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| Confusion | 11/5/2009 |
Q: Hey Kade, I need to give you a little back story of my current relationship. I met this guy a year ...
A: Sorry I have not responded sooner, I have been out-of-state, I don't personally think that you are ...
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| Unwelcome house guest | 10/31/2009 |
Q: I've been living together with my boyfriend for 4months now. We've been together for over a year but ...
A: Sorry I have not responded sooner, I have been out-of-state, You are in no way, out of line. She ...
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| Unsure relationship | 10/28/2009 |
Q: I'm Nathan from the netherlands and i happen to like an christian iraqi refugee so much. I can feel ...
A: Be carful about telling parents about it. They may accept it, however, if they are like mine, they ...
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| Am I Gay?? | 10/24/2009 |
Q: I'm a girl but I figured that it's the same to ask a guy as the feelings and emotions are probably ...
A: Alright, well the same thing happened to me, I came out to my mum and she used the whole, "I think ...
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| sex | 10/15/2009 |
Q: what does it feel like th have anal sex ANSWER: Hi Joey, Well, the experience can be different for ...
A: For the penetrator it is an interesting feeling. It mainly feels as though you are masturbating but ...
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| I think he likes me? | 10/6/2009 |
Q: It all started my junior year when Jesse started giving me looks as i would go to my 4th period ...
A: He seems like he really wants you as a friend or he is really crushing on you and wants to go and ...
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| my straight friend | 9/8/2009 |
Q: My best friend is straight (I'm pretty sure because he has a girlfriend and has sex with her). I ...
A: Yes, they can experiment without being classified gay. It is just mutual experimentation. Many teens ...
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| ED - bi with erectile disf. | 9/4/2009 |
Q: my penis used to rise ok, but not on girls, never tried it on boys, just works by hand. The doctor ...
A: You don't have to die alone. Relationships are more than just sex based. Find someone you like and ...
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| I'm Confused | 9/2/2009 |
Q: So, I've known this guy I met in college for about a year now. He's Christian and is pretty ...
A: Well I would say that he seems to be a little curious. But his religious values are stopping him. ...
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| gay or puperty | 9/1/2009 |
Q: I'm 17 and in last few weeks or so I feel that I'm turning gay or bisexual ,although I've always ...
A: Your mother is right. No-one chooses to be gay. (Who would choose a lifestyle that is so commonly ...
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| gay sex | 8/27/2009 |
Q: i guess this is not new to you but i'm kinda freaking out. i avoided my attraction to men for many ...
A: I hope that the police know that you were sexually assaulted. But with your question, some people ...
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| monogamy in gay relationships | 8/23/2009 |
Q: I am in my 1st gay relationship and we have been together almost a year. We moved in together about ...
A: Just because 'Every' gay relationship has a three-some, does not mean that you must do it too. It is ...
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| Confused ... | 8/10/2009 |
Q: I hope you can have a look at my question and maybe give me a bit of guidance if not a solution. I'm ...
A: For most men, we feel that being gay or having gay thoughts is taboo. That is why, when we have a ...
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| hi | 8/3/2009 |
Q: Im hear to ask for your advice on how to know if a guy likes me and how to tell him,my name is max ...
A: It seems he may be gay, but he may just be a boy who is not ready to date just yet. If you feel ...
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| Does she want me | 7/31/2009 |
Q: I met this particular woman approximately two years ago. I care about her. We are both known as ...
A: Well from what you have told me, it appears that your friend may consider you or see you as a sister ...
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| I need an opinion on my "crush"... | 7/28/2009 |
Q: I'm really confused about the guy I like, and I don't know anyone to talk to. You see, I haven't ...
A: That is a very hard question some of us come across. I would say that he may very well be just so ...
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| Is He Gay? | 7/26/2009 |
Q: Theres this boy I have known for 3 years. During these years he has only had 1 Girlfriend. During ...
A: Well considering what you have told me, he is most definitely gay. Or rather a very intimate person. ...
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| I am feeling lost... | 7/26/2009 |
Q: I have been going on dating sites such as manhunt.com and I am not sure what I am doing. I am ...
A: I know what you are going through. I had the same problem. First of all, there is nothing wrong ...
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| Really Confused | 12/11/2008 |
Q: Sup kade! I have been having problems with dating cos in my country its pretty hard to come out or ...
A: Well, I am not one to appreciate the lovey-dovey nature of couples, but I most defiantly recommend ...
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| My Crush/Boyfriend | 12/6/2008 |
Q: I have a guy that's a crush but he treats me like his boyfriend. We've been unofficially together ...
