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| Subject | Date Asked |
| move on? | 9/4/2011 |
| Q: I've gone on a few dates with a nice gentleman. We were supposed to go on a date on Friday. Friday ... A: Lourdes: Since he messaged you saying he was sorry about not meeting up because he has been busy ... | |
| Long distance frustration! (I'm from uk) | 8/29/2010 |
| Q: I was in the US for 3mths and met a guy early on, we went on lots of dates, had an amazing time and ... A: Rebecca: Tell him how you feel about him and stop assuming(even if he is as reserved as you say) ... | |
| Question | 8/26/2010 |
| Q: I need to learn to have more confidence in the dating world. How do I do this? Anytime someone i ... A: misskitty: Just be yourself and stop asking yourself why would a person want to go out with you. It ... | |
| how can i get him back, hes dating someone else | 8/24/2010 |
| Q: i am in love with someone (his name is Jim) who is dating someone else for 6 months now. we dated ... A: ava: You may not want to hear this but it has to be said because I do not want to see you hurt. ... | |
| My boyfriends Family | 8/23/2010 |
| Q: I used to date a boy and even though Im young I cared for him deeply. We broke up and is been a ... A: Elle: As difficult as it may be for you the best and only thing that you should do is leave him and ... | |
| I dont know how I feel | 8/21/2010 |
| Q: I have a male friend who is in love with me. He took me out for my bthday, and tried to kiss me. I ... A: Mariana: You may like him but be afraid to see him or be with him as more than a friend because ... | |
| Girl moving out. | 8/17/2010 |
| Q: I have this friend that I love very much but I never told her that, she is with this jerk of a ... A: Thomas: You should tell her how you feel about her and see specifically why she is with this guy ... | |
| Should I trust him? | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for a year or so. He was lovely, all went and we ... A: Hanah: I am happy to hear that you are not seeing him. As far as your questions are concerned it is ... | |
| Mixed signals/what do i do next | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: I am a college student and l recently met an amazing girl in a summer class I took in July. I ... A: Jack: I would definately call her since she gave you her telephone number and you are absolutely ... | |
| Should I trust him? | 8/13/2010 |
| Q: I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for a year or so. He was lovely, all went and we ... A: Lydia: You have not over-reacted because he is a liar and cannot be trusted and thank goodness that ... | |
| back to the way it was | 8/11/2010 |
| Q: I want to know if it's possible to get things back to the way there were & if so how? I went ... A: linda: In my opinion there is no way to get things back to the way that they used to be because ... | |
| Question | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: okay so long story. I met this guy, and he then he wanted to go out sometime so I did a couple ... A: misskitty: Tell him that although he is a nice guy you are not interested in going out with him at ... | |
| feelings of stupidity.. | 8/7/2010 |
| Q: I am a girl of 21 years. I am absolutley head over hills for my boyfriend. About 4 months ago while ... A: jen: You have a boyfriend and told this guy that and he said that he did not care and still tried ... | |
| help | 8/5/2010 |
| Q: Iv been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years, and as I was checking through old emails i saw one from ... A: Janelle: If it were me I would be concerned if he was cheating on you now or not treating you with ... | |
| Question? | 8/4/2010 |
| Q: Is it a unusual for a straight 22 year old male never to have kissed, romnatically dated, had ... A: Jason: It may be unusual but in a very good sense and something that he should be proud of. It is ... | |
| Why won't he open up? | 8/3/2010 |
| Q: Okay, the first part of this is background, but I think that it's needed to understand what's going ... A: Marnie: There is nothing that you should do other than be supportive and be there for him when he ... | |
| Should I give him another chance? | 5/29/2010 |
| Q: I've been seeing this guy for about 4 months now. A few weeks into the relationship I was at his ... A: Ashley: I do not mean to be harsh but no you definately should not give him another chance or even ... | |
| Why is he avoiding me? Will this ever work? | 5/26/2010 |
| Q: Keep in mind that I'm a teenage girl. I'm fourteen, and there's a boy in one of my classes that I'm ... A: JJ: I am happy to hear that he is 14yrs old because he is your age but since he is you need to ... | |
| Why is he avoiding me? Will this ever work? | 5/25/2010 |
| Q: Keep in mind that I'm a teenage girl. I'm fourteen, and there's a boy in one of my classes that I'm ... A: JJ: You are 14yrs old and he was driving by you so I assume that he is much older than you so if ... | |
| sexual compatability | 5/23/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 years. I am 21, he is 30. We share a lot of interests ... A: Brianne: There may not be a solution because if you have been arguing about it for months that ... | |
| Dead beat boyfriend? | 5/21/2010 |
| Q: I hate to say anything negative about my boyfriend. I really consider him a great, intelligent guy. ... A: Jeannie: In order to motivate him to change you have to stop scrapping up any money to see him and ... | |
| hello | 5/16/2010 |
