General Dating Questions/The guy I like......


So basically this is what happened. I've been really close friends with this guy (I'll call him Vince) for about a half a year. He was my very first friend at college, and he's still one of my best friends. For about the first two months of college, I'd say we were sort of a "thing." We hung out together ALL the time. I never really told anyone that I had this massive crush on him except my roommate. Well a couple months ago I found out that one of my close friends had a crush on him too. Since I never told her I liked Vince, I figured it's be best to follow some sort of "girl code" and kind of back off of Vince until she got over her crush. (That was the STUPIDEST idea ever on my part). My friend was always talking about wishing that Vince would invite her to hang out with him, and he never did, so I thought it would look REALLY bad if I hung out with him a lot. So I started turning him down to hang out with him, saying I was busy or had homework to do.I didn't want to lose a friend over a guy. My friend eventually got over her crush, so I started making my move on Vince again. Well Vince thought he got "friendzoned," which is NOT what I wanted at all! He obviously moved on, he's been in a sort of on/off relationship with this slutty girl who lives down the hall from me, and I just can't see it working out. She is a hardcore partier, and he is just such a sweet guy who doesn't get involved with any of that kind of stuff. I like him so much; he's one of the only people EVER that I can be completely myself with and feel comfortable hanging out with alone. I just don't know what to do. I've never gotten this hung up on a guy before.

Good morning Rachel, hope your having a great weekend. What a situation you have going on there, between friends with a crush on your crush, and bad news ex's coming back.

Okay, with regards to your friend I recommend talking to her about it. Even though, she's not into Vince and you liked him first. you don't want a grudge to form in your friendship " Her towards you." These types of situations generally lead to ill feelings, so just make sure you guys are okay beforehand.

The bad news ex girlfriend, I will tell you now that's not going to work and for many reasons. I feel like she'll get bored and do something to sabotage that relationship with Vince. Give it a few months and I bet it blows up between them.

So when all that is said, and done you can resume your friendship with Vince, and let it take off from there "Build up to a romantic relationship. You guys do have potencial once these barriers are out of your way.

Hope this helps

Cleopatra Isis E.
Integrated Master LIfe Coach

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