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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Am I More Into Him Than He Is Into Me? | 5/8/2011 |
| Q: I've been casually dating this guy for about a month now. I really like him, we hit it off great our ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like the guy you're seeing could possibly be dating other ... | |
| Moving in..... | 12/26/2010 |
| Q: I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend is 23 years old.We've had mutual friends for a while, we've been ... A: I'm so happy to hear that you're in a wonderful, supportive relationship, especially given some of ... | |
| What does she want? | 12/14/2010 |
| Q: I am totally confused about a girl I met over the summer (in college). We hit it off really well. ... A: it does sound like this girl is sending you mixed signals. There are numerous possibilities for why ... | |
| Call now or wait? | 8/19/2010 |
| Q: I am a college student and l recently met a BEAUTIFUL girl with an amazing personality in a summer ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like this girl has a fantastic and outgoing personality and that ... | |
| Too Strong, Too Soon | 5/5/2010 |
| Q: I was seeing this guy Tyler and everything was going pretty good between us. Me, being artistic and ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like Tyler is an immature man who may have commitment issues. ... | |
| She really confuses me. i like her. feeling mutual or hate? | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: I'm in my late 20's and this girl is in her mid 20's. we take self defense classes together. me more ... A: it sounds like you've really put yourself out there to this girl. It's great that you decided not to ... | |
| What should I do about this situation? | 6/7/2007 |
| Q: there is a girl that I am interested in. She is intelligent, deep, and open-minded...yet like with ... A: It seems like you're somewhat close with your sister if you're hanging out with her and her friends. ... | |
| Confused but determined! | 2/22/2007 |
| Q: ok, my cousin asked if her friend could stay with me for 4 weeks while on a holiday visiting the ... A: The thing with relationships...they always come along when you are not looking for them. Clearly ... | |
| What should I do?? | 2/21/2007 |
| Q: I know this question is very long but please read. I just need some help right now. I have been with ... A: I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time right now...it's never easy to be blown off by ... | |
| is it ok to tell someone off? | 2/20/2007 |
| Q: If a guy who is always bragging about how financially stable he is be required to reciprocate gifts? ... A: While normally I wouldn't say that material gifts are that important to a relationship, I do think ... | |
| calling after a date | 2/19/2007 |
| Q: i am a little shy and usually do not make the first moves in a dating situtation. i went on a date ... A: I'm so glad to hear that you went on a date with a woman that you really like and that the two of ... | |
| so confused! | 2/16/2007 |
| Q: Ok, so this is going to require a lot of explaining but I'm hoping that you can give me some advice ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like you have a boyfriend, but you're not getting to experience ... | |
| I know I am in a bad relationship................. | 2/14/2007 |
| Q: I have a problem and I dont know what to do anymore.This question is very long but please read. I ... A: You've written to me before, and I appreciate your providing me more detail. To be honest, you ... | |
| He's disappeared on me | 2/12/2007 |
| Q: I worked with this man for 2 years. I felt an instant attraction to him the first day. I fought ... A: From what you've told me, you have had a very deep relationship with this man...and it would ... | |
| Trying to talk to this guy... | 2/8/2007 |
| Q: Too insecure to talk to him. Question I'm having severe men problems here lol. There is a guy ... A: Getting the nerve to approach someone can be very difficult for guys, especially the shy ones. ... | |
| boyfriend issues | 2/8/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend of two years has recently chosen a religion that has convined him that sex is nothing ... A: I'm sorry that you're going through such a difficult time with your boyfriend. From what you've ... | |
| does he? | 2/7/2007 |
| Q: It's been more than a month since we are getting to know each other. We decided not to rush into ... A: Dropping the "L" word to a guy who isn't really looking to get wrapped up in a relationship may only ... | |
| Whats he thinking ? | 2/6/2007 |
| Q: I met him where I work-he asked me out several times over course of 6 mths & I finally said yes. We ... A: From what you've told me, the two of you definitely have a great connection. It is incredibly odd ... | |
| My Dream Lady part 3 | 2/5/2007 |
| Q: you may remember me writing you, the "my dream lady"(parts 1&2, now part 3, i know, is this the ... A: Of course I remember you and your situation! It's great that the two of you are getting to know one ... | |
| when he doesn't call | 2/1/2007 |
