AboutNafeesah Expertise I can answer just about any question except ones that require assistance from a mental health counselor because of the sensitivity in nature of dealing with some topics. I am not one of those types of people who will sugar coat answers I keep it honest and real.
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Expert: Nafeesah Date: 7/2/2008 Subject: never had a boyfreind
Question hi
thanks very much for information
it louise again,i never had boyfreind may be it becuase i am ugly looking,short ,fat,i am never even got my fisrt kiss i don,t know how to kiss or how to get a boyfreind ,i hate those dating web site because you know who are dealing with.i know looks are very important to men,
guys aren,t to me they told me so.
guys like boosting to me about all they conquest to me and how great they were.i was at nightclub with guy i thought was nice i asked to dance he refused me.next thing i know he telling he had loads of girlfreinds he was drunk.and he went off kissing another girl in front of me for about 10 minutes.i asked was he going home because i want to take the taxi home to place and him to his place. the next thing he to me "is nothing is going to happen between us,huh?i was only asking wnas he going home.
another day i was traing at a sport event him self and mate started locker room talikng out loud and girls who were at event could hear them they only like foot away, you see what i mean .
thnaks for the advice.
Answer The thing is you have to have self confidence because I felt the same way you did and as I matured I started to understand that losers are going to be who they are, but don't let a cruel person's mentality get the best of you. If a guy approaches you drunk he's a loser because a man who respects you will treat you like a person and not an object. If you need help in fixing up your appearance there's tips you can look at online to bring out your best features.
I am sure you got a little inner diva in you to be your best. If you actually did that you would see some improvement in your love life I promise you that. When I did it I had guys talking to me and even catching the attention of a guy I had been in love with for a long time. When you have self esteem you are a confident and attractive person.
I didnt have my first serious boyfriend and intimate experience until I was 20 years old. If this guy said "is nothing is going to happen between us,huh?" he's a loser and he was only looking for sex from you if he was coming at you like that. Deal with guys who arent approaching you drunk and high off drugs you can do a lot better than that.
Never lower your standards by any means and if a man can't respect you show him the door and don't have any regrets either. You sound too nice of a person to lower your standards to deal with losers who can't respect you. Don't ever settle for less by any means and it's losers like this guy who are not worth your time.
Fixing yourself up and boosting your self esteem and confidence will actually weed out men who are not worth your time. If you need help with boosting your self image get a friend who has an eye for fashion to take you shopping and set a budget of what you want to spend and buy you some nice clothes and work on fixing yourself up gradually and that should start getting guys to look your way.
Pick a hairstyle that compliments you and select make up that makes you sexy and not trashy. What you want is to show your natural beauty and to look as natural as possible. Being yourself is what men find attractive and sexy and women who are phony and tossing themselves at a man are likely to get passed over for someone who's real and genuine. Keeping it real is the best thing for a chance at romance.