| Q: I am seeing this guy from India, (im american) and it irritates me cause he says stuff like, 'indian ... A: misskitty: You are right and you need to tell him what you told me namely that you do not like ... | |
| My boyfriend. | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: Hey, My name is Lexi. I Have been dating my boyfriend Ryan for 3 months and 2 weeks now. since ... A: Lexi: In general I would give it time and tell him periodically how you feel about him and that you ... | |
| friend question | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: I've been married to my husband for 9yrs we have a 2 yr old baby. I love my husband but i also have ... A: marina: What you did by cheating on your husband was wrong. If he is not treating you good or ... | |
| Guys. | 5/7/2010 |
| Q: Why is it that men get mad when their girlfriend wife or whatever has a male friend and he gets mad ... A: Amber: For several possible reasons: 1) Some make like to be in total control of their woman. 2) ... | |
| Giving the wrong image | 5/4/2010 |
| Q: first of all, thanks for answering these questions, It is greatly appreciated. I am 24 years old ... A: Trace: Tell her that your back problem is solved and you no longer have to wear the shoes that make ... | |
| Fiance calls me weird | 5/3/2010 |
| Q: HEY! I just clicked on my fiance of 5 years because he called me weird...before you judge me read on ... A: mo: First of all to have a Fiance for 5 years is way too long and tells me that there is a big ... | |
| Help Me out. | 5/1/2010 |
| Q: Am David and i just meet this girl, we exchanged numbers and am yet to call her because i don't know ... A: David: Call her on the phone and ask her how she has been doing and what has been going on in her ... | |
| New Territory | 4/28/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now(we are in college). He is constantly ... A: Ash: There is nothing wrong with you and it is totally normal and alright for you not to be ... | |
| Discussing past relationships | 4/25/2010 |
| Q: I'm 28 and my bf is 30. We've been together 5 or 6 months. I often try to probe him about his past ... A: Sharmi: You cannot make him discuss his old relationships if he does not want to and to be honest ... | |
| dating single mums | 4/22/2010 |
| Q: why do i only get contacted by single mums,?and can you give me what to watch out for with single ... A: Jef: I do not know why you are only contacted by single mums other than perhaps they see you as ... | |
| Confused 2 | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: This is Thomas again, sorry to bother you with my many questions but the situation had gotten worst ... A: Thomas: I do not know why your ex keeps bad mouthing you however, there is nothing that you can do ... | |
| insecure girlfriend-don't know what to do. | 4/14/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my girlfriend for five months now. Love punched us in the face and we didn't waste ... A: Matthew: It depends on several things are far as what you should or could do and here they are: ... | |
| OLD FLING | 4/10/2010 |
| Q: i HAVE JUST STARTED DATING A GIRL WHO I DATED A LONG TIME AGO. IT ENDED BECAUSE WE STOPPED TEXTING ... A: JEROMY: You need to take it slow and get to know her again and start spending time with her and ... | |
| what do i do | 4/9/2010 |
| Q: gal has a boyfriend already who lives in other state but now she says she's having problems with him ... A: deb: She has a boyfriend and that means you should leave her alone. If she cared about you so much ... | |
| do I call him if he asks me to, after he has already called me? | 4/6/2010 |
| Q: I just recently started communicating with a guy on a popular dating site, and he emailed me and ... A: Michelle: Call him and stop trying to put him into a mold of what you think a guy is supposed to do ... | |
| Is There No Point In Trying | 4/2/2010 |
| Q: I met this guy and we started texting, talking back and forth over a month before we met. To make a ... A: Janine: I do not mean to hurt your feelings or be too harsh because you sound like a very nice ... | |
| cyberdating | 3/31/2010 |
| Q: It's Siavash.How're you? Being a complete novice at on-line dating,I need your help;How should I ... A: Sivash: I would simply write down your positive characteristics but make sure that it does not ... | |
| is he casual or serious? | 3/28/2010 |
| Q: here is my question. I was at a friend's birthday party on Saturday night. My friend dragged me ... A: kate: You both told each other that you were not into relationships then when he tells you that he ... | |
| Matter | 3/27/2010 |
| Q: Gud day all experts! I am a christian lady & been dating a man fr0m an very strict arab c0untry, 2 b ... A: Chrissy: No, in my opinion you should not take the deal because he is currently married and that ... | |
| Does she want to stay? | 3/26/2010 |
| Q: So I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now, we just had a baby in December, this was not ... A: Mike: If she did not want to settle down and wanted to as many guys in the same situation would ... | |
| what to do?? | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: Ok, so basically i was kinda dating this guy for bout 8 month then in Janurary he ended because he ... A: Jasmine: You say that you dated this guy for 8 months and then in January he ended it because he ... | |
| Should I let it go? | 3/23/2010 |
| Q: Here is my situation: I met a guy thru a mutual friend. He wasn't really interested in me at first ... A: Shelly: You sound like a very intelligent and nice woman and I do not want to tell you anything ... | |
