| Subject | Date Asked |
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| How to make it work... | 10/14/2008 |
Q: Weve been bestfriends for nearly 10 years - both 26 now. Had on/off relationship now and again. Last ...
A: unless you can see each other at least once a month, or there's a definitive plan to be together ...
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| Falling for an unavailable man | 10/11/2008 |
Q: I have been seeing a guy I really like for several months. I had known him for a year through mutual ...
A: being the more involved, needier one isn't the preferable position; he's offering to participate in ...
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| ADVICE ABOUT DIFFICULT RELATIONSHIP | 10/8/2008 |
Q: Greetings, I have been dating this beautiful girl for 4 months, everything has been working more or ...
A: getting mad or complaining about not getting what you "deserve", isn't the best approach; you can't ...
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| Potential trip with boyfriend. | 10/8/2008 |
Q: I'm (almost) 19, I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years and neither of us has had sex ...
A: in this case, the rewards outweigh the low risk; the parents' chances of finding out are slim; as ...
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| why can't I let go???/ | 10/5/2008 |
Q: this guy I'm seeing is 36 and is like a big kid with no responsibilities, one day he's fine and ...
A: probably just insecurity/low self-esteem; you need to INFORM him that either he gets the help he ...
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| New addition | 9/27/2008 |
Q: I go on AllExperts all the time, I think it's great, I also do a bit of volunteering myself for some ...
A: relaxed, confident, secure, trumps the opposites; stop worryin about the guy--it's only if/when she ...
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| HOW TO HANDLE THE GIRL OF MY DREAMS? | 9/26/2008 |
Q: Greetings, Let me start on the beginning... Three months ago I met a beautiful young girl at a ...
A: the "present" issues are really more "future" insecurities, as it appears time spent together, if ...
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| HOW TO HANDLE THE GIRL OF MY DREAMS? | 9/26/2008 |
Q: Greetings, Let me start on the beginning... Three months ago I met a beautiful young girl at a ...
A: need more info--how often do you see her?..what does the time together consist of?..is it an ...
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| my best friend | 9/26/2008 |
Q: three weeks ago my best friend told me that he is dating another woman. we've been friends for over ...
A: it's a learning experience--it was a mistake to get so involved with someone you didn't even date; ...
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| moved in with Widower | 9/25/2008 |
Q: Two 1/2 years ago I met a wonderful guy. He had been widowed for one year when we met. His wife of ...
A: once you begin living together, the incentive to marry, especially when older, wanes; i doubt at ...
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| How to get out of a troubled marriage.... | 9/8/2008 |
Q: ... I have been in a relationship with my husband since I was 16 years old (I am now 37)We have ...
A: as we saw with OJ, no guarantees as to "safety", nor can i offer particulars as to departure plans, ...
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| problems with my boyfriend | 9/4/2008 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is 23 and I am 20. I love him with all my heart ...
A: 3 different issues, and they all point to a relationship you'd be better off out of; the drug thing ...
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| How to get over the beginning of our relationship | 8/27/2008 |
Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for around a year now (the start date is a little ambiguous) and we ...
A: some things to consider; a) you might want to consider counseling, as there are some underlying ...
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| Tempted to cheat | 8/21/2008 |
Q: I came into the world of dating rather late in life, having been shy and antisocial as a youth/teen. ...
A: you've touched upon a universal problem affecting most males at one time or another that have ever ...
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| Boyfriend's with part time jobs | 8/20/2008 |
Q: So some background information to help you understand. July 2007 my boyfriend broke his foot. His ...
A: he doesn't clean up, make a SERIOUS effort to get a job, because he's lazy and because you've ...
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| Is this the end? | 8/15/2008 |
Q: I'm a 25 year old female, red hair, white complexion. My boyfriend of 6 months is 21 he has a crew ...
A: the reality is, MOST people are on dating sites because they have an interest in meeting/seeing ...
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| Is it possible to get back with my ex? | 8/7/2008 |
Q: So, I basically ruined my relationship. I was going through a really hard time in my life. PTSD, ...
A: this isn't the relationship to put all your hopes/expectations in--you have issues with distance, ...
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| Wise or not? | 8/5/2008 |
Q: I've dated off and on the last four years, having a real problem on my end since my divorce with ...
A: as a general guideline, not dating co-workers is a reasonable practice, but i would remain open to ...
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| Long distance releationship | 8/4/2008 |
Q: I'll try to make this brief. I met a girl on vacation on June 28th in the upper peninsula of ...
A: i doubt either of those approaches will work; it's only been a month, and you have big logistical ...
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| To move or not to move | 7/31/2008 |
Q: I have struggled with it terribly on my own. I am currently in a relationship with a man that I ...
A: five years of then dating, plus 6 months now, appears to be sufficient time/experience to ascertain ...
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| I feel awful | 7/14/2008 |
Q: My problem starts like this: a month and a half ago I got out of a long term relationship. The whole ...
A: love, boyfriend, relationship, after 5 days...?..let's not confuse the euphoria that occurs upon an ...
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| Dating woes! | 7/9/2008 |
Q: I've been dating a wonderful guy for about a month now. I'm 21, he's 20. He is amazing to me, and ...
A: relax; it's only been a month, you're both quite young, and just getting to know each other; plus, ...
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| Starting to Date | 7/8/2008 |
Q: My name is Jason and I am a 24 year old guy. I met this girl at the bar about a month ago. We ...
A: lower expectations, don't chase, show no neediness, cool it down, stay in touch but leave room for ...
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| Relationship Question | 7/5/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have roughly being going out for 2.5 years. In the beginning he had a problem ...
A: lesson 1: never give up true friends just to give in to the demands of an insecure ...
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| Is it bad to "NEED" the person you love? | 7/2/2008 |
Q: My name is Mallory and I am currently in a relationship that has become pretty serious. I'm falling ...
A: both positions may be understandable, plus, you're dealings with words that can be ambiguous, so ...
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| my boyfriends friend who is a girl is too touchy feely | 6/30/2008 |
Q: I have a problem with my boyfriend and one of his girlfriends being too touchy feely towards each ...
A: i'm not there so i can't objectively observe/evaluate the behaviors you mention; if you've already ...
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| dating a boy with a baby... | 6/26/2008 |
Q: ). I am a 24 year old woman dating a 26 year old man with a one year old daughter. We have not dated ...
A: agreed--too many sources, and views, of love/affection will be the LEAST of the kid's problems, ...
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| Is that a no? | 6/25/2008 |
Q: need a date for a dinner party so I called up a guy I haven't spoken to in over a year last night ...
A: not necessarily--you never said when the party was--call again, say or leave message that if he ...
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| What is going on with him is it porn? | 6/24/2008 |
Q: I have been dating/living with my boyfriend now for almost 2 years. We both got into our ...
A: being the needier one isn't the position you want to be in; this guy knows it, has gotten totally ...
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| dating | 6/8/2008 |
Q: she says she does not want a relationship yet she does not want me to go out with anyone else and ...
A: forget the semantics, you're both IN a relationship, and exclusivity is a HUGE commitment; the only ...
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| GirlFriend Problem | 5/28/2008 |
Q: me and my girl went out since she was 15 and i was 18. we went out for three and a half years and ...
A: unfortunately, most people aren't with one person from 16 to 60--don't know ages but i'm sure you're ...
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| Do actions speak louder than words? | 5/28/2008 |
Q: Sup, i've been dating a 27 y/o for 4months, spents alot of time together, introduced me to his ...
A: relax--it's been 4 months, not 4 years; and, nothing is preventing you from saying that you really ...
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| boyfriend help | 5/27/2008 |
Q: k so ive been dating this guy for almost 8 months and im in love with him but he has changed. he ...
A: people can change, along with their feelings--that doesn't mean you have to accept what displeases ...
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| Pls advise me | 5/26/2008 |
Q: i have a problem which i hope u can help me. i am 28 years old and i've known my boyfriend for ...
A: time to wake up; the guy has been jerkin you around for a long time; his behavior should never have ...
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| My Girlfriend has an older "friend" | 5/21/2008 |
Q: Am I out of touch or unresonable? My Girlfriend has an older "friend" he is 80 she is 40 I am 48. ...
A: it depends--if she is without a doubt "bilking" him, then your complaint on ethical/moral grounds is ...
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| Fear of rejection | 5/20/2008 |
Q: I'm involved in a strange thing with this guy. We go to the same college (we're both 23 years old), ...
A: a) what you have IS a relationship; b)..i wouldn't put alot of credence on alcohol-influenced ...
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| Dating | 5/15/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend of three and half years recently broke up with me. I am 6mnths pregnant with his first ...
A: it's over--the only thing left to do is stay in the present, live your life..unfortunately, no ...
