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| Subject | Date Asked |
| question | 2/4/2012 |
| Q: since you are a guy i am going to ask you. I have been seeing this guy for about a month now. ... A: only HE really knows what his feelings are--he could easily have a girl he sees on weekends, or he ... | |
| What should I do? | 2/3/2012 |
| Q: this is Jordan again, I'm sorry for the poor rating because you were right and I was just frustrated ... A: no need to put a time limit on it, because as the confident guy you want to be, you don't "wait" for ... | |
| Spending time together.. | 1/27/2012 |
| Q: I am in my Late teens going onto my early twenty's. I have been dating my current boyfriend for 2 ... A: he's gotten WAY TOO comfortable with you, and no doubt is taking you for granted; INFORM him of what ... | |
| Embarrassed about online dating? | 1/26/2012 |
| Q: Okay, well, I'm 18, and recently, I made an account on Okcupid because I'm bi and I was having ... A: meeting on dating sites is extremely popular nowadays, so i'm not sure why you're so uptight about ... | |
| Is there anything wrong with being a cougar for life? | 1/24/2012 |
| Q: my name is Suzanne and this is my question. Is there anything wrong with being a cougar for life? In ... A: it's not about right/wrong...we're all entitled to our personal preferences regarding lifestyle ... | |
| Help | 1/18/2012 |
| Q: I've got it bad for my girlfriend's best friend. In my defense, forming a relationship with her was ... A: i'm not female, but sounds like it's time to be honest to all interested parties; first, you need to ... | |
| Wants to flirt? | 1/13/2012 |
| Q: My guy and I are both in theater. We are about to start doing a play. The last time we did this we ... A: only HE knows his motivation, but on the surface, it appears a little unreasonable, at best; not ... | |
| Trust Issues | 1/12/2012 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship for almost 7 years. We have not been able to move in together because ... A: it's important that couples have common values as to what's important in a relationship--yours ... | |
| Love? | 1/5/2012 |
| Q: I have been with a guy for nine months. We've been on and off(mostly due to me) for the past 3 ... A: no magic answer..9 months not a long time, so feelings can change quickly...this may never get ... | |
| Question?p | 11/8/2011 |
| Q: You seem like a very smart, sensible person. What do you think happened the night in 1994 that ... A: i watched the whole trial...the evidence against him was overwhelming; we weren't there, so we'll ... | |
| Is it worth staying? | 11/3/2011 |
| Q: Some things I am going to say will be graphic and I apologize if I offend you but I want to input ... A: the best decisions are based upon rational thought, not heart-based feelings; the real question here ... | |
| Trust and jealosy | 10/31/2011 |
| Q: My ex boyfriend and I been together for almost 2 years, I just broke up with him the other day ... A: my feeling is this guy is only interested in an arrangement that suits HIM, and has no real interest ... | |
| Does she like me or is she using me? | 10/31/2011 |
| Q: I met a girl several months ago through some friends of mine. To be honest, when I saw her I didn't ... A: it appears the girl's commitment to alcohol will be greater than any possible commitment to YOU..you ... | |
| At the beginning of a relationship and feeling miserable | 10/26/2011 |
| Q: I hope I can be brief and I thank you in advance for trying to help me. I’m 27 years old and my ... A: if he sufficiently cares, he SHOULD be willing to change; but first YOU have to change by not ... | |
| cannot tell from womens attitudes | 10/13/2011 |
| Q: everywhere i go and from time to time women either turn their heads away from me or they turn their ... A: there's no 1 answer; we'd have to ask each one what they were thinking, and we'd no doubt get a ... | |
| The women in my man's life | 10/7/2011 |
| Q: Ive been dating a guy who I care about very much. I believe that he feels the same about me. He ... A: up to you to decide what your requirements are for continuing, then to tell him; as to these women, ... | |
| Serious Relationship | 9/29/2011 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship for 6 months. We met in London; both students at the time. As things ... A: i only have limited information to work with, but talking daily, seeing each other 3/4 times a week, ... | |
| How to Stop Seeing Someone after a 1-3 Casual Dates | 9/16/2011 |
| Q: This probably seems like a very simple question, but it's given me some headaches in the past and ... A: you didn't provide what you actually say to them; each situation is unique, depending on number of ... | |
| Out of Town Friends | 8/1/2011 |
| Q: My committed girl friend of six months relocated to my state 2 -3 years ago. Since we have been ... A: did you ask her that?..this comes down to a matter of trust, how long he'll be staying, her ... | |
| Loss of Labido | 7/20/2011 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I are both 21. We had our first daughter, Madison, 7 months ago. We live on our ... A: hopefully she doesn't expect you to accept the situation; a considerate partner should take the ... | |
| His Ex in the picture | 5/10/2011 |
| Q: I am 20 years old and have started a fresh relationship with a 28 year old guy and we have been ... A: it's tricky...his friendship with her would be acceptable if they were both emotionally NEUTRAL ... | |
| Dating | 4/5/2011 |
| Q: I've been dating this guy for about 6 months. We met at school in Chicago. He moved here from a town ... A: the first thing that needs to happen is the mother has to see a doctor to get a professional ... | |
| What went wrong? | 4/5/2011 |
| Q: I'm writing to you because I can't seem to answer my own questions. I know I am not suppose to ask ... A: HE'S the guy--if he's interested in seeing you again, he knows where to find you; i doubt you did ... | |
| Moving on | 4/5/2011 |
| Q: A while ago I dated a girl for about 4 months and then we broke up. But we didn't really stop ... A: can't give you a women's opinion since i'm a guy, but internet dating sites are no longer considered ... | |
| She wants to be single. | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: My girlfriend is 21, I am about to be 24. We have been together for 2 years. The last couple of ... A: you missed the point--she probably sees you as needy/insecure, and you're talking about doin more ... | |
| Ex | 3/11/2011 |
| Q: Where to start. I was with a girl for 11 months, I met her parents two weeks into the relationship. ... A: she's put you in the "friends" category, and you've allowed it; some girls love using ex'es as a ... | |
| girlfriend problems | 3/10/2011 |
| Q: What should I do about my girl friend, she always seams pissed off at something, we only recently ... A: that's a tough one--some people have anger management issues that they deny, so they become ... | |
| Has he ever been attracted to me? | 2/22/2011 |
| Q: I'm 24.I have known this guy (he's 19) for over a year.We are always friends but not too close until ... A: you're not a victim; you read too much into his behavior, got caught up in the fantasy; as far as i ... | |
| Recently lost virginity... sex is very painful... normal? | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: I recently turned 26 years old & also recently lost my virginity. I had waited for personal/moral ... A: certainly not having intense feelings for the guy doesn't help, and without proper foreplay, the ... | |
| Amended email: dumped by boyfriend who takes drugs and is depressed | 2/10/2011 |
| Q: I was wondering if you could help me out with a situation. A month ago, I met a guy who was the ... A: this guy will be nothing but trouble...with a drug habit and deep emotional issues, the guy needs ... | |
| She says she's a lesbian. | 2/3/2011 |
| Q: I have known this girl for 2 years now, and we started dating a month ago. She told me she wasn't ... A: there's no "convincing", she is who she is...you need to stop denying that chances are she's ... | |
| I like another guy but I have a boyfriend | 1/25/2011 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and my boyfriend and I have been dating for three years. I love him so much and I ... A: it appears the boyfriend thing has really been over for awhile---only thing missing is your ... | |
| Is this a just a "slump" or worse? | 1/23/2011 |
| Q: my bf and i have been together almost 3 yrs. we're 23 and 24. we've been living together for the ... A: this is probably ALREADY over--you just haven't accepted it yet...get a pencil/paper, make 2 ... | |
| break up over son... | 1/18/2011 |
| Q: I am 30, no children. Until recently I was dating a man (39) with 4 children by 4 women, & 2 ... A: neither...your concerns are more than reasonable, but this is who this guy is, how he thinks; this ... | |
| Commitment Phobic Boyfriend | 1/3/2011 |
| Q: So my boyfriend has been very distant recently, and finally he agreed to sit down with me and talk, ... A: sometimes you don't appreciate what you have until you lose it; he has no disorder, he just isn't ... | |
| Lost | 12/24/2010 |
| Q: I have a very long, complicated mess of a love life, yet it is completely empty and has always been. ... A: one place to start would be to read "dating for dummies", 2d edition, which i edited...obviously, ... | |
| Why is she so confusing? | 11/20/2010 |
| Q: Hey Azure, I was hoping you could help me out in this situation. I recently met a girl in one of my ... A: i think at this point you need to request to talk to her directly--hopefully she'll agree, then you ... | |
| appearance | 11/20/2010 |
| Q: I am curious as to what your opinion is on appearance and sexual attraction. I am currently in a ... A: appearance/sexual attraction is always important; not settling for less than you deserve may limit ... | |
| To cut off from my ex or remain friends? | 11/13/2010 |
| Q: After perfect moments of 9 months together planning future, without any single argument, my gf ... A: first, respect her request for space; you really can't be friends when you still have a strong ... | |
| Advice Please | 11/2/2010 |
| Q: So I recently started spending time with this guy. He and I go to the same college so we have some ... A: why do you say he doesn't take you out, when you mention dinner, movies, etc..?..i wouldn't worry ... | |
| Does this mean the end? | 10/18/2010 |
| Q: I was divorced a little more than 3 years ago and did not pursue any serious relationships until ... A: because men are quite capable of being attracted to more than one female at a time; whether or not ... | |
| Question | 10/7/2010 |
| Q: I am 21 and never been in a serious relationship, and I think I am maybe afraid of them. I will like ... A: you pretty much have it figured out--to experience real love/intimacy, one has to "let go", be ... | |
| My next move? | 10/6/2010 |
| Q: Ive been seeing this girl for about a couple of months now. We attend the same college(have one ... A: time for a real date, but you're already late--hard to go from the friends thing to the romantic ... | |
| Stuck | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: My goal in writing this question is to help me decide whether the dating relationship I'm currently ... A: there's nothing here to indicate any serious intrest on his part; asking you to wait patiently while ... | |
| Signals | 9/22/2010 |
| Q: I dated this guy 15 years ago for about 4 months. We were intimate and fell for each other. I got ... A: time waits for no one...if he has emotional issues preventing him from being ... | |
| He wants to break up...I'm confused | 9/21/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend is 23, I am 22. We have been living together for 3 years. He has plans to move out of ... A: if you have ANY self-esteem remaining, you'll tell this guy it's over; he spelled it out for you, ... | |
| Help! | 9/19/2010 |
| Q: he has kids from a previous relationship. I have been involved with his kids from about 2 months ... A: is ridiculous..i'm not really sure why YOU put up it either, especially with his take it or leave it ... | |
| Heartbroken | 9/12/2010 |
| Q: I am a 48 year old divorced female. I have been recently dating a wonderful older man that I've ... A: not alot either of us can do; the choice is his, maintaining loyalty to his principles, or you...if ... | |
| Should i write him a email | 9/9/2010 |
| Q: Good Morning, My Name is Vanessa i am a freshly 21 year old young lady, I need some real advice on ... A: why lower yourself to chasing after him, even for an explanation?; this jerk has done nothing here ... | |
| i love my boyfriend but... | 8/29/2010 |
| Q: whenever i look online for "how to tell if he's your soul mate" or whatever there's always one that ... A: great question--yes i've had relationships like this; no magic answer; don't listen to others--you ... | |
| HELP | 8/23/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating someone now for about 6mths. He is a great guy, and really has his things ... A: if u already thought your feelings were justified, why bother asking my opinion as to whether you ... | |
| Girl moving out | 8/17/2010 |
| Q: I have this friend that I love very much but I never told her that, she is with this jerk of a ... A: not alot for you to do; insecure people get into these addictive, co-dependent relationships, and ... | |
| Should we get back together? | 7/29/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I broke up about three days ago and I've been thinking we might have made a ... A: unless you can resolve the issues, what's the point in goin back?...he's got a plan, is moving on; ... | |
| Is my ex flirting with me? does he still love/like me? | 7/24/2010 |
| Q: My ex boyfriend broke up with me about two months ago saying this wasn't the right time for him be ... A: flirting has more to do with mindset than behavior; the bottom line is he opted out of the ... | |
| Tough Situation | 7/13/2010 |
| Q: I am in a tough situation. A friend of mine (A) likes me and has asked me out numerous times, but I ... A: it IS a tough situation...but sooner or later A will figure it out, and it'll be worse; everyone is ... | |
| boyfriend's daughter is causing problems | 7/9/2010 |
| Q: Ok, this one might be a bit long. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years now. We have know ... A: the daughter obviously needs counseling, and the father should see to it that she gets it; given the ... | |
| I'm missing something | 6/24/2010 |
| Q: I think the initial question I wanted to ask is "What the hell is wrong with me?" But that's just my ... A: great question..first the 2 u asked, then some general comments; 1..no point..at BEST, you'll get ... | |
| Advise on dating newly recovered drug user | 6/17/2010 |
| Q: I have three children and have not been dating for a while due to past experiences that left deep ... A: a parent's death doesn't make one an addict; it has more to do with one's internal emotional set-up; ... | |
| I'm falling for an old friend who's now engaged. | 6/15/2010 |
| Q: my issue is this. I'm 23 the girl I like is 20. We are very close friends, we lost contact to each ... A: you need to tell her that after tonite, this meeting up can't continue, and that she needs to decide ... | |
| issues with attraction to females | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: OK so yes I have been asking lots of followups lately, but I have been having some issues as of ... A: you say "not attracted", but could also be you're using that as an excuse to cover up your ... | |
| Does He Care Deep Down Based On His Action? | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: Me and a guy ended on bad terms and since we both have moved on. Admittedly, I do still have ... A: so, if u have feelings for him, how far have u really moved on emotionally?..that's really not fair ... | |
| call him or leave it like that | 6/6/2010 |
| Q: i just recently started talking to a guy that i knnew from a few years back. we were hanging out in ... A: "sounds like..??"...the type u describe is a wild card--if he had moved on he wouldn't care what u ... | |
| keep making the same mistake with girls | 6/5/2010 |
| Q: Ok so before my question I will give a brief history of my love life. I am a male and I am 20. All ... A: first, forget about this "the one"stuff...in this world there are thousands of datable, lovable ... | |
| Dealing with ex-girlfriends amung other things... | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: I’m struggling… with it seems like a mountain full of issues and I’m looking for some clarity. My ... A: hey there...interesting, well-written question; what you really want is for him to think about all ... | |
| Boyfriend's Insecurities | 6/2/2010 |
| Q: I'm looking for some advice on something that has bothered me in my relationship, with my boyfriend ... A: self-image is a big concept; his body image is no doubt low, and would be a difficult thing to ... | |
| How do I get closer to him? | 5/29/2010 |
| Q: So about 4 months ago I met a guy - I had just broken up with my boyfriend so I was "on the rebound" ... A: despite any amount of cuddling, the guy is primarily interested in a casual, no strings, sexual ... | |
| Am I being played or did I argue too much? | 5/24/2010 |
| Q: Here is the summary of my situation: I am 30 and met a guy 10 years older, who is very smart, ... A: this isn't about arguing or playing...any guy that sees you one time, then doesn't communicate for 2 ... | |
| He says we're in love...but he's not ready for a relationship?? | 5/22/2010 |
| Q: I'm in a strange predicament. Basically, I have been involved with this man for 3 years. We've been ... A: stop asking everyone; the deal is, if you're living with someone, having sex, not seeing anyone ... | |
| Being ignored | 5/19/2010 |
| Q: I studied abroad in Japan in fall 2009, and there, I met a fellow student that I got along really ... A: welcome to the many times grim reality of LDR'S, where "happily everafter" dreams turn to dust with ... | |
| Was this a bady way to approach a girl ? | 5/16/2010 |
| Q: I'm a guy in college and there is a girl who i like. I spoke to her very briefly since i heard her ... A: you can't be afraid...no risk, no reward..the worst that could happen is she says no..so what?..it's ... | |
| where did he go? | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: "I met this guy through my best friend and her boyfriend (his best friend). She told me that he was ... A: dating guideline #1: if a guy is interested, he'll ask you out--unless/until that happens, assume ... | |
| Dating Someone With Baggage | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: My name is Jimmy and I am 26 years old and reside in Michigan (U.S.) I met a girl in May of 2009 ... A: i'd suggest that YOU suggest to her that she consider counseling; you didn't mention what ... | |
| Places...everybody take your places | 5/5/2010 |
| Q: It's only been a month since Nick and I have gotten back together. I briefly dated him two years ... A: under the circumstances, i'd offer him a more "open" arrangement, where if either party desired to ... | |
| I'm over this.... | 5/3/2010 |
| Q: Hey, I'm a college freshman and at the beginning of first semester I had the most god damn positive ... A: i need more specifics--what are your short/long term goals?..what's keeping you from reaching ... | |
| The appropriate time for going for her number | 5/2/2010 |
| Q: Having approached a great many women,I've come to understand that one should not be concerned about ... A: depends on the situation--generally, if you've begun a dialog and she shows SOME interest in talking ... | |
| Is he serious or a player? | 5/2/2010 |
| Q: I met a guy online about 2 weeks ago (he's 24 and I'm 19). He's been calling me everyday since then ... A: to a horny 24 yr old guy, "official" means nothing; plus, you've already provided sexual ... | |
| Ex-boyfriend is back, again | 4/25/2010 |
| Q: My ex and I broke up a year ago. I didn't want to at all and wanted to work out our problems. ... A: guess what...calling, seeing each other regularly, having sex...that's called a relationship, but ... | |
| discussing past relationships | 4/25/2010 |
| Q: I'm 28 and my bf is 30. We've been together 5 or 6 months. I often try to probe him about his past ... A: for whatever reason he has something to hide or is otherwise uncomfortable revealing the info; not ... | |
| Transition | 4/21/2010 |
| Q: I fell in love with a much younger man about 2 years ago and we had a wild torrid affair. He ... A: with those feelings, you shouldn't even be living there, especially if you respect him, and the girl ... | |
| wake up call | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: Okay so my boyfriend and I have been on and off for about three years. We have a child together. My ... A: let's get real--the guy has left twice, lies, probably cheats, will no doubt leave again; you call ... | |
| compatibility | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: I am divorced. Started dating an old friend who is a great woman. Has so many qualities my ex ... A: makes no difference, but i'm a guy--- since u asked---no guarantees..people's feelings change, and ... | |
| Am I doing something wrong??? | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: I am hoping you can help me answer this question that I have been beating myself up over. I am a ... A: first, 3 incidents over a 2 year period is a small sample, not enough to draw any firm conclusions ... | |
| thoughtfulness | 4/13/2010 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been dating for four years. my problem is, i don't know if i should ... A: hard to believe---you didn't say if you gave HIM christmas/birthday gifts; not sure why you haven't ... | |
| Is it ok to 'settle'? | 4/7/2010 |
| Q: For instance...I'm with a very nice man, who treats me very well and is financial and socially ... A: interesting question--each person has to answer that for themselves, depending on what's truly ... | |
| The Ex's kid | 3/30/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend (let's call him K) and I have been together for two years. Before we met he dated the ... A: why are you even still in this?..he's freeloading off of you to subsidize an ex and her kid??..plus, ... | |
| Accepting myself after rejection? | 3/30/2010 |
| Q: I know this sounds ridiculous, but I hate that I'm attractive, and I hate that guys like me. I hate ... A: the guy who reneged on the invite, then had the AUDACITY to offer a substitute, is a jerk, and ... | |
| pulling away | 3/29/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, we've spent lots of time together as well as ... A: you need to think about what your REQUIREMENTS are for continuing this relationship, as my feeling ... | |
| should i have broken up? | 3/29/2010 |
| Q: Ok, so me and my girlfriend of 2.5 years are both 20 and I just broke up with her. I am having ... A: at 20, the aspiration isn't to "stick it out, work on problems", it shouldn't have to feel like ... | |
| bottom line | 3/26/2010 |
| Q: me and my girlfriend have been dating for over 2 years, during which time she told me that she loved ... A: it was "observation", not criticism...i wasn't referring at all to the other guy, i was talking ... | |
| a "break" | 3/26/2010 |
| Q: me and my girlfriend have been dating for over 2 years, during which time she told me that she loved ... A: what were you thinking??...giving her a kid at 17, when she's still a kid herself??...now she ... | |
| Hanging out with ex-boyfriend | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: I had my first boyfriend was when I was 16. I fell in love hard. He was my best friend. It was an on ... A: this isn't very complicated--he's had plenty of time--if he wanted anything MORE, you'd have known ... | |
| Taking it to the next level | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: I just have a question. How do you tell a guy who is your FWB(friend with benefits)that you're ... A: i'd take a different approach--the problem is, by giving away the sex without asking for an ... | |
| wake up call | 3/18/2010 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and a half and I know I want to spend the rest of ... A: you might want to reconsider the "rest of your life" plan; this is a classic case of an insensitive, ... | |
| Men and body language | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: I am a 31 year old female with 2 children. I recently ended a 7 year marriage and for the first ... A: i got your point--next time, rather than jump to unfair ratings, ask a follow up question like now; ... | |
| Men and body language | 3/10/2010 |
| Q: I am a 31 year old female with 2 children. I recently ended a 7 year marriage and for the first ... A: my feeling is, he's the guy--up to HIM to initiate; the bottom line is, you shouldn't have to do ... | |
| Not sure what to do. | 3/9/2010 |
| Q: I am living abroad. At the beginning of December I met a guy that is also living here abroad. We hit ... A: no need to get caught up in labels and definitions--as you implied, it's all about the behavior, ... | |
| All Failed Relationships | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: I am about to go through a divorce and am trying to figure out why all of my relationships have ... A: you've clearly stated WHY each of them failed--when you think about it, MOST people's lives have ... | |
