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Hi Markeyus,
I'm a 30 year old female. I recently started dating a new guy and he is lethargic in his dating. Never plans in advance and his date ideas are always boring and cheap.

Obviously, the simple thing to do would be just drop him. However, this brought a more interesting question to my attention. As I started thinking about it more I realized I've had this experience with nearly every guy I've dated. This is usually how it goes: Basically, the experience of feeling like I have to prod the guy into doing more than the minimum. Sometimes it starts off great and after about two months the guy gets lazy and I end up feeling like I need to do most of the work or it will fall apart. I try to act calm, but I can feel myself getting more irate at him as time passes. I try to talk to them about it and it seems like they understand, but nothing changes. I know I'm overcompensating, I just can't help myself.  I've become accustomed to not having my needs met that I feel like I just have to accept it, or be single. That's crazy. There's gotta be better way!

The logical answer seems to be that they're not that attracted to me and therefore are not motivated to do more. Is there something I'm missing? I want to turn this situation around because dating is supposed to be fun! If you could give me a very honest perspective on this and give me a few suggestions about what I could do differently (read: better) that would be just what I need.

Thanks!

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Hmm.. Well Sid I have a few questions for you. Usually a guy will stop pursuing so much when he's already got everything he wanted from you. Within the two months did you guys have sex already? Do you make yourself a challenge instead of being easy? Are you a very outgoing person? Are your expectation too high for the type of guys you're dating? I mean Sid what type of guys are you really attracting? Are they career driven? Are they laid back? Are they alpha males or beta? Please tell me what type of guys you attract and we will surely get to the bottom of this. I also want to know what type of woman you're because it has a lot to do with what you attract into your life. Please update me and we will begin.  

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I believe I'm eligible to answer all questions in the relationship field. I specialize in improving men in dating and career life. I am the Author of the book " Be the man that Women love" a guide teaching guys how to snag any woman by just being a real man in today's society. " The Anatomy of a Player: relationship book for men and women" a relationship book exposing how men and women take advantage over each other. Teaching men and women to find their true potential by unblocking mental barriers is what I'm all about. I have written many articles on relationships and men's life style, and have dedicated my time to answer hundreds of forum questions pertaining to dating problems and low self-esteem issues in men. I help women as well by teaching them the nature of how men operate, and how to deal and cope with passive men. Ultimately, through self introspection, I've learned that we all need advice from time to time, so I've made it my life's goal to help men and women out with dating and relationship issues. To learn more about Markeyus, please visit http://live2conquer.com and http://markfranks.net

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I am a published author, and currently have four books available for purchase online, Life as we know it: Poems for the soul, Be the man that women love, Tips tricks & secrets for dating and understanding women, and The anatomy of a player: Relationship book for men and women. I also record ongoing youtube videos about relationships and motivationial help, and answer dating questions on my realtalk radio show.

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I am the author and creator of two websites: http://www.markfranks.net http://live2conquer.com

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Bachelor of science Associates of science

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Books: Life as we know it: Poems for the Soul Be the man that women love Tips Tricks and secrets for dating and understanding women The Anatomy of a player: Relationship book for men and women

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