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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Confused | 1/18/2012 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months. Recently we have been fighting for about a ... A: Sorry I took so long in responding Rayven, I went through my own break up. I know they hurt. Well ... | |
| My ex is horrible... | 1/10/2012 |
| Q: Here is my little problem. I have been dating this guy for about a year and we just broke up. I ... A: I know how you feel trust me, Well, what can I say but rumors are a fact of life. You can't escape ... | |
| Am I Bi? So confused... | 2/7/2011 |
| Q: Okay. I've spent my entire life thinking I was straight. However, now that I've thought about it ... A: Well in situations like this is sometimes comes to the point where you are at a cross-road and not ... | |
| interested or misunderstanding? | 1/17/2011 |
| Q: A few months I met a guy who just moved here. I liked him, but I didn’t see him often until ... A: I Jonas 83, Sorry about the massive delay.. Just started a new job and have just got some time.. ... | |
| Confused about Sexuality | 12/29/2010 |
| Q: I am confused about whether I am straight, bi, or possibly even a lesbian and was wondering if you ... A: Let me help you shed some light on the situation... I am gay and there is the whole idea about ... | |
| 2 problems | 12/8/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 15 year old British guy, with a couple of problems which I hope you can help me with. ... A: Sorry about the delay again... but if I didn't then this lovely tradition of answering late...would ... | |
| 2 problems | 11/29/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 15 year old British guy, with a couple of problems which I hope you can help me with. ... A: Sorry about the delay... Let us start with the first problem. Coming out! The single most ... | |
| I am in love with my best friend who I suspect he is bi, could you tell me? | 11/13/2010 |
| Q: closet. The only person who know is my best friend who is a girl of my same age and with her we ... A: Sorry about the delay, I think he may be bi or he could be gay but not out yet. I think in these ... | |
| RELATIONSHIP POSSIBILITY | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: THERE IS THIS GAY GUY I'VE BEEN INTERESTED IN FOR SEVERAL MONTHS NOW. HE KNOWS HOW I FEEL AND JUST ... A: Sorry about the delay, I would suggest that you approach him and tell him how you feel, let him ... | |
| relationship advice | 10/18/2010 |
| Q: so I am very confused and need help!!! About a month ago a friend of mine came out to me that he was ... A: Just give him a bit of space, he is probably just going through a sort of confusion where he thinks ... | |
| Medical Question | 10/18/2010 |
| Q: You probably won't be able to help me with this question, but you might be able to tell me who would ... A: Well first things first is to look for a free gay sex health clinic in your city or town and go see ... | |
| relationships with friends | 10/13/2010 |
| Q: I have recently begun to come to terms with the fact I am interested in romantic relationships with ... A: I apologize for the great delay in the answer of this question. It is normal to think that friends ... | |
| Don't like boyfriend's best friend! | 9/30/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago for a variety of different reasons involving not ... A: This is one of those problems that will never seem to go away. It is like work, you will always have ... | |
| Sexuality Problems | 9/22/2010 |
| Q: I am a 15y.o. having trouble with my sister getting me in trouble for being gay because people ask ... A: I am sorry about the delay, In these situations it is sometimes the best option to tell each parent ... | |
| Relationship advice | 9/10/2010 |
| Q: I have been with this guy for just under a year and I love him but I have caught him going on ... A: Sorry about the delay in answering, I have had a rather busy week. These things happen, no ... | |
| Relationship advice | 9/9/2010 |
| Q: I have been with this guy for just under a year and I love him but I have caught him going on ... A: There is no way to truly know what he is doing with those sites. I mean, I can see how it may seem ... | |
| Dating! | 8/31/2010 |
| Q: I met a guy on last Sat night at a party. We hit it off great. He text me that same night and we ... A: I would just leave it. I mean he seems to enjoy the texting and I mean if it working then keep it ... | |
| coming out to family | 8/20/2010 |
| Q: i live in australia and have asked a question before, but this can just be separate. anyway, im 19 ... A: Sorry about the delay, Remember, there is no rush to come out to anyone... It was years before I ... | |
| Think i'm gay? | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: I think I am gay, I'm very shy, do not have many friends... But, I check out guys a lot, and not ... A: The same thing happened with me. I came out to my closest friend and I knew she was alright with it ... | |