| I am mean... | 3/22/2010 |
| Q: I have been able to make any guy fall for me. I have never been turned down and have never been told ... A: Dana: Many women wanted to be treated badly for various reasons such as: 1) They have low self ... | |
| Confused | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: I met David through an online social network. He works as a proof editor in a law firm in Chicago ... A: Tanya Decker: I do not think that you are ready to settle down or be committed exclusively to ... | |
| Want to Date | 3/19/2010 |
| Q: I’m almost 20, and a sophomore in college. I’ve wanted to meet someone for awhile, and after a few ... A: Alana: You need to tell Trey yourself that you enjoyed the date with him and that you would like to ... | |
| obsession for an old love | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: I am 28 yrs. I have my family 2 kids and my husband, we're being together for 10 yrs. I don't feel ... A: beatriz: The reality is that you have a family and two children and as fabulous as you make your ... | |
| Too much of an age difference? | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: Would it be wrong for a 19 year old to date a 27 year old? Do you think it could ever be worked out? A: Curious: Whether the age difference is too much or not depends on the situation especially if the ... | |
| shy | 3/10/2010 |
| Q: i need help how do i approach a girl when theirs bunch of people around and the girls are very ... A: brian: I would not try and talk to her in front of other people either. What you need to do is ... | |
| im lost | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: hi i just got out of a relationship and im reentering the dating world after 9yrs well i came across ... A: TREASE: You need to stop dealing with him because his words say one thing and his actions say ... | |
| friends for a long time just started dating | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: I just started dating someone we have known each other along time, always ben great friends, it does ... A: Seanshuffitt: Just give it time and see what happens. It may be difficult but do not rush anything ... | |
| things were going great, what really happened | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: So this is sort of a long question but I figure the more detail the better, and I couldn’t tell you ... A: Steve: You need to stop bothering her by trying to pressure her to see you more or talk to you on ... | |
| friends for a long time just started dating | 3/4/2010 |
| Q: I just started dating someone we have known each other along time, always ben great friends, it does ... A: seanshuffitt: She probably is not comfortable because as you stated the two of you had known each ... | |
| how to bring up grooming issues | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: I've met a great guy! He has a lot of very good qualities and is attractive overall. However, ... A: chrissilee: Simply tell him that you think he is a very attractive guy overall and that by no means ... | |
| The art of appraoaching | 2/28/2010 |
| Q: how are you?It is Siavash.Firstly,I want to thank you for your kindness and help ,really your ... A: Siavash: Everything that you said is totally correct and you are very intelligent and know alot ... | |
| communication ques with ex | 2/26/2010 |
| Q: Ok heres the dilemma! I know NO ONE would suggest getting unvolved witha MARRIED man but heres ... A: Dana: There is no way that I will advise you how to talk to a married man because again it is wrong ... | |
| communication ques with ex | 2/25/2010 |
| Q: Ok heres the dilemma! I know NO ONE would suggest getting unvolved witha MARRIED man but heres ... A: Dana: Why would you want to see a married man because this makes no sense and will only result in ... | |
| celibacy | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: why are women more able to manage celibacy than men? A: jedf: Yes, in my opinion women are more able to manage celibacy then men gut it really depends on ... | |
| hello | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: Hey, I have a problem opening up in relationships, especially in the start of them cause you never ... A: misskitty: Just try and be yourself and do not worry so much about what people may or may not be ... | |
| should i make the next move? | 2/20/2010 |
| Q: i MET a guy three weeks ago. We had two dates. He was really into me until later that night another ... A: Plum: You had only met this guy three weeks ago and he was mad at you because another guy hit on ... | |
| Dating a single parent | 2/19/2010 |
| Q: Smith, I'm a 26 year old female and I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 months. He just ... A: Dallas: In my opinion your boyfriend did move too fast in introducing you to his son however you ... | |
| dating | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: ok me and this guy didn't know each other . i broke up with a guy for him.and we jumped into this ... A: Ashley: You need to tell your parents what you told me but you should not be having sex at all at ... | |
| My Girlfriend Doesn't Trust Me | 2/14/2010 |
| Q: Well, my problem is my girlfriend doesn't trust me and she s a bit controlling. No matter what I do ... A: William: You need to break up with your girlfriend now because any relationship that does not have ... | |
| hello | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: okay i have a weird situation. Im in college and this guy i go to school with...hes a football ... A: misskitty: A guy that you do not know takes you to his house and tries to have sex with you and ... | |