| wake up call | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: So this is sort of a long question but I figure the more detail the better, and I couldn’t tell you ... A: all sizzle, no steak--only SHE knows why she doesn't set u free, but it's not relevant; confident ... | |
| wake up call | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: So this is sort of a long question but I figure the more detail the better, and I couldn’t tell you ... A: unfortunately, you are chasing a dream, as the dating relationship ended with the last date; your ... | |
| General Relationship Question Please Help!! | 3/1/2010 |
| Q: I currently am evolved in a situation that I would like some advice on. I work with a girl that i ... A: the smart thing to do would be to inquire as to the boyfriend--if she has no immediate plan to leave ... | |
| Re ;Dating | 2/27/2010 |
| Q: I know what you say is true about losing the relationship. I really like her too. The type of ... A: just think about it a second..if u believe she has no interest in the guy, if you believe she's ... | |
| Re ;Dating | 2/27/2010 |
| Q: I know what you say is true about losing the relationship. I really like her too. The type of ... A: sex has nothing to do with it...tell her, nicely, that you're feeling a bit insecure about it, ... | |
| i have lost the passion for sex | 2/25/2010 |
| Q: 23 years old and have been in a relationship for 7 years now. By the way, he was the first and the ... A: when you've been with one guy your whole life, this is bound to happen; your only recourse would be ... | |
| Haven't met my boyfriend's parents | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: I am 26 dating a 36 year old man, we have been dating for 11 months. I have only met his Mom once ... A: if it's a major issue for you, a requirement for going forward, you need to INFORM him that the ... | |
| Jealousy | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: Hey Azure, I wanted to put this question in the jealousy section but there are no experts in there. ... A: no magic, quick answer--jealousy is usually based on insecurity, which is usually from low ... | |
| I'm not sure if this girl I like, likes me back | 2/19/2010 |
| Q: I feel pretty pathetic using this site, no offense to the person evaluating this, but i'm desperate ... A: that WAS advice--the point was, you're chasing a fantasy; she's given you no reason to believe this ... | |
| porn | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend loves reading playboy magazines. This makes me feel very insecure because I compare ... A: most people don't consider playboy "porn"; again, it doesn't appear he's addicted to ... | |
| did the ship sail? | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: Here is the background for my question. I have liked the work of an established artist for some ... A: i suppose you could make it look like you're at the museum by "coincidence" and get to talk to him, ... | |
| porn | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend loves reading playboy magazines. This makes me feel very insecure because I compare ... A: you have to understand the nature of man, which is that non-monogamy is their natural state, and ... | |
| porn | 2/16/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend loves reading playboy magazines. This makes me feel very insecure because I compare ... A: he certainly has a right to do it, and your insecurities are creating your feelings, but the issue ... | |
| Sad and Confused | 2/15/2010 |
| Q: Where do I start... we've been together for 8 years. I was only 20 when we met at work and hit it ... A: no easy endings, no easy answers...hard for me to comment as to 8 years of involvement, not knowing ... | |
| Undeniable Sexual Attraction | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: So theres this guy that I work with who I have an incredible sexual attraction for. I know he shares ... A: if you want to keep your self-esteem, nothing; he knows who you are, where you are--if he were ... | |
| I don't trust him, and there's no reason for it | 1/29/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 3 years and I split up for awhile...about 6 weeks. During that time, he moved back ... A: 2 things...1. there's really no good reason to trust him..he's a guy, monogamy is unnatural for ... | |
| was I wrong? | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: We've been together almost 2 years. We hung out on a Saturday night knowing that we had to attend ... A: i'm guessing that besides the drama surrounding the party/phone calls, there's a whole bunch that's ... | |
| What to do? | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been with each other for almost a year now. We see each other every day (due ... A: spaces in togetherness are always a good thing, especially if you feel you're being taken for ... | |
| In love and so confused... | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: This guy and I dated for about 6 months. We started out as a hook up and then feelings developed ... A: asking about a movie is hardly enough to change the fact that he sees this as primarily as a ... | |
| We bought her a vibrator | 1/24/2010 |
| Q: so the other night me and my GF went out to browse some store and we ended up buy a vibrator for ... A: your concerns are understandable, but the vibrator is no different than a guy masturbating to porn; ... | |
| Should i write an email to my ex boyfriend? | 1/24/2010 |
| Q: Im Isa and im having an issue on deciding if i should write an email to my ex boyfriend or if i ... A: i don't think it's such a great idea--if he were interested in rekindling, you'd have known about it ... | |
| Relationship advise | 1/22/2010 |
| Q: Hope this isn't too long but I need to give you some background info first. I recently met a guy on ... A: some to consider: 1. no sex for at least 3/4 dates..lower all expectations to zero--keep them ... | |
| Relationship advise | 1/21/2010 |
| Q: Hope this isn't too long but I need to give you some background info first. I recently met a guy on ... A: one good week does not a relationship make; you're both still single, dating, looking--while you may ... | |
| Is it too soon..? | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: I am 26 who recently meet another girl who I am interested in who is 23. We both meet eachother when ... A: first, it's only been a month--continue to evaluate the interaction, and whether it meets your ... | |
| Boyfriend problems... | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: I wonder if you can help me shed any light on what is going on with my boyfriend... To cut a long ... A: 1st part--good--2d..your "good night" to him meant "great sex"...the missing comes when the sexual ... | |
| Boyfriend problems... | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: I wonder if you can help me shed any light on what is going on with my boyfriend... To cut a long ... A: he's jerking you around a bit, and your neediness/insecurities are allowing it; these "break" ... | |
| relationships | 1/10/2010 |
| Q: I am a 27 year old female. I have a tendency to go back and forth with relationships. Breakup, get ... A: hard to say, unless you want to come to ct once a week to go thru it; certainly, the parental deal ... | |
| So Confused | 1/5/2010 |
| Q: My Ex %26 I have been separated for about 4 years now, we were together for 2 years when I ended it ... A: all explanations as to his motivations are in play...really, only HE knows...still, good decisions ... | |
| Commitment issues | 1/1/2010 |
| Q: I have been seeing a recently divorced colleague and our relationship has been kept under wraps. No ... A: live together under these conditions??..have u lost your mind?..."grey area", recently divorced, ... | |
| girl | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: I am 24 years old and I have found a girl that really winds my clock. She is ambitious, funny, ... A: not impossible--the key is getting her to LIKE you...once that happens, a girl can be quite ... | |
| She really confuses me. i like her. feeling mutual or hate? | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: I'm in my late 20's and this girl is in her mid 20's. we take self defense classes together. me more ... A: i think you like the challenge, but this looks like a losing battle..a) boyfriend, b)she's shown no ... | |
| Is he interested? | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: I went on three dates with this guy. He initiated all of the dates. After the first two dates he ... A: no need to categorize just yet--he's not stopping you from living your life/meeting dating ... | |
| does he want more out of our friendship? | 12/21/2009 |
| Q: I am really close to my guy friend. It seems like everyday we become closer and closer. We talk to ... A: as i said, you're ALREADY going out, even if as friends; if you don't like his flirting, TELL him; ... | |
| did I scare him away? | 12/20/2009 |
| Q: I graduated with my BA, complete siked I decided to go out for drinks with my friends. Well I didn't ... A: you didn't blow anything..(no pun intended)..if a guy is interested to begin with, "forward" ... | |
| Not sure how much longer I can restrain myself | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: So I am in my mid 20s, and met this girl about 6 months ago who I hit it off with in a big way. She ... A: if you don't want to discuss with her, the only other approach is to continue to up the ante, move ... | |
| Why won't he make another move? | 12/6/2009 |
| Q: I have been talking/hanging out with this guy since the summer. I had hung out with him and some ... A: he isn't under any obligation to communicate better or discuss the evening, and you shouldn't have ... | |
| WAKE UP CALL | 11/27/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for six months and for the most part, things are going great. We're ... A: as for the drinking, his "agreeing it needs to be curbed" means nothing--he needs to STOP drinking, ... | |
| WAKE UP CALL | 11/26/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for six months and for the most part, things are going great. We're ... A: you're tolerating way too much; he should have been INFORMED long ago that the trips there, the ... | |
| simple.. | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: I am 28 yrs old and I have been with my boyfriend for 6 yrs. Lately, I don't were the relationship ... A: it you're gonna worry about "tension", or "hurt feelings", nothing will change; people are ... | |
| feelings for ex girlfriend | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: What should i do about my feelings for my ex girlfriend? we broke a couple of years now and we both ... A: the "difference" makes no difference; it's not surprising to consider past loves special, hold fond ... | |
| Confused | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: I met a guy online 8 months ago. We corresponded via email, then phone & skype several times a ... A: ok, here's the reality--the most this can ever be is a friendship--one of the many problems with ... | |
| feelings for ex girlfriend | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: What should i do about my feelings for my ex girlfriend? we broke a couple of years now and we both ... A: first, lower expectations to zero; next, resist all impulses to express heavy emotions-i'd suggest a ... | |
| it's over | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so I was seeing this girl who I really like. It was like love at first site for me. We went on ... A: i'd respectfully disagree with the psychologist; the bottom line is, the only thing left to happen ... | |
| I can't decide... | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: :) I've been dating the same guy for three months. We met at a party and it was like love at first ... A: i think at 19, and after seeing someone only 3 months, talk of marriage is foolish, and your family ... | |
| What now? | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: This is a rather involved question. Sorry about that. Im 27 years old and the girl I am referring ... A: there's only 2 choices, making a more defined physical move like kissing/making out, or discussing ... | |
| Not really sure whats up | 11/6/2009 |
| Q: I'm 28 and the girl in question is 23. I met a girl, this weekend at the local Renessaince ... A: happens all the time, but usually to girls by guys; only SHE knows the answer u want--once apart ... | |
| Complicated urges towards an untouchable ex. | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: The epic story of the break up & 2 weeks after will be condensed into a few sentences. Well we, a ... A: i wouldn't count on the order being overturned--even if it is, why go where you're not wanted?..at ... | |
| Meeting his family | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating/living together with my Arabian (Jordan)boyfriend and he will not bring me around ... A: ridiculous answer on his part; it all depends on how big a deal you want to make of this; is it ... | |
| is this acceptable? | 11/2/2009 |
| Q: my guy and i have been dating for about 5 months and things have been going great. we've never ... A: the pic, by itself, not that big a deal..he had to put that arm somewhere--but the bigger deal is, ... | |
| Staying with girlfriend | 10/31/2009 |
| Q: I am a guy from California living in Mexico, and my girlfriend is a Mexican. We met and started ... A: it's not that u "can't" see her--you're basically stating what u require to continue, and that ... | |
| Do I stand a chance? | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: I met this girl about a year and a half ago in college, and i asked her to eat lunch but we never ... A: always a chance--only time will tell; the statement as to fixing you up with a friend makes one ... | |
| fiance needs space | 10/27/2009 |
| Q: My fiance (of 4 years) and I have been together almost 8 years and just moved in together one year ... A: at this point, the relationship is over-- you don't want to be asking him for financial help; you've ... | |
| re-occuring dreams of my ex | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: First of all I'd like to thank you for reading this. I chose you for your knowledge on psychology. ... A: 1. no one knows why we dream as we do..2. obviously, you can't stop it--but you can inform her that ... | |
| confused | 10/23/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven months. He is my first sexually, and I know that I ... A: hopefully you won't blame the messenger for this message, but you need to hear it; you are in an ... | |
| mind games | 10/22/2009 |
| Q: I've just gotten out of a bad relationship and feel I know the signs of a bad guy/playa. So I met ... A: you might want to change your expectations; in the beginning, many guys will be be seeing one or ... | |
| should i wait? or move on? | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: I dated this guy a few years back and we promised each other that no matter what we would be ... A: there's no "waiting"...if he's interested, he'll ask you out--if not, he won't--in the meantime, you ... | |
| What to do next? | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: I have a rather long story with this man. But I'll keep it short! I met this guy, completely ... A: listen to your friends..gee, thought u wanted an objective analysis and answer..."different" would ... | |
| I remind him on his ex | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: I met a guy a few weeks ago, we're both in our 20's. We hit it off well, and have seen each other ... A: the reminder part is pretty harmless, as we gravitate to the look/personality that appeals to us; as ... | |
| WAKE UP CALL | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: I had a breakup, waited 8 months then went for a casual FWB arrangement. Within one month of ... A: your insecurities have put you in a very vulnerable position; this "not dating" stance is a total ... | |
| overwhelmed??? | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: Here is a short explanation of my situation and I need your help fast please! My boyfriend and I ... A: you're there to seek the HONEST answers; no convincing, no begging...if he wants distance, give it ... | |
| overwhelmed??? | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: Here is a short explanation of my situation and I need your help fast please! My boyfriend and I ... A: frankly i don't buy it--involved partners don't just "opt out" due to life stresses, whatever they ... | |
| dating the same girl after | 10/2/2009 |
| Q: I was dating this girl for about 5 weeks when I told her that I needed to stop seeing her because we ... A: can't read her mind, but nowadays people think nothing of not calling back; wait a few days--she ... | |
| Sex in Relationships | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. I’m confused as although I am in love with him, one ... A: interesting question; many times in relationships, one person has a greater sexual interest than the ... | |
| confused | 9/27/2009 |
| Q: i've been with my boyfriend for 8 months now. i'd never had this serious relationship before. it ... A: many times in relationship there's one person wanting/needing more--this time it's you; you have a ... | |
| Confused | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been seeing a guy for the past six months. The first three months he was very attentive and ... A: sounds to me that he has what for him is a comfortable, convenient, casual sexual arrangement, and ... | |
| Lack of Communication | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: Azure, I’ve been in a friendship/relationship with a woman I met on eHarmony 10 months ago. I ... A: 2 days in 10 months??...you're in trouble...almost impossible to sustain a relationship on talk ... | |
| Should I care about this? | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: I am 55, my boyfriend is 56. I really love this guy. Love being around him. We have a lot of fun ... A: it appears reasonable/legitimate...everyone has a right to what they REQUIRE in a relationship--for ... | |
| She paid for me....what? | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: I met this girl a year ago and asked her to go eat lunch but never got around to it till very ... A: 1st off, get your expectations under control, as the chances of this goin anywhere are slim--girls ... | |
| ex calls again | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: Sorry this is so long but it requires every detail....Well, in January of this year, i met this guy ... A: this has little to do with HIM--the really question is, what is the source of your insecurities that ... | |
| break-up | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: Okay, so I'm only in my teens and I've been dating this guy for about a year and a half. 2 weeks ... A: what's happened to your self-esteem?..why are you so insecure that you can't eat and will do ... | |
| Told her how I feel, now how do I handle this - FOLLOW UP | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: I Azure, Just a follow up to the question you just responded to from me. She actually ended up ... A: don't chase, stay patient, positive, prepared..i think she got your drift, just wasn't expecting it; ... | |
| Told her how I feel, now how do I handle this | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: Sorry for the length, but I want, more than anything, not to screw this up more than it is; or in ... A: you can contact her, asking how she'd like to proceed, if at all; but it appears you read more into ... | |
| wake up call | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: I have a question about breaking up and getting back together. My boyfriend and I have been together ... A: not good.."time to find himself.."translation: he wants to be free to date others if so inclined; ... | |
| Confused | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Dennis W. Neder Subject Miserable and Scared Question Dear Dr. Neder, I have been with ... A: not really...i don't see examples of your treating him unjustly or disrespectfully, i just see you ... | |
| 4 dates and then...Nothing... | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: I recently met someone off an online dating site. He seems "normal", stable, and sweet. We had a ... A: not that uncommon...guys are notorious for "leaving the scene" with no consideration of a ... | |
| Stacey | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: My name is Dave. I’m 23. I just graduated from college and landed a job as a stock broker. I just ... A: it's not that she's a stranger, so i don't see the "creepy" element coming into play; so, you feel ... | |
| Online flirting? | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: I have recently discovered that my boyfriend of 2 and a half years has joined several dating/online ... A: wake up call--the guy wants everything, you as the main squeeze, and stuff on the side--if he's not ... | |
| What to do about dating situation? | 8/13/2009 |
| Q: Quick Background of the Situation - I met this girl through friends (she's 24, I am 26) and we had ... A: as for the contact, keep her guessing..don't be afraid to let a few days go by with no ... | |
| Taking a break | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: I really appreciate you offering your expertise, kindness, and knowledge. Thanks in advance. I ... A: "heavy involvement", i.e. an exclusive, "in love", future oriented relationship...for whatever ... | |
| Taking a break | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: I really appreciate you offering your expertise, kindness, and knowledge. Thanks in advance. I ... A: reading your question, i'm still not sure what the SPECIFIC issue is--obviously, you haven't really ... | |
| My girlfriend's best friend is also mine. | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together 5 years now. We are happily engaged and are almost out of ... A: it depends how important your principles are versus appeasing your girlfriend's insecurities; you've ... | |
| stuff in common | 7/29/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering if you have to have stuff in common with the person you're dating. I was told that ... A: good question--common interests tend to be overrated, unless a person has a real passion like skiing ... | |
| My girlfriend has commitment and intimacy issues | 7/28/2009 |
| Q: I will try and be brief. I have been dating my girlfriend for seven years and I love her very ... A: hard to determine who has the bigger issue, you for staying in this co-dependency for SEVEN years ... | |
| long-distance | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: There is this guy, David that I have been dating for a few months. We are not official although ... A: no need to decide prematurely; i'd date him til you go, then explain to him that under the ... | |
| i am really mixed up and need help. | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: Good morning. I am 34 yrs old in a relationship with a woman for 13 yrs now. We have no kids, not ... A: 2 different issues; first, you need to accept the fact that your relationship is essentially over, ... | |
| Follow up | 7/8/2009 |
| Q: I apologize for asking the same question twice. I honestly thought I hadn't sent the first message ... A: ok, as an objective observer, i have the benefit of having no subjective "filters", or emotions that ... | |
| On Break | 7/7/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years. we have gone through our ups and downs but ... A: in my book, he doesn't get to put you on hold while he explores who knows what, for ANY length of ... | |
| My ex girlfriend contacted me, what should I do? | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: Question Hi, My girlfriend of 6 months dumped me just before Christmas. She said she needed ... A: hopefully there's more to discuss than the weather...look, you can choose to not communicate if you ... | |
| My ex girlfriend contacted me, what should I do? | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: Question Hi, My girlfriend of 6 months dumped me just before Christmas. She said she needed ... A: i suggest softening your approach, remove the pressure you're putting on her, stop requiring a ... | |
| Understanding his realtionship with his ex/ | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: I was married for 20+ years to a man who cheated on me several times.I believed him over and over ... A: wake up call---your insecurities are enabling you to hang on to a dream; this guy has essentially ... | |
| A little lost and lacking in experience | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: I think my question is kind of complex or just plain long (sorry). I'm a 22 year old woman and I ... A: no need to apologize to yourself for being using discretion; you're essentially dating, and need to ... | |
| Girlfriend cant communicate and is not on same wavelength in the bedroom | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: I (22) desperately need your help! I have been seeing someone for the past 14 months and have ... A: never try to teach a pig to sing---it wastes your time and annoys the pig; in other words, she's not ... | |
| I don't know what the heck I'm doing here. | 6/20/2009 |
| Q: I'm going to apologize in advance for the length and complication of this question. I guess what I ... A: i believe you already realize that your romantic, emotionally charged feelings will necessarily rule ... | |
