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| building attraction continued | 11/20/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: Hey dear Dr. how`re you? I`ve had 2 successful dates with this new girl.I did my best to share ...
A: Don't try to be too formulaic with dating. Try to go after "every Friday night" or "twice every ...
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| Starting a new relationship | 11/20/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: Dennis W. Neder, This is Sai. I am 22 years old male Doing my engineering studies. I'd ...
A: I agree that you missed those years. The good news is that it's never too late to start. I didn't ...
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| meeting older men | 11/20/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: I'm 30, but for some reason I keep getting 19-21 year old boys hitting on me. I would like to meet ...
A: What's your real question here: how to meet older guys or how to prevent younger guys from hitting ...
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| follow up | 11/20/2009 | Michael Talks Behavior, Culture and Relationships |
Q: --------------------------------------------- Hi, I liked this guy Jeff and he seemed really ...
A: Sorry for the typos. I think I should start doing some proofreading, don't you? I've corrected ...
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| Too much too soon? | 11/20/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: I've only known him for two weeks, and we've recently gone on a few dinner dates and one group ...
A: You think the nice gesture of making him a pie is too much, too soon? Karolyn, we're coming into the ...
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| Online Dating | 11/19/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: I'm on a highly reputable dating site. I was matched with an AMAZING guy who is about 800 miles ...
A: You're asking the wrong questions here entirely. What you should be asking is "How can I even HAVE a ...
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| My ex | 11/17/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: When i was dating my now ex boyfriend and cheated on him with my now boyfriend. Is it ok to be ...
A: It is neither good nor bad. The quality of the relationship is based on what you make of it. If your ...
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| Love on Wallstreet | 11/17/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: I'm 23. Single. Never married. Live alone. Get paid well. Have a cat. Clean my kitchen regularly. ...
A: I'm glad you're happy with the answers. I can only make 4 people happy a day and it just happened to ...
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| can we be together again? | 11/16/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: A year ago I was in a relationship for two years and we were very much in love. We were only in ...
A: Wow - you sure have a lot of pop-psychology behind your rationalizations here! You say you've grown ...
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| simple.. | 11/16/2009 | Azure |
Q: I am 28 yrs old and I have been with my boyfriend for 6 yrs. Lately, I don't were the relationship ...
A: it you're gonna worry about "tension", or "hurt feelings", nothing will change; people are ...
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| Starting Over | 11/16/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: I have started dating again after a couple of devastating relationships. I don't want to elaborate. ...
A: Here's the problem: you're leaving everything (including your own trust) in these guy's hands rather ...
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| Love on Wallstreet | 11/16/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: I'm 23. Single. Never married. Live alone. Get paid well. Have a cat. Clean my kitchen regularly. ...
A: Wait a minute - wait a minute. You have a cat???? ;) I had to laugh at your equating dating ...
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| building attraction | 11/15/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: Hey dear Dr. how`re you? I`ve had 2 successful dates with this new girl.I did my best to share ...
A: The first thing I'd recommend is this: healthy relationships are built on equal investments from ...
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| What is going on? | 11/15/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: I met a man 4 mnths ago but just recently started seeing him again after I broke things off with him ...
A: I hear what you're saying. The problem is that he already knows you're willing to break up when ...
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| getting an ex back | 11/15/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: Neder I've asked for your advice a dozen of times and every single one helped me far more then you ...
A: I'm happy I've helped you so far, but maybe it's time to get ALL the information you need in one ...
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| What is going on? | 11/15/2009 | Murphy Smith |
Q: I met a man 4 mnths ago but just recently started seeing him again after I broke things off with him ...
A: Patricia: You were totally right to leave him before because you thought that he was using you for ...
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| What is going on? | 11/15/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: I met a man 4 mnths ago but just recently started seeing him again after I broke things off with him ...
A: Oh Patricia. Really? This is the type of relationship you want? You seem to think that it's all his ...
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| Declining a date | 11/14/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: I get the sense that a friend of some friends of mine might ask me out. I only met him once, but I ...
A: Denigrating someone's lifestyle choices isn't a very good idea. He smokes for whatever reason he ...
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| plan witht he ex girlfriend | 11/14/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: 1. what are the some of the easiest and best excuses to use when a ex girlfriend ask if you want to ...
A: Hey Chris! Well now! Aren't you just full of questions today??? Simply saying "no" is a rejection; ...
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| love, caring, lust, jealous | 11/14/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: 1. what questions do i ask myself if i want to marry my girlfriend? (my friends always say ask ...
A: 1. "What in the hell am I thinking?" is the first one to ask. Chris, why marriage? I'm not against ...