| How long should i wait to put out (have sex)? | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: im 21 years old, im not a virgin & i recently meet this great guy about two weeks ago. we clicked ... A: Stephanie: Although you are 21 years old and said you are not a virgin you should not sleep with ... | |
| Matchmaking/dating Services for Seniors | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: My mother is a 74 year old widow (wodowed now 5 years). She lives in Larchmont, NY (Westchester ... A: Daniel Shabasson: I wish that I had an answer for your question other than to say perhaps go to ... | |
| Possibly Being Played... | 2/7/2010 |
| Q: Okay, just to give you a little background information; I've been sleeping with this guy since ... A: Rebecca: If I were you I would ask him what his intentions are but since he has not told you that ... | |
| what does this mean?please help? | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: ok,I've known this guy for over a year and I like him alot.we've talked off and on and had ... A: Christine: I have no idea whether he is seeing someone or playing games with you. What you need to ... | |
| long-distance relationships | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: I was introduced to this girl,who is living in another town, by a friend about 2 months ... A: Sia: Call her every second or third day and just say hi and that you were thinking of her and if ... | |
| No fireworks | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: I recently met a guy named Jason through a personal ad I had placed.He is cute and I find him ... A: Jessica: It depends on how important being a good kisser is to you as far as he is concerned? I ... | |
| Complicated boyfriend | 1/22/2010 |
| Q: My boss introdueced this site to me and just adviced me to go check and read some situations..I just ... A: Anne: He has not told you the entire truth on several occasions and at other times he has lied to ... | |
| Relationship Advice | 1/21/2010 |
| Q: Hope this isn't too long but I need to give you some background info first. I recently met a guy on ... A: Tammy: Yes, it is a bad sign. Why would he update his profile or be on the site now at all after ... | |
| how to convince my bf to stop drinking | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: my bf for 8 years of long distance relationship just started drinking 3 years ago.. we r engaged now ... A: Sarah: You cannot force anyone to do anything, which means that you cannot force him to go to rehab ... | |
| We like each other but he has a girlfriend | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: Me and this guy have been friends since this summer, but last week on my friend's birthday we were ... A: Roxy: You can answer your questions yourself on this. 1) If you had a boyfriend would you want ... | |
| Complicated... | 1/13/2010 |
| Q: "I have some questions regarding to a break up that I recent had with this woman who was in a three ... A: Thomas: She has made it totally clear that she no longer wants to be with you so leave her alone ... | |
| middle school friend | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: I recently broke up with my boyfriend. I then starting talking to my middle school crush. We used to ... A: Jeannie: I do not think that you can be friends with this guy because he likes you much more than ... | |
| the birthday | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: first off greetings for the new year,Now to myI was introduced to this lass by a friend,she's living ... A: M.S. Depending on how much money that you want to spend on her you could send her some flowers if ... | |
| younger guy | 12/19/2009 |
| Q: im 25 years old and my boyfriend is 18 years old . the thing is i'm pregnant of him and i feel like ... A: Brenda: I am happy to hear that you have already seen a doctor I just hope that you are following ... | |
| Love and Test | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: #1How can a man show/tell he loves her? my girlfriend asked me why i love her and i replied by ... A: Boone: The answer to question number 1) is: You have told your girlfriend very good reasons why ... | |
| A Friend that became my Boyfriend | 12/17/2009 |
| Q: Hey M.Smith i first want to start by telling you the background of the situation. Me and my friend ... A: Neisha: I really don't know if a spark will come or not because time could pass and things stay the ... | |
| how to approach a conflict that is putting a friendship on the line | 12/3/2009 |
| Q: I am currently facing some interpersonal conflict with a good friend of mine that is going to be my ... A: Victoria: She is not your friend and you cannot trust her and you should not have anything to do ... | |
| Boyfriend's family interfering | 11/29/2009 |
| Q: Here's my situation I started dating my boyfriend Chris nearly a year ago and things were good, but ... A: N If Chris trusts you and does not believe his family then the two of you are fine. If he does ... | |
| Boyfriend's family interfering | 11/29/2009 |
| Q: Here's my situation I started dating my boyfriend Chris nearly a year ago and things were good, but ... A: N You are right the issue is very petty. All that you can do is keep doing what you have been doing ... | |
| losing interest or scared of getting too close? | 11/28/2009 |