| Don't know if a girl is interested in being more than friends | 6/19/2009 |
| Q: This might be a long question but here goes. I met this girl at a friend's bonfire. The girl is ... A: you've got to be more assertive--if you're too shy to talk to her now, how are you gonna get thru a ... | |
| Communication between boyfriend and his ex | 6/17/2009 |
| Q: I am a woman in my mid-twenties and have been dating my current boyfriend for about three months. ... A: it depends how much you're bothered by it; the downside of telling him is that he'll most likely get ... | |
| Boyfriend and his ex-wife | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: I am 44 y/o who was in a 7 month relationship with a 39 y/o divorced man. He has two daughters (12 ... A: it's a reasonable expectation, but even if he doesn't go, his continued INTEREST in the relationship ... | |
| My boyfriend is 21 yrs older then me | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: He's divorced with two kids and a horrible exwife. I'm a single mom of two kids there father is not ... A: it's in the behavior--real love is more than some feeling, it's a GIVING, where you unselfishly ... | |
| work relationships? | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy for about 3 years we have some issues.. I am in my mid twentys him a few ... A: it might be a tad "weird", but it's not something you want to go to war about; i'd be more concerned ... | |
| He wants to be friends that don't date other people | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We are both 21 and live almost 2 hours apart. Everyhting ... A: don't let him con you into this ruse where he conveniently puts you on the sidelines to "wait", ... | |
| Emotional Affairs | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: My b/f tells me that I'm the one for him. When things are stressful (could be his work, my work, ... A: it's not assumption or accusation--you have legitimate reason as to inquire about such contacts, as ... | |
| Am I the crazy one? | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: We've been together 1 year. He's 43, I'm 35. I have a 15 year old daughter and he has none. Our ... A: he's basically told you he's not interested in putting ANYTHING into this, and your "servicing" him ... | |
| reality | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: Is there really a technique to getting your ex back? There are plenty of Internet sites that claim ... A: you treat him as u indicated, businesslike, cordial, with respect--if he begins not to treat you ... | |
| reality | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: Is there really a technique to getting your ex back? There are plenty of Internet sites that claim ... A: gotta know when to hold em, when to fold em...in this case, "accept the things you can't change" ... | |
| reality | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: Is there really a technique to getting your ex back? There are plenty of Internet sites that claim ... A: time to accept reality--it's over; any attempts to get him back only lessen your already low ... | |
| Why would ex lie if they really want to keep the friendship? | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: Sorry, this is a long story, I am in my thirties and my ex girlfriend was also in her thirties. We ... A: people lie to cover up bad behavior or to spare another the hurt feelings the truth might bring; the ... | |
| single parents dating with kids | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for 8 months with two teenager kids, 13 and 15. He has raised them by ... A: same answer....all you can do is be yourself, be nice to them when together--i'm not even sure why ... | |
| How does she sees me? | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: I recently slept with a girl I've known for a few months through a mutual acquaintance. We've been ... A: what's not to like?...sounds like a natural progression, while you're enjoying the perks of the "guy ... | |
| middle age dating | 5/16/2009 |
| Q: i am a 52 year old male, who has been dating the same 50 year old woman for 4 years,, we met a a ... A: 2 separate issues here; first, you don't say you actually proposed, but if the inference is she's ... | |
| your perspective | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: This is going to be a long email, I apologise for this. My partner and I have been seeing each other ... A: my perspective is that if you read it over, objectively, you described an unhealthy, non-saveable, ... | |
| WAKE UP CALL | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: Im a 25 year old female and have been in a serious relationship on and off for a little over 4 ... A: so let's review--a guy with a drinking problem ("hardly ever" isn't the answer for someone like ... | |
| Growing away from my boyfriend | 5/5/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I were friends for 3 years before we started dating. I started dating him 5 years ... A: i don't believe that unsatisfying relationships should continue because a child is involved, or ... | |
| My BF told me i only participate 10% of the time! | 5/5/2009 |
| Q: Okay, i have been with my BF for almost five months now and we live in different parts of the ... A: red flag, mainly because of his insensitivity in dealing with it; he should have discussed this IN ... | |
| Ex-Boyfriend back | 5/5/2009 |
| Q: I apologize in advance because this will be long. I need to cover a lot of ground for you to truly ... A: my take on this is totally different; i don't buy the "space" excuse; as i see it, he DID abandon ... | |
| Girlfriends Controling Parents | 5/4/2009 |
| Q: I joined this website just so i could ask this question. Let me tell you some backstory about the ... A: tough situation--unless you can convince her that leaving is the ONLY way this nightmare will end, ... | |
| The most confusing man I have ever dated please help! | 5/2/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for about a year now off and on. We met during the summer last year and ... A: without any intimacy/passion, this is little more than a friendship; it also appears you're spending ... | |
| When to have sex in a new relationship? | 5/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm in a new relationship. When would be the best time to introduce sex to the new relationship? ... A: it's not really determined by number of dates--whether on the 2d or 12th, it's really about the ... | |
| relationship | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for only 5 months...yes seems too early to be concerned ... A: 5 months is WAY TOO soon to be living together, and my guess is you're also way too young for such ... | |
| frustrated | 4/28/2009 |
| Q: I've been having a difficult time lately with a female friend. I really like this friend and told ... A: i wouldn't even bring it up--wouldn't be alot to gain; at present, she's indicated she doesn't have ... | |
| salary differeneces | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: I am having a lot of trouble feeling comforatble with the finanical situation with my new boyfriend. ... A: depending on how deep your issue is, it could take counseling or just this answer; if i told you it ... | |
| Complicated Relationship | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: After a long period of time simply studying each other from a distance a co-worker and I began to ... A: you're sounding as needy as her--makes for a rocky arrangemenT of co-dependency that i personally ... | |
| Complicated Relationship | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: After a long period of time simply studying each other from a distance a co-worker and I began to ... A: alot of hard to understand drama there; hopefully you've learned that you just have to be yourself ... | |
| I want to wait for marriage, BF wants sex asap | 4/24/2009 |
| Q: I am 24 and my boyfriend is 26. We were friends first at school, then friends over the phone for 2 ... A: obviously he'd be opposed to leaving the comfortable deal you've given him, but ultimately, we're ... | |
| I want to wait for marriage, BF wants sex asap | 4/24/2009 |
| Q: I am 24 and my boyfriend is 26. We were friends first at school, then friends over the phone for 2 ... A: the advice is he needs to leave; living together means you're either romantically involved in a ... | |
| Breaking up | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been feeling distant and trapped lately in our relationship because i feel that i want to go ... A: sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind--in the long run your not sharing your true feelings would ... | |
| Worried the past will repeat itself. | 4/22/2009 |
| Q: I have recently started dating someone and so far things are going great. We're emotionally, ... A: no point in making him aware of your personal concerns, as it may influence him to act differently ... | |
| Parent - duaghter relationship | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: I’ve been in a relationship with a girl for over a year now. It is my first relationship. It ... A: who's to say what "normal"is?..plus, doesn't really matter, as i doubt she'll be changing; the best ... | |
| Is he still in love or am i just a habit | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: I started dating this guy from my college. He has never had a girlfriend before. We really got along ... A: not good--he's either gay, seeing someone else, addicted to porn, or has lost all desire for YOU; ... | |
| exgirlfriend issues | 4/17/2009 |
| Q: I know that you always give thorough and well thought out answers that are right to the point. I ... A: i doubt counseling is needed, just understanding, honest communication; i've no problem with ex's ... | |
| Reservations about moving forward with current boyfriend | 4/15/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a man for two years. We have recently decided to move in together. We love each ... A: not good..u shouldn't be going into this committed arrangement when half your heart, or more, is ... | |
| Reservations about moving forward with current boyfriend | 4/15/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a man for two years. We have recently decided to move in together. We love each ... A: 2 different deals--it's pretty natural to still have feelings for significant others, especially ... | |
| first impression and serious dating | 4/11/2009 |
| Q: A few questions. You know how you get that instant gut feeling that someone is not a nice person? ... A: people have all kinds of different expressions, and i've never been in situations where that type of ... | |
| Am I scaring him off | 4/9/2009 |
| Q: I've been talking to a guy on myspace for a month now. And I really like him, he says he likes me. ... A: i can only suggest what to do--actually DOIN it is up to you; HE'S the guy--it's up to him to take ... | |
| soldier | 4/8/2009 |
| Q: I'm a college student dating a soldier who is overseas right now. We've been dating for about 7 ... A: be honest with him...you've only dated a few hours...even this ring of exclusivity is way too ... | |
| what is he doing? | 4/8/2009 |
| Q: . My ex and i chill every now and then, we have been broken up for a month and we both loving ... A: "doesn't want a relationship" means he wants enuf of one to be able to have no strings sex, but not ... | |
| I want to move out | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: I've been talkin to this guy on myspace for about a month now.He's 20 and I'm 19 and we live about ... A: unfortunate that you can't remain in your mother's house--it's a little soon to be movin out; if you ... | |
| Can exs still be friends? part 2 | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: Azure. Thanks for your prompt response. Okay, here is an update. I spoke with my ex and told her ... A: i think your caving in to your girlfriend's demands was a huge mistake, (as explained previously), ... | |
| I think I've messed up | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: I really really like this guy. He's 20 and I'm 19, we live about 30 miles apart. We met on myspace, ... A: if he has a real interest, what you said shouldn't be a big deal; the bigger question is that 30 ... | |
| Dating 2 guys at once? | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: This might end up being really long; if so, I apologize in advance. I have known this guy (age 25) ... A: depends what your main goal is; right now, you're settling for a pure sexual arrangement, regardless ... | |
| wake up call | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a steady relationship for almost 2 years now, my boyfriend and I get along great. We ... A: okay, so you're only 21, prone to "freaking out", are still in school, and there's no offer of ... | |
| Can exs still be friends? | 4/3/2009 |
| Q: I'm David and I need your advice. Over two years ago, I broke up with my ex and began dating again. ... A: your current girlfriend is totally misinformed and her "demand", which is based on her own ... | |
| new relationship | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: I'm dating a guy for about three months, we see each other about twice a week, he picks me up and ... A: thoughtful, rational, reflective...you're on the right track; i'd say after dating 3 more months ... | |
| Boyfriend's loss of interest in sex | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating my current boyfriend for a number of years, we are both 20 years old and have ... A: your rosy picture is giving him a pass he doesn't deserve; again, the reasons he offered, including ... | |
| Boyfriend's loss of interest in sex | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating my current boyfriend for a number of years, we are both 20 years old and have ... A: he's gotten WAY TOO complacent, in part because of your willingness to provide less intimate oral ... | |
| PROM? | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: okay well me an my gf have been together for a year now and just recent, we started having problems ... A: being mad has no usefulness, but you need to realize that this "break" deal means that as of now you ... | |
| Emotional and possibly physical affair with married ex-wife | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: Recently my first ex-wife and I reconnected through MySpace and Facebook after not seeing each other ... A: your questions are really more out loud thoughts, and have no magic answers; once you open the door ... | |
| He's not emotionally ready for a serious relationship | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: I met this guy 6 months ago and we've taken it slow in becoming friends and getting to know each ... A: if it's not already a "relationship", what is it?... hopefully he doesn't just expect to take away ... | |
| Help needed | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: I am a 31 year old woman, about to turn 32, and the last few years have proved to be very ... A: they both need to be extracted from your life; the first guy isn't changing, despite the current ... | |
| Educational Differences | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 42 year old woman dating a 38 year old man. We both come from dysfunctional families but his ... A: in my opinion it's a non-issue--what's important in a relationship is passion, playfulness, respect, ... | |
| tough situation | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: I am in a situation you read about every day. I too am going through a break-up. I know what I am ... A: sounds appropriate considering the circumstances; 22 is REALLY young, especially being with the same ... | |
| dating | 2/27/2009 |
| Q: I am 28. I have been courting this girl who has a BF. Before I started the process I asked if ... A: if she appears to like you so much, why is she still with the boyfriend?...a question u need to ask ... | |
| dating | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a man, we are both 40, for 4 months. We got very serious, very fast. Three ... A: probably neither; just adjust accordingly; in other words, if he's not devoting the amount of ... | |
| To pursue or not to pursue | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: About two years ago, I was teaching English in Japan. During that time, I was contacted by a very ... A: you don't want to live as a prisoner of your own feelings; communicate to her how you really feel, ... | |
| relationship problems | 2/21/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I recently got into a fight because he had found out I was trying to contact my ... A: i'm male..you said he "started going thru my call phone bills.."now you've brought new information ... | |
| relationship problems | 2/20/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I recently got into a fight because he had found out I was trying to contact my ... A: first off, it's none of his business--if you want to stay friends with an ex, he needs to accept it ... | |
| insecure about b/f ex | 2/18/2009 |
| Q: hope you can help me out. I am 29 and my partner is 28. We've been together almost three years and ... A: natural/understandable...when faced with such anxieties, put everything in perspective-- he's with ... | |
| insecure about b/f ex | 2/18/2009 |
| Q: hope you can help me out. I am 29 and my partner is 28. We've been together almost three years and ... A: first, it's a matter of trust; you've no business invading his privacy like that, regardless of your ... | |
| How to deal with a guy who might be a bite immature. | 2/18/2009 |
| Q: I haven't started dating this guy yet but we're thinking about a long distance relationship. I moved ... A: there's alot lost/little gained in persuing this; i'm sure you're flattered by the attention, but ... | |
| jealousy/insecurities | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: First off i would like to thank you for the time you take to help others. My question is very ... A: "space"...really just an excuse for screwing around while hoping the main squeeze sits on the ... | |
| Did I wait to long and blow a chance to sweep my S off her feet? | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: Around Christmas and New Years I flirted with a woman at work, S, and it looked like she may be ... A: the most probable scenario was that she only thought of you as a friendly co-worker but not dating ... | |
| Boyfriend probs.. | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: so earlier you said there isn't any relationship... than why does he get jealous when we are ... A: i don't have the original question/answer, but i'm sure from what you said, he appeared totally ... | |
| My boyfriend treats his daughter like a wife | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: I met a fantastic man online a few months ago, we have so much in common, laugh together, and enjoy ... A: no problem---u have 3 choices, acceptance, leaving, or talking to him about it; i'm really not sure ... | |
| My boyfriend treats his daughter like a wife | 1/24/2009 |
| Q: I met a fantastic man online a few months ago, we have so much in common, laugh together, and enjoy ... A: why can't u talk to him about it?..first of all, it wasn't an answer, it was a request for more ... | |
| reality check | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend used to live in the same town for the first year we were together, and then I ... A: you're holding on to a fantasy while he revels with others in the real world; if you have to ASK for ... | |
| How does he feel about me? | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: My name is Amanda and I am 24 years old. For the past few months I have been at my best(guy) friends ... A: time to stop leading the way, including stopping all this "friendly" time together; he's the ... | |
| Age Gap Relationship | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: There's a guy I really like and we've been really good friends for about 6 months now and we have ... A: there's an old saying, "if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen"..if you/he are gonna be ... | |
| Confused | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: I am 49 years old and have a dilemma. I met a gentleman online about 4 months ago and I have grown ... A: many men don't see it as an all or nothing proposition, as in this case, nor do they care to ... | |
| work relationship | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: I am writing to ask for your advice regarding the guy that is in my work place. I would like to ... A: casual banter, gestures, looks, don't mean alot; as you inferred, if a guy is interested, he'll ask ... | |
| my relationship | 1/4/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a really great relationship for 3 years. My significant other is Matt. We have great ... A: considering your constraints, essentially nothing, beyond being who you are--you're not ... | |
| Relationship and College, Don't Know What To Do | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: I am currently a senior in high school and am dating a sophomore from a different school. We've been ... A: picking a tech school (a glorified high school) over the experience of a 4 year college AWAY from ... | |
| The Past | 12/24/2008 |
| Q: I am 32 and I am extremely judgmental and hypocritical regarding any current partner's past ... A: i could suggest the spiritual route and say "let he who is without sin cast the first stone", or ... | |
| what a mess? | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: well i'm 21 and she is 18 and we really loved eachother but she is in another school and i will ... A: it's a different kind of love---when you get older, love becomes more than just a feeling; her ... | |
| Taking a break? | 12/19/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are both 19 years old. He is one year behind me in school, however, I am a ... A: you should be commended for figuring out those conclusions on your own--you BOTH need "apart" ... | |
| girlfriend lying about keeping in touch with a guy she dated. | 12/17/2008 |
| Q: The problem is kind of complex. I have a had a girlfriend for about seven years. We are both in ... A: the age old question.."worth" is an assessment of value...i don't know how much she's "worth" to ... | |
| girlfriend lying about keeping in touch with a guy she dated. | 12/16/2008 |
| Q: The problem is kind of complex. I have a had a girlfriend for about seven years. We are both in ... A: this is a tough call--on one hand, due to their "history", your feelings are certainly ... | |
| Moving out the right choice after 2 years? | 12/16/2008 |
| Q: Myself and my boyfriend have been together for alittle under two years, he is in his late 20s and I ... A: depends what your goal is--regardless of his manipulative phraseology, he's looking for a free, less ... | |
| cheating | 12/15/2008 |
| Q: I really need someone to be honest with me. I found out my girlfriend of 6 years has been cheating ... A: it doesn't sound like you're willing to walk away, and you didn't say if she honestly told you or ... | |
| kicked out at dawn | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: old man with no kids I have 1 daughter 15. We've both met each others families. Both our families ... A: not sure his disrespectful response elevates him to "great" status, nor is his "rule" an example of ... | |
| hot and cold, did sex ruin things? | 12/1/2008 |
| Q: I have been seeing this guy for a little over a month. usually we meet once a week for drinks/ ... A: forget the smmoth talk about marriage/strong feelings--the truth is in the BEHAVIOR, and the ... | |
| Self sabotage | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: I am 19 years old, male, a virgin, what seems to be by choice. I find myself being very picky about ... A: if you want female companionship, you need to focus on having girls like YOU; actually, i think some ... | |
| starting over | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: I'm 30 years old, intelligent, hard-working, outgoing and I have a lot of friends. I'm still trying ... A: you can't get too concerned about "hurt", as there are zero guarantees in relationships, and you ... | |
| saying no | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: I think it is important for women to learn how to say "no" nicely and gracefully! What are some ways ... A: first, keep in mind we're all responsible for our OWN feelings; perhaps the least awkward one is to ... | |
| BEst action to move forward | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: I have been having a “will they, won’t they” thing with a girl from work for well over a year now. ... A: you appear to already know the answer; she's essentially jerkin you around, keeping you around in ... | |
| Dealing with opposing schedules | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: I have a question regarding my current relationship. I have been dating a wonderful man who I love ... A: the friend thing is just one more example of a bigger issue, and only becomes a point of concern ... | |
| 33 year old virgin | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 33 year old virgin who is trying to get into the dating scene. I've dated a few times the ... A: i wouldn't be in a hurry to bring up your lack of experience..there's really no training manual for ... | |
| What is she THINKING? | 10/29/2008 |
