| Subject | Date Asked |
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| simple.. | 11/16/2009 |
Q: I am 28 yrs old and I have been with my boyfriend for 6 yrs. Lately, I don't were the relationship ...
A: it you're gonna worry about "tension", or "hurt feelings", nothing will change; people are ...
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| feelings for ex girlfriend | 11/14/2009 |
Q: What should i do about my feelings for my ex girlfriend? we broke a couple of years now and we both ...
A: the "difference" makes no difference; it's not surprising to consider past loves special, hold fond ...
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| Confused | 11/14/2009 |
Q: I met a guy online 8 months ago. We corresponded via email, then phone & skype several times a ...
A: ok, here's the reality--the most this can ever be is a friendship--one of the many problems with ...
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| feelings for ex girlfriend | 11/13/2009 |
Q: What should i do about my feelings for my ex girlfriend? we broke a couple of years now and we both ...
A: first, lower expectations to zero; next, resist all impulses to express heavy emotions-i'd suggest a ...
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| it's over | 11/7/2009 |
Q: Ok, so I was seeing this girl who I really like. It was like love at first site for me. We went on ...
A: i'd respectfully disagree with the psychologist; the bottom line is, the only thing left to happen ...
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| I can't decide... | 11/7/2009 |
Q: :) I've been dating the same guy for three months. We met at a party and it was like love at first ...
A: i think at 19, and after seeing someone only 3 months, talk of marriage is foolish, and your family ...
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| What now? | 11/7/2009 |
Q: This is a rather involved question. Sorry about that. Im 27 years old and the girl I am referring ...
A: there's only 2 choices, making a more defined physical move like kissing/making out, or discussing ...
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| Not really sure whats up | 11/6/2009 |
Q: I'm 28 and the girl in question is 23. I met a girl, this weekend at the local Renessaince ...
A: happens all the time, but usually to girls by guys; only SHE knows the answer u want--once apart ...
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| Complicated urges towards an untouchable ex. | 11/5/2009 |
Q: The epic story of the break up & 2 weeks after will be condensed into a few sentences. Well we, a ...
A: i wouldn't count on the order being overturned--even if it is, why go where you're not wanted?..at ...
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| Meeting his family | 11/3/2009 |
Q: I have been dating/living together with my Arabian (Jordan)boyfriend and he will not bring me around ...
A: ridiculous answer on his part; it all depends on how big a deal you want to make of this; is it ...
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| is this acceptable? | 11/2/2009 |
Q: my guy and i have been dating for about 5 months and things have been going great. we've never ...
A: the pic, by itself, not that big a deal..he had to put that arm somewhere--but the bigger deal is, ...
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| Staying with girlfriend | 10/31/2009 |
Q: I am a guy from California living in Mexico, and my girlfriend is a Mexican. We met and started ...
A: it's not that u "can't" see her--you're basically stating what u require to continue, and that ...
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| Do I stand a chance? | 10/29/2009 |
Q: I met this girl about a year and a half ago in college, and i asked her to eat lunch but we never ...
A: always a chance--only time will tell; the statement as to fixing you up with a friend makes one ...
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| fiance needs space | 10/27/2009 |
Q: My fiance (of 4 years) and I have been together almost 8 years and just moved in together one year ...
A: at this point, the relationship is over-- you don't want to be asking him for financial help; you've ...
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| re-occuring dreams of my ex | 10/26/2009 |
Q: First of all I'd like to thank you for reading this. I chose you for your knowledge on psychology. ...
A: 1. no one knows why we dream as we do..2. obviously, you can't stop it--but you can inform her that ...
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| confused | 10/23/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven months. He is my first sexually, and I know that I ...
A: hopefully you won't blame the messenger for this message, but you need to hear it; you are in an ...
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| mind games | 10/22/2009 |
Q: I've just gotten out of a bad relationship and feel I know the signs of a bad guy/playa. So I met ...
A: you might want to change your expectations; in the beginning, many guys will be be seeing one or ...
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| should i wait? or move on? | 10/18/2009 |
Q: I dated this guy a few years back and we promised each other that no matter what we would be ...
A: there's no "waiting"...if he's interested, he'll ask you out--if not, he won't--in the meantime, you ...
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| What to do next? | 10/16/2009 |
Q: I have a rather long story with this man. But I'll keep it short! I met this guy, completely ...
A: listen to your friends..gee, thought u wanted an objective analysis and answer..."different" would ...
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| I remind him on his ex | 10/9/2009 |
Q: I met a guy a few weeks ago, we're both in our 20's. We hit it off well, and have seen each other ...
A: the reminder part is pretty harmless, as we gravitate to the look/personality that appeals to us; as ...
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| WAKE UP CALL | 10/8/2009 |
Q: I had a breakup, waited 8 months then went for a casual FWB arrangement. Within one month of ...
A: your insecurities have put you in a very vulnerable position; this "not dating" stance is a total ...
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| overwhelmed??? | 10/7/2009 |
Q: Here is a short explanation of my situation and I need your help fast please! My boyfriend and I ...
A: you're there to seek the HONEST answers; no convincing, no begging...if he wants distance, give it ...
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| overwhelmed??? | 10/7/2009 |
Q: Here is a short explanation of my situation and I need your help fast please! My boyfriend and I ...
A: frankly i don't buy it--involved partners don't just "opt out" due to life stresses, whatever they ...
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| dating the same girl after | 10/2/2009 |
Q: I was dating this girl for about 5 weeks when I told her that I needed to stop seeing her because we ...
A: can't read her mind, but nowadays people think nothing of not calling back; wait a few days--she ...
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| Sex in Relationships | 9/30/2009 |
Q: I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. I’m confused as although I am in love with him, one ...
A: interesting question; many times in relationships, one person has a greater sexual interest than the ...
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| confused | 9/27/2009 |
Q: i've been with my boyfriend for 8 months now. i'd never had this serious relationship before. it ...
A: many times in relationship there's one person wanting/needing more--this time it's you; you have a ...
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| Confused | 9/26/2009 |
Q: I have been seeing a guy for the past six months. The first three months he was very attentive and ...
A: sounds to me that he has what for him is a comfortable, convenient, casual sexual arrangement, and ...
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| Lack of Communication | 9/22/2009 |
Q: Azure, I’ve been in a friendship/relationship with a woman I met on eHarmony 10 months ago. I ...
A: 2 days in 10 months??...you're in trouble...almost impossible to sustain a relationship on talk ...
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| Should I care about this? | 9/19/2009 |
Q: I am 55, my boyfriend is 56. I really love this guy. Love being around him. We have a lot of fun ...
A: it appears reasonable/legitimate...everyone has a right to what they REQUIRE in a relationship--for ...
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| She paid for me....what? | 9/13/2009 |
Q: I met this girl a year ago and asked her to go eat lunch but never got around to it till very ...
A: 1st off, get your expectations under control, as the chances of this goin anywhere are slim--girls ...
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| ex calls again | 9/12/2009 |
Q: Sorry this is so long but it requires every detail....Well, in January of this year, i met this guy ...
A: this has little to do with HIM--the really question is, what is the source of your insecurities that ...
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| break-up | 9/11/2009 |
Q: Okay, so I'm only in my teens and I've been dating this guy for about a year and a half. 2 weeks ...
A: what's happened to your self-esteem?..why are you so insecure that you can't eat and will do ...
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| Told her how I feel, now how do I handle this - FOLLOW UP | 9/10/2009 |
Q: I Azure, Just a follow up to the question you just responded to from me. She actually ended up ...
A: don't chase, stay patient, positive, prepared..i think she got your drift, just wasn't expecting it; ...
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| Told her how I feel, now how do I handle this | 9/9/2009 |
Q: Sorry for the length, but I want, more than anything, not to screw this up more than it is; or in ...
A: you can contact her, asking how she'd like to proceed, if at all; but it appears you read more into ...
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| wake up call | 9/8/2009 |
Q: I have a question about breaking up and getting back together. My boyfriend and I have been together ...
A: not good.."time to find himself.."translation: he wants to be free to date others if so inclined; ...
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| Confused | 9/8/2009 |
Q: Dr. Dennis W. Neder Subject Miserable and Scared Question Dear Dr. Neder, I have been with ...
A: not really...i don't see examples of your treating him unjustly or disrespectfully, i just see you ...
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| 4 dates and then...Nothing... | 8/24/2009 |
Q: I recently met someone off an online dating site. He seems "normal", stable, and sweet. We had a ...
A: not that uncommon...guys are notorious for "leaving the scene" with no consideration of a ...
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| Stacey | 8/22/2009 |
Q: My name is Dave. I’m 23. I just graduated from college and landed a job as a stock broker. I just ...
A: it's not that she's a stranger, so i don't see the "creepy" element coming into play; so, you feel ...
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| Online flirting? | 8/20/2009 |
Q: I have recently discovered that my boyfriend of 2 and a half years has joined several dating/online ...
A: wake up call--the guy wants everything, you as the main squeeze, and stuff on the side--if he's not ...
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| What to do about dating situation? | 8/13/2009 |
Q: Quick Background of the Situation - I met this girl through friends (she's 24, I am 26) and we had ...
A: as for the contact, keep her guessing..don't be afraid to let a few days go by with no ...
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| Taking a break | 8/7/2009 |
Q: I really appreciate you offering your expertise, kindness, and knowledge. Thanks in advance. I ...
A: "heavy involvement", i.e. an exclusive, "in love", future oriented relationship...for whatever ...
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| Taking a break | 8/7/2009 |
Q: I really appreciate you offering your expertise, kindness, and knowledge. Thanks in advance. I ...
A: reading your question, i'm still not sure what the SPECIFIC issue is--obviously, you haven't really ...
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| My girlfriend's best friend is also mine. | 7/30/2009 |
Q: My girlfriend and I have been together 5 years now. We are happily engaged and are almost out of ...
A: it depends how important your principles are versus appeasing your girlfriend's insecurities; you've ...
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| stuff in common | 7/29/2009 |
Q: I was wondering if you have to have stuff in common with the person you're dating. I was told that ...
A: good question--common interests tend to be overrated, unless a person has a real passion like skiing ...
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| My girlfriend has commitment and intimacy issues | 7/28/2009 |
Q: I will try and be brief. I have been dating my girlfriend for seven years and I love her very ...
A: hard to determine who has the bigger issue, you for staying in this co-dependency for SEVEN years ...
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| long-distance | 7/24/2009 |
Q: There is this guy, David that I have been dating for a few months. We are not official although ...
A: no need to decide prematurely; i'd date him til you go, then explain to him that under the ...
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| i am really mixed up and need help. | 7/22/2009 |
Q: Good morning. I am 34 yrs old in a relationship with a woman for 13 yrs now. We have no kids, not ...
A: 2 different issues; first, you need to accept the fact that your relationship is essentially over, ...
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| Follow up | 7/8/2009 |
Q: I apologize for asking the same question twice. I honestly thought I hadn't sent the first message ...
A: ok, as an objective observer, i have the benefit of having no subjective "filters", or emotions that ...
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| On Break | 7/7/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years. we have gone through our ups and downs but ...
A: in my book, he doesn't get to put you on hold while he explores who knows what, for ANY length of ...
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| My ex girlfriend contacted me, what should I do? | 6/26/2009 |
Q: Question Hi, My girlfriend of 6 months dumped me just before Christmas. She said she needed ...
A: hopefully there's more to discuss than the weather...look, you can choose to not communicate if you ...
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| My ex girlfriend contacted me, what should I do? | 6/26/2009 |
Q: Question Hi, My girlfriend of 6 months dumped me just before Christmas. She said she needed ...
A: i suggest softening your approach, remove the pressure you're putting on her, stop requiring a ...
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| Understanding his realtionship with his ex/ | 6/24/2009 |
Q: I was married for 20+ years to a man who cheated on me several times.I believed him over and over ...
A: wake up call---your insecurities are enabling you to hang on to a dream; this guy has essentially ...
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| A little lost and lacking in experience | 6/23/2009 |
Q: I think my question is kind of complex or just plain long (sorry). I'm a 22 year old woman and I ...
A: no need to apologize to yourself for being using discretion; you're essentially dating, and need to ...
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| Girlfriend cant communicate and is not on same wavelength in the bedroom | 6/23/2009 |
Q: I (22) desperately need your help! I have been seeing someone for the past 14 months and have ...
A: never try to teach a pig to sing---it wastes your time and annoys the pig; in other words, she's not ...
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| I don't know what the heck I'm doing here. | 6/20/2009 |
Q: I'm going to apologize in advance for the length and complication of this question. I guess what I ...
A: i believe you already realize that your romantic, emotionally charged feelings will necessarily rule ...
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| Don't know if a girl is interested in being more than friends | 6/19/2009 |
Q: This might be a long question but here goes. I met this girl at a friend's bonfire. The girl is ...
A: you've got to be more assertive--if you're too shy to talk to her now, how are you gonna get thru a ...
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| Communication between boyfriend and his ex | 6/17/2009 |
Q: I am a woman in my mid-twenties and have been dating my current boyfriend for about three months. ...
A: it depends how much you're bothered by it; the downside of telling him is that he'll most likely get ...
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| Boyfriend and his ex-wife | 6/16/2009 |
Q: I am 44 y/o who was in a 7 month relationship with a 39 y/o divorced man. He has two daughters (12 ...
A: it's a reasonable expectation, but even if he doesn't go, his continued INTEREST in the relationship ...
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| My boyfriend is 21 yrs older then me | 6/12/2009 |
Q: He's divorced with two kids and a horrible exwife. I'm a single mom of two kids there father is not ...
A: it's in the behavior--real love is more than some feeling, it's a GIVING, where you unselfishly ...
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| work relationships? | 6/12/2009 |
Q: I have been dating a guy for about 3 years we have some issues.. I am in my mid twentys him a few ...
A: it might be a tad "weird", but it's not something you want to go to war about; i'd be more concerned ...
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| He wants to be friends that don't date other people | 6/10/2009 |
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We are both 21 and live almost 2 hours apart. Everyhting ...
A: don't let him con you into this ruse where he conveniently puts you on the sidelines to "wait", ...
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| Emotional Affairs | 6/5/2009 |
Q: My b/f tells me that I'm the one for him. When things are stressful (could be his work, my work, ...
A: it's not assumption or accusation--you have legitimate reason as to inquire about such contacts, as ...
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| Am I the crazy one? | 6/2/2009 |
Q: We've been together 1 year. He's 43, I'm 35. I have a 15 year old daughter and he has none. Our ...
A: he's basically told you he's not interested in putting ANYTHING into this, and your "servicing" him ...
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| reality | 6/2/2009 |
Q: Is there really a technique to getting your ex back? There are plenty of Internet sites that claim ...
A: you treat him as u indicated, businesslike, cordial, with respect--if he begins not to treat you ...
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| reality | 6/1/2009 |
Q: Is there really a technique to getting your ex back? There are plenty of Internet sites that claim ...
A: gotta know when to hold em, when to fold em...in this case, "accept the things you can't change" ...
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| reality | 6/1/2009 |
Q: Is there really a technique to getting your ex back? There are plenty of Internet sites that claim ...
A: time to accept reality--it's over; any attempts to get him back only lessen your already low ...
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| Why would ex lie if they really want to keep the friendship? | 6/1/2009 |
Q: Sorry, this is a long story, I am in my thirties and my ex girlfriend was also in her thirties. We ...
A: people lie to cover up bad behavior or to spare another the hurt feelings the truth might bring; the ...
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| single parents dating with kids | 5/21/2009 |
Q: I have been dating this guy for 8 months with two teenager kids, 13 and 15. He has raised them by ...
A: same answer....all you can do is be yourself, be nice to them when together--i'm not even sure why ...
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| How does she sees me? | 5/20/2009 |
Q: I recently slept with a girl I've known for a few months through a mutual acquaintance. We've been ...
A: what's not to like?...sounds like a natural progression, while you're enjoying the perks of the "guy ...
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| middle age dating | 5/16/2009 |
Q: i am a 52 year old male, who has been dating the same 50 year old woman for 4 years,, we met a a ...
A: 2 separate issues here; first, you don't say you actually proposed, but if the inference is she's ...
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| your perspective | 5/13/2009 |
Q: This is going to be a long email, I apologise for this. My partner and I have been seeing each other ...
A: my perspective is that if you read it over, objectively, you described an unhealthy, non-saveable, ...
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| WAKE UP CALL | 5/12/2009 |
Q: Im a 25 year old female and have been in a serious relationship on and off for a little over 4 ...
A: so let's review--a guy with a drinking problem ("hardly ever" isn't the answer for someone like ...
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| Growing away from my boyfriend | 5/5/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I were friends for 3 years before we started dating. I started dating him 5 years ...
A: i don't believe that unsatisfying relationships should continue because a child is involved, or ...
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| My BF told me i only participate 10% of the time! | 5/5/2009 |
Q: Okay, i have been with my BF for almost five months now and we live in different parts of the ...
A: red flag, mainly because of his insensitivity in dealing with it; he should have discussed this IN ...
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| Ex-Boyfriend back | 5/5/2009 |
Q: I apologize in advance because this will be long. I need to cover a lot of ground for you to truly ...
A: my take on this is totally different; i don't buy the "space" excuse; as i see it, he DID abandon ...
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| Girlfriends Controling Parents | 5/4/2009 |
Q: I joined this website just so i could ask this question. Let me tell you some backstory about the ...
A: tough situation--unless you can convince her that leaving is the ONLY way this nightmare will end, ...
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| The most confusing man I have ever dated please help! | 5/2/2009 |
Q: I have been dating this guy for about a year now off and on. We met during the summer last year and ...
A: without any intimacy/passion, this is little more than a friendship; it also appears you're spending ...
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| When to have sex in a new relationship? | 5/1/2009 |
Q: I'm in a new relationship. When would be the best time to introduce sex to the new relationship? ...
A: it's not really determined by number of dates--whether on the 2d or 12th, it's really about the ...
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| relationship | 4/30/2009 |
Q: ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for only 5 months...yes seems too early to be concerned ...
A: 5 months is WAY TOO soon to be living together, and my guess is you're also way too young for such ...
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| frustrated | 4/28/2009 |
Q: I've been having a difficult time lately with a female friend. I really like this friend and told ...
A: i wouldn't even bring it up--wouldn't be alot to gain; at present, she's indicated she doesn't have ...