| coming out | 7/18/2010 |
| Q: im 19, live in australia and still a virgin. i havent done anything with either a guy or a girl, but ... A: Well that is a bit of yes and no. I mean I tried things with a girl and then realized. But most gay ... | |
| DOES HE WANT SEX? | 7/14/2010 |
| Q: There's this gay guy I've been interested in for a few months now and he knows it. He has a ... A: Sorry about the delay Michael, Yes, most of the time in can just be a typical conversation, as for ... | |
| Confusion | 7/7/2010 |
| Q: OK, this is going to be easy to say, much less to a complete stranger but I'll go along with it.I'm, ... A: Sorry about the delay. I have gone through the same thing, when I was your age I was really ... | |
| i want to talk to him.... | 5/18/2010 |
| Q: okay so first off im 17 a senior in HS and i guess i consider myself gay, but i like this guy. He's ... A: Sorry about the delay, Well some of the best ways (if you are shy like you say you are) would be to ... | |
| I can't tell.. | 5/17/2010 |
| Q: I'm gay and have only come out to about 8 people. I really really like this guy but I don't know if ... A: I think the best way to do this would to be friends with him on facebook or myspace or use msn to ... | |
| I can't tell.. | 5/17/2010 |
| Q: I'm gay and have only come out to about 8 people. I really really like this guy but I don't know if ... A: The easiest way to befriend him would to go to the movies, hang out at the park or just start ... | |
| "This guy" | 5/12/2010 |
| Q: My name is Ryan and I’m 19 (almost 20) living in California. There’s this guy I’m really into- let’s ... A: sorry about the delay, I broke my arm and have been out of action for a while, anyway... To your ... | |
| I can't tell.. | 5/9/2010 |
| Q: I'm gay and have only come out to about 8 people. I really really like this guy but I don't know if ... A: Sorry about the delay. I broke my arm and have been out of action for a while. Anyway, to the ... | |
| Im not sure | 4/12/2010 |
| Q: I have difficult thoughts upon the subject of being "gay". I feel in my heart im as atriaght as one ... A: This is normal. So lets make it clear. You are not gay and your are not bisexual. You are a straight ... | |
| I am confused | 4/3/2010 |
| Q: Good day i'm a 25 year old and i'v discovered that gay porn as well as gay erotic literature turn me ... A: This does not mean you are gay, no one is 100% gay or straight, this is perfectly normal to find ... | |
| Dating | 3/26/2010 |
| Q: Heres the story..I am 19, single and always have been. I go to a small engineering/architectural ... A: Sometimes you need to look out of the general area. If you try a dating site or something like that ... | |
| roommate problem. | 3/26/2010 |
| Q: im a 19 year old student living with 3 other guys, one of which is my best friend. Up until about 2 ... A: I am sorry to hear this it is never good to see someone you care about with someone else. Especially ... | |
| I don't know where I stand! | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: I am a 24 year old gay male and one month ago I met a guy in a club called Pete. I have known of him ... A: It seems like he might actually be busy. From what you have told me he seems like an amazing guy and ... | |
| Sexuality is confusing | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 31 year old straight professional woman (not married but hoping to settle down and raise a ... A: Sorry for the delay. This is perfectly normal. Many straight people get turned on by that ... | |
| Should I Leave Him? | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: Hey i was looking for a little advice on what to do in my relationship. when i was 17 i moved from ... A: I am sorry to hear how this has happened, There is only one simple thing you can do. And that is to ... | |
| Parenting... | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: My 14 year old son has come out as bi-sexual. I don't understand it, but alas, it is not mine to ... A: Basically bisexual's are those whom like men and women. About telling your children, tell them at ... | |
| I've ruined the relationship with my best friend :( | 3/4/2010 |
| Q: My best friend and I are 25, I am bi and closeted, he has never dated any women, nor shown interest ... A: Give him some time. Just some time to think about it all, this can be quiet traumatic. I suggest ... | |
| dating | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: ive been looking for someone, and i have looked on myspace, gyc, and myyearbook. i have found ... A: Ask him through a phone call or talk to him on something such as msn. As for still being in the ... | |
| Confusing signals | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: I'm a senior in high school and I've been openly gay since tenth grade. Everyone knows I'm gay, it's ... A: This is never easy, but sometimes the truth hurts alot more than we'd like. It seems that he is not ... | |