| Q: I had been dating a guy for about 2 months now. I am 23 and he is 26. He has a son about 7 years ... A: Ashley: I do not want to sound too harsh but I also do not want to see you hurt, which is why I am ... | |
| Dating/Flirting | 11/26/2009 |
| Q: Am I just a friend? Here's the sequence of events in order: 1) Met this girl and she flirted with ... A: David: She sounds very promiscious and like she has slept with alot of different men and would ... | |
| Mixed signals from one man | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: I need help, I'm so mixed up over this one man that I feel like I might as well have been put ... A: Clara: You may not want to hear this and by no means am I trying to be too harsh or uspest you ... | |
| What is going on? | 11/15/2009 |
| Q: I met a man 4 mnths ago but just recently started seeing him again after I broke things off with him ... A: Patricia: You were totally right to leave him before because you thought that he was using you for ... | |
| Why would she lead me on? | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: My teachers assisstant? I have this TA in my history class at college that I am very attracted to. ... A: Jason: I do not know why she would lead you on but since she is married you need to leave her alone ... | |
| HELP! | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: Hey Murphy Smith, College started up again, and I began talking to this guy for about 2 months. ... A: Tara: Thousands if not millions of guys would talk to a woman for months just for sex because to ... | |
| Is he in to me. | 11/6/2009 |
| Q: I have this man, of course I like or wouldn't be asking right. He calls me or text me when he's ... A: totallyconfussed: Why would you want to be involved with a man who only calls you when he has been ... | |
| the plan for the date | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: How`re you? Two dates with this gal have gone well,I`ll be having a date with her tomorrow,actually ... A: Siavash: I am not sure what indoor activity to recommend? Perhaps bowling, a movie or take her to a ... | |
| Discussing a Disability | 11/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm hoping you can help me with this. I've had petit mal epilepsy since I was thirteen, and now ... A: Jill: I have many friends who have epilepsy so I know how you feel and what you are going through. ... | |
| Confused about her behavior. Need resolution | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: Ok. My problem involves a woman I met last summer. Here's some background info. I was 41 when we met ... A: Mark: I would not deal with anymore as a friend or for possible sex again that may actually never ... | |
| Asking out a girl | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: I really like this girl who works in a nearby supermarket. I think she's really pretty. What would ... A: Mark: Simply go up to her and tell her that you think that she is very pretty and that you would ... | |
| unsure of how to not run | 10/22/2009 |
| Q: hey there my name is amber and i am 19 yrs old. i am dating and engaged to the most amazing guy in ... A: Amber: At 33 yrs old this man is too old for you and although you may think it is love that is not ... | |
| Being in the control | 10/21/2009 |
| Q: how`re you? I`ve had two dates with this gal which have gone well.But when I called her yesterday ... A: Siavash: You are not in control of the relationship if she will not answer you as far as having a ... | |
| Group Dinner | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: I met a boy on Sunday (we're both 19). He had been talking to my best friend (JD) and his new ... A: Alana: I apologize for not understanding your question before. You are not being too forward to ... | |
| Group Dinner | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: I met a boy on Sunday (we're both 19). He had been talking to my best friend (JD) and his new ... A: Alana: Why would you try and talk to a boy whom you already said has a girlfriend because I doubt ... | |
| body language | 10/14/2009 |
| Q: how`re you?It`s siavash again. As far as the body language is concerned ,which way of walking is ... A: Siavash: Nice to hear from you again. Women like you to walk upright with good posture but for it ... | |
| relationship | 10/11/2009 |
| Q: I was in a relationship for about a month with this girl. Pure bliss. The second, a total ... A: Brandon: I do not think that this relationship is going to work because it is not healthy for you. ... | |
| . | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend had been dating for a year and seven months. I am a freshman in college and she ... A: Mike: It is obvious to me that she has moved on and I would move on also because by her actions and ... | |
| ex-boyfriend | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: I just met the most wonderful women a little over a month ago. I was actually on a blind date when I ... A: Todd: Definately send her a casual text and continue to be her friend and have contact with her ... | |
| ex-boyfriend | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: I just met the most wonderful women a little over a month ago. I was actually on a blind date when I ... A: Todd: There is nothing that you can do to make her not go back to her ex boyfriend because they ... | |
| Am i reacting inappropriately | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: I wanted advice on this from people with more experience then a group of 20 year old girls, because ... A: Jonas: You may not want to admit or face what I am about to say but your girl does not love you and ... | |
