General Dating Questions/Dating someone I like

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Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 3/25/2007


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Hello. I just wanted to know if it is bad thing to treat a girl too well/spoiling her when I am dating her? Kind of like the "nice guys finish last" thing. thanks

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Hey, Aaron. It's it is a bad idea. Remember, there is a difference between being sweet and nice and being attractive. Girls are not attracted to guys who don't show their masculine qualities - such as leadership, taking charge, sense of humor, ability to say "no" when the time is right and otherwise have a "backbone."   
There is nothing wrong with being a gentleman, but accommodating her every need and trying to please her in every way would definitely be a turn off to the fast majority of women. Few men realize it and when they don't it causes a lot of confusion and frustration when they see that women respond negatively to good gestures of those men.

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