| dating.... | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: ok so im 17 and I'm gay and I've ever really had a real bf that wasn't long distance,but i really ... A: This is always hard, I suggest you pull him aside and tell him that you have something you really ... | |
| I want to but should I? | 2/14/2010 |
| Q: I am mid 20 s and I keep finding myself wanting to have a man perform oral sex for me. I always ... A: This is more of a question of if you would be willing to cheat on your partner for some small fun. ... | |
| coming out to friend | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: My issue is how he will react.Id like to add that we have known each other since we were 4. We are ... A: In these situations it is always hard, I suggest you pull him aside one day and tell him you have ... | |
| parenting | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: I am a gay woman with 3 kids. I have a partner and we all live together. My daughter whom is 12 is ... A: I know how you feel, living in a sort of closeted relationship you seem to be in, can be the most ... | |
| I think i am in love with my best friend? | 1/22/2010 |
| Q: I think i might be in love with my best friend. I've recently figured out that i am bisexual right ... A: Sorry about the delay, About your friend, pull him aside sometime and tell him how you feel about ... | |
| Bisexual? | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: Growing up, I considered myself straight, but every once in a while, I would have a gay fantasy. I ... A: With anyone, gay, straight or bisexual. Everyone has a particular person that they prefer. For you ... | |
| Sexuality issues... confused over my sexuality | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: I've recently become confused about my sexuality for some reason and feel I shouldn't have. I know I ... A: Well, it is sometimes tricky to determine what sexuality we are, the best way to discover this is to ... | |
| My husband's affair... with best friend's husband! | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: I came home from work last night to find a video tape by the side of the sofa with a note attached ... A: That is one of the most shocking things I have heard, I am terribly sorry for you. I suggest that ... | |
| Husband's Christmas present from guy friend worries me... | 1/10/2010 |
| Q: I'm 31, and my husband's 32. We've been together for 8 years now, married for 3 of them (2007 to ... A: Think of the reasons behind the gift, it may have been as a joke. (In this case a joke with very ... | |
| i have a suspicion my friends might have a crush on me | 1/5/2010 |
| Q: Iv got this little problem. And before I tell what it is I should start out that I'm bisexual. Now I ... A: I suggest you ask him about why he touches you and in the he way flirts with you. Tell him how you ... | |
| this boy | 12/19/2009 |
| Q: Well i fancy this boy at school his name is sam and he to me is perfect i have a feeling that he is ... A: Sorry for not answering sooner, the internet has been down for quite a while. I would suggest that ... | |
| Single in Sin City | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: I have now just recently turned 18 and came to terms with my sexuality that because I dont feel gay ... A: Sorry for not answering sooner, the net has been down. Well, for finding someone try a gay dating ... | |
| What is going on? | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: I need some help to understand what's going up on me. I am a guy and since I remember, I always feel ... A: I feel that this may be that you are experimenting as a cross-dresser. Mainly that means you like ... | |
| Rejection Confusion | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: Over the past year or so, I have built what I thought to be a relatively significant relationship ... A: I know how you feel, the same thing has happened to me, It appears he is gay and he likes to 'joke' ... | |
| Confusion | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: Hey Kade, I need to give you a little back story of my current relationship. I met this guy a year ... A: Sorry I have not responded sooner, I have been out-of-state, I don't personally think that you are ... | |
| Unwelcome house guest | 10/31/2009 |
| Q: I've been living together with my boyfriend for 4months now. We've been together for over a year but ... A: Sorry I have not responded sooner, I have been out-of-state, You are in no way, out of line. She ... | |
| Unsure relationship | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: I'm Nathan from the netherlands and i happen to like an christian iraqi refugee so much. I can feel ... A: Be carful about telling parents about it. They may accept it, however, if they are like mine, they ... | |
