General Dating Questions/Types


I have been single for over a decade now and I went on a date with someone and told them I didn't know what my type was. She thought it was weird that I didn't know my own type. Is it weird? I mean I know all the qualities I admire, I know my pet peeves, I know what topics interest me, but even when I find someone I have most of those things in common with it still doesn't seem to work out. What is one's type exactly?

Also I see you're Canadian. I live in Buffalo, NY and many Canadians show up in match results in online dating due to proximity. I went on dates with a Canadian girl for a little while and now years after last talking to her I saw her engagement announcements on Facebook and it made me rather depressed. I find Canadian women are much more attractive and warm than those in the states. Is dating across the border common or a little taboo?

Definitely not taboo. But there is no such thing as a type. Someone can be attracted to several types of people. And just like you said, you may have your list of things that you love, hate, admire, etc, but at the end of the day it doesn't change that it may not work with the person despite the grocery list. You don't have to have a type. Rather be open minded to dating others and accepting of different types of personalities. At the end of the day, what you think you want may not be what you end up with. At all! I have several friends, married who thought that wanted the one thing they had on their list and when they got it they didn't like it. You have to end up surrendering and just respect the person and feel comfortable!

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