| Q: Azure. After reading some of your responses, I had to ask your opinion on my dilemma. I have been ... A: 1. not like you have much choice, but that would be the respectful, smart thing to do..let HER ... | |
| hello | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: Okay I am 19 and haven't dated anyone for a really long time. im in college and am busy and i also ... A: no one said dating would be easy; there's no magic answer, just stay patient, positive, prepared, ... | |
| Need advice on complicated situation | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: I have a serious situation that I need some advice with. My father recently went through a divorce ... A: the ball is in her court; unless she's ready to dump the boyfriend, there's nothing to talk about; ... | |
| Dating and friendship | 10/23/2008 |
| Q: I have known this one man for two years. We have had a rocky relationship because of alcohol and ... A: everyone is different in how they react to different life changes; as a friend, all you can do is ... | |
| How to help your relationship when its complicated | 10/22/2008 |
| Q: Ok this is going to be a long one. My boyfriend and I met on myspace. I had just recently got ... A: you're falling for the words when the BEHAVIOR holds the real answers; your insecurities, need for ... | |
| Former fiance vs. boyfriend help.... | 10/20/2008 |
| Q: I'm 31 years old and in a bit of a "pickle". It's a bit of a long story, but I'll try to keep it as ... A: whatever you decide as to z, the current boyfriend needs to be taken out of the equation, as it's ... | |
| older boyfriend | 10/18/2008 |
| Q: (yes, my name is Eshawna. call me shawn) I turned 19 on september 12, by boyfriend is turning.... ... A: if you can't please everyone, you have to please yourself--if you're become overly concerned about ... | |
| How to make it work... | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: Weve been bestfriends for nearly 10 years - both 26 now. Had on/off relationship now and again. Last ... A: unless you can see each other at least once a month, or there's a definitive plan to be together ... | |
| Falling for an unavailable man | 10/11/2008 |
| Q: I have been seeing a guy I really like for several months. I had known him for a year through mutual ... A: being the more involved, needier one isn't the preferable position; he's offering to participate in ... | |
| ADVICE ABOUT DIFFICULT RELATIONSHIP | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: Greetings, I have been dating this beautiful girl for 4 months, everything has been working more or ... A: getting mad or complaining about not getting what you "deserve", isn't the best approach; you can't ... | |
| Potential trip with boyfriend. | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: I'm (almost) 19, I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years and neither of us has had sex ... A: in this case, the rewards outweigh the low risk; the parents' chances of finding out are slim; as ... | |
| why can't I let go???/ | 10/5/2008 |
| Q: this guy I'm seeing is 36 and is like a big kid with no responsibilities, one day he's fine and ... A: probably just insecurity/low self-esteem; you need to INFORM him that either he gets the help he ... | |
| New addition | 9/27/2008 |
| Q: I go on AllExperts all the time, I think it's great, I also do a bit of volunteering myself for some ... A: relaxed, confident, secure, trumps the opposites; stop worryin about the guy--it's only if/when she ... | |
| HOW TO HANDLE THE GIRL OF MY DREAMS? | 9/26/2008 |
| Q: Greetings, Let me start on the beginning... Three months ago I met a beautiful young girl at a ... A: the "present" issues are really more "future" insecurities, as it appears time spent together, if ... | |
| HOW TO HANDLE THE GIRL OF MY DREAMS? | 9/26/2008 |
| Q: Greetings, Let me start on the beginning... Three months ago I met a beautiful young girl at a ... A: need more info--how often do you see her?..what does the time together consist of?..is it an ... | |
| my best friend | 9/26/2008 |
| Q: three weeks ago my best friend told me that he is dating another woman. we've been friends for over ... A: it's a learning experience--it was a mistake to get so involved with someone you didn't even date; ... | |
| moved in with Widower | 9/25/2008 |
| Q: Two 1/2 years ago I met a wonderful guy. He had been widowed for one year when we met. His wife of ... A: once you begin living together, the incentive to marry, especially when older, wanes; i doubt at ... | |
| How to get out of a troubled marriage.... | 9/8/2008 |
| Q: ... I have been in a relationship with my husband since I was 16 years old (I am now 37)We have ... A: as we saw with OJ, no guarantees as to "safety", nor can i offer particulars as to departure plans, ... | |
| problems with my boyfriend | 9/4/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is 23 and I am 20. I love him with all my heart ... A: 3 different issues, and they all point to a relationship you'd be better off out of; the drug thing ... | |
| How to get over the beginning of our relationship | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for around a year now (the start date is a little ambiguous) and we ... A: some things to consider; a) you might want to consider counseling, as there are some underlying ... | |
| Tempted to cheat | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: I came into the world of dating rather late in life, having been shy and antisocial as a youth/teen. ... A: you've touched upon a universal problem affecting most males at one time or another that have ever ... | |
| Boyfriend's with part time jobs | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: So some background information to help you understand. July 2007 my boyfriend broke his foot. His ... A: he doesn't clean up, make a SERIOUS effort to get a job, because he's lazy and because you've ... | |
| Is this the end? | 8/15/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 25 year old female, red hair, white complexion. My boyfriend of 6 months is 21 he has a crew ... A: the reality is, MOST people are on dating sites because they have an interest in meeting/seeing ... | |
| Is it possible to get back with my ex? | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: So, I basically ruined my relationship. I was going through a really hard time in my life. PTSD, ... A: this isn't the relationship to put all your hopes/expectations in--you have issues with distance, ... | |
| Wise or not? | 8/5/2008 |
| Q: I've dated off and on the last four years, having a real problem on my end since my divorce with ... A: as a general guideline, not dating co-workers is a reasonable practice, but i would remain open to ... | |
| Long distance releationship | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: I'll try to make this brief. I met a girl on vacation on June 28th in the upper peninsula of ... A: i doubt either of those approaches will work; it's only been a month, and you have big logistical ... | |
| To move or not to move | 7/31/2008 |
| Q: I have struggled with it terribly on my own. I am currently in a relationship with a man that I ... A: five years of then dating, plus 6 months now, appears to be sufficient time/experience to ascertain ... | |
| I feel awful | 7/14/2008 |
| Q: My problem starts like this: a month and a half ago I got out of a long term relationship. The whole ... A: love, boyfriend, relationship, after 5 days...?..let's not confuse the euphoria that occurs upon an ... | |
| Dating woes! | 7/9/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating a wonderful guy for about a month now. I'm 21, he's 20. He is amazing to me, and ... A: relax; it's only been a month, you're both quite young, and just getting to know each other; plus, ... | |
| Starting to Date | 7/8/2008 |
| Q: My name is Jason and I am a 24 year old guy. I met this girl at the bar about a month ago. We ... A: lower expectations, don't chase, show no neediness, cool it down, stay in touch but leave room for ... | |
| Relationship Question | 7/5/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have roughly being going out for 2.5 years. In the beginning he had a problem ... A: lesson 1: never give up true friends just to give in to the demands of an insecure ... | |
| Is it bad to "NEED" the person you love? | 7/2/2008 |
| Q: My name is Mallory and I am currently in a relationship that has become pretty serious. I'm falling ... A: both positions may be understandable, plus, you're dealings with words that can be ambiguous, so ... | |
| my boyfriends friend who is a girl is too touchy feely | 6/30/2008 |
| Q: I have a problem with my boyfriend and one of his girlfriends being too touchy feely towards each ... A: i'm not there so i can't objectively observe/evaluate the behaviors you mention; if you've already ... | |
| dating a boy with a baby... | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: ). I am a 24 year old woman dating a 26 year old man with a one year old daughter. We have not dated ... A: agreed--too many sources, and views, of love/affection will be the LEAST of the kid's problems, ... | |
| Is that a no? | 6/25/2008 |
| Q: need a date for a dinner party so I called up a guy I haven't spoken to in over a year last night ... A: not necessarily--you never said when the party was--call again, say or leave message that if he ... | |
| What is going on with him is it porn? | 6/24/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating/living with my boyfriend now for almost 2 years. We both got into our ... A: being the needier one isn't the position you want to be in; this guy knows it, has gotten totally ... | |
| dating | 6/8/2008 |
| Q: she says she does not want a relationship yet she does not want me to go out with anyone else and ... A: forget the semantics, you're both IN a relationship, and exclusivity is a HUGE commitment; the only ... | |
| GirlFriend Problem | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: me and my girl went out since she was 15 and i was 18. we went out for three and a half years and ... A: unfortunately, most people aren't with one person from 16 to 60--don't know ages but i'm sure you're ... | |
| Do actions speak louder than words? | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: Sup, i've been dating a 27 y/o for 4months, spents alot of time together, introduced me to his ... A: relax--it's been 4 months, not 4 years; and, nothing is preventing you from saying that you really ... | |
| boyfriend help | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: k so ive been dating this guy for almost 8 months and im in love with him but he has changed. he ... A: people can change, along with their feelings--that doesn't mean you have to accept what displeases ... | |
| Pls advise me | 5/26/2008 |
| Q: i have a problem which i hope u can help me. i am 28 years old and i've known my boyfriend for ... A: time to wake up; the guy has been jerkin you around for a long time; his behavior should never have ... | |
| My Girlfriend has an older "friend" | 5/21/2008 |
| Q: Am I out of touch or unresonable? My Girlfriend has an older "friend" he is 80 she is 40 I am 48. ... A: it depends--if she is without a doubt "bilking" him, then your complaint on ethical/moral grounds is ... | |
| Fear of rejection | 5/20/2008 |
| Q: I'm involved in a strange thing with this guy. We go to the same college (we're both 23 years old), ... A: a) what you have IS a relationship; b)..i wouldn't put alot of credence on alcohol-influenced ... | |
| Dating | 5/15/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend of three and half years recently broke up with me. I am 6mnths pregnant with his first ... A: it's over--the only thing left to do is stay in the present, live your life..unfortunately, no ... | |
| Girlfriend or Just Friends | 5/5/2008 |
| Q: she has a 2 year old son. We are very similar in almost every way I can think of (hobbies, music, ... A: nothing ventured, nothing gained..sometimes you have to risk something to gain something; you can ... | |
| relationship advice | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: I'm going through a rough patch in my relationship and I really don't know if it is normal or the ... A: you have enough issues to consider counseling, especially when they begin to adversely affect your ... | |
| prologue | 4/17/2008 |
| Q: What would you do if you found yourself communicating online with an interesting man who bills ... A: people are "tested" all the time, and most everyone would make for an interesting chapter in a book ... | |
| wake up call | 4/16/2008 |
| Q: soory it kinda long but i thought you needed to know some backgroun on the situation. My boyfriend ... A: you're letting your emotions run wild here; you've known the guy for 4 months, it's been primarily a ... | |
| Hot for teacher? | 4/13/2008 |
| Q: Hello. I'm Tom, a senior at a fine Texas university. I apologize for the length of this message, ... A: refreshingly well-written--i essentially agree with your analysis; alot of "hat" here, but whether ... | |
| I don't get it. | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: I just moved 1500 miles to be with a man i love very much. We have had people cheat on us before so ... A: of course not---actually, it may be time to reconsider your decision of being down there..anyone ... | |
| girlfriend kissing someone else | 3/17/2008 |
| Q: ok im 21 years old and I am with my girlfriend , we've been together for about 6 months, and i love ... A: everything is forgiveable if you're willing to forgive; don't get too hung up on the kiss at the ... | |
| I want to be with her but she's engaged | 3/17/2008 |
| Q: Hey Azure. Sorry if this is a bit long. I've known this girl for around three or four years now and ... A: can't hurt to tell her your feelings, but, after that, UNLESS she feels similarly, it's time to step ... | |
| Should I stay engaged | 3/13/2008 |
| Q: I am in need of counseling and really can't go to any friends with this for fear of how they will ... A: it takes TWO people to maintain any communication; i have no problem with ex'es being friends, but ... | |
| Dating a man with many girl friends | 2/27/2008 |
| Q: I recently started seeing a guy, we have been out on four dates and have been having a lot of fun ... A: certainly asking what the difference is can be a valid question--for all you know, having sex may ... | |
| how can I tell if a friendship is more than friendship | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: My story starts almost nine years ago. I had a relationship with someone who I got along great with, ... A: he has a main squeeze, and is seeing you, sex included, on the side; you've made things pretty ... | |
| What to write in a message to this girl | 2/20/2008 |
| Q: There is this girl I'm kind of interested in.I am from Nigeria in Africa, and when we were there, we ... A: just say you want to remain friends and get to know her better, then just ask for whatever info you ... | |
| Verbal Affection | 2/19/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for about four months and things have been going really well. Me (I'm ... A: there's only 2 choices, and neither are great; the first is to tell him how you feel, but then if he ... | |
| confused by him | 2/16/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating this guy for about a month, and I'm confused about how much he is into me. We hang ... A: beware of the too intense beginnings--they tend to burn out later...no real "normal", but preferable ... | |
| confused by him | 2/15/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating this guy for about a month, and I'm confused about how much he is into me. We hang ... A: yes...it's only been a month of casual dating, not a committed 1 year relationship; having alot of ... | |
| Commitment | 2/7/2008 |
| Q: I need your advice ... my boyfriend is 50 and I am 48. We have been dating for 7 years. We have ... A: not sure what you mean "holding over", but though i generally agree with your reasoning, which you ... | |
| does he likes me? | 2/1/2008 |
| Q: I am 23 years old and have had few very short term relationships in the past.I was the one to break ... A: the words, smooth talk, mean little, and as you're seeing, can work to get your emotions too ... | |
| 2 months | 1/29/2008 |
| Q: "i've been dating a guy for a little over 2 months. what should i expect for a 2 month ... A: there's no rule; no need to talk daily; as to frequency, 2 days isn't unusual--2 months isn't very ... | |
| My past interfering with y relationsip | 1/11/2008 |
| Q: I am in a relationship and have been for amost a year now. I love my boyfriend dearly and wiht all ... A: this is all on him--his anxieties/insecurities, probably spill over into controlling, jealous ... | |
| where to go from here? | 1/4/2008 |
| Q: I'm 21 and I have been seeing a man that is 30. I know 9 years seems like a huge step, but we are ... A: unless there's an agreement of exclusivity, you both are free to meet/date others if you choose to; ... | |
| Long time relationship issue. 5 years no spark | 12/20/2007 |
| Q: I know after 5 years in a relationship you shouldn't expect there to be much of a spark. Instead you ... A: welcome to one of the difficult yet common roadblocks facing many relationships, and ESPECIALLY the ... | |
| dating problem | 12/19/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating a girl for 3 months we are both 21. I am divorced and she is legally seperated ... A: it doesn't have to be that black and white; tell her certainly you would hope they could still keep ... | |
| Seriously confused | 12/18/2007 |
| Q: We met on an online dating site (we hit it off immediately) about a week before Halloween and we've ... A: what on earth were you thinking??..here's a guy you hardly even saw, hardly even knew, and you leave ... | |
| Could this friendship turn into a relationship? | 12/17/2007 |
| Q: Okay, so there's this friend of mine right, we haven’t seen each other in a long time because he ... A: your emotions are leading you away from reality; essentially you have 2 examples of alcohol-aided ... | |
| Boyfriend's Ex | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: I've been dating a guy for over a year. Early into our relationship my bf told me that he was still ... A: tricky situation; while it is healthy to be friends with ex'es, there can be a thin line between ... | |
| what am i supposed to do | 12/8/2007 |
| Q: I have been having a relationship with a very good friend now for several months. We have known ... A: time to ask yourself if this is really how you want to live; the reality is, he'll be more than ... | |
| Girlfriends Ex boyfriend | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: My question is this. I have been dating this girl for about 5 months now. We are getting very ... A: either you trust her or you don't; hopefully you'll be included in all this, be able to meet him, ... | |
| What should I do | 11/28/2007 |
| Q: "I been with my bf for 3 years im 21 he's 23 and one day i accused him falsely of cheating on me ... A: where's your self-esteem?..the guy isn't very into you, is blatantly seeing others, and has asked ... | |
| ??? | 11/28/2007 |
| Q: Hey, So I am a little ashamed of myself, first of all my question is going to sound like the ... A: i'm thinkin it's my turn to invite HER somewhere, like dinner; if she declines using the boyfriend ... | |
| My fiance flips when we run into women from my past | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: My fiance and I are a young (23), attractive, popular couple. Im not trying to toot my own horn but ... A: she has an insecurity issue to deal with; ideally, this is cured by increasing self-esteem (many ... | |
| Second chance with your ex | 11/21/2007 |
| Q: so here is the background information I'm 18 and my ex and i dated for ten months before she broke ... A: i doubt it can ruin it--it's not like you're gonna jump on her; i just think things sometimes are ... | |
| Second chance with your ex | 11/21/2007 |
| Q: so here is the background information I'm 18 and my ex and i dated for ten months before she broke ... A: you said you went to the movies..isn't that asking her out?..you're already spending time ... | |
| sex and dating | 11/10/2007 |
| Q: I just recently got out of a verbally abusive relationship. @ the time I was trying to "make Greg go ... A: i've already helped--the answer is the same...if you had ASKED that, i would have told you that ... | |
| sex and dating | 11/10/2007 |
| Q: I just recently got out of a verbally abusive relationship. @ the time I was trying to "make Greg go ... A: there's no magic answer; one difficulty is there's no real good way of predicting how a guy will act ... | |
| Important question | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: I am 21 years old have been seeing this guy who is 25 years old, from my son's barbershop for about ... A: you're not in the best situation; it's like getting the steak at the local restaurant for free since ... | |
| My girlfriend habitualy lies to me | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: I am crazy about this girl but I have caught her lying to me on a couple occasions. There are not ... A: actually by giving her her the stated options of lieing or not, it would be HER who decides if the ... | |
| Need some advice | 10/31/2007 |
| Q: A few months ago, I ended my relationship with my boyfriend. We had been together for 6 years and ... A: the deal is, if a guy is interested, he'll ask you out; stop initiating communication--that's HIS ... | |
| How to get her back? | 10/25/2007 |
| Q: I’m 24 and been going out with a girl who is 19 for 2 years and a half.. We used to live in the same ... A: as you see, the approach i suggested is working, though you've gotten limited results because your ... | |
| 3 months | 10/17/2007 |
| Q: i've been going out with a guy for 3 months. i actually met him online. he is now off. in his ... A: he appears to have made it clear that he doesn't want an exclusive arrangement; after 3 months, it's ... | |
| 9 months.. | 10/9/2007 |
| Q: I am 24 my boyfriend of now 9 months (which we have lived together for almost a year) is 32. He is a ... A: some of the stuff you mentioned might be changeable, some not; the only way to find out is to have ... | |
| Asking a man out | 9/29/2007 |
| Q: Why do they generally say it is a bad idea for a woman to ask a man for his phone number and why is ... A: 1. because generally speaking, a guy is set-up to do the asking--if he's interested; if he hasn't ... | |
| How to get her back? | 9/17/2007 |
| Q: I’m 24 and been going out with a girl who is 19 for 2 years and a half.. We used to live in the same ... A: i don't recommend the "friends" thing unless/until both people are emotionally neutral--she is, ... | |
| Game Over? | 9/16/2007 |
| Q: I am rarely attracted to anyone, but have usually had a boyfriend over the years (many...I'm ... A: he's playing the game, but you're on the bench; actually, once he didn't call after date 1, you were ... | |
| Decisions, Decisions.. | 9/14/2007 |
| Q: I work at a gas station in a small town, and when I started working there, I met one of my manager's ... A: "butterflies" aren't the source of good decision-making, nor are insecurities; this thing with scott ... | |
| confused | 9/3/2007 |
| Q: i have dated a guy for two years.he used to act strange and he would vary from being aloof and ... A: you're giving him exactly what he wants--casual no strings sex without commitment--and chances are ... | |
| Wish I could make it better... I feel so confused and powerless! | 8/30/2007 |
| Q: I'm hoping you can help me figure this out and make things better. Someone outside the situation ... A: friday you should do nothing; if you have ANY amount of self-esteem, you won't hang around "on the ... | |
| If we're "Just Friends" now, Can I still ask her out 4 years later? | 8/15/2007 |
| Q: I am a 19 year old guy, and so is this girl. We're both in Sophomore year of college. I reall like ... A: that's a pretty weird question joshua; ANYTHING can happen in 4 years--no way to predict how'll ... | |
| Unlucky or lucky discovery? | 8/15/2007 |
| Q: im 23 years old (f). i've been together with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. A few days ago, i ... A: alot of people keep stuff relating to those that were special in their lives; really, no big deal, ... | |
| should i give us a chance | 8/7/2007 |
| Q: I am a girl living in the UK. I met a guy in May and we have been dating for 2 months. Then we slept ... A: as you said, much too early to be analyzing such futuristic matters, unless someone indicates a ... | |
| my relationship | 8/3/2007 |
| Q: I really hope you can see my questions that I previously asked and had answered. if not here is a ... A: i think it's never good for a guy to appear needy, insecure, dependent, weak; girls like a guy to be ... | |
| Shy Boyfriend. | 8/1/2007 |
| Q: I've been seeing a wonderful man for nearly six months. He is a great match for me, and I feel very ... A: inform him that the situation is no longer acceptlable, and that a truly open, honest dialog leading ... | |
| dating someone after they have lost a loved one | 8/1/2007 |
| Q: I've been seeing guy for about a month now. His girl friend was killed in a plan crash about 7 ... A: i wouldn't recommend this amount of interaction even WITHOUT the loss, and ESPECIALLY with it; ... | |
| How should I ask? | 7/30/2007 |
| Q: I go to a pretty small art class, and there's this girl that takes a class after mines so I only see ... A: you don't have alot of options..first, think "no risk, no reward.." your only choice is to go up to ... | |