| Am I Gay?? | 10/24/2009 |
| Q: I'm a girl but I figured that it's the same to ask a guy as the feelings and emotions are probably ... A: Alright, well the same thing happened to me, I came out to my mum and she used the whole, "I think ... | |
| sex | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: what does it feel like th have anal sex ANSWER: Hi Joey, Well, the experience can be different for ... A: For the penetrator it is an interesting feeling. It mainly feels as though you are masturbating but ... | |
| I think he likes me? | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: It all started my junior year when Jesse started giving me looks as i would go to my 4th period ... A: He seems like he really wants you as a friend or he is really crushing on you and wants to go and ... | |
| my straight friend | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: My best friend is straight (I'm pretty sure because he has a girlfriend and has sex with her). I ... A: Yes, they can experiment without being classified gay. It is just mutual experimentation. Many teens ... | |
| ED - bi with erectile disf. | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: my penis used to rise ok, but not on girls, never tried it on boys, just works by hand. The doctor ... A: You don't have to die alone. Relationships are more than just sex based. Find someone you like and ... | |
| I'm Confused | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: So, I've known this guy I met in college for about a year now. He's Christian and is pretty ... A: Well I would say that he seems to be a little curious. But his religious values are stopping him. ... | |
| gay or puperty | 9/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm 17 and in last few weeks or so I feel that I'm turning gay or bisexual ,although I've always ... A: Your mother is right. No-one chooses to be gay. (Who would choose a lifestyle that is so commonly ... | |
| gay sex | 8/27/2009 |
| Q: i guess this is not new to you but i'm kinda freaking out. i avoided my attraction to men for many ... A: I hope that the police know that you were sexually assaulted. But with your question, some people ... | |
| monogamy in gay relationships | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: I am in my 1st gay relationship and we have been together almost a year. We moved in together about ... A: Just because 'Every' gay relationship has a three-some, does not mean that you must do it too. It is ... | |
| Confused ... | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: I hope you can have a look at my question and maybe give me a bit of guidance if not a solution. I'm ... A: For most men, we feel that being gay or having gay thoughts is taboo. That is why, when we have a ... | |
| hi | 8/3/2009 |
| Q: Im hear to ask for your advice on how to know if a guy likes me and how to tell him,my name is max ... A: It seems he may be gay, but he may just be a boy who is not ready to date just yet. If you feel ... | |
| Does she want me | 7/31/2009 |
| Q: I met this particular woman approximately two years ago. I care about her. We are both known as ... A: Well from what you have told me, it appears that your friend may consider you or see you as a sister ... | |
| I need an opinion on my "crush"... | 7/28/2009 |
| Q: I'm really confused about the guy I like, and I don't know anyone to talk to. You see, I haven't ... A: That is a very hard question some of us come across. I would say that he may very well be just so ... | |
| Is He Gay? | 7/26/2009 |
| Q: Theres this boy I have known for 3 years. During these years he has only had 1 Girlfriend. During ... A: Well considering what you have told me, he is most definitely gay. Or rather a very intimate person. ... | |
| I am feeling lost... | 7/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been going on dating sites such as manhunt.com and I am not sure what I am doing. I am ... A: I know what you are going through. I had the same problem. First of all, there is nothing wrong ... | |
| Really Confused | 12/11/2008 |
| Q: Sup kade! I have been having problems with dating cos in my country its pretty hard to come out or ... A: Well, I am not one to appreciate the lovey-dovey nature of couples, but I most defiantly recommend ... | |
| My Crush/Boyfriend | 12/6/2008 |
| Q: I have a guy that's a crush but he treats me like his boyfriend. We've been unofficially together ... A: If you feel you can trust him then that should be enough, but if you still feel as though he may be ... | |
| "taking it slow" | 11/25/2008 |
| Q: I have been seeing this awesome guy. He's very attentive, caring, sweet, very active and definitely ... A: Well it appears as though he wants to take it slow because he feels bad of the way it 'ended' before ... | |
| Confused about a potential relationship | 11/21/2008 |
