| how to seek the perfect guy ? | 9/14/2010 |
| Q: hey, it's kamal here. I don't know how to find the perfect guy. I know that nobodies perfect but i ... A: I have big ears, I can listen for hours, don't you worry! One is only as ugly as one makes oneself ... | |
| how to seek the perfect guy ? | 9/14/2010 |
| Q: hey, it's kamal here. I don't know how to find the perfect guy. I know that nobodies perfect but i ... A: Not everyone wants a teddy bear (luckily!). He is appealing to the teddy-bear seeking guys so it's ... | |
| how to seek the perfect guy ? | 9/14/2010 |
| Q: hey, it's kamal here. I don't know how to find the perfect guy. I know that nobodies perfect but i ... A: Hey hey Kamal It's all about focus and priority. You want the perfect you're focusing on the wrong ... | |
| am i bisexual? | 9/13/2010 |
| Q: .. sometimes i imagine myself sucking a guy's dick or a guy sucking mine or having sex with a guy ... A: Hey again John Your next questions do bring up something interesting, which I didn't want to ... | |
| am i bisexual? | 9/10/2010 |
| Q: .. sometimes i imagine myself sucking a guy's dick or a guy sucking mine or having sex with a guy ... A: I apologise for replying so late, your email seemed to have gotten lost somewhere! If I have to ... | |
| gay/bi/married | 8/31/2010 |
| Q: My husband of almost 12 years has always identified as gay. I am the only woman he has been ... A: Your question is incredibly hard to answer with just one answer, particularly because human beings ... | |
| mother wanting to come out to her sons | 8/24/2010 |
| Q: I am a 29y/o lesbian mother of 2 boys (11 & 7). My 11y/o's father seems to be getting into his ear ... A: I have to assume that your children knows that you like girls, right? Even if they don't quite ... | |
| Boyfriend no longer wants sex... | 8/24/2010 |
| Q: I'm 26, been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we have lived together for 2. Recently, over the past 6 ... A: If one reads your letter, it's easy to feel the same as you, darker things might be on the horizon ... | |
| Homosexuality (Skeppingsdoel) | 8/19/2010 |
| Q: AS persoon dink ek JY is kosbaar, maar ek stem nie saam met jou sexuele oortuigings nie. Ek kan nie ... A: Goeie dag Pierre Ek het God al ontmoet, Hy het my tog geskape. As jy sou aanneem my seksuele ... | |
| i think i'm gay | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: i'm Joe aged 16. For about a year now, i've been thinking i'm gay. I'm very shy, and do not have ... A: Hey hey Joe! Sorry to say, bud, you need to throw away all your men's clothing, buy some dresses ... | |
| i have a question | 8/13/2010 |
| Q: Hey adriaan. so i got a question. im not sure if i should take this as harassment or insulting. ... A: Why don't you start by just being yourself, like you are now. This is what your friends know and ... | |
| i have a question | 8/11/2010 |
| Q: Hey adriaan. so i got a question. im not sure if i should take this as harassment or insulting. ... A: Matteo, my friend! Hello! Look at it this way, whether he was straight guy putting his hand on a ... | |
| Depressed with loneliness. | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: Well, where do I start. Im 19, gay, but in the closet, and Ive never had a relationship with either ... A: First and foremost I want you to relax. You are not as alone as you might think :-) It just feels ... | |
| older for younger | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: im 41 male and I fell in love with a younger man (24) why am i so hung up on this guy and do older ... A: My longest relationship was with a guy half my age. I don't think age has got anything to do with ... | |
| IS this for real or an another GAY fantasy ………….(Need your help) | 8/4/2010 |
| Q: Well i am hector and i come form INDIA where gayness is still considered to be a sickness which can ... A: I can understand your situation, in that you don't really want to be out, but at the same time you ... | |
| what do u think i should do? | 8/4/2010 |
| Q: ive known this guy for about three years i first met him at a club and i was the one who made the ... A: I tend to agree with your friend, let him go. You had one evening of fun, and were probably even a ... | |
| Masters Paper | 7/15/2010 |
| Q: As you know anal sex is one of the riskiest acts that can lead to one acquiring STI' including HIV, ... A: Although there is certainly a risk factor involved in anal sex, I must admit that I think that ... | |
| what next | 7/12/2010 |
| Q: "I've never ever labeled myself. But having said that; I've never limited my life, I've never ... A: Step 1 in this case is... stop. Yes, stop for a moment. You're mind is running so fast ahead of ... | |
| Lots of questions | 7/7/2010 |
| Q: Let me first thank you for reading this. Next I have a few questions I would like to ask. First how ... A: Let me answer your second question first. It boils down to trust and if you need her to know about ... | |
| I need to cum! | 7/5/2010 |
| Q: My question makes me a bit shy - I am a bottom and I am experiencing some trouble ejaculating, even ... A: Hey there Adam First off, nothing to be shy about, it's sex, it's the most natural thing for us ... | |
| How to worn friends and get a boyfriend | 6/30/2010 |
| Q: Well, I'm 14 years old teenager. I'm still in primary school, and i have a feeling, that I'm a gay. ... A: I would very much to answer your questions, but since you didn't mark your question as 'private' I ... | |
| Don't gay men in denial also not want to have feelings for men? | 6/28/2010 |
| Q: Off and on throughout the years, I've been dealing with confusion about my sexuality. I'm 28 years ... A: Hey Anthony If I do not answer after this letter, please still write back if you like, it's going ... | |
| Don't gay men in denial also not want to have feelings for men? | 6/28/2010 |
| Q: Off and on throughout the years, I've been dealing with confusion about my sexuality. I'm 28 years ... A: You have a great analytical mind :-) I don't want to belittle this very real issue we are dealing ... | |
| Don't gay men in denial also not want to have feelings for men? | 6/28/2010 |
| Q: Off and on throughout the years, I've been dealing with confusion about my sexuality. I'm 28 years ... A: I am one that believes we are who we are. I cannot see how circumstance can change one's sexual ... | |
| 3-way=love? | 6/24/2010 |
| Q: I have a big problem. I started a casual relationship with a couple. They contacted me about having ... A: I know I will probably be sounding like a broken record, but this is why I personally am not one for ... | |
| My boyfriend acting weirdly and I don't know why... | 6/18/2010 |
| Q: I'm 26 and live with my partner James, who's 29. Earlier this week (Tuesday) the police brought him ... A: There could of course be many reasons why your boyfriend is acting out. Maybe he has doubts about ... | |
| Life! | 6/14/2010 |
| Q: I am 15 years old. I am going to become a sophomore this upcoming year. I came out early of my ... A: I have told many guys before, and I have always believed in this: Don't live your life according to ... | |
| lets start over | 6/13/2010 |
| Q: Matteo here again. Ive been doin some thinking and i would like to start over. I have no idea what i ... A: I feel honored that you would trust me to say such things, such personal things about yourself :-) ... | |
| Boyfriend... | 6/8/2010 |
| Q: whats a great website to go to find a boyfriend.? I'm 18 and i'm looking for one... A: Hey Quincy I would not be able to help you, since we are in different countries. In my country ... | |
| depressed and confused | 6/2/2010 |
| Q: im at a point in my life where idk what else to do. I thought by going to uni i could figure shit ... A: Hey again Matteo I apologise for replying late. Some people do believe that dreams hold the key to ... | |
| depressed and confused | 5/27/2010 |
| Q: im at a point in my life where idk what else to do. I thought by going to uni i could figure shit ... A: I must first compliment you on a beautiful name. It's in my top 2 likeable names :-) always have ... | |
| My homosexuality has spread through to all aspects of my life like a cancer! | 5/20/2010 |
| Q: I am a 20 year old zimbabwean, currently at Uni in S.A .Sorry for the long background, I figured it ... A: As for the devil being at the root of homosexuality, I must admit, to me homosexuality is part of ... | |
| dating | 5/17/2010 |
| Q: ok there is this guy i was introduced to him at a party. he seems gay but says hes not i believe hes ... A: Hey Seth! You have actually answered your own question :-) The secret to meeting people is to let ... | |
| My homosexuality has spread through to all aspects of my life like a cancer! | 5/16/2010 |
| Q: I am a 20 year old zimbabwean, currently at Uni in S.A .Sorry for the long background, I figured it ... A: While I read your email I see a couple of things that one can use to sum up why you feel the way you ... | |
| dating | 5/16/2010 |
| Q: ok there is this guy i was introduced to him at a party. he seems gay but says hes not i believe hes ... A: Hey there Seth I can relate, a social life isn't easy to start, maintain or improve upon, but I can ... | |
| "This guy" | 5/12/2010 |
| Q: My name is Ryan and I’m 19 (almost 20) living in California. There’s this guy I’m really into- let’s ... A: I have always been someone that believes in honesty and truth. There is no reason for taking twists ... | |
| I was one of you, Tedd, but my Lord God was gracious to me-Не released me from disgrace! | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: ____________________________________ Hello, Tedd! My name is Gregory. I ask to read everything to ... A: Hey again Gregory I understand what you are saying and I must admit, I have had the best parents ... | |
| I was one of you, Tedd, but my Lord God was gracious to me-Не released me from disgrace! | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: ____________________________________ Hello, Tedd! My name is Gregory. I ask to read everything to ... A: I was born this way and had no oppurtunity to choose my making. I did not decide one day that I ... | |
| I was one of you, Tedd, but my Lord God was gracious to me-Не released me from disgrace! | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: ____________________________________ Hello, Tedd! My name is Gregory. I ask to read everything to ... A: Firstly, my name is not Tedd. Secondly, I am already a Christian, but thank you for your fervour in ... | |
| am i gay | 5/9/2010 |
| Q: i am a 16 year old boy and once i was alone with my best friend,who i have known for years, in a ... A: Well, it seems that your friend might not be as straight as you. He has probably had a crush on ... | |
| am i gay | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: i am a 16 year old boy and once i was alone with my best friend,who i have known for years, in a ... A: I don't think yo're gay :-) What you did with your friend and even what you are doing with your ... | |
| No confidence talking to people... | 5/3/2010 |
| Q: I'm 22, not sure if I'm straight/gay, dated girls before (and had no issues with it) but will try ... A: It's never easy to pick up someone in a public place, whether it's straight or gay. Some people ... | |
| Is it just low self-esteem, or do I really want a man? | 4/29/2010 |
| Q: I'm attracted to both men and women, and I am currently dating a woman. My current relationship has ... A: When I read your letter I can almost feel your frustrations with all this! You feel stuck and the ... | |
| gay douching/preparation for anal sex | 4/27/2010 |
| Q: I've always been a top but recently decided to switch to versatile, so the preparation or douching ... A: I am versatile myself and I must admit, the whole process of cleaning yourself prior to the 'big ... | |
| Homosexuality Question | 4/27/2010 |
| Q: I have a question about homosexuality that has puzzled me for years and that you may be able to ... A: You question is surely interesting and brings up many 'medical' questions about sexual intercourse ... | |
| Boyfriend overeating... | 4/26/2010 |
| Q: I'm 27 and live with my partner who's 29. Recently he's started overeating, and it's worrying me. ... A: A tough one, because on the one side you want to be supportive and do and follow whatever he does, ... | |
| possible lesbian??? | 3/26/2010 |
| Q: I have always found myself straight, however, i have a best friend who i spend most days in college ... A: Sexual orientation and attraction to someone else isn't always straightforward (no pun!). No one is ... | |
| Sexuality is confusing | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 31 year old straight professional woman (not married but hoping to settle down and raise a ... A: You have actually answered your question yourself. Samesex porn tend to have a more visual aspect ... | |
| Should I Just Move On? | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: and am about to start university soon. I went on to craigslist and met a really nice guy...at least ... A: N. Wow, so much emotion and so many things crammed into so few words, let's decipher this, shall ... | |
| Please Help Me, I really Love this guy. | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: I've never puted my problems exposed like this, to someone I don't know or even in the Internet, but ... A: I apologise for replying so late, I had no internet for a few days What you are feeling is ... | |
| ek wil n ou ontmoet | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: Hey adriaan Ek is regtig jammer as ek nou soos aanhou om met jou te praat ek is maar net ja hehe ... A: Weet jy, jy is die stunning ou hier, Morne! Jy het alles jouself uitgesorteer, dis great! Enige ou ... | |
| I am so confused... | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: Anyway, here is the story I am 18 and my bf is 20. We had a fight yesturday because I was going to ... A: You should always rather do what is right for you. There is really no point (EVER!) to do things to ... | |
| ek wil n ou ontmoet | 3/10/2010 |
| Q: Hey adriaan Ek is regtig jammer as ek nou soos aanhou om met jou te praat ek is maar net ja hehe ... A: Morne, hello daar! Eersten, laat ek jou sommer net se, moenie so jammer voel en se nie, oraait? ... | |
| question my sexuality. | 3/10/2010 |
| Q: i've been attracted to girls most of my life.. i'm a virgin still. when i was younger around 6-8, i ... A: Hey there Luis People are all entitled to their own unique handling of situations. Are different, ... | |
| gay dating and coming out. | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: ok well im 16 and gay. All my friends and the whole school knows but my family dont know yet. I have ... A: Hey there Thomas First up, I don't know how you're going to make it work to be an a relationship ... | |
| Gay relationships | 3/7/2010 |
| Q: I live in Macedonia and of course I don't expect a solution but opinion for my love life. Why is it ... A: It's not a question of society that should dictate to you what you want to dowith your life and ... | |
| Curious and want to test. | 3/6/2010 |
| Q: Adriaan, I am curious and want to test. I see what might be of interest in other men (abs); ... A: As you've said the easiest would be to go on a gay date and see what happens. How, you ask? Try ... | |
