AboutDr. Dennis W. Neder Expertise I'm able to answer any sort of question related to the approach, meeting people, dating, sex, relationships, break-ups, non-legal marriage and divorce questions, and anything in between.
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Experience I am the author of the books "Being a Man in a Woman`s World I & II" and "1001 Places and Techniques to Meet Great Women". I`ve spent the last 20 years studying the art and science of every aspect of relationships, and have answered over 25,000 letters from readers all over the world. My main focus is men`s relationships with women, but I also have many female readers and answer questions for them regularly as well.
Question 1. is it a deal breaker if i just met a girl who i am attracted to and interested in, but DO NOT care for nor want to know her "circle of friends"? for me, all i care about is her. ..so just curious. .from her perspective, is that a deal breaker? will she not want to be with me b/c of that?
2. is there is a girl i am attracted to on the bus and there are all those people on the bus/so a full bus that is. ..how do you even go about approaching that girl you are attracted to knowing that there are all those other people on the bus? what are your methods?
thanks
Answer Hello Pan!
1. Since I don't know this girl, I can't say what's a deal breaker for her. If all you want is sex, and all she wants is sex then no. If all she wants is a buddy or someone to go to the movies with or just to hang out with or where she doesn't really need or want to hang wit her friends, then no.
Most women aren't like this however. They want to integrate their relationships in with their existing lives - not throw away their lives for one.
2. First, why do you have to approach her on the bus in the first place? It's not that you can't however. You can. If you see her there and she's sitting alone for instance, you can certainly just go up and strike up a conversation with her. You can also do the same thing when you're off the bus.
There are many ways to approach someone, but the best is the "context approach". This is very simple. What do you have in common with her right then, right there?
Obviously, you and she both ride the bus! That's plenty of context. If you see her away from the bus, you can just walk up to her and say, "Hey! I see you on the bus every morning" and then follow it up with a question or something. The point is to get her talking.
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