| How should I proceed? | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: Met this girl a couple months back, and instantly clicked. Anytime we were in the same room we spent ... A: Josh: Tell her that things are drying up as far as things coming up like that used to that enabled ... | |
| How should I proceed? | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: Met this girl a couple months back, and instantly clicked. Anytime we were in the same room we spent ... A: Josh: Tell her that in no way were you trying to direspect her or upset her when you told her how ... | |
| not calling too soon | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: I`ve got this gal`s number today,how many days should I wait before calling her for the first time ... A: MIR. Call her tomorrow and do not worry about appearing too needy just be yourself, polite and ... | |
| Lacking of Affection... | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 10 months now. I am 19 and he is 21. We live about a ... A: Angel: It is good that you spoke to him about your feelings because now you know what the real ... | |
| I have a crush AND a boyfriend...please help! | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: Things have been going pretty well except I barely ever see him during the school day, we have no ... A: Joliza: At your age I do not think you should have a boyfriend at all. You should date and see ... | |
| Lacking of Affection... | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 10 months now. I am 19 and he is 21. We live about a ... A: Angel: Instead of trying to guess how he feels or if you are too affectionate why not just tell him ... | |
| Casual dating confusion | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: I am asking you this question because I think you are male, and I could us a little male ... A: Aurelia: I would simply talk to him and tell him what you told me and ask him why he did the things ... | |
| What to do if the ex enters the picture? | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: I recently am dating a man of a month now that has already said he wants to pursue a longtime ... A: Nancy: If he was done with his ex as he told you he would not have had any problem telling her to ... | |
| dating foreign men | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: I am dating men who is on business visa in US. Recently he start come up with questions about moving ... A: Luinda: Yes, I think that you should leave him alone because he is moving too fast and you could ... | |
| He says he doesnt know how he sees me...? | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: At first I was his like the little sister he never had..and then I figured out that he's head over ... A: Danielle: From what you told me it sounds like he is trying to politely say that he does not feel ... | |
| Does he really care about me...does he really want to be with me? | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: "I've been talking with this guy for almost two months...in fact he remembers the anniversary and ... A: I would move slow. Although he says that he does not want to be with the other woman anymore he has ... | |
| is he too jealous? | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: so me and my boyfriend are 17 yrs old and have been dating for 4 years but he is really jealous and ... A: Tim: Good relationships are built on trust. If you wanted to go ice skating I believe that you ... | |
| He Blamed Me! | 8/30/2009 |
| Q: So let me summarize this situation as best as I can. I started my new job a month ago and this one ... A: Missy: You meet a guy and after a month of him basically harrasing you and stalking you then you ... | |
| need advice | 8/25/2009 |
| Q: "Hi! Im 26 years old and just got out of a 4 1/2 year relationship. Due to the fact he has a ... A: Kathleen: You still think about your ex boyfriend and feel guilty about seeing the new guy because ... | |
| Stacey | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: My name is Dave. I’m 23. I just graduated from college and landed a job as a stock broker. I just ... A: Dave: First of all congratulations on graduating from college and becoming a stock broker because ... | |
| Should I persure her or let her go? | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: I'm not sure what to do and I've been loosing sleep over this, so I'm hoping you can help me. I've ... A: Steve: You are being used and she will continue to use and hurt you as long as you let her. Waiting ... | |
| the writtings on the wall | 8/16/2009 |
| Q: I have a little bit of a problem okay I met this guy bout 7mon. when we 1st started he wuz sweet as ... A: Christina: He used you for sex and does not care about you at all. You need to stop calling him and ... | |
| Asking her out | 8/1/2009 |
| Q: I`ve met this gal in the university ,got her number and I am going to call her to ask her on a date ... A: Siavash: What you said sounds good. If it were me I would just say to her: "Would you like to meet ... | |
| whould I trust him again | 7/29/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together about 10months now. Before he met me he wa on and off for ... A: Kelly: Based on the things that you have told me your boyfriend is definately still involved with ... | |
| Longterm Relationship Worth Pursuing? | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: In the past six years, I've been single for a total of one month's time. I was in a committed ... A: Grace: Although you may like this guy and he is a good guy you sound like you want to explore ... | |