| how to tell my best friend i'm gay | 3/6/2010 |
| Q: Ok i just recently told my mom that i'm gay(I actully wrote her a letter)and she exepted me but now ... A: Hey Morne! As jy ooit oor iets wou praat of gesels, kan jy dit enige tyd doen. Ek probeer altyd ... | |
| Unhappy in my relationship | 3/6/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my partner for the past 8 years and have reached the stage of owning a property, ... A: Baker As much as I am also a homebody, and not so sociable, I do agree that the only way to resolve ... | |
| Please Help Me, I really Love this guy. | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: I've never puted my problems exposed like this, to someone I don't know or even in the Internet, but ... A: Hey again Daniel You have the correct attitude in this! All I was saying is if you wanna keep him, ... | |
| left | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: i am 26 years old, and until 5 mnths ago in a "relationship" with a guy who was 23 and had never ... A: One cannot force someone to like you, and one cannot force someone to feel the same way we do about ... | |
| how to tell my best friend i'm gay | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: Ok i just recently told my mom that i'm gay(I actully wrote her a letter)and she exepted me but now ... A: You must first realise that you don't need to tell anyone anything. I don't mean stay in the ... | |
| Please Help Me, I really Love this guy. | 3/3/2010 |
| Q: I've never puted my problems exposed like this, to someone I don't know or even in the Internet, but ... A: I apologise for taking so long to reply. The reason for you feeling like you're just existing, but ... | |
| Bisexual male | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: I know a man who is bisexual. When he sees me or speaks to me he seems to act gay. When I have seen ... A: I wouldn't read too much into his mannerisms, he is probably just comfortable around you and feels ... | |
| me and my best friends relationship | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: ok I'm 17 and I'm only out to my older brother and my best friend Eric... so awhile back in October ... A: About your friend. Even after all this I am not so convinced he is gay yet. At your guys' age guys ... | |
| y do men become gay | 2/15/2010 |
| Q: sorry..i have given the wrong mail id: pls post ur answer in website: whats the weakness present in ... A: There is no weakness that makes one gay, in fact it takes a whole of strength to be gay, even more ... | |
| Son hates himself for being gay | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: Our 21 yr old son came out as gay to us 3 weeks ago. No big announcement, just a simple "I have ... A: You sons has chosen this specific time to come out to you, and that must mean something. He ... | |
| Gay? Bi? Just Open Minded, the Modern Human? | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: I'm thirty, attractive and have slept with many women in my time so far. I've always thought of ... A: From what I can read in your letter, I must comment on your openness to share this kind of ... | |
| I dont think im gay | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: I really don't think im gay because I love females and the intercourse. I find females attractive ... A: Hey D! Luckily for us humans, what we think of ourselves count more than what others think of us, ... | |
| A guy | 2/7/2010 |
| Q: I'm 14 and very confused lately i have been having more of a sexual tendency to men rather than ... A: I think the best thing to do is to get a plan about all this. You have all these different ... | |
| how can i sustain pleasure. | 1/27/2010 |
| Q: i have 2 questions to ask. first how do i eat my cum, after jerking off i lose the pleasure i once ... A: Both of your questions are actually related I think. When you are all excited, before your orgasm, ... | |
| I do not know | 1/21/2010 |
| Q: I always watch two guys walking at malls and it is evident that both are gays, but my question is: ... A: First of all, it is a beautiful name you have! Right to your questions. You are trying to fit a ... | |
| Getting into relationships | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: First of all, I am 23 years old and trying to accept my sexuality as having to like both boys and ... A: I would say to you to first of all, to relax about these thing! It's supposed to be fun, not so ... | |
| Does my gay crush like me? | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: Adriaan, I have asked a couple of people these questions but i read your response to a guy dealing ... A: Sure, if you want to keep me up to date, that would be great! I would so much like to see you get ... | |
| Does my gay crush like me? | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: Adriaan, I have asked a couple of people these questions but i read your response to a guy dealing ... A: I can only on what you tell me here, OK? What you tell me about your friend, and that is usually a ... | |
| I have feelings for this guy and HATE it... | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: I'm 22, and usually attracted to women, but recently I've started having feelings for a gay friend ... A: Heya Dan If you cannot see yourself with a guy, then you're not gay, right? It's that simple :-) ... | |
| help:S | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: My name is Mario. I am 17 years old and have been straight whole my life. Can I have turned gay? SO ... A: Firstly, relax, don't panic! What you are experiencing is totally normal! IT happens to most guys ... | |
| My son's gay relationship worries me... | 1/15/2010 |
| Q: I'm 43, our son is 17, and came out to us over 4 months ago. Recently a family friend who we've ... A: This is indeed a very complex situation. I know that same-sex relationships are not so much frowned ... | |
| Does my gay crush like me? | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: Adriaan, I have asked a couple of people these questions but i read your response to a guy dealing ... A: I apologise for replying so late, I moved homes and did not have connectivity at home. If you ... | |
| shyness problems at school | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: ok so at my school, there are a couple of guys i like, but i can never work up the courage to talk ... A: I can understand that you think you are comfortable with being gay and I agree with you that it's ... | |
| Confused over my sexuality... need help | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: I've recently become confused about my sexuality for some reason and feel I shouldn't have. I know I ... A: It sounds to me that you might have to start for the beginning here, since many things are a bit ... | |
| Husband's affair with best friend's husband | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: I came home from work last night to find a video tape by the side of the sofa with a note attached ... A: First off, I must say that for your husband to tell you in THIS way, is just disgusting, and also ... | |
| i don't like him anymore... | 12/3/2009 |
| Q: i'm 18 and he's 22 we've been going out for a while and i really like him...but sometimes he can be ... A: Hey hey Braxton! It's a common problem when an older guy dates a younger one, especially in the age ... | |
| To be or not To be...this is getting old! | 12/2/2009 |
| Q: ..but just to make sure i will ask, i am in my early 40,s now and remember my first gay ....exposure ... A: Sorry for replying so late, internet problems... Let's jump into your stuff here. I think you're ... | |
| Follow-up on last time | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: I wrote last time here - ... A: Yes, even though I've mentioned all the things to you, I also respect every individual in his or her ... | |
| gay sex wit girl | 11/25/2009 |
| Q: Respected sir, I feel im a gay.. i like to have sex with only guys. and my cock erects ... A: I don't think it would be fair towards the girl if you were to marry her and father a child with ... | |
| mixed and confusing signs | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: this is a follow up from my previous question. its a question regarding my best friend ending up ... A: Hey hey Ryan! OK, let me get this straight. A guy uses you for sex, then hangs with a girl and ... | |
| Why do I feel the need to look at gay pornographic materials? | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: I'm 23, and was in a relationship with a girl for 3 months until I broke up with her of my own ... A: What you're having is a little like 'rebound', but instead of having a girl with you, you've just ... | |
| mixed and confusing signs | 11/22/2009 |
| Q: this is a follow up from my previous question. its a question regarding my best friend ending up ... A: Sorry for answering so late, I had trouble with my internet connection. I have been in a similar ... | |
| mixed and confusing signs | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: i'm rather confused at this stage in my life. hopefully you can help me on this one. i'll try to ... A: What you're feeling is heartache. It's not a nice feeling. I am so sorry that this had to ... | |
| mixed and confusing signs | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: i'm rather confused at this stage in my life. hopefully you can help me on this one. i'll try to ... A: Hey again Ryan! Talking about feelings and love is never ramblings, so relax! This is what life is ... | |
| I get stressed and worried over my sexuality... | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 23 year old British male, life is good for me employment-wise and socially, I have good social ... A: Hey there! On the one hand 'the people' are right, you should be choosing yourself what feels right ... | |
| Super depresing crush | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: Ey im 18 and wel.... Gay .. The whole situation started at the begining of last year.. I were in ... A: Hey hey buddy! Boy you have it hard, hehe! I am not laughing at you, k? I'm laughing at this ... | |
| Should I stay | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: Let's just call me B. I have been seeing a guy on and off over a period of 2 years. He has broken up ... A: I will call you that, because you didn't make your question private, so it might be 'published' of ... | |
| mixed and disturbing thoughts | 10/11/2009 |
| Q: where should i begin.. here it goes. i'm in love with my best friend. we both know about ourselves ... A: Two words: Get out! It doesn't matter how good it feels when you two are together, you should be ... | |
| Confused as to where to go from here | 10/10/2009 |
| Q: Where to start? I guess a tiny bit of background. I realized that I am gay in high school but ... A: Hey again Chris! I must again say, you could be my twin where emotional responses and things go. I ... | |
| Confused as to where to go from here | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: Where to start? I guess a tiny bit of background. I realized that I am gay in high school but ... A: Hey there Chris! While reading your letter I wondered just how tough your filters were to get ... | |
| mixed and disturbing thoughts | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: where should i begin.. here it goes. i'm in love with my best friend. we both know about ourselves ... A: Well, first off I think you are a very interesting, funny and witty guy, so any guy would love to ... | |
| When all is said and done. | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: WOOT!! It's me again; Albert Appleton! Yay!!! Anyhow to quickly summarize where I left off; I like ... A: ) Ok, so you don't care if people know or don't know you're gay or bi. So why do you lie to Oisin ... | |
| When all is said and done. | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: WOOT!! It's me again; Albert Appleton! Yay!!! Anyhow to quickly summarize where I left off; I like ... A: Hey hey A.A! Ok, enough rhyming... Well, there's not much advice I can give, my friend, since it's ... | |
| I'm scared to make other gay friends | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: ok I'm really scared. My sister is the only one who knows that I'm gay and she's trying to introduce ... A: It's only normal to react the way you do and there is nothing wrong with it. You will in time find ... | |
| boyfriend trouble | 10/2/2009 |
| Q: Okay I'm 16 and I'm having trouble finding the right guy or just a nice a guy . Last guys I've been ... A: You seem to be a lot like I am, where guys and relationships are concerned. You bet everything ... | |
| i really like this guy in college | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: I was just hoping for your advice on something. this guy in college, i really like an he likes me ... A: Hey there John! These kinds of situations you really take on feelings. Sometimes you might want to ... | |
| Coming out b/f has trouble with intimacy, committment | 9/25/2009 |
| Q: I like your answers and am hoping that I can provide enough information to give you a clear idea of ... A: Long time :) I am so glad that you two could get some middle ground to work from. Let me tell you ... | |
| coming out | 9/20/2009 |
| Q: I am an 18 year old male, I have known I was gay... or at least suspected since I was about 12 or ... A: Hey Taylor! I must confess to you, I have quite the same personality as you, that's why studies ... | |
| hey again | 9/16/2009 |
| Q: Rememeber me maxxie, i sopoke to you a couple of weeks ago, about the guy. well its taken this long ... A: Hey hey Maxxi! What I meant with my statement was, that my boyfriend started liking this other guy ... | |
| I am stuck and not sure what I should do... | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: I know from your answers that you are laid-back figure that can help me. (I hope). Here is the ... A: Hey Ano(nymous)! Right, lets get the serious stuff out of the way. How to ask your guy. If I were ... | |
| Where are all those happy days? They seem so hard to find... | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: WOOT!! Im back in school after the summer hols. Just to quickly rejog your memory; Im the one who ... A: Albert, my man! I must say, I it sounds like he likes you. If he's gay, one cannot tell, BUT, I ... | |
| its getting worser | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: i have written to you previously about the turning gay thing well its getting worse i actualy had ... A: Hey again Jamie There are some people that claim that one can turn gay or be made gay, but most ... | |
| how to fetch him? | 9/5/2009 |
| Q: a management student.i am a bi,and have a close friend he is straight.my problem is this that i want ... A: I must first tell you, that if your friend is totally straight, he would not kiss you or sleep with ... | |
| hey again | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: Rememeber me maxxie, i sopoke to you a couple of weeks ago, about the guy. well its taken this long ... A: Maxxie budd! I don't mind the personal questions, that is why I'm here :) On the one hand, the ... | |