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| salary differeneces | 4/27/2009 |
Q: I am having a lot of trouble feeling comforatble with the finanical situation with my new boyfriend. ...
A: depending on how deep your issue is, it could take counseling or just this answer; if i told you it ...
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| Complicated Relationship | 4/27/2009 |
Q: After a long period of time simply studying each other from a distance a co-worker and I began to ...
A: you're sounding as needy as her--makes for a rocky arrangemenT of co-dependency that i personally ...
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| Complicated Relationship | 4/27/2009 |
Q: After a long period of time simply studying each other from a distance a co-worker and I began to ...
A: alot of hard to understand drama there; hopefully you've learned that you just have to be yourself ...
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| I want to wait for marriage, BF wants sex asap | 4/24/2009 |
Q: I am 24 and my boyfriend is 26. We were friends first at school, then friends over the phone for 2 ...
A: obviously he'd be opposed to leaving the comfortable deal you've given him, but ultimately, we're ...
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| I want to wait for marriage, BF wants sex asap | 4/24/2009 |
Q: I am 24 and my boyfriend is 26. We were friends first at school, then friends over the phone for 2 ...
A: the advice is he needs to leave; living together means you're either romantically involved in a ...
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| Breaking up | 4/23/2009 |
Q: I have been feeling distant and trapped lately in our relationship because i feel that i want to go ...
A: sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind--in the long run your not sharing your true feelings would ...
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| Worried the past will repeat itself. | 4/22/2009 |
Q: I have recently started dating someone and so far things are going great. We're emotionally, ...
A: no point in making him aware of your personal concerns, as it may influence him to act differently ...
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| Parent - duaghter relationship | 4/18/2009 |
Q: I’ve been in a relationship with a girl for over a year now. It is my first relationship. It ...
A: who's to say what "normal"is?..plus, doesn't really matter, as i doubt she'll be changing; the best ...
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| Is he still in love or am i just a habit | 4/18/2009 |
Q: I started dating this guy from my college. He has never had a girlfriend before. We really got along ...
A: not good--he's either gay, seeing someone else, addicted to porn, or has lost all desire for YOU; ...
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| exgirlfriend issues | 4/17/2009 |
Q: I know that you always give thorough and well thought out answers that are right to the point. I ...
A: i doubt counseling is needed, just understanding, honest communication; i've no problem with ex's ...
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| Reservations about moving forward with current boyfriend | 4/15/2009 |
Q: I have been dating a man for two years. We have recently decided to move in together. We love each ...
A: not good..u shouldn't be going into this committed arrangement when half your heart, or more, is ...
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| Reservations about moving forward with current boyfriend | 4/15/2009 |
Q: I have been dating a man for two years. We have recently decided to move in together. We love each ...
A: 2 different deals--it's pretty natural to still have feelings for significant others, especially ...
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| first impression and serious dating | 4/11/2009 |
Q: A few questions. You know how you get that instant gut feeling that someone is not a nice person? ...
A: people have all kinds of different expressions, and i've never been in situations where that type of ...
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| Am I scaring him off | 4/9/2009 |
Q: I've been talking to a guy on myspace for a month now. And I really like him, he says he likes me. ...
A: i can only suggest what to do--actually DOIN it is up to you; HE'S the guy--it's up to him to take ...
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| soldier | 4/8/2009 |
Q: I'm a college student dating a soldier who is overseas right now. We've been dating for about 7 ...
A: be honest with him...you've only dated a few hours...even this ring of exclusivity is way too ...
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| what is he doing? | 4/8/2009 |
Q: . My ex and i chill every now and then, we have been broken up for a month and we both loving ...
A: "doesn't want a relationship" means he wants enuf of one to be able to have no strings sex, but not ...
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| I want to move out | 4/7/2009 |
Q: I've been talkin to this guy on myspace for about a month now.He's 20 and I'm 19 and we live about ...
A: unfortunate that you can't remain in your mother's house--it's a little soon to be movin out; if you ...
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| Can exs still be friends? part 2 | 4/7/2009 |
Q: Azure. Thanks for your prompt response. Okay, here is an update. I spoke with my ex and told her ...
A: i think your caving in to your girlfriend's demands was a huge mistake, (as explained previously), ...
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| I think I've messed up | 4/7/2009 |
Q: I really really like this guy. He's 20 and I'm 19, we live about 30 miles apart. We met on myspace, ...
A: if he has a real interest, what you said shouldn't be a big deal; the bigger question is that 30 ...
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| Dating 2 guys at once? | 4/7/2009 |
Q: This might end up being really long; if so, I apologize in advance. I have known this guy (age 25) ...
A: depends what your main goal is; right now, you're settling for a pure sexual arrangement, regardless ...
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| wake up call | 4/6/2009 |
Q: I have been in a steady relationship for almost 2 years now, my boyfriend and I get along great. We ...
A: okay, so you're only 21, prone to "freaking out", are still in school, and there's no offer of ...
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| Can exs still be friends? | 4/3/2009 |
Q: I'm David and I need your advice. Over two years ago, I broke up with my ex and began dating again. ...
A: your current girlfriend is totally misinformed and her "demand", which is based on her own ...
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| new relationship | 3/27/2009 |
Q: I'm dating a guy for about three months, we see each other about twice a week, he picks me up and ...
A: thoughtful, rational, reflective...you're on the right track; i'd say after dating 3 more months ...
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| Boyfriend's loss of interest in sex | 3/26/2009 |
Q: I have been dating my current boyfriend for a number of years, we are both 20 years old and have ...
A: your rosy picture is giving him a pass he doesn't deserve; again, the reasons he offered, including ...
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| Boyfriend's loss of interest in sex | 3/25/2009 |
Q: I have been dating my current boyfriend for a number of years, we are both 20 years old and have ...
A: he's gotten WAY TOO complacent, in part because of your willingness to provide less intimate oral ...
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| PROM? | 3/23/2009 |
Q: okay well me an my gf have been together for a year now and just recent, we started having problems ...
A: being mad has no usefulness, but you need to realize that this "break" deal means that as of now you ...
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| Emotional and possibly physical affair with married ex-wife | 3/22/2009 |
Q: Recently my first ex-wife and I reconnected through MySpace and Facebook after not seeing each other ...
A: your questions are really more out loud thoughts, and have no magic answers; once you open the door ...
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| He's not emotionally ready for a serious relationship | 3/20/2009 |
Q: I met this guy 6 months ago and we've taken it slow in becoming friends and getting to know each ...
A: if it's not already a "relationship", what is it?... hopefully he doesn't just expect to take away ...
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| Help needed | 3/16/2009 |
Q: I am a 31 year old woman, about to turn 32, and the last few years have proved to be very ...
A: they both need to be extracted from your life; the first guy isn't changing, despite the current ...
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| Educational Differences | 3/16/2009 |
Q: I'm a 42 year old woman dating a 38 year old man. We both come from dysfunctional families but his ...
A: in my opinion it's a non-issue--what's important in a relationship is passion, playfulness, respect, ...
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| tough situation | 3/5/2009 |
Q: I am in a situation you read about every day. I too am going through a break-up. I know what I am ...
A: sounds appropriate considering the circumstances; 22 is REALLY young, especially being with the same ...
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| dating | 2/27/2009 |
Q: I am 28. I have been courting this girl who has a BF. Before I started the process I asked if ...
A: if she appears to like you so much, why is she still with the boyfriend?...a question u need to ask ...
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| dating | 2/23/2009 |
Q: I have been dating a man, we are both 40, for 4 months. We got very serious, very fast. Three ...
A: probably neither; just adjust accordingly; in other words, if he's not devoting the amount of ...
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| To pursue or not to pursue | 2/23/2009 |
Q: About two years ago, I was teaching English in Japan. During that time, I was contacted by a very ...
A: you don't want to live as a prisoner of your own feelings; communicate to her how you really feel, ...
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| relationship problems | 2/21/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I recently got into a fight because he had found out I was trying to contact my ...
A: i'm male..you said he "started going thru my call phone bills.."now you've brought new information ...
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| relationship problems | 2/20/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I recently got into a fight because he had found out I was trying to contact my ...
A: first off, it's none of his business--if you want to stay friends with an ex, he needs to accept it ...
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| insecure about b/f ex | 2/18/2009 |
Q: hope you can help me out. I am 29 and my partner is 28. We've been together almost three years and ...
A: natural/understandable...when faced with such anxieties, put everything in perspective-- he's with ...
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| insecure about b/f ex | 2/18/2009 |
Q: hope you can help me out. I am 29 and my partner is 28. We've been together almost three years and ...
A: first, it's a matter of trust; you've no business invading his privacy like that, regardless of your ...
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| How to deal with a guy who might be a bite immature. | 2/18/2009 |
Q: I haven't started dating this guy yet but we're thinking about a long distance relationship. I moved ...
A: there's alot lost/little gained in persuing this; i'm sure you're flattered by the attention, but ...
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| jealousy/insecurities | 2/17/2009 |
Q: First off i would like to thank you for the time you take to help others. My question is very ...
A: "space"...really just an excuse for screwing around while hoping the main squeeze sits on the ...
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| Did I wait to long and blow a chance to sweep my S off her feet? | 1/30/2009 |
Q: Around Christmas and New Years I flirted with a woman at work, S, and it looked like she may be ...
A: the most probable scenario was that she only thought of you as a friendly co-worker but not dating ...
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| Boyfriend probs.. | 1/29/2009 |
Q: so earlier you said there isn't any relationship... than why does he get jealous when we are ...
A: i don't have the original question/answer, but i'm sure from what you said, he appeared totally ...
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| My boyfriend treats his daughter like a wife | 1/25/2009 |
Q: I met a fantastic man online a few months ago, we have so much in common, laugh together, and enjoy ...
A: no problem---u have 3 choices, acceptance, leaving, or talking to him about it; i'm really not sure ...
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| My boyfriend treats his daughter like a wife | 1/24/2009 |
Q: I met a fantastic man online a few months ago, we have so much in common, laugh together, and enjoy ...
A: why can't u talk to him about it?..first of all, it wasn't an answer, it was a request for more ...
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| reality check | 1/23/2009 |
Q: Me and my boyfriend used to live in the same town for the first year we were together, and then I ...
A: you're holding on to a fantasy while he revels with others in the real world; if you have to ASK for ...
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| How does he feel about me? | 1/20/2009 |
Q: My name is Amanda and I am 24 years old. For the past few months I have been at my best(guy) friends ...
A: time to stop leading the way, including stopping all this "friendly" time together; he's the ...
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| Age Gap Relationship | 1/9/2009 |
Q: There's a guy I really like and we've been really good friends for about 6 months now and we have ...
A: there's an old saying, "if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen"..if you/he are gonna be ...
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| Confused | 1/9/2009 |
Q: I am 49 years old and have a dilemma. I met a gentleman online about 4 months ago and I have grown ...
A: many men don't see it as an all or nothing proposition, as in this case, nor do they care to ...
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| work relationship | 1/6/2009 |
Q: I am writing to ask for your advice regarding the guy that is in my work place. I would like to ...
A: casual banter, gestures, looks, don't mean alot; as you inferred, if a guy is interested, he'll ask ...
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| my relationship | 1/4/2009 |
Q: I have been in a really great relationship for 3 years. My significant other is Matt. We have great ...
A: considering your constraints, essentially nothing, beyond being who you are--you're not ...
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| Relationship and College, Don't Know What To Do | 12/29/2008 |
Q: I am currently a senior in high school and am dating a sophomore from a different school. We've been ...
A: picking a tech school (a glorified high school) over the experience of a 4 year college AWAY from ...
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| The Past | 12/24/2008 |
Q: I am 32 and I am extremely judgmental and hypocritical regarding any current partner's past ...
A: i could suggest the spiritual route and say "let he who is without sin cast the first stone", or ...
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| what a mess? | 12/22/2008 |
Q: well i'm 21 and she is 18 and we really loved eachother but she is in another school and i will ...
A: it's a different kind of love---when you get older, love becomes more than just a feeling; her ...
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| Taking a break? | 12/19/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I are both 19 years old. He is one year behind me in school, however, I am a ...
A: you should be commended for figuring out those conclusions on your own--you BOTH need "apart" ...
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| girlfriend lying about keeping in touch with a guy she dated. | 12/17/2008 |
Q: The problem is kind of complex. I have a had a girlfriend for about seven years. We are both in ...
A: the age old question.."worth" is an assessment of value...i don't know how much she's "worth" to ...
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| girlfriend lying about keeping in touch with a guy she dated. | 12/16/2008 |
Q: The problem is kind of complex. I have a had a girlfriend for about seven years. We are both in ...
A: this is a tough call--on one hand, due to their "history", your feelings are certainly ...
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| Moving out the right choice after 2 years? | 12/16/2008 |
Q: Myself and my boyfriend have been together for alittle under two years, he is in his late 20s and I ...
A: depends what your goal is--regardless of his manipulative phraseology, he's looking for a free, less ...
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| cheating | 12/15/2008 |
Q: I really need someone to be honest with me. I found out my girlfriend of 6 years has been cheating ...
A: it doesn't sound like you're willing to walk away, and you didn't say if she honestly told you or ...
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| kicked out at dawn | 12/2/2008 |
Q: old man with no kids I have 1 daughter 15. We've both met each others families. Both our families ...
A: not sure his disrespectful response elevates him to "great" status, nor is his "rule" an example of ...
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| hot and cold, did sex ruin things? | 12/1/2008 |
Q: I have been seeing this guy for a little over a month. usually we meet once a week for drinks/ ...
A: forget the smmoth talk about marriage/strong feelings--the truth is in the BEHAVIOR, and the ...
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| Self sabotage | 11/24/2008 |
Q: I am 19 years old, male, a virgin, what seems to be by choice. I find myself being very picky about ...
A: if you want female companionship, you need to focus on having girls like YOU; actually, i think some ...
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| starting over | 11/24/2008 |
Q: I'm 30 years old, intelligent, hard-working, outgoing and I have a lot of friends. I'm still trying ...
A: you can't get too concerned about "hurt", as there are zero guarantees in relationships, and you ...
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| saying no | 11/24/2008 |
Q: I think it is important for women to learn how to say "no" nicely and gracefully! What are some ways ...
A: first, keep in mind we're all responsible for our OWN feelings; perhaps the least awkward one is to ...
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| BEst action to move forward | 11/22/2008 |
Q: I have been having a “will they, won’t they” thing with a girl from work for well over a year now. ...
A: you appear to already know the answer; she's essentially jerkin you around, keeping you around in ...
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| Dealing with opposing schedules | 11/15/2008 |
Q: I have a question regarding my current relationship. I have been dating a wonderful man who I love ...
A: the friend thing is just one more example of a bigger issue, and only becomes a point of concern ...
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| 33 year old virgin | 11/6/2008 |
Q: I'm a 33 year old virgin who is trying to get into the dating scene. I've dated a few times the ...
A: i wouldn't be in a hurry to bring up your lack of experience..there's really no training manual for ...
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| What is she THINKING? | 10/29/2008 |
Q: Azure. After reading some of your responses, I had to ask your opinion on my dilemma. I have been ...
A: 1. not like you have much choice, but that would be the respectful, smart thing to do..let HER ...
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| hello | 10/28/2008 |
Q: Okay I am 19 and haven't dated anyone for a really long time. im in college and am busy and i also ...
A: no one said dating would be easy; there's no magic answer, just stay patient, positive, prepared, ...
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| Need advice on complicated situation | 10/27/2008 |
Q: I have a serious situation that I need some advice with. My father recently went through a divorce ...
A: the ball is in her court; unless she's ready to dump the boyfriend, there's nothing to talk about; ...
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| Dating and friendship | 10/23/2008 |
Q: I have known this one man for two years. We have had a rocky relationship because of alcohol and ...
A: everyone is different in how they react to different life changes; as a friend, all you can do is ...
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| How to help your relationship when its complicated | 10/22/2008 |
Q: Ok this is going to be a long one. My boyfriend and I met on myspace. I had just recently got ...
A: you're falling for the words when the BEHAVIOR holds the real answers; your insecurities, need for ...
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| Former fiance vs. boyfriend help.... | 10/20/2008 |
Q: I'm 31 years old and in a bit of a "pickle". It's a bit of a long story, but I'll try to keep it as ...
A: whatever you decide as to z, the current boyfriend needs to be taken out of the equation, as it's ...
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| older boyfriend | 10/18/2008 |
Q: (yes, my name is Eshawna. call me shawn) I turned 19 on september 12, by boyfriend is turning.... ...
A: if you can't please everyone, you have to please yourself--if you're become overly concerned about ...
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| How to make it work... | 10/14/2008 |
Q: Weve been bestfriends for nearly 10 years - both 26 now. Had on/off relationship now and again. Last ...
A: unless you can see each other at least once a month, or there's a definitive plan to be together ...
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| Falling for an unavailable man | 10/11/2008 |
Q: I have been seeing a guy I really like for several months. I had known him for a year through mutual ...
A: being the more involved, needier one isn't the preferable position; he's offering to participate in ...
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| ADVICE ABOUT DIFFICULT RELATIONSHIP | 10/8/2008 |
Q: Greetings, I have been dating this beautiful girl for 4 months, everything has been working more or ...
A: getting mad or complaining about not getting what you "deserve", isn't the best approach; you can't ...
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| Potential trip with boyfriend. | 10/8/2008 |
Q: I'm (almost) 19, I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years and neither of us has had sex ...
A: in this case, the rewards outweigh the low risk; the parents' chances of finding out are slim; as ...
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| why can't I let go???/ | 10/5/2008 |
Q: this guy I'm seeing is 36 and is like a big kid with no responsibilities, one day he's fine and ...
A: probably just insecurity/low self-esteem; you need to INFORM him that either he gets the help he ...
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| New addition | 9/27/2008 |
Q: I go on AllExperts all the time, I think it's great, I also do a bit of volunteering myself for some ...
A: relaxed, confident, secure, trumps the opposites; stop worryin about the guy--it's only if/when she ...
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| HOW TO HANDLE THE GIRL OF MY DREAMS? | 9/26/2008 |
Q: Greetings, Let me start on the beginning... Three months ago I met a beautiful young girl at a ...
A: the "present" issues are really more "future" insecurities, as it appears time spent together, if ...
