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So a friend introduced this guy who goes to the same college as me. I had met him before at a family party when I was 13 and we recognized each other. So we start talking And he invited me to get some coffee And hooka after classes were over the next day. We ended up talking about 7 hours total And he even skipped the gym to stay with me eventhough he's a gym rat. Then after I have to head home he walks me to my car And gives me a huge hug. He texts me to see if I got home safely And asks if Im free the next day. I say yes And he picked me up to get dinner And then I went with him to watch him drag race against his friend. During this time he was hugging me in a possessive way in front of his friend when he complemented my blue eyes. He kissed my hand and told me he was so glad he met me. Also at one point he put his hand on my leg which I found surprising and didnt know how to take It so I decided to act natural. Then later on once I told him I had to be back at home by 12 he brought me back walked me to the door and texted me to say he had a great time with me. We both said goodnight And he kept texting for the next three days hearts and all. All of a sudden I didn't hear from him and I decided to text him if he wanted to get coffee but he gave an excuse. Then I didnt hear from him during break. Now this semester that I'm in two classes with him back at school he just says hi if Im really near as if nothing happened and otherwise he avoids me like the plague and rolls his eyes at me :(   What happened? He was Totally into me but why not anymore? I didn't do anything bad to him for him to hate me now.

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Any number of things could have happened. Maybe he felt he came on too strong and figured he'd back off and decided not to reengage. Maybe he felt there wasn't enough chemistry or maybe you came off as cold or too platonic. Who knows when people don't verbally address things? I wouldn't worry about it. There will be others.

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First and foremost if you read ahead you'll find I have a word limit on questions I'll read. This site is for short simple questions and it should not be for writing essays. Please also note I am unfamilar with most cultures outside of United Stated, UK, and France. Please respect my rules. I don't like rejecting questions. I will be the first to admit that I don't know everything about dating, women/men, and interpersonal connections. However I have learned quite a bit vicariously from other people's experiences. Think of my advice as a second opinion. I would be happy to answer all questions related to relationships, dating, self-confidence, and self-image that I can. I have struggled with all of those things and probably know better than most how to deal with all of them.

I hope more than anything that my advice and opinions will help give people perspective in their lives, and hopefully make them feel better about themselves and their situations. I will attempt answering questions for anyone of any age group or nationality. However it would be particularly useful to know the age of all people involved. It does make a difference towards the advice I give. Also not terribly familar with arranged marriages and situations in which the family can dictate the details of the relationship.

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1). I can't answer questions that ask if a girl or guy likes the other (very difficult to know remotely)
2). No questions that are More Than 250 Words. I understand that problems can be complex, but there is a real limit to how much I can read and fully understand. Particularly if English isn't the questioner's native language.
3). Only questions from Americans, Canadians, British, and cute French women.
4). No questions that ask the meaning behind if a person sets their FB status to single, coupled, or private or if they still have a dating profile undeleted somewhere. If you're cyber snooping you're likely the issue.

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I don't really have any specific experience in this area other than learning from other people's mistakes and a few of my own, and whatever I've learned as a psychology major.

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B.S. Psychology

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