| am i just at a stage of puberty or turning gay | 8/30/2009 |
| Q: im 17 and deeply distressed that i could turn gay or bisexual any day now. My mother and sister ... A: Hey there Jamie First things first, relax :) You're running waaay too fast here! Being gay is not ... | |
| help again | 8/28/2009 |
| Q: Rememeber me maxxie, i sopoke to you a couple of weeks ago, about the guy. well its taken this long ... A: Looong time no see? Of course I remember you, how can I forget such a fantastic guy? Well I've ... | |
| What do i do | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: I am gay but still in d closet about my sexuality.i live in country where been gay isn't smiled upon ... A: Hey there again Lukers If you think your friend is sincere, if you know him and he is not just some ... | |
| What do i do | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: I am gay but still in d closet about my sexuality.i live in country where been gay isn't smiled upon ... A: Hey there Lukers I don't think this guy is any good for you. He seems to be the kind that's just ... | |
| Performance, Enjoyment and Coming Out | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: I am coming out later in life after conservative upbringing, failed marriage, etc., and find happily ... A: What you're experiencing, a lot of men have experienced as well, so I want to put your mind at rest, ... | |
| just when i think i will leave you be for at least a while | 8/4/2009 |
| Q: Adriian, I think I have exhausted you but i also have something new to ask. I think this is going to ... A: Hey Carolyn If you are indeed ready for this, and have thought of all the angles, then you are on ... | |
| just when i think i will leave you be for at least a while | 8/4/2009 |
| Q: Adriian, I think I have exhausted you but i also have something new to ask. I think this is going to ... A: Yes, you are correct of course, I am not there, and I never wanted to judge anyone. You must ... | |
| just when i think i will leave you be for at least a while | 8/4/2009 |
| Q: Adriian, I think I have exhausted you but i also have something new to ask. I think this is going to ... A: I think you are spot-in with your friend. He seems to need closeness and he knows he's going to get ... | |
| hi again | 8/3/2009 |
| Q: Rememeber me, well im hear to ask yet more questions (sorry) this guy is driving me insane, i think ... A: OK first things first, you need to relax! BREATHE! It's not such a big deal, you know, it is as big ... | |
| how can i ask him out ? | 8/1/2009 |
| Q: I know that i am gay but i really dont know how to ask another guy out for example i dont know if he ... A: Hey there Fred. It's not so much about being gay than it is about asking someone out. It wouldn't ... | |
| new events | 7/29/2009 |
| Q: Adriian i need to write again. I feel you are safe all the say in Australia. I want to go there ... A: There are more than one 'game' going on here. As I've mentioned before, I think he is too afraid to ... | |
| new events | 7/27/2009 |
| Q: Adriian i need to write again. I feel you are safe all the say in Australia. I want to go there ... A: I have never been overseas except for London. Our money here does not take one far y'know! But I ... | |
| new events | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: Adriian i need to write again. I feel you are safe all the say in Australia. I want to go there ... A: I just want to correct you first, I am in Africa, as in South Africa... I would love to go to ... | |
| Am I gay? Just a stage of puberty? Or just don't want to believe it? | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: I am worried that I am gay...Not that there is something wrong with being gay, I just don't want to ... A: Begin gay or being straight involves (luckily!) more than just a desire to be with someone ... | |
| I DON'T THINK I'M GAY AFTER ALL | 7/18/2009 |
| Q: Ok, this is an astoundingly mind-boggling conundrum. I'm 27, 'came out' when I was 18 and now all I ... A: Hey Matthew-Alexander! First thing, chill! Relax! Don't panic! Why is this a question anyway? ... | |
| another follow up | 7/17/2009 |
| Q: Remember when i first told you about the problem and how he stared at me sometimes and other things. ... A: Hey Max The funny feelings may be 'love' as you say, but what I always say too, is love must go ... | |
| friendship plus | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: Adriian. I lost your email . Where it went i am not sure but i lost it.Anyway its ok as i now have ... A: I read both your letters, let's see :) From what you're written here and there, it feels to me that ... | |
| friendship plus | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: Adriian. I lost your email . Where it went i am not sure but i lost it.Anyway its ok as i now have ... A: Hey again Carolyn (almost wrote Coraline there!) I am 37, not so far behind you, you know! I don't ... | |
| it just wouldn't work! | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: I don't know how weird you're going to find this problem. I've known I was gay since I was 13. I ... A: Ok, relax. Nothing wrong with you! Believe it or not, but EVERYONE has this problem sometimes. ... | |
| friendship plus | 7/13/2009 |
| Q: Adriian. I lost your email . Where it went i am not sure but i lost it.Anyway its ok as i now have ... A: I am sorry you lost the email! You can try and look through my letters online, if you didn't mark ... | |
| How to meet other gay guys | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: My name is Jonathan and I'm gay. I'm 21 years old and for the most part I'm in the closet. I'm ... A: Hey there Jonathan I know it's not always the best option, but when I was in the closet, I sort of ... | |
| it didn't work | 7/10/2009 |
| Q: I'm 21 now. I'm really in love with my boyfriend but I just couldn't erect when I was at his place ... A: Hey Josh I think also that it was anxiety, and also timing. Both people won't always be in sync ... | |
| my best friend's gay | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: I don't really know how t start, but i guess i'm writing because i'm worried, and don't have anyone ... A: It's a tricky one, this, since it's not really your call to make about him being 'out of the ... | |
| Masturbation | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 21 yr old guy and I want to ask you, is it normal to not get a boner even while watching naked ... A: Well, you're talking to a gay guy, so I don't get boners when looking at naked girls anyway! But I ... | |
| another follow up | 7/8/2009 |
| Q: Remember when i first told you about the problem and how he stared at me sometimes and other things. ... A: You're running too fast again here :) Remember step by step! First you need to find our IF he is ... | |
| another follow up | 7/7/2009 |
| Q: Remember when i first told you about the problem and how he stared at me sometimes and other things. ... A: If he is as sincere as you tell me, if he acts as good as you tell me he does, if he is as kind and ... | |
| what should i do ? | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: I liked a guy when we were both younger and i didn't do nothing about it . After a few years we ... A: Well, you didn't give me much to go on here, hehe, but I'll try to give some general advice then. I ... | |
| help | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: Its me max(remember?) just another question about becoming this guys friend and only thinkig about ... A: Hey Maxxie Remember, you don't have to stop writing and talking to me, that's why I am here, ok? ... | |
| HOCD help | 7/4/2009 |
| Q: my situation is this: I don't know what is going on with me, I've always like girls and they really ... A: Let me start off by saying, that in my opinion you are not gay. I don't even think you are bi. ... | |
| love? | 7/4/2009 |
| Q: I cannot believe i am in this situation but i am and it actually is wonderful . I think i am deeply ... A: Hey Carolyn A tough one you're in, but not impossible to sort our luckily. As you confess here to ... | |
| Inlove with him . but unsure if he's gay (added info) | 7/4/2009 |
| Q: ORIGINAL QUESTION... "Hi, hopefully you can help me, cause im in such a dilema ... A: Hey Ian His answer sounds sincere and we are ALL glad that his response was so 'normal'. That's ... | |
| help | 7/3/2009 |
| Q: Its me max(remember?) just another question about becoming this guys friend and only thinkig about ... A: Max... I think you are falling for your friend. Yes, I talking about love. It's the best feeling ... | |
| help | 7/2/2009 |
| Q: Its me max(remember?) just another question about becoming this guys friend and only thinkig about ... A: Hey again Max! If you would rather come clean with him, then do it. I didn't tell you do it, I ... | |
| help | 6/30/2009 |
| Q: Ok i really need your help with something. im Bi-sexual and have fallen in love with someone who is ... A: Ok, so you two are already sort of friends? That's great! Even easier. You need to make the ... | |
| help | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: Ok i really need your help with something. im Bi-sexual and have fallen in love with someone who is ... A: Hey again Maxxie The way you are feeling in completely normal, you just need to relax a little :-) ... | |
| help | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: Ok i really need your help with something. im Bi-sexual and have fallen in love with someone who is ... A: -) First things first. Relax! You need to take these things one step at a time. Step 1, are you ... | |
| Complex Friendship/Relationship Issue | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: "In my 9th grade year of high school I developed a crush on a guy called Gary; it was one of those ... A: As you know, most people are different. We handle physical attraction diffent, we get emotionally ... | |
| How do I comfort my brother on his homosexuallity? | 6/22/2009 |
| Q: Yesterday I awoke to see my iPod touch removed from the side of my bed and placed in a different ... A: From what you've said about having gay friends, you don't seem to mind having them, right? So you ... | |
| My girlfriend is Bisexual, Should i worry? | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: my Girlfriend of 9 months recently told me that she was bisexual. She isn't too open about it, she ... A: It's almost always so, that a bisexual person will leave their current partner for the opposite sex. ... | |
| What now? | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: So i am 15 and male. So i have a few friends who are bi-ish and know i am gay. So how could i ask ... A: Hey there Ryan These are just normal relationship issues, we all have them. All of your friends ... | |
| Oral sex, i know you must be asked this alot. | 6/11/2009 |
| Q: So I am a teenager and openly gay. I have never sucked a dick before, but i was wondering when the ... A: You can look up the stats for this, but the chances of being infected with oral sex is very little. ... | |
| Kissing a guy | 6/11/2009 |
| Q: So i am 15 and gay, i was just wondering what are some signs that a guy would accept a kiss from me ... A: Hey Rod Well, first off, you might want to make sure the guy is gay? Hehe! After that, setting the ... | |
| Is My Friend Gay? | 6/11/2009 |
| Q: My best friend called me into work because she said she had something very important to tell me ... A: Hey Katy You can't really tell him WHY you know he might be gay, but you can show him you don't ... | |
| My parents and a friend of mine | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: Okay, I actually have two questions for you Mr. Pretorius First question is the nicer of the ... A: I think you should first ask your self, do you like this guy, as a friend. If you want to be his ... | |
| Inlove with him . but unsure if he's gay (added info) | 6/7/2009 |
| Q: ORIGINAL QUESTION... "Hi, hopefully you can help me, cause im in such a dilema ... A: Hey again Ian I think, on the one side you might be over-analysing things, trying to find answers ... | |
| Re- Friend im inlove with.. | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: hopefully you can help me, cause im in such a dilema basically im inlove with this guy i met ... A: Hey there Ian It's not always the easy to sum u someone, and to categorise them. People let us ... | |
| Aids | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: Can you get aids if someone was rubbing there tissue that had blood on it.I am really nervous A: It is possible to get infected by contact with contaminated blood, but there are a bunch of rules. ... | |
| Partner's drug past | 6/3/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend now for 8 months. He is wonderful and we get on really well. For the ... A: I understand exactly where both of you are coming from. When I came into the gay scene some 9 years ... | |
| confused and don't know what to do | 5/26/2009 |
| Q: I have a friend who I spend a lot of time with that I really like but he's been going out with a ... A: Your friend seems to really think the world of you! I am so glad to hear two people can be such ... | |
| Gimme, gimme, the man after midnight; if he is gay! | 5/22/2009 |
| Q: Today during French I got the chance to tell Oisin Im gay and he doesnt care! However the next task ... A: This reply is probably too late, I apologise, but to answer your question, you're thinking too much ... | |
| Gimme, gimme, the man after midnight; if he is gay! | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: Today during French I got the chance to tell Oisin Im gay and he doesnt care! However the next task ... A: Hey again Albert! It's hard to tell if Oisin is gay or just so comfortable with himself that he ... | |
| Love and sex | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: Adriaan, My name is Chad, and I had written to you at the end of this past January, 'How do I wait ... A: Hey again Chad! I am so glad things are working for you guys! Congratulation, 2 months for a gay ... | |
| Mamma Mia! | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: I have to tell Oisin (the letter didnt work, he didnt understand it) Im gay before we get our Hols ... A: Albert! Breathe! :-) Think about this for a moment. What is the worse than can happen? Will the ... | |
| Is he gay or am I optimistic? | 5/9/2009 |
| Q: How can i tell if someone in my 2nd year class (14 year old) loves me. I dunno his sexuality and he ... A: Hey there Albert! Tough one. Luckily not too difficult to fix. Are you two friends? I mean, do ... | |
| crushin hard...cn yu help?? | 5/8/2009 |
| Q: im soooo dayum lost yo!! they got dis gurl da im hard up crushin on man n it's like alot a folk tell ... A: He Raven I must tell you, I am really having a hard time reading your English! Remember I am not ... | |
| Does Opposites attract? | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 20 year old college student. I'm a very outgoing person and not afraid to express myself to ... A: Hey Jorge You questions are the age-old ones that exist in any kind of relationship, and they are ... | |
