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General Dating Questions - is this acceptable?

Expert: Azure - 11/2/2009

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my guy and i have been dating for about 5 months and things have been going great. we've never gotten into a fight or even an arguement and we feel very strongly about each other and there's trust in our relationship as well. some background info: we're both actors and we both go to alot parties and socialize and "flirt" or the way we see it is "being charming" to everyone and we both understand that what we do on screen has no impact on how we feel about each other off screen. meaning that if we have to kiss someone, we'll both understand. well anyways, he was filming a few days ago and a picture of the cast appeared on facebook, everyone is just chilling and he's sitting really close to a girl with his arm around her chair and she's leaning in really close to him. this upset me because i feel disrespected. what are the other people gonna think when they see this?? does this say anything about the consideration he has for me? if so, what does it say? or is it just actors being charming in front of the flash? if it were me i would feel uncomfortable sitting so close to someone when we're not filming. let me know what you think please? how should i be feeling right now and why? and should i bring it up to him and if so how??
i forgot to add that i saw this picture because someone tagged him on facebook but not long afterwards he removed all his tagged photos from facebook. is that suspicious? Thank you!!
this a link to the picture.
http://i226.photobucket.com/albums/dd79/anayanci911/14669_1233364349110_10792021...

Answer
the pic, by itself, not that big a deal..he had to put that arm somewhere--but the bigger deal is, he's a good lookin guy, there's pretty girls all around, you haven't dated that long, perhaps you're not together that often---in this kind of situation the chances of him being faithful are 50% at best; it's something you just have to not worry about/live with, otherwise your insecurities will drive you crazy..

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