A: If you feel you can trust him then that should be enough, but if you still feel as though he may be ...
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| "taking it slow" | 11/25/2008 |
Q: I have been seeing this awesome guy. He's very attentive, caring, sweet, very active and definitely ...
A: Well it appears as though he wants to take it slow because he feels bad of the way it 'ended' before ...
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| Confused about a potential relationship | 11/21/2008 |
Q: So here's my situation: I met an awesome guy at a friend's party. We hit it off and had some great ...
A: I recommend that you tell him that you want to be exclusive, from what you have told me this appears ...
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| Unsure | 11/20/2008 |
Q: I’m a 16 year old guy in high school. I’ve known I’m gay for a couple of years now, but I’m ...
A: Well lets firstly get to this guy, It appears that you are both, good friends and that you tend to ...
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| Im in a pickle | 11/15/2008 |
Q: OK I have been dating this guy for little over six months, we are past the honey moon stage and he ...
A: Tell him how you feel and that you want it to go back to the way it was before it all came crashing ...
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| Help | 11/12/2008 |
Q: Well, I really want a gay or bi guy my age to talk to. i go to a Christian school and the only other ...
A: Well the most obvious of things to look for is the type of 'voice' they have, a more feminine voice ...
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| Uncontrollable feelings | 11/4/2008 |
Q: I work with this guy, and he is very attractive. He has all the features that I am looking for. The ...
A: Try to see him as just a friend or even just a work collogue. Try avoiding the times when you are ...
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| confused | 11/4/2008 |
Q: um I'm writing because of this guy who I think i'm putting alot of pressure on now, I guess i'll ...
A: I feel that the main reason behind him being friendly again is that he felt guilty about the way he ...
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| partner/life | 11/2/2008 |
Q: i am a 27 year old open gay male my boyfriend is 23 we met close to where i used to work. and have ...
A: Well, I don't agree with you 'cheating' on him, but I can see where you are coming from. I suggest ...
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| Am I Crazy to Stay with him? | 11/2/2008 |
Q: Not really sure if anyone can actually help but i just don't know what to do. We have been together ...
A: I hate the term 'The truth hurts" but in this case it does, I suggest that you leave him, he is ...
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| Is my friend gay? | 10/28/2008 |
Q: I've been racking my brain for days on end now and I can't seem to shake the feeling my friend is ...
A: Well I hate to sound like the bad guy, but you should not have gone through his computer, there was ...
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| Cheating Boyfriend | 10/21/2008 |
Q: So this is my first time asking someone about my personal relationships, but I feel I am at a loss ...
A: I would suggest that you keep it really low-key. If you feel that he is attempting to cheat on you ...
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| How to go about it? | 10/8/2008 |
Q: Hi I am currently 18 and the guy im interested in is 17 so basically I have known him only a few ...
A: There is nothing that you can do to make him notice you more, other than being yourself. But to see ...
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| What do I do? | 10/2/2008 |
Q: I've been friends with this guy for about a 2 years or so. We've been to each others houses many ...
A: It appears that you have done nothing to attract him or influence him in anyway possible, so don't ...
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| new relationship | 9/14/2008 |
Q: I have always had an attraction for guys. I have never acted on it. I have never wanted to act on ...
A: From what you have told me he could be interested and gay, but to be truly safe you will have to ask ...
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| new relationship | 9/14/2008 |
Q: I have always had an attraction for guys. I have never acted on it. I have never wanted to act on ...
A: It appears that this guy may be gay or possibly bi-sexual, but I would not recommend you just ...
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| Gay sleep talker or something else? | 9/13/2008 |
Q: Hallo there, I have been in this strange scenario for a long time now, about 2 or 3 years and it ...
A: It seems that he could be in denial of being gay, which is not unusual. Although he could just be ...
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| What to do? | 8/23/2008 |
Q: I am gay and I didnt tell my parents because my family is against gays. And I have a crush on my ...
A: If you feel that he is a true and honest friend that will stick it out till the end, then you have ...
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| What to do? | 8/21/2008 |
Q: I am gay and I didnt tell my parents because my family is against gays. And I have a crush on my ...
A: He may very well be attracted to you but then again he could just be really comfortable with you, ...
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| My straight friend made a pass at me | 8/19/2008 |
Q: I would consider myself to be a confident, experienced gay man, but recently my straight best friend ...
A: Yes, talk to him when he is sober, this is an issue that must be discussed. Ask him if he remembers ...
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| HOCD | 8/1/2008 |
Q: But recently i've been terrified that i'm gay/bi. I have OCD, no doubt about that, i've had fears of ...
