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Education/Credentials I've written and co-edited relationship/sex/health magazines, have work experience within the business side of the erotic film industry, worked as a PSO for 2 years, have had sensitivity training for sexual abuse and other sexual disorders.
Expert: Miss Relatonship Date: 5/16/2008 Subject: I lied and I want her back!!
Question well i said it i lied to her about school stuff and the lie compounded over 3 months. we have been dating for 3 years plus change. i am just wondering if there is anyway or anything i can do to have her forgive me. i love her and even now really realize how much she means to me. any help would be greatly appreciated.
thanks
JG
Answer I'm not sure what stage you are in the lie, but I'll give you some simple advice- tell the truth. Believe it or not, whatever we say in a relationship whether true or false will always come back in a relationship, so we need to be sure that we are presenting ourselves as we stand- nothing added, nothing taken away.
When people love us, they love us as we are, not something we've created to impress them or to comply with what they want.
You need to tell her the truth, explain the situation, and apologize. Once you damage that trust, it's very difficult to build it back- so, you need to be an open book and deal with the consequences of your tale.
This lie has put everything else you've ever said into question- how will she know that you haven't lied about something else? It's time to face the music, say you're sorry, and deal with whatever her feelings on the matter are.
If she takes you back, then work on building the trust; if she decides to move on, then you need to take this for the learning experience it is.