| Good luck w/ this one | 7/25/2007 |
| Q: My dad has been a Army Officer since 1988. That meant a life of constant travel for me and my mom. ... A: first, you need to realize that kids grow up, feelings change, lives take different paths; obviously ... | |
| only NOW | 7/20/2007 |
| Q: . i never thought i would be asking advice on this but here it goes. I'm a 20yo swf, i have a good ... A: hey there chloe--will it help to know that MANY are in the same boat?..i know it may not change how ... | |
| Does he really care or is he playing? | 7/12/2007 |
| Q: I ve been in a relationship for 6 months, but I am still not sure where is it going to. My boyfriend ... A: time to look at the reality, which is he obviously isn't into this as much as you are; if he REALLY ... | |
| lonley heart and the boyfriend next door. | 7/12/2007 |
| Q: im currently in a relationship thats going on three years. im 23, my boyfriend is 32. he works m-f ... A: "foolish" is putting it mildly--you're wasting precious time and giving up all pride/self-esteem for ... | |
| Is the passion gone? | 7/10/2007 |
| Q: I met this really nice guy from online dating, about 2 months ago, who's 28 and i am 30. We chatted ... A: don't buy into the "stress" excuse; actually the barometer is quite simple--if he's interested, ... | |
| ??? | 7/10/2007 |
| Q: I'm 19 and I turn 20 in November. There is this guy I'm really interested in dating but he is 29 and ... A: there's NO WAY "daddy" will allow this, and i don't exactly blame him; you have essentially a crush ... | |
| long distance woes | 7/8/2007 |
| Q: I traveled out of state for work to provide training at a site that I don't frequent often. I had ... A: i think that after all this time, you still have the same issues as before; he's far away, you ... | |
| My 4 year relationship and our sex life | 7/3/2007 |
| Q: I'm Alex and I've been with my girlfriend for four years now. We have known each other since ... A: it's a major problem that needs to be made a priority; usually a non-intimate relationship is a ... | |
| Confused - she wont talk to me? | 6/26/2007 |
| Q: Im confused. Me and my girlfriend met a few months before I went overseas. We broke up due to ... A: your concerns appear reasonable, considering i have only your side of the story..her lack of ... | |
| what is your opinion | 6/24/2007 |
| Q: I met this wonderful man in Hawaii, we both were working at a personal growth seminar. We clicked, ... A: and there lies the essence of the problem.."tech communication", while creating interesting ... | |
| Inconvenience! | 6/22/2007 |
| Q: This is just a rather general dilemma. First of all, I'm 19 and I've been single for five months ... A: sounds like he's only asking for a casual date, and i doubt most guys consider a woman's being ... | |
| Ugh | 6/22/2007 |
| Q: I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 20. We've been together over two years. Lately, he's not been saying "I ... A: or he just doesn't want to displease her; perhaps she said something to him about it recently; at ... | |
| dancin on the moon.. | 6/19/2007 |
| Q: I'm currently in a new relationship with a guy for about a month now. We were dating for the 3 ... A: re; communication w/ ex, do you know the basis for the interaction?..if it's not overly frequent or ... | |
| how do i know | 6/7/2007 |
| Q: I am 29 yrs old, my recent boyfriend for 5.5 years is 6 yrs younger then me. I met him when he ... A: time to come to terms with reality--it's over; he's at LEAST too immature, and at most, not very ... | |
| stuck and unsure...do i say yes or no? | 5/26/2007 |
| Q: I have a very hard decision to make and I was hoping maybe you can give me some advice to help me ... A: a) he did alot of bad, inconsiderate, abusive stuff when seeing you, then broke up; b) he didn't ... | |
| so confused | 5/23/2007 |
| Q: I was dating a man I really loved and admired. He was very good to me and very affectionate and ... A: certainly possible another woman is the cause, but again, whatever the case, the result is the same; ... | |
| Relationship worth continuing? | 5/18/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my girlfriend ten months now, and I am starting to have doubts about whether I ... A: first off, it would be a good idea to give her a copy of your question--or at least you should ... | |
| How can I explain strip club to my gf? | 5/15/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 32 year old man and have been to strip club with friends a few years ago out of curiosity when ... A: people have different moral codes as to what's right and wrong; i doubt anything you can say will ... | |
| What Am I? | 5/7/2007 |
| Q: Azure, I have been seeing this guy for a little less than 3 months, 2 weekends ago he asked me to ... A: only HE knows the real reasons for bein a jerk--but we BOTH need to know that if he were truly ... | |
| time to face reality.. | 5/6/2007 |
| Q: Not sure where to go from here.....My boyfriend broke up with me 4 weeks ago. We had been together ... A: whatever you decide, you need to stop the "friends with benefits" deal; first off you're not really ... | |
| Anxiety over relationship | 5/4/2007 |
| Q: Azure, I've been seeing this guy for 2 1/2 months now. Things have been really good for the most ... A: neither; you have no evidence that anything is "wrong", but the anxiety can't be over "nothing"; ... | |
| i'm confused | 5/3/2007 |
| Q: i'm so confused right now. me and my girl friend have been dating for a few month's. were both in ... A: i can understand her desire for space, freedom, experience, but doing exactly the same things makes ... | |
| In the shadow of the last ex | 4/30/2007 |
| Q: I have a great amazing boyfriend, I just want to get that out the way. I have never gotten along ... A: enough is enough; i'd tell him you've HAD it with his references, pre-occupation with the past, and ... | |
| Moving fast and am scared because of some of her behavior and viewpoints | 4/22/2007 |
| Q: I am on here because I am in a relationship right now that is pretty crazy and moving fast. I am ... A: in the first incident, going up and hassling the guy was out of line; your issue was with her, and ... | |
| being out | 4/19/2007 |
| Q: I work two jobs, have a son that lives 45 min from me. I have a live in girl friend. How can i ... A: you don't have to do anything you don't want to..explain it to her as you did to me...if you feel ... | |
| questions | 4/15/2007 |
| Q: ok so I have a few personal/embarrassing questions, so if you could help me at all i would really ... A: 1. a blow job is where you suck his dick like a popsicle, taking it in your mouth and moving your ... | |
| Thinking about my ex | 4/9/2007 |
| Q: I don't know what I'm doing even pursuing or entertaining these thoughts, but I am in a pickle! I ... A: your interest in being friends is reasonable, but there are some issues; first, real friendships ... | |
| Ex issues | 4/7/2007 |
| Q: I would like to get some advice regarding my relationship with my ex, and I'd like an outsider's ... A: i don't see it as a healthy situation--it's really more of a co-dependent arrangement than a real ... | |
| confused | 4/6/2007 |
| Q: my name is derek i'm a 20 year old male. i'm in the military and i'm about to deploy to qatar. ... A: there's not alot you can do except rely on the fact that she wants to be with YOU; if she decides ... | |
| Trying to Understand | 4/4/2007 |
| Q: This might be a little long… I’m a 23/f and about 6 weeks ago I met this guy through a friend, who ... A: he knows what he wants, a casual, no commitment dating arrangement that includes sex; the real ... | |
| Confused about my ex? | 4/3/2007 |
| Q: My ex gf broke up with my 6 months ago after dating for a year b/c she couldn't trust me anymore. I ... A: the real question is, why is your self-esteem so low that you're allowing her to jerk you ... | |
| Awkward moment | 4/2/2007 |
| Q: So I had a slightly awkward date and need some advice. For beginners, I am not very good at dating. ... A: "salvage.."??...there's nothing you did that you should have to worry about; you're certainly not in ... | |
| relationships | 4/1/2007 |
| Q: I am at a bit of a loose end, I hope you can help. Iv been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 2 ... A: and you gave up school for this??..unfortunately, of the 2 of you, you're the more dependent, needy, ... | |
| Dating a Widower | 3/28/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating a widower for 8 months. We met on a dating site. Didn't know at the time it was ... A: tough question; dead or alive, his heart is still with another woman; until if/when that changes, i ... | |
| Relationship help | 3/13/2007 |
| Q: But this other girl has a man already and dont know if she is interested in breaking up with ... A: doesn't make alot of difference--your girlfriend is unhappy, you're not really into her--that needs ... | |
| So confused! | 2/26/2007 |
| Q: First I want to apologize for the long letter. I'm 23 years old and my boyfriend is 23. I just broke ... A: make a "mistake" by leaving?? the real question is why is your self-esteem so low and neediness so ... | |
| Closing one, opening another | 2/13/2007 |
| Q: Hey there, I am current involoved in a relationship that has been for 7 years (on and off). I love ... A: the next step is obvious; if you're not happy in the relationship, it needs to end; you can't spend ... | |
| boyfriend issues | 2/8/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend of two years has recently chosen a religion that has convined him that sex is nothing ... A: let's see--a past of physical abuse, no more sex, but still booze/drugs, and TOTALLY different ... | |
| Trust | 1/29/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend of over 4 years has BIG trust issues. I have done NOTHING to make him not trust me. I ... A: he's like that because he has low self-esteem and high insecurity; the long term solution would be ... | |
| Relationship with a child involved. | 1/26/2007 |
| Q: He has her on the weekends but if other relatives wants to spend time with her he gives up his time ... A: it's unusual that he'd have her EVERY weekend; that could be a problem, as weekend time is quality ... | |
| Relationship with a child involved. | 1/26/2007 |
| Q: my boyfriend and I been officially dating a month but I have been around for a few months longer. ... A: i don't agree with his comment; a 10 yr old can understand the difference between dating and engaged ... | |
| I am "just a friend" | 1/25/2007 |
| Q: I have this guy that I adore, "James". I have known him my whole life as we grew up across the ... A: real romance occurs naturally, not thru negotiation or with one person "convincing" the other; all ... | |
| am I crazy? | 1/23/2007 |
| Q: I met a guy in Nov. 05 He seemed very interested in me. I didn't date him until march 06. He claimed ... A: if you're "crazy", it would only be because you didn't get out of this mess LONG AGO; this never ... | |
| sex issues | 1/20/2007 |
| Q: it makes a lot of sense. In addition, I have talked to him since I first sent you the question and ... A: and still doesn't sensitively address your feelings..there's a happy medium between too much and too ... | |
| Break Up Help | 1/19/2007 |
| Q: Ok, so much has happened to me the last few months. I was with a guy named James for 3 years. I ... A: most break-ups don't have clear cut reasons; the bottom line is the same--it's over; you need to ... | |
| sex issues | 1/19/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He's going to be 21 in August and I'm 19. We ... A: being intimate in a healthy relationship doesn't just go "on hold" because someone is distracted by ... | |
| living together before marriage | 1/18/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years, and are both sure that we are the ones ... A: in my opinion, living together IS essentially being married, minus the ceremony/party; many times, ... | |
| real or fake | 1/10/2007 |
| Q: "I've been dating a guy 3 weeks now who says he has no gf. We've had sex once about a week ago and ... A: he's got you into the casual sex slot; ask him for his phone no since you might like to call him ... | |
| How can i get him back? | 1/8/2007 |
| Q: We were together for almost two years.I'll give you a summary of our relationship.WE great together ... A: why are you so needy/insecure, that you'd change "anything" to keep him??..if you're not "good ... | |
| Relationship | 1/8/2007 |
| Q: I have been seeing someone for over a year. We are not in a physical relationship. He has has some ... A: sounds more like an involuntary co-existence rather than a relationship; to see someone for all that ... | |
| In love with my best friend | 12/30/2006 |
| Q: I am 21 and have been best friends with a man who is the same age as me for almost 4 years. I have ... A: getting out with some semblance of self-esteem is the only way; the guy has selfishly jerked you ... | |
| Is there hope | 12/22/2006 |
| Q: I have been with the same girl since Aug 2004. A little over 1 year ago, I cheated on her with my ... A: sounds like 2 people who got too comfortable/complacent, not appreciating the other as before; you ... | |
| so confused :( | 12/17/2006 |
| Q: SO this situation is eating away at me and I need someone's advice on what the hell is going on ... A: the source of your confusion is the lack of open, honest communication between you and him; if you ... | |
| What to do | 12/6/2006 |
| Q: I am in a relationship of 4 years and we are living together. We're both in our early twenties. I ... A: there'a a reason for everything; as to the SPECIFIC reason, that's not easily found; sounds like a ... | |
| The Ex that just won't go away. | 12/4/2006 |
| Q: I've been seeing someone for about 2 months. Their previous relationship ended in July of this past ... A: a couple of issues here; your invading his privacy is no better than his deceit; people shouldn't be ... | |
| Am I fooling myself (again)? | 11/30/2006 |
| Q: I'm a professional woman who met a great guy from a Scandinavian country living and working here in ... A: things naturally move forward, or not, on their own, so it's best to stay in the present; not sure ... | |
| ........ | 11/28/2006 |
| Q: I don know if I've asked you any questions in the past...but I know I've asked a few other people ... A: your not letting go of this is destroying your enjoyment of what should be a great time in your ... | |
| Time Limit | 11/26/2006 |
| Q: He just says he isnt ready to move back in and wants to be sure things are good with us before does. ... A: figure out what your committment requirements are, NOW, for continuing, inform him, if he blows you ... | |
| future relationship? | 11/25/2006 |
| Q: no i'm not seeing anyone and it isn't because of him that we're separating. this guy isn't dating ... A: it's still a little unclear if "separating" means your THROUGH seeing him, but i'll assume it means ... | |
| the ultimate bachelor who is terrified of commitment | 11/24/2006 |
| Q: I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is a year and a half younger than me. We have dated for a year ... A: he's laid it out for you; dating, on HIS terms, no commitment, just vague innuendo of coming ... | |
| I Cheated on him | 11/18/2006 |
| Q: I cheated on my boyfriend of 3 years. At the time I was in a bad place in my life. My career was ... A: should have gotten this resolved before you moved in; he needs to take some responsibility for ... | |
| why my boyfriend has such weird behavior | 11/8/2006 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have known each other for about three years. we have been dating for about two ... A: not weird at all; he's a guy, not interested in commitment, and you've allowed this freedom to ... | |
| does he like me? | 11/1/2006 |
| Q: he said maybe to one and hasn't said anything about the other...the maybe event is still 3 weeks ... A: so you play it cool and see what happens..if he's interested, he'll go to at least one, maybe the ... | |
| Are we stepping out of friends with benefits and don't realize it? | 10/30/2006 |
| Q: I recently decided to start talking to a friend of mine that I have known for over two years. We are ... A: interesting question--to me this FWB deal, to be REALLY that, has to put together 2 people who enjoy ... | |
| HELP WITH RELATIONSHIP | 10/29/2006 |
| Q: AZURE, HI, I AM SEARCHING FOR SOME HELP IN MY CURRENT RELATION OF ALMOST 11 YEARS. MY PROBLEM IS ... A: why do you call him "fiancee" if he hasn't married you in 11 years?..in any case, the bottom line is ... | |
| friends with benefits? | 10/23/2006 |
| Q: I am 20 and in college...I just got out of a long 4 yr relationship about a year ago and am not ... A: telling someone how to kiss is like telling them how to walk--you just do what feels natural; as to ... | |
| My boyfriend lost his job...what should I do? | 10/20/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and things were going really good, and then he got ... A: as to talking to him, you just do it--if you substitute fear of hurt feelings for honesty, nothing ... | |
| Kissing & Sex | 10/20/2006 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship now for about a year with my girlfriend. In the first few months we ... A: i would need to talk to her and get her to HONESTLY respond, to answer your question; but the ... | |
| a "break" | 10/18/2006 |
| Q: Ok i'm going to start with the story right away. I've been going out with this girl(Cynthia) for ... A: a little of both--no one can predict the future, and no guy should sit on the sidelines waiting to ... | |
| Totally confused my boyfriend | 10/16/2006 |
| Q: I've recently come out of a 4 year relationship. My relationship ended quite badly, I was hurt by ... A: not sure it's a matter of trust--seems more like mixed signals; first, you can't blame the ex for ... | |
| Dating profile. | 10/16/2006 |
| Q: Recently I joined Australia’s largest singles network. I upload the profile at ... A: not crazy about the pic..the "smile" has sinister overtones; as to the profile, sounds like you're ... | |
| asking him out | 10/14/2006 |
| Q: The thing I'm worried about is that he will also be intimidated by the whole boyfriend/girlfriend ... A: as a senior, he should have some idea that if you like a girl you ask her out--if he can't even do ... | |
| Just friends? | 10/12/2006 |
| Q: About 3 months ago I met someone online and we started to go out, about a month later we were ... A: time waits for no one, and neither should you; the guy has cleverly given you "some version" of the ... | |
| long distance | 10/12/2006 |
| Q: hey, me and my girlfriend have been a long distance relationship for 9 months now and visit each ... A: there's no way to really know; in such cases, it make more sense for you not to worry about it, if ... | |
| dating an Ex | 10/10/2006 |
| Q: We chose to work it out by going on dates once a week on friday and quality time on thursday, we ... A: typical "no conscience" guy behavior; nothing's being "worked out" he's essentially stringing you ... | |
| growing apart | 10/2/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my bf for 3 years.We had a good relationship and we were so close together.Hes 28 ... A: seeing him 2/3 times a week isn't the problem, as spaces in your togetherness are healthy, as well ... | |
| Now What? | 10/1/2006 |
| Q: Well, we do have very good conversations, and he has dones little things that were nice, like cook ... A: as i suspected; sounds like he has it EXACTLY as he wants, with all the comforts and little ... | |
| GOING OUT TO A CLUB | 9/27/2006 |
| Q: My man and I have problems when one of us wants to go out to a club with friends. We've been ... A: he acts that way because he's selfish, inconsiderate, controlling...essentially a jerk; you can't do ... | |
| relationship | 9/24/2006 |
| Q: I AM talking about moving forward in a relationship(moving in together etc) He said that he always ... A: not sure he needs any "help", nor do you need to look very far for "signs" of his position; he ... | |
| Dating Etiquette | 9/20/2006 |
| Q: I don't understand the rules of dating. At what point do you stop accepting invitations to date ... A: it's entirely up to you; you only become exclusive when you decide you don't have an interest in ... | |
| Confused | 9/14/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for a year. Lately, she has been having some family issues and I ... A: "family" issues shouldn't lead to disinterest on her part; it wouldn't be a stretch to assume some ... | |
| Relationship issues | 9/14/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating my current girlfriend for almost 6 months. I will cute straight to the chase. I ... A: definitely; your insecurities and related attempts to control will only lead to her frustration, ... | |
| Anxious & Confused | 9/12/2006 |
| Q: I’m in a dating situation that I’m confused about and would like some input from you. For one, you ... A: 1. it would have helped knowing your ages and how many dates you've actually been on, but here goes; ... | |
| masturbation | 9/10/2006 |
| Q: I've been dateing my girlfriend for a little over 2 years. our Sex dropped a lot in the past 6 ... A: i'd be, especially if you're interested in a happy, healthy relationship; it's only serving to move ... | |
| Is it an 'age thing'? | 9/9/2006 |
| Q: I've had my eye on a girl that works at a restaurant I frequent for about a year and developed an ... A: 1. give her one more call--lv your number; 2. why not?..she DID provide the number;3. reasonable ... | |
| psychology of attraction | 9/6/2006 |
| Q: this is a bit of a psychology one thats almost driving me crazy. although im a psycholgoist you ... A: a tad confusing, but i think i get the gist of it; generally, the more attractive one perceives ... | |
| Loose weight | 9/2/2006 |
| Q: How can i ask my girl to loose weight in a nice way without hurting her feeling. A: first, you need to be in a real relationship, not just a few weeks of dating; then you could say ... | |
| ? | 8/31/2006 |
| Q: What do you do when you have a boyfriend who blames everyone but himself? Meaning he thinks ... A: you either put up with it or inform him that the behavior is no longer acceptable and needs to ... | |
| in love with a friend | 8/28/2006 |
| Q: I'm hoping you may have some advice for me. I'll start out with some background info. I'm 25. I have ... A: interesting--well written; considering what you said, i think the risk/reward on this leads to your ... | |
| What does a | 8/24/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating this girl for 5 years. We get along great, have a lot of fun when we do things, ... A: first off, try to calm down; you're jumping to all these conclusions with no basis; the week's ... | |
| teacher dating | 8/21/2006 |
| Q: my sister is 20 and she was been dating her former high school band teacher for 2 years now(he is ... A: not really a question of "right or wrong", nor should you automatically go with what your parents ... | |
| AT ODDS ABOUT LIVING TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE | 8/14/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 35 years of age and myself 38 are in love and have been dating exclusively for 15 ... A: understanding it and agreeing with it are 2 different things; his view is understandable as well, ... | |
| Betrayal | 8/13/2006 |
| Q: I am sure i would not have been in that position though. That fact aside, if i do take her back how ... A: you just have to let it go, which means taking her back without guilt trip or continuing to bring it ... | |
| moving in together? | 8/7/2006 |
| Q: I've been with my bf for about 3 years now and we have an ok relationship.Lately we've been having ... A: it could easily be never, and i doubt you want to wait that long; if you feel living together is a ... | |
| losing trust | 8/6/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years. Last week he went to a strip club with some ... A: if you're looking for a "ruling", you're out of line; people have a right to change their mind, ... | |
| My boyfriends ex girlfriend. | 8/3/2006 |
| Q: My current boyfriend was with his ex for about 7 years she was his first love. He loved her but he ... A: as to the calls, change your number or don't pick up calls you don't recognize; not sure what you ... | |
| Getting my ex-girfriend back | 8/3/2006 |
| Q: Okay, I dated her for four years. We lived together, technically we had a common law marriage, ... A: the only thing left to do is stop analyzing, accept the unchangeable, let go, move on; you may have ... | |
| Advice on the ex-girl | 8/3/2006 |
| Q: I just wanted some advice on the ex. A little background first me and this girl dated for 1 and a ... A: get out of this "limboland/pseudo friends" thing you're in; if you've broken up, there's nothing to ... | |
| Is there a proper time to step back wait for her at act? | 8/2/2006 |
| Q: Okay stupid question time ! What's the difference between a "real" date and asking her out in the ... A: you said you went out as "friends"; what does that mean?..who limited it to that?..you don't need to ... | |
| dating conversation | 7/31/2006 |
| Q: I am now 31 and dating again. I am interested in turning a friendship into more. I know he is ... A: ask the natural questions anyone in your position would have, along with expressing your interest in ... | |
