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Hello Azure, how’re you doing? You must be a very kind man to help the people here”. I am sure you will help me out. Turning to my question:
First off, I am new in the US (a graduate student) and not very familiar with dating norms in the US .On the campus, I met one girl; she gave me her face book thing; I added her as a friend and sent her a message: I gave her my phone number and asked her to call me to meet); she sent me a reply that she will get back to me for the place and the time. I REALLY FOUND THIS GIRL VERY ATTRACTIVE. However, there is another girl that I have her number, but I don't find her as attractive as the first girl.
SHOULD I CALL THE SECOND GIRL, ASK HER OUT AND DATE HER? (Of course, the first girl might find out about this; the city is very small).

I AM CONFUSED:ON ONE HAND,I DON'T KNOW WHETHER THE FIRST GIRL IS REALLY INTERESTED OR NOT;ON THE OTHER HAND, IF THE FIRST GIRL IS INTERSTED AND FINDS OUT THAT I AM DATING ANOTHER GIRL ,SHE MIGHT LOSE INTEREST AND I DON'T WANT TO LOSE THE FIRST GIRL ;SHE IS A VERY SPECIAL GIRL FOR ME.

Thanks a lot

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rule # 1, always try to first get THEIR number; if it's been more than a week and you haven't heard anything, you probably won't; and even if you did, there's nothing stopping you from seein someone different every nite of the week if you chose to; unless/until 2 people agree on having an exclusive relationship, everyone is free to date as they please..

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expertise: over 7000 questions answered...B.A. Psychology Bates College;graduate study, Fordham Univ. School Social Work; technical editor, "dating for dummies", 2d edition, by dr joy browne; thoughtful consideration of your question, then insightful advice about love,romance and related issues given in an objective, non-judgmental manner...over 20 years of personal experience in both short and long term relationships...longer term consultations are available upon request...life experience: personal involvement in many relationships where issues of love, sex, intimacy, trust, etc., had to be dealt with and resolved...just having "experiences", however, isn`t enough...it`s the thoughtful reflection upon and analysis of what happened and why, that leads to learning and enlightenment...so tell me what`s on your mind and i`ll try to help, or tell you if i can`t...thanks

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Over 20 years personal experience in dating, including both short and long-term relationships.Thoughtful reflection and analysis upon same, as well as providing imput relating to issues of love and romance to friends and acquaintances.

BA, Psychology, Bates College, Lewiston, Me. Graduate study at Fordham University School of Social Work.

Life experience can really be the only teacher in this area; however going through the experience is not enough. What is necessary is a real awareness, sensitivity to, and reflection upon what has happened, what has been lost, what has been gained. Getting beyond one's own insecurities and subjectivities, and seeing the experience in the context of the bigger picture, are essential stepping stones to learning and loving...ps..azure announces CT matchmaking service..for more, go to wishuponastar-ct.com

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