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| Girlfriend or Just Friends | 5/5/2008 |
Q: she has a 2 year old son. We are very similar in almost every way I can think of (hobbies, music, ...
A: nothing ventured, nothing gained..sometimes you have to risk something to gain something; you can ...
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| relationship advice | 4/28/2008 |
Q: I'm going through a rough patch in my relationship and I really don't know if it is normal or the ...
A: you have enough issues to consider counseling, especially when they begin to adversely affect your ...
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| prologue | 4/17/2008 |
Q: What would you do if you found yourself communicating online with an interesting man who bills ...
A: people are "tested" all the time, and most everyone would make for an interesting chapter in a book ...
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| wake up call | 4/16/2008 |
Q: soory it kinda long but i thought you needed to know some backgroun on the situation. My boyfriend ...
A: you're letting your emotions run wild here; you've known the guy for 4 months, it's been primarily a ...
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| Hot for teacher? | 4/13/2008 |
Q: Hello. I'm Tom, a senior at a fine Texas university. I apologize for the length of this message, ...
A: refreshingly well-written--i essentially agree with your analysis; alot of "hat" here, but whether ...
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| I don't get it. | 4/10/2008 |
Q: I just moved 1500 miles to be with a man i love very much. We have had people cheat on us before so ...
A: of course not---actually, it may be time to reconsider your decision of being down there..anyone ...
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| girlfriend kissing someone else | 3/17/2008 |
Q: ok im 21 years old and I am with my girlfriend , we've been together for about 6 months, and i love ...
A: everything is forgiveable if you're willing to forgive; don't get too hung up on the kiss at the ...
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| I want to be with her but she's engaged | 3/17/2008 |
Q: Hey Azure. Sorry if this is a bit long. I've known this girl for around three or four years now and ...
A: can't hurt to tell her your feelings, but, after that, UNLESS she feels similarly, it's time to step ...
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| Should I stay engaged | 3/13/2008 |
Q: I am in need of counseling and really can't go to any friends with this for fear of how they will ...
A: it takes TWO people to maintain any communication; i have no problem with ex'es being friends, but ...
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| Dating a man with many girl friends | 2/27/2008 |
Q: I recently started seeing a guy, we have been out on four dates and have been having a lot of fun ...
A: certainly asking what the difference is can be a valid question--for all you know, having sex may ...
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| how can I tell if a friendship is more than friendship | 2/22/2008 |
Q: My story starts almost nine years ago. I had a relationship with someone who I got along great with, ...
A: he has a main squeeze, and is seeing you, sex included, on the side; you've made things pretty ...
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| What to write in a message to this girl | 2/20/2008 |
Q: There is this girl I'm kind of interested in.I am from Nigeria in Africa, and when we were there, we ...
A: just say you want to remain friends and get to know her better, then just ask for whatever info you ...
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| Verbal Affection | 2/19/2008 |
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for about four months and things have been going really well. Me (I'm ...
A: there's only 2 choices, and neither are great; the first is to tell him how you feel, but then if he ...
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| confused by him | 2/16/2008 |
Q: I've been dating this guy for about a month, and I'm confused about how much he is into me. We hang ...
A: beware of the too intense beginnings--they tend to burn out later...no real "normal", but preferable ...
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| confused by him | 2/15/2008 |
Q: I've been dating this guy for about a month, and I'm confused about how much he is into me. We hang ...
A: yes...it's only been a month of casual dating, not a committed 1 year relationship; having alot of ...
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| Commitment | 2/7/2008 |
Q: I need your advice ... my boyfriend is 50 and I am 48. We have been dating for 7 years. We have ...
A: not sure what you mean "holding over", but though i generally agree with your reasoning, which you ...
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| does he likes me? | 2/1/2008 |
Q: I am 23 years old and have had few very short term relationships in the past.I was the one to break ...
A: the words, smooth talk, mean little, and as you're seeing, can work to get your emotions too ...
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| 2 months | 1/29/2008 |
Q: "i've been dating a guy for a little over 2 months. what should i expect for a 2 month ...
A: there's no rule; no need to talk daily; as to frequency, 2 days isn't unusual--2 months isn't very ...
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| My past interfering with y relationsip | 1/11/2008 |
Q: I am in a relationship and have been for amost a year now. I love my boyfriend dearly and wiht all ...
A: this is all on him--his anxieties/insecurities, probably spill over into controlling, jealous ...
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| where to go from here? | 1/4/2008 |
Q: I'm 21 and I have been seeing a man that is 30. I know 9 years seems like a huge step, but we are ...
A: unless there's an agreement of exclusivity, you both are free to meet/date others if you choose to; ...
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| Long time relationship issue. 5 years no spark | 12/20/2007 |
Q: I know after 5 years in a relationship you shouldn't expect there to be much of a spark. Instead you ...
A: welcome to one of the difficult yet common roadblocks facing many relationships, and ESPECIALLY the ...
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| dating problem | 12/19/2007 |
Q: I have been dating a girl for 3 months we are both 21. I am divorced and she is legally seperated ...
A: it doesn't have to be that black and white; tell her certainly you would hope they could still keep ...
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| Seriously confused | 12/18/2007 |
Q: We met on an online dating site (we hit it off immediately) about a week before Halloween and we've ...
A: what on earth were you thinking??..here's a guy you hardly even saw, hardly even knew, and you leave ...
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| Could this friendship turn into a relationship? | 12/17/2007 |
Q: Okay, so there's this friend of mine right, we haven’t seen each other in a long time because he ...
A: your emotions are leading you away from reality; essentially you have 2 examples of alcohol-aided ...
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| Boyfriend's Ex | 12/10/2007 |
Q: I've been dating a guy for over a year. Early into our relationship my bf told me that he was still ...
A: tricky situation; while it is healthy to be friends with ex'es, there can be a thin line between ...
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| what am i supposed to do | 12/8/2007 |
Q: I have been having a relationship with a very good friend now for several months. We have known ...
A: time to ask yourself if this is really how you want to live; the reality is, he'll be more than ...
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| Girlfriends Ex boyfriend | 12/4/2007 |
Q: My question is this. I have been dating this girl for about 5 months now. We are getting very ...
A: either you trust her or you don't; hopefully you'll be included in all this, be able to meet him, ...
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| What should I do | 11/28/2007 |
Q: "I been with my bf for 3 years im 21 he's 23 and one day i accused him falsely of cheating on me ...
A: where's your self-esteem?..the guy isn't very into you, is blatantly seeing others, and has asked ...
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| ??? | 11/28/2007 |
Q: Hey, So I am a little ashamed of myself, first of all my question is going to sound like the ...
A: i'm thinkin it's my turn to invite HER somewhere, like dinner; if she declines using the boyfriend ...
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| My fiance flips when we run into women from my past | 11/26/2007 |
Q: My fiance and I are a young (23), attractive, popular couple. Im not trying to toot my own horn but ...
A: she has an insecurity issue to deal with; ideally, this is cured by increasing self-esteem (many ...
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| Second chance with your ex | 11/21/2007 |
Q: so here is the background information I'm 18 and my ex and i dated for ten months before she broke ...
A: i doubt it can ruin it--it's not like you're gonna jump on her; i just think things sometimes are ...
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| Second chance with your ex | 11/21/2007 |
Q: so here is the background information I'm 18 and my ex and i dated for ten months before she broke ...
A: you said you went to the movies..isn't that asking her out?..you're already spending time ...
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| sex and dating | 11/10/2007 |
Q: I just recently got out of a verbally abusive relationship. @ the time I was trying to "make Greg go ...
A: i've already helped--the answer is the same...if you had ASKED that, i would have told you that ...
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| sex and dating | 11/10/2007 |
Q: I just recently got out of a verbally abusive relationship. @ the time I was trying to "make Greg go ...
A: there's no magic answer; one difficulty is there's no real good way of predicting how a guy will act ...
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| Important question | 11/5/2007 |
Q: I am 21 years old have been seeing this guy who is 25 years old, from my son's barbershop for about ...
A: you're not in the best situation; it's like getting the steak at the local restaurant for free since ...
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| My girlfriend habitualy lies to me | 11/5/2007 |
Q: I am crazy about this girl but I have caught her lying to me on a couple occasions. There are not ...
A: actually by giving her her the stated options of lieing or not, it would be HER who decides if the ...
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| Need some advice | 10/31/2007 |
Q: A few months ago, I ended my relationship with my boyfriend. We had been together for 6 years and ...
A: the deal is, if a guy is interested, he'll ask you out; stop initiating communication--that's HIS ...
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| How to get her back? | 10/25/2007 |
Q: I’m 24 and been going out with a girl who is 19 for 2 years and a half.. We used to live in the same ...
A: as you see, the approach i suggested is working, though you've gotten limited results because your ...
