General Dating Questions/Is he into me?

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I'm 18. I've been dating my for over a year now. I'm from India, and his mother is very orthodox and doesn't want him dating anyone at this point of time. We're absolutely certain this isn't ruining our life in any way.

When we fight, he remains distant and seems to create a wall between us. I've a bad temper and he retaliates worse. He doesn't care that I'm crying my lungs out in front of him. He walks away from the relationship and I've to plead him to come. Am I forcing him to be a part of this or is his tense situation at home affecting him to behave this way?

When we aren't fighting he showers me with love, but I always feel I'm more invested in this than he is. Like, it won't affect him much if we break up whereas that would kill me.

What should I do?

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I don't know what you should do. I don't know what the two of you argue about or what significance it might have in your culture. But it does sound like the two of you could benefit from being less tempermental and listening to each other more. Don't beg him to come back. Just apologize when it is your fault, and be honest with each other. Let things happen as they will.

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First and foremost if you read ahead you'll find I have a word limit on questions I'll read. This site is for short simple questions and it should not be for writing essays. Please also note I am unfamilar with most cultures outside of United Stated, UK, and France. Please respect my rules. I don't like rejecting questions. I will be the first to admit that I don't know everything about dating, women/men, and interpersonal connections. However I have learned quite a bit vicariously from other people's experiences. Think of my advice as a second opinion. I would be happy to answer all questions related to relationships, dating, self-confidence, and self-image that I can. I have struggled with all of those things and probably know better than most how to deal with all of them.

I hope more than anything that my advice and opinions will help give people perspective in their lives, and hopefully make them feel better about themselves and their situations. I will attempt answering questions for anyone of any age group or nationality. However it would be particularly useful to know the age of all people involved. It does make a difference towards the advice I give. Also not terribly familar with arranged marriages and situations in which the family can dictate the details of the relationship.

My Rules:
1). I can't answer questions that ask if a girl or guy likes the other (very difficult to know remotely)
2). No questions that are More Than 250 Words. I understand that problems can be complex, but there is a real limit to how much I can read and fully understand. Particularly if English isn't the questioner's native language.
3). Only questions from Americans, Canadians, British, and cute French women.
4). No questions that ask the meaning behind if a person sets their FB status to single, coupled, or private or if they still have a dating profile undeleted somewhere. If you're cyber snooping you're likely the issue.

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I don't really have any specific experience in this area other than learning from other people's mistakes and a few of my own, and whatever I've learned as a psychology major.

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B.S. Psychology

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