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About Murphy Smith
Expertise
I can answer any general relationship / dating questions.

Experience
I used to work as a counselor in a hospital part time for 15 years (16-32 hours a week) and my job was listening to patients who had relationship problems and giving them advice to help them cope with depression, suicidal behavior and thoughts, loss of a relationship or marriage, sexual issues and diseases, unwanted pregnancy, infidelity, abusive relationships, interracial relationships, prostitution, rape, drug addiction, alcohol addiction and abuse etc. I am very inquisitive and ask alot questions on various subjects, which has made me quite knowledgeable in general. I also have read many books on relationships and dating and if I do not know the answer to a question I will research it until I find the correct answer opposed to just pretending that I know about something that I do not. I have also had alot of friends, co-workers and even strangers tell me their problems and expect a sincere and candid answer because I am told that I appear to be a person that can be trusted and I am.

Education/Credentials
High school with some college. I have worked for the government for 10 yrs and as part of my job duties I am expected and required to counsel and advice hundreds of employees.

Past/Present Clients
I have counseled and advised hundreds of people in the past 25 years on numerous subjects.

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General Dating Questions - Is he in to me.

Expert: Murphy Smith - 11/6/2009

Question
I have this man, of course I like or wouldn't be asking right. He calls me or text me when he's been out and drinking. I can't for the life of me figure out if he is really into me or not. He text saying hey did you take me off your facebook page I can't reply and I've been trying, that he only has a pic of me and his kids on his phone, mentions things about his ex. But then asks are you up I'll call ya, asks to meet me later on in the week. That day comes, and of course either he ignores my text saying hey are we meeting up. Did not surprise me as its not the first time. or he will email saying work or he is getting his kids but please do not be mad at me. Then will ignore my its cool emails and avoid me on Facebook.. for the next few months. Should I just block this guy, or is he just scared of moving on..

Answer
totallyconfussed:

Why would you want to be involved with a man who only calls you when he has been out drinking and talks about his ex and kids? This alone tells you that he is not a man that you should deal with or want in your life and whether or not he is scared of moving on is nothing that you should be concerned with because it is his problem not yours. I am not trying to be harsh with you I just do not want to see you fall into the trap that many women fall into namely getting involved with a man who has a drinking problem and other problems and some how thinking that his problems are theirs or they should or are responsible for helping him to fix them because they are not and unfortunately only end up getting hurt and used, which all could have been avoided if they would have never gotten involved with him to begin with. The question should not be is he into you but again why would you want such a man into you because this is not a good man and he will only use, hurt and disappoint you, which no woman should want but will definately happen if they let it.

Murphy

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