General Dating Questions/Boy, again


You answered my question a few weeks ago but I'm just following up. :)

We started our relationship off sorta bad anyways, we started talkig through text, which is a horrible way I know this now. And so we have never addressed each other in person. I think we were/are both scared to. I see him in te hallways, and I know he sees me but he doesn't really look a me, it's this awkward feeling I get around him like I'm there but I'm  kinda invisible around him. And I can't help but wonder what he's thinking.

Like I said before, we have never talked in person. And he didn't reply to a text I sent months ago. And I want to start talking to him, more as friends now, but I don't know how. I do like him but I wanna talk as friends and not make any stupid moves to set him off. He was intrested in me before and something set him off.

How can I start talking to him and be more like friends without having to staging up say "no don't try an avoid me I don't like you I wanna be friends"

Thanks a bunch

Hello Kay!

Unfortunately, with the huge number of questions I get every single day I can't possibly remember the details of your situation. In the future, please copy the previous messages (your questions and my responses) in any new one(s) you send so I can remember the details.

The first point here is this: do you really want to be his "friend"? Really? If so, be my guest. That's all you'll ever likely become at that point. Frankly, that's a waste of time as you apparently want more. Go for what you want - not some consolation prize, hoping for more.

Second, don't lie. You want something more and telling him you don't is a lousy way of starting anything. That doesn't mean you have to put your heart on the table either.

The very next time (don't think about it - DO IT!) that you see him go over and say "hi, what's been going on?" Start up a conversation already! Maybe he's too shy to start something and you'll come off as the more confident person.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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I'm able to answer any sort of question related to the approach, meeting people, dating, sex, relationships, break-ups, non-legal marriage and divorce questions, and anything in between. I've helped over 30,000 people with their individual issues. IMPORTANT: Please, PLEASE don't ask me, "what was he thinking..." or "why did he say..." types of questions! I DO NOT READ MINDS! There are 1,001 reasons why someone does what they do, says what they say or thinks what they think. If you *REALLY* want to know what they were thinking, saying or why they were acting that way - go ask them! Be sure to check out my FAQ's on my website at: You can email me directly at:


I am the author of the books "Being a Man in a Woman`s World I & II" and "1001 Places and Techniques to Meet Great Women" and 11 others. I`ve spent the last 20 years studying the art and science of every aspect of relationships, and have answered over 30,000 letters from readers all over the world. My main focus is men`s relationships with women, but I also have many female readers and answer questions for them regularly as well.

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