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| HOW TO HANDLE THE GIRL OF MY DREAMS? | 9/26/2008 |
Q: Greetings, Let me start on the beginning... Three months ago I met a beautiful young girl at a ...
A: need more info--how often do you see her?..what does the time together consist of?..is it an ...
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| my best friend | 9/26/2008 |
Q: three weeks ago my best friend told me that he is dating another woman. we've been friends for over ...
A: it's a learning experience--it was a mistake to get so involved with someone you didn't even date; ...
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| moved in with Widower | 9/25/2008 |
Q: Two 1/2 years ago I met a wonderful guy. He had been widowed for one year when we met. His wife of ...
A: once you begin living together, the incentive to marry, especially when older, wanes; i doubt at ...
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| How to get out of a troubled marriage.... | 9/8/2008 |
Q: ... I have been in a relationship with my husband since I was 16 years old (I am now 37)We have ...
A: as we saw with OJ, no guarantees as to "safety", nor can i offer particulars as to departure plans, ...
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| problems with my boyfriend | 9/4/2008 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is 23 and I am 20. I love him with all my heart ...
A: 3 different issues, and they all point to a relationship you'd be better off out of; the drug thing ...
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| How to get over the beginning of our relationship | 8/27/2008 |
Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for around a year now (the start date is a little ambiguous) and we ...
A: some things to consider; a) you might want to consider counseling, as there are some underlying ...
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| Tempted to cheat | 8/21/2008 |
Q: I came into the world of dating rather late in life, having been shy and antisocial as a youth/teen. ...
A: you've touched upon a universal problem affecting most males at one time or another that have ever ...
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| Boyfriend's with part time jobs | 8/20/2008 |
Q: So some background information to help you understand. July 2007 my boyfriend broke his foot. His ...
A: he doesn't clean up, make a SERIOUS effort to get a job, because he's lazy and because you've ...
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| Is this the end? | 8/15/2008 |
Q: I'm a 25 year old female, red hair, white complexion. My boyfriend of 6 months is 21 he has a crew ...
A: the reality is, MOST people are on dating sites because they have an interest in meeting/seeing ...
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| Is it possible to get back with my ex? | 8/7/2008 |
Q: So, I basically ruined my relationship. I was going through a really hard time in my life. PTSD, ...
A: this isn't the relationship to put all your hopes/expectations in--you have issues with distance, ...
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| Wise or not? | 8/5/2008 |
Q: I've dated off and on the last four years, having a real problem on my end since my divorce with ...
A: as a general guideline, not dating co-workers is a reasonable practice, but i would remain open to ...
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| Long distance releationship | 8/4/2008 |
Q: I'll try to make this brief. I met a girl on vacation on June 28th in the upper peninsula of ...
A: i doubt either of those approaches will work; it's only been a month, and you have big logistical ...
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| To move or not to move | 7/31/2008 |
Q: I have struggled with it terribly on my own. I am currently in a relationship with a man that I ...
A: five years of then dating, plus 6 months now, appears to be sufficient time/experience to ascertain ...
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| I feel awful | 7/14/2008 |
Q: My problem starts like this: a month and a half ago I got out of a long term relationship. The whole ...
A: love, boyfriend, relationship, after 5 days...?..let's not confuse the euphoria that occurs upon an ...
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| Dating woes! | 7/9/2008 |
Q: I've been dating a wonderful guy for about a month now. I'm 21, he's 20. He is amazing to me, and ...
A: relax; it's only been a month, you're both quite young, and just getting to know each other; plus, ...
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| Starting to Date | 7/8/2008 |
Q: My name is Jason and I am a 24 year old guy. I met this girl at the bar about a month ago. We ...
A: lower expectations, don't chase, show no neediness, cool it down, stay in touch but leave room for ...
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| Relationship Question | 7/5/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have roughly being going out for 2.5 years. In the beginning he had a problem ...
A: lesson 1: never give up true friends just to give in to the demands of an insecure ...
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| Is it bad to "NEED" the person you love? | 7/2/2008 |
Q: My name is Mallory and I am currently in a relationship that has become pretty serious. I'm falling ...
A: both positions may be understandable, plus, you're dealings with words that can be ambiguous, so ...
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| my boyfriends friend who is a girl is too touchy feely | 6/30/2008 |
Q: I have a problem with my boyfriend and one of his girlfriends being too touchy feely towards each ...
A: i'm not there so i can't objectively observe/evaluate the behaviors you mention; if you've already ...
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| dating a boy with a baby... | 6/26/2008 |
Q: ). I am a 24 year old woman dating a 26 year old man with a one year old daughter. We have not dated ...
A: agreed--too many sources, and views, of love/affection will be the LEAST of the kid's problems, ...
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| Is that a no? | 6/25/2008 |
Q: need a date for a dinner party so I called up a guy I haven't spoken to in over a year last night ...
A: not necessarily--you never said when the party was--call again, say or leave message that if he ...
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| What is going on with him is it porn? | 6/24/2008 |
Q: I have been dating/living with my boyfriend now for almost 2 years. We both got into our ...
A: being the needier one isn't the position you want to be in; this guy knows it, has gotten totally ...
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| dating | 6/8/2008 |
Q: she says she does not want a relationship yet she does not want me to go out with anyone else and ...
A: forget the semantics, you're both IN a relationship, and exclusivity is a HUGE commitment; the only ...
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| GirlFriend Problem | 5/28/2008 |
Q: me and my girl went out since she was 15 and i was 18. we went out for three and a half years and ...
A: unfortunately, most people aren't with one person from 16 to 60--don't know ages but i'm sure you're ...
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| Do actions speak louder than words? | 5/28/2008 |
Q: Sup, i've been dating a 27 y/o for 4months, spents alot of time together, introduced me to his ...
A: relax--it's been 4 months, not 4 years; and, nothing is preventing you from saying that you really ...
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| boyfriend help | 5/27/2008 |
Q: k so ive been dating this guy for almost 8 months and im in love with him but he has changed. he ...
A: people can change, along with their feelings--that doesn't mean you have to accept what displeases ...
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| Pls advise me | 5/26/2008 |
Q: i have a problem which i hope u can help me. i am 28 years old and i've known my boyfriend for ...
A: time to wake up; the guy has been jerkin you around for a long time; his behavior should never have ...
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| My Girlfriend has an older "friend" | 5/21/2008 |
Q: Am I out of touch or unresonable? My Girlfriend has an older "friend" he is 80 she is 40 I am 48. ...
A: it depends--if she is without a doubt "bilking" him, then your complaint on ethical/moral grounds is ...
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| Fear of rejection | 5/20/2008 |
Q: I'm involved in a strange thing with this guy. We go to the same college (we're both 23 years old), ...
A: a) what you have IS a relationship; b)..i wouldn't put alot of credence on alcohol-influenced ...
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| Dating | 5/15/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend of three and half years recently broke up with me. I am 6mnths pregnant with his first ...
A: it's over--the only thing left to do is stay in the present, live your life..unfortunately, no ...
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| Girlfriend or Just Friends | 5/5/2008 |
Q: she has a 2 year old son. We are very similar in almost every way I can think of (hobbies, music, ...
A: nothing ventured, nothing gained..sometimes you have to risk something to gain something; you can ...
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| relationship advice | 4/28/2008 |
Q: I'm going through a rough patch in my relationship and I really don't know if it is normal or the ...
A: you have enough issues to consider counseling, especially when they begin to adversely affect your ...
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| prologue | 4/17/2008 |
Q: What would you do if you found yourself communicating online with an interesting man who bills ...
A: people are "tested" all the time, and most everyone would make for an interesting chapter in a book ...
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| wake up call | 4/16/2008 |
Q: soory it kinda long but i thought you needed to know some backgroun on the situation. My boyfriend ...
A: you're letting your emotions run wild here; you've known the guy for 4 months, it's been primarily a ...
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| Hot for teacher? | 4/13/2008 |
Q: Hello. I'm Tom, a senior at a fine Texas university. I apologize for the length of this message, ...
A: refreshingly well-written--i essentially agree with your analysis; alot of "hat" here, but whether ...
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| I don't get it. | 4/10/2008 |
Q: I just moved 1500 miles to be with a man i love very much. We have had people cheat on us before so ...
A: of course not---actually, it may be time to reconsider your decision of being down there..anyone ...
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| girlfriend kissing someone else | 3/17/2008 |
Q: ok im 21 years old and I am with my girlfriend , we've been together for about 6 months, and i love ...
A: everything is forgiveable if you're willing to forgive; don't get too hung up on the kiss at the ...
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| I want to be with her but she's engaged | 3/17/2008 |
Q: Hey Azure. Sorry if this is a bit long. I've known this girl for around three or four years now and ...
A: can't hurt to tell her your feelings, but, after that, UNLESS she feels similarly, it's time to step ...
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| Should I stay engaged | 3/13/2008 |
Q: I am in need of counseling and really can't go to any friends with this for fear of how they will ...
A: it takes TWO people to maintain any communication; i have no problem with ex'es being friends, but ...
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| Dating a man with many girl friends | 2/27/2008 |
Q: I recently started seeing a guy, we have been out on four dates and have been having a lot of fun ...
A: certainly asking what the difference is can be a valid question--for all you know, having sex may ...
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| how can I tell if a friendship is more than friendship | 2/22/2008 |
Q: My story starts almost nine years ago. I had a relationship with someone who I got along great with, ...
A: he has a main squeeze, and is seeing you, sex included, on the side; you've made things pretty ...
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| What to write in a message to this girl | 2/20/2008 |
Q: There is this girl I'm kind of interested in.I am from Nigeria in Africa, and when we were there, we ...
A: just say you want to remain friends and get to know her better, then just ask for whatever info you ...
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| Verbal Affection | 2/19/2008 |
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for about four months and things have been going really well. Me (I'm ...
A: there's only 2 choices, and neither are great; the first is to tell him how you feel, but then if he ...
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| confused by him | 2/16/2008 |
Q: I've been dating this guy for about a month, and I'm confused about how much he is into me. We hang ...
A: beware of the too intense beginnings--they tend to burn out later...no real "normal", but preferable ...
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| confused by him | 2/15/2008 |
Q: I've been dating this guy for about a month, and I'm confused about how much he is into me. We hang ...
A: yes...it's only been a month of casual dating, not a committed 1 year relationship; having alot of ...
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| Commitment | 2/7/2008 |
Q: I need your advice ... my boyfriend is 50 and I am 48. We have been dating for 7 years. We have ...
A: not sure what you mean "holding over", but though i generally agree with your reasoning, which you ...
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| does he likes me? | 2/1/2008 |
Q: I am 23 years old and have had few very short term relationships in the past.I was the one to break ...
A: the words, smooth talk, mean little, and as you're seeing, can work to get your emotions too ...
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| 2 months | 1/29/2008 |
Q: "i've been dating a guy for a little over 2 months. what should i expect for a 2 month ...
A: there's no rule; no need to talk daily; as to frequency, 2 days isn't unusual--2 months isn't very ...
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| My past interfering with y relationsip | 1/11/2008 |
Q: I am in a relationship and have been for amost a year now. I love my boyfriend dearly and wiht all ...
A: this is all on him--his anxieties/insecurities, probably spill over into controlling, jealous ...
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| where to go from here? | 1/4/2008 |
Q: I'm 21 and I have been seeing a man that is 30. I know 9 years seems like a huge step, but we are ...
A: unless there's an agreement of exclusivity, you both are free to meet/date others if you choose to; ...
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| Long time relationship issue. 5 years no spark | 12/20/2007 |
Q: I know after 5 years in a relationship you shouldn't expect there to be much of a spark. Instead you ...
A: welcome to one of the difficult yet common roadblocks facing many relationships, and ESPECIALLY the ...
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| dating problem | 12/19/2007 |
Q: I have been dating a girl for 3 months we are both 21. I am divorced and she is legally seperated ...
A: it doesn't have to be that black and white; tell her certainly you would hope they could still keep ...
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| Seriously confused | 12/18/2007 |
Q: We met on an online dating site (we hit it off immediately) about a week before Halloween and we've ...
A: what on earth were you thinking??..here's a guy you hardly even saw, hardly even knew, and you leave ...
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| Could this friendship turn into a relationship? | 12/17/2007 |
Q: Okay, so there's this friend of mine right, we haven’t seen each other in a long time because he ...
A: your emotions are leading you away from reality; essentially you have 2 examples of alcohol-aided ...
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| Boyfriend's Ex | 12/10/2007 |
Q: I've been dating a guy for over a year. Early into our relationship my bf told me that he was still ...
A: tricky situation; while it is healthy to be friends with ex'es, there can be a thin line between ...
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| what am i supposed to do | 12/8/2007 |
Q: I have been having a relationship with a very good friend now for several months. We have known ...
A: time to ask yourself if this is really how you want to live; the reality is, he'll be more than ...
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| Girlfriends Ex boyfriend | 12/4/2007 |
Q: My question is this. I have been dating this girl for about 5 months now. We are getting very ...
A: either you trust her or you don't; hopefully you'll be included in all this, be able to meet him, ...
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| What should I do | 11/28/2007 |
Q: "I been with my bf for 3 years im 21 he's 23 and one day i accused him falsely of cheating on me ...
A: where's your self-esteem?..the guy isn't very into you, is blatantly seeing others, and has asked ...
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| ??? | 11/28/2007 |
Q: Hey, So I am a little ashamed of myself, first of all my question is going to sound like the ...
A: i'm thinkin it's my turn to invite HER somewhere, like dinner; if she declines using the boyfriend ...
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| My fiance flips when we run into women from my past | 11/26/2007 |
Q: My fiance and I are a young (23), attractive, popular couple. Im not trying to toot my own horn but ...
A: she has an insecurity issue to deal with; ideally, this is cured by increasing self-esteem (many ...
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| Second chance with your ex | 11/21/2007 |
Q: so here is the background information I'm 18 and my ex and i dated for ten months before she broke ...
A: i doubt it can ruin it--it's not like you're gonna jump on her; i just think things sometimes are ...
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| Second chance with your ex | 11/21/2007 |
Q: so here is the background information I'm 18 and my ex and i dated for ten months before she broke ...
A: you said you went to the movies..isn't that asking her out?..you're already spending time ...
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| sex and dating | 11/10/2007 |
Q: I just recently got out of a verbally abusive relationship. @ the time I was trying to "make Greg go ...
A: i've already helped--the answer is the same...if you had ASKED that, i would have told you that ...
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| sex and dating | 11/10/2007 |
Q: I just recently got out of a verbally abusive relationship. @ the time I was trying to "make Greg go ...
A: there's no magic answer; one difficulty is there's no real good way of predicting how a guy will act ...
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| Important question | 11/5/2007 |
Q: I am 21 years old have been seeing this guy who is 25 years old, from my son's barbershop for about ...
A: you're not in the best situation; it's like getting the steak at the local restaurant for free since ...
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| My girlfriend habitualy lies to me | 11/5/2007 |
Q: I am crazy about this girl but I have caught her lying to me on a couple occasions. There are not ...
A: actually by giving her her the stated options of lieing or not, it would be HER who decides if the ...
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| Need some advice | 10/31/2007 |
Q: A few months ago, I ended my relationship with my boyfriend. We had been together for 6 years and ...
A: the deal is, if a guy is interested, he'll ask you out; stop initiating communication--that's HIS ...
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| How to get her back? | 10/25/2007 |
Q: I’m 24 and been going out with a girl who is 19 for 2 years and a half.. We used to live in the same ...
A: as you see, the approach i suggested is working, though you've gotten limited results because your ...
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| 3 months | 10/17/2007 |
Q: i've been going out with a guy for 3 months. i actually met him online. he is now off. in his ...
A: he appears to have made it clear that he doesn't want an exclusive arrangement; after 3 months, it's ...
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| 9 months.. | 10/9/2007 |
Q: I am 24 my boyfriend of now 9 months (which we have lived together for almost a year) is 32. He is a ...
A: some of the stuff you mentioned might be changeable, some not; the only way to find out is to have ...
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| Asking a man out | 9/29/2007 |
Q: Why do they generally say it is a bad idea for a woman to ask a man for his phone number and why is ...
A: 1. because generally speaking, a guy is set-up to do the asking--if he's interested; if he hasn't ...
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| How to get her back? | 9/17/2007 |
Q: I’m 24 and been going out with a girl who is 19 for 2 years and a half.. We used to live in the same ...
A: i don't recommend the "friends" thing unless/until both people are emotionally neutral--she is, ...
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| Game Over? | 9/16/2007 |
Q: I am rarely attracted to anyone, but have usually had a boyfriend over the years (many...I'm ...
A: he's playing the game, but you're on the bench; actually, once he didn't call after date 1, you were ...
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| Decisions, Decisions.. | 9/14/2007 |
Q: I work at a gas station in a small town, and when I started working there, I met one of my manager's ...
A: "butterflies" aren't the source of good decision-making, nor are insecurities; this thing with scott ...
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| confused | 9/3/2007 |
Q: i have dated a guy for two years.he used to act strange and he would vary from being aloof and ...
A: you're giving him exactly what he wants--casual no strings sex without commitment--and chances are ...
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| Wish I could make it better... I feel so confused and powerless! | 8/30/2007 |
Q: I'm hoping you can help me figure this out and make things better. Someone outside the situation ...
A: friday you should do nothing; if you have ANY amount of self-esteem, you won't hang around "on the ...
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| If we're "Just Friends" now, Can I still ask her out 4 years later? | 8/15/2007 |
Q: I am a 19 year old guy, and so is this girl. We're both in Sophomore year of college. I reall like ...
A: that's a pretty weird question joshua; ANYTHING can happen in 4 years--no way to predict how'll ...
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| Unlucky or lucky discovery? | 8/15/2007 |
Q: im 23 years old (f). i've been together with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. A few days ago, i ...
A: alot of people keep stuff relating to those that were special in their lives; really, no big deal, ...
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| should i give us a chance | 8/7/2007 |
Q: I am a girl living in the UK. I met a guy in May and we have been dating for 2 months. Then we slept ...
A: as you said, much too early to be analyzing such futuristic matters, unless someone indicates a ...
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| my relationship | 8/3/2007 |
Q: I really hope you can see my questions that I previously asked and had answered. if not here is a ...
A: i think it's never good for a guy to appear needy, insecure, dependent, weak; girls like a guy to be ...
