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Question Hello,
Well here is my situation... I have been casually dating this man for a year now. We would see each other about 2x a week and have fun together. Recently, I moved in with him and I m having a hard time adjusting to being around someone most of the day (24/7). This is the first time I have ever lived with a man and I just feel like I don't know what I m suppose to do. There are moments when we are just silent and I am trying to think of things to say and I don't know if this is normal. I never really had this problem while we were casually dating since we would only see each other 2x a week and then there would be much to converse about. This man is an extrovert and very talkative and not the shy type. It just concerns me that if I can't even feel comfortable living with him, will I ever be able to live with someone. So can you please give me advice on dating to living with someone. I appreciate your help.
Thanks
Answer Hello, Jess. Thanks for your candid and very important question that applies to a lot of people. Here is my answer.
1. Feeling overwhelmed with 24/7 presence of someone is quite natural especially if you have never been in such a situation before. I believe that the more compatible you are with the person and the more you care for each other the less burdensome it would feel living with each other, but it will always feel a bit burdensome.
2. It sounds like you guys don't have major fights or other big reasons to not live together so that's a good thing.
3. It is very important that you talk to him and explain exactly how you feel. I would rely on his maturity and understanding of your feelings and I would hope that he doesn't take it personally but instead focuses on the way living with another person makes you feel, regardless of who that other person is. Together, you are much more likely to find a solution to your problem.
4. Being silent is QUITE NORMAL and you gotta get used to being comfortable with doing your own thing while at home. Awkwardness of silence is in our head and only in our head and the only reason that it is awkward is because we believe that we make the other person feel uncomfortable. Try to consciously disconnect yourself from that belief and you will be able to handle silence much better.
5. Finally, GIVE EACH OTHER SPACE. Do things separately regularly so you really are not 24/7 together. Space is essential. Go out sometimes by yourself, go to trips sometimes by yourself. Stay overnight with friends or relatives once in a while. Having space is very important and has a ravitalizing effect on a relationship.
6. Fixing this problem will not happen in an instant. Be ready to work at it and put some time, thought and patience into this, but I believe if everything else is good between you guys, working on this problem would be definitely worth it.
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