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| 3 months | 10/17/2007 |
Q: i've been going out with a guy for 3 months. i actually met him online. he is now off. in his ...
A: he appears to have made it clear that he doesn't want an exclusive arrangement; after 3 months, it's ...
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| 9 months.. | 10/9/2007 |
Q: I am 24 my boyfriend of now 9 months (which we have lived together for almost a year) is 32. He is a ...
A: some of the stuff you mentioned might be changeable, some not; the only way to find out is to have ...
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| Asking a man out | 9/29/2007 |
Q: Why do they generally say it is a bad idea for a woman to ask a man for his phone number and why is ...
A: 1. because generally speaking, a guy is set-up to do the asking--if he's interested; if he hasn't ...
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| How to get her back? | 9/17/2007 |
Q: I’m 24 and been going out with a girl who is 19 for 2 years and a half.. We used to live in the same ...
A: i don't recommend the "friends" thing unless/until both people are emotionally neutral--she is, ...
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| Game Over? | 9/16/2007 |
Q: I am rarely attracted to anyone, but have usually had a boyfriend over the years (many...I'm ...
A: he's playing the game, but you're on the bench; actually, once he didn't call after date 1, you were ...
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| Decisions, Decisions.. | 9/14/2007 |
Q: I work at a gas station in a small town, and when I started working there, I met one of my manager's ...
A: "butterflies" aren't the source of good decision-making, nor are insecurities; this thing with scott ...
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| confused | 9/3/2007 |
Q: i have dated a guy for two years.he used to act strange and he would vary from being aloof and ...
A: you're giving him exactly what he wants--casual no strings sex without commitment--and chances are ...
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| Wish I could make it better... I feel so confused and powerless! | 8/30/2007 |
Q: I'm hoping you can help me figure this out and make things better. Someone outside the situation ...
A: friday you should do nothing; if you have ANY amount of self-esteem, you won't hang around "on the ...
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| If we're "Just Friends" now, Can I still ask her out 4 years later? | 8/15/2007 |
Q: I am a 19 year old guy, and so is this girl. We're both in Sophomore year of college. I reall like ...
A: that's a pretty weird question joshua; ANYTHING can happen in 4 years--no way to predict how'll ...
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| Unlucky or lucky discovery? | 8/15/2007 |
Q: im 23 years old (f). i've been together with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. A few days ago, i ...
A: alot of people keep stuff relating to those that were special in their lives; really, no big deal, ...
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| should i give us a chance | 8/7/2007 |
Q: I am a girl living in the UK. I met a guy in May and we have been dating for 2 months. Then we slept ...
A: as you said, much too early to be analyzing such futuristic matters, unless someone indicates a ...
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| my relationship | 8/3/2007 |
Q: I really hope you can see my questions that I previously asked and had answered. if not here is a ...
A: i think it's never good for a guy to appear needy, insecure, dependent, weak; girls like a guy to be ...
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| Shy Boyfriend. | 8/1/2007 |
Q: I've been seeing a wonderful man for nearly six months. He is a great match for me, and I feel very ...
A: inform him that the situation is no longer acceptlable, and that a truly open, honest dialog leading ...
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| dating someone after they have lost a loved one | 8/1/2007 |
Q: I've been seeing guy for about a month now. His girl friend was killed in a plan crash about 7 ...
A: i wouldn't recommend this amount of interaction even WITHOUT the loss, and ESPECIALLY with it; ...
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| How should I ask? | 7/30/2007 |
Q: I go to a pretty small art class, and there's this girl that takes a class after mines so I only see ...
A: you don't have alot of options..first, think "no risk, no reward.." your only choice is to go up to ...
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| Good luck w/ this one | 7/25/2007 |
Q: My dad has been a Army Officer since 1988. That meant a life of constant travel for me and my mom. ...
A: first, you need to realize that kids grow up, feelings change, lives take different paths; obviously ...
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| only NOW | 7/20/2007 |
Q: . i never thought i would be asking advice on this but here it goes. I'm a 20yo swf, i have a good ...
A: hey there chloe--will it help to know that MANY are in the same boat?..i know it may not change how ...
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| Does he really care or is he playing? | 7/12/2007 |
Q: I ve been in a relationship for 6 months, but I am still not sure where is it going to. My boyfriend ...
A: time to look at the reality, which is he obviously isn't into this as much as you are; if he REALLY ...
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| lonley heart and the boyfriend next door. | 7/12/2007 |
Q: im currently in a relationship thats going on three years. im 23, my boyfriend is 32. he works m-f ...
A: "foolish" is putting it mildly--you're wasting precious time and giving up all pride/self-esteem for ...
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| Is the passion gone? | 7/10/2007 |
Q: I met this really nice guy from online dating, about 2 months ago, who's 28 and i am 30. We chatted ...
A: don't buy into the "stress" excuse; actually the barometer is quite simple--if he's interested, ...
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| ??? | 7/10/2007 |
Q: I'm 19 and I turn 20 in November. There is this guy I'm really interested in dating but he is 29 and ...
A: there's NO WAY "daddy" will allow this, and i don't exactly blame him; you have essentially a crush ...
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| long distance woes | 7/8/2007 |
Q: I traveled out of state for work to provide training at a site that I don't frequent often. I had ...
A: i think that after all this time, you still have the same issues as before; he's far away, you ...
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| My 4 year relationship and our sex life | 7/3/2007 |
Q: I'm Alex and I've been with my girlfriend for four years now. We have known each other since ...
A: it's a major problem that needs to be made a priority; usually a non-intimate relationship is a ...
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| Confused - she wont talk to me? | 6/26/2007 |
Q: Im confused. Me and my girlfriend met a few months before I went overseas. We broke up due to ...
A: your concerns appear reasonable, considering i have only your side of the story..her lack of ...
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| what is your opinion | 6/24/2007 |
Q: I met this wonderful man in Hawaii, we both were working at a personal growth seminar. We clicked, ...
A: and there lies the essence of the problem.."tech communication", while creating interesting ...
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| Inconvenience! | 6/22/2007 |
Q: This is just a rather general dilemma. First of all, I'm 19 and I've been single for five months ...
A: sounds like he's only asking for a casual date, and i doubt most guys consider a woman's being ...
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| Ugh | 6/22/2007 |
Q: I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 20. We've been together over two years. Lately, he's not been saying "I ...
A: or he just doesn't want to displease her; perhaps she said something to him about it recently; at ...
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| dancin on the moon.. | 6/19/2007 |
Q: I'm currently in a new relationship with a guy for about a month now. We were dating for the 3 ...
A: re; communication w/ ex, do you know the basis for the interaction?..if it's not overly frequent or ...
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| how do i know | 6/7/2007 |
Q: I am 29 yrs old, my recent boyfriend for 5.5 years is 6 yrs younger then me. I met him when he ...
A: time to come to terms with reality--it's over; he's at LEAST too immature, and at most, not very ...
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| stuck and unsure...do i say yes or no? | 5/26/2007 |
Q: I have a very hard decision to make and I was hoping maybe you can give me some advice to help me ...
A: a) he did alot of bad, inconsiderate, abusive stuff when seeing you, then broke up; b) he didn't ...
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| so confused | 5/23/2007 |
Q: I was dating a man I really loved and admired. He was very good to me and very affectionate and ...
A: certainly possible another woman is the cause, but again, whatever the case, the result is the same; ...
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| Relationship worth continuing? | 5/18/2007 |
Q: I have been with my girlfriend ten months now, and I am starting to have doubts about whether I ...
A: first off, it would be a good idea to give her a copy of your question--or at least you should ...
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| How can I explain strip club to my gf? | 5/15/2007 |
Q: I'm a 32 year old man and have been to strip club with friends a few years ago out of curiosity when ...
A: people have different moral codes as to what's right and wrong; i doubt anything you can say will ...
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| What Am I? | 5/7/2007 |
Q: Azure, I have been seeing this guy for a little less than 3 months, 2 weekends ago he asked me to ...
A: only HE knows the real reasons for bein a jerk--but we BOTH need to know that if he were truly ...
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| time to face reality.. | 5/6/2007 |
Q: Not sure where to go from here.....My boyfriend broke up with me 4 weeks ago. We had been together ...
A: whatever you decide, you need to stop the "friends with benefits" deal; first off you're not really ...
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| Anxiety over relationship | 5/4/2007 |
Q: Azure, I've been seeing this guy for 2 1/2 months now. Things have been really good for the most ...
A: neither; you have no evidence that anything is "wrong", but the anxiety can't be over "nothing"; ...
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| i'm confused | 5/3/2007 |
Q: i'm so confused right now. me and my girl friend have been dating for a few month's. were both in ...
A: i can understand her desire for space, freedom, experience, but doing exactly the same things makes ...