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| Shy Boyfriend. | 8/1/2007 |
Q: I've been seeing a wonderful man for nearly six months. He is a great match for me, and I feel very ...
A: inform him that the situation is no longer acceptlable, and that a truly open, honest dialog leading ...
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| dating someone after they have lost a loved one | 8/1/2007 |
Q: I've been seeing guy for about a month now. His girl friend was killed in a plan crash about 7 ...
A: i wouldn't recommend this amount of interaction even WITHOUT the loss, and ESPECIALLY with it; ...
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| How should I ask? | 7/30/2007 |
Q: I go to a pretty small art class, and there's this girl that takes a class after mines so I only see ...
A: you don't have alot of options..first, think "no risk, no reward.." your only choice is to go up to ...
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| Good luck w/ this one | 7/25/2007 |
Q: My dad has been a Army Officer since 1988. That meant a life of constant travel for me and my mom. ...
A: first, you need to realize that kids grow up, feelings change, lives take different paths; obviously ...
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| only NOW | 7/20/2007 |
Q: . i never thought i would be asking advice on this but here it goes. I'm a 20yo swf, i have a good ...
A: hey there chloe--will it help to know that MANY are in the same boat?..i know it may not change how ...
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| Does he really care or is he playing? | 7/12/2007 |
Q: I ve been in a relationship for 6 months, but I am still not sure where is it going to. My boyfriend ...
A: time to look at the reality, which is he obviously isn't into this as much as you are; if he REALLY ...
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| lonley heart and the boyfriend next door. | 7/12/2007 |
Q: im currently in a relationship thats going on three years. im 23, my boyfriend is 32. he works m-f ...
A: "foolish" is putting it mildly--you're wasting precious time and giving up all pride/self-esteem for ...
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| Is the passion gone? | 7/10/2007 |
Q: I met this really nice guy from online dating, about 2 months ago, who's 28 and i am 30. We chatted ...
A: don't buy into the "stress" excuse; actually the barometer is quite simple--if he's interested, ...
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| ??? | 7/10/2007 |
Q: I'm 19 and I turn 20 in November. There is this guy I'm really interested in dating but he is 29 and ...
A: there's NO WAY "daddy" will allow this, and i don't exactly blame him; you have essentially a crush ...
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| long distance woes | 7/8/2007 |
Q: I traveled out of state for work to provide training at a site that I don't frequent often. I had ...
A: i think that after all this time, you still have the same issues as before; he's far away, you ...
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| My 4 year relationship and our sex life | 7/3/2007 |
Q: I'm Alex and I've been with my girlfriend for four years now. We have known each other since ...
A: it's a major problem that needs to be made a priority; usually a non-intimate relationship is a ...
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| Confused - she wont talk to me? | 6/26/2007 |
Q: Im confused. Me and my girlfriend met a few months before I went overseas. We broke up due to ...
A: your concerns appear reasonable, considering i have only your side of the story..her lack of ...
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| what is your opinion | 6/24/2007 |
Q: I met this wonderful man in Hawaii, we both were working at a personal growth seminar. We clicked, ...
A: and there lies the essence of the problem.."tech communication", while creating interesting ...
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| Inconvenience! | 6/22/2007 |
Q: This is just a rather general dilemma. First of all, I'm 19 and I've been single for five months ...
A: sounds like he's only asking for a casual date, and i doubt most guys consider a woman's being ...
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| Ugh | 6/22/2007 |
Q: I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 20. We've been together over two years. Lately, he's not been saying "I ...
A: or he just doesn't want to displease her; perhaps she said something to him about it recently; at ...
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| dancin on the moon.. | 6/19/2007 |
Q: I'm currently in a new relationship with a guy for about a month now. We were dating for the 3 ...
A: re; communication w/ ex, do you know the basis for the interaction?..if it's not overly frequent or ...
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| how do i know | 6/7/2007 |
Q: I am 29 yrs old, my recent boyfriend for 5.5 years is 6 yrs younger then me. I met him when he ...
A: time to come to terms with reality--it's over; he's at LEAST too immature, and at most, not very ...
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| stuck and unsure...do i say yes or no? | 5/26/2007 |
Q: I have a very hard decision to make and I was hoping maybe you can give me some advice to help me ...
A: a) he did alot of bad, inconsiderate, abusive stuff when seeing you, then broke up; b) he didn't ...
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| so confused | 5/23/2007 |
Q: I was dating a man I really loved and admired. He was very good to me and very affectionate and ...
A: certainly possible another woman is the cause, but again, whatever the case, the result is the same; ...
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| Relationship worth continuing? | 5/18/2007 |
Q: I have been with my girlfriend ten months now, and I am starting to have doubts about whether I ...
A: first off, it would be a good idea to give her a copy of your question--or at least you should ...
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| How can I explain strip club to my gf? | 5/15/2007 |
Q: I'm a 32 year old man and have been to strip club with friends a few years ago out of curiosity when ...
A: people have different moral codes as to what's right and wrong; i doubt anything you can say will ...
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| What Am I? | 5/7/2007 |
Q: Azure, I have been seeing this guy for a little less than 3 months, 2 weekends ago he asked me to ...
A: only HE knows the real reasons for bein a jerk--but we BOTH need to know that if he were truly ...
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| time to face reality.. | 5/6/2007 |
Q: Not sure where to go from here.....My boyfriend broke up with me 4 weeks ago. We had been together ...
A: whatever you decide, you need to stop the "friends with benefits" deal; first off you're not really ...
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| Anxiety over relationship | 5/4/2007 |
Q: Azure, I've been seeing this guy for 2 1/2 months now. Things have been really good for the most ...
A: neither; you have no evidence that anything is "wrong", but the anxiety can't be over "nothing"; ...
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| i'm confused | 5/3/2007 |
Q: i'm so confused right now. me and my girl friend have been dating for a few month's. were both in ...
A: i can understand her desire for space, freedom, experience, but doing exactly the same things makes ...
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| In the shadow of the last ex | 4/30/2007 |
Q: I have a great amazing boyfriend, I just want to get that out the way. I have never gotten along ...
A: enough is enough; i'd tell him you've HAD it with his references, pre-occupation with the past, and ...
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| Moving fast and am scared because of some of her behavior and viewpoints | 4/22/2007 |
Q: I am on here because I am in a relationship right now that is pretty crazy and moving fast. I am ...
A: in the first incident, going up and hassling the guy was out of line; your issue was with her, and ...
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| being out | 4/19/2007 |
Q: I work two jobs, have a son that lives 45 min from me. I have a live in girl friend. How can i ...
A: you don't have to do anything you don't want to..explain it to her as you did to me...if you feel ...
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| questions | 4/15/2007 |
Q: ok so I have a few personal/embarrassing questions, so if you could help me at all i would really ...
A: 1. a blow job is where you suck his dick like a popsicle, taking it in your mouth and moving your ...
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| Thinking about my ex | 4/9/2007 |
Q: I don't know what I'm doing even pursuing or entertaining these thoughts, but I am in a pickle! I ...
A: your interest in being friends is reasonable, but there are some issues; first, real friendships ...
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| Ex issues | 4/7/2007 |
Q: I would like to get some advice regarding my relationship with my ex, and I'd like an outsider's ...
A: i don't see it as a healthy situation--it's really more of a co-dependent arrangement than a real ...
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| confused | 4/6/2007 |
Q: my name is derek i'm a 20 year old male. i'm in the military and i'm about to deploy to qatar. ...
A: there's not alot you can do except rely on the fact that she wants to be with YOU; if she decides ...
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| Trying to Understand | 4/4/2007 |
Q: This might be a little long… I’m a 23/f and about 6 weeks ago I met this guy through a friend, who ...
A: he knows what he wants, a casual, no commitment dating arrangement that includes sex; the real ...
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| Confused about my ex? | 4/3/2007 |
Q: My ex gf broke up with my 6 months ago after dating for a year b/c she couldn't trust me anymore. I ...
A: the real question is, why is your self-esteem so low that you're allowing her to jerk you ...
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| Awkward moment | 4/2/2007 |
Q: So I had a slightly awkward date and need some advice. For beginners, I am not very good at dating. ...
A: "salvage.."??...there's nothing you did that you should have to worry about; you're certainly not in ...
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| relationships | 4/1/2007 |
Q: I am at a bit of a loose end, I hope you can help. Iv been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 2 ...
A: and you gave up school for this??..unfortunately, of the 2 of you, you're the more dependent, needy, ...
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| Dating a Widower | 3/28/2007 |
Q: I have been dating a widower for 8 months. We met on a dating site. Didn't know at the time it was ...
A: tough question; dead or alive, his heart is still with another woman; until if/when that changes, i ...
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| Relationship help | 3/13/2007 |
Q: But this other girl has a man already and dont know if she is interested in breaking up with ...
A: doesn't make alot of difference--your girlfriend is unhappy, you're not really into her--that needs ...
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| So confused! | 2/26/2007 |
Q: First I want to apologize for the long letter. I'm 23 years old and my boyfriend is 23. I just broke ...
A: make a "mistake" by leaving?? the real question is why is your self-esteem so low and neediness so ...
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| Closing one, opening another | 2/13/2007 |
Q: Hey there, I am current involoved in a relationship that has been for 7 years (on and off). I love ...
A: the next step is obvious; if you're not happy in the relationship, it needs to end; you can't spend ...
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| boyfriend issues | 2/8/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend of two years has recently chosen a religion that has convined him that sex is nothing ...
A: let's see--a past of physical abuse, no more sex, but still booze/drugs, and TOTALLY different ...
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| Trust | 1/29/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend of over 4 years has BIG trust issues. I have done NOTHING to make him not trust me. I ...
A: he's like that because he has low self-esteem and high insecurity; the long term solution would be ...
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| Relationship with a child involved. | 1/26/2007 |
Q: He has her on the weekends but if other relatives wants to spend time with her he gives up his time ...
A: it's unusual that he'd have her EVERY weekend; that could be a problem, as weekend time is quality ...
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| Relationship with a child involved. | 1/26/2007 |
Q: my boyfriend and I been officially dating a month but I have been around for a few months longer. ...
A: i don't agree with his comment; a 10 yr old can understand the difference between dating and engaged ...
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| I am "just a friend" | 1/25/2007 |
Q: I have this guy that I adore, "James". I have known him my whole life as we grew up across the ...
A: real romance occurs naturally, not thru negotiation or with one person "convincing" the other; all ...
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| am I crazy? | 1/23/2007 |
Q: I met a guy in Nov. 05 He seemed very interested in me. I didn't date him until march 06. He claimed ...
A: if you're "crazy", it would only be because you didn't get out of this mess LONG AGO; this never ...
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| sex issues | 1/20/2007 |
Q: it makes a lot of sense. In addition, I have talked to him since I first sent you the question and ...
A: and still doesn't sensitively address your feelings..there's a happy medium between too much and too ...
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| Break Up Help | 1/19/2007 |
Q: Ok, so much has happened to me the last few months. I was with a guy named James for 3 years. I ...
A: most break-ups don't have clear cut reasons; the bottom line is the same--it's over; you need to ...
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| sex issues | 1/19/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He's going to be 21 in August and I'm 19. We ...
A: being intimate in a healthy relationship doesn't just go "on hold" because someone is distracted by ...
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| living together before marriage | 1/18/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years, and are both sure that we are the ones ...
A: in my opinion, living together IS essentially being married, minus the ceremony/party; many times, ...
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| real or fake | 1/10/2007 |
Q: "I've been dating a guy 3 weeks now who says he has no gf. We've had sex once about a week ago and ...
A: he's got you into the casual sex slot; ask him for his phone no since you might like to call him ...
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| How can i get him back? | 1/8/2007 |
Q: We were together for almost two years.I'll give you a summary of our relationship.WE great together ...
A: why are you so needy/insecure, that you'd change "anything" to keep him??..if you're not "good ...
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| Relationship | 1/8/2007 |
Q: I have been seeing someone for over a year. We are not in a physical relationship. He has has some ...
A: sounds more like an involuntary co-existence rather than a relationship; to see someone for all that ...
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| In love with my best friend | 12/30/2006 |
Q: I am 21 and have been best friends with a man who is the same age as me for almost 4 years. I have ...
A: getting out with some semblance of self-esteem is the only way; the guy has selfishly jerked you ...
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| Is there hope | 12/22/2006 |
Q: I have been with the same girl since Aug 2004. A little over 1 year ago, I cheated on her with my ...
A: sounds like 2 people who got too comfortable/complacent, not appreciating the other as before; you ...
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| so confused :( | 12/17/2006 |
Q: SO this situation is eating away at me and I need someone's advice on what the hell is going on ...
A: the source of your confusion is the lack of open, honest communication between you and him; if you ...
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| What to do | 12/6/2006 |
Q: I am in a relationship of 4 years and we are living together. We're both in our early twenties. I ...
A: there'a a reason for everything; as to the SPECIFIC reason, that's not easily found; sounds like a ...
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| The Ex that just won't go away. | 12/4/2006 |
Q: I've been seeing someone for about 2 months. Their previous relationship ended in July of this past ...
A: a couple of issues here; your invading his privacy is no better than his deceit; people shouldn't be ...
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| Am I fooling myself (again)? | 11/30/2006 |
Q: I'm a professional woman who met a great guy from a Scandinavian country living and working here in ...
A: things naturally move forward, or not, on their own, so it's best to stay in the present; not sure ...
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| ........ | 11/28/2006 |
Q: I don know if I've asked you any questions in the past...but I know I've asked a few other people ...
A: your not letting go of this is destroying your enjoyment of what should be a great time in your ...
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| Time Limit | 11/26/2006 |
Q: He just says he isnt ready to move back in and wants to be sure things are good with us before does. ...
A: figure out what your committment requirements are, NOW, for continuing, inform him, if he blows you ...
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| future relationship? | 11/25/2006 |
Q: no i'm not seeing anyone and it isn't because of him that we're separating. this guy isn't dating ...
A: it's still a little unclear if "separating" means your THROUGH seeing him, but i'll assume it means ...
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| the ultimate bachelor who is terrified of commitment | 11/24/2006 |
Q: I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is a year and a half younger than me. We have dated for a year ...
A: he's laid it out for you; dating, on HIS terms, no commitment, just vague innuendo of coming ...
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| I Cheated on him | 11/18/2006 |
Q: I cheated on my boyfriend of 3 years. At the time I was in a bad place in my life. My career was ...
A: should have gotten this resolved before you moved in; he needs to take some responsibility for ...
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| why my boyfriend has such weird behavior | 11/8/2006 |
Q: Me and my boyfriend have known each other for about three years. we have been dating for about two ...
A: not weird at all; he's a guy, not interested in commitment, and you've allowed this freedom to ...
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| does he like me? | 11/1/2006 |
Q: he said maybe to one and hasn't said anything about the other...the maybe event is still 3 weeks ...
A: so you play it cool and see what happens..if he's interested, he'll go to at least one, maybe the ...
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| Are we stepping out of friends with benefits and don't realize it? | 10/30/2006 |
Q: I recently decided to start talking to a friend of mine that I have known for over two years. We are ...
A: interesting question--to me this FWB deal, to be REALLY that, has to put together 2 people who enjoy ...
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| HELP WITH RELATIONSHIP | 10/29/2006 |
Q: AZURE, HI, I AM SEARCHING FOR SOME HELP IN MY CURRENT RELATION OF ALMOST 11 YEARS. MY PROBLEM IS ...
A: why do you call him "fiancee" if he hasn't married you in 11 years?..in any case, the bottom line is ...
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| friends with benefits? | 10/23/2006 |
Q: I am 20 and in college...I just got out of a long 4 yr relationship about a year ago and am not ...
A: telling someone how to kiss is like telling them how to walk--you just do what feels natural; as to ...
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| My boyfriend lost his job...what should I do? | 10/20/2006 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and things were going really good, and then he got ...
A: as to talking to him, you just do it--if you substitute fear of hurt feelings for honesty, nothing ...
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| Kissing & Sex | 10/20/2006 |
Q: I have been in a relationship now for about a year with my girlfriend. In the first few months we ...
A: i would need to talk to her and get her to HONESTLY respond, to answer your question; but the ...
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| a "break" | 10/18/2006 |
Q: Ok i'm going to start with the story right away. I've been going out with this girl(Cynthia) for ...
A: a little of both--no one can predict the future, and no guy should sit on the sidelines waiting to ...
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| Totally confused my boyfriend | 10/16/2006 |
Q: I've recently come out of a 4 year relationship. My relationship ended quite badly, I was hurt by ...
A: not sure it's a matter of trust--seems more like mixed signals; first, you can't blame the ex for ...
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| Dating profile. | 10/16/2006 |
Q: Recently I joined Australia’s largest singles network. I upload the profile at ...
A: not crazy about the pic..the "smile" has sinister overtones; as to the profile, sounds like you're ...
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| asking him out | 10/14/2006 |
Q: The thing I'm worried about is that he will also be intimidated by the whole boyfriend/girlfriend ...
A: as a senior, he should have some idea that if you like a girl you ask her out--if he can't even do ...
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| Just friends? | 10/12/2006 |
Q: About 3 months ago I met someone online and we started to go out, about a month later we were ...
A: time waits for no one, and neither should you; the guy has cleverly given you "some version" of the ...
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| long distance | 10/12/2006 |
Q: hey, me and my girlfriend have been a long distance relationship for 9 months now and visit each ...
A: there's no way to really know; in such cases, it make more sense for you not to worry about it, if ...
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| dating an Ex | 10/10/2006 |
Q: We chose to work it out by going on dates once a week on friday and quality time on thursday, we ...
A: typical "no conscience" guy behavior; nothing's being "worked out" he's essentially stringing you ...
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| growing apart | 10/2/2006 |
Q: I have been with my bf for 3 years.We had a good relationship and we were so close together.Hes 28 ...
A: seeing him 2/3 times a week isn't the problem, as spaces in your togetherness are healthy, as well ...
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| Now What? | 10/1/2006 |
Q: Well, we do have very good conversations, and he has dones little things that were nice, like cook ...
A: as i suspected; sounds like he has it EXACTLY as he wants, with all the comforts and little ...
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| GOING OUT TO A CLUB | 9/27/2006 |
Q: My man and I have problems when one of us wants to go out to a club with friends. We've been ...