| Q: I have one of your most common problems, in a different situation. I met, what I thought was, a very ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like the two of you really hit it off. There's nothing wrong ... | |
| Should I stay or should i go | 2/1/2007 |
| Q: i am 20 y-o and have been with my bf(21) for about a year and at one point I was working and he ... A: I'm sorry you're going through such a stressful financial time right now. Money can definitely ... | |
| gift | 1/29/2007 |
| Q: I’ve been dating this boy since January 20th 2007. He’s really sweet and into filming and ... A: There are a few ideas for what you might want to get the guy you are dating. Does he already have ... | |
| relationship with a child involved | 1/26/2007 |
| Q: my boyfriend and I been officially dating a month but I have been around for a few months longer. ... A: From what you've told me, you made an excellent decision to hold off on meeting your boyfriend's ... | |
| what to do? | 1/25/2007 |
| Q: whom i really liked in highschool, and later found out liked me just recently contacted me on this ... A: From what you've told me, it definitely sounds like this girl is interested in you. The fact that ... | |
| Christian/non-christian dating | 1/21/2007 |
| Q: I am a christian dating a non-christian and we have been dating for almost a year now. We get along ... A: It's clear that your religion plays an extremely large role in your life and that it's one of the ... | |
| living together before marriage | 1/18/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years, and are both sure that we are the ones ... A: If things are going well and the two of you are enjoying living together, then you have nothing to ... | |
| My boyfriend is a LOOSER | 1/15/2007 |
| Q: I have a major problem and I really don’t even know where to begin, but I’ll try. I’m 27 and my ... A: I'm so sorry to hear about the situation with your boyfriend. It sounds like he is putting a lot of ... | |
| My Dream Lady Part 2 | 1/12/2007 |
| Q: Good advice, im starting to feel more confident about the situation, not long ago i would have given ... A: I really hope she calls and the two of you can get together. I don't actually think you have to ... | |
| My Dream Lady Part 2 | 1/11/2007 |
| Q: Hey Ali, thanks for the past answer you gave me, it gave me hope. So anyway, i asked her if she ... A: If she said she might take you up on your coffee offer, you should definitely feel hopeful. She may ... | |
| does he? | 1/11/2007 |
| Q: I met this great guy in college. We've been in more than 4 classes during 3 semesters. We finally ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like the two of you have a really great chemistry and ... | |
| My Dream Lady | 1/8/2007 |
| Q: Okay, so i met my dream lady the other day, it happened when i walked into a headshop store ive been ... A: Obviously this girl is interested in you and it's very apparent there is a chemistry between the two ... | |
| Advice | 1/6/2007 |
| Q: I'm wondering if it is possible to ethically and tactfully tell an unavailable guy that you like ... A: While you can't help who you start to like, I have to ask, how would you feel if your relationship ... | |
| not sure what to do...if anything | 1/2/2007 |
| Q: I've been into this guy for about a year now. He is a casual acquaintance with an old boyfriend. ... A: I think the first step is finding out if he feels the same about you. Can you think of any ... | |
| prospects for a relationship between two separated people | 1/2/2007 |
| Q: I am a recently separated, fit and stylish professional woman in my mid-30's (no children). I'd ... A: Unfortunately, I can only answer two questions a day and since I've filled that quota today, my ... | |
| How can I get him back? | 1/1/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have just split up 2 weeks ago. He said he needs a break from me and doesn't know ... A: I'm sorry to hear about your situation--it's tough to break up during the holidays and it sounds ... | |
| what is your take on this? | 12/29/2006 |
| Q: So this guy and I have been spending a lot of time together. We work together and hit it off right ... A: From what you've told me, this guy is interested in you! Clearly, by telling the co-worker that ... | |
| the want to know | 12/28/2006 |
| Q: Well another thing i want to know about is what i should do about her kid. I am very close to her ... A: It's great that you're close with her kid and by the sound of how much change (s)he is exposed to, ... | |
| the want to know | 12/28/2006 |
| Q: This girl that i have like for 8 years decide she wanted to date me. We talked about it and decide ... A: I'm so sorry that you're going through this situation--I know how difficult and hurtful it can be. ... | |
| is he into me? | 12/26/2006 |
| Q: When I moved to the city a year ago, I reconnected with a friend I knew from before, but didn't know ... A: The way your guy friend acts is definitely confusing. When the two of you spend time together ... | |
| Why he did what he did? | 12/25/2006 |
| Q: Well i want to know i have had so many people tell me that my ex and his new girlfriend are not ... A: Clearly your ex-boyfriend really enjoys your company and wants to maintain a friendship with ... | |
