About Nafeesah Expertise I can answer just about any question except ones that require assistance from a mental health counselor because of the sensitivity in nature of dealing with some topics. I am not one of those types of people who will sugar coat answers I keep it honest and real.
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Question So i've been dating this guy since May. IT's been over 4 months. Last saturday, we went over to his house and spent time together. Eventually, we had sex...it was our First time with each other. After sex, we went to watching TV, and he said- " babe, im surprised we got this far. You were just suppose to be some girl, like a fling but here we are still together. "He never had to tried before with other girls, and i ask him then -why were you still around with me when you werent getting any? He said- it's cause i was different, and i was funny. I ask him what am i now? he goes- " i know what you mean to me, and i know you want to hear it, but im not gna tell you cause i dont want too.
We later just watch TV, and fell asleep i got up around 3 and went back home.
On sunday i txt him= u still sleeping? he call back hours later and we eventually talk. He ask me why did i leave?? I told him it was almost 3 am, and his mom gets homes, and she would got bad impression if she saw us sleeping and u were only in your boxer. He said, " yea ok...sure." he then ask if i could bring him food 2 his work...so i did bring him food 2 his work, we chat 4 like 2 seconds then he went back to work.
I havent heard from him since sunday! I don't know what should i do?? Should i wait 4 him 2 contact me, or should i contact him?? Thanks!!
Answer What he said to you "babe, I'm surprised we got this far. You were supposed to be some girl who was just a fling, but here we are still together"...this bothered me because he was saying you were some girl he was going to use and discard like trash. He sounds to me like he's a user and a player. Only guys who use and play women say stuff like that and then he turns around and asks you to bring him something to eat on the job after telling you what your role was/is to him. I would find someone else sounds to me like he's playing you and saw you as someone he could get sex from. I would ask him what the deal is on you two dating and if he can't give you a straight answer drop him and move on. A guy who's serious about you won't use you for sex and other things.