| Confidence | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been in the same relationship for almost 7 years with a woman who is a teacher. We keep ... A: It's quite difficult to get someone to gain confidence if they don't want it, in general. One can ... | |
| love | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: My name is Matthew, and I'm bisexual. I've been in love with this guy for at least 2 years, and I ... A: Hey there Matthew I would say from what you've told me that your friend is at least interested, or ... | |
| question | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: I'm a (straight) female, I'm 31 years old, and I used to model part time. I have a lot of gay male ... A: Hey Stephanie The answer to your question, first and foremost is a primal one. Before someone ... | |
| i think i'm gay | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: Hey Adriaan! This is Alex again! I sent you another message before but I don't know if you got it. ... A: Yes, I remember your previous emails. Sorry for replying to late to them. If you stop and think ... | |
| does he have a crush on me? | 4/17/2009 |
| Q: I was 18 and I have done my first kiss 2 weeks ago with my co worker. My co worker and I worked ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like your co-worker is going a little faster than you feel ... | |
| i think i'm gay | 4/17/2009 |
| Q: Hey there Adriaan! This is Alex. You've written back to me before. BTW, thanks for that ... A: I can't seem to find a question in there, but I must compliment you (even you don't think so!), but ... | |
| Relationships. | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: I need serious help!! I am a lesbian and I am in love with a married women, Her partner and her have ... A: I must confess, I have been where you are (ofcourse, replace all the girls with boys!). I must tell ... | |
| dating | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: And I hear about how gay guys always want to have sex I don't know if that's true but I'm just not ... A: It is a bit of a stigma that most gay guys are out for sex, and unfortunately you will probably come ... | |
| Happily Married yet enjoy male male sex | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: I am a married man. Both me and my wife are happy, She's conservative, yet we have sex often. I am ... A: There is nothing wrong with the experiences you're having, no you're not super strange, hehe! But, ... | |
| my friend thinksss | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: One of my best friends thinks I'm gay but i love girls. Its really getting to me. what should i do ... A: Hey Alex Well, is your best friend gay? He might be saying this if he feels inside himself that HE ... | |
| The Awesome Best Friend | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: I'm sure there are many people out there who are experiencing the same problem as me, but I just ... A: Hey Sam! Yeah, you have it deeply for this guy, don't you. It's not a good feeling, I must admit! ... | |
| Relationships | 3/11/2009 |
| Q: After my friend got my letter he asked to meet up and talk it over. Unfortunately for me he said we ... A: Hey again Alice I just need to tell you, that I, me, Adriaan, have believed you from the start that ... | |
| Senior Project | 3/10/2009 |
| Q: As I was reading what you wrote I notice you said that people in Africa don't live openly and that ... A: Even though South Africa has some of the broadest anti-discrimination laws in the world (same-sex ... | |
| Relationships | 3/10/2009 |
| Q: After my friend got my letter he asked to meet up and talk it over. Unfortunately for me he said we ... A: Your guy friend seems to have the normal sort of reactions, that insecure guys feel. He thinks you ... | |
| relationships | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: I am currently dating a girl but have always felt i am bi sexual, over the last few months i have ... A: Alice!! I don't think you made any mistake with what you said. First thoughts are always best. ... | |
| relationships | 3/4/2009 |
| Q: I am currently dating a girl but have always felt i am bi sexual, over the last few months i have ... A: Hey Alice I know all these things are incredibly important (and complex) in your life, but you must ... | |
| am i a lesbian? | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: i'm a 14 year old girl and i have a question about whether i could be a lesbian. first of all, i'm ... A: Hey Diana First thing, first, relax! You are perfectly fine and normal. In fact you are more ... | |
| relationships | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: I am currently dating a girl but have always felt i am bi sexual, over the last few months i have ... A: I have always been someone for the truth, you know? It's clean (not always easy!), but you have a ... | |
| Coming out | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: I am not sure how to start this email but I will give it try and hope it makes sense. Iam 30 ... A: Humans are strange things. If you don't guide them sometimes or give them something, they will just ... | |
| Relationship Questions | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: A note: This is partly asking for advice, and partly venting in a safe environment; hence, it's ... A: It sounds like you have everything pretty much under control, heh. What I mean is, you seem to have ... | |
| Should I ask him out? | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: I'll skip the other stuff you can't help with and get to the heart of the matter: relationship ... A: Hey Garrett Both your suggestions sound pretty good. It really seems like you have things under ... | |
| Should I ask him out? | 2/16/2009 |
| Q: I'll skip the other stuff you can't help with and get to the heart of the matter: relationship ... A: Hey Garrett I will assume you are both gay, first of all. It's not such a weird question! Hehe! I ... | |
| Questioning? | 2/16/2009 |
| Q: Well let me start off by saying that i am 20 and have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. ... A: Hey Gus It's sounds a little that your relationship has not been built completely on trust here. ... | |
| ummm, tough question | 2/16/2009 |
| Q: i have read a lot of the advice you have given, and figured you would be the best person to ask. i ... A: Yes, this is a difficult one, eh? But not impossible. You boyfriend should see by YOUR actions and ... | |
| Confused by a friend | 2/15/2009 |
| Q: Got a bit of a problem...I appear to have fallen badly for a friend. I have known this guy for one ... A: First off, I have to tell you, that I was caught up in a similar situation a while back, so I share ... | |
| relationship advice | 2/13/2009 |
| Q: Alright.. this is kind of awkward for me since I’m not the kind of person to ask for advice. I met ... A: Hey Evan I think your fear/stress comes from the fact that you two have such different views on ... | |
| Coming out b/f has trouble with intimacy, committment | 2/10/2009 |
| Q: I like your answers and am hoping that I can provide enough information to give you a clear idea of ... A: I think maybe you need to let him know what you want. Firstly, you want HIM, secondly you want a ... | |
| Coming out b/f has trouble with intimacy, committment | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I like your answers and am hoping that I can provide enough information to give you a clear idea of ... A: It sounds like your guy might have found some comfort-zone with you. It's hard to tell if he is ... | |
| Life In High School | 2/5/2009 |
| Q: I just wanted to thank you for spending your time actually responding to other peoples problems :]. ... A: Hey there Zach! What a mouthful, eh? So first thing first... You need to chill. Take a breath, ... | |
| Was i too forward? | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: Hey Adriaan, I'm gay 21yrs old and wondering if I made a stupid mistake. Let me start from the ... A: Well, it's big of you to admit that you messed up, hehe, because you did. There is not much more I ... | |
| sex with women | 2/1/2009 |
| Q: i am a gay guy with a very slight sexual inclination towards women.it is not possible for me to lead ... A: Hey Abraham You have answered your own question there, hehe! If you have an inclination towards ... | |
| Am I Gay or Bi or Curious | 2/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm not sure what I am feeling right now. I have been getting drunk and look on certain websites ... A: I want to apologise if I came over as being nasty against your wife. It was definitely not my ... | |
| Am I Gay or Bi or Curious | 2/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm not sure what I am feeling right now. I have been getting drunk and look on certain websites ... A: Sometimes we need to fulfil something inside us. It has nothing to do with love or sexual ... | |
| in need of advise | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: I am in need of some advise. I have never been with a man but have always wanted to try it but I ... A: Hey Tristen It all of course depends on how old you are. Meeting people discreetly comes in ... | |
| Ex boyfriend help | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: Adriaan- I am having somewhat of a problem. I am bi, and am not completely open with it. However, ... A: Hey Matt If you are prepared to make decisions that include him, like contacting him and texting ... | |
| How do I wait for my crush to become available? | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: I'm a (partially out) gay college student who has had a crush on this guy for a while now. I've ... A: Hey Chad! I feel there are some stuff you're not telling me, and without it I can only guess, but ... | |
| How do I wait for my crush to become available? | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: I'm a (partially out) gay college student who has had a crush on this guy for a while now. I've ... A: Hey Chad Well, it looks like you have this whole things planned actually! Every detail is covered ... | |
| Ex boyfriend help | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: Adriaan- I am having somewhat of a problem. I am bi, and am not completely open with it. However, ... A: It will take time and I can promise you it does get easier. If I were you, I would rather try to ... | |
| I wanL my bff to go out with me like a gay couple | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: I wan't to go out with my best friend. He always talk about gay people and I always call him gay but ... A: You did not tell me your age, so I'll guess you guys are still at school. There are lots of ways to ... | |
| Me and my boyfriend | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: I'm Jason, a 19-year-old gay guy, and a friend of mine recommended this site. I hope you can offer ... A: First, congratulation on the relationship, gay relationship years work like dog years, so you've ... | |
| How to know if you're best friend is gay? | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: Uhm hi, well I am Josh. I am an 8th grader at my middle school and I just met this kid named Darrin ... A: Hey Josh! Well, it sounds like your friend has one massive crush on you. Ok ok, now before you ... | |
| please help me, everyone thinks im gay. | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: I am having problems at my current high school (I am in 12th grade, 18 years old) alot of people ... A: Hey again Kyle! Don't worry about the question, feel free, you can ask anything. There can be many ... | |
| Question, regarding advice. | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: I have met a single professional gay male from my region in Sydney, Australia. Last week ago, we met ... A: Well, in relationships there are no guarantees and no sure things, especially in the beginning. ... | |
| others realised | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: i'm gay, no doubt of it. but i'm not openly out of the closet yet. so i chose not to disclose my ... A: Hey Sean! Well first off, I must say that you'll never be completely happy if you're not completely ... | |
| he's being silent | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: first of all thank you for your time reading this load of mess! i have this friend, X, whom i known ... A: Hey Sean! Well, I don't think your friendship can go back to what it was, but I think you can try ... | |
| My Straight Friend/Best Friends Brother | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: So i was reading a Question someone posted about their Straight best friend so i was intrigued to ... A: This website does not allow me to 'keep' emails open, so I have to answer this one (or I get fired, ... | |
| Am I gay or Bi or neither... | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: For the longest time, i've been having a physical attraction to guys but I can't see myself in an ... A: Hey there Max Well, from what you've told me, you might just be a little horny and maybe in need ... | |
| My Straight Friend/Best Friends Brother | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: So i was reading a Question someone posted about their Straight best friend so i was intrigued to ... A: Hey there Joseph Well, I've only heard your side of the story and also only the stuff you can tell ... | |
| Is my girlfriend bicurious,bisexual,gay, what do I do? | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for 8 months and as of late I am seeing some behavior which makes ... A: It sounds like she has quite a few issues about it at the moment. You might want to give her a ... | |
| Is my girlfriend bicurious,bisexual,gay, what do I do? | 1/17/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for 8 months and as of late I am seeing some behavior which makes ... A: Hey Daniel This is going to sound harsh, but all is fair in love and war. If you have a blossoming ... | |
| How to live a young and happy gay life. | 1/16/2009 |
| Q: I am a twenty -soon to be twenty-one- year old gay college student from the Netherlands. And my ... A: I am glad that you could relax your reigns on a life a little. Sometimes you need to let life run a ... | |
| HELP ME!!!! | 1/12/2009 |
| Q: my name is Veronica and I'm 10 years old. I am having a problem: my friends at school are ... A: Well, I am always one to say that you have to me yourself before anythign else. There's no point in ... | |
| 22 and lost | 1/12/2009 |
| Q: As someone who is now 22, this is rather awkward. I'm trying to determine my sexual orientation and ... A: Hey there James You've got a tough one, but we'll tackle it together. Being bisexual has always ... | |
| Am I Bisexual? | 1/10/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 13 year old girl and I have a question about whether I'm bisexual or not. First of all, I like ... A: Well, first off, without sounding like your mother, I must tell you that what you and your friends ... | |
| How can I feel better ? | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: My name is Dani and I'm 17 years old ( I'll turn to 18 in a month ). I knew that I'm Gay frok long ... A: You must remember that you should live your life to what YOU want. You only have one life to begin ... | |
