General Dating Questions/Bf's parents problem


I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now.I am 22 years old and he is 29. I still live with my family and he lives on his own.

I have introduced him to my family after 2 to 3 months. However he has been coming at our home after approximately 9 months that we have been dating. Before dating this current boyfriend, I had 2 other boyfriends who they both introduced me to their family after a short period of time.

However the boyfriend I m going out with at the moment, still hasn't introduced me to his family. We talked about this matter a lot of times. I show him that I wish to meet his family, just like he met mine. However, he never ever arranged for us to meet. He knows I get upset every time he goes to visit his parents and doesn't ask me to join along. I do not know what to problem is. He had other girlfriends before me who he used to take at his mother's and eat altogether every Sunday lunch. His brothers also take their girlfriends/wives to their mother's. I cannot understand the reason why he s always making up excuses and each time I start to talk about it, he gets angry at me not to start again. =(

Most of the time I stay/sleep at his place, and it has been almost 2yrs now. So conclusion is we re in a quite serious relationship.

When I sometimes ask him what s the problem or why is it just me that he seems to take so long to introduce, he just calls me names and avoids the conversation. We don't talk about this matter a lot because I do not want to force him. We talk about it once or twice every 3 months maybe. But it's killing me not knowing what is the problem about me.

What shall I do?

After 2 years of going out he still hasn't introduced you to his family even though that would be the thing to do if he wanted them to know you were part of his life. And when you ask him why he gets defensive and attacks.

Have you two ever talked about marriage or even that you are dating exclusively?  My bet is that either something happened between him and his Mom and he doesn't want to feel pressured to commit to marriage or he is seeing someone else who he has already introduced to his Mom or wants his Mom to believe he is still seeing another woman who his mother approves of.

I don't think there is necessarily anything wrong with you, in fact your expectations seem pretty normal. I would ask yourself what you want from this relationship and where you want it to go. If you are seriously considering marriage as a possibility at some point with this guy I would ask him straight out where he thinks this going and if you don't get a straight answer that he is on the same page then move on. You are young and in the prime of your life, don't waste it in a relationship that is not going where you want it to go.  

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I can answer almost all questions related to dating and sexuality including the nuts and bolts of particular situations and specific communication skills as well as questions related to self-image and self-development. However most of my work has been with men, singles and those newly single or divorced, to get very rapid results starting with specific actionable tactics while also applying powerful techniques from NLP and hypnosis for rapid personal change. I don't specialize in working with those already in long-term relationship dynamics or marriage however I have also continued to give advice and support to my single clients as they move into relationships. It has been my experience that the most powerful results come from focusing on who you want to become as a person, then you will more naturally attract the types of relationships that you want rather than having to try to force them. I believe that most people's frustrations come from when they are trying to force a situation to get what they think they want when it is not completely aligned with their system of beliefs. While I believe in the role of self-development my strongest selling point has been to get specific, measurable results quickly using applied psychology. Ultimately nothing is more motivating and empowering than being able to quickly make noticeable changes in the way you interact with other people.


I am an author, dating coach and speaker based in the Washington, DC area. I've been involved in the industry since 1999 and as a professional dating coach since 2008. I have taught thousands of clients through seminars, speaking appearances and in-person coaching sessions. My coaching goes beyond just knowing what to do or say in a particular situation, by teaching how to become the person who is naturally attractive. I have training in Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) and hypnosis. I am the author of the book "Become That Guy: Become Irresistibly Attractive" (2010, AuthorHouse) a book which offers specific actionable exercises that you can use to address the root causes of common challenges such as confidence and interpersonal communication skills. I am also the author of "Pickup: Real Life Adventures of Seduction" and the creator of the hypnosis CD, "Be Irresistibly Attractive," which gives you the ability to rapidly develop and use the ideal skills and frame of mind to present your best self to the world. I will also be featured in a chapter in an upcoming book "Mastering the Art of Success" alongside "Chicken Soup for the Soul" authors Mark Victor Hansen and Jack Canfield, the subject of a documentary first released at the portfolio show for Art Institute of Washington graduates in 2012. I have also been a presenter at the world dating summit in Los Angeles 2010 and 2011, the Global men's dating summit in 2011, 12 and 13 in Washington, DC and the National Divorce eSummit in 2012 I currently offer several different seminars ranging from evenings to weekend long seminars on topics including online dating, text messaging, conversational skills to build chemistry and attraction and more. I offer coaching by phone through one-on-one phone calls, in-person "infield" coaching where we meet people in real-life settings as well as a comprehensive coaching program.

Bachelor in Political Science, American University, training in Neurolinguistic Programming starting in 1999, hypnotherapy and various sales methods including the Sandler Sales Institute. In addition to that I have taken trainings with many leaders in my field including Ross Jeffries (Paul Ross), David Shade, Brad P, Mehow, Jonathan Altfeld and many others.

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