AboutDr. Dennis W. Neder Expertise I'm able to answer any sort of question related to the approach, meeting people, dating, sex, relationships, break-ups, non-legal marriage and divorce questions, and anything in between.
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Experience I am the author of the books "Being a Man in a Woman`s World I & II" and "1001 Places and Techniques to Meet Great Women". I`ve spent the last 20 years studying the art and science of every aspect of relationships, and have answered over 25,000 letters from readers all over the world. My main focus is men`s relationships with women, but I also have many female readers and answer questions for them regularly as well.
Question I have been dating a woman for just over a year and a half when ever she comes to my place i offer to make her dinner, i will offer her a drink and through out our eveing i will ask her if she needs anything. Now when we are at her house she does not offer nothing i sometimes make my self a coffee and when she see's me doing this then she say's o i would have done that for you but never offers.She's cooked me dinner one time she got upset with me because my family has to many functions ( once a month) she even can't remember my birthday. I help her kids with there school projects i take her kids out movies,golfing.hockey, and to their practices she does nothing with my kids.She makes what ever plans she wants and thats ok but if i do well she gets all upset for some reason My freinds say she is self serving, at first i siad no way but now i'm starting to think maybe she is. What do you think
Answer Hello Mike!
What the hell Mike??? YES, YES, YES this woman is self-serving! In fact, she's one selfish, self-serving, self-involved bitch! She's only made you dinner ONCE? In 1 1/2 years??? I don't care if she has a "good excuse" or not!
Mike, relationships aren't a balance sheet, but trust me, they have a balance. What's yours? Are you the one doing all the contributing here and she's doing all the getting?
Here's the biggest problem: she's not invested in your relationship! You're there for her convenience to do all these things for her. She, on the other hand, doesn't return any support to it. That means that she can leave it without any loss whatsoever - other than what YOU'RE giving her! Then, all she needs to do is find some other jackass that'll do all the things you do for her, and what does she need you for?
Mike this is VERY unhealthy! You need to lay down some law here and tell her that you expect her to contribute at least as much as you do or there's no relationship to be had - by either of you.
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