| experimenting | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: I'm single and in my early 30s. And I'm straight, or I believe I'm straight. I love women and have ... A: Hey there Kyle It would be a good thing to try it out, if you really need to know how a physical ... | |
| How to live a young and happy gay life. | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: I am a twenty -soon to be twenty-one- year old gay college student from the Netherlands. And my ... A: As you have guessed from my name, I am also not English, in fact I speak a language much closer to ... | |
| Am I Gay??? | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: i have recently told my girlfriend that i might be gay, and that i want to take time to sort things ... A: Hey there Billy! Well, you didn't tell me your age, but I would assume you're not too old, late ... | |
| Was He Even Gay? (p.s) | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: Hey Adriaan i have a dilema, basically a couple years ago me and this guy became super close as ... A: Hey Ian Well, I would agree, he is trying to make you jealous, but I don't think it's for the ... | |
| Was He Even Gay? (p.s) | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: Hey Adriaan i have a dilema, basically a couple years ago me and this guy became super close as ... A: Hey again Ian To your P.S. He is hiding behind his homophobic friends so no one will know he might ... | |
| Was He Even Gay? | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: Hey Adriaan i have a dilema, basically a couple years ago me and this guy became super close as ... A: Hey there Ian! I think your diagnosis is spot on. It sounds like he might have had gay feelings ... | |
| gay relatioship | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: i am a 30 year man , in love with 24 year straight man.we where togather for 4 year, and had a very ... A: It is the most painful thing, isn't it? To have to let someone go, but you knew that this might ... | |
| Am i gay or not? | 12/27/2008 |
| Q: ok so im 16 i am still a virgin because i am scared to make a decesion. when i was ten i fooled ... A: Hey again Michael! Maybe you feel that you have to tackle all your issues at once. You ARE after ... | |
| Is my friend gay? | 12/27/2008 |
| Q: About a year ago my friend told me he was bi and he asked me if i would have sex with him. We did a ... A: Hey there Brian You friend seems confused and cannot handle the fact that he is probably gay. It ... | |
| gay relationship | 12/27/2008 |
| Q: hey. first off I am south african, now living in canada. thats why you caught my eye of who to ask ... A: Hey there! Well, you're right, this is playing out like a teen movie, isn't it? :-) But this means ... | |
| response | 12/26/2008 |
| Q: this answer helped me very much and made me feel well!to continue ,as u have said i dont have to ... A: Your English is not bad at all, I just hope you can understand me as well! English is also not my ... | |
| Am i gay or not? | 12/26/2008 |
| Q: ok so im 16 i am still a virgin because i am scared to make a decesion. when i was ten i fooled ... A: Hey Michael! Don't panic just yet, what you're feeling is very common and many many guys feel it. ... | |
| What am i? | 12/26/2008 |
| Q: My name is Alex and i am 15 years old.I am very confused about my sexual orientation and i would ... A: I think the first thing you need to do is just relax a bit and take a step back from everything. If ... | |
| I think by best bro is bi-sexual | 12/24/2008 |
| Q: my best bro... we've been friends since elementary, and there was a rumor that he was offered head ... A: Well, It sounds pretty much if this guy could be bisexual and just a little into you, if you ... | |
| Co-worker sending me signals? | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: So here whats been going on. Ever since day 1 since I started my new job I've had this feeling this ... A: Hey there Dave! Well, I've heard it being called a lot of things, but I've never heard a crush ... | |
| My Gay partner is blackmailing me | 12/18/2008 |
| Q: Im 24 from india. Im very much afraiding person from my childhood.Before 3 weeks I got one gay ... A: I was in a similar situation a year ago. It is not easy. You must first relax, OK? Even if this ... | |
| Really worried im gay | 12/11/2008 |
| Q: Sorry if this is a bit of a monologue but its from another site where i posted. This has been eating ... A: Lets take this from the top! First off, you need to try an relax a little about all of this. No ... | |
| why do i think im gay? i know im not.... | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: i read another post about the samething i am goign through on this site by a person named peter, and ... A: Hey Joe! Yes, somewhere around your age your body and mind starts settling into what you will be as ... | |
| RE: Does he like me??? | 11/28/2008 |
| Q: My name is Steven and I'm in my mid 30's. I have been going to this diner in my neighborhood where I ... A: OK, breathe!! Relax! :-) You are not going over the edge at all, you are just reacting how you are ... | |
| RE: Does he like me??? | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: My name is Steven and I'm in my mid 30's. I have been going to this diner in my neighborhood where I ... A: Hey Steven I don't think the way you described him, lends him to be one of those guys that is using ... | |
| RE: Does he like me??? | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: My name is Steven and I'm in my mid 30's. I have been going to this diner in my neighborhood where I ... A: Steven, there's hope. Anything else? hehe! The way you discribed his behaviour is so typically ... | |
| Ah...Need Advice :( | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: I think I am falling in love with my straight friend but please hear me out im sorry this is SO ... A: You seem to be in a bit of pickle here, yes, hehe! If you would read the way he acts around you, if ... | |
| i need some guidance, please | 11/21/2008 |
| Q: I am a 17 year old guy, i have never kissed a girl nor took part in sexual activity. For as long as ... A: There is no difference between the emotions of gay or straight people. It is all the same. To have ... | |
| THX.. | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: First of all please accept my apology for my week English Dear kade ,, I was surfing on the net to ... A: I want you to think about something else too. Allah is all powerful and your Creator. He is a ... | |
| help plzzzzz its urgent | 11/14/2008 |
| Q: First of all please accept my apology for my week English Dear kade ,, I was surfing on the net to ... A: Please do not be sad. Being yourself is sometimes difficult. In my country it might be legal to be ... | |
| How? | 11/13/2008 |
| Q: How Man? Do u still think i can find sme1 cool like doc. Sme1 who is not after sex but d real luv? ... A: I would like to ask you a question. Why do you think it's a sin to be gay? Is it because the Bible ... | |
| Intergenerational love | 11/9/2008 |
| Q: I have been debating whether or not it would be appropriate for me, a 44 year old, to pursue a ... A: I have also been in a similar relationship, for 3 years, our age difference was 16 years, so I know ... | |
| Im in a dilema | 11/8/2008 |
| Q: Hey man, thanks a million. My Doctor lover has stopped calling because im at home cos im on hols. I ... A: Breath deeply... No man is ever worth the throwing away of your own life. We all only get one life, ... | |
| confusion | 11/7/2008 |
| Q: um I'm writing because of this guy who I think i'm putting alot of pressure on now, I guess i'll ... A: Please don't apologize, you are not being emotional. These emotions of yours are true and that is ... | |
| innate or inherited | 11/7/2008 |
| Q: Where do you stand on the debate over whether homosexuality is innate or inherited? Why? Also, do ... A: There are other influences as well that makes one gay, not only inheriting it, or it being innate. ... | |
| am i gay? bi? | 11/7/2008 |
| Q: i'm alex. i always have these feelings that i'm gay. i almost never look at boys and girls ... A: Hey again Alex Well, I don't think it changes things. I can also appreciate a girl's face, her ... | |
| am i gay? bi? | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: i'm alex. i always have these feelings that i'm gay. i almost never look at boys and girls ... A: If you can see yourself loving another guy, spending time with him, holding hands, walking in the ... | |
| confusion | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: um I'm writing because of this guy who I think i'm putting alot of pressure on now, I guess i'll ... A: I think we need to first relax, take a deep breath here, and take step back from everything. We ... | |
| what happened? | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: I had to ask a new question because of all of the follow-ups. I was going to talk to him and out of ... A: I will look out for a letter from your friend. I would be so sad if your friendship ended. You two ... | |
| what happened? | 11/2/2008 |
| Q: I had to ask a new question because of all of the follow-ups. I was going to talk to him and out of ... A: You friend is really making it hard for you two to stay friends, isn't he... And you say some other ... | |
| Am I gay? straight? Bi? | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: I am 20 years old and confused about my sexual orientation. During highschool I dated several ... A: You have a tough case here, but not impossible or even uncommon. So, step 1 is, relax! We will ... | |
| my son | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: My son, Jamie is 21 and I am very accepting of his sexuality. He's never had a proper boyfriend, ... A: I have to confess something. When I was 29, I had a boyfriend for 4 years, who was almost half my ... | |
| I am feeling rather confused.....? | 10/26/2008 |
| Q: I will give you a cliffnotes version... Well I worked with this guy and never thought he was gay, ... A: Hey Jack Well, first off, maybe it was just all rotten timing and he is just busy? If you truly ... | |
| Am i bisexual? or Gay? Or Straight? | 10/25/2008 |
| Q: im louis n im 16. erm nowadays im getting to feel lik im attach to gay porn n im just attach to my ... A: First thing... Relax! You are perfectly normal! :-) At 16 crazy things happen and we don't ... | |
| My ex is blackmailing me | 10/23/2008 |
| Q: i really love the way you handled mark's problem. Mine is that i met this guy online 4yrs ago. We ... A: About your ex. If he is threatening you, you must tell someone. It might be something 'innocent' ... | |
| what to do? | 10/20/2008 |
| Q: I've been friends with this guy for about a 2 years or so. We've been to each others houses many ... A: The million dollar question, hehe, how do you meet someone... :-) There are so many ways, but one ... | |
| what to do? | 10/20/2008 |
| Q: I've been friends with this guy for about a 2 years or so. We've been to each others houses many ... A: Now you see, Alan, you handled this brilliantly! I think your friendship will make this! You need ... | |
| sex | 10/5/2008 |
| Q: I know someone who is willing to blow me and possibly have sex you think I should do it if I have a ... A: I would never recommend you cheat on your girlfriend. Is a few moments of pleasure worth losing ... | |
| what to do? | 10/2/2008 |
| Q: I've been friends with this guy for about a 2 years or so. We've been to each others houses many ... A: You didn't tell me an awful lot of stuff, so I don't have much to go on here, but let's see if I can ... | |
| Is he gay or bisexual? | 9/24/2008 |
| Q: how could i start? i've known all my life that i am bisexual, but the society i live in does not ... A: Let's try to figure things out. It is sometimes difficult in cultures that do not allow free ... | |
| oral sex | 9/23/2008 |
| Q: Im a older gay guy who loves to give oral sex.My question is: Im very concerned with std.I do not ... A: If you and your partner(s) are careful and clean (tested and the like), then you need not be too ... | |
| Love(?) | 9/19/2008 |
| Q: I am gay and I am ashamed of it... One of my friend is bi sexual and we do different kind of things ... A: Why do you feel ashamed of being gay? Maybe you don't need to feel ashamed of it, but rather of how ... | |
| anal sex | 9/7/2008 |
| Q: o gay guy ...me n my bf r thinkin bout havin anal sex..how do we go about?...i know its not as easy ... A: Yes it's important to clean the areas quite well, for all sorts of reasons, STDs being the biggest, ... | |
| Confused in Atlanta | 8/28/2008 |
| Q: I just started working for a major corporation. I am a 23 year old male and fairly new to "the ... A: As you can see from how you get your information and what is going on here, that this whole ... | |
| what's happening | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: i guess i'll start off by saying i'm a junior in HS (all boy school by the way) and i recently ... A: Hey Marc Well, it is obvious that this guy does have some sort of feeling for you, but what it can ... | |
| wat's wrong with me? | 8/16/2008 |
| Q: hey adrian. i'm a 16 year old girl. i THINK i am straight but i dunno ( i have a question regarding ... A: First off, you need to take a deep breath :) Relax, let's figute this one out ok? I want to ... | |
| Confusion | 8/10/2008 |
| Q: I'm really confused about my sexuality. I've never had sex and never really felt the need to. I'm ... A: Let's try to figure this one out :-) I always ask myself: can see myself spending my life with ... | |
| Am I Gay, Straight, Bi, or just a phase ? | 8/10/2008 |
| Q: I have had this question stuck in my mind for a while now. This question is one that makes me think ... A: You can relax my friend! You are not gay. Being straight or gay had got nothing to do with ... | |
| Crush on a | 7/28/2008 |
| Q: Hey Adriaan, my name is Matt, I'm 18 years old and I am here to ask you for your advice on yet ... A: Matt I found myself staring at your poetry, and it changed my life. That such words can come from ... | |
| P.S. | 7/28/2008 |
| Q: I'm sorry to be sending you another message Adriaan but I felt I was not thorough enough when ... A: ) Well, you are truly blessed if you can have a friend like this! Why can't you guys keep in ... | |
| Crush on a "straight" friend...go figure? lol | 7/28/2008 |
| Q: Hey Adriaan, my name is Matt, I'm 18 years old and I am here to ask you for your advice on yet ... A: I feel like such an idiot now... I read your letters the wrong way around! You have already told me ... | |
| Lonely | 7/20/2008 |
| Q: I am a 20 yr old gay male. I currently attend a small college in Minnesota, USA, surrounded by a ... A: You have to know one thing first of all... It's never easy for anyone, straight or gay, young or ... | |
| Why Is my Gay Friend's boyfriend Acting so Weird with Me? | 7/14/2008 |
| Q: my best male friend who is gay (I'm straight female) has been going out with his boyfriend for a ... A: I must first off tell you, that you should not put too much of an emphasis on what he says or does ... | |
| ......... the fuck? | 7/6/2008 |
| Q: i was just wondering, see i'm a boy and have recently "DISCOVERED" my orientation, and i am in love ... A: Well, thereare lots of ways to find out if he is gay, and it sometimes depend on how old you guys ... | |
