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Hi!

I've recently started seeing someone new and we've been on two dates so far. He tends to give vague responses for where we will be going on the date, and as someone who likes to have the details, it kinda annoys me. For example, before our first date he called me to let me know we were going for "drinks at a lounge". Had he told me that this lounge was on the beach, I wouldn't have dressed in heels and would've probably brought a jacket. Now he wants to go for dinner (our first dinner-date), and I would like to know where we are going beforehand so I can take a look at the menu online and see what kind of food the restaurant serves so I won't show up over/under-dressed staring blankly at a menu where nothing sounds appetizing. How can I ask him to give me more information without sounding too controlling or anxious?

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I see no reason why not to be completely up front with him. Ask him for more details. If he is the one deciding what the two of you are doing on dates I don't see how you'd come off as the controlling one. Just tell him you'd like to be prepared so your date with him can be as productive as possible.

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First and foremost if you read ahead you'll find I have a word limit on questions I'll read. This site is for short simple questions and it should not be for writing essays. Please also note I am unfamilar with most cultures outside of United Stated, UK, and France. Please respect my rules. I don't like rejecting questions. I will be the first to admit that I don't know everything about dating, women/men, and interpersonal connections. However I have learned quite a bit vicariously from other people's experiences. Think of my advice as a second opinion. I would be happy to answer all questions related to relationships, dating, self-confidence, and self-image that I can. I have struggled with all of those things and probably know better than most how to deal with all of them.

I hope more than anything that my advice and opinions will help give people perspective in their lives, and hopefully make them feel better about themselves and their situations. I will attempt answering questions for anyone of any age group or nationality. However it would be particularly useful to know the age of all people involved. It does make a difference towards the advice I give. Also not terribly familar with arranged marriages and situations in which the family can dictate the details of the relationship.

My Rules:
1). I can't answer questions that ask if a girl or guy likes the other (very difficult to know remotely)
2). No questions that are More Than 250 Words. I understand that problems can be complex, but there is a real limit to how much I can read and fully understand. Particularly if English isn't the questioner's native language.
3). Only questions from Americans, Canadians, British, and cute French women.
4). No questions that ask the meaning behind if a person sets their FB status to single, coupled, or private or if they still have a dating profile undeleted somewhere. If you're cyber snooping you're likely the issue.

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I don't really have any specific experience in this area other than learning from other people's mistakes and a few of my own, and whatever I've learned as a psychology major.

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B.S. Psychology

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