AboutMurphy Smith Expertise I can answer any general relationship / dating questions.
Experience I used to work as a counselor in a hospital part time for 15 years (16-32 hours a week) and my job was listening to patients who had relationship problems and giving them advice to help them cope with depression, suicidal behavior and thoughts, loss of a relationship or marriage, sexual issues and diseases, unwanted pregnancy, infidelity, abusive relationships, interracial relationships, prostitution, rape, drug addiction, alcohol addiction and abuse etc. I am very inquisitive and ask alot questions on various subjects, which has made me quite knowledgeable in general. I also have read many books on relationships and dating and if I do not know the answer to a question I will research it until I find the correct answer opposed to just pretending that I know about something that I do not. I have also had alot of friends, co-workers and even strangers tell me their problems and expect a sincere and candid answer because I am told that I appear to be a person that can be trusted and I am.
Education/Credentials High school with some college. I have worked for the government for 10 yrs and as part of my job duties I am expected and required to counsel and advice hundreds of employees.
Past/Present Clients I have counseled and advised hundreds of people in the past 25 years on numerous subjects.
Question I met a really great guy recently. We met at a friend's party, he took my number & asked me out the next weekend. I've seen him three weekends in a row & we had a great time together. During the week, he texted me every day & made a point of telling me how much he liked me. He seemed like a genuine, honest kind of guy. He is very passionate about his hobby, kite-surfing, & spends the whole weekend with the guys surfing, but made a point of inviting me down to the beach to watch & introduced me to his friends. Then this weekend - nothing. I have not heard a word from him & I noticed that last week he didn't text me, unless I sent him a message. Do I do nothing & wait to hear from him? If I don't hear anything, do I just ASSUME it's over? How come he just suddenly lost interest? I know I shouldn't contact him & look desperate, but it's really frustrating?
Answer Marche:
At first he was spending alot of time with you and texting you then all of a sudden it all stops and he is not contacting you at all. I would not assume anything. I would ask him why he stopped talking to you and texting you all of a sudden when he had been giving you so much attention before?
I also would not worry contacting him because it could look desperate because you are right it is frustrating and you have a right to know.