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| In the shadow of the last ex | 4/30/2007 |
Q: I have a great amazing boyfriend, I just want to get that out the way. I have never gotten along ...
A: enough is enough; i'd tell him you've HAD it with his references, pre-occupation with the past, and ...
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| Moving fast and am scared because of some of her behavior and viewpoints | 4/22/2007 |
Q: I am on here because I am in a relationship right now that is pretty crazy and moving fast. I am ...
A: in the first incident, going up and hassling the guy was out of line; your issue was with her, and ...
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| being out | 4/19/2007 |
Q: I work two jobs, have a son that lives 45 min from me. I have a live in girl friend. How can i ...
A: you don't have to do anything you don't want to..explain it to her as you did to me...if you feel ...
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| questions | 4/15/2007 |
Q: ok so I have a few personal/embarrassing questions, so if you could help me at all i would really ...
A: 1. a blow job is where you suck his dick like a popsicle, taking it in your mouth and moving your ...
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| Thinking about my ex | 4/9/2007 |
Q: I don't know what I'm doing even pursuing or entertaining these thoughts, but I am in a pickle! I ...
A: your interest in being friends is reasonable, but there are some issues; first, real friendships ...
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| Ex issues | 4/7/2007 |
Q: I would like to get some advice regarding my relationship with my ex, and I'd like an outsider's ...
A: i don't see it as a healthy situation--it's really more of a co-dependent arrangement than a real ...
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| confused | 4/6/2007 |
Q: my name is derek i'm a 20 year old male. i'm in the military and i'm about to deploy to qatar. ...
A: there's not alot you can do except rely on the fact that she wants to be with YOU; if she decides ...
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| Trying to Understand | 4/4/2007 |
Q: This might be a little long… I’m a 23/f and about 6 weeks ago I met this guy through a friend, who ...
A: he knows what he wants, a casual, no commitment dating arrangement that includes sex; the real ...
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| Confused about my ex? | 4/3/2007 |
Q: My ex gf broke up with my 6 months ago after dating for a year b/c she couldn't trust me anymore. I ...
A: the real question is, why is your self-esteem so low that you're allowing her to jerk you ...
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| Awkward moment | 4/2/2007 |
Q: So I had a slightly awkward date and need some advice. For beginners, I am not very good at dating. ...
A: "salvage.."??...there's nothing you did that you should have to worry about; you're certainly not in ...
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| relationships | 4/1/2007 |
Q: I am at a bit of a loose end, I hope you can help. Iv been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 2 ...
A: and you gave up school for this??..unfortunately, of the 2 of you, you're the more dependent, needy, ...
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| Dating a Widower | 3/28/2007 |
Q: I have been dating a widower for 8 months. We met on a dating site. Didn't know at the time it was ...
A: tough question; dead or alive, his heart is still with another woman; until if/when that changes, i ...
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| Relationship help | 3/13/2007 |
Q: But this other girl has a man already and dont know if she is interested in breaking up with ...
A: doesn't make alot of difference--your girlfriend is unhappy, you're not really into her--that needs ...
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| So confused! | 2/26/2007 |
Q: First I want to apologize for the long letter. I'm 23 years old and my boyfriend is 23. I just broke ...
A: make a "mistake" by leaving?? the real question is why is your self-esteem so low and neediness so ...
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| Closing one, opening another | 2/13/2007 |
Q: Hey there, I am current involoved in a relationship that has been for 7 years (on and off). I love ...
A: the next step is obvious; if you're not happy in the relationship, it needs to end; you can't spend ...
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| boyfriend issues | 2/8/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend of two years has recently chosen a religion that has convined him that sex is nothing ...
A: let's see--a past of physical abuse, no more sex, but still booze/drugs, and TOTALLY different ...
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| Trust | 1/29/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend of over 4 years has BIG trust issues. I have done NOTHING to make him not trust me. I ...
A: he's like that because he has low self-esteem and high insecurity; the long term solution would be ...
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| Relationship with a child involved. | 1/26/2007 |
Q: He has her on the weekends but if other relatives wants to spend time with her he gives up his time ...
A: it's unusual that he'd have her EVERY weekend; that could be a problem, as weekend time is quality ...
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| Relationship with a child involved. | 1/26/2007 |
Q: my boyfriend and I been officially dating a month but I have been around for a few months longer. ...
A: i don't agree with his comment; a 10 yr old can understand the difference between dating and engaged ...
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| I am "just a friend" | 1/25/2007 |
Q: I have this guy that I adore, "James". I have known him my whole life as we grew up across the ...
A: real romance occurs naturally, not thru negotiation or with one person "convincing" the other; all ...
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| am I crazy? | 1/23/2007 |
Q: I met a guy in Nov. 05 He seemed very interested in me. I didn't date him until march 06. He claimed ...
A: if you're "crazy", it would only be because you didn't get out of this mess LONG AGO; this never ...
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| sex issues | 1/20/2007 |
Q: it makes a lot of sense. In addition, I have talked to him since I first sent you the question and ...
A: and still doesn't sensitively address your feelings..there's a happy medium between too much and too ...
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| Break Up Help | 1/19/2007 |
Q: Ok, so much has happened to me the last few months. I was with a guy named James for 3 years. I ...
A: most break-ups don't have clear cut reasons; the bottom line is the same--it's over; you need to ...
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| sex issues | 1/19/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He's going to be 21 in August and I'm 19. We ...
A: being intimate in a healthy relationship doesn't just go "on hold" because someone is distracted by ...
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| living together before marriage | 1/18/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years, and are both sure that we are the ones ...
A: in my opinion, living together IS essentially being married, minus the ceremony/party; many times, ...
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| real or fake | 1/10/2007 |
Q: "I've been dating a guy 3 weeks now who says he has no gf. We've had sex once about a week ago and ...
A: he's got you into the casual sex slot; ask him for his phone no since you might like to call him ...
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| How can i get him back? | 1/8/2007 |
Q: We were together for almost two years.I'll give you a summary of our relationship.WE great together ...
A: why are you so needy/insecure, that you'd change "anything" to keep him??..if you're not "good ...
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| Relationship | 1/8/2007 |
Q: I have been seeing someone for over a year. We are not in a physical relationship. He has has some ...
A: sounds more like an involuntary co-existence rather than a relationship; to see someone for all that ...
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| In love with my best friend | 12/30/2006 |
Q: I am 21 and have been best friends with a man who is the same age as me for almost 4 years. I have ...
A: getting out with some semblance of self-esteem is the only way; the guy has selfishly jerked you ...
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| Is there hope | 12/22/2006 |
Q: I have been with the same girl since Aug 2004. A little over 1 year ago, I cheated on her with my ...
A: sounds like 2 people who got too comfortable/complacent, not appreciating the other as before; you ...
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| so confused :( | 12/17/2006 |
Q: SO this situation is eating away at me and I need someone's advice on what the hell is going on ...
A: the source of your confusion is the lack of open, honest communication between you and him; if you ...
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| What to do | 12/6/2006 |
Q: I am in a relationship of 4 years and we are living together. We're both in our early twenties. I ...
A: there'a a reason for everything; as to the SPECIFIC reason, that's not easily found; sounds like a ...
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| The Ex that just won't go away. | 12/4/2006 |
Q: I've been seeing someone for about 2 months. Their previous relationship ended in July of this past ...
A: a couple of issues here; your invading his privacy is no better than his deceit; people shouldn't be ...
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| Am I fooling myself (again)? | 11/30/2006 |
Q: I'm a professional woman who met a great guy from a Scandinavian country living and working here in ...
A: things naturally move forward, or not, on their own, so it's best to stay in the present; not sure ...
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| ........ | 11/28/2006 |
Q: I don know if I've asked you any questions in the past...but I know I've asked a few other people ...
A: your not letting go of this is destroying your enjoyment of what should be a great time in your ...
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| Time Limit | 11/26/2006 |
Q: He just says he isnt ready to move back in and wants to be sure things are good with us before does. ...
A: figure out what your committment requirements are, NOW, for continuing, inform him, if he blows you ...
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| future relationship? | 11/25/2006 |
Q: no i'm not seeing anyone and it isn't because of him that we're separating. this guy isn't dating ...
A: it's still a little unclear if "separating" means your THROUGH seeing him, but i'll assume it means ...
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| the ultimate bachelor who is terrified of commitment | 11/24/2006 |
Q: I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is a year and a half younger than me. We have dated for a year ...
A: he's laid it out for you; dating, on HIS terms, no commitment, just vague innuendo of coming ...
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| I Cheated on him | 11/18/2006 |
Q: I cheated on my boyfriend of 3 years. At the time I was in a bad place in my life. My career was ...
A: should have gotten this resolved before you moved in; he needs to take some responsibility for ...
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| why my boyfriend has such weird behavior | 11/8/2006 |
Q: Me and my boyfriend have known each other for about three years. we have been dating for about two ...