| confusion? | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: I am a gay female and I go to a all female gym every week. Since March 2008 I saw this young woman ... A: You are right, you are reading way too much into all of this. But don't panic, that's normal! We ... | |
| Gay or Bi | 6/3/2008 |
| Q: I think I am Bi/sexual but in America today or at lest in NYC today its not in voge to be bi. People ... A: In this day and age we tend to live our lives through other people's ideas. This is wrong. We ... | |
| gay | 5/10/2008 |
| Q: I want to know how started this kind of sex A: My first language is also not English, but I am having a hard time understanding what you are ... | |
| HOW!??????????? | 5/8/2008 |
| Q: ok so i have been obsessed with this one guy since i moved here and i always thought that he might ... A: Tobi, There is a very fine line between liking/lusting/loving someone and obession. You need to ... | |
| CAN I DO IT? | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: since we were both each other's firsts i was wondering if it was ok to have raw sex? i mean since we ... A: Unfortunately, STDs are sexually TRANSMITTED diseases and not sexually ACQUIRED diseases. The ... | |
| hey there Adriaan from kenneth in midrand | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: my name is kenneth and i am a white gay male living in Johannesburg .Adrinaan i have this one black ... A: Nice to read a letter from someone closer to home! I have also believed that love goes beyound skin ... | |
| I dont know if im straight or bi | 3/6/2008 |
| Q: i was reading a question on this guy name peter. he has got the same problem as i have. but he was ... A: I still say, relax! :-) You are not gay. The reason why you start feeling gay when you are ... | |
| I dont know if im straight or bi | 3/5/2008 |
| Q: i was reading a question on this guy name peter. he has got the same problem as i have. but he was ... A: Well, it's hard to always guess the right answer here, must most of the time it's just the hormones ... | |
| should i take the leap? | 2/28/2008 |
| Q: Well first off, I think it's really cool that there are people out there who are willing to listen ... A: I must rather thank you for trusting me with all these intimate things of your life. Let's try and ... | |
| Porn | 2/23/2008 |
| Q: So here is the problem, I like guys and I get turned on by looking at gay porn, well I like to ... A: Well, Johnathan The obvious answer would be to look at porn when your parents aren't around! Or ... | |
| What should i do in this situation | 2/21/2008 |
| Q: Earlier this year, one of my friends came out to me. He's 18 and im 17. I had no idea that he was ... A: Sorry for replying so late I hope that I can still help a little, but I'm afraid I might be too ... | |
| hallucinating! | 2/20/2008 |
| Q: I'm in love with this guy and I can't tell if he's in love w/ me. I mean, he touches me and flirt ... A: It's going to sound harsh, but you will have to choose. We don't always get the complete package we ... | |
| What to do | 2/19/2008 |
| Q: I've done something wrong. My roomate is female and she has a boyfriend, well kind of, they won't ... A: Im not one that likes subterfuge and skulking around in the dark where relationships are concerned. ... | |
| moving in together | 2/13/2008 |
| Q: I've been with the same guy for over a year, and love him dearly, but it keeps coming up that he ... A: Moving in together is a major step in any kind of relationship and even more so in a gay one, since ... | |
| Confused ex | 2/10/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 22 year-old gay guy from the Philippines, and my 19-year old boyfriend broke up with me ... A: After reading your letter, I have to tell you, that a guy with as much passion and intellect as you ... | |
| my boyfreind wants to have sex | 1/19/2008 |
| Q: im 16 years old and my boyfreind is 17. he says that he really wants to have sex and that he loves ... A: Anal sex does hurt the first time. There are a couple of reasons, the main two is, that you will be ... | |
| my boyfreind wants to have sex | 1/17/2008 |
| Q: im 16 years old and my boyfreind is 17. he says that he really wants to have sex and that he loves ... A: It depends in what country you are and if sex is consensual, but in most countries you are ... | |
| being gay | 1/9/2008 |
| Q: my name is Chance i am 18 years old and have an issue on my hands...I grew up in church and have ... A: You should rather ask that question for yourself. Don't live your life FOR other people, do it for ... | |
| Gay Friend? | 1/9/2008 |
| Q: To be blunt, My name is Aaron, I'm only 14 years old, but I'm positive that I'm gay. Everybody tells ... A: Sorry for taking so long to respond. I would never use age as a reason not to have true feelings. ... | |
| omg i'm so stupid | 12/28/2007 |
| Q: OH GOD. I am so dumb... well regardless to say, this is what happened.. I'm gay, and I have a best ... A: Do not be so hard on yourself. Afterall, you are also just human! Remember that what you did, you ... | |
| Wrong? | 12/26/2007 |
| Q: First of all I am 16 1/2 and I have a crush on my cousin, is this wrong? Also I have a crush on my ... A: It depends on in which your country you are, but in most countries, doing anything sexual with ... | |
| Friend could be closeted? | 12/18/2007 |
| Q: Is it possible for a guy to try to hide being gay by hooking up with lots of girls and constantly ... A: Well it looks like your friend is more uncomfortable about the idea to himself than he is ... | |
| Confused | 12/9/2007 |
| Q: I have gone on some gay dating sites and they have had things like "the flavor: what am i ... A: Let's see: * JO is Jerk Off, as in masturbate * LTR is Long Term Relationship * WS I am not sure of ... | |
| Hopeless? | 12/6/2007 |
| Q: I guess I should explain myself first off. This is hard for me to type so bare with me because I'm ... A: One thing we (desperate?) gay guys do when we DO meet a guy, we start to rationalize (you call it... ... | |
| Friend could be closeted? | 12/5/2007 |
| Q: Is it possible for a guy to try to hide being gay by hooking up with lots of girls and constantly ... A: sorry for taking so long to reply Your friend sounds like he is really trying hard not be seen as ... | |
| Gay rights | 11/30/2007 |
| Q: What do you think would happen to the human race if every person was gay? Would we cease to exist? A: Well, no not at all. Being gay is not just about having sex with someone with the same gender, it's ... | |
| Hard time dating | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: I've been getting really frustrated lately. I have a hard time dating. My last 3 potential dates ... A: Well, when someone fights with you from out of the blue it usually means they feel guilty and it's a ... | |
| This boy at work >.< | 11/14/2007 |
| Q: Well I'm an 18 year old boy and well we'll just say that I'm gay hehe... It's also pretty easy for ... A: Josh, if you ever need to talk to someone about things, or about him or if you just need someone you ... | |
| lesbian | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: I have a girlfriend who is said a lesbian(I'm straight). Some of my other friends heard that she has ... A: Firstly, if you think she is lesbian and if she says she's lesbian, then you shouldn't be worried ... | |
| This boy at work >.< | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: Well I'm an 18 year old boy and well we'll just say that I'm gay hehe... It's also pretty easy for ... A: Josh, it entirely depends on how the 'date' is going. If you are in the movies and he sits with ... | |
| what the hell? | 11/7/2007 |
| Q: i am 17 years old, always loved and wanted to have sex with beautiful women, and still do!! i have a ... A: Ok calm down, hehe, you are not gay. Being gay is more than just wanting to sleep with men and ... | |
| Kyle here again.. I didn't know how to continue my last message. ahh. | 11/6/2007 |
| Q: Anyway, ur amazing! I wanted to make you understand Sam and my relationship... I don't really ever ... A: Hey Kyle! Man, I'm so jealous! You have it so easy with your 'hunt'! My hunt is a little more ... | |
| Straight friend? | 11/6/2007 |
| Q: I am a 26 year old gay man and live with my 22 year old best friend. We are really close and he is ... A: Mike, I will try to answer your question with a story about my life. I have a friend, who is ... | |
| This boy at work >.< | 11/6/2007 |
| Q: Well I'm an 18 year old boy and well we'll just say that I'm gay hehe... It's also pretty easy for ... A: Step out of your gay body for a second and think about this logically... A guy smiling at another ... | |
| Can you help me determine if someone is gay? | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: I'm Kyle, I'm a junior in high school. I'm 16 and I'm gay. I think so anyway. I adore girls I think ... A: You are probably the first person that I have ever spoken to via this website or even in real life, ... | |
| Having a difficult life. | 11/3/2007 |
| Q: my question may be a little bit different. I know that i am gay/bi and i want to know if there is ... A: I believe that every person is entitled to his own life and that we don't live our lives FOR someone ... | |
| i'm confused "is he gay, straight or bi" | 10/29/2007 |
| Q: hey, i need some advice, i'm only 16, I like this guy, but i dont know for sure if he's gay or ... A: sorry for answering so late! If a guy wants to be with another guy, he likes guys. It's really ... | |
| What should i do? | 10/28/2007 |
| Q: I know i am gay. Although since I'm catholic and am in a religious family, I'm going to go to hell ... A: Sorry for replying so late, hope I can still help a little! Coming to grips with your orientation ... | |
| Clever practicalities for the gay newbie | 10/27/2007 |
| Q: Try not to laugh. Embarrassed to ask. I recently came to grips with being Bi, and have found little ... A: First off, stop panicking! It's just sex, you know, it's not like you're hiding an atomic bomb! ... | |
| help | 10/25/2007 |
| Q: on the outside, I'm a lesbian woman. that's only because my outside doesn't match my inside; inside ... A: Well, I understand your situation a little better now. As I have said before, I am more of a ... | |
| help | 10/22/2007 |
| Q: on the outside, I'm a lesbian woman. that's only because my outside doesn't match my inside; inside ... A: I have always believed in honesty, telling the truth. Sometimes it hurts, but in the long run, it ... | |
| boyfriend douches in the morning | 10/21/2007 |
| Q: my boyfriend douched this morning before leaving for a wedding and work for the day... is this ... A: It is nog uncommon for someone to douche when they want to feel better. If you however think that ... | |
| Gloryholes | 10/7/2007 |
| Q: Do you know id Johannesburg has any gloryholes. Ive seen them on the internet, but dont know of they ... A: You will find gloryholes in public restrooms in malls and petrol stations, but you must consider the ... | |
| Need help | 10/2/2007 |
| Q: I want to become a anwserer (if that is even right) im only 16 1/2 on these topics i now ill be good ... A: They call us 'experts' on this site. Answerer is not a word, hehe! But don't worry! I guess you ... | |
| Hopeless? | 10/2/2007 |
| Q: I guess I should explain myself first off. This is hard for me to type so bare with me because I'm ... A: Well, you ask one of the most difficult questions there is for gay guys... Is that guy gay? It is ... | |
| Bathhouses & Darkrooms | 9/30/2007 |
| Q: I have heard of bathhouses, but not Darkrooms. What are they? Have you been to any? What about the ... A: As you know, bathhouses is an old Roman Empire concept where men used to all bathe together while ... | |
| WANT A SEX PARTNER AROUND GAUTENG | 9/29/2007 |
| Q: I'm still in the closet with regard to gay life. I want to experiment but far away from my province. ... A: Why don't you pick up the gay newspaper, Exit? It has lots of ads of male companions. You can also ... | |
| Massage | 9/28/2007 |
| Q: I was wondering if it was against the law to receive an erotic massage by trained and licensed men. ... A: Since I do not live in your country, it is difficult for me to know what the laws are in your ... | |
| WANT A SEX PARTNER AROUND GAUTENG | 9/26/2007 |
| Q: I'm still in the closet with regard to gay life. I want to experiment but far away from my province. ... A: Hey Didi Well, there are lots of places you can try, gay clubs, bars if you can pick someone up ... | |
| shit i need help | 9/26/2007 |
| Q: hey wats up Adrian, im nando im a 17 year old gay guy with a depressing problem.. see im 17 and ive ... A: Asking someone out, probably the most difficult thing in the world! Just kidding! It's actually ... | |
| shit i need help | 9/22/2007 |
| Q: hey wats up Adrian, im nando im a 17 year old gay guy with a depressing problem.. see im 17 and ive ... A: Hey hey Nando! Well, you could be just butt-ugly? JOKING! JOKING! But seriously, he might just ... | |
| shit i need help | 9/20/2007 |
| Q: hey wats up Adrian, im nando im a 17 year old gay guy with a depressing problem.. see im 17 and ive ... A: Let's see what we can do. First off, of you think you are old enough to date and to handle a ... | |
| cheat | 9/15/2007 |
| Q: basically me and my bf had some issues a while back. cheating. i have forgiven it. yet recently i ... A: Well, yes, if your bf is showing those kind of signs, it could mean he feels guilty and is ... | |
| Painful... | 8/30/2007 |
| Q: I normall bottom during intercorse and go weeks or months inbettween incounters..thusly every single ... A: To be honest, it will always hurt when someone goes in there. It was not really meant for sex, and ... | |
| dealing with my life. | 8/24/2007 |
| Q: "Hi Adriaan i would like to say thankyou for helping everyone else who's asked you a question ive ... A: Do not worry about long letters, the more we chat, the more we figure things out! I must tell you ... | |
| I need advice about my best friend | 8/18/2007 |
| Q: What's up Adriaan, how are you bro? Anyways..I'm sure you get a lot of questions about people having ... A: Well James, thats quite a mouthful, hehe! Let's figure this one out. Honesty always stays the best ... | |
| how can I find a boyfriend or someone else who is gay if everyone my age is in the closet? | 8/16/2007 |
| Q: ok so im 14 and have recently started telling my close friends that im gay. I haven't told any guys ... A: -) Let's figure this one out. I know it feels like everyone's in the closet. We all go some phases ... | |
| Queer activists in South Africa | 8/12/2007 |
| Q: Great to see a guy from South Africa, I envy your liberal Constitution and the Bill of Rights that ... A: Hey there Brett! Yes, we never have always had a very liberal Bill of Rights, not so much detailing ... | |
| Finding someone | 7/25/2007 |
| Q: I've recently came out and have no idea on how to find a potential bf. One of the problems is that ... A: Let's try to figure this one out! How you act should not constitute who you are. First off you ... | |
| pubes | 7/18/2007 |
