General Dating Questions/Is he interested?


Hi Dr Neder

I was hoping that you could give some advice or your opinion on this.

I met a guy while on a job and we exchanged email addresses and phone numbers, so that we could get to know one another.

After talking for about 1 week, he wanted to see me. He initially told me that he liked me. We made a 'date' and met at his place for coffee and then had only oral sex.

He continued to text and email me. We would meet on occasion (being once or twice a month) and have coffee and end up in bed together. We have known each other for about 6 months, but have had spent 4 times together

We have also showered together. we also seem to talk about most things, as he's very easy to get along with.

He told me that he was looking for the right woman, but wasn't sure who that was until he met her. as he continues to contact me or respond to me, I'm not sure if this means anything. Other wise, wouldn't he either ignore me or tell me to stop talking to him?

He also told me that he had a very busy job, so that was the reason why we met on a casual basis.

Whenever we spend time together or talk on the phone, it sounds like he is interested, but then I could be imagining this.

Does this sound like someone who is interested in me?


Hello T!

There's a lot about the story I don't know. Since you don't copy the previous exchanges I can't remember what we talked about in the past.

Generally if he continues toI contact you he's probably still interested. The question is interested in what? That's what I can't tell you without knowing more about the situation.

Best regards...

Dr.  Dennis W. Neder  

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