A: not weird at all; he's a guy, not interested in commitment, and you've allowed this freedom to ...
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| does he like me? | 11/1/2006 |
Q: he said maybe to one and hasn't said anything about the other...the maybe event is still 3 weeks ...
A: so you play it cool and see what happens..if he's interested, he'll go to at least one, maybe the ...
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| Are we stepping out of friends with benefits and don't realize it? | 10/30/2006 |
Q: I recently decided to start talking to a friend of mine that I have known for over two years. We are ...
A: interesting question--to me this FWB deal, to be REALLY that, has to put together 2 people who enjoy ...
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| HELP WITH RELATIONSHIP | 10/29/2006 |
Q: AZURE, HI, I AM SEARCHING FOR SOME HELP IN MY CURRENT RELATION OF ALMOST 11 YEARS. MY PROBLEM IS ...
A: why do you call him "fiancee" if he hasn't married you in 11 years?..in any case, the bottom line is ...
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| friends with benefits? | 10/23/2006 |
Q: I am 20 and in college...I just got out of a long 4 yr relationship about a year ago and am not ...
A: telling someone how to kiss is like telling them how to walk--you just do what feels natural; as to ...
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| My boyfriend lost his job...what should I do? | 10/20/2006 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and things were going really good, and then he got ...
A: as to talking to him, you just do it--if you substitute fear of hurt feelings for honesty, nothing ...
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| Kissing & Sex | 10/20/2006 |
Q: I have been in a relationship now for about a year with my girlfriend. In the first few months we ...
A: i would need to talk to her and get her to HONESTLY respond, to answer your question; but the ...
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| a "break" | 10/18/2006 |
Q: Ok i'm going to start with the story right away. I've been going out with this girl(Cynthia) for ...
A: a little of both--no one can predict the future, and no guy should sit on the sidelines waiting to ...
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| Totally confused my boyfriend | 10/16/2006 |
Q: I've recently come out of a 4 year relationship. My relationship ended quite badly, I was hurt by ...
A: not sure it's a matter of trust--seems more like mixed signals; first, you can't blame the ex for ...
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| Dating profile. | 10/16/2006 |
Q: Recently I joined Australia’s largest singles network. I upload the profile at ...
A: not crazy about the pic..the "smile" has sinister overtones; as to the profile, sounds like you're ...
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| asking him out | 10/14/2006 |
Q: The thing I'm worried about is that he will also be intimidated by the whole boyfriend/girlfriend ...
A: as a senior, he should have some idea that if you like a girl you ask her out--if he can't even do ...
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| Just friends? | 10/12/2006 |
Q: About 3 months ago I met someone online and we started to go out, about a month later we were ...
A: time waits for no one, and neither should you; the guy has cleverly given you "some version" of the ...
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| long distance | 10/12/2006 |
Q: hey, me and my girlfriend have been a long distance relationship for 9 months now and visit each ...
A: there's no way to really know; in such cases, it make more sense for you not to worry about it, if ...
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| dating an Ex | 10/10/2006 |
Q: We chose to work it out by going on dates once a week on friday and quality time on thursday, we ...
A: typical "no conscience" guy behavior; nothing's being "worked out" he's essentially stringing you ...
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| growing apart | 10/2/2006 |
Q: I have been with my bf for 3 years.We had a good relationship and we were so close together.Hes 28 ...
A: seeing him 2/3 times a week isn't the problem, as spaces in your togetherness are healthy, as well ...
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| Now What? | 10/1/2006 |
Q: Well, we do have very good conversations, and he has dones little things that were nice, like cook ...
A: as i suspected; sounds like he has it EXACTLY as he wants, with all the comforts and little ...
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| GOING OUT TO A CLUB | 9/27/2006 |
Q: My man and I have problems when one of us wants to go out to a club with friends. We've been ...
A: he acts that way because he's selfish, inconsiderate, controlling...essentially a jerk; you can't do ...
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| relationship | 9/24/2006 |
Q: I AM talking about moving forward in a relationship(moving in together etc) He said that he always ...
A: not sure he needs any "help", nor do you need to look very far for "signs" of his position; he ...
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| Dating Etiquette | 9/20/2006 |
Q: I don't understand the rules of dating. At what point do you stop accepting invitations to date ...
A: it's entirely up to you; you only become exclusive when you decide you don't have an interest in ...
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| Confused | 9/14/2006 |
Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for a year. Lately, she has been having some family issues and I ...
A: "family" issues shouldn't lead to disinterest on her part; it wouldn't be a stretch to assume some ...
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| Relationship issues | 9/14/2006 |
Q: I have been dating my current girlfriend for almost 6 months. I will cute straight to the chase. I ...
A: definitely; your insecurities and related attempts to control will only lead to her frustration, ...
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| Anxious & Confused | 9/12/2006 |
Q: I’m in a dating situation that I’m confused about and would like some input from you. For one, you ...
A: 1. it would have helped knowing your ages and how many dates you've actually been on, but here goes; ...
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| masturbation | 9/10/2006 |
Q: I've been dateing my girlfriend for a little over 2 years. our Sex dropped a lot in the past 6 ...
A: i'd be, especially if you're interested in a happy, healthy relationship; it's only serving to move ...
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| Is it an 'age thing'? | 9/9/2006 |
Q: I've had my eye on a girl that works at a restaurant I frequent for about a year and developed an ...
A: 1. give her one more call--lv your number; 2. why not?..she DID provide the number;3. reasonable ...
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| psychology of attraction | 9/6/2006 |
Q: this is a bit of a psychology one thats almost driving me crazy. although im a psycholgoist you ...
A: a tad confusing, but i think i get the gist of it; generally, the more attractive one perceives ...
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| Loose weight | 9/2/2006 |
Q: How can i ask my girl to loose weight in a nice way without hurting her feeling.
A: first, you need to be in a real relationship, not just a few weeks of dating; then you could say ...
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| ? | 8/31/2006 |
Q: What do you do when you have a boyfriend who blames everyone but himself? Meaning he thinks ...
A: you either put up with it or inform him that the behavior is no longer acceptable and needs to ...
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| in love with a friend | 8/28/2006 |
Q: I'm hoping you may have some advice for me. I'll start out with some background info. I'm 25. I have ...
A: interesting--well written; considering what you said, i think the risk/reward on this leads to your ...
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| What does a | 8/24/2006 |
Q: I have been dating this girl for 5 years. We get along great, have a lot of fun when we do things, ...
A: first off, try to calm down; you're jumping to all these conclusions with no basis; the week's ...
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| teacher dating | 8/21/2006 |
Q: my sister is 20 and she was been dating her former high school band teacher for 2 years now(he is ...
A: not really a question of "right or wrong", nor should you automatically go with what your parents ...
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| AT ODDS ABOUT LIVING TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE | 8/14/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend of 35 years of age and myself 38 are in love and have been dating exclusively for 15 ...
A: understanding it and agreeing with it are 2 different things; his view is understandable as well, ...
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| Betrayal | 8/13/2006 |
Q: I am sure i would not have been in that position though. That fact aside, if i do take her back how ...
A: you just have to let it go, which means taking her back without guilt trip or continuing to bring it ...
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| moving in together? | 8/7/2006 |
Q: I've been with my bf for about 3 years now and we have an ok relationship.Lately we've been having ...
A: it could easily be never, and i doubt you want to wait that long; if you feel living together is a ...
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| losing trust | 8/6/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years. Last week he went to a strip club with some ...
A: if you're looking for a "ruling", you're out of line; people have a right to change their mind, ...
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| My boyfriends ex girlfriend. | 8/3/2006 |
Q: My current boyfriend was with his ex for about 7 years she was his first love. He loved her but he ...
A: as to the calls, change your number or don't pick up calls you don't recognize; not sure what you ...
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| Getting my ex-girfriend back | 8/3/2006 |
Q: Okay, I dated her for four years. We lived together, technically we had a common law marriage, ...
A: the only thing left to do is stop analyzing, accept the unchangeable, let go, move on; you may have ...
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| Advice on the ex-girl | 8/3/2006 |
Q: I just wanted some advice on the ex. A little background first me and this girl dated for 1 and a ...
A: get out of this "limboland/pseudo friends" thing you're in; if you've broken up, there's nothing to ...
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| Is there a proper time to step back wait for her at act? | 8/2/2006 |
Q: Okay stupid question time ! What's the difference between a "real" date and asking her out in the ...
A: you said you went out as "friends"; what does that mean?..who limited it to that?..you don't need to ...
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| dating conversation | 7/31/2006 |
Q: I am now 31 and dating again. I am interested in turning a friendship into more. I know he is ...
A: ask the natural questions anyone in your position would have, along with expressing your interest in ...