| wanting to get back with ex-gf, please respond | 12/24/2006 |
| Q: basically i dated her for 6 months during summer, we fell in love after 2 months. She was moving ... A: The first thing I want to let you know is that just because your ex-girlfriend doesn't seem affected ... | |
| Why he did what he did? | 12/24/2006 |
| Q: Well my boyfriend of 2 1/2 and I got in a fight 2 weeks ago he says he wants me to change so I have ... A: I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through. The reason your ex-boyfriend lied to you ... | |
| wanting to get back with ex-gf, please respond | 12/23/2006 |
| Q: 3 weeks ago, cuz of a fight, now i dunno if she misses me or not, we remained friends since that day ... A: It's impossible to say for sure what your ex-girlfriend's exact intentions are since I don't know ... | |
| calling a girl-what to say | 12/22/2006 |
| Q: I'm only 15 and I met a lot of girls, but last night I met a girl who had a lot in common with me. ... A: It's fantastic that you had the courage to get this girl's number--a lot of times, that can be the ... | |
| dating | 12/21/2006 |
| Q: i have just started dating a woman named nancy. she is working on her masters degree, and i just ... A: How does your mother know Nancy? Since she's so familiar with this woman and she was responsible ... | |
| What do the phone calls mean? | 12/20/2006 |
| Q: "Hi Ali, Sorry i'm flooding you with e-mails, but i have a heard time with talking to people about ... A: I can imagine it's difficult for you to talk about these things...people who haven't really had such ... | |
| HELP | 12/13/2006 |
| Q: So I flirt a little and it should work?I have a crush on a guy at my school and I don't know if he's ... A: If you keep flirting with this guy, eventually he'll get comfortable enough to ask you out. (Or to ... | |
| What do the phone calls mean? | 12/13/2006 |
| Q: Hey there Ali, My name is Daniella. My ex and i were together for over a year, and were completely ... A: You have been through a tremendously difficult time with your ex-boyfriend and I think it's really ... | |
| HELP | 12/12/2006 |
| Q: I have a crush on a guy at my school and I don't know if he's flirting with me. I tell you the ... A: From what you told me, it does sound like this guy is flirting with you. The fact that he gave you ... | |
| follow-up; college scene: implications of 'messing around' | 12/11/2006 |
| Q: detailed response. I get everything you're saying and it's helpful. Still have one issue though. In ... A: Unfortunately, I think it's very difficult for most people to go into a relationship with boundaries ... | |
| college scene: implications of 'messing around' | 12/11/2006 |
| Q: I'll try to be as specific as possible without making this terribly long. I'm a junior at a small ... A: First step: break up with your girlfriend. Believe me, I know how hard it is to do, but life will ... | |
| what's wrong with me? | 12/10/2006 |
| Q: I am 34 years old and have never been in a healthy serious relationship. I have only had what would ... A: From what you've told me, you've definitely gone through a lot of frustration in your life. Let's ... | |
| An Ex-lover | 12/7/2006 |
| Q: I broke up with my Ex about 4 months ago now. When I left him I still loved him, but I needed to ... A: I understand that you don't want to go into the details for why you broke up with your ex. Breaking ... | |
| what to do! help | 12/5/2006 |
| Q: i really like this guy, he has been my friend for years. my question is how do i know that he like ... A: It's difficult to say for sure whether this guy likes you given the limited details. What does he ... | |
| bad news | 11/27/2006 |
| Q: I wrote to you last week about this girl that I'm in love with but have had problems with since I ... A: I'm so sorry to hear that you and your girlfriend broke up over the holiday weekend. I understand ... | |
| Mixed Signals? | 11/22/2006 |
| Q: I met a very nice guy in chemistry class in college 2 months ago. At first I hought he was very ... A: From what you've told me, this guy is definitely throwing out some missed signals, which is very ... | |
| Will time really tell? | 11/21/2006 |
| Q: first I just want to say thanks, and sorry if this is confusing. I am 20 years old, sophomore in ... A: I understand how stressful and nerve-wracking it can be when you're confused about a relationship. ... | |
| this Girl | 11/20/2006 |
| Q: I've dated this girl for 18 months now and things were spectacular. Call me crazy but I think we ... A: It sounds like you have really been going through a rough time with your transition to college, but ... | |
| what do i do to ask her out | 11/19/2006 |
| Q: i met this girl, she goes to my school and she is in one of my classes. one day she moved to the ... A: Girls often try to be subtle when they flirt with guys they like, because they're afraid of ... | |
| I cant tell if he's married or not | 11/18/2006 |
| Q: ..you brought up some very good points. I have asked this question of several other experts on this ... A: While the rings in the pictures you sent could possibly be wedding rings, it's doubtful. The ... | |
| I cant tell if he's married or not | 11/17/2006 |
