AboutSean Foleno Expertise Issues of how to get your lover back and break ups.
Please be as detailed and honest as possible. I also help indidviduals know if they are really in love and how to keep from falling out of love, and how to be romantic.
Experience Experienced many couples who broke up and made up, including married couples who have been together for more then 30 years.
Organizations Masons, Franklin Institute, and Women against abuse.
Education/Credentials Education Degree from C.C of Philadelphia, Finishing up a degree in Psychology at Cheyney University.
Expert: Sean Foleno Date: 6/24/2008 Subject: break up :(
Question My boyfriend dumped me over msn. No explanation after 2 yrs. Now I'm trying desperately to call him because I feel like I never got a chance to speak. He just won't pick up his phone. Is it wise for me to keep trying, for my own mental state? I miss him so much and now I don't feel interested in other men, just him. My friends tell me to move on, but how can I if I feel this way? He said I called 3x a week and talked too much on msn. He said it smothered him. Am I at fault here or is he looking for excuses? He says his other friends don't talk to him as much and that's how he likes it. He also has depression. I would try to comfort him but he said he hates being treated differently when he's depressed. What do I do now?
Answer Hi. So your boyfriend of 2 years dumped you over msn. He will not pick up his phone. You miss him so much and now do not feel interested in other men. Your friends tell you to move on. He said you called 3 times a week and talked too much and might have smothered him. His other friends do not even talk to him that. (but he not suppose to be in love with them) He also has depression which you would try to comfort, but he hates being treated differently when he is depressed.
Your questions are:
Is it wise for me to keep trying, for my own mental state? Please give him space for now until at least you are more emotional or he calls you. Here is a website which I recommend you utilize. There are similar people going through the same thing. You can share and gain strength and insight from each other. http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=90780&page=12
Am I at fault here or is he looking for excuses? Well. If this relationship was for a full commitment, marriage in the future. Then no. You were keeping the communication flowing, but if in his mind this was just a fun free relationship which just lost its charm, then sure. Beside men can not get enough harmonious joyful communicate with a women, but just a week of annoying nagging smothering conversation can easily drive a man from a fragile relationship.
What do I do now? Enjoy you. See old friends, renew hobby, exercise daily. Please do this one. Exercise daily at let 30 minutes. Wait a week and then buy a very highly rated book on amazon.com read the reviews and buy the one which has the most positive review from people similar to your self and situation. Go through your old clothes get ride of anything you have not worn in a year and a half. Go on at least on date to. If after all this you still want this guy back. I am at your service. But until then. Keep clear of him. He calls you great, but other then that you are comfortable with your self and can wait. Oh also maybe taken everything from that relationship and putt it into a large box and then placing it in the closet. If things work out you can get it later. Please keep me posted on how things turn out. Sincerely Sean Foleno
