About Anisa Expertise I can answer any questions relating to meeting people, breaking up, social scenes and dating in general. You name it, I've been there. I am also a steady people watcher, I observe behaviors and can relate to any issues you might have.
Experience I can answer any questions relating to meeting people, breaking up, social scenes and dating in general. You name it, I've been there. I am also a steady people watcher, I observe behaviors and can relate to any issues you might have.
Education/Credentials BS Family Sciences, BA Social Psychology
Question My name is Jessica. I am 22 years old and I am in my first real relationship. I have know the guy for about 5 months, but we have only been dating for a month. At first he said I was beautiful all the time and he jumped right into saying he loved me. We got into an argument this last weekend and now he wants to take a step back. I am worried that he is reconsidering wanting to be with me. I think about him all the time, I love to be around and I care about him. He says he feels the same way about me. I just don't how fast or slow to take things or really what I should be feeling or not feeling. I worry all the time that he will lose interest in me or things will not work out. I guess I just want some advice ,because I am kind of confused. I don't jnow exactly how to express how I feel, so if you have any questions just ask. Thank you for all the responces in advance.
Answer Hi Jessica,
Congratulations on being in your first real relationship. It can be exciting, but also scary. In your case, it's a little scary because you have no previous experience so you don't know how to respond to your boyfriend's actions. There is no such thing as how fast or slow you are supposed to take things. It is different for each couple. What you need to do is take it at a pace that feels comfortable to you. If your boyfriend wants to take a step back, respect his boundaries and just play it by hear. There's no sense in stressing yourself out, especially since he hasn't broken up with you or said anything negative about the relationship. There's a chance he wants to slow things down because you guys did have a first argument, and that may have scared him. Scared him into thinking he doesn't want to argue with you. Please do not worry, right now you are still together. If later he shows any signs of losing interest (distance, avoidance, anger, etc), then it would be a good time to sit him down and talk about it. But for now, enjoy what you do have and do not stress over what could be.
