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Is it normal for a married guy to text you every 2-3 days or more frequent to ask you things like:
- am I eating dinner alone
- am I taking the metro home alone
- whether I've packed for my holiday the night before my flight
- to say "safe travels" on the morning of my flight
- to ask me whether I've arrived my holiday destination and if I have wifi or internet connection at my hotel
- to ask me if I'm back from holiday yet 2 weeks later
- ask me if I'm adjusted back to regular schedule after my holiday
- to ask if what my weekend/Friday plans are
- every week ask me how my early breakfast meeting went (he knows I have a 7am work meeting every week, and always texts me that afternoon to ask how it went)
- compliments my career, how hard I work and how lucky he is to know me
- Whether I'm attending certain functions which he will be attending
- Other random topics about our mutual friends, business associations, work etc.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I've only known this guy for around 1.5 months at a dinner ball and he drove me home that night. I initially didn't know he was married and he was also the one who offered. He's always the one who initiates the texting. Considering how consistent his texts are, I now feel this habit is starting to be unhealthy. We have mutual friends who have only ever said great things about him, so I'm unsure if I'm being paranoid or if something is really "off" about all of this. None of my other married male friends have done this to me before either. I've got no experience with this...

Is he just being friendly or has romantic intentions? Please give insight to this!

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It is  my opinion that he is too inquisitive. I think he is getting too personal for someone who is already married. If his constant contact makes you  uncomfortable I would let him know. You maybe paranoid and he is a nice guy  but also he could have romantic interest in you. I would just tactfully try to get some space between you and him.

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First and foremost if you read ahead you'll find I have a word limit on questions I'll read. This site is for short simple questions and it should not be for writing essays. Please also note I am unfamilar with most cultures outside of United Stated, UK, and France. Please respect my rules. I don't like rejecting questions. I will be the first to admit that I don't know everything about dating, women/men, and interpersonal connections. However I have learned quite a bit vicariously from other people's experiences. Think of my advice as a second opinion. I would be happy to answer all questions related to relationships, dating, self-confidence, and self-image that I can. I have struggled with all of those things and probably know better than most how to deal with all of them.

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