| Q: So here's my situation: I met an awesome guy at a friend's party. We hit it off and had some great ... A: I recommend that you tell him that you want to be exclusive, from what you have told me this appears ... | |
| Unsure | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: I’m a 16 year old guy in high school. I’ve known I’m gay for a couple of years now, but I’m ... A: Well lets firstly get to this guy, It appears that you are both, good friends and that you tend to ... | |
| Im in a pickle | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: OK I have been dating this guy for little over six months, we are past the honey moon stage and he ... A: Tell him how you feel and that you want it to go back to the way it was before it all came crashing ... | |
| Help | 11/12/2008 |
| Q: Well, I really want a gay or bi guy my age to talk to. i go to a Christian school and the only other ... A: Well the most obvious of things to look for is the type of 'voice' they have, a more feminine voice ... | |
| Uncontrollable feelings | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: I work with this guy, and he is very attractive. He has all the features that I am looking for. The ... A: Try to see him as just a friend or even just a work collogue. Try avoiding the times when you are ... | |
| confused | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: um I'm writing because of this guy who I think i'm putting alot of pressure on now, I guess i'll ... A: I feel that the main reason behind him being friendly again is that he felt guilty about the way he ... | |
| partner/life | 11/2/2008 |
| Q: i am a 27 year old open gay male my boyfriend is 23 we met close to where i used to work. and have ... A: Well, I don't agree with you 'cheating' on him, but I can see where you are coming from. I suggest ... | |
| Am I Crazy to Stay with him? | 11/2/2008 |
| Q: Not really sure if anyone can actually help but i just don't know what to do. We have been together ... A: I hate the term 'The truth hurts" but in this case it does, I suggest that you leave him, he is ... | |
| Is my friend gay? | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: I've been racking my brain for days on end now and I can't seem to shake the feeling my friend is ... A: Well I hate to sound like the bad guy, but you should not have gone through his computer, there was ... | |
| Cheating Boyfriend | 10/21/2008 |
| Q: So this is my first time asking someone about my personal relationships, but I feel I am at a loss ... A: I would suggest that you keep it really low-key. If you feel that he is attempting to cheat on you ... | |
| How to go about it? | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: Hi I am currently 18 and the guy im interested in is 17 so basically I have known him only a few ... A: There is nothing that you can do to make him notice you more, other than being yourself. But to see ... | |
| What do I do? | 10/2/2008 |
| Q: I've been friends with this guy for about a 2 years or so. We've been to each others houses many ... A: It appears that you have done nothing to attract him or influence him in anyway possible, so don't ... | |
| new relationship | 9/14/2008 |
| Q: I have always had an attraction for guys. I have never acted on it. I have never wanted to act on ... A: From what you have told me he could be interested and gay, but to be truly safe you will have to ask ... | |
| new relationship | 9/14/2008 |
| Q: I have always had an attraction for guys. I have never acted on it. I have never wanted to act on ... A: It appears that this guy may be gay or possibly bi-sexual, but I would not recommend you just ... | |
| Gay sleep talker or something else? | 9/13/2008 |
| Q: Hallo there, I have been in this strange scenario for a long time now, about 2 or 3 years and it ... A: It seems that he could be in denial of being gay, which is not unusual. Although he could just be ... | |
| What to do? | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: I am gay and I didnt tell my parents because my family is against gays. And I have a crush on my ... A: If you feel that he is a true and honest friend that will stick it out till the end, then you have ... | |
| What to do? | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: I am gay and I didnt tell my parents because my family is against gays. And I have a crush on my ... A: He may very well be attracted to you but then again he could just be really comfortable with you, ... | |
| My straight friend made a pass at me | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: I would consider myself to be a confident, experienced gay man, but recently my straight best friend ... A: Yes, talk to him when he is sober, this is an issue that must be discussed. Ask him if he remembers ... | |
| HOCD | 8/1/2008 |
| Q: But recently i've been terrified that i'm gay/bi. I have OCD, no doubt about that, i've had fears of ... A: Hey Alex, There is no need to freak out. You are not gay or bisexual you are a straight 12 yr old ... | |
