About Nafeesah Expertise I can answer just about any question except ones that require assistance from a mental health counselor because of the sensitivity in nature of dealing with some topics. I am not one of those types of people who will sugar coat answers I keep it honest and real.
Experience I talk to different people all the time about dating both male and female
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Education/Credentials I have an associates degree in General Studies, Bachelors in Sociology, and I am a certified nursing assistant
Question Hi Nafeesah
I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly a year.
I’m confused as although I am in love with him, one thing, the passion the spark just seems not to be there. I try and wear nice underwear and when I undress I expect an immediate reaction, interest and him not to take his hands of me. Sometimes he’ll turn out the light and we will both go to sleep. he works long days and exercises a lot so I know sometimes we are both tired. he’s 38 (Im 28) and older than other men Ive been with, but they were far more eager and always wanting to have sex.
He says I don’t initiate it at all (and yes I do, wrongly, expect a man to nearly 90% of the time)m and when he ahs suggested other positions, I say no and he says he feels pushed away,. He also nearly never wants it at night and is more keen in the morning often when I’m not. I’m just wandering if you think coupes should at this stage still have sex every time they meet. If the man should initiate most of the time if he feels attracted to his girlfriend especially if she is in nice underwear and despite being tired- surely lust should overcome this? We have talked marriage in the future but as much as I love him, I would want to feel truly lusted over, and be in a passionate relationship.
Answer When a man tells you that there's certain things he wants in sex pay attention to that. I have to listen to my own boyfriend on certain things he wants, but you have to come to a happy medium in terms of sex and intimacy. You could try wearing sexy lingerie,but also figure out what he likes in the bedroom. It's strange how your man likes sex in the daytime and not at night you should research that because sometimes it's the pattern of sex that some people are used to. Not everyone is a person that likes sex at night, but some like it at night or first thing in the morning. It's about finding a happy medium for you and your boyfriend and that's something you and him need to talk about.