| Q: I really like this guy and I want to ask him out, but I don't know if he's married or not. I know ... A: Wearing a ring on the right finger could indicate a few things. 1) Gay men and women often wear ... | |
| friends or future relationship? | 11/16/2006 |
| Q: Ok so here goes...I work with this guy and we've been recently spending a lot of time together ... A: From what you've told me, it is clear that the two of you have a very deep and meaningful ... | |
| i want this girl to date me | 11/14/2006 |
| Q: Ali thanks for your help. she broke it off with her ex and it was long term. one of the reasons ... A: If I had to guess, I would say that this girl is having a difficult time fully moving on past her ... | |
| i want this girl to date me | 11/12/2006 |
| Q: i have this girl im kinda seeing we hang out and i try to do things for her i bought her flowers(12 ... A: From what you've told me, you're doing a lot of the right things to get this girl invested in a ... | |
| friend or boyfriend | 11/10/2006 |
| Q: There is a guy that I work with, we had the talk. I asked him if things I have heard are true about ... A: From what you've told me, this guy obviously enjoys the closeness that the two of you share. ... | |
| Am i scared....why do i percrastinate??? | 11/9/2006 |
| Q: OK...its this gurl i have in HomeRoom...i've had her since my 9th grade year (im in 10th now) and im ... A: Hey there, It's natural to be nervous about talking to someone that you kind of like, especially ... | |
| Is this a real problem or a made up one? | 4/5/2005 |
| Q: There's this woman I've met at work who's confusing the hell out of me. I've never been so ... A: It definitely sounds like this woman has affection for you and you most certainly stand a chance ... | |
| rules of attraction | 4/4/2005 |
| Q: Is it wrong for a man to thank a woman when she kisses him? Does it make him appear desperate or ... A: Odds are pretty good the woman found your "thanks" very endearing after she kissed you. It's not a ... | |
| Shy guy or just friendly? | 2/2/2005 |
| Q: I'm kind of shy. I go to a coffee shop across the street from my office before work every once in a ... A: The thing you have to ask yourself is: what do you have to lose? You're not putting a friendship on ... | |
| Don't Know if the girl likes me, but i think she does | 2/2/2005 |
| Q: Well, I am a senior at high school and I leave school at 12 to go to a Community College for some ... A: It sounds like you're doing everything right so far. It's an excellent sign that this girl spends ... | |
| I like this girl who is dating... | 12/6/2004 |
| Q: I like this girl who is dating a guy that is three years older than her and they are currently on a ... A: K- The best thing to do to bring attention to yourself with regards to this girl is just talk to ... | |
| I like a guy that needs | 11/15/2004 |
| Q: Hey Ali, How are you? I'm doing alright, just home sick from school and I thought I might look for a ... A: Michelle, You might want to feel around while talking or TM'ing Jim what kind of movies he is into ... | |
| I like a guy that needs "time" | 11/15/2004 |
| Q: Hey Ali, How are you? I'm doing alright, just home sick from school and I thought I might look for a ... A: It sounds like this guy definitely enjoys flirting--so when he opens the door, make sure you don't ... | |
| Hi Ali, OK here is my story,... | 10/25/2004 |
| Q: OK here is my story, in late august I moved 2 hours away from my girlfriend to attend college, we ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like this girl's romantic feelings for you have started to ... | |
| Letting them know | 9/13/2004 |
| Q: After a man has gotten along with a woman for some time, what are some cues a man can give that ... A: Before you make a romantic move on the object of your affections, you might take a look at her body ... | |
| "window of opportunity" | 9/7/2004 |
| Q: According to a relationships manual I read (naturally written by men), it states that when a guy ... A: It is difficult to say if the majority of women can develop an attraction to someone who has ... | |
| making time | 8/31/2004 |
| Q: I had gone out with a girl once but at one point, after trying to set up another date to meet, she ... A: It's difficult to say whether this girl is worth your time or not since you didn't mention how much ... | |
| Should I wait or move on? | 8/9/2004 |
| Q: I have liked this guy for a while now, we have been on 2 dates, and the last one ended with a sweet ... A: It's easy to get swept up in wanting a solid commitment and to be labeled as someone's girlfriend. ... | |
| whether or not to call | 6/16/2004 |
| Q: I like this guy and he likes me but he NEVER calls when he says he will, I usually take that as they ... A: It's tough to say what this guy is thinking, but if you want to call him, you should. Follow your ... | |
| Confused | 6/8/2004 |
| Q: I'm a man, 40 in very good shape and I look much less. One day I went to lunch near work to a new ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like this woman is simply afraid of getting hurt. If she never ... | |
| is it appropriate to call? | 5/11/2004 |
| Q: Met a guy at a wedding, I'm 34, he's 31. My girlfriend warned me about him, but her new husband, who ... A: It's difficult to say whether this guy is a player or not since your friend and her husband have ... | |