| is my son gay? | 7/30/2008 |
| Q: My 23 year old son has never had a girl friend. He is a college senior, very friendly, outgoing, ... A: Yes, I think that the best idea now would be just to wait and see, if you notice anything that is a ... | |
| is my son gay? | 7/28/2008 |
| Q: My 23 year old son has never had a girl friend. He is a college senior, very friendly, outgoing, ... A: Just because he is 23 and has not had a date, does not mean he is gay. This may mean that he is just ... | |
| Gay Bathhouses | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: I'm considering getting a Gay Massage and was wondering if they are legit. If so, what is the best ... A: Most of the sites that you find on the web about these things are usually legitimate, if you have ... | |
| Lonely | 7/20/2008 |
| Q: I am a 20 yr old gay male. I currently attend a small college in Minnesota, USA, surrounded by a ... A: I have a solution for you, if you have any friends who are gay males and are single you could ask ... | |
| I Think I Like my straight friend | 7/9/2008 |
| Q: ok So I have some problems. Me and my bestfriend have a great relationship. Theirs one problem, he ... A: I suggest that you do not look into it as a flirt, but more of him just trusting you and being his ... | |
| hey | 7/6/2008 |
| Q: So hi my name is alec and i'm 15.I'm preaty sure im gay and i am out to almost everyone. Everyone in ... A: I suggest that every person that says you are just trying to be like your brother, tell them that ... | |
| WHAT THE FUUUUUUUCCCCCKKKK | 7/6/2008 |
| Q: i was just wondering, see i'm a boy and have recently "DISCOVERED" my orientation, and i am in love ... A: I feel that he likes you and he is in the closet. I suggest that you ask him in a joking way then ... | |
| I Think I Like my straight friend | 7/5/2008 |
| Q: ok So I have some problems. Me and my bestfriend have a great relationship. Theirs one problem, he ... A: It seems like the best thing to do at the moment, just don't push him too far otherwise the ... | |
| I Think I Like my straight friend | 7/5/2008 |
| Q: ok So I have some problems. Me and my bestfriend have a great relationship. Theirs one problem, he ... A: I think that he may just being friendly and that he feels comfortable around you saying these ... | |
| A BOY | 6/21/2008 |
| Q: Im sixteen, and no offense but i live in a day of age were really close friends act i guess "gay" ... A: This sort of thing has happened to me as well as nearly every gay person. I suggest that you ask ... | |
| Some advice on how to handle my best friend... | 6/18/2008 |
| Q: Hey Kade, Thanks for taking the time to read this. My issue deals with me and my best friend. I ... A: It seems that he may very well be bi-sexual but also a very good chance that he just merely enjoys ... | |
| Past interest is interested again | 6/15/2008 |
| Q: My question is a bit complicated. Back in 2005, I was hanging out with this guy, and we were both ... A: It seems that there are two ways of doing this, you could wait for him but you could be waiting for ... | |
| Sexual fantasy | 6/13/2008 |
| Q: This is not regarding being gay. I am pretty much straight. But I have a little erotic experience. I ... A: It seems that you could just be wanting something else in your sex life, something different. It ... | |
| Relationship prob | 6/10/2008 |
| Q: I 'came out' as gay 5 years ago, after having an affair. At the time of the affair I was in a ... A: Ask yourself who do you want more in life, your children or your partner, let them know that you ... | |
| Last Friday Night | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: Quick history. I'm 27 and I have a thing for a guy who identifies himself as straight who I've known ... A: It seems as though your friend is afraid of coming out, or he may have been so drunk that he thought ... | |
| Is she interested? | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: I am a gay female and I go to a all female gym every week. Since March 2008 I saw this young woman ... A: I think that there are two reasons behind this, that she is gay as well and is afraid of coming out. ... | |
| hocd/or am i in denial | 6/2/2008 |
| Q: hey,im 24 yrs old and since i was 14 i have had intrusive thoughts of bein homosexual,i never ... A: Ok at some points of this letter it felt as though you were in the closet but if you think about I ... | |
| how do I get the message across? | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 20 year old guy, not in a relationship. I've met a few guys online, through friends and at ... A: Don't bother with the earring as it can mean multiple things nowadays, I suggest that you try ... | |
| HOCD | 5/25/2008 |
| Q: I have trouble with anxiety disorders and some depression. I also think that I have a masturbation ... A: I feel that it is just hormones playing with you. I sucks I know. But I feel that the way you are ... | |