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| Why would she lead me on? | 11/14/2009 | Murphy Smith |
Q: My teachers assisstant? I have this TA in my history class at college that I am very attracted to. ...
A: Jason: I do not know why she would lead you on but since she is married you need to leave her alone ...
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| feelings for ex girlfriend | 11/14/2009 | Azure |
Q: What should i do about my feelings for my ex girlfriend? we broke a couple of years now and we both ...
A: the "difference" makes no difference; it's not surprising to consider past loves special, hold fond ...
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| Confused | 11/14/2009 | Azure |
Q: I met a guy online 8 months ago. We corresponded via email, then phone & skype several times a ...
A: ok, here's the reality--the most this can ever be is a friendship--one of the many problems with ...
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| feelings for ex girlfriend | 11/13/2009 | Azure |
Q: What should i do about my feelings for my ex girlfriend? we broke a couple of years now and we both ...
A: first, lower expectations to zero; next, resist all impulses to express heavy emotions-i'd suggest a ...
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| feelings for ex girlfriend | 11/13/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: What should i do about my feelings for my ex girlfriend? we broke a couple of years now and we both ...
A: OF COURSE you still have feelings for your ex! That's something of a gift from Mother Nature! After ...
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| HELP! | 11/12/2009 | Murphy Smith |
Q: Hey Murphy Smith, College started up again, and I began talking to this guy for about 2 months. ...
A: Tara: Thousands if not millions of guys would talk to a woman for months just for sex because to ...
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| Help! | 11/12/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: I don't like any of my boyfriend's friends but I love my boyfriend, is that healthy or not? Also, ...
A: When a woman tells me that her boyfriend doesn't tell her the truth or hides things from her, my ...
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| Help.. | 11/12/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: Alright so my gf and I have have been dating for a year and a half. We have no problems except for ...
A: You like to give "...once and a while..."??? No wonder she doesn't want to have sex with you! ...
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| HELP! | 11/12/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: Dr. Neder, College started up again, and I began talking to this guy for about 2 months. During this ...
A: Ah yes. The old "Window of Opportunity" ("WOO"). Let me explain what happened: We all want to think ...
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| confused | 11/11/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: The problem is that he was living with this girl for 4 years and now she has pitched again claiming ...
A: No, it's not wrong to feel that way, but it is wrong to try to punish him for not doing what you ...
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| Am I wasting my time? | 11/10/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: Me and my bf have been together for 1 1/2 years and we are both 23. I am currently in grad school ...
A: Let's be clear on what you mean here: when you say "...the effort a long-distance relationship ...
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| Is it really over? | 11/9/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: Haven't talked to a guy I had been seeing in about 2 weeks. He's been avoiding my calls or responds ...
A: Because he controls everything and he doesn't want things to be over. The reality of relationships ...
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| Chase versus Commitment | 11/9/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: I'm dating this wonderful girl, but we've been going through issues in regards to the "chase" ...
A: Yes, I know exactly how you feel. Frankly, this is a dangerous, ridiculous game! If you get too ...
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| Need help recovering from a breakup | 11/9/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: Neder, I would be very grateful if you can read my story and give me some advice. I'll try to keep ...
A: You're making decisions about yourself for girls you haven't even met yet! These girls aren't going ...
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| Sex | 11/8/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: Me and my girlfriend have had sex a few times. Sometimes it feels like it is take take with her. She ...
A: I'm assuming that you're male. Heterosexual relationships differ from homosexual ones in this case. ...
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| am i a jealous boyfriend?what can i do? | 11/8/2009 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
Q: everytime my girlfriend says a guy is hot or attractive, even a celeberty i start to ahte the person ...
A: "Too jealous"? No, I don't think you're too jealous, but there's a balance here. There's a very big ...
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| question | 11/8/2009 | Michael Talks Behavior, Culture and Relationships |
Q: I liked this guy Jeff and he seemed really interested in me but he never asked me out. I'm the nice, ...
A: Sounds like you made an impression on Jeff, one that has been lasting. From what his friends are ...
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| it's over | 11/7/2009 | Azure |
Q: Ok, so I was seeing this girl who I really like. It was like love at first site for me. We went on ...
A: i'd respectfully disagree with the psychologist; the bottom line is, the only thing left to happen ...
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| I can't decide... | 11/7/2009 | Azure |
Q: :) I've been dating the same guy for three months. We met at a party and it was like love at first ...
A: i think at 19, and after seeing someone only 3 months, talk of marriage is foolish, and your family ...
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| What now? | 11/7/2009 | Azure |
Q: This is a rather involved question. Sorry about that. Im 27 years old and the girl I am referring ...
A: there's only 2 choices, making a more defined physical move like kissing/making out, or discussing ...
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