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General Dating Questions/Taking photos of her on a first date?


QUESTION: Hello, how're you?
I have recently come to the US, and still I am not very familiar with US dating norms. This is my first date with an American girl.
Actually , I am going to have my first date with this girl who I have met on-line. Our fist date is going to be in a park.
To have fun and tease her, I would like to take photos of her  during the date. Would she like it if I take her photos ? Especially, if she shows some cleavage, I am afraid if I ask to take some photo of her, she might get offended? I don't want to send any wrong signal. What do you think?


ANSWER: i think it's a little soon to be thinking about photos....introductory meetings are mainly to see if you even like each other....wait for another couple of dates, if you even get that far, before introducing a camera...

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QUESTION: Hello again, thanks a lot for your very helpful answer. I really appreciate it.
As this date is going to be our first face-to-face meeting:

1-Am I supposed to extend my hand first when we have our first face-face meeting?
2-Do you think handshake would be better than hug when meeting her in person for the first time?
3-Also, at the END of the date handshake would be nice? Or should I go for a kiss on the cheek or hug?  should I ask her indirectly what she prefers ?

Thanks a lot! Your replies are always concise and helpful!

NEVER ask, for anything...confident guy reads clues, doesn't need to weakly ask; you make such decisions right at that moment; you look at her--if you sense she's truly happy to see you and you feel similarly, you could certainly hug--if there's doubt, the handshake is fine; same at date's end; most times you'll know if she likes you or this is the end; if you're not into it or feel she isn't, the handshake or brief hug is fine; if the vibe is good, the kiss on the hand, cheek, or even lips, is in play; also, don't ask for a 2d date right then, just say, "i'll give you a call..."

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