A: he acts that way because he's selfish, inconsiderate, controlling...essentially a jerk; you can't do ...
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| relationship | 9/24/2006 |
Q: I AM talking about moving forward in a relationship(moving in together etc) He said that he always ...
A: not sure he needs any "help", nor do you need to look very far for "signs" of his position; he ...
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| Dating Etiquette | 9/20/2006 |
Q: I don't understand the rules of dating. At what point do you stop accepting invitations to date ...
A: it's entirely up to you; you only become exclusive when you decide you don't have an interest in ...
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| Confused | 9/14/2006 |
Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for a year. Lately, she has been having some family issues and I ...
A: "family" issues shouldn't lead to disinterest on her part; it wouldn't be a stretch to assume some ...
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| Relationship issues | 9/14/2006 |
Q: I have been dating my current girlfriend for almost 6 months. I will cute straight to the chase. I ...
A: definitely; your insecurities and related attempts to control will only lead to her frustration, ...
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| Anxious & Confused | 9/12/2006 |
Q: I’m in a dating situation that I’m confused about and would like some input from you. For one, you ...
A: 1. it would have helped knowing your ages and how many dates you've actually been on, but here goes; ...
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| masturbation | 9/10/2006 |
Q: I've been dateing my girlfriend for a little over 2 years. our Sex dropped a lot in the past 6 ...
A: i'd be, especially if you're interested in a happy, healthy relationship; it's only serving to move ...
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| Is it an 'age thing'? | 9/9/2006 |
Q: I've had my eye on a girl that works at a restaurant I frequent for about a year and developed an ...
A: 1. give her one more call--lv your number; 2. why not?..she DID provide the number;3. reasonable ...
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| psychology of attraction | 9/6/2006 |
Q: this is a bit of a psychology one thats almost driving me crazy. although im a psycholgoist you ...
A: a tad confusing, but i think i get the gist of it; generally, the more attractive one perceives ...
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| Loose weight | 9/2/2006 |
Q: How can i ask my girl to loose weight in a nice way without hurting her feeling.
A: first, you need to be in a real relationship, not just a few weeks of dating; then you could say ...
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| ? | 8/31/2006 |
Q: What do you do when you have a boyfriend who blames everyone but himself? Meaning he thinks ...
A: you either put up with it or inform him that the behavior is no longer acceptable and needs to ...
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| in love with a friend | 8/28/2006 |
Q: I'm hoping you may have some advice for me. I'll start out with some background info. I'm 25. I have ...
A: interesting--well written; considering what you said, i think the risk/reward on this leads to your ...
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| What does a | 8/24/2006 |
Q: I have been dating this girl for 5 years. We get along great, have a lot of fun when we do things, ...
A: first off, try to calm down; you're jumping to all these conclusions with no basis; the week's ...
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| teacher dating | 8/21/2006 |
Q: my sister is 20 and she was been dating her former high school band teacher for 2 years now(he is ...
A: not really a question of "right or wrong", nor should you automatically go with what your parents ...
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| AT ODDS ABOUT LIVING TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE | 8/14/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend of 35 years of age and myself 38 are in love and have been dating exclusively for 15 ...
A: understanding it and agreeing with it are 2 different things; his view is understandable as well, ...
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| Betrayal | 8/13/2006 |
Q: I am sure i would not have been in that position though. That fact aside, if i do take her back how ...
A: you just have to let it go, which means taking her back without guilt trip or continuing to bring it ...
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| moving in together? | 8/7/2006 |
Q: I've been with my bf for about 3 years now and we have an ok relationship.Lately we've been having ...
A: it could easily be never, and i doubt you want to wait that long; if you feel living together is a ...
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| losing trust | 8/6/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years. Last week he went to a strip club with some ...
A: if you're looking for a "ruling", you're out of line; people have a right to change their mind, ...
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| My boyfriends ex girlfriend. | 8/3/2006 |
Q: My current boyfriend was with his ex for about 7 years she was his first love. He loved her but he ...
A: as to the calls, change your number or don't pick up calls you don't recognize; not sure what you ...
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| Getting my ex-girfriend back | 8/3/2006 |
Q: Okay, I dated her for four years. We lived together, technically we had a common law marriage, ...
A: the only thing left to do is stop analyzing, accept the unchangeable, let go, move on; you may have ...
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| Advice on the ex-girl | 8/3/2006 |
Q: I just wanted some advice on the ex. A little background first me and this girl dated for 1 and a ...
A: get out of this "limboland/pseudo friends" thing you're in; if you've broken up, there's nothing to ...
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| Is there a proper time to step back wait for her at act? | 8/2/2006 |
Q: Okay stupid question time ! What's the difference between a "real" date and asking her out in the ...
A: you said you went out as "friends"; what does that mean?..who limited it to that?..you don't need to ...
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| dating conversation | 7/31/2006 |
Q: I am now 31 and dating again. I am interested in turning a friendship into more. I know he is ...
A: ask the natural questions anyone in your position would have, along with expressing your interest in ...
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| Do I continue to persue a relationship with my friend's girlfriend? | 7/27/2006 |
Q: yes, she knowsBasically I've been really good friends with this couple over the years. I met him in ...
A: that's only something YOU can decide; you need to determine if there's more lost or gained by JUST ...
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| Confused... | 7/26/2006 |
Q: I am 20 and my boyfriend is 21. We have been together for 8 months now. For the first 5 months we ...
A: he's getting away with this complacent, self-serving behavior because you're allowing him to; sounds ...
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| Age difference and honesty | 7/24/2006 |
Q: Background, when I was 31 I lost a son after he was 12 days old. While we were in the bookstore a ...
A: the best course is to, as you said, "become friends and see what happens.."hopefully that will ...
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| Can he be trusted? | 7/24/2006 |
Q: I sent you a question about 10 minutes ago about "can he be trusted." Please write your reply to ...
A: he's a guy and he's young; that means he's constantly noticing pretty girls and thinks about ...
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| Can he be trusted? | 7/24/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. I'm 21 and he's 23. We have been living ...
A: he's a guy and he's young; if he's like most guys, he notices pretty girls and wants to sleep with ...
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| what avenue to take | 7/23/2006 |
Q: Azure, Thank you in advance for answering my question. I I have been dating this guy for a little ...
A: it depends whether you want to make the "gifts/flowers" a requirement, or leave it as just a ...
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| how do I let her know that Im not like all the others? | 7/21/2006 |
Q: I am very attracted to a woman at work and talk to her several times daily. I have grown to be very ...
A: the dinner invite, kid included, wasn't the best appproach; i doubt she would want to get her child ...
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| RELTIONSHIP | 7/20/2006 |
Q: I HAVE BEEN DATING THIS GUY FOR A LITTLE OVER A YEAR. OUR RELATIONSHIP STARTED OUT REALLY SLOW ...
A: not really a question of right or wrong; hard to tell if it indicates lack of feeling or if he's ...
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| boyfriend | 7/20/2006 |
Q: I was unable to take my holidays at the same time as my boyfriend, we both live in Holland but were ...
A: i can't say what his deal is, or how much he cares or doesn't; but you've wrapped your whole life ...
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| My | 7/19/2006 |
Q: I enjoy reading your answers to all the questions. You don't just tell people what they want to ...
A: fear of a negative response isn't sufficient grounds to table the honest expression of your ...
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| Boundaries | 7/19/2006 |
Q: I am hoping you can help me. I am 34 years old, and met a great guy nearly 2 months ago of the same ...
A: mom is on the right track; you gave him the choices; he's chosen to not meet your reasonable ...
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| DATING/RELATIONSHIP | 7/18/2006 |
Q: ok i like this girl and we are really good friends how could i tell if she likes me or wants to go ...
A: i know you're young but you mind as well learn right from the beginning; you don't NEED to know ...
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| Is it real? | 7/18/2006 |
Q: I'm 19 and i've been dating my boyfriend James for over a year now. We have been living together for ...
A: 19 is way too young to be limited to one guy, LET ALONE live together; you can't possibly know at 19 ...
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| what should i do plzzz help | 7/18/2006 |
Q: Well theres a girl i really like. We are both 15 in highschool. So anyway we went out for a while ...
A: i can't read her mind; if you dumped her, you need to apologize, tell her it was a mistake, and that ...
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| Dating Advice | 7/18/2006 |
Q: I'm really stuck in a situation right now that is really testing me. Me and my girlfriend have been ...
A: yes, yes, and no; you're not only too young, you're TEN YEARS too young!..living ...
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| My boyfriend's mother | 7/17/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for several months and have begun talking about marriage. We ...
A: the chief negotiator should be the boyfriend, who should, caring guy that he is, understand and ...
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| What to do? | 7/17/2006 |
Q: I am dating this guy that I work with in different department, we being dating for four months now I ...
A: prepare for a lesson from the book of love, which is, never love a guy who gives you the "don't ...
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| Gift Ideas | 7/17/2006 |
Q: I have recently started seeing an old girlfriend from high school, and had a question about a great ...
A: first, take the "feelings" word out of your vocabulary, along with the rekindling speech; it's the ...
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| Friend confusion | 7/16/2006 |
Q: Well ive been friends with this girl for about 2 years now, im not sure i can say we are GOOD ...
A: sometimes you don't know what you've got until you lose it; i think in this case you are ...
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| should i persue this woman. | 7/14/2006 |
Q: ok i recently met a gorgeous woman she seemed perfect. was like a whilwind romance, i have never ...
A: a no brainer--underneath all the niceties and the "letting down easy", what remains is that the ...
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| She wants a break from the relationship... | 7/13/2006 |
Q: Me and my girlfriend have been together for 10 months now. She is 15 and i am 17. Well, last ...
A: sometimes you have to just accept someone's wishes; at this point, there's nothing to do or fix; if ...
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| Help please!!!! | 7/12/2006 |
Q: A month ago my girlfriend broke up with me after a 3 year relationship. We were living together and ...
A: first, stop blaming her; what people say in a relationship is ALWAYS subject to change without ...
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| trust and vacations | 7/12/2006 |
Q: (some background)I am 39 and my girlfriend is 38. We have been going out for 4 months. We have a ...
A: a no -brainer; confident guy opts for choice 2, insecure, needy guy opts for 1; even if you're the ...
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| Financial | 7/11/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and 1 of 5 years decided we wanted to move in together, the trouble is i think he is ...
A: considering that he makes more, along with the driving thing, gas cost, etc, he should pay a ...
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| first love | 7/11/2006 |
Q: I'm Lisa and I'm really in need of some help dealing with "forgetting past loves." My old (and first ...
A: you're hanging on to pieces of april when it's a morning in may; sometimes hope can be immobilizing, ...
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| Getting my Ex back | 7/11/2006 |
Q: So, Sit back, watch the love of my life be seduced my another man.. and just Hope she comes back? ...
A: that's not what i said; i said to ask her what the deal was with the guy; if she says he's a friend, ...
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| Getting my Ex back | 7/11/2006 |
Q: Me and my gf have been dating for 10Months now,Things were Amazing..We hit it off Right from the ...
A: first off, you got yourself way too involved with a way too young girl; did you think with your ages ...
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| committment issues | 7/10/2006 |
Q: My "boyfriend" Jim and I have been dating for 4 years and living together for 3 1/2. Jim has had ...
A: as you're seeing, sometimes putting up with unacceptable stuff in the name of love isn't the answer; ...
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| How long does it take to fall in love? | 7/10/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now, but we have had a rocky ...
A: forget about the words, when they were or weren't said; people feel what they feel, when they feel ...
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| Problem with ex | 7/10/2006 |
Q: OK, It has been a few months since my ex broke off the relationship and I'm still felling stressed ...
A: regardless of what she says, your best approach is to stop trying; you'll have a better chance of ...
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| should i end my 6 year relationship? | 7/8/2006 |
Q: me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 and a half years. i understand that things will ...
A: if both people try to keeps things exciting, the passion doesn't have to end;i've seen someone for 7 ...
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| My boyfriend keeps intimate relationships with other women secrete from me. | 7/8/2006 |
Q: In the latest friendship, there is a log of phone calls. The text messages consist of references to ...
A: alot going on here; 1st, you're getting the info in a deceitful way; in order to confront him about ...
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| I like my brother's best friend | 7/8/2006 |
Q: I just wanted to ask one more thing. Will the fact that my friend is very protective of his sister ...
A: if he's a jerk about it, it could, but it's not like she's 13; it's none of his business; plus, ...
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| advice | 7/7/2006 |
Q: I hope you can help with some advice! Thanks! Ok my boyfriend mike and I have been dating for the ...
A: i'm with you; with "friends" like this, who needs enemies??.. let dan and mike be friends if they ...
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| Confused | 7/6/2006 |
Q: I reached your site in hopes of finding the answers to the question in my head I have been in a ...
A: all kinds of problems here; the man essentially is leading a secret life, including the possibility ...
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| a girl with a semi- serious boyfriend | 7/6/2006 |
Q: I do much of my shopping at a local CVS, at which I found myself instantly attracted to one of their ...
A: well-written context; with this decision, you have to take the pragmatic approach and go with the ...
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| Should I be more patient | 7/5/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have met 5 years ago at work. We've been dating for 3 years (we no longer work at ...
A: don't expect him to bring it up, as he's quite comfortable with the less committed, less ...
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| Girlfriend's | 7/5/2006 |
Q: First, I would really like to thank you for taking the time to read and answer this question for me. ...
A: tricky situation; you don't want to get in between her and the friend, as she still feels some ...
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| This boy.... | 7/3/2006 |
Q: Hey! I am 20 years old and very confused about this new guy I'm dating. We met thru my ex and ...
A: 1 i think you answered your own question--not much to be gained by inhibiting your freedom, which is ...
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| should i end it? | 6/28/2006 |
Q: i have been going out with this girl for 2 years now. We work great on a mental level, we r into ...
A: she's living in an illusion; a relationship without mutual sexual attraction is called a friendship; ...
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| Boundary issue | 6/26/2006 |
Q: I have been dating the same guy for 3 years. We are each others best friend and communicate very ...
A: interesting question; as you know, fine line here between reasonable attention and quasi obsession; ...
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| What's the right thing to do? | 6/25/2006 |
Q: I was wondering, what’s the right thing to say and the right thing to do when you first meet someone ...
A: as you said, normal conversation; a compliment, an honest expression that they've caught your eye, a ...
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| Can I date? | 6/23/2006 |
Q: I am a 21yr old,blk,female. I am 5'6 & 120lbs I have no children and I work full time. I think of ...
A: if they're not finding you interesting and attractive, yes; but there's no need to accept this lot ...
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| new boyfriend who is coming on too strong | 6/22/2006 |
Q: i just started going out with this guy i work with about a week ago. I'm beginning to find out that ...
A: just tell him he's coming on way too strong and it's turning you off; it takes 2 people to talk to ...
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| Four Month Relationship about to fizzle out | 6/21/2006 |
Q: I have been seeing a man for four months who I've known about 17 years. He hinted about dating me ...
A: you've provided him with an ultra-convenient sexual arrangement where he has to do almost nothing to ...
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| Differing view points | 6/21/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years. We've lived together for a year. Last May I made ...
A: you promised to quit and haven't, so his issue there is understandable; apologize for breaking the ...
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| Girlfriend is Confused . What do I do? | 6/20/2006 |
Q: I have been dating a Monica for four months. At the time we started dating, she had ended a 10 ...
A: agreed; confident guy doesn't wait around while the girl goes eenie, meenie, miney, mo...(excuse ...
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| Relationship heading south | 6/20/2006 |
Q: I have been seeing my girlfriend for almost 3 years now. Within the last 6 months or so our ...
A: each of you appears to have valid concerns/unfulfilled needs; try to have an open, honest ...
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| new person in my life | 6/19/2006 |
Q: Azure, Hi, how are you? I have a problem and I was hoping you might be able to help me with it. I ...
A: don't go to the planning board calendar just yet; a guy who had his 1st date with you on saturday ...
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| I think I'm in love with two women | 6/17/2006 |
Q: I am currently in a very long term relationship with a woman I'll call Kristen. Kristen and I have ...
A: no need for the all or nothing approach; nothing to lose by telling cindy how you feel and seeing if ...
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| she has a boyfriend | 6/15/2006 |
Q: I just got back from a trip and met this amazing girl. she is beautiful and has the most amazing ...
A: sometimes less is more; you just met, hardly know each other, live apart, and she has a boyfriend, ...
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| first date and few calls and than nothing....? | 6/14/2006 |
Q: If I went on a first date with a guy and it seemed everything was going good the first date.He was ...
A: don't chase, it erodes self-esteem; just leave it be; if he's interested (and has prepared a really ...
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| Looking... | 6/13/2006 |
Q: I am so very frustrated... Every time I meet a guy they act like gentlemen in the beginning of the ...
A: hmmm; hot looking girl, sex crazed guys...what you want does exist, but not easy to find; could be ...
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| i dont understand | 6/10/2006 |
Q: hey, im josh, im 16 years old and im very confused about a girl i have been talking to for about 4 ...
A: sometimes less is more; relax; if she didn't like you she wouldn't be talking to you; stop thinking ...
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| Problem with age differance | 6/8/2006 |
Q: I am 32 years old, but don’t appear to look past 25. I am also a father of three. I have been single ...
A: i personally think the mother and sister are WAY out of line; it's none of their business, and ...
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| Am i setting myself up?? | 6/8/2006 |
Q: My ex and I cut off communication in march. The reason was because she felt uncomfortable around me ...
A: first you have to be certain you are emotionally NEUTRAL; that means you've ZERO interest in tring ...
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| rules of a relationship ? | 6/7/2006 |
Q: i have been dating my girl for three years. Is it ok for her to arrange to meet guys as friends for ...
A: okay---found your follow-up under the "comments" section; i'd tend to agree she's pushing the ...
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| Communication after a breakup | 6/7/2006 |
Q: My girlfriend and I met at work and started dating. We kept our relationship secret from co-workers ...
A: she left; no need to chase or appear needy/insecure; consider it HER loss, refocus your energies on ...
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| Dating/relationship | 6/7/2006 |
Q: my fiance just recently called of our engagement after we had been together for about 7 years. i was ...
A: you're going backwards; what she did before isn't relevant, and what she's doing now is no longer ...