| Do I continue to persue a relationship with my friend's girlfriend? | 7/27/2006 |
| Q: yes, she knowsBasically I've been really good friends with this couple over the years. I met him in ... A: that's only something YOU can decide; you need to determine if there's more lost or gained by JUST ... | |
| Confused... | 7/26/2006 |
| Q: I am 20 and my boyfriend is 21. We have been together for 8 months now. For the first 5 months we ... A: he's getting away with this complacent, self-serving behavior because you're allowing him to; sounds ... | |
| Age difference and honesty | 7/24/2006 |
| Q: Background, when I was 31 I lost a son after he was 12 days old. While we were in the bookstore a ... A: the best course is to, as you said, "become friends and see what happens.."hopefully that will ... | |
| Can he be trusted? | 7/24/2006 |
| Q: I sent you a question about 10 minutes ago about "can he be trusted." Please write your reply to ... A: he's a guy and he's young; that means he's constantly noticing pretty girls and thinks about ... | |
| Can he be trusted? | 7/24/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. I'm 21 and he's 23. We have been living ... A: he's a guy and he's young; if he's like most guys, he notices pretty girls and wants to sleep with ... | |
| what avenue to take | 7/23/2006 |
| Q: Azure, Thank you in advance for answering my question. I I have been dating this guy for a little ... A: it depends whether you want to make the "gifts/flowers" a requirement, or leave it as just a ... | |
| how do I let her know that Im not like all the others? | 7/21/2006 |
| Q: I am very attracted to a woman at work and talk to her several times daily. I have grown to be very ... A: the dinner invite, kid included, wasn't the best appproach; i doubt she would want to get her child ... | |
| RELTIONSHIP | 7/20/2006 |
| Q: I HAVE BEEN DATING THIS GUY FOR A LITTLE OVER A YEAR. OUR RELATIONSHIP STARTED OUT REALLY SLOW ... A: not really a question of right or wrong; hard to tell if it indicates lack of feeling or if he's ... | |
| boyfriend | 7/20/2006 |
| Q: I was unable to take my holidays at the same time as my boyfriend, we both live in Holland but were ... A: i can't say what his deal is, or how much he cares or doesn't; but you've wrapped your whole life ... | |
| My | 7/19/2006 |
| Q: I enjoy reading your answers to all the questions. You don't just tell people what they want to ... A: fear of a negative response isn't sufficient grounds to table the honest expression of your ... | |
| Boundaries | 7/19/2006 |
| Q: I am hoping you can help me. I am 34 years old, and met a great guy nearly 2 months ago of the same ... A: mom is on the right track; you gave him the choices; he's chosen to not meet your reasonable ... | |
| DATING/RELATIONSHIP | 7/18/2006 |
| Q: ok i like this girl and we are really good friends how could i tell if she likes me or wants to go ... A: i know you're young but you mind as well learn right from the beginning; you don't NEED to know ... | |
| Is it real? | 7/18/2006 |
| Q: I'm 19 and i've been dating my boyfriend James for over a year now. We have been living together for ... A: 19 is way too young to be limited to one guy, LET ALONE live together; you can't possibly know at 19 ... | |
| what should i do plzzz help | 7/18/2006 |
| Q: Well theres a girl i really like. We are both 15 in highschool. So anyway we went out for a while ... A: i can't read her mind; if you dumped her, you need to apologize, tell her it was a mistake, and that ... | |
| Dating Advice | 7/18/2006 |
| Q: I'm really stuck in a situation right now that is really testing me. Me and my girlfriend have been ... A: yes, yes, and no; you're not only too young, you're TEN YEARS too young!..living ... | |
| My boyfriend's mother | 7/17/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for several months and have begun talking about marriage. We ... A: the chief negotiator should be the boyfriend, who should, caring guy that he is, understand and ... | |
| What to do? | 7/17/2006 |
| Q: I am dating this guy that I work with in different department, we being dating for four months now I ... A: prepare for a lesson from the book of love, which is, never love a guy who gives you the "don't ... | |
| Gift Ideas | 7/17/2006 |
| Q: I have recently started seeing an old girlfriend from high school, and had a question about a great ... A: first, take the "feelings" word out of your vocabulary, along with the rekindling speech; it's the ... | |
| Friend confusion | 7/16/2006 |
| Q: Well ive been friends with this girl for about 2 years now, im not sure i can say we are GOOD ... A: sometimes you don't know what you've got until you lose it; i think in this case you are ... | |
| should i persue this woman. | 7/14/2006 |
| Q: ok i recently met a gorgeous woman she seemed perfect. was like a whilwind romance, i have never ... A: a no brainer--underneath all the niceties and the "letting down easy", what remains is that the ... | |
| She wants a break from the relationship... | 7/13/2006 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been together for 10 months now. She is 15 and i am 17. Well, last ... A: sometimes you have to just accept someone's wishes; at this point, there's nothing to do or fix; if ... | |
| Help please!!!! | 7/12/2006 |
| Q: A month ago my girlfriend broke up with me after a 3 year relationship. We were living together and ... A: first, stop blaming her; what people say in a relationship is ALWAYS subject to change without ... | |
| trust and vacations | 7/12/2006 |
| Q: (some background)I am 39 and my girlfriend is 38. We have been going out for 4 months. We have a ... A: a no -brainer; confident guy opts for choice 2, insecure, needy guy opts for 1; even if you're the ... | |
| Financial | 7/11/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and 1 of 5 years decided we wanted to move in together, the trouble is i think he is ... A: considering that he makes more, along with the driving thing, gas cost, etc, he should pay a ... | |
| first love | 7/11/2006 |
| Q: I'm Lisa and I'm really in need of some help dealing with "forgetting past loves." My old (and first ... A: you're hanging on to pieces of april when it's a morning in may; sometimes hope can be immobilizing, ... | |
| Getting my Ex back | 7/11/2006 |
| Q: So, Sit back, watch the love of my life be seduced my another man.. and just Hope she comes back? ... A: that's not what i said; i said to ask her what the deal was with the guy; if she says he's a friend, ... | |
| Getting my Ex back | 7/11/2006 |
| Q: Me and my gf have been dating for 10Months now,Things were Amazing..We hit it off Right from the ... A: first off, you got yourself way too involved with a way too young girl; did you think with your ages ... | |
| committment issues | 7/10/2006 |
| Q: My "boyfriend" Jim and I have been dating for 4 years and living together for 3 1/2. Jim has had ... A: as you're seeing, sometimes putting up with unacceptable stuff in the name of love isn't the answer; ... | |
| How long does it take to fall in love? | 7/10/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now, but we have had a rocky ... A: forget about the words, when they were or weren't said; people feel what they feel, when they feel ... | |
| Problem with ex | 7/10/2006 |
| Q: OK, It has been a few months since my ex broke off the relationship and I'm still felling stressed ... A: regardless of what she says, your best approach is to stop trying; you'll have a better chance of ... | |
| should i end my 6 year relationship? | 7/8/2006 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 and a half years. i understand that things will ... A: if both people try to keeps things exciting, the passion doesn't have to end;i've seen someone for 7 ... | |
| My boyfriend keeps intimate relationships with other women secrete from me. | 7/8/2006 |
| Q: In the latest friendship, there is a log of phone calls. The text messages consist of references to ... A: alot going on here; 1st, you're getting the info in a deceitful way; in order to confront him about ... | |
| I like my brother's best friend | 7/8/2006 |
| Q: I just wanted to ask one more thing. Will the fact that my friend is very protective of his sister ... A: if he's a jerk about it, it could, but it's not like she's 13; it's none of his business; plus, ... | |
| advice | 7/7/2006 |
| Q: I hope you can help with some advice! Thanks! Ok my boyfriend mike and I have been dating for the ... A: i'm with you; with "friends" like this, who needs enemies??.. let dan and mike be friends if they ... | |
| Confused | 7/6/2006 |
| Q: I reached your site in hopes of finding the answers to the question in my head I have been in a ... A: all kinds of problems here; the man essentially is leading a secret life, including the possibility ... | |
| a girl with a semi- serious boyfriend | 7/6/2006 |
| Q: I do much of my shopping at a local CVS, at which I found myself instantly attracted to one of their ... A: well-written context; with this decision, you have to take the pragmatic approach and go with the ... | |
| Should I be more patient | 7/5/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have met 5 years ago at work. We've been dating for 3 years (we no longer work at ... A: don't expect him to bring it up, as he's quite comfortable with the less committed, less ... | |
| Girlfriend's | 7/5/2006 |
| Q: First, I would really like to thank you for taking the time to read and answer this question for me. ... A: tricky situation; you don't want to get in between her and the friend, as she still feels some ... | |
| This boy.... | 7/3/2006 |
| Q: Hey! I am 20 years old and very confused about this new guy I'm dating. We met thru my ex and ... A: 1 i think you answered your own question--not much to be gained by inhibiting your freedom, which is ... | |
| should i end it? | 6/28/2006 |
| Q: i have been going out with this girl for 2 years now. We work great on a mental level, we r into ... A: she's living in an illusion; a relationship without mutual sexual attraction is called a friendship; ... | |
| Boundary issue | 6/26/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating the same guy for 3 years. We are each others best friend and communicate very ... A: interesting question; as you know, fine line here between reasonable attention and quasi obsession; ... | |
| What's the right thing to do? | 6/25/2006 |
| Q: I was wondering, what’s the right thing to say and the right thing to do when you first meet someone ... A: as you said, normal conversation; a compliment, an honest expression that they've caught your eye, a ... | |
| Can I date? | 6/23/2006 |
| Q: I am a 21yr old,blk,female. I am 5'6 & 120lbs I have no children and I work full time. I think of ... A: if they're not finding you interesting and attractive, yes; but there's no need to accept this lot ... | |
| new boyfriend who is coming on too strong | 6/22/2006 |
| Q: i just started going out with this guy i work with about a week ago. I'm beginning to find out that ... A: just tell him he's coming on way too strong and it's turning you off; it takes 2 people to talk to ... | |
| Four Month Relationship about to fizzle out | 6/21/2006 |
| Q: I have been seeing a man for four months who I've known about 17 years. He hinted about dating me ... A: you've provided him with an ultra-convenient sexual arrangement where he has to do almost nothing to ... | |
| Differing view points | 6/21/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years. We've lived together for a year. Last May I made ... A: you promised to quit and haven't, so his issue there is understandable; apologize for breaking the ... | |
| Girlfriend is Confused . What do I do? | 6/20/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating a Monica for four months. At the time we started dating, she had ended a 10 ... A: agreed; confident guy doesn't wait around while the girl goes eenie, meenie, miney, mo...(excuse ... | |
| Relationship heading south | 6/20/2006 |
| Q: I have been seeing my girlfriend for almost 3 years now. Within the last 6 months or so our ... A: each of you appears to have valid concerns/unfulfilled needs; try to have an open, honest ... | |
| new person in my life | 6/19/2006 |
| Q: Azure, Hi, how are you? I have a problem and I was hoping you might be able to help me with it. I ... A: don't go to the planning board calendar just yet; a guy who had his 1st date with you on saturday ... | |
| I think I'm in love with two women | 6/17/2006 |
| Q: I am currently in a very long term relationship with a woman I'll call Kristen. Kristen and I have ... A: no need for the all or nothing approach; nothing to lose by telling cindy how you feel and seeing if ... | |
| she has a boyfriend | 6/15/2006 |
| Q: I just got back from a trip and met this amazing girl. she is beautiful and has the most amazing ... A: sometimes less is more; you just met, hardly know each other, live apart, and she has a boyfriend, ... | |
| first date and few calls and than nothing....? | 6/14/2006 |
| Q: If I went on a first date with a guy and it seemed everything was going good the first date.He was ... A: don't chase, it erodes self-esteem; just leave it be; if he's interested (and has prepared a really ... | |
| Looking... | 6/13/2006 |
| Q: I am so very frustrated... Every time I meet a guy they act like gentlemen in the beginning of the ... A: hmmm; hot looking girl, sex crazed guys...what you want does exist, but not easy to find; could be ... | |
| i dont understand | 6/10/2006 |
| Q: hey, im josh, im 16 years old and im very confused about a girl i have been talking to for about 4 ... A: sometimes less is more; relax; if she didn't like you she wouldn't be talking to you; stop thinking ... | |
| Problem with age differance | 6/8/2006 |
| Q: I am 32 years old, but don’t appear to look past 25. I am also a father of three. I have been single ... A: i personally think the mother and sister are WAY out of line; it's none of their business, and ... | |
| Am i setting myself up?? | 6/8/2006 |
| Q: My ex and I cut off communication in march. The reason was because she felt uncomfortable around me ... A: first you have to be certain you are emotionally NEUTRAL; that means you've ZERO interest in tring ... | |
| rules of a relationship ? | 6/7/2006 |
| Q: i have been dating my girl for three years. Is it ok for her to arrange to meet guys as friends for ... A: okay---found your follow-up under the "comments" section; i'd tend to agree she's pushing the ... | |
| Communication after a breakup | 6/7/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I met at work and started dating. We kept our relationship secret from co-workers ... A: she left; no need to chase or appear needy/insecure; consider it HER loss, refocus your energies on ... | |
| Dating/relationship | 6/7/2006 |
| Q: my fiance just recently called of our engagement after we had been together for about 7 years. i was ... A: you're going backwards; what she did before isn't relevant, and what she's doing now is no longer ... | |
| A confused break, or a harsh break up? | 6/6/2006 |
| Q: I have been with this girl for 2 ½ years and we both deeply loved each other. This girl and I have ... A: it doesn't matter what ralph and others think; certainly there's a reason for everything, some more ... | |
| Should I stay or should I go | 6/5/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years and had a good relationship, wanted to get married ... A: he was just trying to have his cake and eat it too; not exactly the commitment you were counting on; ... | |
| what did i do wrong | 6/5/2006 |
| Q: Me and my exboyfriend was togeather for 6 months we were madly in love we was never apart the only ... A: you did nothing wrong--sometimes people fall out of love; if you don't accept that it's over, you'll ... | |
| What can i do. | 6/5/2006 |
| Q: I am extreemly attracted to my best friend. i've been in love with her from first sight (about 5 ... A: you're not in a good position, but i can't MAKE you change it if you're not willing to; sometimes ... | |
| Making the Next Step | 6/5/2006 |
| Q: Throughout my life I have never been a great womanizer. I have never had a girlfriend in my life ... A: nothing ventured, nothing gained; forget she has a boyfriend; ask her on a real date, just the 2 of ... | |
| the ex girlfriend | 6/4/2006 |
| Q: my ex dumped me jan 1st after 3 years together her reason was because she fell out of love and ... A: no, and no; first, she's no longer interested--it's over; second, you don't know if the next one ... | |
| move on or no? | 6/4/2006 |
| Q: I have worked with this guy for about 3 years. In that period of time both of us has had a small ... A: at least move on from "hanging out/making out", to either he asks you on a REAL date, or he doesn't; ... | |
| His ex-wife | 6/2/2006 |
| Q: I am 49 and have been divorced for 1-1/2 years after being married for 20 yrs. I met a real nice ... A: time to be a little firmer with your boyfriend; if you feels she's disrespecting you or interfering ... | |
| Girlfriend isn't tough enough | 6/1/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend has started a new job and one of the guys who works for the company has been flirting ... A: without real specifics, it would be difficult to label harrassment; though you can suggest ... | |
| Is interested or not? | 6/1/2006 |
| Q: I've seen this guy a few times and done the flirting w/ text messages, but recently we talked about ... A: obviously neither of us know what, if anything, he plans to do; could be he really doesn't KNOW if ... | |
| Can't forget my girlfriend's past | 6/1/2006 |
| Q: I've been dating a girl for a few months now and it's gotten fairly serious. I know she's special ... A: look at the glass half full; you like her, she likes you; we ALL have pasts with incidents we may ... | |
| The movies | 5/31/2006 |
| Q: I am a 17 year old male, I have invited this girl I like to the movies, but I don't know if I should ... A: there's never been a step by step guide; you have to go with the feeling of that moment; if she ... | |
| Was I played? | 5/30/2006 |
| Q: YOu think my expectations were too high? But he was the one who told me he wanted to settle down. ... A: i don't know exactly what he said, or why, or what misunderstandings occurred, but again, it makes ... | |
| Should I give him another chance? | 5/28/2006 |
| Q: My now ex boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for two years. It started off badly, with him ... A: give him one last chance, telling him that if he even THINKS about doin up some lttle blonde, you'll ... | |
| Pursuing A woman online | 5/24/2006 |
| Q: I interested in this woman that I met on myspace. She lives about an hour away. I message her from ... A: time is too precious to be content just being on her " occasional chat" list; ask to email her ... | |
| Friendship after a romantic relationship? | 5/24/2006 |
| Q: When I first met my (now ex) boyfriend we were both freshman at the same college. We had a happy ... A: it's not a "real" friendship", it's him taking advantage of your insecurities/feelings for him, ... | |
| insecure boyfriend problems | 5/23/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend is a great guy, but he hs a lot of trust and anger issues he HAS been treated BAD in ... A: if he wants you to leave, consider it has him doing you a favor; this kind of obsessive, possessive, ... | |
| i cheated 2 times he broke it off i regret everything and want him back!! | 5/23/2006 |
| Q: we were dating for 2 yrs, we have been broken up for a month and 2 weeks.a year and a half ago I ... A: don't quite understand how you can " verbally appear" so committed, yet still found the need to ... | |
| Perfect but what about... | 5/17/2006 |
| Q: Im in a relationship right for about 3 1/2 weeks and Im well in lust with him which can turn into ... A: i doubt this will have a fairy tale ending; "perfect"??? as you said, you have a sexual attraction, ... | |
| Hi, My boyfriend and I... | 5/15/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are 24. We have been together for over a year. Four months ago I moved to Europe ... A: it's not about changing someone; it's more about you overcoming your neediness and insecurity and ... | |
| Complicated Situation. | 5/10/2006 |
| Q: Ok, this is a bit of a pain for me. I really like this girl right now. Problem is, is she is my Best ... A: your friend's girlfriend is WAY out of line; how selfish can a person be?..if she's not happy with ... | |
| Me and two girls i need to chose from. | 5/5/2006 |
| Q: Hey. I am 23 year old guy in long term relationship. For now i have lived with my current girlfriend ... A: doesn't sound like you're very dedicated to the current girl; at 23, why would you even WANT to be ... | |
| relationship | 5/2/2006 |
| Q: Just one last question..He wants me to tell you his reasons for getting his own apartment. His ... A: "back up plan"??..does he advocate that everyone living together should have an apt on the ... | |
| relationship | 5/2/2006 |
| Q: Azure, I have been with this man for 3 years. Over the past 3 years, he has taken me through a lot ... A: interesting how your version differs from his; considering what you said, his not moving in is doing ... | |
| relationship | 5/1/2006 |
| Q: Azure, I have been with this man for 3 years. Over the past 3 years, he has taken me through a lot ... A: a few questions--he says there's alot of arguing..true?...this new place you got--did you get it ... | |
| moving in together | 5/1/2006 |
| Q: azure, my girlfriend and i lived together before and then i unfortunately had an accident and ... A: it's not really a matter of right/wrong; you should do what you're comfortable with; if you're not ... | |
| Had Sex with Sister 36 Years Ago | 4/29/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating a lady for 6 months and it has been an off and on relationship. There is a very ... A: if your description of events is accurate, she's out of line, as she should understand it wasn't ... | |
| what's wrong?? | 4/27/2006 |
| Q: Help! I wonder why whenever i tell my bf my problems,he keeps providing me with solutions when ... A: not a good idea to tell him your issues, good or bad, that have to do wih other guys; being ... | |
| Sex and living together | 4/25/2006 |
| Q: For a little background to my question, I will narrate my situation. I have been dating my boyfriend ... A: it's a real problem, and his dumb answers aren't helping; certainly his lack of passion, not to ... | |
| Boyfriend worries about differences and marriage | 4/12/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 11 months. The first two months were great. He would tell ... A: you call it "wishful"; that's an understatement; not sure what his deal is, but it's obvious he's ... | |
| dating/relationship | 4/6/2006 |
| Q: OMG here i go... I am in love with the same man as my best friend. My best friend and him dated ... A: your "best friend" is WAY out of line--"13 years ago, married for 7"??...you must be kidding--she ... | |
| What to do next? | 4/5/2006 |
| Q: About two years ago I broke up with a long term girlfriend who I was deeply in love with, she found ... A: if she's interested, she'll contact you; chasing her only makes you look needy, insecure, weak; ... | |
| The old flame. | 4/3/2006 |
| Q: In theory we both can see other people, in practice just he does. So no, if you're going to keep ... A: well well, you're every guy's dreamgirl--willing to stay at home while allowing your boyfriend to ... | |
| does he care ? | 3/23/2006 |
| Q: When we first started dating we got along great but i guess thats how it always starts off.We got ... A: yea he sounds like a real winner; no sex, no intimacy, no affection, arguing constantly, not ... | |
| Ex-Girlfriend calls | 3/15/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating my bf for 1 yr and he talks to his ex-gf like every other week. He says that they ... A: that's a tough question; it really depends on how much you trust/believe him, and the extent of his ... | |
| i want her back...she wants to be my best friend | 3/15/2006 |
| Q: Me and my ex dated for about 2 months. Things went really fast in that we said I love you fairly ... A: she's the only one that might POSSIBLY know the answer to that; the question is, what course is best ... | |
| First meeting | 3/14/2006 |
| Q: I met a man online and we spoke on the phone and decided to meet last night for the first time. I ... A: keep in mind, making a match is the great EXCEPTION to the rule; unless you're really fortunate, you ... | |
| Matters of Love. | 3/13/2006 |
| Q: 1) The reason why I didn't want to show her that I am understanding is that I don't want her to get ... A: we can respectfully disagree on the most effective approach; i still think it would have been in ... | |
| Matters of Love. | 3/13/2006 |
| Q: I have broken it off and won't take her back tomorrow or the next week. As I mentioned earlier, I ... A: okay, so if you've ended it, won't be taking her back, you both want totally different arrangements, ... | |
| Matters of Love. | 3/12/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend of 3 years says she definitely wants to marry me in the future, but would like to date ... A: you haven't really broken it off, as you'd take her back tomorrow; the approach was a tad heavy, ... | |
| Should I marry this wonderful man who loves me and wants to marry me, but is not very attractive to my eyes? | 3/10/2006 |