| Hey murphy | 7/13/2009 |
| Q: Murphy hi i have a girl we have been together for nine months and we have been going through ups and ... A: Brian: Try and tell her that you have not been seeing another girl and if she still does not ... | |
| Confused | 7/8/2009 |
| Q: OK here's the background. My marriage was ending. I for years was conflicted because I realized I ... A: Mark: My insight is for you to leave her alone and do not deal with or contact her anymore. If she ... | |
| bring sex back into our relationship | 7/2/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend of 4 years hasn't had sex with me in 2 years.I know she loves me and has never cheated ... A: Steve: Sex is an important part of many relationships and understandably you are concerned because ... | |
| Dating Dilemma! | 7/1/2009 |
| Q: I have these two female friends – A and B. We all worked together. I was just friends with A before ... A: Patrick: If you truly like "B" better than "A" then call "B" and tell her how you feel about her ... | |
| Just not that into me? | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: I met a really great guy recently. We met at a friend's party, he took my number & asked me out the ... A: Marche: At first he was spending alot of time with you and texting you then all of a sudden it all ... | |
| I don't know what to say. | 6/20/2009 |
| Q: Is he blowing me off without detailing it? 30 years ago we had a thing for each other and went our ... A: Connie: I am not sure why you would think that because he said to you "When it rains it pours" that ... | |
| Defensiveness | 6/19/2009 |
| Q: I’m dating this girl of 2 years and we live together. My girlfriend left her ex of three years for ... A: Bryan: From what you have said she cannot be trusted, which is why she gets very defensive and as ... | |
| no trust in relationship | 6/17/2009 |
| Q: I made a big mistake and got involved with a married man who continued to go back and forth with his ... A: Julie: It sounds to me as if he does cheat on you and has definitely done so in the past. You have ... | |
| no trust in relationship | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: I made a big mistake and got involved with a married man who continued to go back and forth with his ... A: Julie: I would not stay with him for the sake of the kids if he is cheating on you and not being ... | |
| i want my ex back...but she has a new guy... | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: my ex girlfriend and I broke up 2 weeks or so ago and it has been tough for me. we ended on "good ... A: Jim: When you first broke up two weeks that was the time that you should have told her that you ... | |
| whats next? | 6/14/2009 |
| Q: Okay, I have been talkin to a girl for about a week (although I have known her for about 3 years and ... A: Cash: I am not sure why things went bad the last few times that you tried to talk openly with her ... | |
| should i call | 6/13/2009 |
| Q: I met this guy on a dating site and we chatted,,he let me down on a date and i got annoyed when we ... A: Helen: I am not sure why you would meet a man that you met on a dating site and have not known for ... | |
| Moveing on | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: I recently was broken up with by my long term girlfriend of 4 years. She basically just couldent ... A: Jon: You sound like you realize that you were taking her for granted and can understand why she ... | |
| work relationships? | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy for about 3 years we have some issues.. I am in my mid twentys him a few ... A: Kim: Whether it is something weird or to worry about is not the issue. The fact is that no one ... | |
| Break up Confusion | 6/11/2009 |
| Q: I'm 21 and my girlfriend of 3 years on and off for 6 recently broke up with me about a month ago. We ... A: Lauren: I would simply do what she asked you to do and just be a friend. If she calls you for ... | |
| Almost fed up | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: Its long so good luck!!! I have had the craziest crush on my boyfriend since I was in 9th grade, ... A: Charlet: Please get away from him because he is no good. He puts you down and makes you feel bad ... | |
| I Am Ready To Give Up On Him | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: This is going to be long so bare with me.... I met this guy back in Jan. 09 in a night club. We had ... A: Ganik: Thank you for clarifying that when you said "hook up" it did not always mean sex. I ... | |
| I Am Ready To Give Up On Him | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: This is going to be long so bare with me.... I met this guy back in Jan. 09 in a night club. We had ... A: Ganik: He told you that you two should separate. He won't commit to you yet you keep telling me that ... | |
| concerns about daughter | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: My daughter who is 19 is dating, and actually engaged to a guy who is 23. I have a few concerns and ... A: Ann: I agree with you as far as them needing to wait a year until they get married because a few ... | |
| amplifying the attraction | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: sorry it`s a bit long .I`ve met this gal in the university,two dates with her in the university went ... A: Sivash: I am happy that you found two good books to read and they helped you. I would not recommend ... | |
