General Dating Questions/Just not that into me?

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Expert: Murphy Smith - 6/29/2009


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I met a really great guy recently. We met at a friend's party, he took my number & asked me out the next weekend. I've seen him three weekends in a row & we had a great time together. During the week, he texted me every day & made a point of telling me how much he liked me. He seemed like a genuine, honest kind of guy. He is very passionate about his hobby, kite-surfing, & spends the whole weekend with the guys surfing, but made a point of inviting me down to the beach to watch & introduced me to his friends. Then this weekend - nothing. I have not heard a word from him & I noticed that last week he didn't text me, unless I sent him a message. Do I do nothing & wait to hear from him? If I don't hear anything, do I just ASSUME it's over? How come he just suddenly lost interest? I know I shouldn't contact him & look desperate, but it's really frustrating?

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Marche:

At first he was spending alot of time with you and texting you then all of a sudden it all stops and he is not contacting you at all. I would not assume anything. I would ask him why he stopped talking to you and texting you all of a sudden when he had been giving you so much attention before?

I also would not worry contacting him because it could look desperate because you are right it is frustrating and you have a right to know.

(Murphy)

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I can answer any general relationship / dating questions.

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I worked as a certified nursing assistant in a psychiatic facility / hospital part time and full time for many years and my job was listening to patients who had relationship and other problems and giving them advice to help them cope with depression, suicidal behavior and thoughts, loss of a relationship or marriage, sexual issues and diseases, unwanted pregnancy, infidelity, abusive relationships, interracial relationships, prostitution, rape, incest, drug addiction, alcohol addiction and abuse etc. and in Nursing Homes taking care of elderly patients. I am very inquisitive and have always asked alot questions on various subjects, which has made me quite knowledgeable in general. I also have read many books on relationships and dating etc. and if I do not know the answer to a question to a question I will research it until I find the correct answer or send them to someone who does but I will not pretend I know about something that I do not. Also my entire life since I was very young many of my friends, co-workers and even strangers have told me their problems and expected a sincere and candid answer I have always heard that I appear to be a good person who can be trusted and I am.

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High school with some college. I have worked in government for many years in personnel, personnel management, as a certified correctional officer and training instructor for male and female law enforcement officers where my job duties required me to instruct, counsel and advice hundreds of employees on policies and procedures and how to carry themselves. I was a certified nursing assistant for many years and helped hundreds of patients with daily grooming and mental and physical difficulties etc. I worked on a pediatrics intensive care unit for many years as a ward clerk and besides my normal duties I helped take care of very sick children (prenatal thru teenagers)feeding, taking care of and reading to them, changing diapers, helping bath, medications, injections etc.

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