General Dating Questions/what do i do?


I met this guy from work in about March..we work together and gradually got to know each other just as friends and as co-workers. In late August, he started facebook messaging me and then he gradually gave me his number and we started texting and talking on the phone. He admitted that he had a huge crush on me, and I told him the same but because we were both unavaibale no one press the issues. After several weeks on the phone, and seeing each other in passing at work, we went on out first date earlier this month. IT was fun, and we still talk on the phone but only saw each other after work for like half hour just catching up and kissing each other goodbye, but no more dates...and it has been a month.

Two days ago he asked me "make him a male crush on facebook, like male crush monday" I asked him " are you sure because then our coworkers will question you" He said " are you ready" and I said fine. I posted him picture as " MCM" and then he posted my picture as "WCW"....and now our coworkers know...However, we have never had the talk about us being together or in a relationship just kinda seeing each other..he has told his best friends about me and stated that " im talking to her outside of work" but on FB his friends and family have probably seen my picture and questioned it...but what does this mean?? WE never had a relationshio talk, we been seriously talking about one month, and one dates yet he asked me to posted out pictures on multimedia for our coworkers and friends and family to see...Im so confused.

Hi, Emma. That's an interesting question. I am really not sure why a guy would act in such a passive / immature way is if you were in middle school (not even high school). Posting pictures on Facebook instead of meeting and spending time together is not something that I would think adult men (and women) with a minimal amount of basic confidence do.   
Perhaps you could ask him, without necessary sounding confrontational or argumentative about what he wants. There is no harm in that it should be better than trying to interpret his behavior.



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