About Nafeesah Expertise I can answer just about any question except ones that require assistance from a mental health counselor because of the sensitivity in nature of dealing with some topics. I am not one of those types of people who will sugar coat answers I keep it honest and real.
Experience I talk to different people all the time about dating both male and female
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Education/Credentials I have an associates degree in General Studies, Bachelors in Sociology, and I am a certified nursing assistant
Question Hi Nafeesah!
Ok, I really need some good advice for this one and I hope you can help me. I took this girl to my homecoming dance and made a mistake that may have ruined my future chances with her. When we arrived at the dance, I dropped her and her friends off at the door while I parked the car, like a gentleman should do. When I got inside and gave my ticket to get in, I couldn't find her. So, I took that opportunity to take a bathroom stop before I hit the dance floor. It turned out she was in the bathroom when I came in. So when she came out, she asked another friend of mine where I went. He told her I went to go dance. So when I came out of the bathroom, we had lost each other. I couldn't find her for a while, so I decided to go dance with my other friends while I looked for her. As I danced, a random girl asked me to dance with her. Not wanting to be rude or be bored, I said yes. As I danced with her, I didn't realize the potential harm I could have caused in the date. My date found me dancing with her and seemed to get pissed off. After that happened, I excused myself from the other girl and went to go find her. When I did, I asked her to dance. She agreed to dance with me. So the rest of the night went pretty good. The thing was, I danced with another girl other than her. Was that stupid? Do you think I really did piss her off? If so, should I try to set up another date with just us two alone to make up for what I did or should I just apologize? I really like this girl and honestly don't know what is the best route to take. Thanks for any advice you can give.
Answer There's that cardinal rule that you should only dance with your date, but if you guys are not exclusive I don't see a problem with dancing with other people you came there with a group of friends. I don't think you were being rude you're not dating this girl exclusively. She may have felt like you were ditching her, but you were not you were just dancing. I would talk to her and have a talk about that so she's clear that you were just dancing with someone and that you guys are not exclusive. Being clear about that will eliminate the confusion and what some girls don't remember is that if she's on a date with someone and they're not exclusive the guy is with them, but he should tell her if he's planning to dance with other people if at a function so there is no misunderstanding.