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| Do I continue to persue a relationship with my friend's girlfriend? | 7/27/2006 |
Q: yes, she knowsBasically I've been really good friends with this couple over the years. I met him in ...
A: that's only something YOU can decide; you need to determine if there's more lost or gained by JUST ...
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| Confused... | 7/26/2006 |
Q: I am 20 and my boyfriend is 21. We have been together for 8 months now. For the first 5 months we ...
A: he's getting away with this complacent, self-serving behavior because you're allowing him to; sounds ...
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| Age difference and honesty | 7/24/2006 |
Q: Background, when I was 31 I lost a son after he was 12 days old. While we were in the bookstore a ...
A: the best course is to, as you said, "become friends and see what happens.."hopefully that will ...
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| Can he be trusted? | 7/24/2006 |
Q: I sent you a question about 10 minutes ago about "can he be trusted." Please write your reply to ...
A: he's a guy and he's young; that means he's constantly noticing pretty girls and thinks about ...
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| Can he be trusted? | 7/24/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. I'm 21 and he's 23. We have been living ...
A: he's a guy and he's young; if he's like most guys, he notices pretty girls and wants to sleep with ...
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| what avenue to take | 7/23/2006 |
Q: Azure, Thank you in advance for answering my question. I I have been dating this guy for a little ...
A: it depends whether you want to make the "gifts/flowers" a requirement, or leave it as just a ...
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| how do I let her know that Im not like all the others? | 7/21/2006 |
Q: I am very attracted to a woman at work and talk to her several times daily. I have grown to be very ...
A: the dinner invite, kid included, wasn't the best appproach; i doubt she would want to get her child ...
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| RELTIONSHIP | 7/20/2006 |
Q: I HAVE BEEN DATING THIS GUY FOR A LITTLE OVER A YEAR. OUR RELATIONSHIP STARTED OUT REALLY SLOW ...
A: not really a question of right or wrong; hard to tell if it indicates lack of feeling or if he's ...
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| boyfriend | 7/20/2006 |
Q: I was unable to take my holidays at the same time as my boyfriend, we both live in Holland but were ...
A: i can't say what his deal is, or how much he cares or doesn't; but you've wrapped your whole life ...
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| My | 7/19/2006 |
Q: I enjoy reading your answers to all the questions. You don't just tell people what they want to ...
A: fear of a negative response isn't sufficient grounds to table the honest expression of your ...
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| Boundaries | 7/19/2006 |
Q: I am hoping you can help me. I am 34 years old, and met a great guy nearly 2 months ago of the same ...
A: mom is on the right track; you gave him the choices; he's chosen to not meet your reasonable ...
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| DATING/RELATIONSHIP | 7/18/2006 |
Q: ok i like this girl and we are really good friends how could i tell if she likes me or wants to go ...
A: i know you're young but you mind as well learn right from the beginning; you don't NEED to know ...
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| Is it real? | 7/18/2006 |
Q: I'm 19 and i've been dating my boyfriend James for over a year now. We have been living together for ...
A: 19 is way too young to be limited to one guy, LET ALONE live together; you can't possibly know at 19 ...
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| what should i do plzzz help | 7/18/2006 |
Q: Well theres a girl i really like. We are both 15 in highschool. So anyway we went out for a while ...
A: i can't read her mind; if you dumped her, you need to apologize, tell her it was a mistake, and that ...
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| Dating Advice | 7/18/2006 |
Q: I'm really stuck in a situation right now that is really testing me. Me and my girlfriend have been ...
A: yes, yes, and no; you're not only too young, you're TEN YEARS too young!..living ...
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| My boyfriend's mother | 7/17/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for several months and have begun talking about marriage. We ...
A: the chief negotiator should be the boyfriend, who should, caring guy that he is, understand and ...
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| What to do? | 7/17/2006 |
Q: I am dating this guy that I work with in different department, we being dating for four months now I ...
A: prepare for a lesson from the book of love, which is, never love a guy who gives you the "don't ...
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| Gift Ideas | 7/17/2006 |
Q: I have recently started seeing an old girlfriend from high school, and had a question about a great ...
A: first, take the "feelings" word out of your vocabulary, along with the rekindling speech; it's the ...
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| Friend confusion | 7/16/2006 |
Q: Well ive been friends with this girl for about 2 years now, im not sure i can say we are GOOD ...
A: sometimes you don't know what you've got until you lose it; i think in this case you are ...
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| should i persue this woman. | 7/14/2006 |
Q: ok i recently met a gorgeous woman she seemed perfect. was like a whilwind romance, i have never ...
A: a no brainer--underneath all the niceties and the "letting down easy", what remains is that the ...
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| She wants a break from the relationship... | 7/13/2006 |
Q: Me and my girlfriend have been together for 10 months now. She is 15 and i am 17. Well, last ...
A: sometimes you have to just accept someone's wishes; at this point, there's nothing to do or fix; if ...
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| Help please!!!! | 7/12/2006 |
Q: A month ago my girlfriend broke up with me after a 3 year relationship. We were living together and ...
A: first, stop blaming her; what people say in a relationship is ALWAYS subject to change without ...
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| trust and vacations | 7/12/2006 |
Q: (some background)I am 39 and my girlfriend is 38. We have been going out for 4 months. We have a ...
A: a no -brainer; confident guy opts for choice 2, insecure, needy guy opts for 1; even if you're the ...
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| Financial | 7/11/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and 1 of 5 years decided we wanted to move in together, the trouble is i think he is ...
A: considering that he makes more, along with the driving thing, gas cost, etc, he should pay a ...
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| first love | 7/11/2006 |
Q: I'm Lisa and I'm really in need of some help dealing with "forgetting past loves." My old (and first ...
A: you're hanging on to pieces of april when it's a morning in may; sometimes hope can be immobilizing, ...
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| Getting my Ex back | 7/11/2006 |
Q: So, Sit back, watch the love of my life be seduced my another man.. and just Hope she comes back? ...
A: that's not what i said; i said to ask her what the deal was with the guy; if she says he's a friend, ...
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| Getting my Ex back | 7/11/2006 |
Q: Me and my gf have been dating for 10Months now,Things were Amazing..We hit it off Right from the ...
A: first off, you got yourself way too involved with a way too young girl; did you think with your ages ...
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| committment issues | 7/10/2006 |
Q: My "boyfriend" Jim and I have been dating for 4 years and living together for 3 1/2. Jim has had ...
A: as you're seeing, sometimes putting up with unacceptable stuff in the name of love isn't the answer; ...
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| How long does it take to fall in love? | 7/10/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now, but we have had a rocky ...
A: forget about the words, when they were or weren't said; people feel what they feel, when they feel ...
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| Problem with ex | 7/10/2006 |
Q: OK, It has been a few months since my ex broke off the relationship and I'm still felling stressed ...
A: regardless of what she says, your best approach is to stop trying; you'll have a better chance of ...
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| should i end my 6 year relationship? | 7/8/2006 |
Q: me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 and a half years. i understand that things will ...
A: if both people try to keeps things exciting, the passion doesn't have to end;i've seen someone for 7 ...
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| My boyfriend keeps intimate relationships with other women secrete from me. | 7/8/2006 |
Q: In the latest friendship, there is a log of phone calls. The text messages consist of references to ...
A: alot going on here; 1st, you're getting the info in a deceitful way; in order to confront him about ...
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| I like my brother's best friend | 7/8/2006 |
Q: I just wanted to ask one more thing. Will the fact that my friend is very protective of his sister ...
A: if he's a jerk about it, it could, but it's not like she's 13; it's none of his business; plus, ...
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| advice | 7/7/2006 |
Q: I hope you can help with some advice! Thanks! Ok my boyfriend mike and I have been dating for the ...
A: i'm with you; with "friends" like this, who needs enemies??.. let dan and mike be friends if they ...
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| Confused | 7/6/2006 |
Q: I reached your site in hopes of finding the answers to the question in my head I have been in a ...
A: all kinds of problems here; the man essentially is leading a secret life, including the possibility ...
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| a girl with a semi- serious boyfriend | 7/6/2006 |
Q: I do much of my shopping at a local CVS, at which I found myself instantly attracted to one of their ...
A: well-written context; with this decision, you have to take the pragmatic approach and go with the ...
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| Should I be more patient | 7/5/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have met 5 years ago at work. We've been dating for 3 years (we no longer work at ...
A: don't expect him to bring it up, as he's quite comfortable with the less committed, less ...
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| Girlfriend's | 7/5/2006 |
Q: First, I would really like to thank you for taking the time to read and answer this question for me. ...
A: tricky situation; you don't want to get in between her and the friend, as she still feels some ...
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| This boy.... | 7/3/2006 |
Q: Hey! I am 20 years old and very confused about this new guy I'm dating. We met thru my ex and ...