| i'm lost | 5/22/2008 |
| Q: .. I'M A STUDENT AT ONE OF THE VERSITY IN DURBAN BUT I'T SEEMS AS I'M THE ONLY GAY PERSON ON THE ... A: First of all there is never a reason to commit suicide things always turn out in the end. Alright ... | |
| HOW THE FU*K | 5/8/2008 |
| Q: ok so i have been obsessed with this one guy since i moved here and i always thought that he might ... A: It may seem hard and harsh but forget him, he may have noticed you, or he may just like your friend. ... | |
| SHOULD I? | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: since we were both each other's firsts i was wondering if it was ok to have raw sex? i mean since we ... A: Don't do it yet, people can be born with STD's and AIDs if you both want to do this then I would ... | |
| Ref: | 4/27/2008 |
| Q: Good day, Lets say you are a male but not gay. You are not interested in a gay relationship but want ... A: Just treat him like a friend, there is no need to get intimate and make yourself seem interested ... | |
| discrimination | 4/22/2008 |
| Q: How and why does sexuality i.e homosexuals lead to them to being discriminated against? A: Well, some people in the Catholic religion feel that God created man and women so that they must be ... | |
| what can i do? | 4/20/2008 |
| Q: so my friend and i had SAFE sex for the very first timr and we were about to go all the way when his ... A: I suggest to make it clean and less messy got to your local chemist and get a douchebag (sorry if it ... | |
| is he? | 4/19/2008 |
| Q: OK SO THERE IS THIS GUY AT SCHOOL THAT IS ALWAYS STARING AT ME! HE'LL BE LOOKING AT ME AND WHEN I ... A: I feel that this guy may like you and have a secret crush on you, or he is just wanting you to be ... | |
| WHY? | 4/19/2008 |
| Q: i was just wondering, see i have this friend whom i love he is my best friend and has been ever ... A: I feel that the issue here is that you talk to your friend more and have a better friendship than ... | |
| any way? | 4/15/2008 |
| Q: so i have this friend who is really nice to me and i like alot, i am not sure if he is gay or not ... A: I feel that the best way of approaching this is to suggest to him that it would be nice if you could ... | |
| Problems | 3/18/2008 |
| Q: Firstly I am glad to see a site for helping these issues and any answer received is greatly ... A: I feel that you should only see him as a friend and nothing more. Just think about the guy that is ... | |
| what to do? | 3/17/2008 |
| Q: okay so im 19 just barley came out and told my parents and what not, decided to start dating and i ... A: An open relationship means that both the partners have aggreed to dating different people, sometimes ... | |
| what is rimming? | 3/1/2008 |
| Q: my bff asked me to rim and i dont no wat it is A: Rimming is the term used when a guy licks another males anus. It can be very unhealthy and you can ... | |
| Entering the dating scene | 2/28/2008 |
| Q: Hey Kade, I have reached that point where I know am gay and want to get involved with the gay ... A: There is no proven way of knowing unless you ask them. :S What I recommend that you do is check out ... | |
| Who's Gay And Who's Not | 2/26/2008 |
| Q: Im almost 15 now, and i can say for a fact that im gay or at least bisexual, and that i've ... A: There is a really helpful site for teens like you, it is called www.mogenic.com , it is a gay teen ... | |
| Risk of Rimming? | 2/23/2008 |
| Q: I recently came out but am still curious on a few things, recently I have a new BF and he has asked ... A: Rimming can be very risky and dangerous, it can transmit all kinds of diseases, I would not suggest ... | |
| Confusion with general orientation. | 2/18/2008 |
| Q: My names Nathan im an 18 year old male - i just have a few questions i would like to ask if thats ok ... A: Believe it or not I went through the same thing I would always think of girls in that way but then ... | |
| Am I bi or gay? | 2/3/2008 |
| Q: Hay there, a couple of months back i caught my best friend and his girl friend fooling around in my ... A: What you did was highly unacceptable and should not happen again. And they should have not been in ... | |
| Relationship of nearly 4 years crisis | 1/23/2008 |
| Q: I am 26 and met my partner almost 4 years ago, up to that point I had briefly dated people sinve I ... A: First of all let your partner know how you feel about him and how he feels about you. Also try and ... | |
| Your response to Samantha's father, Roy. | 1/19/2008 |
| Q: It is so scary that you could read that father's letter which is full of a level of anger that I ... A: What I meant was that they need to talk to her get more involved with her tell her how they feel and ... | |
| This is killing us, and feel a part of us has died! | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: We are the parents of a teenage daughter 15 Yrs old and she has recently told me & her mother that ... A: It sounds as though Samantha is gay, but she is still young and is trying out different things, ... | |