| Q: I am 25 and he is 29. We have been seeing each other for 2 years now. Coming from very conservative ... A: don't understand why you say the sexual aspect will suffer if you try to please each other ... | |
| "If you really love me, that shouldn't matter." | 3/2/2006 |
| Q: It was about 3 months ago when I was saying good-bye to my former girlfriend before leaving on a ... A: ahh, the old principle vs pragmatic debate; in my opinion, you tactfully do both; in the beginning ... | |
| Cant be faithful | 2/27/2006 |
| Q: Not in specific terms but its just implied at this pointAzure, I'm a 32 year old professional and ... A: so probably too late to sell the non-exclusive--she's most likely walk; time to make a choice; you ... | |
| ex-girlfriend calls | 2/22/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 9 years. Yesterday, out of the blue he gets a phone call from ... A: actually it's pretty natural; as people move on in life, they think back about those that made a ... | |
| Questions about Online Dating for School Paper | 2/21/2006 |
| Q: my name is Courtney and I attend the University of Kentucky. I am composing a phamphlet about the ... A: 1. because as you get older your circle of friends decreases, as well as places to go that cater to ... | |
| How to overcome insecurities? | 2/19/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. We both just turned 22. About three months into ... A: i'm not sure why you'd want to stay with someone who's put "limits" on his love; i'd at LEAST inform ... | |
| Serious chip on my shoulder | 2/14/2006 |
| Q: I don't know if you can help me or not. I don't even know if this question even belongs under this ... A: hmmm, hope all the women over 25 don't read this--counselors would be swamped with calls from ... | |
| Still confused and worried. | 2/11/2006 |
| Q: Okay- So it has been four days since I emailed her last and I have recieved no reply. I'm aware of ... A: if and when to ask her really depends on how long it takes her to reply and what she says; she has ... | |
| Is this a wise decision? | 2/9/2006 |
| Q: Here's a complicated one. About a year ago I learned that a lady I worked with was very attracted ... A: if you agree to meet, of course you go; the key is to go with an open mind, hopeful fantasy perhaps, ... | |
| doing the right thing... | 2/4/2006 |
| Q: i'm a 32 yr old male, she is a 45 yr old female. together for 11 yrs, 8 months. no children in the ... A: this is obviously an unhealthy, co-dependent, addictve arrangement, where appeasing insecurities is ... | |
| Financial Responsibility | 1/25/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend Tristan and I have been dating for nearly 3 years and it has become more than ... A: you convey it by having CONSEQUENCES for his inconsiderate behavior; he's now getting away with it ... | |
| Just need an objective opinion... | 1/23/2006 |
| Q: Is it just me, or is something odd? After the 2nd date, while kissing (no touching--at all), he ... A: no one's crazy--just individual differences in bedroom behavior; you have to decide if your feelings ... | |
| sex less in a relationship | 1/21/2006 |
| Q: i hope you can help me with this? I am a gay (30) who is been in a commited relationship with ... A: you're coming across as weak, needy, insecure; consequently, he's got no reason to change; figure ... | |
| dating | 1/17/2006 |
| Q: I would like to know how to proceed in this relationship...for the best of us both. Here is the ... A: my thoughts are the arrangement sounds pretty unhealthy, with insecurity, co-dependency, unclear ... | |
| What do I do | 1/6/2006 |
| Q: Me and this girl has been dating for 10 months now, but recently I have been noticing that she is ... A: first off, stop thinking "made for each other.." that's just maybe how YOU feel; in this world there ... | |
| A friend | 12/19/2005 |
| Q: i am 17. she is 17. i have become very close to a friend who i have known for a couple of years. ... A: real friends only exist if both parties are NEUTRAL emotionally about each other; that is, no ... | |
| Is she blowing me off? | 12/12/2005 |
| Q: Hello I recently asked a girl if she was "doing anything this weekend" as a sort of direct but yet ... A: first off, your "doing anything..." inquiry was weak, and there's no way to tell from her answer if ... | |
| Im 18 and love/lust a 25 year old.... | 12/5/2005 |
| Q: older woman, Christine. She used to be one of my closest co- workers but since I've found a better ... A: as to the source of your feelings, it's probably a combination of both, but it really doesn't ... | |
| how long does it take to be in love? | 12/4/2005 |
| Q: I am a 24 year old woman. I just started dating a 31 year old women. We have been dating about a ... A: there's no exact timetable; i like to distinguish being "in love", which can happen quickly and ... | |
| Dad thinks he's a smooth one... | 12/4/2005 |
| Q: For the past few months, I had been dealing with a guy who had only wanted to be friends with me. It ... A: your family is just generalizing in the usual protective manner; this guy is no different than any ... | |
| Dating an ex | 11/28/2005 |
| Q: 2 years ago I dated a guy for about 6 weeks and we ended up breaking up. It was a weird time in my ... A: let's see; you're in a "completely committed relationship", but you want to chat up this "ex"; keep ... | |
| ------------------------- ... | 11/28/2005 |
| Q: I'm in a serious relationship of about 3 years and my boyfriend just recently screwed up. He was out ... A: you say "he's the only one i want in my life", but his actions say perhaps he feels differently; if ... | |
| Hi, I'm in a serious relationship... | 11/27/2005 |
| Q: I'm in a serious relationship of about 3 years and my boyfriend just recently screwed up. He was out ... A: your reaction is a tad strong, probably because of your neediness/insecurities ("can't be without ... | |
| Trouble Connecting | 11/21/2005 |
| Q: For starters, I'm a 22 year old male college student who just got home from Iraq within the past 8 ... A: nowadays, it seems those in your age group are more into this vague "hanging out" thing, which ... | |
| What should she do? | 11/20/2005 |
| Q: I just need your opinion on the following dating issue: My cousin is 23 and she has just recently ... A: she needs to figure out what her requirements are for continuing, find out from him EXACTLY what ... | |
| Girlfriend's Photo | 11/17/2005 |
| Q: I am 24, as is my girlfriend. We've been dating for about 3 months now and things are going very ... A: i think you're overreacting; the pic was probably in there from when they were dating--when she ... | |
| 33 year old female with a problem that could almost be a soap opra- help help help- advice needed | 11/11/2005 |
| Q: I am desperate for help- i will be the first to admit, i am terrible at all things dating- and im ... A: you're making complicated an essentally simple situation; thusly, it's time for the required dose of ... | |
| Compatibility | 11/7/2005 |
| Q: Please Help! I'm a 27 yr old male, and I've just started dating someone. Its a girl I've known for ... A: "should feel..??"..that's part of the problem; you're WAY over-thinking, over-analyzing, when you ... | |
| i'm not sure what to do | 11/3/2005 |
| Q: I am 19 years old and I have just recently met a really great guy, however I am in a dilemma. When ... A: i can't read his mind, but if he's a guy and you're giving him "no strings sex", it kinda detracts ... | |
| We're friends...could there be more? | 11/1/2005 |
| Q: I am friends with a man I met through my job. We e-mail pretty much every day, like to talk and ... A: unless you want to lead almost a double life, i'd tell him; either he feels similarly, or if not, at ... | |
| getting ex back | 10/31/2005 |
| Q: you have answered my first question, now leaving her alone for a while meaning how long, im from a ... A: you didn't seem to grasp the concept; at this point, it's over; leaving her "alone", means until SHE ... | |
| Dating vs. Relationships | 10/29/2005 |
| Q: What is the difference between two people who are "dating" and two people who are "in a ... A: that's all a matter of how one defines the terms; alot of people feel when dating becomes more ... | |
| loner for life | 10/28/2005 |
| Q: I now know for sure that some people were born to be alone and a loner with no hope of ever findnig ... A: first, change the defeatist attitude; women like guys that are confident, assured, positive, ... | |
| what to do | 10/28/2005 |
| Q: , how are you/ Well ive been dating my bf for 2 months now and we really like eachother,, Thing is,, ... A: there's no need to "be good at" this stuff before trying; it's not like you're a PRO...it's SUPPOSED ... | |
| Break up after long term | 10/28/2005 |
| Q: this is gonna be a long one. sorry. so, my exgf and i dated for 3 years... there were bumps in the ... A: as the saying goes, "all's fair in love and war.."..people can say, promise, etc;, but it's the ... | |
| dating problem | 10/25/2005 |
| Q: I met this guy online and he is nice and all that and we live like 5 hours away from each other and ... A: you "met" him but not in reality; that's the problem with these internet "fantasy affairs"...you ... | |
| Move in w/parents? | 10/21/2005 |
| Q: I'm currently living with my long-term boyfriend and a couple of months ago my dad lost his job ... A: hard to take back the offer now that you made it; everyone needs to realize that if you did it, it ... | |
| previous partners | 10/10/2005 |
| Q: I have been dating a girl for the past six months who I am very in love with. I am 25 and she is 22. ... A: don't know of any magical way to rid yourself of the thought; considering it's her life, her ... | |
| My boyfriend of 3 years just... | 10/4/2005 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 3 years just mentioned something about an engagement ring and I got sort of weird ... A: could be some remaining bitterness; also, it's kind of a defense against unfulfilled expectation and ... | |
| I love him! | 10/3/2005 |
| Q: I'm 19. Eight and a half months ago my boyfriend (0f 8 months) and I broke up. He said it just ... A: let's look at the facts; He left you, didn't feel the same, hasn't called with a change of heart; ... | |
| Should I stay or should I go? | 9/30/2005 |
| Q: I've been presented with a difficult situation, I hope you can help me clear things in my head. ... A: let's see... horrible sex, no communication, no going out, but you "can't fathom life without ... | |
| Should I let him go? | 9/29/2005 |
| Q: Well last night my boyfriend broke up with me after one of those fights you don't even know how they ... A: good question; at this point, i think the towel is in your hand and your arm is moving forward; if ... | |
| Asking to hang out with her | 9/28/2005 |
| Q: I am currenty in my second year of college and recently, i saw this girl who came this year in my ... A: it's probably her telling you she's amenable to a "friends" deal, but isn't interested in you as ... | |
| Lonely one night stand | 9/22/2005 |
| Q: Azure- Since I work in the hotel industry sometimes I have to pick up flight crew members at the ... A: she "made" you respond in a certain way??..c'mon; would have "made" you spent the night??..giving ... | |
| Lonely one night stand | 9/21/2005 |
| Q: Azure- Since I work in the hotel industry sometimes I have to pick up flight crew members at the ... A: what do you expect when you appear as if your interest is temporary? you leave after the sex, tell ... | |
| Online dating | 9/20/2005 |
| Q: I've often wondered with all the people on the online dating sites, why is it so hard for people to ... A: dating has become a total "numbers" game; the more options you utilize, the better your chances; ... | |
| How to meet the right woman... | 9/18/2005 |
| Q: I am trying to find all the information I can about meeting the right kind of women, decent and ... A: 1. women are everywhere--internet dating sites, clubs, personal ads, work, enthusiast organizations, ... | |
| Wasting time?? | 8/17/2005 |
| Q: I have been introduced to a girl by a business aquaintance/friend, who I really have a strong ... A: she's essentially told you she's not interested--that means immediately lowering your expectations ... | |
| Hello, I've been seeing a... | 8/16/2005 |
| Q: I've been seeing a girl for a couple months now, we've been out on 6 or 7 dates, she's stayed at my ... A: some women believe it's the guy's job to make contact; she's probably one of them; i wouldn't ... | |
| Honeymoon period over? | 8/16/2005 |
| Q: I'm 21, and so is my boyfriend of 8 months. We are both at college together. We're both in love ... A: seeing each other every nite is pretty much a recipe for complacency; without spaces in your ... | |
| Am I wasting my time? | 8/15/2005 |
| Q: I started talking to Chris on the internet at the beginning of the summer. He's 25 and I'm 19. He ... A: i would put more credence into his behavior rather than his words; so far, that indicates, for ... | |
| "Saying I love you, Sex in the way?" | 8/8/2005 |
| Q: Just a little info first: -We have been dating for 4 months -We are both virgins -We live 4 hours ... A: well it's essentially the same advice; actually it was SHE that first brought the sex topic up (u ... | |
| Porn | 8/3/2005 |
| Q: Followup To Question - My boyfriend is 22 and recently got a computer. I am pretty good with ... A: don't know the statistics, but it's probably more common than you think; as to what can happen, ... | |
| Porn | 8/3/2005 |
| Q: My boyfriend is 22 and recently got a computer. I am pretty good with computers seeing as though I ... A: not good; now we have a pattern of essentially physical abuse from an out of control boyfriend; he ... | |
| Porn | 8/2/2005 |
| Q: My boyfriend is 22 and recently got a computer. I am pretty good with computers seeing as though I ... A: a few things goin on here; first, though your reaction is understandable, i think his "just looking" ... | |
| Which one do I choose? | 7/30/2005 |
| Q: I have come out of an abusive relationship and I am ready to find that special someone. Now I"m in a ... A: they both deserve to know what's been going on; plus, if you're to have any hope of ridding yourself ... | |
| what to do what to do? | 7/29/2005 |
| Q: wellok here goes we have 4 children together 2 from my past relationship and 2 from his which he ... A: for better or worse, you've chosen a guy that comes with alot of practical and emotional issues; ... | |
| break in a relationship | 7/26/2005 |
| Q: Hey azure, so me and this girl have been dating for almost 3 months now, and we are both getting ... A: a "break" is just that; calling AT ALL, let alone asking to "hang out", defeats the whole purpose; ... | |
| communication | 7/25/2005 |
| Q: .. I really need advice! :/ I've been dating a guy for the last few weeks. He is absolutely perfect ... A: if you feel he's a person you can't honestly share your feelings with, maybe he's not for you; your ... | |
| How to procede with a relationship | 7/19/2005 |
| Q: I am a 30 year old computer enginneer and was wondering how to procede with a girl I am interested ... A: lower your expectations; her non-response to the lunch invite (pretty inconsiderate), coupled with ... | |
| Disinterest or hard to get? | 7/19/2005 |
| Q: let me say up front I appreciate you taking the time to read/answer this; I'll try and be brief ... A: even if you didn't leave a msg, she probably knows you called; i'd call her on thurs and maybe this ... | |
| will he call?? | 7/19/2005 |
| Q: I am an attractive single 34 year old woman. Last Friday I met a young man (22) at a corporate ... A: as to having sex, that's really a moral judgment i can't make; if it winds up bothering you, perhaps ... | |
| intimacy and the horrible time of the month... | 7/18/2005 |
| Q: A guy wants to get more intimate with you... at the very wrong time of the month! My boyfriend and ... A: if he's old enough to date, then he should be mature enough to understand periods; it's a natural ... | |
| We have been married for 30... | 7/7/2005 |
| Q: We have been married for 30 years and each marriage is about ups and downs. I would leave but I ... A: "can't leave.."?? so it's pretty similar to a prison sentence?? your only remaining option is to try ... | |
| Boyfriend | 6/28/2005 |
| Q: I am 19 going on 20 and I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 years. Last night we got into ... A: if he's physically "pushing you down", that's a real cause for concern; that's abusivness, and not ... | |
| im confused and scared! | 6/26/2005 |
| Q: Well I don't know why I have this feeling that tells me that he started to get bored of me or not to ... A: he's getting away with the inconsideration because you're allowing him to; nobody is telling you to ... | |
| Hi, I met this guy in the... | 6/20/2005 |
| Q: I met this guy in the hallway (I think he is very attractive) a couple days ago when I was looking ... A: not too bold; u just opened the door; now it's up to HIM to enter; i can't tell you if he's ... | |
| dating... | 6/17/2005 |
| Q: my name's holly. i'm 18 and am presently living in germany although i'm from texas. i am just ... A: it's better to honestly tell him what you don't like, rather than not because you're worried about ... | |
| where is this going? | 6/10/2005 |
| Q: I've been seeing a man who is 33, very successful and very wealthy. I am 24 and neither of those ... A: the first thing to consider is it's only been 2 months; to make ANY conclusions would be premature; ... | |
| does she like me? | 6/7/2005 |
| Q: I understand but its only been a few days so how are you so sure? What about the baby situation and ... A: didn't say i was "sure"; i said "seems to"...but it doesn't make that much difference in figuring ... | |
| what is it? | 5/25/2005 |
| Q: I'm 21, i usually meet them on college campus, sometimes on the street, i mean in random places, i ... A: it's hard to be specific, because alot of times what to say/ask, depends on the situation; ... | |
| what is it? | 5/23/2005 |
| Q: You truly are an expert Azure, and sorry for referring to you as a female, so regarding being ... A: tips--be yourself; ask questions, interesting ones, focus on doing what it takes to get her to like ... | |
| what is it? | 5/22/2005 |
| Q: Hey AzureI'm just trying to get female perspective on this topic, not necessarily women only, it ... A: first, i can't give you the female perspective directly from a female, cause i'm a guy; but i've ... | |
| please help, this is complicated | 5/22/2005 |
| Q: please help me My problem spans 3 years and is complicated but if you have time I would be very ... A: you're caught in the abyss between friends and lovers, an unfortunate space where NEITHER can be ... | |
| am I too shallow? | 5/13/2005 |
| Q: I am a 34 year old attractive, single woman interested in a relationship. I met a man "Dave" through ... A: everyone has a right to their own preferences and requirements with regard to partner attributes ... | |
| Cheating suspicions | 5/11/2005 |
| Q: Just a question, because you said he's a guy and he's most likely messed around, do you believe all ... A: most guys instinctively want to have sex with any female they're sexually attracted to; if the ... | |
| What should I do? | 5/10/2005 |
| Q: On Saturday night I had a first date with a girl, and it was a double blind date. We talked for ... A: i'm not sure what she's thinking, but your over the top behavior, indicative of neediness, ... | |
| Is she losing interest? | 5/9/2005 |
| Q: I have been going out with this girl for about 2 month's, we are both 19. I tried to break up with ... A: young (19), long distance/college, and short time dating (2 months), mean ANYTHING can happen; first ... | |
| Reconnecting | 5/6/2005 |
| Q: Answer - no need to say anything; just call and ask if she'd like to do something sunday afternoon; ... A: i'm not big on messages; plus, you don't want to come on too strong..it's good to create some ... | |
| Reconnecting | 5/5/2005 |
| Q: my name is Nick, I'm 25 and the woman I'd prefer to be with is Cali, she is 24. Cali and I have had ... A: no need to say anything; just call and ask if she'd like to do something sunday afternoon; if it's ... | |
| What do you think? | 5/4/2005 |
| Q: I would really appreciate if you could help me/ give me your opinion. I'm a 20 year old girl. I met ... A: as to his degree of fondness, only HE knows that; as to a "cool" invite, considering the ... | |
| Dating troubles | 5/3/2005 |
| Q: I've been seeing this guy for about 4 months. When we first started seeing eachother it was awesome! ... A: not sure i understand...you say you've talked to him 5 times...have you asked him what happened? ... | |
| Dating an Ex-Girlfirend | 4/27/2005 |
| Q: I am a 28 year old male. I met my Ex through my best friend when His mom married Her dad. When we ... A: she says she has no regrets about her life...why should YOU?..whatever she did apart from you is ... | |
| ??????????? | 4/21/2005 |
| Q: i had a friend. we were friends for 2 1/2 yrs. we always had our ups and downs but we always seemed ... A: i can't read minds; in any case, it doesn't matter; the guy you decided to love is essentially a ... | |
| statutory rape | 4/14/2005 |
| Q: My boyfriend is 18, and I'm 17, is it still illegal for us to have sex? A: age of consent varies from state to state; search "age of consent" on net--look for your state; most ... | |
| Normal?? | 4/13/2005 |
| Q: Followup To Question -Hello. I have a few questions for you. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I ... A: "nagging"..i don't know if that word really has alot of meaning here; he may use that term to ... | |
| Normal?? | 4/13/2005 |
| Q: Followup To Question - Hello. I have a few questions for you. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I ... A: i think you just need to be more assertive with ALL involved; don't be afraid to tell your family ... | |
| I'm interested in the dating/relationship... | 4/12/2005 |
| Q: I'm interested in the dating/relationship coach/advisor services. I also would like to know how to ... A: "the house clean"??..maybe next time you could ask him for a SERIOUS answer; unless there's some ... | |
| Normal?? | 4/12/2005 |
| Q: I have a few questions for you. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I live together. And we've had a ... A: i'm sure it's all related; their non-supportive interference, last year, and when u were younger, ... | |
| Popping the question and... | 4/7/2005 |
| Q: Ok here we go...I am a first year college student. My first sememster this Russian girl came to me ... A: you need to work on your self-esteem; once yuo bring it up to healthy levels, you won't need to ask ... | |
| how to deal | 4/7/2005 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy for the past 7 months. We have never been committed, because he was scared ... A: assuming he's well enough to discuss it, i'd let him know what you know, tell him what you think, ... | |
| Overcoming distrust | 4/7/2005 |
| Q: I am dating a lady named Melody. We were highschool sweethearts and have reconnected after 20 ... A: from your last paragraph, i'm wondering if you're really looking for advice, or for advice that ... | |
| confused? | 4/6/2005 |
| Q: I've been daiting my fiancee for 5 1/2 years (he was 16 I was 15), have two beautiful children ... A: the situation is more of a mess than i think you realize; sooner or later, someone is going to get ... | |
| breakup | 4/1/2005 |
| Q: It's not clinical depression, just sadness. I just can't decide if it's caused by jealousy, ... A: you don't have to be clinically depressed to benefit from counseling..as i suggested, my feeling is ... | |
| breakup | 4/1/2005 |
| Q: I dated this girl for approximately two months. She just got out of a long term relationship and I ... A: if i were to guess, i'd say it was more of the second; for all you know, if you HAD agreed to her ... | |
| sexual difficulties | 3/30/2005 |
| Q: Since this situation is a little complex, I will try to be concise. I have a very dear friend; we ... A: you need to heighten his concern regarding the matter to the point where he realizes the need, for ... | |
| Girlfriends has many guyfriends | 3/29/2005 |
| Q: .. I'm 30 and my girlfriend is 28. She has lied to me a few times about hanging out with her guy ... A: only if you can't raise your trust level; she can't be honest with you because she feels you can't ... | |
| What do I make of the way I feel | 3/28/2005 |
| Q: I was engaged until 2 months ago. Cathy was married for eight years until her devorce was finalized ... A: as to her question about it lasting, obviously, no guarantees..all you can advise is to enjoy each ... | |
| boyfriend help | 3/23/2005 |
| Q: My b/f's friend his birthday is this friday and they are planning to go out crusin around they told ... A: you have to somehow learn to trust him or leave him; he should be able to go out with his friends ... | |
| bf issues | 3/22/2005 |
| Q: My boyfriend (18) and I (20) are having having problems. Last night I went to bed at 9:30pm and I ... A: i'd stop letting my neediness get in the way of my better judgment; he treats you like this because ... | |
| kidding yourself | 3/18/2005 |
| Q: To what extent should a man kid himself when he's going out with a woman? Is it all right for him ... A: it's a fine line; certainly a little self-deprecating humor can reveal an honest, genuine, humble ... | |
| Intamacy | 3/10/2005 |