A: Hey Alex, There is no need to freak out. You are not gay or bisexual you are a straight 12 yr old ...
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| is my son gay? | 7/30/2008 |
Q: My 23 year old son has never had a girl friend. He is a college senior, very friendly, outgoing, ...
A: Yes, I think that the best idea now would be just to wait and see, if you notice anything that is a ...
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| is my son gay? | 7/28/2008 |
Q: My 23 year old son has never had a girl friend. He is a college senior, very friendly, outgoing, ...
A: Just because he is 23 and has not had a date, does not mean he is gay. This may mean that he is just ...
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| Gay Bathhouses | 7/22/2008 |
Q: I'm considering getting a Gay Massage and was wondering if they are legit. If so, what is the best ...
A: Most of the sites that you find on the web about these things are usually legitimate, if you have ...
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| Lonely | 7/20/2008 |
Q: I am a 20 yr old gay male. I currently attend a small college in Minnesota, USA, surrounded by a ...
A: I have a solution for you, if you have any friends who are gay males and are single you could ask ...
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| I Think I Like my straight friend | 7/9/2008 |
Q: ok So I have some problems. Me and my bestfriend have a great relationship. Theirs one problem, he ...
A: I suggest that you do not look into it as a flirt, but more of him just trusting you and being his ...
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| hey | 7/6/2008 |
Q: So hi my name is alec and i'm 15.I'm preaty sure im gay and i am out to almost everyone. Everyone in ...
A: I suggest that every person that says you are just trying to be like your brother, tell them that ...
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| WHAT THE FUUUUUUUCCCCCKKKK | 7/6/2008 |
Q: i was just wondering, see i'm a boy and have recently "DISCOVERED" my orientation, and i am in love ...
A: I feel that he likes you and he is in the closet. I suggest that you ask him in a joking way then ...
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| I Think I Like my straight friend | 7/5/2008 |
Q: ok So I have some problems. Me and my bestfriend have a great relationship. Theirs one problem, he ...
A: It seems like the best thing to do at the moment, just don't push him too far otherwise the ...
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| I Think I Like my straight friend | 7/5/2008 |
Q: ok So I have some problems. Me and my bestfriend have a great relationship. Theirs one problem, he ...
A: I think that he may just being friendly and that he feels comfortable around you saying these ...
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| A BOY | 6/21/2008 |
Q: Im sixteen, and no offense but i live in a day of age were really close friends act i guess "gay" ...
A: This sort of thing has happened to me as well as nearly every gay person. I suggest that you ask ...
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| Some advice on how to handle my best friend... | 6/18/2008 |
Q: Hey Kade, Thanks for taking the time to read this. My issue deals with me and my best friend. I ...
A: It seems that he may very well be bi-sexual but also a very good chance that he just merely enjoys ...
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| Past interest is interested again | 6/15/2008 |
Q: My question is a bit complicated. Back in 2005, I was hanging out with this guy, and we were both ...
A: It seems that there are two ways of doing this, you could wait for him but you could be waiting for ...
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| Sexual fantasy | 6/13/2008 |
Q: This is not regarding being gay. I am pretty much straight. But I have a little erotic experience. I ...
A: It seems that you could just be wanting something else in your sex life, something different. It ...
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| Relationship prob | 6/10/2008 |
Q: I 'came out' as gay 5 years ago, after having an affair. At the time of the affair I was in a ...
A: Ask yourself who do you want more in life, your children or your partner, let them know that you ...
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| Last Friday Night | 6/4/2008 |
Q: Quick history. I'm 27 and I have a thing for a guy who identifies himself as straight who I've known ...
A: It seems as though your friend is afraid of coming out, or he may have been so drunk that he thought ...
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| Is she interested? | 6/4/2008 |
Q: I am a gay female and I go to a all female gym every week. Since March 2008 I saw this young woman ...
A: I think that there are two reasons behind this, that she is gay as well and is afraid of coming out. ...
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| hocd/or am i in denial | 6/2/2008 |
Q: hey,im 24 yrs old and since i was 14 i have had intrusive thoughts of bein homosexual,i never ...
A: Ok at some points of this letter it felt as though you were in the closet but if you think about I ...
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| how do I get the message across? | 5/27/2008 |
Q: I'm a 20 year old guy, not in a relationship. I've met a few guys online, through friends and at ...
A: Don't bother with the earring as it can mean multiple things nowadays, I suggest that you try ...
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| HOCD | 5/25/2008 |
Q: I have trouble with anxiety disorders and some depression. I also think that I have a masturbation ...