| Q: I really wanted to know if we are able to shave our pubes? I mean well course we can but when i look ... A: Sorry for replying so late! Many men shave their pubic hair these days. There are many reasons for ... | |
| I Need Some Clarity | 6/16/2007 |
| Q: I'm currently dealing with a huge burden inside my own eighteen-year-old head and not a single ... A: let's try to figure it out together. If I had to analyze you by your mannerisms and the way you ... | |
| i to tell if he's gay! | 6/15/2007 |
| Q: hey what up bro. recently i have had my eye on this guy in school and i really like him, but it ... A: Hey Frank! Well, you should trust your feelings (but keep on using your brain!) and the rule here ... | |
| Lube | 6/4/2007 |
| Q: I'm new to this but I wanted to know, What is lube? I hear about it and don't know what it is, (by ... A: Lube is short for lubricant, and it's exactly the what it says. It does the same as what oil would ... | |
| crush on my possibly bi friend | 6/1/2007 |
| Q: My name's Matt and I'm 21 yrs. old and I have a HUGE crush on my best friend who's turning 20. We ... A: I must apologize for taking so long to answer your questions, I have had problems connecting to the ... | |
| Massage | 5/23/2007 |
| Q: I am not Gay, but would like to get a sensual massage by a masseuer. I am actually a happily ... A: It is not wrong at all to have a desire to be pampered. You must realize that having a full body ... | |
| HELP!!!!!!!!!!! | 5/23/2007 |
| Q: I am in so much trouble that I don't even know what to do. First of all, let me tell you a little ... A: Gary I am so sorry that you have lost the people you love in the process, but if they couldn't ... | |
| HELP!!!!!!!!!!! | 5/17/2007 |
| Q: I am in so much trouble that I don't even know what to do. First of all, let me tell you a little ... A: My friend, you do have a bit of a complicated situation, I must agree, but the solution is very ... | |
| Gay life at work | 5/11/2007 |
| Q: Howdy. I got a question for ya. I have recently got a new boss at work. He is a real jack ass. But I ... A: Hey Kevin! Discrimination at work because of sexual orientation is a big problem, almost anywhere. ... | |
| Gay boyfriend? | 5/3/2007 |
| Q: I am in love with the most wonderful man, we have had a relationship for over 2 years.Everything is ... A: When a man sleeps with a man dressed as a woman, it does not make him gay. To be straight or gay ... | |
| Need Help please! | 4/23/2007 |
| Q: I have a boyfriend and he is straight no signs of gayness except one thing he is big on getting it ... A: If you mean that you boyfriend likes to have anal sex with 'getting it at his end', then no, it does ... | |
| Gay | 4/20/2007 |
| Q: Is it true that people become a gay if they are bullied at birth? A: The answer is definitely NO. People do not become gay either, it is just how we are. It is like ... | |
| doctor | 4/15/2007 |
| Q: how can i tell the doctor I'm gay? will he tell my parents? what extra exams will he do to me? A: I do not know how old you are so I cannot be sure how your doctor will react, but usually if you ... | |
| About my friend!!! | 4/14/2007 |
| Q: I have a friend who I've known since last July, but we really started hanging out a lot since the ... A: I apologise for taking so long to reply, I didnt have access to the internet for some time. I'm ... | |
| Unsure about myself... | 4/10/2007 |
| Q: I know I don't like girls at all, whereas I find myself attracted physically to men. I've known this ... A: What you are feeling is doubt in yourself. Yup, just that! You are just afraid of being with a ... | |
| Could my friend be interested in me... | 4/1/2007 |
| Q: I'm 18 years old and live in a small Swedish community in Minnesota. I've know about my bisexuality ... A: There is a few things I would like to mention first. You have to remember that when we like someone ... | |
| internal damage ? | 3/31/2007 |
| Q: After years of trying to tell myself I wasn't attracted to men I've finally taken the plunge and ... A: The pictures you've seen you probably got from some porn site? Those guys do it 20 times a day! ... | |
| 3 way | 3/30/2007 |
| Q: My partner and I (3months) have an issue with a 3 way - he wants it and I do not - he promises not ... A: Threesomes in my opinion are always a bad idea. There are some positives that can come from a ... | |
| Attractive Women | 3/30/2007 |
| Q: I've been questioning my sexuality for a while now and I was wondering what goes through the mind ... A: Well, the short easy answer to your questions is that it would be the same as when a straight man ... | |
| bareback | 3/29/2007 |
| Q: G'day Adriaan, just wanting to know me and my partner steve have been in a loving relationship for 2 ... A: Hey there James and Steve! Biology and medicine are never 100% in anything, unfortunately. There ... | |
| a follow up | 3/23/2007 |
| Q: As a follow up.I tried to do the follow up the normal route but it wouldnt work. My boyfriend has to ... A: That nagging feeling you have, we all have, but that is exactly where trust comes in. If you are ... | |
| being gay in south africa | 3/4/2007 |
| Q: i was intrigued by your remarks, because you state that gays do not live openly in SA? i ask why ... A: Hey Mike! Thank you for your great comments! Yes, we can marry now, yay! Yes, we have one of the ... | |
| cud u help plz! | 3/3/2007 |
| Q: The text above is a follow-up to ... -----Question-----The text above is a follow-up to ... ... A: Hey Alex Having these thoughts are not uncommon. You might just be curious about it, but you would ... | |
| cud u help plz! | 3/2/2007 |
| Q: The text above is a follow-up to ... -----Question-----The text above is a follow-up to ... ... A: Hey Alex Yes, most people are scared of being gay. It's because society doesn't 'really' accept ... | |
| cud u help plz! | 3/1/2007 |
| Q: The text above is a follow-up to ... -----Question-----The text above is a follow-up to ... ... A: You can't really be scared into becoming gay, you either are or you aren't gay :) Sometimes people ... | |
| cud u help plz! | 2/28/2007 |
| Q: The text above is a follow-up to ... -----Question-----hello i am a young male who is finding ... A: It is a very strange question that you are asking.. What is it to be gay? The answer is even ... | |
| cud u help plz! | 2/26/2007 |
| Q: The text above is a follow-up to ... -----Question-----hello i am a young male who is finding ... A: Hey again Alex! You sound like you have a vivid imagination, that's all! It's a good thing, I can ... | |
| cud u help plz! | 2/25/2007 |
| Q: The text above is a follow-up to ... -----Question----- hello i am a young male who is finding ... A: Hey again Alex What you have told me and the way to speak about things, I do not think you are gay ... | |
| my cousin | 2/15/2007 |
| Q: My cousin is in his early 50's, good looking, good educated and having a good pay job. He's been ... A: I apologise for taking so long to reply, I have been away and did not have internet access. I hope ... | |
| cud u help plz! | 2/11/2007 |
| Q: i dnt get turned on by blokes or nythin but cud this be a sign im gay i mean i wish i luked like sum ... A: Lots of gay men like to watch lesbian porn, don't worry! I think it's because there are more than ... | |
| hey | 2/6/2007 |
| Q: oh yeah i would take it slow with the notes and hints. it's taken me like 3 years and i still ... A: Hey! Which Instant Messenger do you use, we can always chat on that or email that way, Tim. I ... | |
| plz help | 2/5/2007 |
| Q: I do not hav feelings for boys and do not look at gay porn but I get visions in my head of my mates ... A: Hey Alex Lets see what we can sort out here :) I don't want to sound like your sex-ed teacher ... | |
| my friend | 2/4/2007 |
| Q: this is my first time asking anything on a site like this, but my question is about my friend Sean. ... A: It's sometimes difficult to gauge people's reasons for liking or not liking something, especially if ... | |
| cud u help plz! | 2/3/2007 |
| Q: i dnt get turned on by blokes or nythin but cud this be a sign im gay i mean i wish i luked like sum ... A: Hey there Alex Thank yo for trusting me with your deepest feelings, let's try to figure out what to ... | |
| hey | 2/1/2007 |
| Q: yeah that was weird it was bounced back. oh well, thanks for the answer yet again. I like the ... A: Hey You are just a little scared that life as you know it might fall apart if you tell him, right? ... | |
| Tired, missing somebody | 1/31/2007 |
| Q: First of all I want to tell you that I'm in a very very weird and difficult situation. Ok, there's ... A: let's see what we can figure out here :) You have to remember that when we meet someone they cannot ... | |
| hey | 1/24/2007 |
| Q: yeah i don't think i should say anything.lol i just got the chance to call him yesterday. he still ... A: Hey there Tim Well, he could just be talking big on his mySpace not to sound stupid for his friends ... | |
| when is the right time? continues... | 1/19/2007 |
| Q: Hope you still remember me. So i took your advice and told him that I love him. I said it when we ... A: Ofcourse I remember you :) It seems that your guy still needs to roam around a little, have some ... | |
| confused | 1/14/2007 |
| Q: I'm a married older (in gay terms) guy who love having sex with guys, but it is causing tremendous ... A: I apologize for taking so long to reply, my internet was off for a while since we moved offices at ... | |
| cum | 1/13/2007 |
| Q: I'm new to this so yeah, well anyway I have been looking at gay porn also I have always wanted to ... A: Hey Sam You can try to lie on your back with your dick above your head and cum that way. It is ... | |
| I know I'm not but... | 1/6/2007 |
| Q: Hey again, Adriaan ;) Sorry to keep asking but I just need someone to talk about my fears. Since I ... A: Hey there Connor, sorry for replaying so late, I had no internet for a while since we moved offices ... | |
| hey | 12/22/2006 |
| Q: yeah that was like 3 years ago when he said that but he was the one that brought it up--i never said ... A: But 3 years ago he was like 12yrs old? How much could he have understood about these things then ... | |
| when is the right time? | 12/3/2006 |
| Q: .You know I even sent him text msgs in afrikaans, do you think its sweet? and im trying to learn ... A: Well, if he is South African and white, he will fall into one of two categories. He is either very ... | |
| when is the right time? | 12/1/2006 |
| Q: How are you? English isnt my first language so please bear with me :). So here's my story. I met ... A: Hey Jason My first language is Afrikaans, so don't worry about the broken English, mine is worse! ... | |
| I want to but.... | 11/29/2006 |
| Q: I am 15 turning 16 and I know this guy we arn't really friends but we get on well if we have group ... A: Hey Samuel Well, about your friend you dont know is gay, why not go for a drink or burger or ... | |
| Deep down I know I'm not but.... | 11/23/2006 |
| Q: ) Like I say I've been straight for all my life and my i started questioning my sexuality ... A: Just a quick note, my name is Adriaan :) Pretorius is my surname. I have been gay since I was a ... | |
| foreplay? | 11/22/2006 |
| Q: i am new to this and i was wondering what foreplay was? i hear it alot and i want to know, thanks A: Hey there Tom Foreplay involves very many different things for different people, but tradionally it ... | |
| Deep down I know I'm not but.... | 11/18/2006 |
| Q: Hey I've just turned 16 and for all of my life I've been straight. I would always check out girls ... A: Let's put things to rest... you are not gay. Rejoice! :) Now the reasons. You and your mom are ... | |
| Help | 11/18/2006 |
| Q: I'm a 20 year old gay male and I know this guy (who's really HOT) and I really want to have sex with ... A: I will try to help :) If friends decide to step over the friendship line and become more, there are ... | |
| I don't think I'm gay, but... | 11/10/2006 |
| Q: Your answer really helped me alot and I feel relief but there were some that I haven't mention. I ... A: Hey again Mike I am not so sure what your question is this time, but after you've yold me about ... | |
| Dildo | 11/8/2006 |
| Q: Hey, what could i use insead of of a dildo cause i want to masturbate sucking on it to know what it ... A: You can try to use anything that is the correct form, but food is the best choice, since if you ... | |
| Thanks | 11/5/2006 |
| Q: I always see this or read this when I look at gay porn and well I want to know what it is and what ... A: Hey again Jack Right, first off, rimming is a fantastic feeling that someone can give you, but you ... | |
| Hoping hes gay/bi | 11/5/2006 |
| Q: I'm a 17 year old bisexual male. A year and a half ago, i met this kid Eric at my new job, and at ... A: J. First off, thanks for trusting me with this very private part of your life, let's try to figure ... | |
| thank you | 11/3/2006 |
| Q: lol thanks. yeah i was annoyed he blew me off for the other friends but he has said before why ... A: Tim! My romantic friend, Tim... :) I can give you some opinions based only on what you've told me, ... | |
| Demla | 11/3/2006 |
| Q: To help you out im 15 and my parents would probley find the package and opann it then i would be ... A: There isnt a lot you can do short of letting someone else buy it for you, or sendign the package to ... | |
| Help | 11/3/2006 |
| Q: Thanks A: Hey Jack! Losing weight depends on how you got it in the first place! Also, I do not know your ... | |
| Confused | 11/3/2006 |
| Q: I don't know if i am gay, is there like a test or a few questions to tell if you are or not? Also I ... A: Hey again Jack! If you talk to guys and if you watch naked guys, if you like to watch naked guys ... | |
| Porn | 11/2/2006 |
| Q: I do enjoy watching gay porn, but I don't know any gay porn sites that are 100% FREE, can you help? ... A: Hey Jack Free porn sites dont really exist on the internet, you can try GayMoviePost, GayMovieList, ... | |
| why do i think im gay? i know im not.... | 10/22/2006 |
| Q: i have had not thoughts about homosexuality like having sex with other men doesnt get me eroused at ... A: Hey Peter! First things first... Relax! You are not gay. :-D Yup, I don't think you are. Don't ... | |
| stuck up not knowing what to do | 10/20/2006 |
| Q: i tried the old fashioned note writing way,actually sms but..i guess everything ended just before i ... A: Hey again! Thanks for the nice comments! About the ignoring and avoiding bit, some people just ... | |
| stuck up not knowing what to do | 10/13/2006 |
| Q: adriaan, I'm a 17-year-old male Australian and I have this friend, a gay, whom I have, no, once had ... A: Hey GG! This is for sure the worst thing that could happen to someone (not just gay) that have ... | |
| Found Out | 10/5/2006 |
| Q: Hey That guy e-mailed me back, but he is from Canada so I asked him if he knew anyone from were I ... A: Yes ofcourse, keep with this website, it is usually a safe place to meet and chat, even if it's just ... | |
| Gay Relationships | 10/4/2006 |
| Q: Ok here is my situation. I have been fooling around with this man for 6 weeks now and I am falling ... A: Two seperate issues here, it seems! Hehe! Ok, the first one, to 3-way or not to 3-way... That is ... | |
| Gay | 10/3/2006 |
