General Dating Questions/Types

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I have been single for over a decade now and I went on a date with someone and told them I didn't know what my type was. She thought it was weird that I didn't know my own type. Is it weird? I mean I know all the qualities I admire, I know my pet peeves, I know what topics interest me, but even when I find someone I have most of those things in common with it still doesn't seem to work out. What is ones type exactly?

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Hello James!

No, it's not weird at all. In fact, your "type" can change almost from person to person! What I think is "weird" is that she limits herself to only one type!

I've done this many times myself. I'll go for a specific "type" only to find someone I connect with very deeply who isn't that type. Then, I have to redefine my types.

Ultimately what a type is; is someone who matches a specific set of criteria. The problem is, that set of criteria were based on a lack of experience and knowledge about others.

Keep your options open. Don't narrow things down so far that you remain single for another decade. You might be shocked - and thrilled - with whom you meet next.

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I'm able to answer any sort of question related to the approach, meeting people, dating, sex, relationships, break-ups, non-legal marriage and divorce questions, and anything in between. I've helped over 30,000 people with their individual issues. IMPORTANT: Please, PLEASE don't ask me, "what was he thinking..." or "why did he say..." types of questions! I DO NOT READ MINDS! There are 1,001 reasons why someone does what they do, says what they say or thinks what they think. If you *REALLY* want to know what they were thinking, saying or why they were acting that way - go ask them! Be sure to check out my FAQ's on my website at: http://beingaman.com. You can email me directly at: dwneder@beingaman.com.

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I am the author of the books "Being a Man in a Woman`s World I & II" and "1001 Places and Techniques to Meet Great Women" and 11 others. I`ve spent the last 20 years studying the art and science of every aspect of relationships, and have answered over 30,000 letters from readers all over the world. My main focus is men`s relationships with women, but I also have many female readers and answer questions for them regularly as well.

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