AboutTheTruth Expertise Experience is a great teacher and the more people you meet, the more you learn, the more patterns you begin to recognize and the more new insights you pick up. If you're looking for a male perspective, from one who knows how to elicit responses in relationships, is a strong listener, is highly perceptive and can translate what isn't said into clear meaning, then you know where to come. If you are looking for a female perspective, 90 percent of my interviews are with women. If you pay attention, there are definite patterns in interactions between the sexes. If you are perceptive, you can almost predict with certainty what is coming next.
Experience As I love to meet new people, I date often, getting dates from face-to-face contact, online, and from friends. My best friends and the majority of my friends, period, are women, and being a former reporter, it is natural for me to be inquisitive of others, and by being an expert listener with a strong memory, I have learned much about women's feelings, needs, desires, frustrations, and what type of men to which they are attracted.
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Education/Credentials B.A. in communications/public relations. Additional coursework in speech communications. Fieldwork and library of relationship studies.
Question Hi there iam a 22 y/o male iam in iraq right now. There is this girl that i started to talking to over here we kinda of met through a family member of mind that wanted us to hook up. So we have been talking for a long time now and when we started talking she had just broke with her boyfriend because he cheated on her. She had told me that there was no chance of them getting back to together so i took that i a good sign and plus she said he treated her like shit. But then he starts to come around more and now there hanging out more and now she says that there is a chance they could get back together but wants to coutuine to talk to me out the same. I dont know but it seems like just she is playing both sides of the fance and she keeps all the fucked up shit he has done but she is still in love with him which makes her totally ingnore everything esle about the guy and she just cant get over him. I've been talkin to her for about two months now and things just seem to be going up and down with us. Sometimes i feel like i should end this because its just draging out. But i still want to talk to her because i want it work it out. And i really confused on what i should because she cant make her mind about who she wants so what advice do u give on that i need anthor opinon
Answer Hi Jovan,
You're in Iraq right now?
Thank you.
I mean that. Thank you, Jovan. I hope you accomplish your mission and get home safely to all those you love you. I wish your fellow soldiers that too.
Now, for the girl...
she's gonna break your heart if you let her, you know that, right?
And the tough thing is you are so far away and can't do much about that guy floating in and out of her life. She obviously has a thing for him still, hasn't shook all his mojo yet. Yeah, he treats her like dirt and yeah, she hates that but he still has something going for him that she loves.
You have to make difficult decisions all the time, I imagine. Far greater ones than this, Jovan. To me, if she's so unsure of herself, then I'd say you deserve a whole lot better, as in someone who sees you as the real deal and only wants to talk to you and meet you when you get back.
Now, you can, of course, decide what I wrote doesn't work with your heart. This is your life, not mine, but please remember, just as a soldier, what the risk is with this decision. The more you feel for her, the more it will hurt if she gets back together with that guy.
You could, however, just tell her you're into her and want to keep talking if she is interested in seeing what you two can become but also let her know that if she still feels it for that other dude, then that's cool. At that point, I'd let her go and find the girl who will be all about you and her.
Write anytime, happy to help you and your buddies.