| Q: I guess what our biggest problem is that I don't feel enough sexuality from him. We hardly make love ... A: to me, there seem to be 2 issues here; 1st, you say he doesn't have a large sex drive, but you speak ... | |
| Intamacy | 3/8/2005 |
| Q: I am a fellow volunteer here on all experts and I've helped many people with their relationships but ... A: hey there; i do recall seeing your name in the experts list, and that you seemed pretty highly ... | |
| Everythings great....except shes an exhibitionist | 3/8/2005 |
| Q: ------------------------- Follow-up To Question - My girlfriend and I have been going out for ... A: you didn't ask about "progressing a relationship", you spent alot of time detailing what appeared to ... | |
| Everythings great....except shes an exhibitionist | 3/7/2005 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been going out for more than 3 months now; our relationship has been smooth ... A: i get the feeling you seem to be trying to tell yourself her behavior isn't that big a deal, as your ... | |
| dilema | 2/28/2005 |
| Q: My name is Cindy and I am 36,I have been dating Jack (39) for 10 months,he is a wonderful man and is ... A: dating only 10 months, the "patient" choice sounds reasonable, even for another year; what's the ... | |
| who pays /how to end date | 2/25/2005 |
| Q: Regarding meeting people on-line for the first time - who should pay when agreeing to meet someone ... A: first of all, it's probably better to just meet for a drink--dinner can be a little much, especially ... | |
| Dealing with my girlfriend's past | 2/23/2005 |
| Q: I have been dating a girl for 6 months now and everything has been wonderful so far. We enjoy doing ... A: honesty and understanding are two sides of the same coin; she was honest, it's up to you to uphold ... | |
| Changing a negative image. | 2/20/2005 |
| Q: I really need help now and it involves my whole life. PLease help me. I am a senior in High School, ... A: your comment that you still want to be feared shows us you haven't gone nearly far enough with the ... | |
| Senior's cohabitating/ researching former spouses. | 2/17/2005 |
| Q: I am 64 and divorced, a college grad and business professional. I have known a particular lady for ... A: it's totally unacceptable, insulting, and scary..what happened between you and them is between you ... | |
| I am 22. I seem to have a... | 2/16/2005 |
| Q: I am 22. I seem to have a lot of trouble meeting men despite being a beautiful girl. Men never ... A: possible choices; a) consider more realistic expectations..b) analyze why the guys you want aren't ... | |
| The age old... | 2/10/2005 |
| Q: Answer - your experience with guys asking for a number and calling in a timely fashion, if ever, is ... A: i wasn't worried about the 4; i was mystified as to why you thought that (still am), as you've given ... | |
| The age old... | 2/9/2005 |
| Q: So, here goes: (You can probably pull out your stock answer right about... now.) This may be a ... A: your experience with guys asking for a number and calling in a timely fashion, if ever, is not ... | |
| Calling too much? | 2/9/2005 |
| Q: Back at the start of the new year, on a Monday, I called up a young lady I was interested in and ... A: you were a tad too persisent; once they say they'll give you a call, it's up to THEM to get back to ... | |
| Girlfriend clings to old worries | 2/7/2005 |
| Q: i have been seeing my currently girlfriend for nearly 3 months now. We have been very happy together ... A: based upon her threats and paranoia, my feeling is she's in definite need of counseling; i would ... | |
| Honesty | 2/3/2005 |
| Q: I'm a 55 year old woman who has been dating men I've met on various online services for 6 years now. ... A: if that's the only mistake he's made, i'd give him a pass on it; potential partners can be so ... | |
| what should i do? | 1/29/2005 |
| Q: i keep running into the same problem here, i have joined a few dating sites on the net and when i ... A: you could try putting the exact number of kids you have in your profile, as well as requesting that ... | |
| Dating, or not dating? | 1/26/2005 |
| Q: how are you? My name is Mike and I'm 18 years old, a senior in high school. I've had a few questions ... A: kate's second answer was getting closer to reality; it just ddn't go far enough; i think you're ... | |
| The main reason I'm asking... | 1/23/2005 |
| Q: The main reason I'm asking is even though I'm very beautiful, men NEVER ask me out. The only guys ... A: wanna go out??...now at least you can't say "normal" guys never ask you out..other than increasing ... | |
| 1. What exactly qualifies... | 1/23/2005 |
| Q: 1. What exactly qualifies as 'busy'? I hear that line a lot. Usually I run far away from the man ... A: a valid "busy" is when you ask a guy to do something and he actually HAS previous plans...obviously ... | |
| Why are they acting this way? | 1/16/2005 |
| Q: Ok I have to tell you, not to sound conceited, but I am an extremely beautiful woman (I have been ... A: that's hard to say without talking to the guys, but perhaps they act like jerks because lots of guys ... | |
| How Do I Know | 12/29/2004 |
| Q: There's this woman I met at my new job about a month ago. I usually don't do the co-worker thing ... A: 2 options; the next time you ask her out (wait until after 1st of year), if she declines, you can ... | |
| Ex Boyfriend | 12/27/2004 |
| Q: I have been going out with my current girlfriend for amonth now and she currently lives with ehr ... A: it's up to HER, not you, to tell him not to call; i get the impression that hasn't happened; unless ... | |
| Getting a boyfriend | 12/20/2004 |
| Q: I'm a 36 yr. old single woman who has a lot to offer a man. I'm considered very attractive, ... A: not knowing more about you, it's difficult to provide a very specific answer; men need love as much ... | |
| How to Know if It's Worth It | 12/16/2004 |
| Q: Please help me! I will be as brief as possible, but it is quick a detailed question. My boyfriend ... A: "stupid" perhaps not the word; maybe "overly concerned" works better; at 6 months and 23, why are ... | |
| Hello. I just wanted to talk... | 12/15/2004 |
| Q: I just wanted to talk to someone, and then hopefully get some advice back. I'm in a relationship ... A: just live your life and treat others as you'd like them to treat you; no need to be on a crusade to ... | |
| Work Related | 12/14/2004 |
| Q: Okay...I thought that in a million years it would never come to this, but what the hell. Here is my ... A: your focus is off; confident guy isn't worrying/analyzing about HER mindset; consequently, there's ... | |
| Online Dating Services | 12/5/2004 |
| Q: I'm writing an article about online dating and online dating services and I was wondering if you ... A: like everything, there's something lost, something gained; as for the advantages: it's a centralized ... | |
| Chemistry | 12/4/2004 |
| Q: This is a sensitive issue, and it's one that's almost always overlooked even though it's one of the ... A: there's lots of "average" looking girls hoping to meet guys; concentrate on them rather than the ... | |
| is he for real? | 11/24/2004 |
| Q: and about 2 months ago i met this guy greg, at a bar. well, the 1st time we met, we were both drunk, ... A: it's difficult to go back and change expectations and interactions when you already established a ... | |
| Boyfriend | 11/24/2004 |
| Q: My boyfriend is 21 years old and we have been together for 2 years and we moved in together not too ... A: this is an unfortunate by-product of technology; some escape thru this type of behavior instead of ... | |
| Waste of time? | 11/21/2004 |
| Q: This may be too complicated a matter to offer advice in, but here it goes. I am a 27 year old male. ... A: you have a couple of problems; she has a boyfriend and the work thing is in jeopardy of blowing up; ... | |
| how do i know if i should ask her out? | 11/17/2004 |
| Q: Hey, I was woindering if you could help me with a problem iwas having. I am currently a Sophmore in ... A: the reason it's so hard is because after all this time being friends you CAN'T just ask her out ... | |
| dating an older woman | 11/17/2004 |
| Q: I am in need of some advice. I am twenty years old and don't turn twenty-one untill August of next ... A: the answer is you're really too young to appeal to most of them, due to the reasons you mentioned, ... | |
| dating sucks | 11/13/2004 |
| Q: I am a 28yr old woman and he is a 28yr old man. We are both single. I have known this guy for a ... A: dating doesn't necessarily "suck"; it's your mindset that needs adjustment; i'm not sure this guy ... | |
| I work in Long Distance Company.... | 11/12/2004 |
| Q: I work in Long Distance Company. I called this grandmother in order to sign her up with our service, ... A: try to directly speak to the girl, phone or email, and explain how it all came about; no rush to ... | |
| how do i let him know? | 10/31/2004 |
| Q: I'm 26. He's 27.Hi Azure I met an guy. I like him. I don't know how much he likes me. I think I ... A: it can't really be planned out like that; part of who you are includes the spontaneity, ... | |
| Jealousy | 10/12/2004 |
| Q: Hey, I have a question. My girlfriend is the most wonderful, amazing girl, we've been going out for ... A: there's no magic answer; your low self-esteem is the culprit; stop telling yourself that she's ... | |
| a girl i like | 10/7/2004 |
| Q: Ok i am very confused right now and i am in a tough situation. There is this girl that i like(a ... A: you've got to get these emotions under control, as you have no indication that she has any interest ... | |
| is there hope? | 10/7/2004 |
| Q: I am a 34 year old woman and have been involved with a man who is now 36. We were great friends for ... A: if you mean hope for a committed relationship, probably not, unless he decides to do something to ... | |
| Should I go out with him? | 10/2/2004 |
| Q: I'm writing to you because i'm not sure about the whole teacher/student relationship. Here is the ... A: since you seem somewhat consumed by these thoughts, and since it doesn't appear he'll be making a ... | |
| How to commit | 9/30/2004 |
| Q: My deal is...I've been friends with this guy for 3yrs. We decided to date 3wks ago and it was going ... A: who said anything about "the rest of your life"??..and what's this "long term" and "if he's the ... | |
| Azure, I am in desperate... | 9/28/2004 |
| Q: Azure, I am in desperate need of some adivce. In late August I left for college, and was forced to ... A: i'm not sure one weekend home is going to make everything better; as to what to do, i'd just keep it ... | |
| A Question | 9/25/2004 |
| Q: I hope you can provide me with some insight. I met and fell in love with a good friend of mine, his ... A: i understand his thinking, but i agree with what you told him; before you can give him any ... | |
| Suprises | 9/21/2004 |
| Q: I was wanted to ask you for ideas on the little things that women love so much that guys usally cant ... A: part 2--you keep YOURSELF interesting by learning, growing, developing different interests--that way ... | |
| I'd like to know the trruth? | 9/20/2004 |
| Q: OK, obviously you can't answer this question for every guy out there.. However I would like to hear ... A: i try to adjust my conversation, in social interaction, as to what seems to "fit" that personality, ... | |
| new guy | 9/19/2004 |
| Q: Okay, I'll be straight to the point here. I met this guy at school about two weeks ago and he's been ... A: some people apparently don't consider it inconsiderate to not call back in a timely fashion; others ... | |
| Hi there ... I hav this friend... | 9/18/2004 |
| Q: .. I hav this friend who came to me couple of days ago with a strange problem ,,, she was devastated ... A: we can't often control, nor usually understand, the reactions of others, especially in interactions ... | |
| Am I His Friend or A Love Interest? | 9/15/2004 |
| Q: Two weeks ago my coach ex broke it off saying he cares for me a lot & doesn't want to lose me as a ... A: c'mon; we both know this "friend" thing is a sham; as you inferred, it's just a means of keeping you ... | |
| any chance of a reconciliation? | 9/11/2004 |
| Q: My name is John .. I was with my ex Rachel for 4 years.. she was the love of my life and still is.. ... A: if you really want to feel better, stop hoping against hope, stop writing to people like me, stop ... | |
| Normal? | 9/7/2004 |
| Q: I was just wondering - when one moves out of their parents house and into another with their ... A: you should definitely talk to her about it; if you take a gentle approach, you should be able to ... | |
| I think my boyfriend might be gay? | 9/7/2004 |
| Q: I don't know im really confused. I've been going out with this guy Tim for two years now. We are ... A: the episode at 14 doesn't necessarily mean he's gay; chances are he isn't; unless you have seen ... | |
| "window of opportunity" | 9/7/2004 |
| Q: According to a relationships manual I read (naturally written by men), it states that when a guy ... A: your initial paragraph doesn't include the immediate reaction of the female, which most times, like ... | |
| car hobby in the way | 8/28/2004 |
| Q: I'm 20 and my boyfriend of 6 months is 18. I do love him (I have had several other relationships but ... A: sometimes you can get so blinded by "love", that it gets in the way of your better judgment, leading ... | |
| "till we meet again" | 8/27/2004 |
| Q: I had connected with a woman a month ago and had hit it off one time. She told me she was busy ... A: i don't think you did anything wrong; my feeling is it didn't matter that anyone died, she just ... | |
| His mother is trying to ruin things! | 8/25/2004 |
| Q: No, it's very, very obvious she does not like me. Even he knows that she doesn't like me. When I'm ... A: sometimes love is not the most important thing to consider in evaluating a situation; we can love ... | |
| What is wrong with me? | 8/24/2004 |
| Q: I know that MANY woman face the problem that I am facing. My question is: My 24 y/o boyfriend of 2 ... A: like most addictions, you first have to assume it's probably not going to change; then it comes down ... | |
| screw up boyfriend | 8/20/2004 |
| Q: I have been in a 6 year relationship with my boyfriend, and I have been through thick and thin with ... A: it depends on how many passes you want to give him; obviously, he didn't meet anyone's definition of ... | |
| nice finish last? | 8/20/2004 |
| Q: Much has been brought up about having survived an abusive or conceited boyfriend. But what about ... A: you've delineated the polar opposites, but there are some guys who've been able to integrate ... | |
| someone I dated contacted me | 8/18/2004 |
| Q: Why would someone I had dated, who I had remained friends with, contact me after four months of no ... A: i wouldn't read alot into it; people call ex's all the time; he could have just been bored at that ... | |
| confused | 8/7/2004 |
| Q: my name is sarah and im 18. ive been dating someone over a year who just left for army basic ... A: a combination of one and four; don't even THINK about two and three..you can put him on the back ... | |
| Seeing my ex boyfriend | 7/30/2004 |
| Q: A few years ago I dated and fell in love with a man 8 years younger than me, I was 33 at the time ... A: as i see it, this is little more than an addictive, sexually based arrangement, that if continued, ... | |
| Hi, I am going to be a sophomore... | 7/29/2004 |
| Q: I am going to be a sophomore in college this year. I am going back to school in a few weeks and ... A: that's fairly common, especially having a boyfriend, unless you have a h.s. friend that you were ... | |
| Should I pursue or let go? | 7/16/2004 |
| Q: I don't want to waist your time so I'll try to make this question quick. I met this girl about 2 ... A: you want to let go a girl you can't stop thinking about??..as the saying goes, nothing ventured, ... | |
| tongue tied | 7/15/2004 |
| Q: my main problem is getting past the initial small talk stage and actually talking about things that ... A: the best way to make more interesting conversation is for YOU to become more interesting, as your ... | |
| Marriage Problem | 6/28/2004 |
| Q: I'm currently 23 in college. I'm in the middle of an 8 month relationship. Before I got together ... A: we both know the answer; as long as she's still married, and you both have these active feelings, ... | |
| How do I approach? | 6/26/2004 |
| Q: this question has a little setup, so bare with me. Alright, I'm into online dating, because I'm ... A: the one thing you can count on nowadays is that people think nothing of being totally insensitive ... | |
| HELP!!! (sorry so long!) | 6/25/2004 |
| Q: My ex and I have kept in touch for 4 months after our breakup.he broke up with me. He lives 20 min ... A: all of your many "why" questions are interesting, but the indivdual answers are basically ... | |
| committment issues | 6/13/2004 |
| Q: I am mid 20s, single never been married. A friend set me up with a guy. I was excited since for ... A: i'm a little confused; you dated for 4 months, you inquired i presume as to the dating ... | |
| i need your help | 6/10/2004 |
| Q: im 20 studying at college,i live in london. The thing is i saw a girl about 2,3 months ago in the ... A: first off, get serious; being attracted to someone is a long way from love; now as to making a move, ... | |
| My boyfriend and my choices | 6/10/2004 |
| Q: Do you think that if you are sharing your life with someone else (meaning you are in a serious ... A: everyone has a right to their preferences, as well as putting forth what their requirements are for ... | |
| Best Friend/Boyfriend | 6/7/2004 |
| Q: I am currently involved in a serious long-term relationship with my boyfriend. (I'm 19 by the way) ... A: it usually stems from insecurity about oneself; certainly security levels can be based on family ... | |
| Best Friend/Boyfriend | 6/7/2004 |
| Q: I am currently involved in a serious long-term relationship with my boyfriend. (I'm 19 by the way) ... A: first re your boyfriend; he can voice his concerns but he shouldn't be telling you what you can and ... | |
| What is his problem? | 6/5/2004 |
| Q: I'm am talking to a guy who is 3 years older than I am. He just turned 20 and I will be 17 in 2 ... A: i can't read his mind, and you shouldn't even try; don't chase; just lead your life; if they're ... | |
| HOW DOES A PERSON DEAL WITH... | 6/2/2004 |
| Q: HOW DOES A PERSON DEAL WITH BEING MISLEAD IN A RELATIONSHIP ? MY BOYFRIEND AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER ... A: possessive nature, due to insecurity, has finally come out; don't let his threats bully you into ... | |
| trouble getting started... | 5/29/2004 |
| Q: So, here's the thing. A couple years ago, I almost got married. We were together for four years. ... A: you're on the right track; the key is confidence, and you're gaining it; you have to see it as, ... | |
| confused | 5/19/2004 |
| Q: I am 35 years old and have been single for two years,I have finally gotten to a point in my life ... A: as to your first question, i've no problem with being discriminating when it comes to romantic ... | |
| communication..say what you feel or not? | 5/12/2004 |
| Q: Azure I must prewarn you..the guy I am seeing is just not normal, and he and I laugh about ... A: in primarily sexual relationships (as chances are he sees it as), it's common for a guy to space out ... | |
| WHAT AM I TO DO? | 4/25/2004 |
| Q: Last year I met a woman on an internet chat. Things progressed very well and we began talking on ... A: you can dislike that she didn't tell you; but neither that, nor her past, changes the fact that the ... | |
| how to | 4/20/2004 |
| Q: ------------------------- thanks Azure ok, so yes i need to end it...it may end on its own by not ... A: i'd tell him you've decided as much as you like him and enjoy the moments you have together, you and ... | |
| how to "really" end something | 4/20/2004 |
| Q: I have emialed you before...same guy issues. I am 36 catholic, dating or whatever it is, a 41 jewish ... A: you answered alot of your own question when you said it hurt more than it felt good; unless you're a ... | |
| something wrong | 4/15/2004 |
| Q: I am 22 years old guy from some colleges and I've been with a 18 years old girl about one year and a ... A: first you can stop telling her to change just to suit you; that only leads to resentment on her ... | |
| confused | 4/13/2004 |
| Q: I wrote you once before and need more advice-I have been dating this guy for a month (he is 30,I am ... A: there's not enough information as to identifying what his real intentions might be; but i don't ... | |
| relationship help | 4/6/2004 |
| Q: I asked you a question a while back and would like you advice on something else.I have been dating ... A: cheating would have to come from a broken agreement; we don't know if he has one with her, and he ... | |
| help | 4/2/2004 |
| Q: Well I'm in a jam. Silly me, I allowed sexual benefits to be added to my friendship with some older ... A: it's neither love or lust; it's addiction, and it's not good; having plenty of self-esteem, i ... | |
| Ultimatum - What should I do? | 3/31/2004 |
| Q: I dated this girl for a year and half before we moved in together. Our relationship was perfect in ... A: where has your self-esteem gone??...this girl you supposedly love has done nothing but show you ... | |
| Boyfriend/friends& family | 3/29/2004 |
| Q: I am 18 & my boyfriend just turned 21 not too long ago. We have had problems with people interfering ... A: i haven't heard about anything bad you've done to justify his behavior; 2d, people are responsible ... | |
| Boyfriend/friends& family | 3/29/2004 |
| Q: I am 18 & my boyfriend just turned 21 not too long ago. We have had problems with people interfering ... A: 2 different issues; you can't make your decisions regarding who to be with based upon what others ... | |
| taking it slow | 3/22/2004 |
| Q: I have been talking to this guy for 6 months (he is 30 I am 35),he delivers to my workplace and he ... A: i've no way of knowing his feelings, and you certainly don't have enough information as yet to draw ... | |
| He's Jealous & Possessive | 3/20/2004 |
| Q: I have a new boyfriend that exhibits jealousy even if I innocently say Hi to another man. He then ... A: you didn't really ask a question, but my general advice would be to get rid of this possessive, ... | |
| Boyfriend On Probation is is against the law or not? | 3/18/2004 |
| Q: I am a 14 year old that is dating a 17 yrs old boy that is on probation. The probation officer told ... A: each state has a law that makes it illegal to have sex (including more than one means of sexual ... | |
| Online dating | 3/16/2004 |
| Q: My name is Nadia Stewart. I am a university Journalism student at the U of Guelph-Humber in ... A: 1. lots of people never did well in "public settings"..online gave them an opportunity to get beyond ... | |
| Green Eyed Monster | 3/12/2004 |
| Q: I (sorta)have a boyfriend-He & I were intimate about a month ago & he has backed off steadily since ... A: jealousy comes from insecurity and a lack of self-esteem...set a time to have an honest, open ... | |
| Ex-Girlfriend | 3/2/2004 |
| Q: I am a 22 soon to be 23 year old male, who about a year ago split up with my girlfriend of 3 years, ... A: typical relationship stuff; as to it working, certainly in the realm of possibility...if you feel ... | |
| Online Dating | 3/1/2004 |
| Q: I met a man online who lives 2800 miles away from me. We are going to meet in a few weeks and I'd ... A: whatever comes to your mind; some topics might be past relationships, what are relationship ... | |
| dating after she says she's too busy | 2/25/2004 |
| Q: I have a question about asking a person out on a date. I have been chatting with a beautiful woman, ... A: i doubt that she's upset..she's either involved with someone else, not interested in dating you, or ... | |
| Reseducing | 2/15/2004 |
| Q: My ex who I have a valve release relationship with, said this to me a few days ago. I think I know ... A: "valve release"??...i get the feeling you two were never good at open, honest, non-manipulative ... | |
| LongDistance Relationship and He Has A Child | 12/24/2003 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with this guy since August, but he is a friend of the family who I ... A: the child is the least of your problems; first you have the distance; that creates all sorts of ... | |
| Why can't I reciprocate the love? | 11/25/2003 |
| Q: I have been dating the same woman for about 10 months. She is 30, and I'm 33. We have come to a ... A: the answer is too obvious for you to see...you can't reciprocate since you don't love them..if and ... | |
| Sick of his games | 10/31/2003 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and we love each other very much. Things have been rocky ... A: sometimes love can be like a bad drug...you're addicted to it but it's really harmful to your ... | |
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Life experience can really be the only teacher in this area; however going through the experience is not enough. What is necessary is a real awareness, sensitivity to, and reflection upon what has happened, what has been lost, what has been gained. Getting beyond one's own insecurities and subjectivities, and seeing the experience in the context of the bigger picture, are essential stepping stones to learning and loving...ps..azure announces CT matchmaking service..for more, go to wishuponastar-ct.com
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