General Dating Questions/Your Thoughts?


I recently met a man on an online dating site, he is 58 and I am 54.  He lives about an hour from where I live.  He contacted me and expressed an interest.  I responded and expressed the same.  In the 2nd email, he gave me his regular email address so we could correspond and not have to go through the dating site.  The first week or so, I received an email from him every day and I responded.  Out of the blue, I didn't hear from him for a couple of days and then one night he called and said he had been out of town fishing with a friend of his and didn't have access to his computer.  I didn't think too much of it.  Sunday night, he was going to call so we could talk (he works nights and I work days).  I didn't hear from him Sunday or Monday.  He called me around 11:45 p.m., Tuesday night.  He said he was out with his friends playing poker and drinking all night and it took him Monday and Tuesday to get over his hang over.  Today, he told me to call him at 4 p.m., so we could talk.  When I called, he was in the shower and said he could call me back.  When he called back, he said he had to be at work early this evening; however, he would call me later this evening when he got home around 12, 1 o'clock AM.  I fill he is blowing me off for some reason or another.  What should I do?  I sent him an email and told him that if he had something going on in his life that needed his attention, just to let me know.  What should I do?  Was I wrong for sending him that email?  

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I think you are justified in sending that e-mail. He does seem rather distracted. Out drinking all night on a weekday at his age? I don't know college kids that bold (that aren't flunking out). lol. Yeah, I'd wait for him to contact you, and in the mean time continue your search for love and other things that will make you happy.

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