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| A confused break, or a harsh break up? | 6/6/2006 |
Q: I have been with this girl for 2 ½ years and we both deeply loved each other. This girl and I have ...
A: it doesn't matter what ralph and others think; certainly there's a reason for everything, some more ...
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| Should I stay or should I go | 6/5/2006 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years and had a good relationship, wanted to get married ...
A: he was just trying to have his cake and eat it too; not exactly the commitment you were counting on; ...
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| what did i do wrong | 6/5/2006 |
Q: Me and my exboyfriend was togeather for 6 months we were madly in love we was never apart the only ...
A: you did nothing wrong--sometimes people fall out of love; if you don't accept that it's over, you'll ...
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| What can i do. | 6/5/2006 |
Q: I am extreemly attracted to my best friend. i've been in love with her from first sight (about 5 ...
A: you're not in a good position, but i can't MAKE you change it if you're not willing to; sometimes ...
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| Making the Next Step | 6/5/2006 |
Q: Throughout my life I have never been a great womanizer. I have never had a girlfriend in my life ...
A: nothing ventured, nothing gained; forget she has a boyfriend; ask her on a real date, just the 2 of ...
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| the ex girlfriend | 6/4/2006 |
Q: my ex dumped me jan 1st after 3 years together her reason was because she fell out of love and ...
A: no, and no; first, she's no longer interested--it's over; second, you don't know if the next one ...
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| move on or no? | 6/4/2006 |
Q: I have worked with this guy for about 3 years. In that period of time both of us has had a small ...
A: at least move on from "hanging out/making out", to either he asks you on a REAL date, or he doesn't; ...
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| His ex-wife | 6/2/2006 |
Q: I am 49 and have been divorced for 1-1/2 years after being married for 20 yrs. I met a real nice ...
A: time to be a little firmer with your boyfriend; if you feels she's disrespecting you or interfering ...
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| Girlfriend isn't tough enough | 6/1/2006 |
Q: My girlfriend has started a new job and one of the guys who works for the company has been flirting ...
A: without real specifics, it would be difficult to label harrassment; though you can suggest ...
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| Is interested or not? | 6/1/2006 |
Q: I've seen this guy a few times and done the flirting w/ text messages, but recently we talked about ...
A: obviously neither of us know what, if anything, he plans to do; could be he really doesn't KNOW if ...
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| Can't forget my girlfriend's past | 6/1/2006 |
Q: I've been dating a girl for a few months now and it's gotten fairly serious. I know she's special ...
A: look at the glass half full; you like her, she likes you; we ALL have pasts with incidents we may ...
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| The movies | 5/31/2006 |
Q: I am a 17 year old male, I have invited this girl I like to the movies, but I don't know if I should ...
A: there's never been a step by step guide; you have to go with the feeling of that moment; if she ...
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| Was I played? | 5/30/2006 |
Q: YOu think my expectations were too high? But he was the one who told me he wanted to settle down. ...
A: i don't know exactly what he said, or why, or what misunderstandings occurred, but again, it makes ...
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| Should I give him another chance? | 5/28/2006 |
Q: My now ex boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for two years. It started off badly, with him ...
A: give him one last chance, telling him that if he even THINKS about doin up some lttle blonde, you'll ...
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| Pursuing A woman online | 5/24/2006 |
Q: I interested in this woman that I met on myspace. She lives about an hour away. I message her from ...
A: time is too precious to be content just being on her " occasional chat" list; ask to email her ...
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| Friendship after a romantic relationship? | 5/24/2006 |
Q: When I first met my (now ex) boyfriend we were both freshman at the same college. We had a happy ...
A: it's not a "real" friendship", it's him taking advantage of your insecurities/feelings for him, ...
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| insecure boyfriend problems | 5/23/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend is a great guy, but he hs a lot of trust and anger issues he HAS been treated BAD in ...
A: if he wants you to leave, consider it has him doing you a favor; this kind of obsessive, possessive, ...
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| i cheated 2 times he broke it off i regret everything and want him back!! | 5/23/2006 |
Q: we were dating for 2 yrs, we have been broken up for a month and 2 weeks.a year and a half ago I ...
A: don't quite understand how you can " verbally appear" so committed, yet still found the need to ...
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| Perfect but what about... | 5/17/2006 |
Q: Im in a relationship right for about 3 1/2 weeks and Im well in lust with him which can turn into ...
A: i doubt this will have a fairy tale ending; "perfect"??? as you said, you have a sexual attraction, ...
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| Hi,
My boyfriend and I... | 5/15/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I are 24. We have been together for over a year. Four months ago I moved to Europe ...
A: it's not about changing someone; it's more about you overcoming your neediness and insecurity and ...
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| Complicated Situation. | 5/10/2006 |
Q: Ok, this is a bit of a pain for me. I really like this girl right now. Problem is, is she is my Best ...
A: your friend's girlfriend is WAY out of line; how selfish can a person be?..if she's not happy with ...
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| Me and two girls i need to chose from. | 5/5/2006 |
Q: Hey. I am 23 year old guy in long term relationship. For now i have lived with my current girlfriend ...
A: doesn't sound like you're very dedicated to the current girl; at 23, why would you even WANT to be ...
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| relationship | 5/2/2006 |
Q: Just one last question..He wants me to tell you his reasons for getting his own apartment. His ...
A: "back up plan"??..does he advocate that everyone living together should have an apt on the ...
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| relationship | 5/2/2006 |
Q: Azure, I have been with this man for 3 years. Over the past 3 years, he has taken me through a lot ...
A: interesting how your version differs from his; considering what you said, his not moving in is doing ...
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| relationship | 5/1/2006 |
Q: Azure, I have been with this man for 3 years. Over the past 3 years, he has taken me through a lot ...
A: a few questions--he says there's alot of arguing..true?...this new place you got--did you get it ...
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| moving in together | 5/1/2006 |
Q: azure, my girlfriend and i lived together before and then i unfortunately had an accident and ...
A: it's not really a matter of right/wrong; you should do what you're comfortable with; if you're not ...
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| Had Sex with Sister 36 Years Ago | 4/29/2006 |
Q: I have been dating a lady for 6 months and it has been an off and on relationship. There is a very ...
A: if your description of events is accurate, she's out of line, as she should understand it wasn't ...
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| what's wrong?? | 4/27/2006 |
Q: Help! I wonder why whenever i tell my bf my problems,he keeps providing me with solutions when ...
A: not a good idea to tell him your issues, good or bad, that have to do wih other guys; being ...
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| Sex and living together | 4/25/2006 |
Q: For a little background to my question, I will narrate my situation. I have been dating my boyfriend ...
A: it's a real problem, and his dumb answers aren't helping; certainly his lack of passion, not to ...
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| Boyfriend worries about differences and marriage | 4/12/2006 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 11 months. The first two months were great. He would tell ...
A: you call it "wishful"; that's an understatement; not sure what his deal is, but it's obvious he's ...
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| dating/relationship | 4/6/2006 |
Q: OMG here i go... I am in love with the same man as my best friend. My best friend and him dated ...
A: your "best friend" is WAY out of line--"13 years ago, married for 7"??...you must be kidding--she ...
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| What to do next? | 4/5/2006 |
Q: About two years ago I broke up with a long term girlfriend who I was deeply in love with, she found ...
A: if she's interested, she'll contact you; chasing her only makes you look needy, insecure, weak; ...
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| The old flame. | 4/3/2006 |
Q: In theory we both can see other people, in practice just he does. So no, if you're going to keep ...
A: well well, you're every guy's dreamgirl--willing to stay at home while allowing your boyfriend to ...
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| does he care ? | 3/23/2006 |
Q: When we first started dating we got along great but i guess thats how it always starts off.We got ...
A: yea he sounds like a real winner; no sex, no intimacy, no affection, arguing constantly, not ...
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| Ex-Girlfriend calls | 3/15/2006 |
Q: I have been dating my bf for 1 yr and he talks to his ex-gf like every other week. He says that they ...
A: that's a tough question; it really depends on how much you trust/believe him, and the extent of his ...
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| i want her back...she wants to be my best friend | 3/15/2006 |
Q: Me and my ex dated for about 2 months. Things went really fast in that we said I love you fairly ...
A: she's the only one that might POSSIBLY know the answer to that; the question is, what course is best ...
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| First meeting | 3/14/2006 |
Q: I met a man online and we spoke on the phone and decided to meet last night for the first time. I ...
A: keep in mind, making a match is the great EXCEPTION to the rule; unless you're really fortunate, you ...
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| Matters of Love. | 3/13/2006 |
Q: 1) The reason why I didn't want to show her that I am understanding is that I don't want her to get ...
A: we can respectfully disagree on the most effective approach; i still think it would have been in ...
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| Matters of Love. | 3/13/2006 |
Q: I have broken it off and won't take her back tomorrow or the next week. As I mentioned earlier, I ...
A: okay, so if you've ended it, won't be taking her back, you both want totally different arrangements, ...
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| Matters of Love. | 3/12/2006 |
Q: My girlfriend of 3 years says she definitely wants to marry me in the future, but would like to date ...
A: you haven't really broken it off, as you'd take her back tomorrow; the approach was a tad heavy, ...
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| Should I marry this wonderful man who loves me and wants to marry me, but is not very attractive to my eyes? | 3/10/2006 |
Q: I am 25 and he is 29. We have been seeing each other for 2 years now. Coming from very conservative ...
A: don't understand why you say the sexual aspect will suffer if you try to please each other ...
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| "If you really love me, that shouldn't matter." | 3/2/2006 |
Q: It was about 3 months ago when I was saying good-bye to my former girlfriend before leaving on a ...
A: ahh, the old principle vs pragmatic debate; in my opinion, you tactfully do both; in the beginning ...
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| Cant be faithful | 2/27/2006 |
Q: Not in specific terms but its just implied at this pointAzure, I'm a 32 year old professional and ...
A: so probably too late to sell the non-exclusive--she's most likely walk; time to make a choice; you ...
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| ex-girlfriend calls | 2/22/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 9 years. Yesterday, out of the blue he gets a phone call from ...
A: actually it's pretty natural; as people move on in life, they think back about those that made a ...
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| Questions about Online Dating for School Paper | 2/21/2006 |
Q: my name is Courtney and I attend the University of Kentucky. I am composing a phamphlet about the ...
A: 1. because as you get older your circle of friends decreases, as well as places to go that cater to ...
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| How to overcome insecurities? | 2/19/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. We both just turned 22. About three months into ...
A: i'm not sure why you'd want to stay with someone who's put "limits" on his love; i'd at LEAST inform ...
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| Serious chip on my shoulder | 2/14/2006 |
Q: I don't know if you can help me or not. I don't even know if this question even belongs under this ...
A: hmmm, hope all the women over 25 don't read this--counselors would be swamped with calls from ...
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| Still confused and worried. | 2/11/2006 |
Q: Okay- So it has been four days since I emailed her last and I have recieved no reply. I'm aware of ...
A: if and when to ask her really depends on how long it takes her to reply and what she says; she has ...
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| Is this a wise decision? | 2/9/2006 |
Q: Here's a complicated one. About a year ago I learned that a lady I worked with was very attracted ...
A: if you agree to meet, of course you go; the key is to go with an open mind, hopeful fantasy perhaps, ...
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| doing the right thing... | 2/4/2006 |
Q: i'm a 32 yr old male, she is a 45 yr old female. together for 11 yrs, 8 months. no children in the ...
A: this is obviously an unhealthy, co-dependent, addictve arrangement, where appeasing insecurities is ...
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| Financial Responsibility | 1/25/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend Tristan and I have been dating for nearly 3 years and it has become more than ...
A: you convey it by having CONSEQUENCES for his inconsiderate behavior; he's now getting away with it ...
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| Just need an objective opinion... | 1/23/2006 |
Q: Is it just me, or is something odd? After the 2nd date, while kissing (no touching--at all), he ...
A: no one's crazy--just individual differences in bedroom behavior; you have to decide if your feelings ...
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| sex less in a relationship | 1/21/2006 |
Q: i hope you can help me with this? I am a gay (30) who is been in a commited relationship with ...
A: you're coming across as weak, needy, insecure; consequently, he's got no reason to change; figure ...
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| dating | 1/17/2006 |
Q: I would like to know how to proceed in this relationship...for the best of us both. Here is the ...
A: my thoughts are the arrangement sounds pretty unhealthy, with insecurity, co-dependency, unclear ...
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| What do I do | 1/6/2006 |
Q: Me and this girl has been dating for 10 months now, but recently I have been noticing that she is ...
A: first off, stop thinking "made for each other.." that's just maybe how YOU feel; in this world there ...
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| Advice Please | 12/28/2005 |
Q: I would like to ask your advice about my current relationship. I moved to a new city in June of ...
A: that's up to you to decide; she's pretty much laid it out for you; if there's no future, she's not ...
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| A friend | 12/19/2005 |
Q: i am 17. she is 17. i have become very close to a friend who i have known for a couple of years. ...
A: real friends only exist if both parties are NEUTRAL emotionally about each other; that is, no ...
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| Is she blowing me off? | 12/12/2005 |
Q: Hello I recently asked a girl if she was "doing anything this weekend" as a sort of direct but yet ...
A: first off, your "doing anything..." inquiry was weak, and there's no way to tell from her answer if ...
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| Im 18 and love/lust a 25 year old.... | 12/5/2005 |
Q: older woman, Christine. She used to be one of my closest co- workers but since I've found a better ...
A: as to the source of your feelings, it's probably a combination of both, but it really doesn't ...
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| how long does it take to be in love? | 12/4/2005 |
Q: I am a 24 year old woman. I just started dating a 31 year old women. We have been dating about a ...
A: there's no exact timetable; i like to distinguish being "in love", which can happen quickly and ...
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| Dad thinks he's a smooth one... | 12/4/2005 |
Q: For the past few months, I had been dealing with a guy who had only wanted to be friends with me. It ...
A: your family is just generalizing in the usual protective manner; this guy is no different than any ...
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| Dating an ex | 11/28/2005 |
Q: 2 years ago I dated a guy for about 6 weeks and we ended up breaking up. It was a weird time in my ...
A: let's see; you're in a "completely committed relationship", but you want to chat up this "ex"; keep ...
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Q: I'm in a serious relationship of about 3 years and my boyfriend just recently screwed up. He was out ...
A: you say "he's the only one i want in my life", but his actions say perhaps he feels differently; if ...
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| Hi, I'm in a serious relationship... | 11/27/2005 |
Q: I'm in a serious relationship of about 3 years and my boyfriend just recently screwed up. He was out ...
A: your reaction is a tad strong, probably because of your neediness/insecurities ("can't be without ...
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| Trouble Connecting | 11/21/2005 |
Q: For starters, I'm a 22 year old male college student who just got home from Iraq within the past 8 ...
A: nowadays, it seems those in your age group are more into this vague "hanging out" thing, which ...
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| What should she do? | 11/20/2005 |
Q: I just need your opinion on the following dating issue: My cousin is 23 and she has just recently ...
A: she needs to figure out what her requirements are for continuing, find out from him EXACTLY what ...
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| Girlfriend's Photo | 11/17/2005 |
Q: I am 24, as is my girlfriend. We've been dating for about 3 months now and things are going very ...
A: i think you're overreacting; the pic was probably in there from when they were dating--when she ...
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| 33 year old female with a problem that could almost be a soap opra- help help help- advice needed | 11/11/2005 |
Q: I am desperate for help- i will be the first to admit, i am terrible at all things dating- and im ...
A: you're making complicated an essentally simple situation; thusly, it's time for the required dose of ...
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| Compatibility | 11/7/2005 |
Q: Please Help! I'm a 27 yr old male, and I've just started dating someone. Its a girl I've known for ...
A: "should feel..??"..that's part of the problem; you're WAY over-thinking, over-analyzing, when you ...
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| i'm not sure what to do | 11/3/2005 |
Q: I am 19 years old and I have just recently met a really great guy, however I am in a dilemma. When ...
A: i can't read his mind, but if he's a guy and you're giving him "no strings sex", it kinda detracts ...
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| We're friends...could there be more? | 11/1/2005 |
Q: I am friends with a man I met through my job. We e-mail pretty much every day, like to talk and ...
A: unless you want to lead almost a double life, i'd tell him; either he feels similarly, or if not, at ...
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| getting ex back | 10/31/2005 |
Q: you have answered my first question, now leaving her alone for a while meaning how long, im from a ...
A: you didn't seem to grasp the concept; at this point, it's over; leaving her "alone", means until SHE ...
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| Dating vs. Relationships | 10/29/2005 |
Q: What is the difference between two people who are "dating" and two people who are "in a ...
A: that's all a matter of how one defines the terms; alot of people feel when dating becomes more ...
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| loner for life | 10/28/2005 |
Q: I now know for sure that some people were born to be alone and a loner with no hope of ever findnig ...
A: first, change the defeatist attitude; women like guys that are confident, assured, positive, ...
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| what to do | 10/28/2005 |
Q: , how are you/ Well ive been dating my bf for 2 months now and we really like eachother,, Thing is,, ...
A: there's no need to "be good at" this stuff before trying; it's not like you're a PRO...it's SUPPOSED ...
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| Break up after long term | 10/28/2005 |
Q: this is gonna be a long one. sorry. so, my exgf and i dated for 3 years... there were bumps in the ...
A: as the saying goes, "all's fair in love and war.."..people can say, promise, etc;, but it's the ...
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| dating problem | 10/25/2005 |
Q: I met this guy online and he is nice and all that and we live like 5 hours away from each other and ...
A: you "met" him but not in reality; that's the problem with these internet "fantasy affairs"...you ...
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| Move in w/parents? | 10/21/2005 |
Q: I'm currently living with my long-term boyfriend and a couple of months ago my dad lost his job ...
A: hard to take back the offer now that you made it; everyone needs to realize that if you did it, it ...
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| previous partners | 10/10/2005 |
Q: I have been dating a girl for the past six months who I am very in love with. I am 25 and she is 22. ...
A: don't know of any magical way to rid yourself of the thought; considering it's her life, her ...
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| My boyfriend of 3 years just... | 10/4/2005 |
Q: My boyfriend of 3 years just mentioned something about an engagement ring and I got sort of weird ...
A: could be some remaining bitterness; also, it's kind of a defense against unfulfilled expectation and ...