A: I feel that it is just hormones playing with you. I sucks I know. But I feel that the way you are ...
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| i'm lost | 5/22/2008 |
Q: .. I'M A STUDENT AT ONE OF THE VERSITY IN DURBAN BUT I'T SEEMS AS I'M THE ONLY GAY PERSON ON THE ...
A: First of all there is never a reason to commit suicide things always turn out in the end. Alright ...
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| HOW THE FU*K | 5/8/2008 |
Q: ok so i have been obsessed with this one guy since i moved here and i always thought that he might ...
A: It may seem hard and harsh but forget him, he may have noticed you, or he may just like your friend. ...
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| SHOULD I? | 5/2/2008 |
Q: since we were both each other's firsts i was wondering if it was ok to have raw sex? i mean since we ...
A: Don't do it yet, people can be born with STD's and AIDs if you both want to do this then I would ...
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| Ref: | 4/27/2008 |
Q: Good day, Lets say you are a male but not gay. You are not interested in a gay relationship but want ...
A: Just treat him like a friend, there is no need to get intimate and make yourself seem interested ...
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| discrimination | 4/22/2008 |
Q: How and why does sexuality i.e homosexuals lead to them to being discriminated against?
A: Well, some people in the Catholic religion feel that God created man and women so that they must be ...
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| what can i do? | 4/20/2008 |
Q: so my friend and i had SAFE sex for the very first timr and we were about to go all the way when his ...
A: I suggest to make it clean and less messy got to your local chemist and get a douchebag (sorry if it ...
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| is he? | 4/19/2008 |
Q: OK SO THERE IS THIS GUY AT SCHOOL THAT IS ALWAYS STARING AT ME! HE'LL BE LOOKING AT ME AND WHEN I ...
A: I feel that this guy may like you and have a secret crush on you, or he is just wanting you to be ...
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| WHY? | 4/19/2008 |
Q: i was just wondering, see i have this friend whom i love he is my best friend and has been ever ...
A: I feel that the issue here is that you talk to your friend more and have a better friendship than ...
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| any way? | 4/15/2008 |
Q: so i have this friend who is really nice to me and i like alot, i am not sure if he is gay or not ...
A: I feel that the best way of approaching this is to suggest to him that it would be nice if you could ...
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| Problems | 3/18/2008 |
Q: Firstly I am glad to see a site for helping these issues and any answer received is greatly ...
A: I feel that you should only see him as a friend and nothing more. Just think about the guy that is ...
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| what to do? | 3/17/2008 |
Q: okay so im 19 just barley came out and told my parents and what not, decided to start dating and i ...
A: An open relationship means that both the partners have aggreed to dating different people, sometimes ...
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| what is rimming? | 3/1/2008 |
Q: my bff asked me to rim and i dont no wat it is
A: Rimming is the term used when a guy licks another males anus. It can be very unhealthy and you can ...
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| Entering the dating scene | 2/28/2008 |
Q: Hey Kade, I have reached that point where I know am gay and want to get involved with the gay ...
A: There is no proven way of knowing unless you ask them. :S What I recommend that you do is check out ...
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| Who's Gay And Who's Not | 2/26/2008 |
Q: Im almost 15 now, and i can say for a fact that im gay or at least bisexual, and that i've ...
A: There is a really helpful site for teens like you, it is called www.mogenic.com , it is a gay teen ...
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| Risk of Rimming? | 2/23/2008 |
Q: I recently came out but am still curious on a few things, recently I have a new BF and he has asked ...
A: Rimming can be very risky and dangerous, it can transmit all kinds of diseases, I would not suggest ...
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| Confusion with general orientation. | 2/18/2008 |
Q: My names Nathan im an 18 year old male - i just have a few questions i would like to ask if thats ok ...
A: Believe it or not I went through the same thing I would always think of girls in that way but then ...
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| Am I bi or gay? | 2/3/2008 |
Q: Hay there, a couple of months back i caught my best friend and his girl friend fooling around in my ...
A: What you did was highly unacceptable and should not happen again. And they should have not been in ...
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| Relationship of nearly 4 years crisis | 1/23/2008 |
Q: I am 26 and met my partner almost 4 years ago, up to that point I had briefly dated people sinve I ...
A: First of all let your partner know how you feel about him and how he feels about you. Also try and ...
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| Your response to Samantha's father, Roy. | 1/19/2008 |
Q: It is so scary that you could read that father's letter which is full of a level of anger that I ...
A: What I meant was that they need to talk to her get more involved with her tell her how they feel and ...
