General Dating Questions/Sex


Why does my new boyfriend only want sex once a month? We are 27 and 28. We have been seeing each other for 6 months. At first sex was great. We lived an hour apart so we saw each other on weekends. And would have sex once a day at least. He asked me to move in with him which i did about 2 months ago. Since then we only have sex once a month. I try and he turns me down most times. Too tired or stressed from work he says. It has put a huge whallop on my self esteem. He says he loves me and wants me forever and says that i do turn him on. ???? Recent i found a porn page up on our iPad after i was gone all afternoon. Why not wait for me to get home?? Especially since we have been trying to talk about this. I told him how it makes me feel and asked why he doesn't want me. He says he does and everything is fine and hes sorry. I always initiate lately when we do get to have sex. I am very much in love with him and want to make it work. I am trying to be patient because i dont want him to unless he wants me. Please help

big problem...he's obviously not being honest with you; he's either seeing someone else, become addicted to porn/masturbation, lost desire for you, or has a major physical/emotional issue; you need to INFORM him that the situation is no longer acceptable, and that he needs to HONESTLY talk to you about it, then agree to a plan to fix it; if he refuses and just goes back to those lame excuses, start packing..

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