A: 1 i think you answered your own question--not much to be gained by inhibiting your freedom, which is ...
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| should i end it? | 6/28/2006 |
Q: i have been going out with this girl for 2 years now. We work great on a mental level, we r into ...
A: she's living in an illusion; a relationship without mutual sexual attraction is called a friendship; ...
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| Boundary issue | 6/26/2006 |
Q: I have been dating the same guy for 3 years. We are each others best friend and communicate very ...
A: interesting question; as you know, fine line here between reasonable attention and quasi obsession; ...
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| What's the right thing to do? | 6/25/2006 |
Q: I was wondering, what’s the right thing to say and the right thing to do when you first meet someone ...
A: as you said, normal conversation; a compliment, an honest expression that they've caught your eye, a ...
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| Can I date? | 6/23/2006 |
Q: I am a 21yr old,blk,female. I am 5'6 & 120lbs I have no children and I work full time. I think of ...
A: if they're not finding you interesting and attractive, yes; but there's no need to accept this lot ...
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| new boyfriend who is coming on too strong | 6/22/2006 |
Q: i just started going out with this guy i work with about a week ago. I'm beginning to find out that ...
A: just tell him he's coming on way too strong and it's turning you off; it takes 2 people to talk to ...
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| Four Month Relationship about to fizzle out | 6/21/2006 |
Q: I have been seeing a man for four months who I've known about 17 years. He hinted about dating me ...
A: you've provided him with an ultra-convenient sexual arrangement where he has to do almost nothing to ...
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| Differing view points | 6/21/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years. We've lived together for a year. Last May I made ...
A: you promised to quit and haven't, so his issue there is understandable; apologize for breaking the ...
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| Girlfriend is Confused . What do I do? | 6/20/2006 |
Q: I have been dating a Monica for four months. At the time we started dating, she had ended a 10 ...
A: agreed; confident guy doesn't wait around while the girl goes eenie, meenie, miney, mo...(excuse ...
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| Relationship heading south | 6/20/2006 |
Q: I have been seeing my girlfriend for almost 3 years now. Within the last 6 months or so our ...
A: each of you appears to have valid concerns/unfulfilled needs; try to have an open, honest ...
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| new person in my life | 6/19/2006 |
Q: Azure, Hi, how are you? I have a problem and I was hoping you might be able to help me with it. I ...
A: don't go to the planning board calendar just yet; a guy who had his 1st date with you on saturday ...
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| I think I'm in love with two women | 6/17/2006 |
Q: I am currently in a very long term relationship with a woman I'll call Kristen. Kristen and I have ...
A: no need for the all or nothing approach; nothing to lose by telling cindy how you feel and seeing if ...
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| she has a boyfriend | 6/15/2006 |
Q: I just got back from a trip and met this amazing girl. she is beautiful and has the most amazing ...
A: sometimes less is more; you just met, hardly know each other, live apart, and she has a boyfriend, ...
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| first date and few calls and than nothing....? | 6/14/2006 |
Q: If I went on a first date with a guy and it seemed everything was going good the first date.He was ...
A: don't chase, it erodes self-esteem; just leave it be; if he's interested (and has prepared a really ...
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| Looking... | 6/13/2006 |
Q: I am so very frustrated... Every time I meet a guy they act like gentlemen in the beginning of the ...
A: hmmm; hot looking girl, sex crazed guys...what you want does exist, but not easy to find; could be ...
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| i dont understand | 6/10/2006 |
Q: hey, im josh, im 16 years old and im very confused about a girl i have been talking to for about 4 ...
A: sometimes less is more; relax; if she didn't like you she wouldn't be talking to you; stop thinking ...
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| Problem with age differance | 6/8/2006 |
Q: I am 32 years old, but don’t appear to look past 25. I am also a father of three. I have been single ...
A: i personally think the mother and sister are WAY out of line; it's none of their business, and ...
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| Am i setting myself up?? | 6/8/2006 |
Q: My ex and I cut off communication in march. The reason was because she felt uncomfortable around me ...
A: first you have to be certain you are emotionally NEUTRAL; that means you've ZERO interest in tring ...
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| rules of a relationship ? | 6/7/2006 |
Q: i have been dating my girl for three years. Is it ok for her to arrange to meet guys as friends for ...
A: okay---found your follow-up under the "comments" section; i'd tend to agree she's pushing the ...
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| Communication after a breakup | 6/7/2006 |
Q: My girlfriend and I met at work and started dating. We kept our relationship secret from co-workers ...
A: she left; no need to chase or appear needy/insecure; consider it HER loss, refocus your energies on ...
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| Dating/relationship | 6/7/2006 |
Q: my fiance just recently called of our engagement after we had been together for about 7 years. i was ...
A: you're going backwards; what she did before isn't relevant, and what she's doing now is no longer ...
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| A confused break, or a harsh break up? | 6/6/2006 |
Q: I have been with this girl for 2 ½ years and we both deeply loved each other. This girl and I have ...
A: it doesn't matter what ralph and others think; certainly there's a reason for everything, some more ...
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| Should I stay or should I go | 6/5/2006 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years and had a good relationship, wanted to get married ...
A: he was just trying to have his cake and eat it too; not exactly the commitment you were counting on; ...
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| what did i do wrong | 6/5/2006 |
Q: Me and my exboyfriend was togeather for 6 months we were madly in love we was never apart the only ...
A: you did nothing wrong--sometimes people fall out of love; if you don't accept that it's over, you'll ...
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| What can i do. | 6/5/2006 |
Q: I am extreemly attracted to my best friend. i've been in love with her from first sight (about 5 ...
A: you're not in a good position, but i can't MAKE you change it if you're not willing to; sometimes ...
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| Making the Next Step | 6/5/2006 |
Q: Throughout my life I have never been a great womanizer. I have never had a girlfriend in my life ...
A: nothing ventured, nothing gained; forget she has a boyfriend; ask her on a real date, just the 2 of ...
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| the ex girlfriend | 6/4/2006 |
Q: my ex dumped me jan 1st after 3 years together her reason was because she fell out of love and ...
A: no, and no; first, she's no longer interested--it's over; second, you don't know if the next one ...
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| move on or no? | 6/4/2006 |
Q: I have worked with this guy for about 3 years. In that period of time both of us has had a small ...
A: at least move on from "hanging out/making out", to either he asks you on a REAL date, or he doesn't; ...
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| His ex-wife | 6/2/2006 |
Q: I am 49 and have been divorced for 1-1/2 years after being married for 20 yrs. I met a real nice ...
A: time to be a little firmer with your boyfriend; if you feels she's disrespecting you or interfering ...
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| Girlfriend isn't tough enough | 6/1/2006 |
Q: My girlfriend has started a new job and one of the guys who works for the company has been flirting ...
A: without real specifics, it would be difficult to label harrassment; though you can suggest ...
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| Is interested or not? | 6/1/2006 |
Q: I've seen this guy a few times and done the flirting w/ text messages, but recently we talked about ...
A: obviously neither of us know what, if anything, he plans to do; could be he really doesn't KNOW if ...
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| Can't forget my girlfriend's past | 6/1/2006 |
Q: I've been dating a girl for a few months now and it's gotten fairly serious. I know she's special ...
A: look at the glass half full; you like her, she likes you; we ALL have pasts with incidents we may ...
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| The movies | 5/31/2006 |
Q: I am a 17 year old male, I have invited this girl I like to the movies, but I don't know if I should ...
A: there's never been a step by step guide; you have to go with the feeling of that moment; if she ...
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| Was I played? | 5/30/2006 |
Q: YOu think my expectations were too high? But he was the one who told me he wanted to settle down. ...
A: i don't know exactly what he said, or why, or what misunderstandings occurred, but again, it makes ...
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| Should I give him another chance? | 5/28/2006 |
Q: My now ex boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for two years. It started off badly, with him ...
A: give him one last chance, telling him that if he even THINKS about doin up some lttle blonde, you'll ...
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| Pursuing A woman online | 5/24/2006 |
Q: I interested in this woman that I met on myspace. She lives about an hour away. I message her from ...
A: time is too precious to be content just being on her " occasional chat" list; ask to email her ...
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| Friendship after a romantic relationship? | 5/24/2006 |
Q: When I first met my (now ex) boyfriend we were both freshman at the same college. We had a happy ...
A: it's not a "real" friendship", it's him taking advantage of your insecurities/feelings for him, ...
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| insecure boyfriend problems | 5/23/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend is a great guy, but he hs a lot of trust and anger issues he HAS been treated BAD in ...
A: if he wants you to leave, consider it has him doing you a favor; this kind of obsessive, possessive, ...
