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QUESTION: what usually makes guys fall in love with his girlfriend?

what traits of her?

ANSWER: Hello Rachelray!

That probably seems like a pretty simple question on the surface, but in fact, it has hundreds of answers and is dependent on who you're talking about. Different men want different things in different women - just like women do in their choices as well!

I recommend that someone create a list of NO MORE than 3-5 clear, specific qualities they they must-have in order to choose someone as a boyfriend/girlfriend. This can be very difficult to do as you don't want to be so general that they list doesn't have any real value or so specific that you lose out on someone who is otherwise a great choice.

I've written many articles on this subject because it's very complicated. Here is a short list of some of the most important:

* The "fun chick" - no guy wants to get stuck with a a woman who is just a drag to be around.
* Someone "outwardly focused" - that is, someone who isn't all about themselves and can give back.
* No game players! (I can't stress this one enough - women shoot themselves in the foot by believing that playing "hard to get" or other games works for you - they don't).
* Being available - see previous quality.
* Having some range and depth - not being a "one-trick" pony but having worldly knowledge and attitude.
* Being confident yet warm and engaging.
* Being happy!
* Having a direction for her life - not waiting around for a guy to give her one.
* Sexual experience and strong healthy attitude.
* Being "partner-focused" (as in, who are the two of you together - not how someone affects only you and your life.
* Being the "cheerleader" for your guy - believing in him, supporting him, etc.

As you can see, this list could go on and on, but these are some of the most important to any guy.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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QUESTION: thanks. that says a lot. but can u give me specific examples .? what makes a person choose one but not others ...other than looks?

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Hello again Rachelray!

This is beginning to feel like a homework assignment - something I don't do.

WHICH person? WHAT situation?

There are as many "examples" as there are people. I don't do hypotheticals as I'm not a trained monkey here to jump through hoops and write someone's term paper.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
CEO/Executive Producer
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
BAM! Productions
Remington Publications
323.638.4145
http://beingaman.com
Producers: "BAM! TV" and “Love and Sex”
Publishers: "Being a Man in a Woman's World I, II & III”

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I'm able to answer any sort of question related to the approach, meeting people, dating, sex, relationships, break-ups, non-legal marriage and divorce questions, and anything in between. I've helped over 30,000 people with their individual issues. IMPORTANT: Please, PLEASE don't ask me, "what was he thinking..." or "why did he say..." types of questions! I DO NOT READ MINDS! There are 1,001 reasons why someone does what they do, says what they say or thinks what they think. If you *REALLY* want to know what they were thinking, saying or why they were acting that way - go ask them! Be sure to check out my FAQ's on my website at: http://beingaman.com. You can email me directly at: dwneder@beingaman.com.

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I am the author of the books "Being a Man in a Woman`s World I & II" and "1001 Places and Techniques to Meet Great Women" and 11 others. I`ve spent the last 20 years studying the art and science of every aspect of relationships, and have answered over 30,000 letters from readers all over the world. My main focus is men`s relationships with women, but I also have many female readers and answer questions for them regularly as well.

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