| a break in a relationship | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: last month my girlfriend and i broke up. it was fairly mutual and civil as we decided we were ... A: Kevin: Yes, you can get back together provided she has been missing you like you have been missing ... | |
| a little confused | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: I've been dating this guy for about a month. He's 34. The thing that I like about him is that he ... A: Ashley: In my opinion you never should have had sex with a man that could not call you. Texting is ... | |
| Is he still interested? How do I communicate how I feel? | 6/3/2009 |
| Q: This man was interested in me (he's quiet shy, reserved, doesnt talk a lot, he is also a loner, ... A: DM: It is alright to e-mail him if you want to but I would be a little concerned as to why you ... | |
| hey... | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: I need to ask a question. Ok, here we go. Ive liked this girl for a while now but was always too shy ... A: Steven: If you do not have a class with her in college or just don't see her during the day then do ... | |
| What to think... | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: Recently after two years of being separated me and my child's father has been hanging out, doing ... A: Tiana: If you separated from your child's father two years ago it must have been for a reason. ... | |
| hey... | 5/31/2009 |
| Q: I need to ask a question. Ok, here we go. Ive liked this girl for a while now but was always too shy ... A: Steven: I would just come up to her and ask her if you can talk to her for a few moments. I would ... | |
| Sending card to former girlfriend | 5/31/2009 |
| Q: It has been a little over a year and a half now since my former girlfriend called it quits with me. ... A: Danny: Although you may want to send your old girlfriend who quit you over a year ago a card and ... | |
| hey... | 5/31/2009 |
| Q: I need to ask a question. Ok, here we go. Ive liked this girl for a while now but was always too shy ... A: Steven: I would talk to her in person not on myspace and tell her that you already know her from ... | |
| help please! I don't understand. | 5/30/2009 |
| Q: I hope I don't take up too much of your time by writing this to you, but here goes. I'm 22, and go ... A: Nicolette: It would be good if you could talk to him before he leaves but if that is not possible ... | |
| party | 5/30/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend lives with this parents in southern california. his brother (who has a family) lives ... A: Marie: There are several reasons why you boyfriend may not want you to go with him this time to his ... | |
| help please! I don't understand. | 5/29/2009 |
| Q: I hope I don't take up too much of your time by writing this to you, but here goes. I'm 22, and go ... A: Nicolette: It is great that you have alot of things in common with Nick and that you obviously ... | |
| Is she attracted to me | 5/29/2009 |
| Q: Is she attracted to me? \n my lecture I went up to this girl who I recongized was in my other class ... A: Jason: Although she stares at you alot you won't know if she likes you until you ask her. Approach ... | |
| amplifying the attraction | 5/28/2009 |
| Q: sorry it`s a bit long .I`ve met this gal in the university,two dates with her in the university went ... A: There is no way to tell why this girl lost interest in continuing to see you however, you are doing ... | |
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I worked as a certified nursing assistant in a psychiatic facility / hospital part time and full time for many years and my job was listening to patients who had relationship and other problems and giving them advice to help them cope with depression, suicidal behavior and thoughts, loss of a relationship or marriage, sexual issues and diseases, unwanted pregnancy, infidelity, abusive relationships, interracial relationships, prostitution, rape, incest, drug addiction, alcohol addiction and abuse etc. and in Nursing Homes taking care of elderly patients. I am very inquisitive and have always asked alot questions on various subjects, which has made me quite knowledgeable in general. I also have read many books on relationships and dating etc. and if I do not know the answer to a question to a question I will research it until I find the correct answer or send them to someone who does but I will not pretend I know about something that I do not. Also my entire life since I was very young many of my friends, co-workers and even strangers have told me their problems and expected a sincere and candid answer I have always heard that I appear to be a good person who can be trusted and I am.
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High school with some college. I have worked in government for many years in personnel, personnel management, as a certified correctional officer and training instructor for male and female law enforcement officers where my job duties required me to instruct, counsel and advice hundreds of employees on policies and procedures and how to carry themselves. I was a certified nursing assistant for many years and helped hundreds of patients with daily grooming and mental and physical difficulties etc. I worked on a pediatrics intensive care unit for many years as a ward clerk and besides my normal duties I helped take care of very sick children (prenatal thru teenagers)feeding, taking care of and reading to them, changing diapers, helping bath, medications, injections etc.
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