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| i cheated 2 times he broke it off i regret everything and want him back!! | 5/23/2006 |
Q: we were dating for 2 yrs, we have been broken up for a month and 2 weeks.a year and a half ago I ...
A: don't quite understand how you can " verbally appear" so committed, yet still found the need to ...
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| Perfect but what about... | 5/17/2006 |
Q: Im in a relationship right for about 3 1/2 weeks and Im well in lust with him which can turn into ...
A: i doubt this will have a fairy tale ending; "perfect"??? as you said, you have a sexual attraction, ...
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| Hi,
My boyfriend and I... | 5/15/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I are 24. We have been together for over a year. Four months ago I moved to Europe ...
A: it's not about changing someone; it's more about you overcoming your neediness and insecurity and ...
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| Complicated Situation. | 5/10/2006 |
Q: Ok, this is a bit of a pain for me. I really like this girl right now. Problem is, is she is my Best ...
A: your friend's girlfriend is WAY out of line; how selfish can a person be?..if she's not happy with ...
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| Me and two girls i need to chose from. | 5/5/2006 |
Q: Hey. I am 23 year old guy in long term relationship. For now i have lived with my current girlfriend ...
A: doesn't sound like you're very dedicated to the current girl; at 23, why would you even WANT to be ...
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| relationship | 5/2/2006 |
Q: Just one last question..He wants me to tell you his reasons for getting his own apartment. His ...
A: "back up plan"??..does he advocate that everyone living together should have an apt on the ...
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| relationship | 5/2/2006 |
Q: Azure, I have been with this man for 3 years. Over the past 3 years, he has taken me through a lot ...
A: interesting how your version differs from his; considering what you said, his not moving in is doing ...
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| relationship | 5/1/2006 |
Q: Azure, I have been with this man for 3 years. Over the past 3 years, he has taken me through a lot ...
A: a few questions--he says there's alot of arguing..true?...this new place you got--did you get it ...
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| moving in together | 5/1/2006 |
Q: azure, my girlfriend and i lived together before and then i unfortunately had an accident and ...
A: it's not really a matter of right/wrong; you should do what you're comfortable with; if you're not ...
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| Had Sex with Sister 36 Years Ago | 4/29/2006 |
Q: I have been dating a lady for 6 months and it has been an off and on relationship. There is a very ...
A: if your description of events is accurate, she's out of line, as she should understand it wasn't ...
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| what's wrong?? | 4/27/2006 |
Q: Help! I wonder why whenever i tell my bf my problems,he keeps providing me with solutions when ...
A: not a good idea to tell him your issues, good or bad, that have to do wih other guys; being ...
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| Sex and living together | 4/25/2006 |
Q: For a little background to my question, I will narrate my situation. I have been dating my boyfriend ...
A: it's a real problem, and his dumb answers aren't helping; certainly his lack of passion, not to ...
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| Boyfriend worries about differences and marriage | 4/12/2006 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 11 months. The first two months were great. He would tell ...
A: you call it "wishful"; that's an understatement; not sure what his deal is, but it's obvious he's ...
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| dating/relationship | 4/6/2006 |
Q: OMG here i go... I am in love with the same man as my best friend. My best friend and him dated ...
A: your "best friend" is WAY out of line--"13 years ago, married for 7"??...you must be kidding--she ...
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| What to do next? | 4/5/2006 |
Q: About two years ago I broke up with a long term girlfriend who I was deeply in love with, she found ...
A: if she's interested, she'll contact you; chasing her only makes you look needy, insecure, weak; ...
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| The old flame. | 4/3/2006 |
Q: In theory we both can see other people, in practice just he does. So no, if you're going to keep ...
A: well well, you're every guy's dreamgirl--willing to stay at home while allowing your boyfriend to ...
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| does he care ? | 3/23/2006 |
Q: When we first started dating we got along great but i guess thats how it always starts off.We got ...
A: yea he sounds like a real winner; no sex, no intimacy, no affection, arguing constantly, not ...
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| Ex-Girlfriend calls | 3/15/2006 |
Q: I have been dating my bf for 1 yr and he talks to his ex-gf like every other week. He says that they ...
A: that's a tough question; it really depends on how much you trust/believe him, and the extent of his ...
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| i want her back...she wants to be my best friend | 3/15/2006 |
Q: Me and my ex dated for about 2 months. Things went really fast in that we said I love you fairly ...
A: she's the only one that might POSSIBLY know the answer to that; the question is, what course is best ...
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| First meeting | 3/14/2006 |
Q: I met a man online and we spoke on the phone and decided to meet last night for the first time. I ...
A: keep in mind, making a match is the great EXCEPTION to the rule; unless you're really fortunate, you ...
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| Matters of Love. | 3/13/2006 |
Q: 1) The reason why I didn't want to show her that I am understanding is that I don't want her to get ...
A: we can respectfully disagree on the most effective approach; i still think it would have been in ...
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| Matters of Love. | 3/13/2006 |
Q: I have broken it off and won't take her back tomorrow or the next week. As I mentioned earlier, I ...
A: okay, so if you've ended it, won't be taking her back, you both want totally different arrangements, ...
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| Matters of Love. | 3/12/2006 |
Q: My girlfriend of 3 years says she definitely wants to marry me in the future, but would like to date ...
A: you haven't really broken it off, as you'd take her back tomorrow; the approach was a tad heavy, ...
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| Should I marry this wonderful man who loves me and wants to marry me, but is not very attractive to my eyes? | 3/10/2006 |
Q: I am 25 and he is 29. We have been seeing each other for 2 years now. Coming from very conservative ...
A: don't understand why you say the sexual aspect will suffer if you try to please each other ...
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| "If you really love me, that shouldn't matter." | 3/2/2006 |
Q: It was about 3 months ago when I was saying good-bye to my former girlfriend before leaving on a ...
A: ahh, the old principle vs pragmatic debate; in my opinion, you tactfully do both; in the beginning ...
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| Cant be faithful | 2/27/2006 |
Q: Not in specific terms but its just implied at this pointAzure, I'm a 32 year old professional and ...
A: so probably too late to sell the non-exclusive--she's most likely walk; time to make a choice; you ...
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| ex-girlfriend calls | 2/22/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 9 years. Yesterday, out of the blue he gets a phone call from ...
A: actually it's pretty natural; as people move on in life, they think back about those that made a ...
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| Questions about Online Dating for School Paper | 2/21/2006 |
Q: my name is Courtney and I attend the University of Kentucky. I am composing a phamphlet about the ...
A: 1. because as you get older your circle of friends decreases, as well as places to go that cater to ...
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| How to overcome insecurities? | 2/19/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. We both just turned 22. About three months into ...
A: i'm not sure why you'd want to stay with someone who's put "limits" on his love; i'd at LEAST inform ...
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| Serious chip on my shoulder | 2/14/2006 |
Q: I don't know if you can help me or not. I don't even know if this question even belongs under this ...
A: hmmm, hope all the women over 25 don't read this--counselors would be swamped with calls from ...
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| Still confused and worried. | 2/11/2006 |
Q: Okay- So it has been four days since I emailed her last and I have recieved no reply. I'm aware of ...
A: if and when to ask her really depends on how long it takes her to reply and what she says; she has ...
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| Is this a wise decision? | 2/9/2006 |
Q: Here's a complicated one. About a year ago I learned that a lady I worked with was very attracted ...
A: if you agree to meet, of course you go; the key is to go with an open mind, hopeful fantasy perhaps, ...
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| doing the right thing... | 2/4/2006 |
Q: i'm a 32 yr old male, she is a 45 yr old female. together for 11 yrs, 8 months. no children in the ...
A: this is obviously an unhealthy, co-dependent, addictve arrangement, where appeasing insecurities is ...
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| Financial Responsibility | 1/25/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend Tristan and I have been dating for nearly 3 years and it has become more than ...
A: you convey it by having CONSEQUENCES for his inconsiderate behavior; he's now getting away with it ...
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| Just need an objective opinion... | 1/23/2006 |
Q: Is it just me, or is something odd? After the 2nd date, while kissing (no touching--at all), he ...
A: no one's crazy--just individual differences in bedroom behavior; you have to decide if your feelings ...
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| sex less in a relationship | 1/21/2006 |
Q: i hope you can help me with this? I am a gay (30) who is been in a commited relationship with ...
A: you're coming across as weak, needy, insecure; consequently, he's got no reason to change; figure ...
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| dating | 1/17/2006 |
Q: I would like to know how to proceed in this relationship...for the best of us both. Here is the ...
A: my thoughts are the arrangement sounds pretty unhealthy, with insecurity, co-dependency, unclear ...
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| What do I do | 1/6/2006 |
Q: Me and this girl has been dating for 10 months now, but recently I have been noticing that she is ...
A: first off, stop thinking "made for each other.." that's just maybe how YOU feel; in this world there ...
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