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| I love him! | 10/3/2005 |
Q: I'm 19. Eight and a half months ago my boyfriend (0f 8 months) and I broke up. He said it just ...
A: let's look at the facts; He left you, didn't feel the same, hasn't called with a change of heart; ...
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| Should I stay or should I go? | 9/30/2005 |
Q: I've been presented with a difficult situation, I hope you can help me clear things in my head. ...
A: let's see... horrible sex, no communication, no going out, but you "can't fathom life without ...
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| Should I let him go? | 9/29/2005 |
Q: Well last night my boyfriend broke up with me after one of those fights you don't even know how they ...
A: good question; at this point, i think the towel is in your hand and your arm is moving forward; if ...
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| Asking to hang out with her | 9/28/2005 |
Q: I am currenty in my second year of college and recently, i saw this girl who came this year in my ...
A: it's probably her telling you she's amenable to a "friends" deal, but isn't interested in you as ...
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| Lonely one night stand | 9/22/2005 |
Q: Azure- Since I work in the hotel industry sometimes I have to pick up flight crew members at the ...
A: she "made" you respond in a certain way??..c'mon; would have "made" you spent the night??..giving ...
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| Lonely one night stand | 9/21/2005 |
Q: Azure- Since I work in the hotel industry sometimes I have to pick up flight crew members at the ...
A: what do you expect when you appear as if your interest is temporary? you leave after the sex, tell ...
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| Online dating | 9/20/2005 |
Q: I've often wondered with all the people on the online dating sites, why is it so hard for people to ...
A: dating has become a total "numbers" game; the more options you utilize, the better your chances; ...
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| How to meet the right woman... | 9/18/2005 |
Q: I am trying to find all the information I can about meeting the right kind of women, decent and ...
A: 1. women are everywhere--internet dating sites, clubs, personal ads, work, enthusiast organizations, ...
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| Wasting time?? | 8/17/2005 |
Q: I have been introduced to a girl by a business aquaintance/friend, who I really have a strong ...
A: she's essentially told you she's not interested--that means immediately lowering your expectations ...
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| Hello, I've been seeing a... | 8/16/2005 |
Q: I've been seeing a girl for a couple months now, we've been out on 6 or 7 dates, she's stayed at my ...
A: some women believe it's the guy's job to make contact; she's probably one of them; i wouldn't ...
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| Honeymoon period over? | 8/16/2005 |
Q: I'm 21, and so is my boyfriend of 8 months. We are both at college together. We're both in love ...
A: seeing each other every nite is pretty much a recipe for complacency; without spaces in your ...
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| Am I wasting my time? | 8/15/2005 |
Q: I started talking to Chris on the internet at the beginning of the summer. He's 25 and I'm 19. He ...
A: i would put more credence into his behavior rather than his words; so far, that indicates, for ...
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| "Saying I love you, Sex in the way?" | 8/8/2005 |
Q: Just a little info first: -We have been dating for 4 months -We are both virgins -We live 4 hours ...
A: well it's essentially the same advice; actually it was SHE that first brought the sex topic up (u ...
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| Porn | 8/3/2005 |
Q: Followup To Question - My boyfriend is 22 and recently got a computer. I am pretty good with ...
A: don't know the statistics, but it's probably more common than you think; as to what can happen, ...
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| Porn | 8/3/2005 |
Q: My boyfriend is 22 and recently got a computer. I am pretty good with computers seeing as though I ...
A: not good; now we have a pattern of essentially physical abuse from an out of control boyfriend; he ...
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| Porn | 8/2/2005 |
Q: My boyfriend is 22 and recently got a computer. I am pretty good with computers seeing as though I ...
A: a few things goin on here; first, though your reaction is understandable, i think his "just looking" ...
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| Which one do I choose? | 7/30/2005 |
Q: I have come out of an abusive relationship and I am ready to find that special someone. Now I"m in a ...
A: they both deserve to know what's been going on; plus, if you're to have any hope of ridding yourself ...
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| what to do what to do? | 7/29/2005 |
Q: wellok here goes we have 4 children together 2 from my past relationship and 2 from his which he ...
A: for better or worse, you've chosen a guy that comes with alot of practical and emotional issues; ...
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| break in a relationship | 7/26/2005 |
Q: Hey azure, so me and this girl have been dating for almost 3 months now, and we are both getting ...
A: a "break" is just that; calling AT ALL, let alone asking to "hang out", defeats the whole purpose; ...
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| communication | 7/25/2005 |
Q: .. I really need advice! :/ I've been dating a guy for the last few weeks. He is absolutely perfect ...
A: if you feel he's a person you can't honestly share your feelings with, maybe he's not for you; your ...
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| How to procede with a relationship | 7/19/2005 |
Q: I am a 30 year old computer enginneer and was wondering how to procede with a girl I am interested ...
A: lower your expectations; her non-response to the lunch invite (pretty inconsiderate), coupled with ...
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| Disinterest or hard to get? | 7/19/2005 |
Q: let me say up front I appreciate you taking the time to read/answer this; I'll try and be brief ...
A: even if you didn't leave a msg, she probably knows you called; i'd call her on thurs and maybe this ...
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| will he call?? | 7/19/2005 |
Q: I am an attractive single 34 year old woman. Last Friday I met a young man (22) at a corporate ...
A: as to having sex, that's really a moral judgment i can't make; if it winds up bothering you, perhaps ...
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| intimacy and the horrible time of the month... | 7/18/2005 |
Q: A guy wants to get more intimate with you... at the very wrong time of the month! My boyfriend and ...
A: if he's old enough to date, then he should be mature enough to understand periods; it's a natural ...
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| We have been married for 30... | 7/7/2005 |
Q: We have been married for 30 years and each marriage is about ups and downs. I would leave but I ...
A: "can't leave.."?? so it's pretty similar to a prison sentence?? your only remaining option is to try ...
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| Boyfriend | 6/28/2005 |
Q: I am 19 going on 20 and I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 years. Last night we got into ...
A: if he's physically "pushing you down", that's a real cause for concern; that's abusivness, and not ...
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| im confused and scared! | 6/26/2005 |
Q: Well I don't know why I have this feeling that tells me that he started to get bored of me or not to ...
A: he's getting away with the inconsideration because you're allowing him to; nobody is telling you to ...
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| Hi, I met this guy in the... | 6/20/2005 |
Q: I met this guy in the hallway (I think he is very attractive) a couple days ago when I was looking ...
A: not too bold; u just opened the door; now it's up to HIM to enter; i can't tell you if he's ...
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| dating... | 6/17/2005 |
Q: my name's holly. i'm 18 and am presently living in germany although i'm from texas. i am just ...
A: it's better to honestly tell him what you don't like, rather than not because you're worried about ...
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| where is this going? | 6/10/2005 |
Q: I've been seeing a man who is 33, very successful and very wealthy. I am 24 and neither of those ...
A: the first thing to consider is it's only been 2 months; to make ANY conclusions would be premature; ...
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| does she like me? | 6/7/2005 |
Q: I understand but its only been a few days so how are you so sure? What about the baby situation and ...
A: didn't say i was "sure"; i said "seems to"...but it doesn't make that much difference in figuring ...
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| what is it? | 5/25/2005 |
Q: I'm 21, i usually meet them on college campus, sometimes on the street, i mean in random places, i ...
A: it's hard to be specific, because alot of times what to say/ask, depends on the situation; ...
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| what is it? | 5/23/2005 |
Q: You truly are an expert Azure, and sorry for referring to you as a female, so regarding being ...
A: tips--be yourself; ask questions, interesting ones, focus on doing what it takes to get her to like ...
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| what is it? | 5/22/2005 |
Q: Hey AzureI'm just trying to get female perspective on this topic, not necessarily women only, it ...
A: first, i can't give you the female perspective directly from a female, cause i'm a guy; but i've ...
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| please help, this is complicated | 5/22/2005 |
Q: please help me My problem spans 3 years and is complicated but if you have time I would be very ...
A: you're caught in the abyss between friends and lovers, an unfortunate space where NEITHER can be ...
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| am I too shallow? | 5/13/2005 |
Q: I am a 34 year old attractive, single woman interested in a relationship. I met a man "Dave" through ...
A: everyone has a right to their own preferences and requirements with regard to partner attributes ...
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| Cheating suspicions | 5/11/2005 |
Q: Just a question, because you said he's a guy and he's most likely messed around, do you believe all ...
A: most guys instinctively want to have sex with any female they're sexually attracted to; if the ...
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| What should I do? | 5/10/2005 |
Q: On Saturday night I had a first date with a girl, and it was a double blind date. We talked for ...
A: i'm not sure what she's thinking, but your over the top behavior, indicative of neediness, ...
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| Is she losing interest? | 5/9/2005 |
Q: I have been going out with this girl for about 2 month's, we are both 19. I tried to break up with ...
A: young (19), long distance/college, and short time dating (2 months), mean ANYTHING can happen; first ...
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| Reconnecting | 5/6/2005 |
Q: Answer - no need to say anything; just call and ask if she'd like to do something sunday afternoon; ...
A: i'm not big on messages; plus, you don't want to come on too strong..it's good to create some ...
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| Reconnecting | 5/5/2005 |
Q: my name is Nick, I'm 25 and the woman I'd prefer to be with is Cali, she is 24. Cali and I have had ...
A: no need to say anything; just call and ask if she'd like to do something sunday afternoon; if it's ...
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| What do you think? | 5/4/2005 |
Q: I would really appreciate if you could help me/ give me your opinion. I'm a 20 year old girl. I met ...
A: as to his degree of fondness, only HE knows that; as to a "cool" invite, considering the ...
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| Dating troubles | 5/3/2005 |
Q: I've been seeing this guy for about 4 months. When we first started seeing eachother it was awesome! ...
A: not sure i understand...you say you've talked to him 5 times...have you asked him what happened? ...
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| Dating an Ex-Girlfirend | 4/27/2005 |
Q: I am a 28 year old male. I met my Ex through my best friend when His mom married Her dad. When we ...
A: she says she has no regrets about her life...why should YOU?..whatever she did apart from you is ...
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| ??????????? | 4/21/2005 |
Q: i had a friend. we were friends for 2 1/2 yrs. we always had our ups and downs but we always seemed ...
A: i can't read minds; in any case, it doesn't matter; the guy you decided to love is essentially a ...
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| statutory rape | 4/14/2005 |
Q: My boyfriend is 18, and I'm 17, is it still illegal for us to have sex?
A: age of consent varies from state to state; search "age of consent" on net--look for your state; most ...
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| Normal?? | 4/13/2005 |
Q: Followup To Question -Hello. I have a few questions for you. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I ...
A: "nagging"..i don't know if that word really has alot of meaning here; he may use that term to ...
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| Normal?? | 4/13/2005 |
Q: Followup To Question - Hello. I have a few questions for you. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I ...
A: i think you just need to be more assertive with ALL involved; don't be afraid to tell your family ...
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| I'm interested in the dating/relationship... | 4/12/2005 |
Q: I'm interested in the dating/relationship coach/advisor services. I also would like to know how to ...
A: "the house clean"??..maybe next time you could ask him for a SERIOUS answer; unless there's some ...
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| Normal?? | 4/12/2005 |
Q: I have a few questions for you. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I live together. And we've had a ...
A: i'm sure it's all related; their non-supportive interference, last year, and when u were younger, ...
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| Popping the question and... | 4/7/2005 |
Q: Ok here we go...I am a first year college student. My first sememster this Russian girl came to me ...
A: you need to work on your self-esteem; once yuo bring it up to healthy levels, you won't need to ask ...
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| how to deal | 4/7/2005 |
Q: I have been dating a guy for the past 7 months. We have never been committed, because he was scared ...
A: assuming he's well enough to discuss it, i'd let him know what you know, tell him what you think, ...
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| Overcoming distrust | 4/7/2005 |
Q: I am dating a lady named Melody. We were highschool sweethearts and have reconnected after 20 ...
A: from your last paragraph, i'm wondering if you're really looking for advice, or for advice that ...
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| confused? | 4/6/2005 |
Q: I've been daiting my fiancee for 5 1/2 years (he was 16 I was 15), have two beautiful children ...
A: the situation is more of a mess than i think you realize; sooner or later, someone is going to get ...
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| breakup | 4/1/2005 |
Q: It's not clinical depression, just sadness. I just can't decide if it's caused by jealousy, ...
A: you don't have to be clinically depressed to benefit from counseling..as i suggested, my feeling is ...
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| breakup | 4/1/2005 |
Q: I dated this girl for approximately two months. She just got out of a long term relationship and I ...
A: if i were to guess, i'd say it was more of the second; for all you know, if you HAD agreed to her ...
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| sexual difficulties | 3/30/2005 |
Q: Since this situation is a little complex, I will try to be concise. I have a very dear friend; we ...
A: you need to heighten his concern regarding the matter to the point where he realizes the need, for ...
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| Girlfriends has many guyfriends | 3/29/2005 |
Q: .. I'm 30 and my girlfriend is 28. She has lied to me a few times about hanging out with her guy ...
A: only if you can't raise your trust level; she can't be honest with you because she feels you can't ...
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| What do I make of the way I feel | 3/28/2005 |
Q: I was engaged until 2 months ago. Cathy was married for eight years until her devorce was finalized ...
A: as to her question about it lasting, obviously, no guarantees..all you can advise is to enjoy each ...
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| boyfriend help | 3/23/2005 |
Q: My b/f's friend his birthday is this friday and they are planning to go out crusin around they told ...
A: you have to somehow learn to trust him or leave him; he should be able to go out with his friends ...
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| bf issues | 3/22/2005 |
Q: My boyfriend (18) and I (20) are having having problems. Last night I went to bed at 9:30pm and I ...
A: i'd stop letting my neediness get in the way of my better judgment; he treats you like this because ...
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| kidding yourself | 3/18/2005 |
Q: To what extent should a man kid himself when he's going out with a woman? Is it all right for him ...
A: it's a fine line; certainly a little self-deprecating humor can reveal an honest, genuine, humble ...
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| Intamacy | 3/10/2005 |
Q: I guess what our biggest problem is that I don't feel enough sexuality from him. We hardly make love ...
A: to me, there seem to be 2 issues here; 1st, you say he doesn't have a large sex drive, but you speak ...
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| Intamacy | 3/8/2005 |
Q: I am a fellow volunteer here on all experts and I've helped many people with their relationships but ...
A: hey there; i do recall seeing your name in the experts list, and that you seemed pretty highly ...
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| Everythings great....except shes an exhibitionist | 3/8/2005 |
Q: ------------------------- Follow-up To Question - My girlfriend and I have been going out for ...
A: you didn't ask about "progressing a relationship", you spent alot of time detailing what appeared to ...
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| Everythings great....except shes an exhibitionist | 3/7/2005 |
Q: My girlfriend and I have been going out for more than 3 months now; our relationship has been smooth ...
A: i get the feeling you seem to be trying to tell yourself her behavior isn't that big a deal, as your ...
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| dilema | 2/28/2005 |
Q: My name is Cindy and I am 36,I have been dating Jack (39) for 10 months,he is a wonderful man and is ...
A: dating only 10 months, the "patient" choice sounds reasonable, even for another year; what's the ...
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| who pays /how to end date | 2/25/2005 |
Q: Regarding meeting people on-line for the first time - who should pay when agreeing to meet someone ...
A: first of all, it's probably better to just meet for a drink--dinner can be a little much, especially ...
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| Dealing with my girlfriend's past | 2/23/2005 |
Q: I have been dating a girl for 6 months now and everything has been wonderful so far. We enjoy doing ...
A: honesty and understanding are two sides of the same coin; she was honest, it's up to you to uphold ...
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| Changing a negative image. | 2/20/2005 |
Q: I really need help now and it involves my whole life. PLease help me. I am a senior in High School, ...
A: your comment that you still want to be feared shows us you haven't gone nearly far enough with the ...
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| Senior's cohabitating/ researching former spouses. | 2/17/2005 |
Q: I am 64 and divorced, a college grad and business professional. I have known a particular lady for ...
A: it's totally unacceptable, insulting, and scary..what happened between you and them is between you ...
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| I am 22. I seem to have a... | 2/16/2005 |
Q: I am 22. I seem to have a lot of trouble meeting men despite being a beautiful girl. Men never ...
A: possible choices; a) consider more realistic expectations..b) analyze why the guys you want aren't ...
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| The age old... | 2/10/2005 |
Q: Answer - your experience with guys asking for a number and calling in a timely fashion, if ever, is ...
A: i wasn't worried about the 4; i was mystified as to why you thought that (still am), as you've given ...
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| The age old... | 2/9/2005 |
Q: So, here goes: (You can probably pull out your stock answer right about... now.) This may be a ...
A: your experience with guys asking for a number and calling in a timely fashion, if ever, is not ...
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| Calling too much? | 2/9/2005 |
Q: Back at the start of the new year, on a Monday, I called up a young lady I was interested in and ...
A: you were a tad too persisent; once they say they'll give you a call, it's up to THEM to get back to ...
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| Girlfriend clings to old worries | 2/7/2005 |
Q: i have been seeing my currently girlfriend for nearly 3 months now. We have been very happy together ...
A: based upon her threats and paranoia, my feeling is she's in definite need of counseling; i would ...
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| Honesty | 2/3/2005 |
Q: I'm a 55 year old woman who has been dating men I've met on various online services for 6 years now. ...
A: if that's the only mistake he's made, i'd give him a pass on it; potential partners can be so ...
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| what should i do? | 1/29/2005 |
Q: i keep running into the same problem here, i have joined a few dating sites on the net and when i ...
A: you could try putting the exact number of kids you have in your profile, as well as requesting that ...
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| Dating, or not dating? | 1/26/2005 |
Q: how are you? My name is Mike and I'm 18 years old, a senior in high school. I've had a few questions ...
A: kate's second answer was getting closer to reality; it just ddn't go far enough; i think you're ...
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| The main reason I'm asking... | 1/23/2005 |
Q: The main reason I'm asking is even though I'm very beautiful, men NEVER ask me out. The only guys ...
A: wanna go out??...now at least you can't say "normal" guys never ask you out..other than increasing ...
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| 1. What exactly qualifies... | 1/23/2005 |
Q: 1. What exactly qualifies as 'busy'? I hear that line a lot. Usually I run far away from the man ...
A: a valid "busy" is when you ask a guy to do something and he actually HAS previous plans...obviously ...
