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My boyfriend is a local truck driver who works 6 days a week. His job is about a 15 minute drive from his place and a 25-30 minute drive from mine. We recently had an argument on the phone over the lack of time he spends with me. It had been a month since I'd seen him and felt this was ridiculous. He says that most days he's so tired that he's not up to driving to my place and why can't I come to his place sometimes. He would give me a set of keys to let myself in while he's at work. The problem with that suggestion is I don't have a car and would have to take public transportation. The commute would take 2 hours and he lives in a very dangerous neighborhood. I told him that made no sense since he has 3 vehicles and I have none. I only live 30 minutes from his job and he could stay over my place. If I didn't care for him this wouldn't be an issue, but I don't think he's into me. Should I walk away?

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Sorry for the delayed response. I don't check this e-mail as regularly as I used to. I can't make a judgement call on whether or not you should stay with him or not, but it is my opinion that if two people are seriously dating they shouldn't go more than 2 weeks without seeing one another (with the exception of those in the military). If you think he isn't quite as tired after work as he claims you can give him an ultimatum of some kind. Otherwise just keep trying to find a way to see him more frequently. Hopefully with all the hours he works he'll be able to move out of that neighborhood.

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First and foremost if you read ahead you'll find I have a word limit on questions I'll read. This site is for short simple questions and it should not be for writing essays. Please also note I am unfamilar with most cultures outside of United Stated, UK, and France. Please respect my rules. I don't like rejecting questions. I will be the first to admit that I don't know everything about dating, women/men, and interpersonal connections. However I have learned quite a bit vicariously from other people's experiences. Think of my advice as a second opinion. I would be happy to answer all questions related to relationships, dating, self-confidence, and self-image that I can. I have struggled with all of those things and probably know better than most how to deal with all of them.

I hope more than anything that my advice and opinions will help give people perspective in their lives, and hopefully make them feel better about themselves and their situations. I will attempt answering questions for anyone of any age group or nationality. However it would be particularly useful to know the age of all people involved. It does make a difference towards the advice I give. Also not terribly familar with arranged marriages and situations in which the family can dictate the details of the relationship.

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1). I can't answer questions that ask if a girl or guy likes the other (very difficult to know remotely)
2). No questions that are More Than 250 Words. I understand that problems can be complex, but there is a real limit to how much I can read and fully understand. Particularly if English isn't the questioner's native language.
3). Only questions from Americans, Canadians, British, and cute French women.
4). No questions that ask the meaning behind if a person sets their FB status to single, coupled, or private or if they still have a dating profile undeleted somewhere. If you're cyber snooping you're likely the issue.

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I don't really have any specific experience in this area other than learning from other people's mistakes and a few of my own, and whatever I've learned as a psychology major.

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B.S. Psychology

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