| Q: I have told my mum that I like guys but she said it was a phase, I don't know that if it isn't then ... A: There one small problem here is your age. Unfortunately, no one wants to 'believe' you at you're ... | |
| Gay Life | 10/3/2006 |
| Q: I really thought it was helpful but there were some problems but the major one being the fact I am ... A: It is hard to define how you know you are gay. The one that I find useful is to ask yourself if you ... | |
| hi | 10/3/2006 |
| Q: i am a gay man aged 22. i would like to ask bout anal sexy what to do and not to do to make unal sex ... A: There are many different things to try with anal sex. One thing is true, though, sadly, it will ... | |
| Confused | 9/29/2006 |
| Q: I wanted to know if you were gay? I am really so if I have caused any offence by asking this I just ... A: Yes, I am gay. And everything you've talked about in your question is all fine! Relax! It is all ... | |
| gaylife | 9/28/2006 |
| Q: i'm having only 3.5 inches dick in erection.can i satisfy a womenRespected sir, i'm here to ask u a ... A: 3.5 inches is an average length and would not be a problem at all! Size really doesn't make a ... | |
| gaylife | 9/28/2006 |
| Q: Respected sir, i'm here to ask u a question that i'm a gay.so there is no erection when i was with a ... A: I am going to assume you are a male and of a legal age. Gay people can ofcourse have sex with ... | |
| Gay Life | 9/25/2006 |
| Q: "I have masturbated before but I want to take it a step further, I would like to try gay means of ... A: I have to mention that if you know how to masturbate, there isn't a whole lot more you can do, short ... | |
| how do i know for sure | 6/16/2006 |
| Q: thats in simple phrase, but why every time when i do the fantasies i feel vwey welcom to blow ... A: While reading your letters I thought of only one thing. You are such a good person! you are trying ... | |
| First it was great and then.... | 6/15/2006 |
| Q: Never in my life would I feel the need to solicit advise but that is exactly what I am doing. I am ... A: sorry for getting back to you so late, I have been away to the UK. In fact, I am still in the UK ... | |
| Queer fundraising | 6/7/2006 |
| Q: We are a near-retirement couple (23 years) who have moved to Fountain City (KNoxville, TN) from ... A: First off, I must congratulate you on a lifetime together! We all know that gy relationship years ... | |
| Loneliness | 5/6/2006 |
| Q: It has been three days since I watched Brokeback Mountain and at the same time I've also felt so sad ... A: I'll try to help :) Firstly, stop apologising! You should never have to apologise for begin who you ... | |
| a little help | 5/4/2006 |
| Q: i ahvent ever tried anything with anotehr guy nor do i want to. id much rather be with a girl....so ... A: You have answered your question yourself, if you think about it. You'd rather be with a girl. You ... | |
| a little help | 5/4/2006 |
| Q: hey thanks alot for your reply. i still have a few more questions, though, so as to what you said ... A: Having thoughts of sex with guys does not make you gay, at all! Just horny. Really! :-) you are ... | |
| What to expect? | 4/30/2006 |
| Q: I'll try briefly to state my case and questions. Thank you in advance. I have a 13 yo steady ... A: let's see if I can help a little here 13 years you say? Congratulations! That is a million years ... | |
| Gay Man, Straight Relationship? | 3/31/2006 |
| Q: my fiance of five years recently came out the he is gay. About a year ago, he thought he was ... A: I think you have answered you own question, at the end there! Freedom. In my opinion you both felt ... | |
| Partner has fallen for another guy | 3/27/2006 |
| Q: It has helped me think a lot more. I spoke to a friend last night which helped. They thought it was ... A: You have to ask yourself in the end, who owns the problem here. He does. And if he doesn't want to ... | |
| Partner has fallen for another guy | 3/26/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my partner for 3 years now. The sex was great at first and after 8 months we moved ... A: I Alan First off, thank you for trusting me with all that is private in your life, I hope I will be ... | |
| need to know | 3/23/2006 |
| Q: i m suffering from phonomena it is the first time to me to disclose it , this phenomena i suffering ... A: Actually, it is not that weird. As I said, we all have fantasies, and we are even allowed fantasies ... | |
| need to know | 3/22/2006 |
| Q: i m suffering from phonomena it is the first time to me to disclose it , this phenomena i suffering ... A: Firstly, I want to tell you, that you are not alone! Millions (if not everyone!) have the same ... | |
| need help | 2/25/2006 |
| Q: i m confuse very much wish you help i m naturally excited with womens sexuality (i m a male) so i ... A: My friend, you have answered your own question with your one sentence at the end there. You are ... | |
| I am totaly in love with my boyfreind but.. | 2/23/2006 |
| Q: umm.. well i'm 15 years old and live in canada, I am totaly in love with my 14 yearold boyfreind, ... A: There are millions of reasons why should you should NOT lie to your mom or even take the trip to ... | |
| Anal Sex | 2/16/2006 |
| Q: I've noticed in gay sex videos when they guys are having anal sex their dicks always seem to remain ... A: Yes, indeed, there are some steps before you engage in anal sex! Just like you never see the guys ... | |
| about hiv | 2/15/2006 |
| Q: how are you? Dear i want to ask you some thing about hiv. you know i have told you earlier that i ... A: Sorry for answering so late, my internet have been giving problems. I am also not too sure I ... | |
| am i gay? | 2/7/2006 |
| Q: I’m 21 years old and have been struggling with the gay question since I was a teenager and even ... A: Let me put your mind at ease. You are as straight as they come! It's all about emotions and love and ... | |
| Changing | 1/26/2006 |
| Q: Hey dude, I have decided to live a straight life.Could you tell me some instances where one can make ... A: I must be honest and say that is not really such a thing as going straight. It's not that I am very ... | |
| Your advice | 1/18/2006 |
| Q: It is very well known that there is a strong correlation between a homosexual orientation and AIDS. ... A: Well, the answer is simple ofcourse. Use a condom! I do not agree however that sexual diseases go ... | |
| to be a girl | 1/14/2006 |
| Q: Because of some limitations in our country, I have to do some feminine works when I am alone. ... A: I don't know all the ins and outs of make-up, but the basics are that you first wash your face with ... | |
| to be a girl | 1/10/2006 |
| Q: May you select a girlish name for me and guide me step by step to convert into a girl?I am a young ... A: It would be wrong for me to make these decisions for you, if you would like to rather be a girl ... | |
| to be a girl | 1/10/2006 |
| Q: I am a young man, 28 years old. Since several years ago, I always like to live like girls, have a ... A: Sometimes a man feels that he was given the wrong body and should rather have been a woman. you must ... | |
| coming out to parents | 12/22/2005 |
| Q: I wrote to one of this site's volunteers, asking him about coming out to my parents. I am a 35 ... A: I hope I can be of some help, particularly since your life is a mirror image of mine. Please excuse ... | |
| Bi Curious, sorta | 12/13/2005 |
| Q: I'm a 38 year old straight male who has a curiosity about anal sex with another man. I have dated ... A: I apologise for replying so late, I had some difficulty getting onto the internet to read my email. ... | |
| Presents | 12/4/2005 |
| Q: I guess you would have notice christmas is coming closer and closer each and everyday. And you would ... A: Before we talk about Christmas, let me ask you this: We have spoken quite a few times through ... | |
| Me and MY bf | 11/28/2005 |
| Q: I mailed to you the last time about my relationship problems and want to thank you for your advice. ... A: I am sorry to have taken so long to answer, I had some trouble logging onto the internet from home. ... | |
| my friend | 11/26/2005 |
| Q: im 14 year old male and my friend is a 13 year old male.we have been best friends for 8 years. so me ... A: I am so very sorry that I didn't write to you earlier, I had some trouble with my internet at home. ... | |
| asking someone out | 11/6/2005 |
| Q: im 18 years old and im gay. I like to look at gay porn and have a wank and don't really want to live ... A: I will try to help. There is a few things that concern me. Do you KNOW this other boy is gay? You ... | |
| Confused about my sexuality | 10/14/2005 |
| Q: My life goes on as a normal gay with no worries of my boyfriend, personal life and everything else ... A: I'm not sure if you have a question this time around, so I will give some general advice. About ... | |
| Confused about my sexuality | 9/22/2005 |
| Q: Hey Adriaan, I'm Eric, 19, a college students, a normal life like hanging out with friends. But I'm ... A: Hey there Eric! Firstly, let me say thank you for trusting me with your private thoughts, I will ... | |
| Whats wrong with my relationship.... | 8/9/2005 |
| Q: I will try to keep this as short as I can. I have been in a relationship for about 2 years with a ... A: Your email, sadly, reflects what most of us in same-sex realtionships experience. I can not speak ... | |
| Curious about sex with a man | 6/22/2005 |
| Q: I'm a 51 y/o straight guy who's tried a lot of different things sexually. I've never been with a ... A: I will try to help where I can! While it is a good thing to try different things in life (I sure ... | |
| Is it worth it,Big Dilemma | 5/6/2005 |
| Q: I am a 21 year old single black female with no children,who has recently broken up with my boyfriend ... A: I will try and help as much as I can. Your story is a sad one and quite complex. I truly believe ... | |
| living in oklahoma, usa | 4/15/2005 |
| Q: Louis, Missouri for the last 4 days. Anyway my real question is and I don't know if you can answer ... A: Firstly, thanks so much for the lovely note to me and Jack (his name is actually Jandre, sort of a ... | |
| does he like me | 4/12/2005 |
| Q: I'm 15 and am not sure yet if I'm gay or not. There is a guy at my high school that I really like ... A: Hey Will! Thanks so much for trusting me with these private stuff of yours! I will try to help :-) ... | |
| relationships | 4/3/2005 |
| Q: I am a 36 year old man, and I just "became" gay a few years ago. I live in a small redneck town in ... A: And thank you for trusting me with such private matters, I will try to give advice and offer as much ... | |
| discrimination against gays | 2/17/2005 |
| Q: Would you feel differently if you had childern that became homosexuals? How do you feel about about ... A: Sorry I am late, my phoneline was off. I am gay and the only way I could have children was if we ... | |
| gay | 2/11/2005 |
| Q: i want to no if my friend is gay. first off im 13 male i not shore if im gay i have seen guys nacked ... A: Sorry for taking so long to reply, my phoneline was off. I hope I still help!! Asking someone if ... | |
| hello my name is Will, 23... | 1/15/2005 |
| Q: my name is Will, 23 years and living in the uk. i have a problem with feelings that i have been ... A: Hey there Will! Firstly, sorry I am replying so late, my phonelines have been down with the storms ... | |
| do you fear god | 1/4/2005 |
| Q: do you know what happen to prophet lut town god punished them because they were homosexualtiy is sin ... A: I know the Bible extensively. Sodom and Gomorrah was not struck down because of homosexuality. ... | |
| comin out | 12/9/2004 |
| Q: I'm a 1st genereation 19 yr old male and am still in the closet sadly. I fear that if i were 2 come ... A: I apologise for my late reply, my phone line was off for a while, bad weather!!! Let me tell you a ... | |
| i am so lonely | 7/29/2004 |
| Q: how r u? i read ur bio & i am like u,no body knows i am gay,well i'll tell one thing i am egyptian ... A: I must first apologise for answering so late, my internet connection was not working. And I want to ... | |
| Hello! Here I am again!... | 7/8/2004 |
| Q: Here I am again! Thank you for the constant advise you're giving me. Yeah, honestly, I really ... A: I have a favor to ask you, and it is all up to you! We have now coresponded here quite alot, and I ... | |
| ------------------------- ... | 7/5/2004 |
| Q: ------------------------- Hello Adrian and Jack! My warmest gratitude for the understanding and ... A: I am still sad about what happened between you two, but relieved to see that you are staying ... | |
| Dear Adrian and Jack! Hello... | 7/2/2004 |
| Q: Hello again! I hope I'm not disturbing both of you. It's just that, I sincerely feel your concern ... A: First off, it saddened me immensely when I read your boyfriend's letter. Please don't worry about ... | |
| Hello there again! Thanks... | 6/25/2004 |
| Q: I really have trusted you from the time you replied to my first letter. MY pleasure to have you ... A: Good day Ian! Let's get right down to business! The reason I keep on saying that he (and you) are ... | |
| Hello again! My apology... | 6/25/2004 |
| Q: My apology for not informing you completely about me and my bf. Actually we are going into our 4th ... A: and for trusting me (a total stranger!) with it all. It warms our hearts to know that a gay couple ... | |
| Dear Adrian and Jack! Thank... | 6/24/2004 |
| Q: I really appreciate your bits of advice. I think you are right. Maybe, I'm giving to much love to ... A: Good day to you, Ian! I have some questions to pose to you as well (I hope you find time to reply ... | |
| "Cooling-off" | 6/19/2004 |
| Q: First, I would like to inform you about our situation with my gay boyfriend. He is younger than me ... A: Hey there Ian! Thank you, firstly, for trusting me with your question. I will try to tell you what ... | |
| Slip Up | 6/12/2003 |
| Q: I struck up a friendly conversation with a woman at a drugstore because she was holding her dog and ... A: First off, thank you that you take into your confidence with regards to being gay and of what I know ... | |
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Adriaan Pretorius
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Expertise
Any questions on how to come out, handling people close to you, handling the pressures of being gay in society, going out, seeking a partner, etc. are welcome. I live in South Africa and may have a unique perspective on gay live, as gays do not live openly and have been scorned for a long time here. If you need to speak to someone, and no one wants to listen, I will try my best to be a friend when you have none.
Experience
I am a gay male who have lived the life as someone that had to hide it from everyone for a long time until coming out some years back. I know how it feels to be 'in' and 'out' and have had diverse experiences in relationships. I have had friends who hated gay life, gay bashers, friends who understood me.
Education/Credentials
I have a postgraduate degree in Science. I have worked together with and currently work with homosexual and heterosexuals in my environment.
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