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| Why are they acting this way? | 1/16/2005 |
Q: Ok I have to tell you, not to sound conceited, but I am an extremely beautiful woman (I have been ...
A: that's hard to say without talking to the guys, but perhaps they act like jerks because lots of guys ...
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| How Do I Know | 12/29/2004 |
Q: There's this woman I met at my new job about a month ago. I usually don't do the co-worker thing ...
A: 2 options; the next time you ask her out (wait until after 1st of year), if she declines, you can ...
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| Ex Boyfriend | 12/27/2004 |
Q: I have been going out with my current girlfriend for amonth now and she currently lives with ehr ...
A: it's up to HER, not you, to tell him not to call; i get the impression that hasn't happened; unless ...
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| Getting a boyfriend | 12/20/2004 |
Q: I'm a 36 yr. old single woman who has a lot to offer a man. I'm considered very attractive, ...
A: not knowing more about you, it's difficult to provide a very specific answer; men need love as much ...
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| How to Know if It's Worth It | 12/16/2004 |
Q: Please help me! I will be as brief as possible, but it is quick a detailed question. My boyfriend ...
A: "stupid" perhaps not the word; maybe "overly concerned" works better; at 6 months and 23, why are ...
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| Hello. I just wanted to talk... | 12/15/2004 |
Q: I just wanted to talk to someone, and then hopefully get some advice back. I'm in a relationship ...
A: just live your life and treat others as you'd like them to treat you; no need to be on a crusade to ...
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| Work Related | 12/14/2004 |
Q: Okay...I thought that in a million years it would never come to this, but what the hell. Here is my ...
A: your focus is off; confident guy isn't worrying/analyzing about HER mindset; consequently, there's ...
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| Online Dating Services | 12/5/2004 |
Q: I'm writing an article about online dating and online dating services and I was wondering if you ...
A: like everything, there's something lost, something gained; as for the advantages: it's a centralized ...
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| Chemistry | 12/4/2004 |
Q: This is a sensitive issue, and it's one that's almost always overlooked even though it's one of the ...
A: there's lots of "average" looking girls hoping to meet guys; concentrate on them rather than the ...
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| is he for real? | 11/24/2004 |
Q: and about 2 months ago i met this guy greg, at a bar. well, the 1st time we met, we were both drunk, ...
A: it's difficult to go back and change expectations and interactions when you already established a ...
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| Boyfriend | 11/24/2004 |
Q: My boyfriend is 21 years old and we have been together for 2 years and we moved in together not too ...
A: this is an unfortunate by-product of technology; some escape thru this type of behavior instead of ...
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| Waste of time? | 11/21/2004 |
Q: This may be too complicated a matter to offer advice in, but here it goes. I am a 27 year old male. ...
A: you have a couple of problems; she has a boyfriend and the work thing is in jeopardy of blowing up; ...
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| how do i know if i should ask her out? | 11/17/2004 |
Q: Hey, I was woindering if you could help me with a problem iwas having. I am currently a Sophmore in ...
A: the reason it's so hard is because after all this time being friends you CAN'T just ask her out ...
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| dating an older woman | 11/17/2004 |
Q: I am in need of some advice. I am twenty years old and don't turn twenty-one untill August of next ...
A: the answer is you're really too young to appeal to most of them, due to the reasons you mentioned, ...
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| dating sucks | 11/13/2004 |
Q: I am a 28yr old woman and he is a 28yr old man. We are both single. I have known this guy for a ...
A: dating doesn't necessarily "suck"; it's your mindset that needs adjustment; i'm not sure this guy ...
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| I work in Long Distance Company.... | 11/12/2004 |
Q: I work in Long Distance Company. I called this grandmother in order to sign her up with our service, ...
A: try to directly speak to the girl, phone or email, and explain how it all came about; no rush to ...
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| how do i let him know? | 10/31/2004 |
Q: I'm 26. He's 27.Hi Azure I met an guy. I like him. I don't know how much he likes me. I think I ...
A: it can't really be planned out like that; part of who you are includes the spontaneity, ...
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| Jealousy | 10/12/2004 |
Q: Hey, I have a question. My girlfriend is the most wonderful, amazing girl, we've been going out for ...
A: there's no magic answer; your low self-esteem is the culprit; stop telling yourself that she's ...
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| a girl i like | 10/7/2004 |
Q: Ok i am very confused right now and i am in a tough situation. There is this girl that i like(a ...
A: you've got to get these emotions under control, as you have no indication that she has any interest ...
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| is there hope? | 10/7/2004 |
Q: I am a 34 year old woman and have been involved with a man who is now 36. We were great friends for ...
A: if you mean hope for a committed relationship, probably not, unless he decides to do something to ...
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| Should I go out with him? | 10/2/2004 |
Q: I'm writing to you because i'm not sure about the whole teacher/student relationship. Here is the ...
A: since you seem somewhat consumed by these thoughts, and since it doesn't appear he'll be making a ...
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| How to commit | 9/30/2004 |
Q: My deal is...I've been friends with this guy for 3yrs. We decided to date 3wks ago and it was going ...
A: who said anything about "the rest of your life"??..and what's this "long term" and "if he's the ...
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| Azure,
I am in desperate... | 9/28/2004 |
Q: Azure, I am in desperate need of some adivce. In late August I left for college, and was forced to ...
A: i'm not sure one weekend home is going to make everything better; as to what to do, i'd just keep it ...
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| A Question | 9/25/2004 |
Q: I hope you can provide me with some insight. I met and fell in love with a good friend of mine, his ...
A: i understand his thinking, but i agree with what you told him; before you can give him any ...
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| Suprises | 9/21/2004 |
Q: I was wanted to ask you for ideas on the little things that women love so much that guys usally cant ...
A: part 2--you keep YOURSELF interesting by learning, growing, developing different interests--that way ...
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| I'd like to know the trruth? | 9/20/2004 |
Q: OK, obviously you can't answer this question for every guy out there.. However I would like to hear ...
A: i try to adjust my conversation, in social interaction, as to what seems to "fit" that personality, ...
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| new guy | 9/19/2004 |
Q: Okay, I'll be straight to the point here. I met this guy at school about two weeks ago and he's been ...
A: some people apparently don't consider it inconsiderate to not call back in a timely fashion; others ...
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| Hi there ... I hav this friend... | 9/18/2004 |
Q: .. I hav this friend who came to me couple of days ago with a strange problem ,,, she was devastated ...
A: we can't often control, nor usually understand, the reactions of others, especially in interactions ...
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| Am I His Friend or A Love Interest? | 9/15/2004 |
Q: Two weeks ago my coach ex broke it off saying he cares for me a lot & doesn't want to lose me as a ...
A: c'mon; we both know this "friend" thing is a sham; as you inferred, it's just a means of keeping you ...
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| any chance of a reconciliation? | 9/11/2004 |
Q: My name is John .. I was with my ex Rachel for 4 years.. she was the love of my life and still is.. ...
A: if you really want to feel better, stop hoping against hope, stop writing to people like me, stop ...
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| Normal? | 9/7/2004 |
Q: I was just wondering - when one moves out of their parents house and into another with their ...
A: you should definitely talk to her about it; if you take a gentle approach, you should be able to ...
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| I think my boyfriend might be gay? | 9/7/2004 |
Q: I don't know im really confused. I've been going out with this guy Tim for two years now. We are ...
A: the episode at 14 doesn't necessarily mean he's gay; chances are he isn't; unless you have seen ...
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| "window of opportunity" | 9/7/2004 |
Q: According to a relationships manual I read (naturally written by men), it states that when a guy ...
A: your initial paragraph doesn't include the immediate reaction of the female, which most times, like ...
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| car hobby in the way | 8/28/2004 |
Q: I'm 20 and my boyfriend of 6 months is 18. I do love him (I have had several other relationships but ...
A: sometimes you can get so blinded by "love", that it gets in the way of your better judgment, leading ...
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| "till we meet again" | 8/27/2004 |
Q: I had connected with a woman a month ago and had hit it off one time. She told me she was busy ...
A: i don't think you did anything wrong; my feeling is it didn't matter that anyone died, she just ...
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| His mother is trying to ruin things! | 8/25/2004 |
Q: No, it's very, very obvious she does not like me. Even he knows that she doesn't like me. When I'm ...
A: sometimes love is not the most important thing to consider in evaluating a situation; we can love ...
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| What is wrong with me? | 8/24/2004 |
Q: I know that MANY woman face the problem that I am facing. My question is: My 24 y/o boyfriend of 2 ...
A: like most addictions, you first have to assume it's probably not going to change; then it comes down ...
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| screw up boyfriend | 8/20/2004 |
Q: I have been in a 6 year relationship with my boyfriend, and I have been through thick and thin with ...
A: it depends on how many passes you want to give him; obviously, he didn't meet anyone's definition of ...
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| nice finish last? | 8/20/2004 |
Q: Much has been brought up about having survived an abusive or conceited boyfriend. But what about ...
A: you've delineated the polar opposites, but there are some guys who've been able to integrate ...
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| someone I dated contacted me | 8/18/2004 |
Q: Why would someone I had dated, who I had remained friends with, contact me after four months of no ...
A: i wouldn't read alot into it; people call ex's all the time; he could have just been bored at that ...
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| confused | 8/7/2004 |
Q: my name is sarah and im 18. ive been dating someone over a year who just left for army basic ...
A: a combination of one and four; don't even THINK about two and three..you can put him on the back ...
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| Seeing my ex boyfriend | 7/30/2004 |
Q: A few years ago I dated and fell in love with a man 8 years younger than me, I was 33 at the time ...
A: as i see it, this is little more than an addictive, sexually based arrangement, that if continued, ...
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| Hi,
I am going to be a sophomore... | 7/29/2004 |
Q: I am going to be a sophomore in college this year. I am going back to school in a few weeks and ...
A: that's fairly common, especially having a boyfriend, unless you have a h.s. friend that you were ...
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| Should I pursue or let go? | 7/16/2004 |
Q: I don't want to waist your time so I'll try to make this question quick. I met this girl about 2 ...
A: you want to let go a girl you can't stop thinking about??..as the saying goes, nothing ventured, ...
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| tongue tied | 7/15/2004 |
Q: my main problem is getting past the initial small talk stage and actually talking about things that ...
A: the best way to make more interesting conversation is for YOU to become more interesting, as your ...
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| Marriage Problem | 6/28/2004 |
Q: I'm currently 23 in college. I'm in the middle of an 8 month relationship. Before I got together ...
A: we both know the answer; as long as she's still married, and you both have these active feelings, ...
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| How do I approach? | 6/26/2004 |
Q: this question has a little setup, so bare with me. Alright, I'm into online dating, because I'm ...
A: the one thing you can count on nowadays is that people think nothing of being totally insensitive ...
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| HELP!!! (sorry so long!) | 6/25/2004 |
Q: My ex and I have kept in touch for 4 months after our breakup.he broke up with me. He lives 20 min ...
A: all of your many "why" questions are interesting, but the indivdual answers are basically ...
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| committment issues | 6/13/2004 |
Q: I am mid 20s, single never been married. A friend set me up with a guy. I was excited since for ...
A: i'm a little confused; you dated for 4 months, you inquired i presume as to the dating ...
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| i need your help | 6/10/2004 |
Q: im 20 studying at college,i live in london. The thing is i saw a girl about 2,3 months ago in the ...
A: first off, get serious; being attracted to someone is a long way from love; now as to making a move, ...
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| My boyfriend and my choices | 6/10/2004 |
Q: Do you think that if you are sharing your life with someone else (meaning you are in a serious ...
A: everyone has a right to their preferences, as well as putting forth what their requirements are for ...
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| Best Friend/Boyfriend | 6/7/2004 |
Q: I am currently involved in a serious long-term relationship with my boyfriend. (I'm 19 by the way) ...
A: it usually stems from insecurity about oneself; certainly security levels can be based on family ...
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| Best Friend/Boyfriend | 6/7/2004 |
Q: I am currently involved in a serious long-term relationship with my boyfriend. (I'm 19 by the way) ...
A: first re your boyfriend; he can voice his concerns but he shouldn't be telling you what you can and ...
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| What is his problem? | 6/5/2004 |
Q: I'm am talking to a guy who is 3 years older than I am. He just turned 20 and I will be 17 in 2 ...
A: i can't read his mind, and you shouldn't even try; don't chase; just lead your life; if they're ...
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| HOW DOES A PERSON DEAL WITH... | 6/2/2004 |
Q: HOW DOES A PERSON DEAL WITH BEING MISLEAD IN A RELATIONSHIP ? MY BOYFRIEND AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER ...
A: possessive nature, due to insecurity, has finally come out; don't let his threats bully you into ...
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| trouble getting started... | 5/29/2004 |
Q: So, here's the thing. A couple years ago, I almost got married. We were together for four years. ...
A: you're on the right track; the key is confidence, and you're gaining it; you have to see it as, ...
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| confused | 5/19/2004 |
Q: I am 35 years old and have been single for two years,I have finally gotten to a point in my life ...
A: as to your first question, i've no problem with being discriminating when it comes to romantic ...
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| communication..say what you feel or not? | 5/12/2004 |
Q: Azure I must prewarn you..the guy I am seeing is just not normal, and he and I laugh about ...
A: in primarily sexual relationships (as chances are he sees it as), it's common for a guy to space out ...
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| WHAT AM I TO DO? | 4/25/2004 |
Q: Last year I met a woman on an internet chat. Things progressed very well and we began talking on ...
A: you can dislike that she didn't tell you; but neither that, nor her past, changes the fact that the ...
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| how to | 4/20/2004 |
Q: ------------------------- thanks Azure ok, so yes i need to end it...it may end on its own by not ...
A: i'd tell him you've decided as much as you like him and enjoy the moments you have together, you and ...
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| how to "really" end something | 4/20/2004 |
Q: I have emialed you before...same guy issues. I am 36 catholic, dating or whatever it is, a 41 jewish ...
A: you answered alot of your own question when you said it hurt more than it felt good; unless you're a ...
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| something wrong | 4/15/2004 |
Q: I am 22 years old guy from some colleges and I've been with a 18 years old girl about one year and a ...
A: first you can stop telling her to change just to suit you; that only leads to resentment on her ...
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| confused | 4/13/2004 |
Q: I wrote you once before and need more advice-I have been dating this guy for a month (he is 30,I am ...
A: there's not enough information as to identifying what his real intentions might be; but i don't ...
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| relationship help | 4/6/2004 |
Q: I asked you a question a while back and would like you advice on something else.I have been dating ...
A: cheating would have to come from a broken agreement; we don't know if he has one with her, and he ...
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| help | 4/2/2004 |
Q: Well I'm in a jam. Silly me, I allowed sexual benefits to be added to my friendship with some older ...
A: it's neither love or lust; it's addiction, and it's not good; having plenty of self-esteem, i ...
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| Ultimatum - What should I do? | 3/31/2004 |
Q: I dated this girl for a year and half before we moved in together. Our relationship was perfect in ...
A: where has your self-esteem gone??...this girl you supposedly love has done nothing but show you ...
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| Boyfriend/friends& family | 3/29/2004 |
Q: I am 18 & my boyfriend just turned 21 not too long ago. We have had problems with people interfering ...
A: i haven't heard about anything bad you've done to justify his behavior; 2d, people are responsible ...
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| Boyfriend/friends& family | 3/29/2004 |
Q: I am 18 & my boyfriend just turned 21 not too long ago. We have had problems with people interfering ...
A: 2 different issues; you can't make your decisions regarding who to be with based upon what others ...
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| taking it slow | 3/22/2004 |
Q: I have been talking to this guy for 6 months (he is 30 I am 35),he delivers to my workplace and he ...
A: i've no way of knowing his feelings, and you certainly don't have enough information as yet to draw ...
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| He's Jealous & Possessive | 3/20/2004 |
Q: I have a new boyfriend that exhibits jealousy even if I innocently say Hi to another man. He then ...
A: you didn't really ask a question, but my general advice would be to get rid of this possessive, ...
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| Boyfriend On Probation is is against the law or not? | 3/18/2004 |
Q: I am a 14 year old that is dating a 17 yrs old boy that is on probation. The probation officer told ...
A: each state has a law that makes it illegal to have sex (including more than one means of sexual ...
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| Online dating | 3/16/2004 |
Q: My name is Nadia Stewart. I am a university Journalism student at the U of Guelph-Humber in ...
A: 1. lots of people never did well in "public settings"..online gave them an opportunity to get beyond ...
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| Green Eyed Monster | 3/12/2004 |
Q: I (sorta)have a boyfriend-He & I were intimate about a month ago & he has backed off steadily since ...
A: jealousy comes from insecurity and a lack of self-esteem...set a time to have an honest, open ...
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| Ex-Girlfriend | 3/2/2004 |
Q: I am a 22 soon to be 23 year old male, who about a year ago split up with my girlfriend of 3 years, ...
A: typical relationship stuff; as to it working, certainly in the realm of possibility...if you feel ...
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| Online Dating | 3/1/2004 |
Q: I met a man online who lives 2800 miles away from me. We are going to meet in a few weeks and I'd ...
A: whatever comes to your mind; some topics might be past relationships, what are relationship ...
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| dating after she says she's too busy | 2/25/2004 |
Q: I have a question about asking a person out on a date. I have been chatting with a beautiful woman, ...
A: i doubt that she's upset..she's either involved with someone else, not interested in dating you, or ...
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| Reseducing | 2/15/2004 |
Q: My ex who I have a valve release relationship with, said this to me a few days ago. I think I know ...
A: "valve release"??...i get the feeling you two were never good at open, honest, non-manipulative ...
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| LongDistance Relationship and He Has A Child | 12/24/2003 |
Q: I have been in a relationship with this guy since August, but he is a friend of the family who I ...
A: the child is the least of your problems; first you have the distance; that creates all sorts of ...
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| Why can't I reciprocate the love? | 11/25/2003 |
Q: I have been dating the same woman for about 10 months. She is 30, and I'm 33. We have come to a ...
A: the answer is too obvious for you to see...you can't reciprocate since you don't love them..if and ...
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| Sick of his games | 10/31/2003 |
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and we love each other very much. Things have been rocky ...
A: sometimes love can be like a bad drug...you're addicted to it but it's really harmful to your ...
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