About Nafeesah Expertise I can answer just about any question except ones that require assistance from a mental health counselor because of the sensitivity in nature of dealing with some topics. I am not one of those types of people who will sugar coat answers I keep it honest and real.
Experience I talk to different people all the time about dating both male and female
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Education/Credentials I have an associates degree in General Studies, Bachelors in Sociology, and I am a certified nursing assistant
General Dating Questions - Is there a difference whether a relationship is settling or whether someone's losing interest?
Expert: Nafeesah - 6/29/2009
Question I know that a new relationship settles after a period of time and the sparks and thrill die down a little. About how long after you start dating someone does this occur? And, how do you know if this is happening or if someone might be losing interest or wanting to break up? Because sometimes the actions of both are similar. Like they'll start missing phone calls or won't call as much, or don't see you as much. Or they'll say they'll call at XYZ time and they don't, or they'll not be as available to see you.See, these things may go on when the realtionship is settling and the person will still be interested. Are there any behaviors that distinguish one from the other? Is there a way to know the difference? If so, how do you know whether the relationship is actually settling or if someone's losing interest?
Answer This is why it's important that you work at your relationship because the fact that many go into them thinking all is good and nothing can go wrong. Here's the thing problems and issues happen all the time in relationships, but it's up to you and your partner/significant other to make it work because it takes two people to make it work. If a relationship settles that's because the people involved have gotten too comfortable in their roles to not continue working at things.
Couples that tend to spend too much time together are likely to get bored of each other. That's why it's important to spend some time apart as individuals and not always be together. Most guys and girls like for that guy or girl they're thinking of or dating to have a life of their own outside the relationship where they go out with their friends and do separate things.
It's ideal to spend a few days apart from each other every so often so you can do other things than to be together and driving each other nuts. Women tend to want that togetherness, but a lot of guys find this to be annoying because every now and then they want a guy's day or night out and don't always want to hang around with their girlfriend all the time. Even married guys are like this they want time with their friends as well so they can bond and connect with other men.
You want to look at the person's actions such as how they react when they see you do they look happy or somber? Do you often find when you call, email, and text them do they take a while to answer back aside from being busy? If you find yourself seeing these things that can indicate possibly losing interest and breaking up with someone. Always check body language because that's your best way to deal with what you could be dealing with down the line in dating.