| Potential Cheating! | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: Okay! I have been dating this guy for 3-4 months now, and we met on the well known adam4adam ... A: I suggest that you confront him and ask him why he didn't respond more to your gift and why you feel ... | |
| So theres this guy | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: At my local magic the gathering tournaments,hes 20 im 15,im not affeminate at all,hes smoewhat,but ... A: Find out if he feels the same and ask him. Tell him that you like him and would like to get to ... | |
| Potential Cheating! | 1/13/2008 |
| Q: Okay! I have been dating this guy for 3-4 months now, and we met on the well known adam4adam ... A: No, this is not something to end a relationship over, what you need to do is talk to him tell him ... | |
| Gay friend | 1/13/2008 |
| Q: Here's the low down on him: He and his elder brother have extremely femenine voices, femenine ... A: Yes, give him time and space, let him think about all of it, it is a big deal coming out sometimes. ... | |
| Relationship | 1/10/2008 |
| Q: What is your opinion on open relationships? Do you think that's just a band-aid to cover up the real ... A: I feel that there is nothing wrong with any relationship open or 'hidden'. I feel that people ... | |
| confused | 1/9/2008 |
| Q: my name is Chance i am 18 years old and have an issue on my hands...I grew up in church and have ... A: From what you have told me it sounds as though you may be bisexual (there is nothing bad about ... | |
| Gay friend | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: Here's the low down on him: He and his elder brother have extremely femenine voices, femenine ... A: It sounds as though your friend is gay but indenial, which is very common. He may feel that the ... | |
| doctor | 12/26/2007 |
| Q: do you think i should tell my doctor what i have stuck up my butt A: Yes, tell your doctor because it will be important that they know, also if you wish to have it kept ... | |
| Guy I am dating has never had an orgasm? | 12/24/2007 |
| Q: The guy I am dating told me last night he has never had an orgasm. Never masturbated or been given ... A: First of all it really depends on how old you both are if you are around 13-14 its is understandable ... | |
| Straight attraction? | 12/17/2007 |
| Q: I am a gay 36 year old and have become friends with a 22 year old straight boy. His lifelong friend ... A: I feel that your friend may be putting on an act just to make it seem that he is straight as he is ... | |
| is my friend gay? | 12/14/2007 |
| Q: hey. i wanna know in general if my friend is gay. me and other friends of mine always assume he is. ... A: I don't think that your friend is gay, bisexual if anything or he may just be a very flirty person. ... | |
| Gay crush on a fraternity brother | 12/9/2007 |
| Q: I am a sophomore in college and in a fraternity. Over the past few months I have developed a major ... A: No Fear, I am here to help. From what I have read you really like him and he likes you just as ... | |
| doctor | 12/6/2007 |
| Q: im 16 can i tell my doctor im gay and will she tell my parents and after i tell her i stick things ... A: No fear, it is perfectly safe to tell your doctor as they are there to help, they probably will not ... | |
| Possibly hiding being gay | 12/5/2007 |
| Q: Is it possible for a guy to try to hide being gay by hooking up with lots of girls and constantly ... A: Yes, it is possible for a person to hide being gay and conceal it from everyone. From what you have ... | |
| is my bf gay!!! | 11/16/2007 |
| Q: i want to know if my bf is gay?? he has gay friends, he always wears womens perfume,, he says that ... A: I suggest that you let him know that you would like to get married but if he is into men then tell ... | |
| Straight friend? | 11/9/2007 |
| Q: I am a 26 year old gay man and live with my 22 year old best friend. We are really close and he is ... A: At the moment I am guessing that he may just be straight but most possibly bi if anything. I ... | |
| Straight friend? | 11/6/2007 |
| Q: I am a 26 year old gay man and live with my 22 year old best friend. We are really close and he is ... A: Don't worry a good ramble is the best) I feel that your friend may be gay or even bisexual, he may ... | |
| aroused | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: i watched a video with a guy taking his shirt off, and i got really hard. i dont really wanna do ... A: This seems to be a difficult question, I would say that you would be straight if anything. But there ... | |
| Help | 10/20/2007 |
| Q: I want to know how to tell if I am gay? can you help? A: There is no test or anything that you can do that will tell you if you are gay or not but it is ... | |
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