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General Dating Questions/Do successful physically attractive womanizers and pickup artists ever get into trouble with PFBs and other scary troubling (often violent) women? How come Casanova guides and PUA gurus never touch this potential problem?

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http://en.allexperts.com/q/Self-Defense-2265/2015/6/successful-physically-attrac

I already got an answer from another expert. However that expert answered it from a self-defense perspective and he doesn't specialize in dating and relationships (even though he claims to have been successful with women before).

I am quite curious what you as an dating expert would say about this topic?

Do the "Real Life" James Bonds and Casanovas have to contend with violent women?

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Hello Marco!

I'm afraid I simply don't have time to read that huge exchange between you and the other expert.

While I usually don't do hypotheticals or "homework problems" I'll respond to your last question.

The reality is that most women aren't violent when you first meet them - any more than a man is. Sure, there are psychopathic women just as their are men but they are just as rare.

If you are disrespectful or mistreat them, women are far more likely to be disrespectful rather than violent.

Now, once you're passed the initial approach and into a dating or relationship situation things change pretty dramatically. While few actually want to believe it, the hard, cold reality (according to the actual numbers - not what feminists want you to believe) is that women are just as likely - and even slightly more likely - to commit domestic violence ("DV") than men are.

Those aren't my "facts" by the they way. They come directly from 286 scholarly studies and the CDC, Center for Domestic Violence and others.

With that said; men are far more likely to be arrested and jailed when DV accusations are made - regardless of whom makes them! Further, men receive statistically, 200% of the court-ordered punishments than women and yet have absolutely no federal funding nor organized support groups or shelters.

With that said however, violence is NEVER an acceptable response within the context of a relationship or otherwise except to address and prevent clear violence directed toward one's self.

My rule: nobody should ever hit anyone else. However, if you hit me first or come at me with intent to harm, it's game-on. Gender is completely irrelevant.

Regards...

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I'm able to answer any sort of question related to the approach, meeting people, dating, sex, relationships, break-ups, non-legal marriage and divorce questions, and anything in between. I've helped over 30,000 people with their individual issues. IMPORTANT: Please, PLEASE don't ask me, "what was he thinking..." or "why did he say..." types of questions! I DO NOT READ MINDS! There are 1,001 reasons why someone does what they do, says what they say or thinks what they think. If you *REALLY* want to know what they were thinking, saying or why they were acting that way - go ask them! Be sure to check out my FAQ's on my website at: http://beingaman.com. You can email me directly at: dwneder@beingaman.com.

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I am the author of the books "Being a Man in a Woman`s World I & II" and "1001 Places and Techniques to Meet Great Women" and 11 others. I`ve spent the last 20 years studying the art and science of every aspect of relationships, and have answered over 30,000 letters from readers all over the world. My main focus is men`s relationships with women, but I also have many female readers and answer questions for them regularly as well.

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