General Dating Questions/Brush offs

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Is there a list of most common brush offs women use when they aren't interested in a guy? I'd like your female opinion and that of other women if you could ask around. I had two dates with someone and while trying to schedule a third date she said  I, "didn't challenge her conversationally" and didn't feel we'd be good together. Either she thinks she's smarter than me or just doesn't find me attractive. Either way do women use that line sometimes?

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Generally speaking, and personally, I am trying to think if I've ever felt that. It may be that physically you were attractive to her, but mentally and intellectually it wasn't there. Though don't take it personally because it is not a jab at you or your intelligence. She is being honest when she says that. Those who are dating need to have 4 factors that attract them, emotional, mental, intellectual and physical. Even if you are attracted to someone in all those areas but are not emotionally safe with that person, there is nothing to even discuss! They will nearly to never get to a place of satisfaction or clarity to move forward with the relationship.

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Becky

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I can answer almost everything. I am religious person who strongly believes in G-d. If spiritual guidance is also something that you are seeking for, then I am careful and competent in that region. I am also very aware that it's hard to ask for help, with that being said, I am sensitive to others feelings and have gone through hardships in relationships, which demonstrates a quality of empathy and consciousness when it comes to everyday dating situations. I can answer break-up confusions/confusions in dating in general. I can NOT read minds and can answer to the best of my ability in regards to the detail you provide me. With that in consideration, please do not send me pages of information. Pick the most important and effective way to explain the problem and we can make this our problem and our solution together.

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I have been in confusing relationships. Most of all I was in a 5 year relationship that really helped me in developing my intellect and sensitivities, which also played a huge role in discovering myself and those around me.

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Chai Life Line; deals with special needs children

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Bachelor of Arts in English Literature Certified teacher in Canada; recognized internationally

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