AboutDr. Dennis W. Neder Expertise I'm able to answer any sort of question related to the approach, meeting people, dating, sex, relationships, break-ups, non-legal marriage and divorce questions, and anything in between.
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Experience I am the author of the books "Being a Man in a Woman`s World I & II" and "1001 Places and Techniques to Meet Great Women". I`ve spent the last 20 years studying the art and science of every aspect of relationships, and have answered over 20,000 letters from readers all over the world. My main focus is men`s relationships with women, but I also have many female readers and answer questions for them regularly as well.
Question I lost my virginity to my ex-boyfriend and I going to tell you the truth that I love him.He broke up with me because I cheated on him three times! but he said after me he's not going to date anyone anymore.Well, now he has two girlfriends.Things going on between us are not so well they were so bad that we would have to take counseling TWICE!...The counselors would always think that we still had feeling for each other but of course I was being indenial and saying no.One minute he hates me and then the next minute he's there flirting with me telling me he still loves me and smiling.His friends tell me he still loves me but I just don't listen.After he broke up with me I went out with his friend.That didn't last too long.But (Andrew)my ex he would call me names he would say that I don't exist to him and he would avoid me.I told him I hated him and he said he hates me too.Everyone says how we just flipped.But then he would come back and talk to me and ask how my mom and family is doing.It's really weird and I love this guy and he's in a relationship right now with a girl he really likes.He's rude to me sometimes and I don't understand why he always hurts my feelings like he will play hard to get and then I would do the same I say how I hate him and we would always argue and fight.Everywhere we go we fight in the mall....EVERYWHERE!!I will hit him and he won't touch me but he would call me names and laugh and it would hurt because he is my first and he is treating me like this.Like some people say they think I hurt him because I cheated on him 3 time,twice with his bro and once with his friend.I know I was an idiot to do that.But between me and him its all about revenge like the other day I talked to him and he was being rude a little but he was asking if i had a boyfriend and I told him no.But I just need help and I know you guys will say he's a jerk lose him but I'm acting the same way and I love him.I would spread rumors about him saying he has aids and everything.The counselors say that we know how to hurt each other which is true.But I REALLY LOVE HIM...I kind of like playing the games though.I like to walk up in the mall when he sees me looking good(better then his girlfriend.But yes so far that's what's going on.SOmetimes I really ask myself does he really hate me or is he trying to not like me.
Answer Hello PeppaZ!
So let's see here...if you don't listen to him, you don't listen to your counselors, you don't listen to his friend (or probably yours either) and you don't even listen to yourself, what makes anyone think you'll listen to me????
You didn't ask me a question, so I'll just give you my opinion. You both are like a couple of 6-year-old kids. You have no respect for each other - or yourselves apparently - and you just play all sorts of ridiculous games with each other.
Frankly, there's no way you could have any sort of healthy relationship, but then, that doesn't seem to bother you anyway.
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Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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