| HELP ME PLEASE | 4/19/2004 |
| Q: THINKS FOR BEING HERE TO HELP... I AM A 38 YEAR OLD MALE INVOLVED W/A 26 YEAR OLD FEMALE. WE HAVE ... A: I'm sorry to hear of all the frustration you're going through. From what you've told me, your ... | |
| He is insecure | 3/31/2004 |
| Q: I agree with everything you said. I really don't think he has ever been this open with a woman. We ... A: I think the most likely reason your boyfriend wants to see a picture of your ex is to compare ... | |
| taking it slow | 3/22/2004 |
| Q: i have been talking to this wonderful guy for 6 months (he is 30 I am 35),one day I decided to give ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like this guy is definitely interested in you and is feeling out ... | |
| "The Chase" | 3/18/2004 |
| Q: I will try to make this as short as possible, but, if you need to, feel free to ask me to clarify ... A: I know how difficult it can be to put yourself out there and take a risk. Unfortunately, though, ... | |
| Getting a guy to call me | 3/15/2004 |
| Q: My name is Kim, and I am a 21-year old college student. There is a guy in one of my classes that I ... A: It might be tricky to get this guy to call you in such a short period of time--especially since it's ... | |
| Dating | 3/8/2004 |
| Q: I have been on 3 dates with this guy. The last date we went on was fun, went to a hockey game, out ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like this guy was interested--it's definitely odd that things ... | |
| Ben | 3/7/2004 |
| Q: Ali- I can't thank you enough for your well thought out response to my question. I have one quick ... A: It's really great that you took the initiative and gave Ben a call over the weekend. There's ... | |
| Ben | 3/4/2004 |
| Q: I hope this isn't the most detailed question you've ever gotten, but there's so much to know. I'll ... A: Let me start off by saying I don't think this guy is just using you. He wouldn't spend the time ... | |
| dating after she says she's too busy | 2/25/2004 |
| Q: I have a question about asking a person out on a date. I have been chatting with a beautiful woman, ... A: Although she may have been disappointed to not have a Valentine's date, that's really not a valid ... | |
| dating | 2/1/2004 |
| Q: i wanna ask a man out and we already had sex on the first date should i ask him if he wants to go ... A: There's nothing wrong with asking a guy if he'd like to get together again. Men are often as ... | |
| Christian/non-Christian relationship | 1/31/2004 |
| Q: I am not Christian, but my Boyfriend is. We've recently gotten into a very happy romantic ... A: There are certain topics that are infamous for causing rifts in relationships and politics and ... | |
| Is It Really Over? | 1/17/2004 |
| Q: Ok, I have been dating this guy for about 4 months. We didn't see eachother that often and we became ... A: From what you've told me, it just sounds like this guy is not ready for a relationship. He probably ... | |
| phone calls | 1/4/2004 |
| Q: i'm a freshman in college, and last semester i met this guy at a party. we kissed that night, and he ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like this guy really likes you! He wouldn't invest hours of his ... | |
| The "Chase" Should I be more patient | 11/18/2003 |
| Q: I'm a 42 year female, never married but have a 24 year old daughter. I have had some short term ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like Ken doesn't want to lose his sense of individuality just ... | |
| about this girl i lke alot | 11/11/2003 |
| Q: peoples nails there she is almost the same age as i am i asked her out a few years back she told me ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like this girl could possibly be interested in you. There's ... | |
| stuck between 2 ppl | 11/6/2003 |
| Q: I have known this special girl for about 2 months or so, and we have connected really well. We are ... A: It's defintitely a tough situation that you're in right now. While I can understand that you're ... | |
| What should I do?? | 10/30/2003 |
| Q: I've just met a really nice girl. She 29 and I'm 24. we get on great, we both have the same sense ... A: From what you've told me, it sounds like this girl really likes you but isn't able to let go of her ... | |
General Dating Questions
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Ali
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I can answer questions related to "the chase"--whether to be patient or more assertive. I can answer questions regarding break-ups and moving on. I can answer questions related to flirting and meeting new people as well as how to inspire them to call you.
Experience
I have much personal experience as well as often play the role of matchmaker and advice-giver with many of my friends. I took several classes related to gender relations in college, giving me a solid perspective on communication between couples and what it means.
Publications
My writing has appeared on a website and various anthologies.
Education/Credentials
Graduated with a BA from Villanova University.
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