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| This is killing us, and feel a part of us has died! | 1/16/2008 |
Q: We are the parents of a teenage daughter 15 Yrs old and she has recently told me & her mother that ...
A: It sounds as though Samantha is gay, but she is still young and is trying out different things, ...
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| Potential Cheating! | 1/16/2008 |
Q: Okay! I have been dating this guy for 3-4 months now, and we met on the well known adam4adam ...
A: I suggest that you confront him and ask him why he didn't respond more to your gift and why you feel ...
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| So theres this guy | 1/15/2008 |
Q: At my local magic the gathering tournaments,hes 20 im 15,im not affeminate at all,hes smoewhat,but ...
A: Find out if he feels the same and ask him. Tell him that you like him and would like to get to ...
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| Potential Cheating! | 1/13/2008 |
Q: Okay! I have been dating this guy for 3-4 months now, and we met on the well known adam4adam ...
A: No, this is not something to end a relationship over, what you need to do is talk to him tell him ...
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| Gay friend | 1/13/2008 |
Q: Here's the low down on him: He and his elder brother have extremely femenine voices, femenine ...
A: Yes, give him time and space, let him think about all of it, it is a big deal coming out sometimes. ...
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| Relationship | 1/10/2008 |
Q: What is your opinion on open relationships? Do you think that's just a band-aid to cover up the real ...
A: I feel that there is nothing wrong with any relationship open or 'hidden'. I feel that people ...
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| confused | 1/9/2008 |
Q: my name is Chance i am 18 years old and have an issue on my hands...I grew up in church and have ...
A: From what you have told me it sounds as though you may be bisexual (there is nothing bad about ...
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| Gay friend | 12/27/2007 |
Q: Here's the low down on him: He and his elder brother have extremely femenine voices, femenine ...
A: It sounds as though your friend is gay but indenial, which is very common. He may feel that the ...
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| doctor | 12/26/2007 |
Q: do you think i should tell my doctor what i have stuck up my butt
A: Yes, tell your doctor because it will be important that they know, also if you wish to have it kept ...
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| Guy I am dating has never had an orgasm? | 12/24/2007 |
Q: The guy I am dating told me last night he has never had an orgasm. Never masturbated or been given ...
A: First of all it really depends on how old you both are if you are around 13-14 its is understandable ...
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| Straight attraction? | 12/17/2007 |
Q: I am a gay 36 year old and have become friends with a 22 year old straight boy. His lifelong friend ...
A: I feel that your friend may be putting on an act just to make it seem that he is straight as he is ...
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| is my friend gay? | 12/14/2007 |
Q: hey. i wanna know in general if my friend is gay. me and other friends of mine always assume he is. ...
A: I don't think that your friend is gay, bisexual if anything or he may just be a very flirty person. ...
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| Gay crush on a fraternity brother | 12/9/2007 |
Q: I am a sophomore in college and in a fraternity. Over the past few months I have developed a major ...
A: No Fear, I am here to help. From what I have read you really like him and he likes you just as ...
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| doctor | 12/6/2007 |
Q: im 16 can i tell my doctor im gay and will she tell my parents and after i tell her i stick things ...
A: No fear, it is perfectly safe to tell your doctor as they are there to help, they probably will not ...
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| Possibly hiding being gay | 12/5/2007 |
Q: Is it possible for a guy to try to hide being gay by hooking up with lots of girls and constantly ...
A: Yes, it is possible for a person to hide being gay and conceal it from everyone. From what you have ...
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| is my bf gay!!! | 11/16/2007 |
Q: i want to know if my bf is gay?? he has gay friends, he always wears womens perfume,, he says that ...
A: I suggest that you let him know that you would like to get married but if he is into men then tell ...
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| Straight friend? | 11/9/2007 |
Q: I am a 26 year old gay man and live with my 22 year old best friend. We are really close and he is ...
A: At the moment I am guessing that he may just be straight but most possibly bi if anything. I ...
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| Straight friend? | 11/6/2007 |
Q: I am a 26 year old gay man and live with my 22 year old best friend. We are really close and he is ...
A: Don't worry a good ramble is the best) I feel that your friend may be gay or even bisexual, he may ...
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| aroused | 11/5/2007 |
Q: i watched a video with a guy taking his shirt off, and i got really hard. i dont really wanna do ...
A: This seems to be a difficult question, I would say that you would be straight if anything. But there ...
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| Help | 10/20/2007 |
Q: I want to know how to tell if I am gay? can you help?
A: There is no test or anything that you can do that will tell you if you are gay or not but it is ...
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